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Now, you know how we do. Um, as it comes across my desk, we organically acknowledge it. This is another episode of the sacred black masculine. Um, you can find this on, uh, let me see, here we go, YouTube right here. This is concealednation.org. And the title is, "He found out I had training. Marine vet trade shots with body armor wearing, uh, the body armor wearing gunman." Right. I'm not going to read the whole thing, but I'm just going to give you an overview of what took place.
A family gathering in Leburg, Georgia, turned violent when an armed individual wearing body armor opened fire on a group of children and el elderly relatives. The attacker initially targeted the family with racial slurs before returning with a rifle to initiate an active shooting. A Marine veteran attending the reunion stopped the assault by returning fire with a personal handgun, neutralizing the suspect. Deputies arrested the gunman, who now faces aggra aggravated assault charges. Authorities are investigating the incident as a potential hate crime while considering additional felony counts for the case.
Uh, let's see, there's the guy there, Jeffrey Tyler Kzer, right? So, he started by, uh, rolling up on what looked to be, yeah, black family reunion. Uh, started throwing racial slurs, left, came back with a rifle and go for there. So, I'm going to show, I'm going to take you through the document in a minute, but I want to read about the brother who responded.
So, his section is titled, "He found out he wasn't the only one with training." Stepping directly into the line of fire was family member R.L. Green. Recognizing that the children behind him would be massacred if the riflemen advanced, checked, the Marine veteran drew his, uh, personal carry weapon, stepped out into the center of the street, and aggressively moved toward the threat while unleashing a string of accurate defensive shots. People started taking positions because they saw he had a gun. Green stated in an interview with WB, "and I was in the middle of the street and I grabbed my gun and started returning fire and moving with him. He came, uh, he came and caused that to happen and he found out that he's not the only one with training."
Green's defensive fire hit its mark despite the suspect's protective armor. The veteran, uh, veteran's round successfully degraded Kenzer's mobility and struck him, instantly halting the active shooting spree.
Now, they released, uh, this little graphic to help us kind of walk through what took place. So, uh, try and walk through this real briefly. They're calling it the Kendzer attack. Critical incident timeline.
9:00 p.m. Provocation. Kzer in truck drives past the family reunion, shouting racial slurs. They call 911.
9:05, just 5 minutes later, he comes back armed, right? Or it says he comes back on foot with tactical body armor and an AR-15 rifle.
Uh, ambush. He begins opening fire on the crowd. Crowd reacts. Seniors and children dive under vehicles.
Counterattack. Marine vet advances. Uh, Romel Green draws sidearm. All right. As he advances, he neutralizes the threat.
Resolution. Threat neutralized. Kinser hospitalized. Jailed. Facing felon counts. Hospitalized. Um, jailed and so on and so forth.
So, shout out to this brother R.L. Green. They didn't put his picture here in this particular piece, but, uh, wanted to shout him out nevertheless. So that is the sacred black masculine. Y'all know how we do.
So anyway, um, today I wanted to have a bit of a, a, uh, well, how would you put it? A counterintuitive conversation. We're going to talk a little bit about freedom as it relates, or at least stems out of, rape. Yeah, this is going to be a little strange, but just follow me.
So, the theme basically is that we're going to talk about sexual mistreatment, sexual liberation in a way that's never talked about, especially in regard to black men and setting yourself free, right, from expectation, right?
So, black men, and this is what I want to reinforce in the show, we are free. Really, and we're even free from expectation in the black community: what's expected of us to be quiet, to take what you're given, to date who you're told to date, to live where you're told to live, and to provide those particular people, those women in question, whatever it is they ask for. You know, while you're shamed for your, uh, preferences, we're supposed to la and celebrate theirs. No. And that includes on sexual grounds, which I'll get into a moment, into, in a moment, right?
