If you don't have a spiritual life, you're never going to stop and ask any questions. You're just going to plow through life and you're going to see everything that happens to you as just a random event. I don't believe that anything is random. I think everything that happens to us is meant to happen to us to teach us some kind of a lesson.

>> The number one health and wellness podcast, >> J Shetty. >> J Shetty, >> the one, the only J Shetty. >> Madonna, welcome to On Purpose. I am so grateful to be here with you today. Thank you for the honor and the opportunity. And >> thank you for having me. >> I'm I'm really really happy to be with you after lots of FaceTime calls. >> Yeah. >> And discussions about this conversation. We're finally >> to finally be in person. >> Absolutely. Absolutely. And I wanted to start off by asking, you don't do a lot of interviews. We don't see you doing interviews maybe even for the last 9 10 years, give or take. >> What's your intention for being here today? Why now? Why today?

Well, in the past I've usually done interviews to promote my work, whether that's music or a tour or film. Um, but today I would like to talk about my spiritual life and the spiritual path that I've been on for over 28 years. This wisdom uh has helped me navigate the the ups and downs of life for lack of a better expression. People ask me a lot through the years like what is the reason you're still sane? What is the reason you keep going? Why have you not fallen by the wayside like other people? Um definitely a lot of my peers who who are no longer with us like what would you say is the key? And I would say that is my spiritual life. I absolutely would not be where I am or who I am if I did not have that. It's helped me enormously as I said um navigate the ups and downs of life. So I I feel like I would like to share that with people. So, that's really the point of I'm not I'm not here to promote a product or um I don't want anyone to buy anything. I just um I want to share something with with people that has pretty much saved my life. That sounds dramatic, but it's true. >> Yeah. It seems like it's something that's extremely meaningful to you and a deep part of your life that often I feel you don't get to share in other spaces. So even though it's been a part of your life for nearly three decades, maybe you haven't shared parts of it before. What would your life look like if you didn't find it?

>> I would believe that the physical world is all there is. I would believe all the illusions and that would be my downfall and that is most people's downfall. >> What does spirituality mean to you? Because I think that word itself means so many things to so many people.

>> Yes. I mean a spiritual life or a spiritual path could could could be mean a lot of things. Um I know that you have a spiritual path and >> and for me it's not really about like who's is the best or you know it's whatever works for you. I've been studying Cabala for 29 years. So since 1996. >> Mhm. >> Yeah. It's a long time. >> It's a long time. >> And I'm not a frivolous person. I don't suffer fools gladly. I if something if I think there's something false about it or corrupt or not authentic, I wouldn't have stuck around for so long. I I've had the same teacher for all this time. I feel like almost like it's my responsibility to share with people because I feel like I feel like people need guidance. People need enlightenment. And for me a spiritual life is having an internal life because you know this I'm sure you know if we get caught up in the belief system that our value in the world is based on people loving us or other people's approval or how much money you have or how many fabulous outfits you have or how many followers you have on Instagram. Those things don't make us happy. those things don't bring us peace. So having an internal life and being able to look internally and having some kind of practice whatever that might look like your prayer, your meditations that those t the time you take out of every day to stop and take stock like contemplate. We live in a very busy chaotic world. Lots of noise, lots of distraction. I mean, how many times have you heard people say, "Oh, you know, social media and like all the, you know, people can't walk down the street without listening to music. Everybody has to be visually stimulated all the time." Like, there is no peace. There is no quiet. We're we're not comfortable being quiet with ourselves and looking inward and asking ourselves, why am I here? What am I doing? Or what is my intention in this specific choice I'm making right now? Whether it's about my work or the way I'm raising my children, decisions that I make about everything really. >> Yeah. >> I have to ask myself. And if you don't have a spiritual life, you're never going to stop and ask any questions. You're just going to plow through life. And if you just and and you're going to see everything that happens to you as just a random event. And I don't believe that anything is random. I think everything that happens to us is meant to happen to us um to teach us some kind of a lesson. But you know the question is are you aware enough? Are you awake enough? Are you interested enough to find out what that reason is? Like why did this happen to me? What is my lesson? I don't want to go through life seeing everything that happens to me as random. But I also don't want to go through life as a victim. And I've had a pretty challenging life. And it's easy to fall into the trap of feeling sorry for yourself or like being a victim or you know why why isn't this happening to other people? Why is it happening to me? Why don't I have what that person has? I'm sure you know the expression comparison is the killer of joy. So you know it's like to you got to to get out of that game. You have to have a spiritual life. You just have to.

You're reminding me of something beautiful that I came across called the third space theory. Have you heard of it? >> It's this idea that as humans around 50 years ago, we had three spaces. So we had work, we had home, and then you had a temple, a synagogue, a church, a community center, or a third space. And the point of that third space, it's kind of what you're saying, was a place that you could look back at work and home and you could reflect on your life. You could take stock. You could introspect. But as time's gone on, what's happened is we lost that third space. We stopped going to temple, church, community, whatever it may, >> a place of self-reflection. >> A place of self-reflection. >> And we ended up with working home. And then after the pandemic, we lost work. And so now we're in one space and we don't have a different vantage point to where we are anymore, which is what I think you're saying.

>> Go back on even one more step. That to me is like a prison. Get if you get if you remove the spiritual life, spiritual practice, you remove the workplace, then you you're in the home. And then removed once more from home is you're looking at your phone. >> Mhm. >> Which is even takes you out of home. It's a great point. Yeah. >> So, where are you? You're nowhere. >> We're living in the virtual world. Yeah. We're living in the virtual world. Not even in the material world. We're just >> Yes. But a virtual and a virtual world is not a bad world, but if you don't have consciousness, there's really no point to living. >> Yeah. It's Yeah. So, it's it's it's interesting to think about that because I feel like everyone can relate to the idea that if we all had we need physical spaces to sometimes make us do internal things. >> Yes. I mean some kind of ritualistic behavior ha has to happen. >> What have been your rituals? I'm intrigued. What I'm curious what are your spiritual practices and rituals that have been so supportive and emblematic of your journey that have kept you going. At the times as you said there were so many times you could give up or things could go wrong or you kept pushing and you kept they kept you locked. What were they? What are they?

>> Well, one really important thing is studying. making time every week to sit down and study. I mean you can study the Bible, you can study the poetry of Cahil Gibbran or you can study the Vedas. You you know >> and you did that right? You actually studied different traditions on your >> I mean to be honest before I discovered Cabala I I was looking for answers. And >> why do you think that was? Why were you looking for answers? because I had everything that people would assume would give you happiness. I had successful career. I had fame, fortune, monetary things, physical things, but I wasn't happy. And I naturally sought out well when I was a dancer, I had a roommate. She was a Buddhist, and she would get up and chant every day. And so I was very intrigued by that. Like nothing bothered her. You know what I mean? Everything bothers me. Everything bothers me. I'm, you know, I'm a Leo. I'm I'm Italian. I'm very dramatic. Um, I wouldn't say she was peaceful all the time, but I was just struck by her confidence >> and her um knowingness that everything was happening for a reason. She never got upset about things. And this is in the beginning of my career when I was living in New York and I was broke and a lot of crazy things happened to me. Really scary traumatic things. And I would always ask her, her name is Mariana. I would always say, "What? Like why are you like never upset?" So I attributed that to her spiritual life, but it didn't speak to me. And then later on I started practicing yoga, Ashtanga yoga. And my teacher Eddie um Stern, he still has a >> love Eddie. He's great. you know Eddie. Yeah, he's amazing. >> I got quite caught up in and competitive about like first series, second series, third series. But one thing I noticed is that a lot of people would come into his his practice, his studio where he taught and they wouldn't even do the poses. They would just go and sit in front of the statue of Ganesha or light candles or prayer. And I realized and Eddie pointed it out to me cuz sometimes I would have injuries. I would or I would be traveling and I couldn't practice yoga. and he'd say, "Look, are you breathing?" And I'd say, "Yes." And he said, "You're practicing yoga." So, I realized that I was too still too caught up in the physical poses. And he's like, "No, you don't understand. You're missing the whole point. The poses are just something that you do to breathe through, to calm your nervous system down, and to bring you back to your center." And that really spoke to me. there was a big um no it was a painting on the wall of the yoga studio it says desire and detachment >> and I I said what does that mean and he said well of course we want we want all the beautiful things in life we want all the pleasures we want all the happiness we want every we want it all there's nothing wrong with that but you can't be attached to it because then if you're attached to it and you don't have it what's going to happen to you so I studied that for a while and I studied Sanskrit I had a teacher And you know, I learned that the vibrations of of the letters, you know, had a calming effect on your nervous system and centered you and placed you firmly rooted in the earth. And all of that made sense to me. But then again, nothing happens by accident. But I was pregnant with my daughter Lola, my oldest daughter. And I suddenly realized, I was living in LA. I suddenly realized I'm going to be responsible for another human being. What am I going to teach her? I'm just I'm like a meteor like making my way through the, you know, the on this planet like, you know, I'm I have great survival instincts. I have a great work ethic. Yes, I'm very ambitious. All of those things. Um, but I was never like I was just knocking them down, you know what I mean? and not like looking back like I'm going to be somebody because that's, you know, that's why I came to New York in the first place. I will never go back to the nobody life I had when I was a child growing up. So, I definitely was fueled by an inner drive, but I would not say that I was spiritual or conscious. When I was pregnant, I suddenly realized I knew nothing and I was a slave or a victim of of other people's opinions of me. And I didn't have really even though it looks like and looked like I was confident, brave, audacious, whatever, you know, um I deep down inside I was not. So, I was at a dinner party >> while you were pregnant. >> Yeah. I was at a dinner party at my friends in LA and there was a woman sitting next to me and I knew her vaguely. She was she's a costume designer. She was a costume designer. Her husband's a director. And she said, "Oh, you should come with me to class." And I said, "What class? I'm I'm open to classes, by the way. I love being a student. So, what's the class all about? She said, "There's a teacher there. It's something called Cabala. It's next to a synagogue." And I was like, "Wait, so he's Jewish?" And she said, "Yeah, but it doesn't have anything to do with being Jewish. It's just a belief system. Not a belief system, like a philosophy about life that, you know, you could learn a lot from." And I said, "Okay, I'll go." So, I did. And that's how I met my teacher. And I literally would sit in the back of class for years. Mostly men were in the class at the time. It was um but everything that he said seemed to make so much sense to me and gave me courage to be who I am and who I'm meant to be and made me actually think about intention and a real sense of purpose. cuz my sense of purpose can't just be I want to be rich and famous or I want to be popular or I want to sell a lot of records because none of that lasts. >> But it wasn't until I went to class that I actually started thinking about those things. So, I just kept going and um here I am today. But, you know, motherhood or being a parent is really what um made me start asking questions that I most likely I should have asked them sooner, but I didn't >> cuz I was just caught up in my self.

