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So, I've been dating this really old man, and he's a billionaire. And I just noticed that, like, I'm constantly going, like, what, what is it called? Like, abandoning myself. I'm constantly abandoning myself and my wants. And I'm doing it because I love the lifestyle.
>> By the way, guys, in case you don't know, I made a video previously on her about six months ago, and she was looking for a rich guy. I will put the link somewhere here in the corner. And now she found a rich guy. She found a billionaire. But she regrets it. Just watch.
That he gives me. I really like fall in love with him. Like, originally, it was just like an arrangement type of thing, and it was fun. And like, over time, I really like was like, "Wow, this person has built something so incredible, and the people around him are so incredible, and this lifestyle is so incredible, and like, I want to be a part of this." Like,
>> No, ma'am, you just wanted the lifestyle. You just wanted his money. That's all.
This is something that every woman has dreamed of, or at least I've always dreamed of. I don't feel seen or heard or chosen in the relationship. And I get, like, the whole "sprinkle sprinkle" thing is, you know, like, "Don't worry."
>> She gets advice from "Sprinkle Sprinkle."
"Worry about the man, and like, just do your own thing." And I am so 100% for that. But there is also an extent when I'm not, when he's driving me so [ __ ] crazy with the manipulation, with like, dangling a carrot of like, "Yeah, I I will get married." And then, "No, I won't get married." Or, "Yeah, I will sign a contract. No, I won't." "Yeah, I'll get rid of all the girls. No, I won't." Like,
>> Ma'am, did you actually think that you were the only one that was dating that billionaire? Even if he's very old, ma'am, he's a billionaire. There are so few men in this world that are billionaires. He is in very high demand. Ma'am, he can find another pretty woman every day. You're not the one that has leverage in this relationship, ma'am. He will always have leverage. Of course, he doesn't want to marry you because he doesn't want to lose his money. He didn't become a billionaire by being stupid.
That comes to a point where it's affecting my mental health. And I mean, look at me. Like, I'm a [ __ ] wreck right now. Hey girls. So, I broke up with my billionaire boyfriend today. And instead of crying about it, I decided to pack up my bags and I'm going to head over to West Palm Beach and check out the scenery there. I'm think.
>> She's on the hunt, guys. She's on the hunt for another billionaire.
Thinking about moving there. So, this is my outfit of the day. 36, single. And I wanted to address something that is said to me quite often, which is, "You better hurry up. Your time is running out. You better meet Mr. Perfect. You better have kids now before it gets too late." My.
>> Ma'am, no matter how much money you have, no matter how many plastic surgeries you get, you will still get older. Your beauty will fade. So, yes, they're right, ma'am.
Rebuttal to that is, we don't live in the 1920s anymore. I can freeze my eggs. Science has advanced so much to where.
>> Yes, ma'am. Have you read any studies on how efficient freezing your eggs is? What's the rate of success? No, you haven't.
We can maintain our bodies, maintain our health. I've maintained my emotional health, my physical health. I'm constantly growing and evolving. I'm well educated. I'm fairly well spoken.
>> Wait, wait, wait. Did she say she was well educated and well spoken? That's why she couldn't remember the word that she wanted to use.
Constantly going like, "What, what is it called? Like, abandoning myself. I'm constantly abandoning myself."
>> Ma'am, if you were truly intelligent, you would have realized that getting with a billionaire, you will never be the priority. He will always have other women. And if you were smart, ma'am, you wouldn't rely on a man to get money, to get the lifestyle that you wanted. So, no, ma'am. You're not intelligent and you're not well spoken. You're just a gold digger, ma'am.
No man on earth can make you fall.
I see girls commenting saying that they would love to be approached by a man. And I just want to say, I don't believe you. Being approached by a man is so deemed by society now, it would literally scare you. You would think something was mentally wrong with a man who came up to you and told you that you are the most beautiful thing in the world and they would love to take you out.
>> It would be so nice to have a man in my life. But Christ on a cracker, not every day and not in my house.
I just feel like it's a bit.