So, I want to highlight to you, right, that your freedom, you, it don't let anybody take it from you. Don't let anybody convince you you shouldn't have it. And damn sure, don't let anybody shame you into not embracing it. You can go anywhere you want. You can choose any woman you want. You can have any type of relationship you want, right? Free from judgment, at least to the extent that you should not give a [ __ ], and you can do it in any place you want, and I really want to highlight that. Right?
So, you have the freedom to deal with women or not. If you want to go monk, you have the freedom, uh, to have sex and not have sex. You can have, you know, these things sound obvious, but when you really think about the expectations on black men that we've heard in the black community for years, right?
Provide her with excellent sex and cater to her emotional needs and and and perform the emot emotional labor she needs. Make six figures and take her on trips around the world, buy her cars, buy her jewelry. Shut up and don't tell her anything that that might make her uncomfortable. Don't say anything contradictory to what it is she wants. Lead, but lead in the way she tells you to lead. So that it's acceptable that you lead by her standard. And then she can tell her girlfriends that you're a good man, which unfortunately has come to mean that you follow and take orders well, even though she allows you to perform the gestures of leadership. Again, as long as she consents. So, you make of that what you will, right? All of these kinds of standards and expectations, right, that we've been told we were supposed to accept.
You know, first it's provide her great sex for hours on in. And then when you get married, at a certain point when she stops wanting to have sex, you're supposed to stop, too. You're supposed to stop wanting it. You're supposed to stop asking for it. You're supposed to stop pursuing it. You're just supposed to accept that your sex life is over because she said it was. I mean, and many of these expectations in regard to sex are, you know, are never spoken aloud. They're just expected, right?
You're not supposed to go anywhere. You're not supposed to do anything without approval. But in regard to sexual abuse, we're supposed to ignore it and act like it doesn't happen, regardless of age or context. And I just want to reiterate, you have the freedom to go wherever you want on the terms you'd like.
So, I'm going to cover three examples that we're going to go through very quickly. I don't think this is going to be a long live. I've been hitting you guys with some long ones lately, so this one is going to be kind of short. Let's check this out.
A woman charged with statutory rape out of Ashlin City. The victim is a 16-year-old boy. Andy Cordan speaks with an advocacy organization about the effects of sex crimes on children and teens.
According to the affidavit, on May 27th, a woman now identified as Tuesday Datson met a 16-year-old boy at this Ashlin City Motel. According to the investigative report, the 25-year-old woman and the 16-year-old boy got in a car in this parking lot and began making out. According to investigators, that's when the 25-year-old woman and the teen went up to room 323 and reportedly had sex. Afterwards, the woman reportedly made threats to the boy if he told anybody. And according to police, Tuesday Datson knew that the boy was a minor.
>> We do provide forensic interviews and trauma therapy for children who are victims of statutory rape.
>> Don Harper is CEO of the Nashville Children's Alliance, an organization that supports children who have been exposed to violence or sexual assaults.
>> Glad you all brought this to our attention today because a lot of times males are not always seen as victims, especially when they're having sex with females that are older. A lot of times the society has kind of said that those kids may be cooler or, you know, that they're not necessarily victims, but they are still victims.
According to Harper, males account for 40% of all sex abuse victims that her agency has cared for.
>> The law is the law, and that is a crime, and so folks should be held accountable for committing these crimes, and it's ever the child's fault no matter what their age is.
>> According to Tennessee state law, >> Now, let me say this, fair use, you know, first and foremost, I'm horrible at that. But the other thing is, again, I've talked about this paper a lot. If you go read Tommy Curry and Ebony Utley's Peace. Um, oh man. Um, dang it. How am I blanking on the title? I've been talking about it for so long and and, uh, anyway. Oh, it's called She Touched Me. I believe that's what it was. Uh, so Tommy Curry and Ebony Utley's paper, She Touched Me. And what it's about is about m men. It's really interviewing men who have been violated often at, um, underageed, you know, when they were underage. And they're grown now, the ones that were interviewed.
