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Well, thank you very much. You guys ready? You ready for war? There we Oh, there we go. Welcome to Rule Zero on my channel again. It happens. Spring is starting. People are busy. And I'm in the time zone where I am not always busy on a Saturday night, you know, because I have given up my life to be an internet persona with sacrifices that are not always worth it. But here we are, you know, to bring you, you know, the good advice. And we're kind of doing a little bit of a uh almost a cheap one today where, the calling it in.
I mean, well, no, not like that, but like the wall things like that because the the reason why I wanted to do this because I found a clip of Anne Hathaway, who is still a very good-looking woman, but her behavior, I was like, "Yeah, like yeah, there it is." And I will always say like the behavior the the wall is not uh physical, it's behavioral and it's a psychological understanding of like hey um if I were to go out in the dating market again I would be have I would be competing with younger hunter titer so to say. Yeah, that's actually one thing that I want to clear up before we even get here because the the internet being the internet is filled with spurs and there's this idea that women reach a certain age and no one wants to [ __ ] them and that is just not true. What the wall? Yeah. What the wall is is the realization a woman comes to that her options are not what they once were. That is literally what the wall is. Because when you're 21, other than women who have already hit the wall, everybody treats you nicely because you're young and hot. Once you get to a certain age, usually the first ones to stop treating you as awesome are younger men, men that you would have dated in your 20s. They will not lie to you the way they would have lied to you 20 years ago. Which is a very rough realization. I don't know if I ever told you this, but like a long time ago when I was like in my early 20s, there was one mother uh of a female friend of mine who like blatantly said like the day a woman's life is over is the day she sees other men look at her daughter instead of her. And I thought that was a gruesome statement. Uh, especially since her daughter was next to her where I'm like, Jesus Christ, tone it down. But like now I understand what she meant where it's like, yeah, men uh prefer a certain thing. Now, mind you, it's not everything. It really isn't everything. And I mean, you've been around, I've been around, and I think that you and I both can agree that at the end of the day, it is who treats us right. Some of us are very superficial [ __ ] morons, you know, and they think that, oh yeah, no. Um, just just go for looks, bro. I mean, unfortunately, I'm guilty of that. I mean, I don't see a good thing when it's hitting me in the face. Uh, which stupid of me very.
But to be honest, I I think this is one of those things not to be this like, well, women do this, too, sort of [ __ ] but I I think this is a completely natural thing. And I think it has to do with experience. Um, because like when I wrote um and when we had our very first podcast together and I went through the way I view female attraction, we kind of touched on this like when when both men and women are inexperienced in relationships, what else is there to go off of other than pure sexual desire, right? But you start going down that path and you start to learn a thing or two and then you're like, it's not the be all and end all. And the girl girls are exactly the same way, right? Like girls when they're younger, they like to get with the hot guys. It's fun, but you get a shitty boyfriend or two and they can brush it off as he was the [ __ ] Guys, hot. Yeah. Yeah. Right. But they get older and especially once they the hormones change and they want babies, they start looking at other things. And then it's something that isn't really talked about. Um, and and it's fair because it really only applies to guys who are older um and kind of been through it. Is there is that um what the hell does Rolo call it? It's not the epiphany phase. That's when they want to settle down. uh the resurgence, I think. Yes. Yeah. So, most of those women when they hit the hit that phase, a they're they may or may not realize they've hit the wall. A lot of them don't realize it. Um, they very much do realize it. And then a lot of women from my experience when I was single and out and dating everything from like 35 to 25, what you find very quickly um is if you're dating the women who are recently divorced, they're just as fun as 20 year olds because it's new and exciting again. But you give them a you give them a year where they they have finally discovered like I [ __ ] up. I don't want this. They become very miserable very [ __ ] quickly.
And what's also an understanding or what's important about this is for guys how to handle that because yeah, it's not that they hate men. They absolutely don't. They don't even hate their younger peers. It's more like everything is changing. Like you mentioned, like you could walk in the the bakery at 20 years old and be like, "Oh, sorry. I forgot my wallet." And there will always be one guy who might be like [ __ ] depraved or whatever. And he's like, "Oh, I got it." Without even dating you or whatever. Is this always the case? No. But we're talking generalizations here, you know, to create an understanding of this. And I kind of want to show that clip because like again, Anna Hathaway is a good-looking woman, but just what she says and how she said it, I was like, "Yeah, that that is exactly like what would happen." And I think you will catch it kind of thing because it's very innuendo, but it it's there, man. And so here's the clip. So, when I came on the set and I saw that the models, who were very lovely, were all a bit traditionally sized, I kind of went to the producers and was like, "Wouldn't it be great if there were just more bodies, more types of bodies, and uh and they looked around and they said, "We're so annoyed at ourselves that we didn't notice that." And they made the change in like two seconds. So, so that's the clip. And I don't know if you heard it, but she said like, "Hey, when I came to the set, all the models were like traditionally aka like, you know, thin and thin and hot." And she all of a sudden brings up and probably, you know, younger than her. And she all of a sudden brings up like, "Oh, don't we have uh don't we have more uh you know, inclusive kind of thing?" And if you know a thing or two about about girls is the lovely, "Oh, that short haircut looks great on you. Oh, have that cupcake." Oh, yeah.