>> Okay, so we can all see that she's off her rockers. Okay.
Bit too much. Like, it's a bit like, in my personal space, being in a relationship, maybe only like.
>> And it's always funny to me, guys, when women act like this on camera and because they look a certain way, they think it's funny. No, ma'am. Men tell you it's funny because they want to sleep with you. You're not actually funny. When I see you and how you act, for me, that's a very big red flag, and I would never even consider being in a relationship with you.
Like a Friday night, then like a midweek kind of moment would be nice. And then potentially a Sunday.
>> Yeah.
And what do you think is the percentage of men that are over 6 ft?
>> 40.
>> 30.
>> 14.5.
>> Really?
There's a lot more short kings than people realized.
>> That's a tough line. Probably not a lot. Maybe like 70%.
>> 14%. Okay.
I keep telling you guys that women have delusional standards in dating. Even average women don't want average guys. Even below average women don't want average guys. And even, uh, the women that want average guys, they think the majority of guys are over six feet or make over $100,000. I've been telling you this and nobody believes me. See? Not a lot. 70%. 70%. Like, at least half of them. Oh god. 30%. 30%.
>> It's 14.5. Wow. That was a lot. Okay. Yeah. Now I prefer a short king, but I hate to be the bearer of bad news. Some of you ladies need to go look at your celebrity crushes' heights right now. Zack Efron, Killian Murphy, Mark Wahlberg.
>> Yes, ma'am. But you don't understand. Those guys' heights don't matter. Why? Because they have status and money and because they have fame. So when you have money, status, and fame, you can be short. Nobody cares.
Jonas.
>> The average man on a dating app gets six matches for every 1,000 right swipes. 69% of men report when they meet up with a girl getting into a non-romantic, plutonic relationship with them. You're literally getting six matches for every 1,000 right swipes, and 2/3 of them, you're getting friend-zoned. What a great deal. Here's the thing. The top 10% of men get 100 matches for every 1,000 right swipes. The average woman gets 100 matches for every 1,000 right swipes. So, I want you to consider this. The top 10% of men equals the average woman on a dating app.
>> Would you rather go?
So, how can you be shocked when they're so entitled, when they have so many demands? It's because they get so many matches. It's because it gets to their head, and they actually think, "Oh my god, I have a thousand matches. I must be so beautiful. Every guy in the world wants to be with me."
>> Go out with this guy. He's got all the money you could possibly want.
>> Or this guy. But he's super broke. Like, you have to buy the dinners. You have to buy him everything.
>> That one?
>> Yeah.
>> This guy?
>> Yeah.
>> Even though you have to fully support him and his modeling dreams.
>> I wouldn't do that, but I would choose that guy over there.
>> Okay. Which guy would you go out with?
>> Boyfriend.
>> Boyfriend. This one.
>> Boyfriend is the handsome guy.
>> And husband.
>> Husband. This one.
>> The rich one. Okay.
This is why I keep telling you guys, don't be the simp that she settles for. Don't be the nice guy that she settles for. In her 20s, she wants the hot guy. Did you see the hot guy is boyfriend material? And after she's had her fun, after she's hit the wall, after she's over 30, then she's looking for the nice guy. Then she's looking for the piggy bank. She wants something stable. She wants a reliable guy. And then she goes for you. And there are so many simps in this world that say, "Oh, well, I don't care about her past." It's because you're stupid. Her past will predict her future.
>> Which guy would you rather go out with?
>> Oh, that's a hard question.
Who doesn't love money? I'll go with the ugly guy.
>> This one. He's handsome.
>> You handsome.
>> I'll just go with the handsome one.
>> Go with the handsome. You changed your mind?
>> Yeah. Okay.
>> And I think I can pay for it.
Guys, these are women that you should stay far away from. And I'm going to tell you this from my experience because I was each of these women in this lifetime until I healed myself. So, number one is the woman that needs a lot of attention and validation.