However, it also breaks down that for black males, usually black male sexual debut, which is more of an academic way of saying they lost their virginity, usually takes place between, I want to say, uh, 10 and 12 years old, which is, I believe, the youngest for all males across race. And usually this takes place with an older girl or woman woman.
Now, what needs to be taken into account is when you look at the DA data, you know, contrary to what people say about young men finally getting some because in the black community, statutory rape, especially by an older woman, is said to be not only a favor, but almost kind of like a right of passage, right? And that this is something he's supposed to be excited about. But according to the data, these young boys, young men, actually experience a good deal of trauma. They have the same reactions that girls who are violated have when they're underage, contrary to popular opinion. They just don't have the facilities. They don't have, and more than anything, they don't have the public will that acknowledges that they've experienced a certain type of violation. The public will for boys is they they got some, they're happy because, you know, after all, men just need a wet hole. That's all, that's all that's really necessary as far as the public is concerned. No, I'll let them continue.
>> Uh, if found guilty of statutory rape, a class E felony, the woman faces one to six years in prison in Ashlin City, Andy Cordan, News 2.
>> Okay. Now, the thing about that is, were this, uh, a young man, I think this would happen very differently, and there'd be a very, a very different idea about what needs to happen. And, you know, as far as, uh, if it was a man, I should say, and a young woman, right? I, I think six years would be laughable. But again, as, and she even pointed this out, the public does not regard, uh, male victimization as an issue.
But we're not here to solely look at this in terms of an act of male, uh, victimization. We're here to talk about this also in terms of what it means to be sexually liberated for black men. And what that also means, not just that you can go anywhere, whether you want to travel internationally, whether you want to date interculturally, interraially, that is entirely up to you. But more than that freedom, I also want you to acknowledge that you have the freedom to call out a violation against your person. Even if this took place, uh, with you as a young man, right?
There are many of you who listen to my channel, whether you've ever told anybody or not, you experienced a violation on these grounds, often underage by older women and girls. Some of you had women that were over the over the age of 30 and 40. Sometimes it was your mother's friends that violated you when you were under the age of 16. Some of you were under the age of 10. And I know this is the case because over the last eight, eight or so years, I've had dozens of men reach out to me and tell me those stories.
I've talked about my experience. I was violated twice. Once by a male and once by a female. The male happened when I was probably just over two years old. Um, and the female happened when I was about nine. Right. A lot of people don't talk about this, especially men, because one, we're not taught how to. We're not given license to. We don't really have the institutional support to do so. And again, as far as the public is concerned, you got some. You're lucky.
But I worked with a lot of young men when I was doing my grad work in Philadelphia at Temple University. I worked in a program where I had to teach, um, you know, young men who were fresh out of a facility to I had to give help get their GEDs. I taught a class that was in line for them to get that. So, they had to take the class to prepare, and many of them had experienced all kinds of violations along those lines and and had nobody to talk to. I mean, one of them even told me a story about going to the police department to report the woman that violated him, and the cops shoot him out of the building and just said, "You got some, man. Get be happy, kid." And laughed, right? As if these violations occur like a porno. But they don't. And the women that are initiating this are not Halle B. But we have these this imagination in place about what it must be like, and we think that that's the case.
So, I want to emphasize here not the violation, not not the victimization, although you, you, you have every right to acknowledge that it needs to be, in fact, but more to the point, you have every right to call out what took place with you as immoral, as unjust, as wrong. You do not have to accept this behavior and having access to sex. Uh, you do not have to accept. I want to I want to highlight the freedom in that that we've never really been given. We've been taught to pursue it at all ends, to get it at all ends, to take it whenever you can get it. [ __ ] that.
If you've experienced a violation, I don't care if it was 30 years ago or if it was yesterday. You have every right to call it out and call it what it is because the data shows that the violation occurs for males as well as females regardless of age. So, you have that freedom, and I want to highlight that.
Now, this is another, um, this one deals with the question of whether or not men and young boys can even be violated. Um, let's check it out.