So, yeah, what I was going to say, there's actually, and you completely hit it on the head, is there's two dynamics going on there. Um, one, the wall, and then two, intraexual competition. Right? So when girls are in their prime, they still do that kind of [ __ ] introsexual competition to tear other women down, but as they get older, that increases immensely. Um, even it Oh, yeah. Even in an individual relationship, like that's something I have to deal with myself. Now, my girl's freaking great, but like if if we get into any um [ __ ] so to speak, like a shitty comfort test or something, 99% of the time it's because of her insecurities of getting older and then projecting like her [ __ ] onto me to make herself feel better, which I don't put up with. And I'm like, stop being a [ __ ] psycho. like, you know, this is ridiculous. Like, you're you're just being nuts. Like, knock it off. When I'm in that situation with a girlfriend, I'm not going to lie, I sometimes do deserve it because I still look, you know, but it's like, come on, man. Of course you're going to look. Like, my girl knows that, too. It's a little bit like too obvious where it's like, come on, man. But you know, but like we we started out with like I very much realize like no, I have a behavioral amazing thing happening and yeah, she is very good-looking actually. She is like again I can be superficial at times but like like oh no she's a little bit taller than I am. Okay, sure. You know, when I wear my Did you know, by the way, I bought new um and people are going to hate this ma masculinity points detracted, by the way. But here in Batumi, it gets rainy a lot and the roads are not all too great. So, I bought myself a pair of Croc boots. Waterproof croc. And I look adorable in those [ __ ] And when I wear them, I will probably finally be taller than she is. But, you know, in all fairness, I had a a similar thing last night. Like, uh, my gym shorts were ripped to rat [ __ ] So, I went out and bought um just replacement gym shorts, but I was like, you know what, summer's coming along. I should get a new pair of shorts. Mhm. And the place that I was at, which I I wasn't intending on going anywhere else, but it was really difficult to find anything that I liked because it seemed to be one of two extremes. It was either wearing like you know those uh shorts that have like plaid print and that stuff like they're very 2000s like very um, you know, the way when we were in our 20s we looked at guys who were guys who were teens and um in their 20s in the 80s and still carried on that 80s style And you were like, "Dude, like '8s have been over for 20 years. Let it go." You know, you let it go. There's still millennial men who dress like it's 2003, right? So those shorts were very very much 2003. I'm like, "Look, I I'm [ __ ] going to be 45 in a couple weeks. Like this ain't on." Um, but the problem is the only other pants that were were like, "Hey, are you looking to be a manager at UPS?" Like really almost too dressy, too cargo shorty. Um, yeah. So, I didn't end up buying a pair. I I'll find a a good fitted pair eventually, but that is that is becoming my problem. Like the girlfriend will dress to the nines and then I'm next to her in [ __ ] sweatpants and I'm like, "Okay, I need to change up a bit, you know?" Yeah. But I mean, sweatpants are so comfortable and normal pants and like they scape my legs. It's like and especially when I've been on a bench for 2 liter ice cream, you know? It's like But
Well, in in all fairness, gray gray track pants are the lingerie for men. Maybe I should get gray. I I usually gray sweats, man. I'm telling you, I don't know why I find it [ __ ] weird as [ __ ] but I had my girl explain it to me. Um, because I only found this out like a couple years ago, but apparently it's the the fact that they can kind of see an outline of uh your manhood, and it really turns them on. Yeah. Gray sweatpants. It actually pisses my girl off when I go to work out in gray sweatpants. She'll literally be like, "You're not going to the gym in lingerie, are you?" What? what fathers worry about like you're not showing that much cleavage are you like blah blah blah and then what the mother cares about my husband is not going out in gray sweatpants for the love not especially if they're shorts you know yeah shorts but I mean you're not wrong where like clothing for men these days is horrible to find what isn't hard to find by the way is chatter stroke for the 1999 holy shitco One more time. Then we're going to win SO MUCH YOU MAY EVEN GET TIRED OF WINNING. AND YOU'LL SAY, "PLEASE, PLEASE. It's too much winning. We can't take it anymore, Mr. President. It's too much." And I'll say, "No, it isn't. We have to keep winning. WE HAVE TO WIN MORE. WE'RE GOING TO WIN MORE. WE'RE GOING TO WIN SO MUCH. I LOVE YOU ALL." I kind of want to get rid of that clip, but I haven't found anything new for the generous 1999 yet by Chad Twistler. Stroke evening, Jack. Morning strip. Good afternoon, Chad. Just tuned in. Thought you weren't starting till noon. That was my B. It's uh 10:30 central and I put it at 11:00 a.m. Central, which is absolutely my be. But thank you for tuning in anyway and all the other guys being here right now. Uh, even though I messed up a bit. Why not hit the like button now you're here? You know, dude, the amount of gals asking about kids on apps after 30 is nuts. Heck, I had Cappy do a request on a gal asked for my seed and that was it. Well, whoa, that's an interesting uh I mean, have you thought about donating to the sperm bank? Dude, I went on a date. This was back when I was uh playing the field. I went on a date that I went to with a chick that I went to high school with. She was a couple years younger than me and the entire date was basically because she asked if I wanted more kids and I was like not at all. And she kept trying to convince me and I literally turned to her and I I said I am more certain that I don't want any more kids than I am that the sun's going to rise tomorrow. Well, at least you're being honest about it. And Chad, like with you too, and I assume you are being honest about this, like if you don't want them, then be honest about it because, and this is kind of where I'm playing devil's advocate, I know like, oh, women ain't [ __ ] blah, blah, blah. But why would you string that along? And yeah, we could make the argument like, oh, they've had plenty of time in their early 20s and blah blah blah. Well, they're not in it anymore, and you don't want to deal with it. So, like Stripper said, why not cut it off immediately and be like, "Hey, I'm not the man for you." You know, be honest about that. Save yourself the time and save her the time as well kind of thing, if that makes sense. You know, I know we're all about like hold them accountable, but we're not going to do that. You know, you can't you can't hold women accountable. Are you kidding me? It's the most ridiculous like revenge fantasy there is out there. You cannot hold women accountable. The best you can do for hold quote unquote holding a woman accountable is cutting her from your life. As close as you're ever going to get. And even then, once she finds a a willing participant in her [ __ ] show of a life, um you're long and forgotten about, so who cares? Mhm. And that's where just plain old honesty comes in. You know, it's like I want this, you want that, we don't want the same thing. And then you just go on your merry way. And I know it makes for a good laugh every now and then like, "Oh, look at them." kind of thing. But like you mentioned, it's that revenge fantasy story. Like Michael's story was on the sidebar for a reason. I was like, "No, you're going to give up your life focusing on a revenge fantasy that will probably never be there because like it or not, people are going to find somebody." And like with this Anne Hathaway clip, which okay, why um I found this clip so like like so peak peak like intraexual competition because she is now the most attractive woman on that set. Oh yeah, that's what she did where it's and probably it's unconscious or whatever. And maybe it is. Yeah. I don't think it's ever malicious. It's it's just how they operate. Like that's just how women are, right? It's like asking a dog not to bark or a snake not to bite. Like it's not going to happen. That's just wear a terrible dress and she tells you it's awesome. Yeah. Like it's just or the funny the funniest part. So my my girl and I were actually talking about this um a night or two ago. Mhm. She when we separated uh packed on a little bit of weight. Mhm. and we got back together and she dropped the weight. He had been going to the same hairdresser for two years, getting her hair done the exact same way. Absolutely flawless. Every single time she dropped weight, 5 in got cut off her hair and her hair dye. Like they they screwed up her hair massively. And I I laughed my ass off because they've actually done a study where uh where they've actually uh studied hairdressers like female hair hairdressers with female clients and found that hairdressers that perceived other women as more attractive cut off an average of 3 to five inches more hair than asked for. I heard about that. But that's the same thing as um what's that thing again? That men in general have more compassion for their political enemies than than women have like for their own what was it? It it's something like that. But yeah, now I know about the hairdresser study. I know about it. Yeah. Shame really that I mean you're not going to do anything with it. And now that you know that advice, if you have a girlfriend, take her to a male barber. And you know what? Why not pay for it? if she treats you right and things like that where it's like, "Honey, I think you deserve a good haircut. Here you go." But you're not going back to her, you know? You're not going back there.