>> I I love that story for so many reasons. One of them being that my journey to my spirituality had certain similarities in that. Not that I was pregnant, so definitely not that one. But uh I had a friend and friends who were starting to get interested in spirituality and they invited me to hear a monk speak. And I'd seen monks while I was growing up, but I'd never really engaged with one or really understood what they did or meant. And I'm so glad I said yes to going along. And I was very young. I was 18, 19 years old. I wasn't even seeking. >> I was open and I was curious, >> right? >> And to be honest, I was doing what everyone else was doing at that time. When you're 18, 19 year old kid, like, you know, >> experimenting, >> experimenting and doing everything else under the sun. But I'm so glad I went because now looking back, I find that after meeting the monks that I met, it gave my life a compass at a very early age >> that I'm so grateful for because it changed the entire trajectory of my life. I can't imagine what I would have ended up doing in the same way as you did. And it sounds traumatic, but it's true that without the group of friends that invited me to go along and and meet my teachers who would become my future teachers, >> I I can't imagine what life could be like. >> And are those teachers still your teachers? >> Yes, absolutely. Still since that time, so it's been nearly 20 years now that >> that's meaningful. >> Yeah, very meaningful. >> And are your friends that came with you still also studying or >> one of those one of those? Yes, absolutely. One of those friends was my best man at my wedding >> and he studies under the same teacher still to this day. >> That's cool. >> Yeah. What about >> the woman who took me to class? No. >> Okay. >> No, she doesn't stick with it. >> Are you still in touch with her at all or not? >> Yes, I am sometimes. >> Yeah. Yeah.

>> It's it's amazing to hear that you had this ambition and this drive >> Yeah. >> to become successful and at the same time there was this spiritual calling. >> Yes. >> That was almost happening simultaneously. How did you reconcile the two when to the external eye they could look very opposite? How did you actually see >> look weird? You mean >> not weird in the sense of I think a lot of people assume that spirituality and success don't go together. A lot of people would think that >> that's absurd. Those are narrow-minded people. I mean you need to be spiritual to be successful. Success is having a spiritual life. Period. It's interesting cuz I had this boyfriend some time ago and after we broke up, we saw each other years later and I was telling him about Cabal. He's like, "Oh, yeah, that makes a lot of sense because you grew up as a Catholic. I know how religious your mother was." And I was like, "No, no, that's not what it is at all. It's got nothing to do with religion." Everybody has to find the the path that speaks to them and resonates with them. But I do think it's important to have one. And I dare say if you didn't have a spiritual path, you wouldn't be as successful as you are today. I will make that assumption in your work, in your marriage, in your friendships, all your relationships. It honestly, it sounds like a really like a cliche. Your spiritual life even. It's like the reason, but it's just got a bad rap, >> you know? you like 100% can have a spiritual life and be successful. I wouldn't be here if I didn't have one. There's no way we're going to escape suffering. Even if we grow up with wealth and privilege, our challenges and our suffering is going to come to us in a different way. Radical acceptance is just accepting that what is happening to you is meant to happen to you and that you're going to be okay. Whatever's happening to me that might be uncomfortable is obviously meant to happen to me to teach me a lesson. And if I don't learn that lesson at that point, it's going to come up again.

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Let's talk about how your spiritual life has impacted your different roles because you played so many roles in life >> and let's start with artist because that's what the majority of our viewers and our audience will connect with you on. >> Your spiritual life has directly impacted your art. When did you feel it was first introduced to your art? How was it introduced? How would you use it to inspire your art? About a year after I started studying, I made my ray of light album and that is 100% influenced by my study, my spiritual practice. >> Like a door opened for me and >> I suddenly and maybe I was spiritual without knowing it unconsciously. And some things happened. I mean often things would happen where I would have visions or I would get ideas and I would manifest them. And if you're too busy to sit for a moment and think, "Wow, that's so amazing what just happened. I channeled that." Like, you don't actually know that you're tapping into another dimension until you start paying attention to the other to the idea that there is more to life than you and I sitting in this room on a chair. Like, if you believe in energy and you believe in universal laws and you believe in quantum physics, like the possibilities are endless. and miracles, the idea of miracles is is not a foreign concept. It's not a lucky strike, you know what I mean? It definitely affected my work. I became conscious of the fact that I was and am I am channeling light. That's what I'm doing it. I don't own it. It's not mine. I am a vessel for it. I'm a vessel for this light which in turn my goal is to share with other people. Now I can I can do that through my work. I can do that through my music. I can do that through my relationships with people. I can do that as a friend. I can do that as a mother, as a parent. So you realize that it can it informs every part of your life. But the one really important thing, well, one of the many important things that my teacher taught me was that I am not the owner of my talent. I am the manager. As long as you keep that consciousness and you're aware like people who run to say, I did that. That was my idea. I mean, you created an opportunity for yourself by allowing yourself to be a vessel >> for this. Call it what you like. Magic. I think it's magic. >> I think when you channel artistic ideas and you have creative visions, it's magic. And when you think it, overthink it, or you start thinking about how much of that you own, you stop it. That's why a lot of I would say this is my observation that a lot of people have these great kind of meteoric careers and they rise up and they take the world by storm and they influence the masses and they and then they just something happens and they can't handle the light and they're not even aware of it. M >> and it in a way they fly too close to the light and it burns them. >> Yeah, >> that's diving. >> And I would say that's really true about my many of my peers that I had. I was lucky enough to know them. um whether that's Prince or Michael Jackson or or um Jean Michelle Bosat the painter like the these are like people who had just were >> channeling >> channeling but I also don't think they understood like the concept of their their what they were channeling and that you know there has to be some kind of restriction there has to be some kind of filament there has to be you know like people like to take drugs Right. Why? Cuz it makes they're they're actually channeling light when they're, you know, tripping on acid. But it's light with no restriction. And then that's what kills you or burns you out.

>> That was never your path to the light. >> Oh, no. No. No. No. Thank God because everybody was >> What kept you away from it when everyone else was doing it? >> The universe. God. Honestly, uh people ask me that all the time because I grew up when I came to New York when I was broke and I had no friends, nowhere to live, no nothing really. What protected me from, you know, I was held up at gunpoint, I was robbed, like I was raped. I like all these horrendous things happened to me. But I just feel like I've I've always had a guardian angel. It just it took me a minute to figure out that how blessed I was and that the universe was protecting me and and looking out for me. >> Was that a realization that came after? Because I mean when you >> came after what? >> Well, when you talk about the events of I mean getting raped, being held at gunpoint, these are extremely traumatic, stressful. I mean >> the most extreme tragic events >> people could go through in their life. Mhm. >> The realization you're sharing today, how long talk to me about the journey of having that experience and then getting to the realization you just mentioned because I'm I'm assuming it's not immediate and no >> and and what is so walk us through that? First, there was just my determination that I think I was so I had such an unhappy childhood that whatever happened to me in New York City. I was like, whatever happens to me is better than what what my life was. So, I'm going to I'm sticking around. I'm not going back. But, you see, the worst things that happened to you are the best things that happened to you. Because if that had if my childhood hadn't been what it had been, if I hadn't lost my mother, if I hadn't had all of these challenges as a child, I would have thought of my home as a place of comfort and I would have gone back. But I didn't. So that's what kept me going. And then you know there are challenges in my career even though even though I was very successful, I went through many periods of time where the press was beating up on me. I was demonized. What kept me going? I don't I don't know. Like I said, guardian angels. But again, I wasn't conscious of it until I was pregnant. Then I started to see like everything started to like come into focus for me. But it's not I make it sound like it's an easy thing like studying like the more you know, the harder everything is. And the more enlightened you try to become, the more conscious you try to become, the more tests you have, the more You know, it's like why like like the more you know, the more you realize you don't know. And the more you aspire to be conscious, the more you feel like everyone's trying to drag you down and take you out of it and convince you that it's not true or you know the tests. >> Yeah. >> And you know, life is a test. Let's face it.

>> Yeah. I was thinking about as you were saying that a bit earlier of managing that balance between recognizing you are a manager of the light >> and you are not the light itself. >> I was thinking of this story about Marcus Aurelius where he was followed around the Roman town square by an assistant >> and the assistant's only job was to whisper in his ear, "You're just a man. You're just a man." M >> because people would praise him and people would shower him with accolades and compliments and the assistant would remind him and it said that that was done so that he could always remain grounded. I can imagine for you to not fall into the trap of believing you're the light is extremely difficult when you're one of the bestselling artists of all time when you like you said you named the company there's only the Beatles yourself Michael Jackson that sit in this esteemed group of individuals who've achieved incredible things how did you hold on to that beautiful belief that you're not the light and you're a manager of the light when anyone else could easily believe they were. >> By continuing to have a spiritual practice, spiritual life by continuing to study like always pulls you back to center. >> Were you able to keep it up when you were like on tour or when you were building your album? >> Absolutely. >> Wow. >> That drove everyone crazy. My manager was like, "Why can't we have shows on this night?" Or, "Why are you late?" Cuz I'm cuz I'm praying. Like, what? You know what I mean? Like, no. >> Would you pray? >> People who are only focused on Absolutely. Pray before every show. But people who are focused on making money >> um are definitely not focused on spiritual life. You have to have your feet in both worlds. And um I >> You literally wouldn't do a show on a day because that that was your study day. >> Yeah. Or I would be late. Yeah. I get a lot of for being late. >> Walk me through. >> Honestly, it's really hard to balance being a parent, having work, having a spiritual life. You're you're constantly juggling. You there's it's not there's not a lot of time to rest. And if people don't recognize that, then they're just going to look at you in a very 1% sp like superficial way and go, you're late. It's like, but you don't understand what I was doing before I got I became late.

I want to talk about how spirituality affected you, your role as a mother. Obviously, you said that becoming a mother yourself is actually what even began that enlightenment. It kind of began that journey. It felt like a responsibility. It felt like a >> a moment of change. How was >> Well, my mother died after giving birth to all my brothers and sisters. So, literally like the year after my youngest sister was born, my mother died. So I I always equated motherhood with death. So in and I also equated it with I could see she was not happy. I could see she wasn't living the life she wanted to live. I equated it with death. I or I equated with no freedom or I equated with no no life except taking care of other people. And so when I started my when I came to New York and I started my career, I was like, "No, this is not for me. I don't want to be a mother. I don't want that." I wasn't saying it out loud, but I was thinking that like why would I give all of this up? I worked so hard for it. Well, one day I found that I was pregnant and I and I had been running away from it for so long. And I wouldn't say I was in a stable relationship, but I loved the her father. So, I wasn't really thinking it through, but I was like, "Okay, this happened. This happened to me, so it's meant to happen to me." So, um, but honestly, what what the hell am I going to teach my daughter? Like, how am I going to guide her? I've just been living this, you know, completely selfish life really that, you know, turned out good in many ways, but um, in reality, I was doing everything for my own self. And I also kind of thought, well, you know, okay, I'm pregnant, so I'm going to be a mother, so I'll figure it out. I'll work it out. But honestly, I was scared shitless and I wasn't in a traditional relationship. And once again, like this is the story of my life. I keep finding myself in unconventional or untraditional or unusual or unfamiliar places and I have to keep adjusting. And I say that I would say that that is also the reason that I am still here and still going and have the strength to fight things or to to to survive. Um, because being too comfortable in life I would say is the downfall of a lot of people who started off taking chances, taking risks.