>> Someone recently wrote to me that men can't be raped because in order for a man to be raped, he would have to have an erection, which would mean that he would be turned on and he would want it. Should we talk about this?
So, human biology works whether you are turned on or not. We look at a lot of female survivors who have a lot of shame around their rapes. Often they will say, "Well, you know, my body responded in the way that it would have done had I have wanted the sex. I was wet." The vagina self-lubricates itself when a penis is nearby. Um, most of the time, right? And then the shame is like, well, did I want it? Because I was wet. It kind of felt good. Um, but I didn't want to have sex and it was rape.
Uh, I'm not trying to make this about women, but I'm mentioning women because we often understand female rape, but we don't understand male rape. And so, I'm bringing that level in for a level of awareness. Now, the same happens to men. A man can have an erection whether he wants to have sex or not. Let's look at male hormones when they are in puberty, right? You think a boy wants to have sex in the middle of science class? He's just using a Bunson burner and all of a sudden, oh, an erection. Hormones. Hormonal fluctuation. Um, I'm not a man and I cannot speak for men, but I do know that erections don't always mean consent. The body can have a natural reaction to being touched. Um, I genuinely don't think a lot of men know that that is rape. If you are being touched and your body has the natural biological reaction to produce an erection and you have explicitly said no to a woman and yet she still climbs on top, that is rape. That is rape. You are being raped. Yes, you have an erection, but erections don't mean consent. Erections are the body's natural biological reaction to being sexually aroused or being touched in that area. But you might not want to have sex, even if you have an erection. Erections do not equal consent. Any men want to speak up on this? Uh,
>> As a matter of fact, I will. She's absolutely right. She's absolutely right. And this is something that I've heard about in feminist circles for years when it came to women because, as she pointed out, there are women that will, uh, find themselves lubricated in the mi in the midst of a violation. It, it, it's a bodily function. It does not mean that she's into it, even though that tends to be the public perception. And I've heard about this probably for the last 30 years. This conversation has come up in classes when I was in school as well as now.
But what I found interesting in her response was was something that I've never heard in a classroom. I've never heard anybody actually talk about this in regard to male erections. And she's absolutely right. An erection does not mean consent. Erections can happen for all kinds of reasons, but, you know, the public's perception is, as I've already stated, that you must want it because you're hard. And that's not the case at all.
Sometimes I've seen, I've, I've read about violations that take place when a man is asleep. They actually call it sleep great. All right. And there were cases of it. Well, there been cases of it for years, but there were, there was a one case that stood out in my mind was a, a young woman who moved into a co-ed dorm at a university. And I believe the young man in question was a freshman. Um, you know, they lived on the same, uh, hallway, so to speak. So, he left his door unlocked. He was asleep. When he woke up in the morning, um, she was on top of him and she was riding him. And y'all know what it is in the morning for us. You know, things stand at at attention. So, by the time he woke up, she was mid orgasm. And this was a woman he said was not he was not attracted to. She was overweight. She was unattractive. You know, her grooming was not on point. He didn't even know she was in the room. When he woke up, she was mid orgasm. Right now, all of that sounds great again in a porno. It sounds great when you're thinking about, uh, you know, somebody that's beautiful. But what happens if you wake up and there's somebody that is the example of what is unattractive to you riding you mid orgasm?
And let's be realistic. We also know the outcome of these kinds of situations. What happens later if she gets pregnant? Well, what we've seen in certain cases is that some of these women will take men to court and get, uh, child support. All right. The violation will not always be acknowledged. It's not a given when a man when a man reports this that the violation is acknowledged. But if she's pregnant, you can find yourself paying child support. And if you're underage, you can find your parents paying child support, being court ordered to do so on your behalf for a violation. You know, and we just got through, uh, showing an example of a statutory rape situation, and there have been statutory rape situations where if she's pregnant, the child's parents have to pay on his behalf for child support, even though she shouldn't be able to get any of that and should be getting jail time, right?