Well, that's a that's another tricky thing. Like again, it it's not really a male problem like introsexual competition with women, but it is an interesting dynamic to know about, but where it can become your problem, not necessarily so, is girls. So, there's two types of girls that don't have any friends, and they're either girls that say that um but are just heinous people, and that's why they don't have any friends. Mhm. Or the girls who have realized um not using the fancy words we use, but kind of come to the same conclusions about women that we have, and they're just tired of the [ __ ] You know what the worst one is? Break up with him. You know, he's a piece of [ __ ] He's this. He's that. And then the girl who says that usually goes after the guy. That's the That's the big one. Oh, yeah. And I've said this before and I will say it again and I will kind of die on this hill because it has been proven that let's say you are in a divorce or your girlfriend has single friends that just broke up. they will motivate her to ditch you. You know what's even more ruthless? And I wrote about this a couple years ago. Um, it's canary in the coal mine which is I it it does t it is a part of introsexual dynamics but it's a very very specific thing that I witnessed throughout my life and then finally gave it a mental model but it's that when girls are on the cusp of because you know how indecisive women are right Honestly, I don't have that problem that much. Yeah. Yeah. Women typically are indecisive and they're also risk adverse. You put that those two dynamics together and that's where you get the canary in the coal mine. They will literally use their quote unquote friends as a test subject to make sure that that course of action works out well. And that's why you see a bunch of women who are unhappy in their marriage, but they're still married, find that one susceptible girl and push her to divorce to see how her life plays out afterwards. Well, um Mac on Twitter, McKenzie, she pointed that out. And even my friend, my very good friend who's married and um they they were getting a child and whatever and she was in like some pregnancy group and both of them McKenzie and uh my friend's wife, they both mentioned not to each other but separately that like when they were talking to other women who were like pregnant or whatever, all they did was complain about their husbands. Like all they did was complain about their husbands. And I remember McKenzie tweeting like, "Why would I want to be around anybody who does that?" And my friend's wife said the same thing, like, "You should see these women talk about their husbands. It's insane." Absolutely. And this is not some like some slight remark or whatever. This is actually like he's a piece of [ __ ] He's this and he can't do anything and he's lazy and it's like holy hell, you know? And like you mentioned, like the introsexual competition part about that is like get one to lean in enough so that she wants to divorce him and then the rest can follow because that is a propriety thing. As long as one of them does it, it's okay to do it. Oh, 100%. Um, where I actually first became aware of this dynamic was actually working in the sex shop. Because I saw has so many stories about that. Oh yeah, hundreds of times over. But this is literally how it would play out. Two girls would come in, they giggle, and because it's the first time or maybe not the first time or they're at least pretending like it's the first time because they don't want to be seen as a [ __ ] Um that they've been in a sex shop. And so they giggle at the dildos and then it starts off really immature then being like, "Oh, who would use this?" Haha. Then slowly one of them puts the feelers out where it's like well I don't know on certain nights blah blah blah and then you see one friend push the other and then what ends up happening is the one who um was the one convincing the other like again canary treating her friend like the canary in the coal mine will um literally be like Well, I don't know. Like, like it would be really hot if you used it with your boyfriend. And literally, I would watch them start from them both giggling and then one girl pressuring the other girl into buying something. And then if they did buy something, almost nine times out of 10, the girl that um pressured the other girl into buying something would come back by herself a week or two later and buy the thing she pressured her friend to buy. I witnessed that happen hundreds of times. Mhm. Where I'm like, "Okay, th this is not like just this is just something girls do."
Well, and also like for guys in this instant like don't be too prude about sex toys, man. Like women like to get it on too, you know? And I I've met so many guys who were like, "Oh my god, she uses that." It's like, well, just accept it. Don't shame her for it. Whatever. Because the more you shame anybody for any kings, whatever, you really think they're going to share them with you. Awesome woman. It's like, hell, you just ruined that kind of thing.
So, here's a nugget of wisdom from the sex shop. Do you know the difference between or at least the difference for women between a vibrator and a dildo? Well, one vibrates and the other one doesn't. One is to get the job done. The other is to have a fun time with your boyfriend. Oh, vibrators. So, statistically, and I looked this up recently, it hasn't changed, vibrators are purchased by and large by women in long-term relationships. Really? Yeah. Huh. What's that about? Well, not having a satisfying sex life, more than likely. Yeah. Or or it's just like cuz women are women are fun little sexual creatures cuz women have sex for a million different reasons and a lot of times it's not horny but the thing is they do get horny they do have a need that needs to be fulfilled. Mhm. And for a lot of women, like I think the percentage of women that can orgasm without clitoral stimulation is only like 40% or something like that. Really? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It's it's less than half. The the only thing that worries me so much about that is that I know that SSRI, if you're either on them or have been on them, Yes, that can also influence Yeah. It influences your ability to to orgasm tremendously. Now, with that said, and this is something also, this is why I do my sex ad or will be doing my sex ads. With that said, just because a woman doesn't orgasm doesn't mean she didn't love the experience, right? Like, so vibrators generally speaking are bought by women in long-term relationships. Not always, right? like younger women who are single can buy them too. But generally speaking, the biggest consumer of vibrators are women in long-term relationships of all ages, right? Anywhere from like in your 20s to like Yeah. It's not like, oh, they hit 28, they don't like sex anymore, and now they only want babies. It's it's not that. Mm- So, they'll they'll buy them to kind of do the trick, so to speak, where dildos are more of a a couple's toy. Now, with that said, that doesn't mean a woman can't use a dildo to satisfy herself, but generally speaking, dildos are bought to be performative, whether used in like recording herself with one to send like a sexy video or to use in front of a partner. Like, dildos are much more performative. I never thought of it like that. Yeah, that's that I'm pretty prudish in all honesty. Oh, yeah. And I'm a [ __ ] degenerate. So, compared to me, you are. You know what's really funny? Oh, yeah. Let me let me get this one real quick because Chad's been waiting. Chad, Mr. Stoke for the 199. Thank you very much, sir. The generous 199. Thank you, Chad. No way she could come after me with child support. I mean when it comes to sperm bank I believe you can set that up where it's like no uh there's legal or there are legal repercussions in that I believe that you could do but I mean this is why again like if you don't want them are you always wearing a rubber kind of thing you know always control the birth because there's plenty of stories about guys who are like well she told me she was on the pill it's like yeah okay that's cool you know and I know it feels good but what do you Yeah. You know what? This actually reminds me of a hilarious story. And you know what? Love him or hate him, uh, you got to respect Drake. So, quite a few years ago, a woman tried to sue him because of the physical pain he caused her, that she claimed he caused her. What the situation is is Drake, because he's smart, he uses condoms, or at least he did. I don't know if he