>> Ma'am, from the way that you talk, it's clear that you're very masculine, and you are the one that wants to be in charge. You're the one that has to have authority in that relationship by the way that you talk, ma'am. So, no, I don't think you're healed and I don't think you're feminine.
First off, this is the beep bopper. She can go around. She can talk to everyone. Can you hear her voice and intonation? It's exactly like a boss telling you what to do at work. I swear, I don't even know what she said. I just heard her voice, and from the start, I know this is a woman that you should stay away from. This is a woman that thinks she knows everything, that will boss you around, that will never respect you as a leader, and she's going to want attention from everyone around, even if you're standing next to her, because she doesn't get full validation from you. She needs dopamine hits from the people around her, whether it's at a bar, at a party, wherever. She also does not feel fulfilled within herself. So, she's going to look for those dopamine hits. And when you.
>> So, you're going to make this report, and then you have to do this task, and then you have to put everything on my desk by 5:00 p.m., and if you're late, I'm going to fire you. This is the tone of her voice. Why would you want to be with a woman that always sounds like she's talking down to you or she's giving orders to you?
You can no longer provide those for her. She will get bored and leave you. Women find 80% of men disgusting.
Men find 20% of women unattractive. And so that asymmetry, per se, means that 10% of guys get turned into dark triad narcissists because they get all the action. They got a roster.
>> I've told you before about the dark triads. You should read about that.
Of women that they're getting. And the other 90% are going dry because there's no questions, there's no personality, there's no depth, there's no reason to fall in love with a guy if he doesn't pass the looks good on the dating.
>> You're this tall, you make this much money.
>> Exactly. Right. This is why this is how it's messing up dating. That's why, by the way, relationships that start on the apps, some of them are great, but on average, when marriages occur pursuant to meeting on an app, they tend to be less stable and they feature less attraction because they're less likely to actually go through the cascade in the right direction, go to passionate, companionate, best friendship. When you mediate any relationships electronically, you're going to have trouble because we're made to be in person.
Okay, pettiest things to do in a breakup. Listen to me when I tell you, if you have 16 hours of time, you will never leave this comment section. Look. Bought the domain name of his name and made a blog about his lies and abuse with receipts. Now, when people Google his name, it's the first thing that comes up. Diabolic. This one is legit.
>> But remember, guys, women keep telling us that they're not more emotional than us. That's why they're so petty.
Bought his house he was renting and evicted him. But you know that if somebody has defaulted on their uh property taxes, you can actually pay those taxes. They have a certain amount of time to respond. But if they don't come up with the money, you own the property. That's a legit thing that people do like to buy property. It's insanity. But he was a bodybuilder, so I put an entire bag of sugar in his protein powder a month before his comp. That is so brutal.
And that comment had 48,000, 48,000 likes. This. Okay, listen. I got the burial plots in our divorce. His family cemetery, once he, he had since he was 22. They'll just remain empty. He shouldn't have left me alone when my mother was dying. Now he can't be buried next to his. When I tell you you will never leave this comment section, this is wild.
There is an epidemic of men on Hinge asking girls out and then never following through with the plan or texting day of, like, just completely ghosting from that. And like, genuinely, this has happened to me and so many of my friends. Like, and I, I don't know, like, if anyone else is experiencing this, but I feel like I've seen other women make TikToks about this.
Yes, ma'am. Because maybe they found somebody better, or maybe they saw the red flags and then they decided to ghost you, ma'am, because it's not worth it to spend their money on you if they see you have red flags, ma'am. It's so easy. And I don't know, maybe men are experiencing it from women as well, but I literally swear, I, I'm a, I've been a Hinge user for quite some time now. Um, I am off the app currently because I could not take it one more second. Um, but it's like that has not happened to me like that amount. I literally in one month, I had three separate dates planned, and they all either day of, never mentioned the date, or never reached out with the plan, or and like the, yeah, that, um, or just completely stopped talking. And I'm really starting to think that these women like are unemployed or homeless because every other video clip, podcast, it's like, "Oh, how much he got? My man got to make six figures. My man needs to drive this kind of car. He needs to pay for my bills. He needs to pay for this. How much money?"