So, these situations are important. And again, in in regard to focusing on freedom, this one's going to be pretty straightforward. You are free to not want to [ __ ] and to not have to. One of the things I remember from the youngest age was this, you know, belief that I was supposed to to want it from from whomever I could get it from, you know, and a few years ago, I recognized that there were situations where, you know, there the woman in question would be okay. She'd be pretty, and on paper everything would be cool, you know, it, but I, I, I would find myself dealing with women that I wasn't particularly attracted to, but on paper she'd look good, and she the picture looked fine, and I was supposed to want it just because of that. And it took me a while to reconcile that she can be pretty, she can be intelligent, she, she, and I can have a lot in common on paper, but for some reason or another, I don't, if I'm not attracted to her, it's all right, and I don't have to do anything.
And this is probably a message more particularly to my young men, but you are free to not want to have to [ __ ]. And if you find yourself dealing with a grape situation where an erection is in question, you know, all I can tell you is to be very careful, but report it if the situation comes up, right? And if you, if you really doubt me, look up sleep crate. Look up examples and stories of sleep great and find out more about how those kind of things happen. There are a number of different types of examples of this issue, but I think it's still important for you to check out on your own. And you'd be surprised how many cases where women have taken advantage of this little loophole about male erections, right?
Um, this one is up next. This is, uh, this is not a story that I was familiar; I should say, this is not a, a celebrity I was familiar with. I haven't watched the WWE since the early 90s, if not the late 80s. I think the last time I watched it, it was the WWF, but this is, uh, Titus O'Neal. Um, is what I'm told his name is, uh, WWE star. And he actually has, uh, a bit of a quick story. I think this is only 30 seconds, so, um, you know, again, uh, fair use, but check it out.
My mom was at 11 years old and had me at 12 and my life was a train wreck. And my relationship with my mom was a train wreck until I was 17. I realized because I was told how I was brought into the world that all the hate that I had towards my mom turned into love because I realized that my mom was a kid trying to raise kids.
>> Yeah. I think Tar's reaction to me having a basectomy is much bigger than me actually having a base.
>> Okay, that's where it cuts off. And I, I haven't seen the original show. So, this particular clip is, it's titled, uh, what is it? Uh, uh, where is it? Okay. Uh, mom's tragic past WWE star Titus O'Neal reveals his mother was raped at 11 and had him at 12. Why he decided to get a vasectomy? But the interesting thing was it didn't really say why he didn't provide the logic. Apparently he just said he got one. But we can assume, or at least, you know, we can, uh, we can, you know, interpret this as meaning that the main reason he got the vasectomy is because his mother was violated, and as a product of grape, you know, maybe he didn't feel his bloodline should continue in that regard.
Now, I just want to reiterate for the percentage of you that may be listening that may already know that you're a product of a violation. You know, um, I just want to highlight to you that you have the freedom to choose. You have the freedom to, um, have children of your own. And that doesn't mean that it's, uh, it's validating the violation. It can mean that you are ch you are breaking the cycle. You're changing the narrative and you're providing direction, support, and love to your own offspring. And it doesn't have to be in support of what took place. You are allowed to choose life.
Now, if you don't want to have children, again, you have, you have every right to have a vasectomy. And I say that, too, because, um, you know, sometimes when men choose to do these things, it frustrates women. You know, when they choose to have vasectomies, you hear men being criticized by women who want children for being selfish and so on and so forth. You have every right to decide you don't want to have children. But I also want to highlight if you are, you know, the product of a, a violation, you have every right to choose life if that's something you want. If you want children, but you feel like there's some guilt involved, I want to highlight to you that you have the right.
We have to talk about freedom in different ways. We can talk about political freedom. We can talk about, you know, we can talk about freedom in regard to a more nationalistic idea in terms of, you know, land and country. But I also want to talk about freedom as it relates to, uh, men's experiences with sex. Whether it be rooted in violation or whether it be rooted in social expectations about what we're supposed to want, how often we're supposed to want it, who we're supposed to want it from.
