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Does my ex-narcissist miss me? Are they coming back? And if I let them back in, what's going to happen? Those are the top three questions that I get. And I'm going to give you the answer to all of them. And then I'm going to tell you why.
The first one, uh, do they miss you? No, they don't.
Number two, are they coming back? Eight out of 10 times they're coming back unless it's the absolute final discard. I'm going to tell you why in a minute. And what's going to happen if you let them back in. Okay, the first one. Do they miss me? Mm- not even a little bit because they are not in love with you. And I don't care if you've been with them 20, 30 years and uh you got kids together. They are in love with the benefits of being in love with you. So in other words, they love how you love them. And as long as you're in love with them, you're giving, you're forgiving, all the benefits of love. When you're in love, that's what they love. But they don't love you personally. They're not connected like that. So when the time comes, they'll leave you in the middle of [ __ ] dinner and never look back. And I don't care how long you've been with them. That's the way they are. Okay.
Number two, are they coming back? Eight out of 10 times. Because once you train somebody to be a s to give and give and give and expect nothing in return, that's a hard person to find. That's a hard person to replace. So even if they're with somebody else, you've been put on a shelf. You're the fallback.
Then number three, uh, what's going to happen if you let them back in? Here's how it's going to go for you. Since they don't love you, they love the benefits of being with you, that's what they want. They want the benefits, but they do not want the obligation or the accountability. If you hold them emotional emotionally accountable, that's not going to work. They don't want to be emotionally accountable. They don't want to be physically accountable as your boyfriend, girlfriend, uh, spouse. They don't want to be held to a standard to act that way. So, in the end, what they want to do is reduce you down to a roommate. That way, they're not held accountable. They get all the benefits of being with you, but they can do whatever the [ __ ] they want. You get all the rules and they get the freedom. And that's the ultimate goal. That's how it's going to go for you. There is no happily ever after. Not with these [ __ ]