>> Is that something success does to you? Do you think where in the beginning you take risks and you get out? I feel like that happens to other people, not me. Um, I think I've always been felt like an outsider in life. I felt like an outsider growing up in Michigan. I felt like an outsider when I came to New York. I felt like an outsider when I moved to LA and had my Hollywood life. You know, I always felt like I did when I was in high school. I don't fit in. And not fitting in is what saves you. and that, you know, studying Cabala, no, nobody else was interested in it. Not my friend group. And if I would speak about it to people, they'd be like, "Oh, that's really interesting." Having a spiritual life isn't necessarily going to make you popular. But if you're a conscious person searching for truth, then it's going to be interesting. Like, I'm interested in your spiritual path, your spiritual life. I want to know what you do, what it does for you. >> I want to know how you do it, cuz I'm curious. and curiosity and being an outsider and um those are the things that actually save you even though it's not supported in our society. Like to think outside the box, to take the road less traveled by, to not be so concerned with approval, public approval. And now we live in a world where everyone follows algorithms. And algorithms are the opposite of taking chances. They are the opposite of being unique. They're the opposite of spiritual life. They are the opposite of consciousness. That's why artificial intelligence cannot duplicate consciousness. It can duplicate doing things, following formulas, but it can't duplicate consciousness. So now have we gotten really off this?

>> I love it though. It's great. It's it's great to be in your stream of consciousness and and on that on that point I'll get back but I often get asked the question right now when I'm on panels of do I ever believe that AI will have a soul and my response is always I just hope that the people who are building AI have a soul because >> ultimately it's becoming a reflection of whatever's inside of us. But I digress. Going going back to going back to how gone. You were going to say something. >> No, you're you're right. Yep. The people who make it. But are they? >> Yeah. That's the most important part. >> That's the scariest part. >> Yeah. The intention and the purity. >> Intention and consciousness. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. I just repeat that like a mantra. Consciousness is everything. Consciousness is everything. But a lot of people don't even know what that is.

When you became a mom and you're trying to teach your children about I guess I'm assuming you want Yeah. Yeah. You wanted to pass some of these teachings on. >> Yeah. I mean, they grew up learning it and studying it, studying or listening to me study with my teachers or listening to other people and they would bounce back and forth between thinking it was silly or something weird that mom does or but I see that it has impacted all of them. >> What makes you see that? What? >> Because they study. Not all of them, but I feel like my children who have a spiritual life are happier than the ones who do not. >> But obviously, they could start at any time. It could it could happen. >> I'm not, you know, there's no coercion in spirituality. It's like if you either it speaks to you or it doesn't. >> Yeah. I remember my dad was trying to get us to do things for so long and you I rejected it so hard because >> Yes. Well, that's the other thing. Children always reject their their parents, >> the path they follow, their belief systems. They think it's stupid and then they they >> come back around a little bit. >> Totally. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. There's that famous quote that says, "The day you realize your parents were right, your kids are telling you that you're wrong." >> And and I think it's an often common experience that people have. >> Yeah. >> How did Cabala impact your and your spiritual practice impact your role as a daughter? Because like you said, you lost your mother when you were five. >> To a certain extent, I resented my father growing up because I felt like he wasn't present for us emotionally. Um he did have a lot of responsibilities and um he's a deeply Catholic person, but I don't I felt like he followed his spiritual path or he followed Catholicism because that's how it was that's how he was raised. That's how it was done. When I was growing up, if I wanted to ask a question about why do we do this? Why are we janulecting? Why are we receiving the body and blood of Christ? Why is my father didn't have an answer? He'd just say that's what that's what is written. And what what drew me to Cabala was that I could ask questions and there were answers and questions were invited, which is the opposite of how I was brought up. So I thought I looked at my father as kind of like a religious robot. You know what I mean? Not that he's not a good person, but I didn't want to be a robot. And especially having a a a spiritual life, I started to see my father as a human being and see that he was a human that made mistakes and that he did the best with what he was taught, what he was given. When those cylinders start clicking in your head, you start to have a lot more compassion. Not just for your parents, but for all people who don't see life the way you see it, that you don't agree with. It brought me to a place where I could have more compassion for him.

>> I mean, that seems like a really big gift. >> Yeah. >> To to have that understanding and and I I could agree. I think spiritual context creates so much compassion when you are able to zoom out and look at someone's life. Like I remember the moment I really had compassion for my dad was when I visited the home he grew up in which was >> this room. I mean I can't even compare it to this. His home was >> like probably just from here to here. >> Mhm. like his entire home and they shared a bathroom with 20 30 other families. >> Yeah. >> And we went outside. I was 9 years old. We're in India and there's cockroaches around his in Pune. >> There's cockroaches around his home. there's bats in the, you know, and it's just like >> and inside and I I was 9 years old and I couldn't believe that, >> you know, that's where my dad grew up >> and it was almost like something clicked where I was like I I unless I saw that I wouldn't have had that experience >> because it was always easier to assume that their life >> Yeah. Well, that's the thing. My like I say to my kids all the time like you're judging me by the chapter you arrived in. Like this is not how my life has been. And it's really hard for kids to see that. >> Yeah. Yeah. Going there was probably one of the best things that ever happened to me because >> it's what you're saying. I was able to go to a previous chapter in someone's life >> and even though my childhood I was we weren't well to do or we didn't have anything but we didn't have a lot. Going to see that I was like oh gosh my life is a million times better than this >> and and having that context was huge for me.

I want to hear about how you were able to apply these principles in the difficulty of the big things you're talking about because whether it's reconnecting with our parents, whether it's recovering from being raped, whether it's dealing with these challenges you've dealt with, as you said, it doesn't happen overnight. It's not easy. It is the level of study and work. But talk to me about the emotional journey of shifting from a victim to what you whatever you would call this on the other side because it would be very natural for anyone to feel that way. I want to hear about the emotional journey and the spiritual journey you went on. What were some of the steps or stages that you saw that if anyone who's listening or watching can recognize and potentially? >> Well, the first thing is you're suffering all the time. If you don't have a spiritual life, like you're just suffering all the time and and you really think that whatever is happening to you is like something that's never going to end. And you drew the wrong card. >> You know, >> that's how you feel. Yeah. >> That's how I used to think. >> And even now since I've been studying, there's been times where I've been really challenged and really suffered uh in certain situations. And I if I didn't have a spiritual life, I I don't know how I wanted, you know, there were moments in my life where I wanted to cut my arms off. I wanted I actually contemplated suicide. I And that probably sounds really weird coming from me cuz I'm not that I'm not emo. You know what I mean? But I was like, I can't take this pain anymore. But as soon as you understand that what's happening to you is um a challenge that you are karmically meant to experience and learn from and evolve to a higher level of consciousness then you can look at that event that experience as a lesson and not punishment.

>> What what pain at the time pushed you to that place of potentially wanting to take your own life? I mean, I don't I don't I don't I'm not in the blame game. That's the thing. I used to be that way. And uh I used to always want to seek revenge. You know, somebody did me wrong. Um or I would pronounce loudly, oh well, you know, they'll get their own karma. Well, whatever. You know what I mean? And even knowing about karma doesn't mean you're a grown-up. It doesn't mean you're not a being a victim. Um, but I I would say probably one of the most painful moments in my life where I could I honestly couldn't see the forest through the tree for the trees was when um I went through a custody battle with my son. And um I you know even though my marriage didn't work out, I mean a lot of people's marriages don't work out. They marry the wrong people. They're not aligned. They're not meant for each other. Um someone taking trying to take my child away from me was like um they might as well just kill me. That's really how I was thinking. And I was on tour at the time, so I had to go on stage every night. I would just be lying on the floor of my dressing room sobbing. I really thought it was like it was the end of the world. I couldn't take it. I just couldn't take it. Um, but thank God I don't feel that way anymore. And I had to keep, you know, studying the continuing my studies and continuing on my spiritual path like helped me to understand that, you know, the enemy is within.

>> Talk to me about that. You know, lots of people do lots of bad things and make a lot of bad choices or make choices that cause other people pain, suffering or chaos or whatever. Um, but at the end of the day, I needed to learn some lessons and I can see that with the benefit of hindsight, but I couldn't see it at the time. And also I was abandoned as a child by my own mother and so losing a child like it was like life repeating itself. I couldn't accept it >> and so it caused me a lot of suffering and not being able to accept things causes all of us a lot of suffering. So yes and now you know I'm happy to say that I'm really good friends with my son >> but I couldn't see it then. I really thought it was the end of the world. So, you know, thank God I had a spiritual life. >> Was the lesson radical acceptance? >> Yeah, >> exactly. It took me a long time, actually. Several years. Um, radical acceptance is just accepting that what is happening to you is meant to happen to you and that you're going to be okay. I mean, it's not an instant thing. There's no such thing as an instant thing. There's no way we're going to escape suffering. Even if we grow up with wealth and privilege and you know didn't grow up in a small room, you know, our challenges and our suffering is going to come to us in a different way. I can give you another example of radical acceptance and that is and this is something that my teacher shared with me about a year and a half ago. I was rehearsing for my tour, a tour, and I I got a a bacterial infection and I one minute I was

alive and dancing around, and the next minute I was in the ICU unit of a hospital, and I woke up from being unconscious for 4 days. I got out of the hospital. They took me off of, you know, the ventilator. I started to breathe on my own, and I had something it's called sepsis, and it's like it can kill you.

>> Yeah, that's really bad.

>> And everybody recovers at a different rate. And so, you know, I've always seen myself as superwoman. So, I was like, "Oh, I'm going to, I'm going to, this is going to, I'm going to kick this. I'm going to be good. I'm getting back into rehearsals." And I had no strength. I had no energy. I couldn't get out of bed, and I didn't know when it was going to end. And I used to talk to my teacher all the time, and he's like, "The sooner you accept what's happening to you and that you don't know when it's going to end, the sooner it's going to end." That made so much sense to me. And of course, it did. But I mean, I've heard some people never recover from it completely, never, uh, recover and have their like full of health again.

Mhm.

>> So again, it's the same idea, same concept. Like, if you sit around feeling sorry for yourself, "Oh well, woe is me," or "Poor me," or "This is like, I don't accept it. I will not accept it." Well, then you're just going to be swimming in suffering.

>> You're reminding me of something I've read in a, it's not a spiritual book, but it has a similar message. It's called "Culture Code" by Daniel Coyle. And he talks in this book about how when soldiers were out at war, a lot of them wanted to believe they'd be back by Christmas. And there were the others that accepted that they had no idea when they were going to get home.

>> And he talks about how that those who accepted that they had no idea when they were going to get home were actually happier and were able to endure what they were going through a lot easier than those who hoped they'd get back on Christmas.

and then >> you didn't.

>> Yes.

It's like the Viktor Frankl book.

>> Yes.

"Man's Search for Meaning."

>> Yeah. Exactly. And it's such, it's when, when I hear it from those really extreme scenarios,

>> you're like, "Wow, if, if Viktor Frankl can think that, you know, in the experience that he had, you go, okay, well, and Edith Eger with "The Gift,"

>> and you go, "Wow." Like, yeah, if you can have that experience there, then, then there must be some truth to that.