There are all kinds of rules when it comes to black men and sex. And black women can also be very, uh, judgmental and imposing about what it is, or I should say intrusive about what it is they believe we should be doing.
And lately what we've been hearing is that some black women have started following black men to different countries. Passport bros following to them to different countries to shame them in clubs and walking up and down streets when they're with women from those countries, right? Telling them they're supposed to go back home and be just with them. This is why I want to reiterate a call for a new conversation about freedom as it relates to men. One that involves black men's experiences with sex.
Because what we're really talking about here, um, on one level, is a kind of policing of men's sexual desire, men's preferences, right? So there's, there's a pressure to to only want sex the way women tell us to want sex. There's a pressure to ignore when women violate sexual boundaries and and violate boys and men on their terms simply because they want to. There's a pressure to accept statutory as a norm or even as a right of passage and not a violation except when it's a girl. Then of course it's a violation, right? There's a pressure to, um, conduct yourself a certain way. If you find out you're a product of grape, uh, to, you know, to to actually in some way apologize for your existence and apologize for your father's behavior, and you and the apology is in your actions, and in some instances it's to, uh, not reproduce.
Now, I don't know if those are the specific issues with Titus because I haven't seen more about his rationalization behind his vasectomy, but I just want to reiterate, you are not your fathers. You know, that's the reality. Our job is to do better than our fathers by priming our kids and giving them the resources, whether that those resources be material, intellectual. You know, they could be advice based, but at the end of the day, our job is to give our children the resources that we didn't have so that they have an opportunity to be better parents than we were. So, if you had a particularly, you know, horrible parent, do better. But you have every right to life and you have every right to reproduce if that's something you want to do. And, you know, conversely, you have every right to not, regardless of outside pressure, right? Regardless of outside pressure. I want to reiterate that.
And that's why when I created this chart, I kept highlighting, you know, the solutions aspect of it because these are the solutions that men are coming to us to the different types of relationships they're looking for outside of what we haven't been able to create in policy yet. So, if we can't get government to operate on our behalf, these are the things we're choosing to do in lie of the policies that, uh, would help us improve our quality of life. But I guess the other dimension of this list, something I didn't talk about when I first developed it a few shows ago, is where it falls in terms of freedom. See, this is actually black men defining freedom on sexual terms. We have to have more conversations about that.
And I think black men have been doing that. Passport Bros is a perfect example of freedom on sexual terms for black men because for the longest in the black community, um, you know, interracial relationships were forbidden for the most part, and black men experienced lynching if there was even the, the, the, you know, the, the slightest indication that we had engaged in interracial relationships, particularly with white women. So, we come out of a history of not being able to. And unfortunately, there were instances where some black women decided that, you know, since we couldn't go anywhere, we had to accept horrible behavior, uh, one-sided, you know, preferences and condemnation for wanting to do anything that fell outside of the purview of what black women wanted us to do.
But things have changed. There's a global community of folk that actually, of women in particular, that want black men. And so, I think it's time that black men reconsider, right? Reconsider those terms and develop their own approach to freedom. And matter of fact, taking it further, you have every right to create community and family. Wherever you choose to be, whatever country you choose to move to, you have every right to do it.
So when we talk about sexual freedom, I'm not just talking about the act of sex. I'm even talking about family formation, right? This is a new type of reproductive justice. You have every right to create family and community wherever you choose to be in the world. And you don't have to wait on approval or permission. And I know I'm speaking to the choir here, but somebody out there needs to hear it. And we need to think about it in terms of a kind of new sexual freedom, a new reproductive justice, because those terms have been very much specific to women at different times in the 60s and 70s, so on and so forth. What does it mean for men in 2026?
So essentially, if the women you meet here in the west don't care for your leadership, you know, won't take your direction, you know, refuse to accept your guidance, but require your resources at their whim. Hey, go where you are valued.
Anyway, hope to hear from you. Uh, y'all have a good one. Holl at y'all later. Peace.