still does. cuz I'm not in his personal life, but he uses condoms and then while disposing of them, he puts hot sauce in them before throwing them out. Drake alone, those were NBA players even that got Oh, maybe he got it from there. Yeah, because I remember at the NBA there were coaches who literally told their players like, "Hey, you can go get your rocks off. you know, you do whatever you like, but uh you are susceptible to being dicknapped, as they say it. So, take care of that condom one way or another. And here's a good way to do it by putting hot sauce in it. And it's just it's extraordinary and almost unbelievable that this has to happen, but that is the situation right now. And that's kind of like uh you would almost say like epiphany wall uh behavior of dicknapping which occurs a lot in that. And why this is important to talk about is like hey guys if you are going to date in that age range know that she will probably want a baby a child or whatever and that if you're not careful and you don't want it might be better just not to deal with that. Yeah, my suggestion as in a very practical, I don't think you need to go as far as hot sauce, but uh once you've done the deed and taken it off, I would say like tie it in a knot and literally just either put it beside your bed, tuck it in a mattress, put it like put it somewhere where you know where it is where if she goes rooting for it, it's going to be obvious and then you can be like, "What the hell are you doing?" Mhm. Right. Because like a girl's not going to do that [ __ ] like in front of you. They're going to try and be sneaky. So if you kind of put it in a place where it's going to be very obvious what they're doing, you're you're pretty much safe and then once they leave, you can dispose of it. Mhm. Yeah. No, I I always take care of them. So not not even out of distrust or anything because like the you know, but general hygiene. Yeah. About general hygiene too, you know, and for for my own mental like almost anxiety, if you want to call it like that, where it's like, no, I know where it is. I know we're safe, things like that. Everything is okay. You know, you handle that [ __ ] You take respon I know it's a big word. We always say it with women, but I was like, dudes, responsibility. You know, if you don't want that, then just take responsibility for the damn thing. And um to get back a little bit on that like intraexual behavior kind of thing. Um for women too, it's kind of like some of these models might be wondering like, "Oh my god, did I really get replaced just because I'm too thin or whatever?" No, you were replaced because somebody felt threatened. And I can imagine that even in like uh corporate spaces there have been girls who were mistreated either maybe even in class you know where certain women felt threatened by them and started doing this because oh you're young and hot and I can't have that you know. Yeah but why do you think DEI and HR departments exist? Yes, that is basically the reason why DEI and body positivity exists. Yes, like HR departments exist in the capacity that they do because women were led into the workforce and then women do what they do with spaces like that. That's it. That's the plan. There's no greater. It's just that's what happens when you let women into any space, right? like it's it's just part for the course. It's no longer a hierarchy. It becomes a uh social hierarchy. Yeah. So the the difference between men and women, right? Like and I I've I don't know if I coined this phrase, but I articulated it um this way, which is men compete by being better than the competition. Women compete by tearing the competition down. Right? That's just how they operate. And so when it in terms of intraexual competition, men compete by just getting better, right? We form hierarchies based on competency. And that changes, right? Like if you and I were to walk into a sex shop and have to take a random quiz on this going, but you know what I mean. Let's just randomly say we find ourselves in some weird sort of Squid Game thing and one of the games is like, "You have to pass a true or false test with like sex toys and degenerate behavior." Oh, I man. Yeah, you're going to default to me, right? Because that's my area of expertise. If if we play the next game and it's like we have to win a Q&A based on like Lego sets, I'm like, Jack, I'm following your lead, right? Like, and that's the way men form hierarchies. That is not the way women form hierarchies. And one of the reasons, and this pisses women off to know, men don't really care about the competence of women because we're competent ourselves. We have the agency to make changes in the world. Now, that's not to say women can't be competent. Um, but we don't look at women for their competencies. Well, and that's why a lot of girls get so pissed off when guys say like, "I don't care if she's a hairdresser or a lawyer." Yeah. Yeah. Exactly. Now, with that said, women are inherently aware of this and that's where you get intraexual competition because and and this I don't think anyone's ever fleshed out, but I've thought about it quite a bit. Women obtain their status through men. Yes. That like that's it. Like that's why why do you think flexing um wedding pictures and engagement pictures is so rampant amongst women? Because for them being married to an awesome guy is the same equivalent of them of a guy being competent in something, right? Like let's say let's take UFC fighter, right? the the pinnacle of like the baddest man on the planet is your heavyweight or light heavyweight champion, right? For women, it's being married to the light or heavyweight champion. Like that's how they gain they gain status by who they can lock down and they're all aware of it. So their entire interexual dynamic is basically backstabbing and cutthroat tactics to be the last one standing so that they are the choice for the most competent attractive whatever man right now. Right. Well, exactly right and that's how it gets to hypergamy. Now, mind you, with that said, people will spur out, but every woman's going to view the their hypergamus best option differently, right? We've talked about attraction. Like, it changes through age, through environment, through circumstance, through experience. Like, so don't get autistic about it. You don't need to be a multi-millionaire with six-packs and ruler of men and god of the world um to get a good woman. Yeah. You know what I mean? Like don't get autistic about it. But I if you kind of check all the boxes, eventually you'll run into a woman that looks at you like, "Holy [ __ ] I would be lucky to have that man." And she will start doing what she needs to do to eliminate other [ __ ] around you. So she becomes the obvious choice. And that comes down to behavior and behavior alone. And I've said it before, I can I will say it again. She can be an 11 out of 10. If her demeanor is like a four, [ __ ] it. Maybe in the short run. Maybe in the short run the guy's got to be like, "Yeah, she's hot and whatever." But if he has a girl next to her who is like 11, 12 out of 10 behavior, she stands no chance. Well, again, that's kind of like the female equivalent of, you know, when we have guys who are like in rough relationships or like, "Okay, hit the gym, learn to be assertive, learn to set boundaries, etc., etc." Right? That's our behavior that women find attractive. Women who are smart and at least slightly experienced will start to realize what behaviors will be able to keep a man. And the dumb ones or the ones who are too ego invested, they're the ones who you keep seeing fail over and over and over and over and over again. And do you remember I don't know if you and unfortunately I can't play this clip because then we'll get stuck down. And Lee Silver, I see you for the five. I will get to you ASAP. I will. But there's this clip of a couple arguing and she like rips into it, man. Like she's not what was it? She's not thinner than me. She's not younger than me. She's not she's not prettier than I am. Her hair isn't better than mine. What made you do it? And he just looks defeated and he looks at her. It's like she didn't yell at me. Yeah, she was nice to me. She Yeah, I made a note on Substack a little while ago. I delete them after like 24 48 hours all the time, so you won't be able to find it. But it was kind of along the lines that I think it was in a conversation I had had with uh uh Kristen um actually was where I said um I think women underestimate how important sex and not being a pain in the ass is to