>> Because how could you accept that when it was, when you were going through the worst?

>> Yeah.

>> Yeah. It's really, really tough. Going back to your experience of that, where what would you say? Because you mentioned karma there, and this idea of choices we make and lessons we need to learn, and karma almost being this experience of learning the lessons. How, how do you see karma? How do you define karma from your learnings and studies? And let's stop there, and then I'll ask the second question after that.

>> My personal understanding is that our souls choose the lives that we are born into, the circumstances we are born into. That our souls are perfect. But then we're born into a life which is one challenge after the next, after, after the next. And that we, our journey is to navigate and to like see that each challenge that happens to us is our karmic destiny. It's energy. It's the law of, it's quantum physics. It's cause and effect. Whatever's happening to me that might be uncomfortable is obviously meant to happen to me to teach me a lesson. And if I don't learn that lesson at that point, I'm going to, it's going to come up again and again and again until I learn it and accept that it's a lesson, not a punishment. So that's how you get out of victim mentality. Also.

>> What was the lesson that kept repeating for you and took you a bit longer than you would have liked to learn? What was the one that kept showing up?

>> Betrayal, uh, or abandonment. Sometimes they go hand in hand, but it really kept me, like, I saw a lot of people, or I felt and experienced that I was constantly being either abandoned or betrayed. So that kept me in a state sometimes, often, like feeling sorry for myself, stuck in a place of blaming others and not taking responsibility for, well, how did I bring this upon myself? Or why asking the question, well, why is this happening to me over and over again? Obviously, I need to learn something. I think everybody, if they think about it, like, what is the thing that always comes back to you? Or like, for everybody, it's something different, obviously. I think the abandonment thing was the, the greatest lesson to that I could teach me that I could stop being, um, destroyed by it or, um, paralyzed by it, um, was to think of all, like, how am I not showing up for other people? How am I abandoning other people?

>> How am I abandoning myself?

>> How, how long have I been not listening to myself, my inner truth, my inner voice? Yes. And we all say goodbye to our inner selves at some point or another until something wakes us up. Push has to come to shove for everybody. There's just no way to escape it. So that's something that as a concept that you have to get your head around. You, there's no running away from being tested. There's no running away from experiencing pain, suffering, whether it's physical or emotional. I mean, and that obviously that takes life experience and living and you know, going, "Everything's going well for me. I'm so happy. Everything's great." Oh, no, this is like, this is a failure. People are writing negative about me, like, you know, or this relationship ended, or this person cheated on me, or this, you know, like all these things that happened to you, rejection, um, like, and then you go and you go, "No, I'm not happy." If you're going to go through life like being a slave to these like ups and downs, you're just going to be like, I don't know how you can last. Obviously, I mean, it's obvious to me, I don't know if it's obvious, obvious to you or anybody who's watching this, but I don't know how we can maintain our sanity. And especially now. I mean, when people lived simpler lives and we didn't see what was going on in the world and we didn't, like, we weren't so connected like we are because of technology and, you know, the internet, whatever. Um, it's hard not to get like anxious or start blaming or taking sides or feeling, you know what I'm saying?

>> Mhm.

>> Yeah. I loved, I loved what you said. This one line will stay with me for a long time. I really, really thought it was beautiful. You said, "We all say goodbye to our inner selves at some point."

Mhm.

>> And and that really landed because that's why it feels like we're coming home to ourselves. When you, and I think everyone who's listening or watching can, if they've started their spiritual journey, they've started their reconnection journey.

>> They know what that feeling is like where it's like, "Yeah, wait a minute. I left myself."

>> And now I'm coming back to myself.

>> Yes. I always say, "What was I thinking before I was thinking?"

>> Right?

>> I don't even know. So, I was just thinking about myself, but ironically and paradoxically, when you're just thinking about yourself and consumed with yourself, you're actually not connected to yourself at all.

>> You know what I mean?

>> Yeah.

When, so, how do, how does it change now when you go through betrayal or you go through rejection or any of those things that you talked about? How do you process it differently now with your spiritual practices than you did before? What's the different experience you have of it?

>> Well, I spend less time feeling sorry for myself, being a victim, blaming, and more time thinking, "Okay, why, why did this happen to me? What's the lesson?" I mean, I go to that sooner.

>> Wow.

>> Than I did before.

>> What's the difference between self-blame and accountability? Because I feel a lot of people fall into the trap of, now you don't go and blame other people, but you blame yourself and you go, "I, I messed up. I should have chosen right. I should have done this."

>> Okay. Well, self-reflection and acknowledging and being accountable for your behavior is not the same as feeling guilty. That feeling guilty is just you're consumed with your ego.

>> Shaming yourself.

>> Yeah. So, you're not going to get anywhere with that. That just stops any kind of growth from happening.

>> It's pretty amazing to say that you can speed up to that point of asking yourself that question of what can I learn from this? I mean, that's the ultimate question.

>> Yeah. And believe me, it's not something that stays with me all the time. It's like, sometimes I forget. I'm like, "I'm doing it again. I'm doing it again. I'm falling back into a familiar pattern." Yeah. But if you don't know, then you're not, you're like, it's important to know again, not beat up on yourself. Okay, I made a mistake. What can I learn from it? Swallow your pride. Tell your ego to shut up. Basically.

>> You mentioned the word manifesting earlier.

>> Mhm.

>> And channeling and being a vessel. And I wanted to ask you because manifesting becomes very popular in the world today as a concept.

>> It's at least out there. People understand the word. Now, when people would look at your career, they would assume you've manifested incredible amounts of success for yourself, incredible amounts of wins and all the rest of it.

Mhm.

>> Talk to us about your process of manifestation. What does it actually look like?

>> If you're manifesting things and you're not conscious that it's a gift from the universe, from the light, from the creator, whatever you want to call it, if you're not aware of that and you're not conscious, then, okay, you, you invented something. Great. You created this thing that now is selling billions. But everything becomes finite when you're not manifesting with the, with the consciousness that you are channeling something. You don't own it. So that's a big thing.

>> That's the key part.

>> Yeah. Sure.

>> So whatever. So if I have a successful show, if I have a successful, if anything happens to me successfully, like is perceived as a success in the outside world, I just say, you know, "That's, I, how blessed am I? I manifested that with the help of God.

>> I didn't do it on my own. I do nothing on my own. And if you manif, if you think you're manifesting on your own and you're, you're like an ostrich with your head in the sand, and there will be an end to whatever you're manifesting."

>> So if someone desires something, they've got to recognize that it's not their hand, it's something that they're willing to become recognized.

>> I mean, it requires work to be conscious.

Mhm.

>> It requires work to see that you're channeling something and being a vessel for something. So, you do have your part in it, but you're not on your own. That's the point.

>> And, and a lot of us feel like, "I'm going to do this. When I do this, I'll get this. And when I get this, then I will be this person."

>> That's desire for selfish reasons. You're, you know, manifesting success is whenever you want something for the sake of sharing. When you want something just for yourself, like, "I'll be happy when I have 10 Bugattis and a mansion in every major city, and I'm the brand ambassador of Louis Vuitton." Um, no offense to Louis Vuitton, just throwing that out there. But, you know what I mean? Those things like, really make people happy. But it's, it's short-lived, and sooner or later, everybody comes to that realization anyways.

>> It's just whether it's sooner or later.

>> And these are the things I, I talk about this in, in our studies. You know, let's get back to why I'm here, and my intention is to share my spiritual life with people. We talk about in our studies. We talk about manifesting and we talk about, um, being a channel. And, you know, I share in one of the studies, I talk about, um, writing my first song, for example, and how I taught myself how to play the drums, and then I, my friend, my boyfriend at the time was in a band, and he taught me how to play guitar, like, just simple chords. And when nobody was around, I would start playing with all the instruments and start without thinking, without any like, "I'm going to be this or I'm going to be that." Let me just, I just sat down and wrote a song for the first time. And I, and I was very conscious at that moment, after it happened, "Where did that come from? How did that happen? I didn't grow up with musicians. I didn't grow up with songwriters. No one, I didn't have a goal to be that. Where did it come from?" And so when you start, like, opening your eyes to that, "Where did, how did that happen? Where did that come from?" Then you see, you see the possibilities, you see the magic of the universe, of life, and you see that, you know, that was a, that was a gift. Some angel showed up in my room. And, you know, what am I going to do with that gift? So these, h, these moments happen to you throughout life, and they happen to everybody. Whether you're saving someone's life, or you have this incredible idea for some life-saving invention, you know what I mean? We, we're all blessed with those moments, and it's, you know, it's really the important thing is to acknowledge where that came from. That's really manifesting.

>> I love that. That that's my favorite explanation of manifestation I've ever heard. Truly, it really is. Because I think what often happens in substitute of what you said is we have an idea, and then we try and manufacture that set of inputs and outputs again to get that again, and then it doesn't work.

>> And then we're confused because like, "Wait a minute, last time I did this and did this and did this, then I got this, and now I'm trying to do it again." And then you get stuck because now you think you can't do it.

>> But the reality is that's just a very functional way of looking at something that's far beyond input, output, and manufacturing. You can't manufacture to manifest. It doesn't make sense.

>> N.

>> Yeah, I really, really like that. I really, really appreciate that definition, and I think that's going to help a lot of people because I think the way it's being talked about right now is just, "Be clear about your goals and be really clear about what you want." And

>> I mean, that's important too.

>> Say out loud what you want out of life.

>> That is important. But it's, you're, it's you're in a partnership. It's that, that's really what's important to remember.

>> Yeah.

>> And we become our environments as well. So we want to surround ourselves with people who, with like-minded individuals. And if you are around people who also are attaining to reach a higher level of consciousness or want to know the deeper meanings of life or want to look inward and figure out why, what their karmic destiny is, or even take into consideration the idea of karma. I mean, you need that also because if you don't have that support system, then you can also fall back into the trap of recreating formulas that work or, um, trying to capture some magical moment and make it magic again.

>> And that's just our ego taking over and telling us, "I did that.

>> I did that. I can do it again."

>> Yeah.

>> Yeah. And you can't.

>> No. One of my favorite ways of thinking about it, especially when you said it's a partnership, is when we look at the universe, everything's always serving. So the sun's providing light and heat, water obviously giving us life, oxygen exists, trees are giving us shade and fruits and flowers. And so in order to really be in partnership with the universe, one has to want to serve because everything is designed to serve and give.

Mhm.

>> And everything's designed to give and serve and provide. And so when we're not serving, we're actually acting against the universe.

>> Yeah.

>> Because everything in the universe is designed simply to give. We're, we're wired for generosity but educated for greed. And when that juxtaposition comes up against itself, it just creates friction. It's like, we all feel better when we do something for someone else.

>> Absolutely.

>> We all feel more joy when you take care of someone in need more than if you did it for yourself. And the science and the research backs it up as well. This isn't some woo-woo spiritual idea.

>> No, it's absolutely the truth.

>> But it's amazing how our conditioning and education is so the opposite that we all believe that

>> every man for himself.

>> Yeah.

>> That's the statement.

>> No.

>> How much unconditioning does it take for us to lose the "every man for himself" mindset? What does that look like in your spiritual practice and journey, especially?