And it's like, well, what you got? Because it seems like you don't have any money of your own, which is why you're going so hard for his money. In his wallet that he worked hard for.
That's always confusing to me, like, what, what, what y'all got going on? I'm not saying you need to date a man that doesn't got any money at all. But it's also like, I'm, I love the fact that I have my own, and I come to the table. I'm not begging. I'm not asking for my bills to be paid, rent to be paid. If you want to and you got it like that, I'm not going to say no. But I'm not out here begging. Y'all be begging. It's starting to get that y'all don't have no job, no savings account, no home. Like.
>> And they just get pumped and dumped, ma'am. And then they make TikToks that all men are trash. Of course.
You are an attractive woman. Just know it is very, very, very difficult, if not impossible, to make friends with straight men who do not expect the relationship to evolve into something more at some point. And.
>> Of course, ma'am. Do you actually think that men want to be your friend just because of your personality? Men have nothing to gain from being friends with a woman. Nothing to gain.
In time, I was coming back from the Hamptons to New York City, and on the train back, I ran into this guy that I had met a few years.
>> She came back from the Hamptons where are all the millionaires and she went by train. How much do you want to bet that she just went there to get smashed and passed by a guy that just gave her some some train money?
Years ago through friends. He ends up sitting with me, and we just yap about jazz and art. He ends up asking me out after the train ride, and I tell him I am not interested in dating, but I would absolutely love to be friends with him. He agrees. So, this past Saturday, he asks if I want to hang out. I send him this jazz show that I'm going to, and I say, "Yeah, I'm going to go to this. Like, if you want to buy a ticket, buy one and like, come meet me." So, he ends up coming, and we have a lovely time at the jazz show. And then afterwards, we go back to his apartment to listen to records. Notice that he starts to get really, really close to me. And he gets super close to my face and asks why I just want to be friends. And I'm just like, turning away from him, like shifting my whole body, trying to change the topic. And I'm also covering my mouth because I'm so worried that he's just going to try to kiss me if I make eye contact with him. This man ends up kissing the side of my face. I hop up immediately and I say, "You know what? I should go home." And he says, "Yeah, you should have a long time ago."
50.1% of women, for the first time in history, there are more childless women at 30 than there are women with children. Right? So for almost all of human history, more women had kids under the age of 30 than over. And now it's switched. There's a study from Morgan Stanley that says by 2040, 45% of 25 to 45-year-old women will be single and childless. If online dating was creating this perfect facilitation for relationships to start, how are we ending up with all of these outcomes? One of the biggest levers, in fact, the single biggest predictor of your health outcomes in life are the number of close connections that you have. It's the number of friends. It's more than quitting smoking. It's more than going to the gym. It's more than stopping drinking. It's the number of close friends that you've got. And a relationship is a big close friend. Robin Dunbar says that in order to get into a relationship, you have to sacrifice two friendships because you can have around about five very close friends. If you want to get into a relationship, you need to get rid of two of them because there is a minimum time investment. So, people that are in relationships have better health outcomes. They have onset of dementia later. They have Alzheimer's problems later on in life. Uh, they are.
>> Yeah, just yesterday I got a message from a woman that said, "No, I don't need men. There are studies that show that, uh, men in relationships are happier and women are happier being single." By the way, I've debunked this study and they retracted this study because they interpreted the data wrong, and other scientists pointed this out to them. But it doesn't matter to women. They're never going to search for themselves to see if a study is actually real or not. They just saw an article in the Guardian saying, "Oh, single women are happier." And all of them on TikTok, it, it's like an echo chamber. All of them say the same stuff. From the start, when I see a woman like that, I know she has a low IQ and I know she's not girlfriend material because this is the kind of person that will believe everything her friends say or everything that she hears on social media and will always try to contradict you and will never believe what you say because she will believe her feminist friends.