men. Yes. Like a lot of women at a young age learn that sex is important to men. But unfortunately, not all women learn to not be a pain in the ass. And the ones who aren't are rare. And then every now and then the guy is like an idiot where it's like, oh, you know, the grass is always greener. Where it's like, no, it's not. Grass is not greener. Grass. And like, don't get me wrong, like every woman is going to be a pain in the ass at some point. But you got it. It's part that's cost of doing business. Yeah. Exactly right. Like just like guys are going to be a pain in the ass, you know? Oh, 100%. Right. I think that's relationships. We're not perfect. We're fallible creatures, right? But the idea is kind of like that uh Thomas Soul quote, right? Like there's no such thing as a perfect solution, only tradeoffs. Your goal is to get the best trade-off you can. And ideally, and this is the beautiful thing about relationships to get kind of sappy for a moment, is you're in a position where yeah, you can replace her, but the effort to replace her and what she brings to your life versus whatever [ __ ] she may bring. Mhm. the positives so greatly outweigh whatever [ __ ] it is that any rational man is not going to make the choice to ditch her. No. And on the same note, a a woman is going to realize the exact same thing that like this guy is an attractive [ __ ] guy. I've walked out because I really don't deserve him. So like remember is that dragging and women need to do this too and I mean and not need but what I mean is like Ryan once said like drag him to happiness kicking and screaming sometimes that's for guys too where what for whatever reason they're not like fully committed or whatever because they don't realize it kind of thing and then they they fall flat on their face and it's like oh you know what I actually had a very good thing and maybe I should get my [ __ ] in order kind of thing. No, it happened to the best of us. Oh, I was about to say the exact same thing happens to the best of us. But that's how women crappy [ __ ] roll zero ever. I think roll kick me out now. How dare you? How dare you, young man. How dare you? Speaking of daring, by the way, Lee Silva for the $5 and one. Thank you very much, sir. Nice clip to play for the five here. This one. Oh no, it can't be. Is that the consequences of my own actions? Yes, unfortunately it is. Lee Silva for the $5 a month. Thank you very much. Is this behavior conscious or subconscious? Or maybe both. For guys raised as defective women, what can they do to untrain this behavior? Think sneaky [ __ ] game. Well, I would lean immediately towards be aware of it. Like no more Mr. Nice Guy. covert contracts. Realize you have the covert contracts. Start understanding when they're coming up and then nib that [ __ ] in the butt. And you will not always get them. You're going to be confronted with them. But the more you are aware of it, the more you can change your own behavior, if that makes sense. And stripper's going to probably blow me out of the water with this one. So, let me read this. Could you read the question again? I'm on my cell phone and my eyes are No, that's okay. So, he asks if if this behavior like you know wall behavior, epiphany face behavior is conscious or subconscious or both. And then for guys raised as defective women, what can they do to untrain this behavior? So, the first one is is it conscious? So, okay. So, I Okay, I have a big ass answer to this. Well, you can't untrain behavior. That's not your responsibility. So get that out of your head that there's no tips and tricks to [ __ ] change behavior. A woman has to change her >> a woman has to change her behavior because she is incentivized to do so and has willingly made the choice to do so. So and then which makes your first question completely irrelevant. It doesn't matter at all whether it's conscious or unconscious like what you're getting into. And I know we like to naval gaze, but you're getting into Swiss watch territory where you're like, "Well, if it's an unconscious behavior or conscious behavior, like I can say certain things to her and if she just understands what she's doing, she'll change her behavior." No. Get that [ __ ] out of your head. It doesn't matter if it's conscious or unconscious. What you need to do is be good enough so to give her the incentives and then let her know what the price of admission is, right? and then she can choose whether to adhere to that or not. So, think of it like maybe there's a fancy restaurant that has the city's best ribeye steak. You get to the front door and you find out that that steak cost you $100. You're in a decision to be like, is that steak worth $100? If it is, you're paying the $100. You're going in eating that steak. If it's not, you're bouncing. Or the third option, which is what women try to do, try to eat the steak and then haggle the price. And so what you need to do by setting boundaries and again when boundaries are crossed, remove your attention, affection or commitment commensurate with the bound is basically going back to the stake analogy saying no [ __ ] the stake is $100. You either pay it or you're getting permanently banned from this restaurant, right? Like that's the way relationships work. You can't control anybody. You can't manipulate anybody. The best you can do is be worth a [ __ ] enough that the incentive is there for women to adhere to your boundaries. And your boundaries could be as ridiculous as they want. But if you're finding, and again to kind of get more autistic on this, but if you're finding that no woman's adhering to your boundaries, you either have to a up your value, b maybe reconsider that your boundary is excessive or some combination of the two. And that's what we like to call in this space as calibration. Mhm. And uh from what I understand of the chat right now, he mostly means like his own and male behavior in general, which is funny, by the way. Oh, male behavior. Like um yeah, let let me riff on this a bit. Um you know what a good wingman does, right? Like he he like praises you, he pumps you up kind of thing. this. And he brings up a good point like men raised as defective women. They do almost the same introsexual competition [ __ ] that women do to each other. But with guys, they start bantering in front of girls. And I mean, when you and I banter, we call each other. We call each other gay and the f slur and things like that. How's your boyfriend? Blah blah blah. Yeah. But let's say you are picking up a girl and then I start doing it. That's introsexual competition from my end then because I'm actually putting you down and the girls want to be like, "Wait, is this your friend?" Like, "What the hell is he doing?" Like, I don't know about this guy kind of thing. And that revolves back to introsexual competition then for men, which is a very defective woman way of doing it. Yeah. No, the the the best way to
It's funny, one of my least popular essays is about how to be a better wingman. Um, but the one thing that guys don't understand is that for us, a rising tide raises all ships, right? So, let's say you and I and maybe we'll we'll pick three anonymous people. We'll we'll say like Lee and Ryan, Cappy, we're all out at the bar, right?
Yeah. Speaking of Cappy, look at this.
Yeah, I know. That's why I mentioned Cappy. Let's give him real quick. Cappy for the generous five. Birth control makes women unattractive and crazy.
I still can't get enough of that clip that Milo was able to make Hillary Clinton say that Aaron Clary for the generous five for my special needs friends. We miss you, man. We miss you. And I can't wait to have you back here, Clary. But thank you very much for the five. But you wanted to go off on something.
Yeah. Yeah. So, let's say the five of us are going out at the bar and a girl's got her eye on you. Like, we can all see the signal. She keeps looking at you, whatever, right? Me as a wingman, especially, well, it depends if she's alone or with a group of friends. But if she's with a group of friends, I'm going over and introducing myself not to her directly because that will make her feel embarrassed, but to one of her friends. Girls are socially competent enough. They know the game that's going on. They know that I'm taking the initiative to bring these two groups together. So, I'm going to go in and I'm just going to f I'm not trying to pick up. I'm not trying to flirt. I'm just there to basically do um god, what is it called? Uh Hook refers to it all the time in the old man opener. What the hell are we talking about?