>> And not fall back into that trap? You mean to continue to have a spiritual life, spiritual practice, to study.

>> I love how simple.

>> To stop every, you know, whether every day, once a week, you, if people don't have some kind of ritualistic moment in their life, like I said, whether it's every day or a few times a week, that, like, what's going to stop you?

>> You know what I mean?

>> Right. You have to have that moment where you're thinking about what you've done, thinking about what you'd like to do, thinking about what, you know, have I capitalized on the opportunities that have come my way? Not monetarily, spiritually, like, what did I do to help someone? What have I done for others? Um, I mean, that's really the only way you can be successful in life.

>> What were you trying to channel when you were creating in your music? And what were you trying to do to help people? What was?

>> Well, in the beginning, I just wanted to be somebody.

>> Right?

>> I just wanted to be somebody. Like, I wanted to have a voice. I wanted to make a difference in the world, but I wasn't clear about what that meant.

>> And now I'm clear about what it means.

>> What is it? What does it mean today? That everything I say has weight and gravity, and that words are powerful, and actions are powerful. And I always ask myself, like, "Why am I doing this? Why do I want to, why, why is this song important to me? Why is this performance important to me? Why is this conversation we're having right now important to me?" That's really the difference is like having intention and consciousness. We're really, like, I'm repeating myself over and over again. I can't think of other words that capture that, but self-awareness. Self-awareness doesn't really do it because self-awareness kind of implies like selfishness. You know what I mean? A day at the spa.

>> Not that that's not something to, to be enjoyed. I could, I could use a day.

>> You could use a day at the spa.

>> Sure. My roof has been leaking for a month. Yeah. I want to go to the spa. That's okay. But that's not going to bring me lasting happiness. Well, I think that's the reality of it, right? Like when you look at your experience, there's this, everyone's experience is this paradox where it's like, you have the highest highs, the lowest lows. You have a life that, of course, you need everyday self-care, but there's also what is lasting happiness and these bigger questions. We all live in this world, but we're not of this world. It's, it's almost like everything that

>> it makes more sense to recognize it's both and as opposed to either or. Well, you have to live in the paradox.

>> Yeah.

>> It's like the greatest amount of light is where there's darkness.

>> And you can reveal the most amount of light when you're in a dark room. You turn on the light. When you're in a room that's already light, what do you, there's no, um, effort made.

>> So, should we look for darkness? You know what I mean? Should we? But no, but when we are in that space where we're feeling dark, where we're feeling an absence of light, an absence of hope, an absence of inspiration, of vision, then you have to, those are the moments, the challenging moments where you, you say you have to say to yourself, "This is my opportunity to bring light to a dark place." You know, spiritual wisdom is not helpful when everything's going your way. It's helpful when you're challenged. And when you're happy, it's, it's helpful to remember that at any given time, in any moment, it could be gone. So, don't take it for granted. Have humility. Be grateful when things are going your way. And when you're being tested, also be grateful. That's a hard one. That was a hard one for me. It still is. Um, and but I'm glad that I know what I know.

One of the key aspects of this beautiful study series that you've created is, we've talked about some of the themes today. We've talked about karma, there's manifestation, there's desire, there's all of these themes that exist. And one of the big ones that really stood out to me was forgiveness.

Mhm.

>> Because, you know, when I listen to you today, and I, I even watched the studies that you created that I'm hoping our audience will go and watch and appreciate and learn from as well. You've conquered and continue to try to conquer some really difficult emotions, like really, really difficult things.

>> And I feel like forgiveness for us in the world today is probably one of the hardest things for us. Whether we've been betrayed, whether we've been lied to, whether we've been exploited, whether we've been taken advantage of.

>> And we always hear the age-old phrase of, "Forgiveness is for you, it's not for them." And you hear these things, but it's

>> Wait, wait, who says that?

>> It's, I mean, it's common, like, verbiage that exists in the world, at least.

>> Of this idea that, you know, don't hold on to grudges. It's

>> Well, you shouldn't. We shouldn't. And it is ultimately liberating for us to forgive. But obviously, the world benefits from our empathy, our ability to forgive.

>> Talk to us about that conditioning. And then

>> I'm a fighter. You know, if somebody messes with me, they're going to get it. That's

>> You've always been like that.

>> Yes. But you know, when things happen to you and there's not a tangible enemy that you can like put your finger on, like, what are you going to do? You have to lean into radical acceptance. Um, but, you know, there's, there's things that, you know, there are things that have happened to me in my life that I just thought, "I will never, I will never forgive this person. I will never." Now, I just don't, I don't want to have those feelings anymore because they're really, it's a prison, and it's poison to not be able to forgive and to live in a state of like, holding a grudge or hating someone or wanting them to suffer. It's like a kind of poison. It's like a kind of cancer. That's why it's important to find a way to forgive even people that you perceive as your biggest enemies. For a really long time, it was my brother, um, who died recently, because I think the hardest ones are the people that you feel like you're the, like they're, you're the closest to. They're your greatest ally, and they turn on you. The people that hurt you the most are the people that you love the most. And when life doesn't go the way that you expected it to go, that you suddenly, like, this pain is unbearable, and that you think what's going to save you is to think vengeful thoughts or to never forgive. Like, that's going to give you some kind of power, magical power. It doesn't. It just weighs you down and eats away at you and is poisonous. So having to forgive my brother, or knowing that I had to forgive my brother, was, you know, it's like your ego dances around it like, "Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'll, I'll get to it. I'll get to calling him up or talking to him or being his friend or helping him." But eventually, I did. And I know I'm being mysterious. If someone you love deeply betrays you and does something that shows that they have no consciousness in that moment that they made that choice to do that. Um, it's, it's really, it's a bitter pill for me to swallow. I can't speak for everyone, but I imagine that lots of people feel this way.

>> I'd agree.

>> For my brother, I didn't speak to him for, you know, for years, years, and years. And it was him, uh, being ill, um, and come and reaching out to me and saying, "I need your help." And me having that moment like, "Am I going to help my enemy?" You know,

>> that's how it felt.

>> Yeah. And I just did. And I ended up, and, and I felt so relieved. And it was such a load off my back, such a weight that was removed, baggage that I could put down to finally be able to be in a room with him and holding his hand, even if he was dying, and saying, "I, I love you, and I forgive you." That was really important. And that was another thing that I realized when I woke up in the hospital, forgiveness. That word came to my mind like, "I have to forgive people." Because I was there. I was almost there on the other side. And I, I had a conscious moment, and my mother appeared to me, and she said, "Do you want to come with me?" And I said, "No." My assistant was in the room with me, but I was still unconscious, but she heard me say no. And then when I did eventually wake up, I realized that the no was about me needing to forgive and make good with people that I still held grudges against. So, and interestingly, I, well, I wrote a song about him. I, I'm working on new music, and I wrote a song called "Fragile," which is about my brother. And then I wrote another song, and this is again, just channeling. It's called "Forgive Yourself." But the, the repeating phrase, the chorus of the song is, "If you can't forgive me, forgive yourself." Which is something we all have to do. We have to forgive others, but we also have to figure, forgive ourselves and stop beating up on ourselves about things, choices we've made in the past that haven't worked out for ourselves or other people. Taking responsibility again, we come back to that concept also, or that idea of being accountable and being responsible, taking responsibility. That's a very big lesson that I learned studying Kabbalah is that I am responsible. I am responsible. And every, and I believe in personal accountability, personal karma. And I believe in global karma. Like, a lot of the things that are happening in the world is as a result of our selfishness. As people, as humans, as a society, we are responsible. You can't just sit in your room and or your house or the safety of your home and go, "People are, you know, they deserve it, whatever." Like, to be aware and conscious that you contributed in, in some way, shape, or form. And at the same time, if we have collectively and consciously evolved to a higher state of consciousness, we can change the world. That also sounds like a cliche, but make the world a better place, tip the balance, so to speak. But that's why I'm here, and that's why I'm talking to you. And that's why I made these, um, this is why I documented my studies with my teacher, because I really believe that this wisdom can help other people in a very practical way, not in an esoteric way.

>> And that's why I'm here.

>> Thank you for sharing that and that journey you went on of forgiveness because

>> Yeah, for you to be that honest and vulnerable and explain that that was someone that you felt was an enemy at that point, but the relief you felt from helping someone, it, I mean, that's like, you know, I can, I'm thinking about the people that are listening and watching right now and the experience that they're having where they're really struggling to forgive themselves or forgive someone else.

Mhm.

>> And looking at it from the point of view of, what would that look like if you never got that opportunity? I know so many people who regret the last thing they said to their parents, or

>> the last thing they said to a loved one, or whoever it may be. And it seems vengeance and spite doesn't seem to heal the soul. Well, harsh words and, and harsh behavior is energy, and you can never take it back. But you can change your destiny, your karmic destiny. And one of those ways is to forgive others and forgive yourself.

>> Madonna, you've been so gracious with your time, your energy, and and and vulnerability today. I feel like I've learned so much about you. I'm very grateful to get. And and you said you repeated yourself, but I, I'd honestly say that I enjoyed that because it shows to me the good training is good repetition. And so if you have the same, if you have a similar mindset towards something, it's, it's not in the material world, we look

>> well, you only get good at something if you do it a lot.

>> Yeah. In the material world, we know that, but we often look at repeating as a, "I've heard that before. I know that." But actually, the thing we think we know the most is the thing we need to hear more often.

Mhm.

>> And when I think about the Ga, the Gita, you're the soul, not the body, is the most repeated lesson. It's the first lesson, but the most, you're the soul, you're consciousness, not the body.

>> Yes.

>> Is repeated more than any other teaching. Even though it's the most obvious, and it's the first teaching, because

>> very obvious, but so look how attached we are to physicality.

>> Exactly. So you need to repeat it. But

>> yeah.

>> I was thinking that this might be a perfect time because you've been referencing in this conversation, you've referenced your teacher so many times.

>> Uh, and we're fortunate enough today to actually have the opportunity to invite him on to the show.

>> And if you're open to it, I think this may be the Should we do it?

>> Yeah, let's do it.

>> Perfect. Hey, Tan, I'm so grateful that we actually get to speak to you. Madonna has been talking about you the whole interview, and I want our audience to know, of course, you were sitting in on our conversation as well, and so you have context of everything we talked about, and of course, you have 29 years of context of everything Madonna shared with us over the last couple of hours. Uh, but thank you so much for doing this, and thank you for being here.

>> Thank you for having the honor of being here and being part of really sharing these teachings.

>> Yeah. Well, I was sharing with you earlier that my vision when I started my platform was to make wisdom go viral, especially ancient wisdom. And so, this is, this is truly my heart's work. And so, thank you for the opportunity. Back. I want to dive in because we've heard about Madonna's journey and her journey to Kabbalah, but I would love to hear how you came to it. Because I'm assuming everyone has their own spiritual journey of awakening or connecting. And I'm sure many of our listeners today are either on their spiritual journey, want to start one. But I'd love to hear, how did you come to this practice yourself?