Less lonely. That seems pretty uncontroversial. And yet, both sides of the aisle, both men and women, are retreating from relationships and finding ways that they can, uh, justify this. Boss [ __ ] culture and sort of the lean-in, um, women's mentality, or men going their own way and incel culture and the black pill for guys are both ways that each sex is trying to deal with the challenges that are coming out of the mating market.
Oh my god, I laugh because so many people ask me how the dating life is going. You guys, it's not. It's not. It's non-existent. I don't know what you want from me. Like, I have worked so hard to try to put myself out there in the beginning of the year, and we all saw how that went out, like all the crashes on TikTok. Like, I quit the dating apps. I protected my peace. I protected my peace so hard that now I'm like, where do I even begin? I.
>> I made a lot of videos on her. Ma'am, at what point do you understand, get through your head, that the type of guys that you go after don't want a serious relationship? That's why you can't get in a relationship.
I go out with my friends. I go out with different pockets of friends, not just to the bars and whatever else. Like, we're putting ourselves out there. I'm going to classes. I'm going to coffee shops, different ones, blah, blah, blah, all around the [ __ ] area. I don't know what else you guys want from me. Men in real life won't approach you. It's not worth it for them anymore because they're tired of being told by other women, "Don't approach me. You're a creep. Stay away." They start recording.
There is a standstill between men and women approaching each other. I saw a cute guy at Costco. Was I going to approach him? No. No. Were we looking at each other throughout the aisles? Yeah. Yeah, we were. Could that have been my husband? Maybe. Who [ __ ] knows? We will never know because we're both [ __ ] [ __ ].
Women are biologically wired to test men. One of the best TikToks that exists right now. It's in my repost. This is what the thumbnail looks like. Go watch it. But he basically is saying that women are supposed to prod and poke at men because this tests where a man is on the social hierarchy. How trustworthy is he? How aggressive is he? How tolerant and patient is he? Women spend their entire life having to gauge men and their temperaments and their behaviors, even through like micro interactions. We know how to pin a man immediately.
>> No, you don't, ma'am. No, you don't. That's why you keep dating toxic men after toxic man after toxic man. And then you say that all men are trash. I can bet, I can bet $1,000, ma'am, that all of your exes, if I asked you about them, they were toxic. So, how come you didn't see that, ma'am? How come? How come you're still single and making TikToks if you're so good at knowing when, when you have in front of you a good man or a toxic man? How come, ma'am? This is so stupid, guys. We're just going to skip this video because it's clear she doesn't know what she's talking about.
Let me hit you with some facts. Not my opinions, not my personal feelings, but cold, hard data that you can go verify yourself if you don't believe me. According to the CDC and the National Center for Health Statistics, the marriage rate in the US right now is about six marriages per 1,000 people, while the divorce rate is about 2.4 per 10,000 people. And 70% of those divorces are filed by women, according to research published by Stanford and the American Sociological Association. That's the reality, not fantasy. Why does this matter? Now, people will argue, well, lots of people are still married. True, but here's the kicker. Just because they're married, it doesn't mean that they're happy. When the general social.
>> True. And many of them just stay for the kids. Uh, because I get your comments, guys. And I know there are many men in my comments saying that they're married and they're unhappy, they're miserable, but they don't want to lose half their stuff or they're just staying in that marriage for their kids. Yeah, I get messages like that all the time.
Survey asked about life satisfaction. Only about one-third of married adults said they were very happy. That means two-thirds of people in marriages aren't living that fairy tale that you think they are. There are some peer-reviewed studies and data that is published in the JAMA Open that shows that weekly sex among married couples has declined steadily over the last two decades. So even if they're together, many are living more like roommates than actual lovers. So why do most marriages end? Here's the truth. People won't admit people settle. They pick convenience over compatibility. The two most important things, guys, they're afraid of ending up alone and they just get who they can get, or they ignore the red flags. That's the truth, guys. That's the truth.