Oh, the old rou. The old man. Yeah. Um what it you're establishing not comfort but um
familiarity.
Yeah, there's another word for it but I forget but essentially that right like you're you're establishing familiarity
when you're
Thank you. build rapport. That's what I'm doing. I'm building rapport
with um with that group of women, right? So that the better job I do building rapport where I don't come off as a creepy [ __ ] the more all of those girls are going to assume my friends are the same,
right? And then I bring the group together and that's where we can start bantering. But my banter isn't going to be like, "Yeah, how many dicks did you suck tonight, Jack?" It's going to be like telling a story where you and I went out hiking and like I tripped and fell over like an [ __ ] because I am a absolutely okay sacrificing myself for the friend be like I tripped over fell down a goddamn hill and then I looked up when I regained consciousness and there Jack was like an angel and he was just like you idiot you tripped over whatever. We had a good laugh about it. You know what I I'm I'm throwing in things that aren't blatantly like pumping you up, but also pumping you up, right? I'm I'm going to start telling stories where in very subtle and maybe sometimes not so subtle ways. You look like the [ __ ] man.
Yeah. Well, that's the thing. Like I went out this past week for a coffee with the Italian guy and uh he he had a couple of girls and like I'll just want to be the wingman because like I there's no value for me, you know? I've got a good thing going
and uh like he was on his phone the whole time uh because of his business kind of thing. Not the whole time but a couple of times because he needed to raise and one of them was like, "Oh, he's so busy." I'm like, "That man is the busy busiest man I know. His business is thriving." Boom. you know.
Yeah. There's busy right now.
Great display of higher value that you've thrown in for him.
Yeah. No, of course. I'm like, I want this guy to win. And there was one thing he was like, "Oh, I'm bodybuilding right now and I need to watch my diet." I'm like, "What do you need to watch your diet for? You're not skinny like me, you know?"
Yeah.
But but here's the thing that got And I think
Yeah. I think this is lost on Gen Z because from what I've seen, they they absolutely suck dick at Wing Manning. and and I know a lot of young guys um aren't like they don't understand what's going on. So, first of all, yeah, did I kind of poke fun at myself um in order to hype you up? Yeah. But I'm setting you up because that hopefully my goal is to make sure you get laid with that girl. And it's not altruistic. I'm not being Jesus Christ here. I know what's going to happen. There's two things that are happening. one, me going over and setting up the rapport with the group, I'm sharpening my social skills. But second of all, you two start dating, guess what's going to happen? Your friend group, which includes me, and her friend group are going to start hanging out more. And guess what's going to happen? I'm going to start [ __ ] your like, let's say those you two become boyfriend and girlfriend. I'm going to start [ __ ] your girlfriend's friends.
Mhm.
That's what happens.
And for him, I just wanted him to win, man. Like, come on. He's and he he's a he's a he's a smooth [ __ ] Italians, man. Italian.
But even if I don't uh even if I don't end up [ __ ] your girlfriend's friend, so to speak, in this hypothetical situation, right? Like I still I still got a chance to practice my social skills.
Well, and that's the thing, too. And uh that is a thing too where it's like never never like again like I don't I don't act on it. I I would never act on it. But it does help with social skills kind of thing. And that transfers over that you can have a better relationship as well because guess what those skills are going to transfer over to the good thing you've got going. Well, and then there's also going to be and again going back to kind of the a rising tide raises all boats.
If I've been an awesome wingman to you and I'm in the same situation you were before you met your girlfriend and how you met your girlfriend, there's a high probability you're going to be the best goddamn wingman for me.
Of course. Yeah. Exactly. Right. Like, and I think that's something that Gen Z doesn't pick up on is like, no, when if you're willing, like I see too many Gen Z guys when they get into that situation, they all want to get the girl like it's a bottle of water and they've been dying of thirst for 3 weeks, right? Like, no. Like, if you're willing to just survey it, you'll notice which girl wants which guy. And if you just help that move along,
like everybody wins in the end.
And what you like when you go out and things like that. And to to get a little bit on topic, let's say there is a um almost like bitter like woman there. She's she's going to throw a turd in the punch bowl because she's going to see you and the girl you like hang out and have fun and things like that and she's going to want to sabotage that.
Yep. And you know what separates good wingmen from great wingmen?
The grenade.
Yep. Neutralizing the threat at all costs. It if you have to [ __ ] a fat [ __ ] in order for your friend to get laid.
This is the part where you are more of a degenerate than I am.
Oh yeah. No, I I have jumped on the grenade more than once for my buddies and my buddies have done it for me. Right. You take one for the team.
You're on your own on this one, private. Goodbye. I ain't going down with no ship. [ __ ] that. No, no, no. But I do understand what you mean. I do understand what you mean where it's like if you see your friend having a good time and things like that. Just throw yourself in between and you don't even have to do anything with it, but like be socially savvy enough that you can make your friend, you know, let this thing work out. Yeah. You know, you know what the worst just going on a tangent, the worst cop block is? Isn't actually the mother hen. The mother hen can be dealt with, espec especially if you have a black friend.
Um,
well, that was a black guy liking fat chick joke.
Oh, sorry. That kind of went over my head there. Sorry about Normally I'm in for the racist joke, but a little bit off today. But um no, the the worst the absolute worst girl to deal with is the girl that something happened. Either she broke up with her boyfriend, got into a fight with her mom, whatever. And then she corrals all of her friends to go out to the bar because [ __ ] him, he cheated, whatever.
Mhm. And so they all go out to the bar under the guys that, oh, this is for Sarah. Sarah's just going to drink and meet a new guy and we're all going to have fun. And then she gets super loaded. Spends her entire time texting the guy she's supposed to be getting away from, causes drama, and gets so drunk that her friends have to babysit her.
That chick,
dude, it's even a guy. In all of my experience, which I have done, picking up chicks and bars, I have yet, and my friends who are stellar wingmen, none of us have ever figured out a strategy to get around this because that [ __ ] reres so much havoc. It's just like it's not the best you might be able to do is one of the friends in the group. IA might be able to get a phone number, but ain't nothing happening that night.
No, you don't want to because it's not it's not their night. It really is her night kind of thing.
Yeah. Offer her a glass of water, but that's it.
Yeah. But even her night, even her friends are kind of irritated with her.
Like it's Yeah, it's sloppy. I've seen it. It it thank god that chick isn't like something you see at every bar every night, but I've seen it enough in my lifetime to be like when I spot like if I if I were at the let's say we were at the bar together like hypothetical we're not in relationships. We're also a lot younger. We're going to the bar or club is acceptable.