>> I started at a young age. I grew up in Israel in a non-religious family, and from a young age, I was asking questions about life. I think it came from the depth of my soul. It's beyond because someone taught me or anything. And when I was 17, my brother introduced me to Kabbalah. I went to the Kabbalah center and I met my teacher for many years, the Rav Berg. And after hearing one hour of a lesson, of how the universe began and why are we here, it resonated on such a deep level. Literally, I couldn't sleep for three nights, and I felt I'm home. I felt I'm reconnecting to really my purpose, what life is about. And it took a few years, and by the age of 21, I knew that's my mission in life. So basically, in the last 40 years, that's what I'm doing all day long, student and a teacher in the last 40 years.

>> Yeah, that's beautiful. Like I was saying earlier, I felt like I came to my work when I was 18, and so I'm a couple of decades behind you in my journey. But that idea of discovering something early and it resonating so strongly with your heart and committing your life to it. What was it like when you first met Madonna? What was that first interaction like from your, from your vantage point, your perspective? Uh, tell us about it.

>> I don't think she knows, but when Madonna's friend, who studied with me, called me and told me, "I'm bringing Madonna to a class tonight, 40 people." So I told her, you know, I never saw a picture of Madonna. I heard her name. So

>> Cute.

>> Don't worry, she'll sit in the back with me. So that's actually the first time.

>> So you had no idea what she looked like.

>> No, I didn't. I didn't have a clue. I didn't have a clue. Those days, I was pretty

>> Naive.

>> You were plugged in.

>> Yeah. I was totally in mission, and I, I didn't, I heard the name Madonna, but

>> didn't actually recognize.

>> And then did you connect that evening? Was that

>> Yeah, that evening actually, we sat,

>> we did.

>> That. Yeah, we sat in the conference room because we, uh, we'd meet, and Madonna was very suspicious of me.

>> Yeah, I can relate to that. Yeah.

>> What, what's the agenda here? What's happening? But listen, she had many students, but one of the amazing qualities of Madonna is perseverance, tenacity in the ups and downs. And trust me, I've experienced and seen a lot of ups and downs. But I always say, when you constantly nurturing your soul, your soul will guide you. Our soul is the part within us which knows all the, all the answers, that's connected to the higher force 24/7. It is our body, our logic, our ego, the layers in our hearts that's blocking us to see and to feel

>> the truth. When you just agree with some spiritual concept and once in a while learning, so, "Wow, it's amazing. I love it." It's not enough. You need to nurture the soul. Yeah. That, that light of the soul and that wisdom of the soul and that intuition that comes from the soul will channel back its energy to your life.

>> Because the source of all protection and the source of all true joy come from the soul.

Mhm.

>> So, so she has that, an amazing, an amazing attribute of tenacity and persistence.

>> Not giving up.

>> Not giving up, no matter what.

>> One of the reasons I like going there is because it's like, it was the only place where people didn't bother me about who I was. I literally sat in the back of a room with folding chairs. As I said, there was mostly men, and no one said a word to me. No one bothered me. No one said, "Oh my god, aren't you Madonna? Can I have your autograph?" or like, whatever. Like, I just felt like I could be anonymous there.

>> Was that the first time you'd experienced that in your career at that time?

>> Well, for a long time. Yeah. So with a large group of people and strangers. So I liked the anonymity of just being a student and going there and learning, and it had nothing to do with my career or work or. Yeah. So that was inviting. M.

>> So I wanted to go back, and then I, I would always bring my notebook and take notes, and I have a zillion journals from all of my classes and studies, and I love to be a student and learn. And I was learning so much. And I also was so, what I loved so much about Kabbalah and studying Kabbalah was how in tune it was with science and quantum physics and, you know, it's wasn't just, just because, you know what I mean? It like, everything made sense to me.

>> And I could see how, you know, even the idea of, you know, how the world was created, or the beginning of life, or the idea of, you know, Genesis, for instance, or the idea of Adam and Eve. I learned that nothing in life can be taken literally. You have to study the deeper meanings of everything. And that is true for a spiritual practice, as well as science, as well as everything we do in life. You can't judge a book by its cover. You can't take things literally. And I was like, "Oh, like when I was growing up as as a Catholic, I would always say to my father, well, why, why do we have to, you know, why do we have to wear dresses to church? Why do the, you know, like, you know, wear a hat, cover your head? What?" Like, he, there was no explanation for anything, and that really bugged me. So if you can't find a reason, if you can't explain something to me, I'm not interested.

>> So he did explain things to me, and they all, everything made sense. Nothing was silly. What we do study when we study Kabbalah is the, we study the Zohar, and within the Zohar is everything about life, about medicine, about, um, science, about nature, about relationships. Um, and, um, that was really comforting to me to see that's what helped me see life is not a series of random events.

On you mentioned, I mean, as I'm listening to Madonna speak about this as well, you mentioned that obviously, you know, this tradition is 4,000 years old.

>> How?

>> First book that was written, but it was before it was before.

>> Right, right, yeah. So it was put into writing. It was put into the technology of books 4,000 years ago.

>> How, how did it come to be? Like, tell us a bit about the history of it so that we get some context of the tradition.

>> Actually, the, the first book that was ever written in Kabbalah was three pages long. It's called "The Book of Formation," that was written by the patriarch. And it's written in such a coded way, and will not get any understand the secret of life and the wise of life.

>> Three pages.

>> Three pages. Yes, there's a lot of commentaries, but yes, three pages. And then the main book of Kabbalah, after many Kabbalists teaching from one to another, was "The Book of the Zohar," or "The Book of Splendor," that was revealed 2,000 years ago. And the Zohar is actually decodifying the Torah, decodifying the Bible, and helping us understand the Bible is not a book of stories or laws or religiosity or dogma. It's the secrets of life are hidden there. And the Zohar, the main book of which we have it today translated to English and to other languages, it's actually helping us to understand that everything in this world has a purpose and a reason. And if you ask him, what's really Kabbalah about? Kabbalah is about understanding the wise of life of the universe, and why I'm here, and what is my purpose, and why are we struggling, and what is the journey of our soul, and where we came from. And if the creator is such an infinite force of good and love, how come we all struggling either with pain, with doubts, with negativity, with selfishness? So that is the main book of Kabbalah. And of course, was many Kabbalists throughout history since then that, that was a, were able to bring Kabbalah down to us. And in 1970, that's when the Kabbalah center started, which is opening the gates and the doors of Kabbalah to all mankind.

Do you remember, you were talking about the wise of life and the, the questions and the seeking. Do you remember

>> one of the first questions that Madonna inquired about her? One of the first things that she was grappling with?

>> Or do you remember?

>> I don't even remember.

>> Yeah. So I, I just, I, I don't remember in what specific context.

>> We also, I didn't study with him like this, like I was just a student in the back of a class. It took a while for us to like have one-on-one conversations.

>> Um,

>> It took a year or two until we started

>> Right.

>> to meet regularly, once a week.

>> Right.

>> As well. Yeah. Wow.

>> So, but I think one of the, one of the things that I remember speaking to Madonna, and this is a struggle that everybody has. So, we get, there's a higher power. Call it God. Call it the light. Call it endless, endless energy of love of giving that is beyond time and space, and it's within us. Okay. So why there's evil? Forget about outside, even inside. Why do we have constantly destructive forces within each one of us?

>> There's a constant chatter. You wake up, and gravity pulls you down. Why?

>> A lot of people study today how to overcome that negative force. But why is there a negative force within us? So, one of the, one of the basic understandings we're talking about, it's, it's understanding that the greatest gift, the greatest gift the creator gave us is the opportunity to overcome the opponent within. Because when you overcome, you become co-creator. The reason why we don't experience enough peace, enough light, enough fulfillment is very simple. Like attracts like. You want to experience the light, be like the light. Be a being of sharing. But part of what the light is about is a creator. So the gift to overcome negativity within is the gift of being the creator. Imagine you were given everything. You were born with talents. You were born with love. You were born with just helping people all day long. That's your natural tendency. No negative force trying to pull you down. No selfishness. Do you think you really will be able to actually experience and appreciate the force of the creator, the force of love, the force of light, the force of true fulfillment? The answer is no. So while sometimes we all upset, "Why I have this particular negative voice in my mind? And why do I have to struggle with abandonment issues? And why do I have to struggle with moments of sadness?" At the moment you realize, "One second, this is the greatest gift the creator gave you." It doesn't mean you right away know how to overcome it. Maybe we'll share some tools how to do it. But the fact that you accept the greatest gift in this world is the gift of overcoming. And it doesn't mean it has to be with suffering. Actually, it doesn't mean. But the fact that you accept that opponent within you, it's actually was created by the light, by the universe, by the force of good to help us to grow. Imagine, you bring, spoke about soccer a little bit before. Imagine, imagine you bring your kid to play soccer, and you bring them in front of a goal and with a ball and say, "Now score." Will it be fun? No. He needs an opponent. He needs a goalie. He needs to overcome something. Without overcoming anything, we'll never have a sense of true fulfillment. And we're not talking about overcoming the external challenges, which is part of life, but recognizing the unique challenges each one of us needs to overcome. We call it karma. We call it, Kabbalistically, tikkun. Each one of us has our own unique areas of transformation. And everything that life is presenting to us is to present these opportunities of overcoming.

>> And as a result, allow my soul to shine, my gifts to shine, my true purpose to shine.

>> That's beautiful. I love hearing that. It's, uh, it's so interesting to hear how that which we believe to be the obstacle is actually the path.

Mhm.

>> And it reminds me of, and I know Madonna, you studied the Gita as well. Arjuna's dilemma in the first chapter. So Arjuna's a warrior. He's an archer, to be specific, and he's in the middle of a battlefield. And on one side is his brothers, and on the other side is his cousins. So it's all family, the opposing side and his side. And he's on his chariot in the middle of the battlefield, and he's talking to God. And God is serving him as his charioteer. And what he's expressing to God is his doubt, his anxiety, and

His insecurity. And that's how it begins. Is it begins from a place of doubt, stress, fear, pressure, which is what engages him to ask the question.

And it's so interesting that we often think that doubt and anxiety are the problem, but often they are the seed of where the question comes from and why we even look up or look around and question what's happening in our lives.

And it's almost like doubt is the direction and anxiety is beautiful, right? Like there's that's it's similar, isn't it?

Well, something to wake you up whether you need some kind of pressure whether you're standing in front of a goal or you're you know trying to win a war.

Well, your pressure was becoming a mom.

Yes. It's Yes. It was, you know, and coming to terms with, you know, is also, you know, is my is my life as a as in my career is, you know, as an entertainer is going to change. Is it going to is going to be over? Like I said, I associate motherhood with death. So, it's like, what's going to happen to me? Like, I needed to be rooted somewhere and I needed to have certainty. But you can't have certainty unless you start with doubt. And yeah, exactly like she mentioned before.

Yeah. Madonna mentioned before that the greatest light hiding beyond the greatest perception of darkness. So if darkness manifests itself as fear or the unknown, doubt, or the uncertainty or the doubt or the weakness. So one of the practices is actually ability to pause and allow yourself to feel it for a second because there's a great light hidden there.

Yeah. What what did you help what do you remember helping or what advice would you have given to Madonna at that time to help her connect the dots? I I think the phrase that she's repeated a few times in this conversation of seeing motherhood as death is such a strong statement but it makes so much sense from from your experience when you connect the dots.

