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Some of the greatest seducers, male and female, were not good-looking at all. It's about psychology.
What makes for a great seducer is very simple. You are outerdirected. When you meet somebody for the first time, you're not having that internal monologue. Does she like me or does he like me? Am I saying stupid things? What can I do to impress them? No. You turn it off and you're outdirected and you're listening to them and you're hearing them say things of what they're missing in life, of what they want, of what their needs are. You're absorbing it. You're entering into their spirit. And then you can reflect it back to them. You can give them gifts. You can take them to places that show that you're attentive to them.
Because if you look at how we are in our day-to-day life, normally people never pay us attention. They're always so self-absorbed. They're never thinking about us. The times where you get the sense that people are actually interested in who you are as an individual is pretty rare. If you give that feeling to someone, it's incredibly powerful because we all want to be validated. We all want to be recognized.