They never heal from their trauma. They don't actually know themselves as people before they attach themselves to somebody else. Think about it. If you've never faced your pain, your patterns, your insecurities, you're not choosing a partner, you are clinging to a lifeline. That's why divorce papers get filed. That's why so many people wake up 5, 10, 20 years later in a relationship that's cold, resentful, or sexless. They've never built it on truth. They built it on fear of being alone. We're going to get brutally honest here. Our culture glorifies weddings, rings, Instagram photo shoots, but we don't glorify the actual work it takes to build a healthy marriage. Am I the [ __ ] for being upset and not picking my girlfriend up from the airport after she married her guy best friend theoretically for the military healthcare?
My guy, from the start, she shouldn't have a guy best friend. Never. Never. From the start, you are a s that ignored the red flags. Okay.
>> I'm using a throwaway and a [ __ ] ton of people are going to call this fake or me a s or whatever.
You are a simp, my guy, from the start.
I can tell you it's not fake, but maybe I'm a stupid [ __ ] who is [ __ ] blind.
>> Yes, yes you are. Just look at the simp meter. It's going off the charts, my guy.
I don't like that. I don't [ __ ] know. I know she freaked the [ __ ] out and called me every name in the book because I just can't face her right now. I've been with my girlfriend for over a year now. The first three months were amazing, but while we love each other, we fight all the time. And yes, the sexism.
>> Okay, so another reason that you're a s, my guy. A woman that really trusts you and respects you as a leader doesn't fight with you. Why? Because she knows that you know better and she trusts you to lead her.
Amazing. And probably because we fight all the time that it just keys into it, and it's like the worst parts of our personalities. This week, she said she was going on a girl's trip to Vegas.
>> Another reason to call you a s. S. S. Stop being a s. It should be an anthem. I know her best guy, who like is a major reason we fight, is stationed in the Air Force there. And she promised me that no matter what, she wasn't going to see him. Well, guess what? On her way to the airport, she said she had something huge she had to tell me when she landed. So, I was panicked the whole hour of her flight, thinking she was going to be pregnant, which in the grand scheme of things wouldn't be the worst. But it's not. It wouldn't be the worst if she gets pregnant by another guy because you're going to be the s that will take care of a of another guy's kid. [Music] I mean, my guy, you are the definition of a s. If I look in the dictionary, they don't even list the the many ways that you are a s.
Not really in my plan because of my finances right now. So anyways, I was panicked the whole time she was on the plane. When she got down, she texted me, quote, "Look, I'm going to say this over text because I'm worried how you'll react, but I married Jordan this week. Please don't freak out. It's only so I can get on his healthcare with the Air Force."
>> First of all, as I said before, she doesn't trust you. Why? She doesn't respect you. Why? She didn't even ask you. What do you think about me marrying him? He did it. Why? Because she doesn't care about you or your opinion. She wipes her ass with your opinion. You don't matter. That's why she didn't even bother to ask you anything about it.
I saw that and freaked out. I tried. Guys, I know, I know that I'm very critical of simps, but do you understand that being like this, being a doormat, will never get you respect from a woman? You think that doing everything for her and letting her do anything just so she's happy? You think that she will love you more? No, she won't. She knows in her head that she can manipulate you. She can make you do anything she wants. She will never respect you. When she finds somebody better, she will leave. Tried calling her like a thousand times, and she never picked up, but she would text me back and said, quote, "I knew you'd freak out. Trust me, it's not what you think." I told her she had to pick up and talk to me, or else I wasn't going to get her at the airport, and she needed to get someone else or get an Uber. She freaked out and actually called me then and screamed that I was such an [ __ ]. I asked her why she can't get a ride home with her friends she went on the trip with who were with her. Then she confessed that she went on the trip by herself.
>> Yep.
Which raised so many [ __ ] questions. So I told her we needed to talk, and again, she said that I was abandoning her.
>> My guy, you don't need to talk to her. You need to make your baggage and leave. You need to grow some balls. You know that the ones that dangle below your dick. You need to grow some because you have very, very small balls like this.
When she had no money for an Uber. I'm so confused. I guess like, should I go get her, or am I an [ __ ] because I won't pick her up? Hope you enjoyed this video, guys, and I'll see you on the next.