How would you encourage how did you encourage her to reflect on that association? We didn't necessarily speak about that concept but about other challenges and fears and perceived pain, abandonment. We talked about that a lot.

Abandonment. Absolutely. I think also you don't want to love or be in love or be attached, feel attachment because that then you could get hurt. So that was a big issue for me like I'm good on my own like as a warrior surviving like don't with me. I don't need help. I don't need any help. Like I'm good. But then you need help and then it's hard like to say it and say I I'm I'm doubting myself. I'm I'm I'm I don't feel it like a warrior.

Yeah, that's Yeah, it's it's it's Arjuna's dilemma. He's he's the greatest archer of his time, yet his bow is slipping from his hands because he he's like, I can't shoot an arrow and he's the best.

Yeah. And that that feeling of I think we all have that like you you so beautifully talked about it on this idea that we've been given so many gifts. We have so many talents and I think a lot of our audience today in the world people have forgotten the gifts that they have and then we al often get into this feeling of low self-esteem.

You know, we don't feel worthy. We don't feel we have a purpose. And I feel like that's what the world is today. A lot of people who are listening and watching today probably feel like they don't have something to offer or maybe they know kind of what they have to offer but they don't feel confident enough. What would your teachings and some of your guidance say to those kind of people who are sitting there thinking I kind of you know I don't have that confidence in myself. I don't I don't really know what I'm going to do and they're feeling stuck.

I think like Madonna mentioned she felt weak. She didn't felt her personality of being a warrior.

So, there's a big difference between personality and soul strength.

Talk to us about the difference.

Yeah.

What's the difference between personality and soul strength?

So Madona always been a warrior.

Mhm.

That's her personality that she g she that's part of her gifts. But it's not necessarily mean that she'll channel a warrior's attributes in a soulful way.

Mhm.

But we identify with that. I'm a warrior. When I'm a warrior, I'm strong. When I'm strong, I'm happy. When I'm strong, I'm meaningful. When I'm strong, I matter. And when suddenly you go through a situation that threaten that ability to be a warrior, to be strong, to be independent, suddenly you feel fear and emptiness. And what I would recommend, what I would share with Madona, I would recommend anybody in order to find your strength start with the challenges of today. It's not about finding my purpose in the future. And let's break it down to simple.

Such a great point. It's such a great point. It's brilliant.

Simple four steps. How do I handle a challenge today?

Mhm.

So, step number one, I just want to before you dive into the steps, that is beautiful. I absolutely love that mindset. I think it's such a great I hope everyone who's listening and watching right now it's such great advice because we're so fixated on finding discovering looking for the answer in some point in the future and it just keeps feeling postponed and further away and I love what you're saying is that the challenge in front of you right now is the purpose.

Exactly.

Yeah. It's a beautiful.

How do you connect with the light with the energy with your soul with the blessing that available in this very moment?

So good. Sorry. Yeah. And that's will lead to other blessings that will open doors that will attract clarity.

We face a challenge all of us. It can be challenge at work. It can be challenge at home. It can be just I start to compare myself to someone else and it triggers lack. All of us doesn't matter how spiritual we are and doesn't matter how successful we are. Yeah, we'll have at least 100 times a day. Lack will be trigger fear today.

Even today.

Yeah.

Absolutely.

Every day. It's like the comparison game.

At least 100 times a day.

I mean, that's what social media is for really to make you feel bad about yourself. Unless you recognize that that is an illusion. That's not reality.

Oh, this is an opportunity, right? an opportunity for me to not engage.

Exactly. And to actually find light in the moment.

Well, just actually to conquer your fear in that moment or to conquer your repetitive behavior of, "Oh my god, I wish I had that. Oh my god, I wish I was that person. Oh my god, I wish that my life was like that person's life." Like, if only I had dot dot dot, you know? It's like to stop yourself in that moment and conquer that moment, which is I'm good enough. I am everything that I need. I I I I am I is I I I I embody it. I just have to reveal it. But that's a that's a really hard one, I think, especially for women, you know, cuz we are conditioned to like want to aspire to be this beautiful or this great of a mother or, you know, this great of a homemaker or this great of a, you know, it's a test every day to not judge yourself and to not like feel like you're lacking in some way like you say. And when I say my prayers, part of my prayer is that I rise above my limitations and that I rise above my nature and that I don't get sucked into the vortex of lack which can come in so many different forms and tune into like just you really have to be consciously like going like your head is the radio dial like going like like no I'm not that's not me. You know what I mean? It's constant it's a constant um conversation you're having with yourself.

Yeah. So true. So that's a really relatable problem in and it's it requires work and it requires paying attention and being aware and we also get caught up in we know we live in a world that's just distraction right so easy to get distracted. It doesn't mean you're not supposed to have fun. Like right now I really want to have fun but not that you're not fun. I'm not.

Oh, we're not having a fun. I think we're having fun.

But, um, yeah, it's just we live in a world of distraction. So, it's so easy to get c pulled off the track of, you know, what am I doing? What am I doing right now? What am I doing to myself? Like, I'm I'm I I'm already there. I got caught. You know what I mean? by the seed of doubt and self- judgment and comparing and I'm not good enough therefore I'm going to be in a bad mood or I'm going to shout at my child or you know what I mean it's like takes so many different forms and like the greatest thing in the world is to be able to stop yourself before that happens um but it does require constant vigilance.

Yeah, absolutely. It's amazing to You say that you still feel that way.

Yeah.

That's helpful and validating for for all of us.

That's part of the path of transformation.

Sorry, back to the tool. Yes.

So, so really because without what is lack is the illusion that there's no force of good. You're not protected. You're not loved. You're alone. You're sad, you're disconnected. And the practice to overcome that, not just in meditation, throughout the day, which is very powerful, is step number one. As you face the challenge before you get as the reactive process of lack and negative thoughts tell yourself say these words pause. What an opportunity. I don't know why it's an opportunity but I know every moment of lack it's a gift from the universe to help me to reveal greater light and a blessing in my life. Step number two, don't fix it yet. Embrace what is. Embrace the difficult feelings. Because in order to find light in darkness, you need to be there with courage a little bit in darkness. We want to fix right away. We want to get rid of what bothers us. We want to get rid of the fear. We want to get rid of the insecurities. We can't stand it. We don't like the discomfort. And how do we want to get rid of it? By being reactive, by blaming, by judging ourself, by jumping after opportunity for insignifications, by being self-destructive. Pause. Embrace. It's okay. And part of this the reason of study is developing trust. It's okay. Embrace first what is and then go to the next level.

And when you say embrace, do you mean to meet it positively in that to me as it is?

To allow it.

Yeah. To allow it.

Allow it.

Because sit in it.

Yeah.

Allow it. Not because I want to stay there because that's part of the process.

Yeah.

Of revealing the great light of my soul.

Yeah. It almost feels that often what happens is because we've tried to go to the light so much. Sorry. It often feels that because we've tried to go to the light so much, we don't know how to sit in the darkness.

Exactly.

We want to go to the good so quickly, we don't know how to sit in the bad.

And that's when you develop strength.

And there's a concept cabalistic discomfort.

Yeah. There's a concept cabalistically called certainty beyond logic.

Explain that. I mean, I'm trusting even though I don't feel it and it doesn't make sense that actually I'm led towards anything positive, but I'm trusting beyond logic that this experience is for my best. Even if I'm guilty and feeling horrible about mistakes that I I've done, it's okay.

You're going to get to the part of learning the lesson. Don't fix it. Don't erase it. Certainty beyond logic. So, so, so, so the part of embrace it, allow, and then you're ready to the next step, which is telling yourself because our belief system tells us it's moment of darkness. There's no light here. There's no good here.

Yeah. There's no light here.

There's no love here. There's no light here. So you need to tell yourself all the light that I need is within me. Now just tell yourself.

It doesn't make sense. Logic doesn't agree. The heart doesn't agree. But that's the job of this world to allow the thoughts, the stream of energy that come from the soul to influence gradually the mind and the heart and the body. And again and again again tell yourself all the light I need is within me mouse I'm certain beyond logic it's for my best and then show me the way the light the universe what's the when you feel less reactive because usually when we experience lack we're reactive we want to get rid of the lack we want to get rid of the and that's what's caused think what's caused evil behavior between people. Not knowing how to handle moments of lack. That's where it starts.

So forget about others. Let's start with ourself. And sometime we'll fix the lack because someone will tell us, "Wow, you're an amazing person. I love you so much."

And now we feel good and I fixed it. I forgot about my lack. I forgot about my insecurity. Actually, I am amazing. Are you are you developing true muscles and skills to find the light within or you want to be attached to the external energy that will fix you? It will never work. And of course when you in that place actions of giving even if it doesn't make sense calling someone adding value to someone being kind to someone also help you to shift your energy towards the vibration of the soul towards the v vibration of the light. But we all need to go through this test.

Yeah. You know, some people would call it mental illness, but we all have that mental struggle. We all have that mental struggle.

Yeah.

In feelings and in our mind. So, it's a it's actually it's a it's a daily practice to transform. It's a daily practice. And when you have the courage and you study enough depth that support the understanding that the light is never gone.

Yeah.

It's my perception. I see the light. I don't see the light that is causing me to feel the light is disappear and I'm small and I'm not enough and I'm not capable and I'm not confident. Yeah, that that really resonates very strongly because I feel like when you're first reading this new script, you don't believe it. And that's why, as you're saying, the regular study is almost like reading a script consistently, a new script, because we're already reading the old script of I'm not good enough, I'm not capable enough, I don't belong, whatever it may be. But the one line that I really loved that resonated with me which I want to ask you about Madonna is the trust beyond logic because I think that's the phase that most of us give up because we're living in a logical functional material world where if a train's not coming you would leave the station but here the trust beyond logic is no I'm still going to wait here or I'm going to act in a certain way or I'm going to change these behaviors. Madonna, when did you have to practice trust beyond logic in your life the most? Where where have you?

I mean, every challenge I've ever had once I became aware that I had the power to do that and like making art creation is is nothing to do with being logical. Doesn't have anything to do with the logical part of your brain. You can't measure it. You can't predict it. You can't control it. You have to allow it. Um, so I would say that challenger is like happening on a daily basis like even now like I told you my you know, there's a pipe that burst in the middle of my house and it's like creating havoc and all I was so excited to come to London to be in my house in London and everything's gone wrong and I'm like, okay, so there has to be a reason for it. I can't just sit here and like be angry or upset like there's a illogical wisdom to everything that's happening. If that's not being attached to material things, then that could be an option. If that's because all these things are broken, I need to spend more time doing something else is more important, then that's, you know what I mean? There's always a reason for something. Um, so and you can't logically figure it out. Like I wish that I could have seen 10 years ahead that my son was going to be my best friend. I was trying to make logical sense of everything. You know what I mean? So I wish that I could knew then what I know now. So there's always then there's big struggles and little struggles like you can't logically explain things like especially like I always use art as a as um an example because I can tell you that 99% of the time when I'm writing lyrics or singing a melody I'm not thinking about it. That's logic. If I think it's gone or it doesn't come to me.