You are a lot younger. I just like two years something like that.
Yeah. But we run into a group of girls and they're like, if anyone of them says like their friend just recently broke up with their boyfriend, that could be a good thing because that could be a girl looking to like revenge sheet and you could just be right time, right place.
Mhm. But you have to look at the girl and her behavior at the bar. If she's getting a little bit too wild, you know, like, okay. Yeah. No, let run.
[ __ ] run.
You want to know my honest opinion?
I I do not like intoxicated women. And
yeah, no, that's fair.
That is I'm I'm not dealing with that. Also like kind of like repercussions because then it's like, oh, but I was drunk where it's like, yeah, I'm not dealing with it.
Yeah. No, and that's 100% fair. Well, I've had intoxicated women hit on me and I'm like, "Go away. Just no. I'm not doing this. Go away." You know, happy my girlfriend doesn't drink. Really happy about that. And I mean, if she did, I mean, for, you know, nothing to worry, but she doesn't. And I really like that in all honesty.
My strategy, now I I I wouldn't say this is a great strategy, but my strategy when I was younger was just to make sure I was the drunkest one at the bar.
Wow. Why am I not surprised about that?
No one could claim that you were being t that I was being taken advantage of.
Oh, dude. I remember like when I was young, we dance on tables. We would dance on tables and [ __ ] like that. And it was amazing. I drank a little bit for the wrong reasons, but it was fun. Certain things were just amazingly fun. It's like, God, it's good to be alive. It still is good to be alive, you know?
Oh, dude. this [ __ ] I am not going to admit the [ __ ] that I did when I was drunk in university because half of it
channel, you know, large enough to be relevant, not large enough to be cancelled.
Yeah. The uh but there are now none of this illegal stuff was really that illegal. It
careful now.
We're not talking about sex. We're talking about like, for example, shenanigans with other rival fraternities or with sororities. I mean, you are Canadian. Everything there is a is a felony right now. You are you are on the internet spouting wrong things, sir.
Yes.
The uh but there was a time where it was fun to have things mysteriously disappear from one house and find their way into another house. It was like a game that constantly went on between the fraternities and sororities.
And I was exceptional at it.
I get Yeah, I would believe that. Did you know like we in the Netherlands we didn't have sororities or whatever. We'd have the last day of school and this was in high school and they banned that phenomenon because some of the lower education levels kind of went too far where they showed up with tractors and blocked the entrance to the school.
But it's like yeah I mean it was a it was an amazing sight to behold. It really was. you know, like complete havoc around the whole school. But at a certain point, the board was like, "Yeah, we're not doing this again."
You know, this is done. We've had our fun. The stories are made, but snowballs chance in hell we're going to let these guys keep showing up with goddamn tractors. Probably a postwall woman somewhere in that board. It's like, I can't have this. Do we have like because the the topic really is like why women change after hitting the wall and we kind of hit on it in the beginning. It's like why does it change? It is a psychological realization uh especially in single women that they start having to compete with uh younger friendlier girls and that their previous suave almost their their previous trump card just doesn't work anymore.
Yeah, it's it's not even or I would go even further to say that it's not even necessarily competing with younger women. It's the realization they aren't what they used to be.
That's why why do you think the glow up is such a thing? It's women coping to be like, "Oh, I was young and hot, but now I'm hotter." You're not. Sometimes it is, but those are outliers. Like, generally speaking, most women at 35 aren't as hot as they were at 21.
No. And it's also a very subconscious uh fertility issue as well to get really into the nitty-gritty of things where it's like well the thing is that women at a younger age are more fertile and that is what makes them attractive to men.
Yep. Yep. 100%. Right. Like, and so they have to deal they have to process the the realization of age. Like men don't have to deal with age in the same way women do. Like everyone has to deal with aging. Like our bodies don't um recover as quickly as they did. We get aches and pains. But for women, age is tied to their sexuality in a way that is just inconceivable to men.
Yes. And and so like we don't have to date like when we get like don't get me wrong when I'm 60 am I going to be pulling 25 year olds? Probably not.
40y old.
I had to do it.
You know what I mean? Like when I'm 60 I could probably still pull a 40y old 45.
But you get what I'm saying, right?
I get what you're saying. You do fine. You do fine.
Yeah. Like women just don't have that same window. Um and they all know it inherently. A lot of what you see online is
I I I read a whole essay like Rise of the Hack economy where I see like more and more cougar porn being released in movie theaters where it's like, oh, the strapping older woman getting with like the 21-year-old fitness model. Oh my god, that is an awesome dynamic. You know what that dynamic is?
Uh so
most guys, like if you're a fit, attractive guy, I'm not going to say he's not going to get a cougar just to get a notch on the belt, right? Like I've done it. I know a ton of guys who have done it. But
but these films are like romance and he
Oh, I know. I know because it's the female delusion, right? But most guys who are, let's say you take a 25year-old attractive dude, like he doesn't need to be Chad of Chads, but a guy who is successful with women.
Mhm. He may pick off a cougar or two for fun, but he is generally going to go for women his age or a couple years younger. Like that's just
Madonna though. Have you seen Madonna? She's like in 64ish and she's like keeps dating 23 year old guys where it's like
okay so that might be an outlier but
probably generally speaking
be honest it is Madonna and I think a lot of those guys like want to be at the bar where it's like
yeah I [ __ ] Madonna
where it's like whoa
but this is the point I was getting to is by and large. What you're seeing like some of these older women who are getting with younger guys, they aren't unattractive, but they're not as attractive as they were when they were in their 20s. And they're getting with guys who are okay. Like, they might be able to get a girl or two their age, but they're not cleaning house. It's this it's it's a less extreme dynamic. Like, have you ever seen the boyfriends that fat chicks have?
Yes.
They're almost small and 120 lb soaking wet.
Yeah. If that
Yeah, they're gangly. For some reason, they're always like 6' three.
Yeah.
Ever that tall skinny guy where it's like, dude,
like Yeah. Like just gangly. like you look like you're uh like on methamphetamines like and it's because and this is the reason why, right?
This is this is a very good point.
One of the rare cases where money specifically $1.2 billion dollar increases a woman's estimate.
I get it. I see I see why why people would date Madonna. But um but anyways, it what you're getting is those fat girls aren't getting the guys that they truly desire, but they can get guys that are good enough. And same with the skinny, scrawny guys. Th those two are hooking up because they're good enough and it's what they can get.
