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[Music] Sun-Mercury aspects are interesting. You would think that they play a larger role in synastry than they do. Um, because we can have, uh, difficult aspects to Sun-Mercury and still be able to make something of it. It does get in the way of everyday communication when we have the difficult aspects between Sun and Mercury, and we may see each other as an idiot. The evaluation that each other is an idiot or a is very, very common with the difficult aspects between Sun and Mercury. When we have the easy aspects, the determination that the other person is rational or right-headed, or you know, makes good choices or decisions, that's usually there with all of the good aspects from Sun to Mercury. The conjunction, the sextile, the trine, uh, the quintile is a little bit challenging, but not always. The novel, even the opposition, we're going to have a pretty darn good assessment of each other. The opposition, I'll leave that for last because that's a little bit different, has a little bit of a challenge to it. But the conjunction, not vile, trine, [Music] sextile, we find the way that the other person thinks, what they think about, how they solve problems, uh, the bulk of their life decisions, uh, the evaluation of the Mercury person as someone who, you know, runs their daily life in a way that makes sense. And the Mercury person can see that the Sun person, it generally makes sense, and their personality is comprehensible. Those are all benefits of the good aspects. Um, it doesn't matter what those good aspects are, they don't tend to act differently from each other. So the Mercury person feels like the Sun person is going to get them if they communicate their thoughts, that the Sun person may be able to understand some of their problems. They're, they're expecting a harmony or a listening ear when they deal with the Sun person, and they're right about that. The Sun person does have a lot to offer the Mercury person, and the Sun person sees the Mercury person as reasonable, um, thinking well, thinking clearly, thinking about the right kind of things. Uh, the Sun person filters the Mercury person through their Sun lens in, uh, you know, a very harmonious, accepting way. We accept the, the, uh, weirdness of the Mercury person because Mercury is Mercury is where we can be very idiosyncratic. We can be, uh, persnickety and, uh, you know, even a little weird. And the Sun person, well, they're just fine about that. We all have our little quirks, and the Sun person is happy to incorporate the Mercury person's quirks into their own life. So, uh, the way that the Mercury person performs tasks, [Music] very much appreciated by the Sun person with all of the aspects other than the conjunction or the square. So we feel like we can share daily life, we can, um, share a future, um, you know, evaluation of people and things and what the world is. Those generalities there, those are compatible with the easy aspects.
The square between the Sun and Mercury is a difficult aspect in any relationship, especially if we work together. This can really be a tough one. Um, if we have it with a parent and child, it can also suck. But, uh, we do tend to see each other as wrong a lot of the time with the square, and we can see each other as an idiot and not take a lot of what the other person thinks, other opinions about things, very seriously because we just don't put a lot of stock in it. So we don't tend to make each other feel good about our own aptitude and our own abilities when we have the square. Uh, the Mercury person can see the Sun person as, um, just unnecessarily argumentative and wrong and stupid. It is not the best view of each other that we have. So we, we actually do tend to argue pretty quickly with this particular square. We're not going to go for very many days without discovering that, oh, okay, we have a lot of things that we disagree about. And these disagreements are very much of the time petty and about most things. And we can argue about the big things too, but it's pretty much everything is up for grabs. So if we are, say, at the fair and we want to order cotton candy, we're going to argue if it should be the pink or the blue, and then we're going to argue which one tastes the best, even though the only difference is the food coloring. So it can be everything and everything that we have a problem with. And it actually doesn't have to be something that is a major wedge because we could have other things going on in the relationship where we do have agreements about the big things. And we could even have like, uh, you know, say we are ordering cotton candy and one of us wants the pink and one of them wants the blue, we may have two people that actually do like either or, but no matter what the other person picks, we're gonna have a problem with it. So it isn't like these things are, these arguments are based on anything [Music] real or consequential. It's more like, what you generally do and the choices you generally make, I would not do. And I think the hypocrisy factor in the square is pretty high, that we can really be judging each other, having some opinions about what each other does, and we would probably do that same thing in the same circumstance if we really examined it. So it's not, in my opinion, it's not something that really needs to be a deal breaker because of the stupidity of the content of most of the arguments. But it can be a deal breaker for a lot of people. And, and I can see why because you, you don't want to be with somebody who at every turn has something to say about how you put the eggs in the basket, or how you decided to buy some flowers and you had to smell them all first. It's just, it can get so annoying about having somebody opinionated about everything that you do. So these are petty judgments and disagreements that we come to, but we're going to come to them so frequently that that in itself can be something that we can just kind of throw our hands up and say, I just don't want to deal with this kind of argument at every turn. So, uh, if we have other fierce compatibilities in the relationship, then we can overcome something like this, but it is gonna be a point of contention until we decide to shut up. That's what we really have to do. And it can't be just one of us that decides to shut up, we both have to shut up and stop picking little arguments and fights over petty things that in the long run don't matter. [Music] So, um, I think it brings out some immaturity in the two of us and some impatience, general impatience, the square does. So, uh, it's something to look at if you see it in synastry. And if you have it with a child, take it into consideration because you may have a fabulous relationship otherwise. You really, really might have a lot of harmony and a lot of things that you can enjoy together and compatibilities in myriad ways. But this particular square will make it harder to spend consistent one-on-one daily time together. You may find that, you know, living in different cities is a good solution for you. So, um, it is something to take into account if you see it.
The opposition is an aspect that a lot of people do enjoy. But we do get into some lively, challenging conversation. We can debate with each other. It's not so much argument, it's bringing another side to things, playing devil's advocate, asking, hey, have you thought about this? Or what about this angle over here? And sometimes that can be, and can be interpreted as, oh, you don't agree with me, or you think I'm stupid. When really, we are expanding on what we're hearing from each other, or bringing in more information from different sources, different angles, or just asking questions. So there does tend to be more debate. We can teach each other, we can learn from each other with this opposition, given that we are questioning and, um, we will challenge some of each other's thinking. But it's not so much in a, uh, a mean way. We're not out to get each other with the opposition. It's more of a sparring between friends. So, um, it, it can be a good thing for most people. If we do have a very argumentative relationship and then we have this in there too, it will contribute to the contention that is already there. But if we don't have a contentious interaction, if we, um, you know, have reasonably good communication otherwise, this is fine to have for people. And it will bring up some misunderstandings. It will bring up some need to clarify. And because we're coming at things from different points of view, but generally we can work things out fairly easily.
The conjunction is a weird aspect in synastry because we, we really don't get each other. We really don't find that the other person makes sense. We can, um, struggle to understand the words they're coming out of each other's mouth. It's, it's, it can be like we're speaking a different language. We have such different angles. So a lot of times we actually don't even get very far when it comes to establishing a connection with each other. This can be something that very early on in the relationship makes it obvious that it's hard to talk to each other, or, um, you know, we have just kind of a herky-jerky conversational timing. So it's an awkward aspect, and it can make it difficult not just to have a flow of conversation, but to have things to converse about at all. So it is something that, uh, if we have it between parent and child, it can make it very hard to have any real consequential conversations. The communication may be very cursory, it may be kept to very surface things, and if we try to break beyond that, uh, we can feel like we're really having, having to put in some real effort. So it's an interesting aspect to see, and, uh, it doesn't make it very likely that we will spend hours and hours on the phone. Um, it will be one of those things where we are very much looking forward to just communicating what has to be communicated and then getting off the phone because we know that there's going to be some pretty uncomfortable pauses there.