I want to ask you based on that as Madonna said she waited 10 years to see that experience of you know her son becoming her best friend. I think a lot of people wonder how is the reason revealed or received? How do we know? Because like you said, it's trust beyond logic. And logic is like if I do this, then this will happen and this like my pipes are burst. If I call the guy, he'll come and fix it. Right. Like that's the kind of way our brain works. When we're trusting beyond logic, it could take 10 years to receive a reason. It could take 20 years. It could take 50 years to to really have a revelation on something. How is it often revealed or received when it's not based on logic?

So,

Does that make sense?

Yes, it makes sense. What you're asking number one is when things don't go your way and of course sometime we need to do practical action to make things better and to fix things but sometimes it's out of our control things don't go our way like the situation with that the experience that Madonna shared so certainty beyond logic is that the struggle that I'm going through is for my best, but it doesn't allow me to be selfdestructive because if I want to speed up the process that I see the light at the end of the tunnel, I need to strengthen and we need friends, you need teachings, you need the right support to actually trust the universe loves you and it's for the good as difficult it is. But then you need to ask a second question. When you're ready, when you're not as reactive, what's my lesson? Why is it in my movie? And sometime the answer is simple. Every time we experience rejection, what is rejection? Things don't go our way. It purifies us because our mind and our heart is so attached to happiness is when this will happen which is not necessarily the big picture happiness what really good for me.

Yeah. So when you actually realize that actually that's a purification process and you open and you allow it to happen because all of us are not align with the true desire of the universe. If it would be a line, we would be joyful every second and we will be giving unconditionally every second and we will think all day long how can I add value to others and because we are not there and that's part of the gift of life gradual transformation we need moments of rejection but when you question yourself h where am I too attached what's my lesson what do I need to let go that will support to speed up the process of seeing the light because every fruit in order to become sweet and ripe is first sour. There's a process.

Actually, the botonist would say that more sour the fruit in the process, sweeter at the end. It's so easy to throw the sour fruit and to say it's a bad fruit. But if you're able to allow this process and you need a lot of spiritual strength because culture, society, our body, our mind is prone to react and to decide it's bad. That constant conversation in our mind it's good it's bad I'm good I'm bad it's that reactive conversation we have within us that actually prolonging the process.

So, so actually faster we embracing certain tiologic fasting we asking question because at the beginning you cannot ask because you're in pain.

So you just try to at least trust and embrace and embrace and and beg something and asking. But when you're ready to ask question, what's my lessons? Because very often we are so attached. We spoke about forgiveness to what's wrong with them and we forget that the true purpose of life is my own transformation and elevation while I'm interacting with other people.

Yeah. So when the conversation is no longer about that good, that bad, how did they do it, and you bring it back to you, how can I elevate, how can I become better, how can I transform between me and my soul, between me and my perfected self. When you that's when you inject the energy, then things the light will be shown faster.

M. Yeah, that's the question that's the accelerator.

The we want we want the pain to go away quicker.

Exactly.

But that question is and sitting with that question.

Exactly.

Is is the thing that actually speeds it up.

What are you trying to work on right now Madonna that you're working on in your studies? I know you get together regularly people are going to be able to watch your studies as well that you do together. What's something that you're trying to work on right now that seems very fresh as a challenge, something to overcome. As you said,

The lessons that I learn and study are more applicable to things that are challenging me on a regular basis.

Mhm.

Which would be, you know, my children, they're always challenging me in one way or another. And that's a big like it's such a big lesson for me to like let go of expectations and stop trying to control the outcome and over worrying and you know, I'm just like some days I wake up and I'm like, I'm just relieved that they're all okay. You know what I mean? It's like and I always say to people when you're when you have that many kids you're um you're not really a parent, you're a manager.

You know what I mean?

Yeah. And by the way, she has amazing kids and spiritual kids. And because of her tremendous effort to infuse not just with the teachings, with their behavior consciousness, sometimes you don't see it right away, but we see kid after kid that actually they're coming around in their own unique way. So.

And also infuriating me.

What what kind of things trigger? I mean, I have to stop thinking that, you know, my way of doing things or my way of approaching life or my way of being an artist is going to be somebody else's or my kids's way of doing it. Everybody has their own journey and um, it's taken me a long time to accept that and to let go of control.

Mhm.

Why is that so hard as a parent? Because I feel like so many parents would be able to relate to that right now where we subconsciously or consciously are projecting living through our children wanting them to, you know,

Wanting them to be successful or in.

Not like not even in a.

Not like I want them to be rich and famous. I just want them to be happy. I want them to be authentic. I want them to not compare the themselves to other people, not worry about what people think of them. Cuz they're my children. Like we're, you know, fearing judgment. Um, letting that go, helping them to see their own unique gifts. It's a constant battle because also you don't want to come off as somebody who's like trying to control the situation all the time either. My weekly studies with Eton or my daily prayers or whatever are often about, you know, I don't want my children to do specific things. I want them to realize what they were put on this earth to do. I want them to elevate to their highest level of consciousness. And how can I help that? That's it. But it's still hard not to be bothered by things things.

Yeah. I think that's a very relatable challenge for parents.

Yeah.

It's it's a real one. It's and and and I guess when you ask that question then of what is the lesson in this applying a ton's process, what what do you often come up with? Trying to control all the outcomes in life is and not getting the outcome you wanted is what makes you suffer. So if that lesson keeps coming back to me, then I guess I haven't learned it yet. And children are a perfect teacher for that because they're never going to do what you want them to do the way that you want them to do it.

You know, just get them from here to there without hurting themselves or anybody else. You know what I mean?

Yeah. Because they too have to overcome.

Exactly.

Yeah. You know, I didn't I grew up with very little and that so I have a huge desire and then of course you give your children all the things you wanted to have and then you realize that's killing their desire. And so, you know, it's like it's just you're just constantly going, "Oh Oh Okay. I'm not okay. Not just be counterintuitive. Just say nothing." That's that's a big one for me. Say nothing, but I'm getting good at it. I'm just really getting good at it. No.

I appreciate you walking us through that thought process because I think you've summed it up. That's exactly what we want to do. We want to take away someone's pain or the pain we thought they're going to have because of the pain we had.

And then you provide something only to create a new pain.

And for them to never have the pain that you had, but have a completely different version of it. And we do it for everyone we love. And I was going to ask you like what do you do when you don't like the answer? That question is so important like what is the lesson I need to learn? But a lot of us subconsciously may not like the answer we get and that's why we have to keep learning it again. What happens when you don't like the truth that you're experiencing?

So I think part of true spiritual transformation is craving truth is I want to know really what's my lesson because what's the other option more pain until I'm going to learn the lesson. So the reason why we're not listening to the voice that tell me let go of control or for kids one of the biggest mistakes parents do is overgiving to kids which in cabalist cabalistic terminology we call it bird of shame. When you give to someone something without working for without earning you're actually hurting them. And the parent might know I'm overgiving and it's not healthy for them, but I'll feel guilty to say no.

And I'll be popular if I say yes.

Exactly. So, here is the test. Guilty of saying no versus long-term pain for the kid and for yourself. So, actually pause and ask that question. That will help you to get closer to the truth and be less in denial and a fork. Short-term, long-term, saying yes just to fix the pain, to give them what they want, to let them play with the phone or say no. And it's difficult and they feel bad and they're blaming you but you're doing it from place of love because yes because what's driving us true desire to share in a long term.

Yeah. If that's my true and that's the truth, am I really coming from true desire to share for a long-term sharing, not just temporary fix?

Yeah. And when I'm coming from that place only blessings, you're planting a seed of light, a seed of blessing, a seed of miracles. When you're coming from another place pretending to be good or nice or kind only because you cannot handle the temporary pain, you're planting a seed of chaos which chaos also has intelligent to teach you lessons but in a longer path.

Yeah. Yeah, I mean, I can relate to that as a kid because I'm not a parent, but it was almost like during your teens, you just think everything your parents say is wrong. And then in my 20s, I was like so grateful for the discipline and the rules and the, you know, I was only allowed to play video games for like x amount of time or whatever it was. And all of a sudden, everything my parents did, I was like, "Oh, wow. There was actually a lot of good in it." But during my teenage years, you know, I obviously didn't agree with anything they said. And there's such a reality to that feeling of the long-term point that you're making that long-term you realize, oh yeah, I'm glad you actually didn't just let me eat rubbish or I'm really glad you didn't just let me waste hours playing video games. I'm really glad that you didn't do XYZ or whatever it may be. And so it's hard though because the parent or the person, this could be romance, it could be in any relationship, you've got to be unpopular in the moment. You have to put aside your ego and you have to go through that discomfort.

Which applies at work. It applies everywhere.

In anything.

Yeah.

Especially in the culture today when everything can be so instant.

Yeah.

App and ordering food and getting what you want and watching any program and in your phone. So that instant culture preventing a child or an individual to go through a real process of going through discomfort or earning the light as we saying cabalistically and people don't understand they can be bright how come I'm depressed depression very often it's a consequence of instant gratification not willing to go through difficult process.

So hard. So hard. We We don't want to go through the difficult process and we don't want anyone we love to go through a difficult process. Although that is that is the only process that's going to benefit us all.

But we're going to anyway. So.

Absolutely. I have one one last question to ask both of you. What is your soul's purpose? Why do you think you're here? And what personally was the becoming or the overcoming that you went through to really receive that soul's purpose that you're living by? What was it that birthed that idea within you?

My soul's purpose is to reveal light in the world through whatever I do, whatever that's being a parent or being an artist, being a friend. um being a leader. Yeah, we are here to receive for the sake of sharing. So I have a huge desire. I have many desires. Um, this is not a belief system or philosophy that's about no offense being a monk and going up in like the mountains and meditating for hours and hours. I I want it all but I want it for the sake of sharing not to keep it for myself.

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The personal relationship between me and the light, between me and the creator. I know that I don't want anything less than connecting while I'm in this physical world to the soul that was given to me. And it and it means total transformation, total desire to receive for the sake of sharing, certainty beyond logic until it becomes second nature. That's in a personal level. But one of the ways to achieve it is to connect with our purpose of sharing. So I know in my gut in my soul and it was beyond knowing it was beyond logic that that's what I came to do in this world which is to spread to be a teacher for the teachings of Kabala while I'm studying. One of them is about being to perfectionist spiritually you know taking spiritual lesson to an imbalanced place. Something is wrong with me. So, and I know as long as we're in this world and if we're truly not settling for less, and that's a message for everybody, I want to say never settle for less. Wherever you are, this is just the beginning comparing to your next level potential. So, those challenges were necessary to help me to evolve to where I'm at today. And of course, this is just the beginning.

What's that? Madan, thank you so much for your time and energy. I've again learned so much from both of you today. And I really can't wait for people to watch the studies. I hope that it gives spiritual seekers a opportunity to ask better questions, deeper questions, and begins their quest for overcoming and becoming whatever their soul's purpose truly is. And I'm so grateful that you're both living yours truly and I'm really again thankful for the opportunity to have learned so much from both of you today. Thank you so much.

Our honor. Thank you so much.

Thank you.

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