Well, they also walk over them completely. Like if you see this guy next to her and she he's just meek where
I don't have an opinion dear it's like
yeah right because it's good enough he'll do and the same reason why he's with her is she'll do now you get a little bit less extreme and that's where you're getting these cougars hooking up with young guys like I can almost guarantee you not like very few less than 10% probably less than five, maybe even less than one ever actually turn into anything that resembles a long-term relationship
or a healthy long-term relationship.
Yeah, exactly right. Like the numbers are increasingly low, but women get to have that little delusion where and guess women also project too, which is a big part of it, right? So, in a girl's head, her hooking up with a younger guy is kind of validating to her experience to be like, "Yeah, I still got it." And also doing what girls do, which is really, really weird. You know how they flex their job because they find a guy with a good job attractive? They're doing the same thing with young guys to be like, "Look, see, I can score with a young guy." And then guys are like, "We don't care." No, it's uh women are becoming the men they are attracted to.
Yes. Exactly. It's that dynamic. Exactly.
Yep. And they will go through hell or high water to bend society to accepting that. And that's kind of like that's what the essay link in the chat by the way. What that essay was about where it's like when you look at films these days and it started out with god let me let me check this real quick because there was a couple of films like that. Well, Mrs. Robinson is the first one, right?
Really?
I believe so.
What is this one? Let's see. Oh, yeah. Like you see it in the fashion industry with like Katie Jacobs who was like 56 all of a sudden in Sports Illustrated. And don't get me wrong, she looks good for her age. Absolutely. But she can't compete with like 25year-old
version of her.
Yeah.
Or even Yeah. 25 version.
Oh yeah. So the the film is the idea of you where um this and if it is Anne Hathaway by the way. She plays the mom of some like whatever some girl who is into a boy band and this leading uh this lead singer just so happens to pick her out of the crowd in an ocean of 20 year olds.
Yeah. Now, don't get me wrong, Anne Hathaway is a very good-looking woman.
Yeah, but no, it's it's
the goddamn like MC Jagger of Korean K-pop. I don't think you're going to do that.
No, you know what that is? That is the millennial. That is uh the new Fifty Shades of Gray.
Yes.
Right. like Fifty Shades of Gray was I'm a completely average girl with no extraordinary qualities and I'm going to have the Chad of all Chads [ __ ] pick me. And now that they've gotten older, it's I'm an older version of who I was in Fifty Shades of Gray with no extraordinary qualities and I'm going to have the K-pop lead singer pick me, right? like it's it's female porn is what it is.
It's eat prey love, but then with older women dating younger guys kind of thing. And they and um they hate the fact I'm not saying every man can or should but they really do hate the fact that every man could do it. But this is also like and and I've I've written about that too where like you have Rolo's chart and it's not like okay a guy is older now he automatically is able to date 20 year olds where it's like that is not how that works. No
because you got to remember like a woman in her 20s is at her peak kind of thing and she could get like NFL players whatever to mention the apex fallacies here but just because you're a 40-year-old dude like are you in shape? Do you have your finances in order? Are you charming? you know, are you a good wingman kind of [ __ ] And you have a hairline.
Really, what it is
is Yeah. And I think you hit it on the head. It's not like you turn 45 or 35 or whatever and you magically become awesome.
It's just that age is not a limiting factor for us the way it is for women.
And that is kind of the whole gist of this thing where it's like I I tweet out all every time where it's like your girlfriend was born when you're 25. And what I mean by that is like for dudes, age really is just a number kind of thing. If you take care of your health, if you don't smoke, you don't drink, you work out, you walk. Dude, I have made so many steps this week. Too many in all honesty. Way too many.
Yeah, yesterday again, 30,000. And
Jesus Christ, that's what I was pulling when I was working in a warehouse.
Yeah. Oh man. No. God bless my girlfriend. Like, yep. Walk. Okay. Kind of thing. And I mean it's nice because Batumi is so walkable kind of thing. It's better than Tiblissi in all honesty. For people who ever wonder about Georgia, Tiblissi is a beautiful city. It really is. But Batumi is just so much more walkable. It really is. And you know,
yeah, those beach pigs look nice.
You you get companions along the way with the stray dogs and they they don't assault you or anything. Like every now and then they just walk with you and then for a moment you're you're the best friend and then they find somebody else kind of thing.
Yes.
Which hurt me so bad. There's one stray dog I call Billy, which is a very old black Labrador, who is a female, by the way. So, I don't know why I called her Billy, but like I ran into her. Billy, I'm blah blah blah. And I look at my real quick, like five seconds, and she just walks off with somebody else. I'm like, is this
She wasn't yours. It was just your turn.
My turn. It hurts so much. And then the person she walked with doesn't give her all too much attention and just sits there sad and I I look at my phone and I'm like or I was looking at my phone and I look back at Billy. I'm like really is this how you treat me? Is this how you treat me? And she comes walking to me. I'm sorry I won't do it again. I'm like it's it's too late. Damage has been done. But it's so nice that every now and then you kind of have your own stray dog kind of thing. It's a nice thing. It's weird. A nice thing to end on, too. Doesn't that just sum up everything?
It's just nice to have your own stray dog.
Speaking of hackmaxing,
you know, you bring them in, you clean them up, teach them how to bake,
and then you send them off in their merry way kind of thing. No, it's it's not my thing. It's not my thing. I mean, I I have somebody grow old with you. It's a good thing. But yeah, know picking them up. I mean, for Billy, I'll make an exception. Wonderful, wonderful young lady. Well,
older lady. I mean, when you look, it's just such an amazing dog. And he's looking fat. Like, oh my god, Billy, what do you mean? You're a stray dog. You're so fat. Which is amazing here, by the way. The stray dogs, nothing to complain about. Nothing. They all get food from everybody. They get attention from everybody. And they're fat as hell. Seriously, it's like how can this possibly be? How can you be so fat? But they are.
It's Oh, for dog has not been invented. I think that's the thing.
But do you want to wrap it up? Did we kind of get through everything?
Well, does it really matter?
Well, it is intra introsexual competition. I think guys would be uh better off being aware of it. Like even if you have a girlfriend and she has problems at work or whatever and you just ask like, "Hey, what's your manager called?" and she goes, "Stacy, you know enough."
Yeah. No, it it's it's one of those things like it it's fun to naval gaze and it can be useful in times, but I kind of treat whenever we talk about anything involving women that doesn't really directly affect us, it it's good to kind of treat it like the 48 laws of power. We're like, learn it, keep it in the back of your head. And then if you run into a situation where you're like, "Ah, I know what's going on." You can maybe help navigate it, but like you have to understand this is the women's realm. This is what they do. That the best you can really do with this information is just if it's starting to like seep into your life, be aware of it and set boundaries to be like, "Yeah, we're we're not doing this."
Well, for an example, let's say you work a white collar job. you're dealing with AR and whatever like they will they will gossip with you but everything you say will be used against you. So as soon as that happens guys be very well aware that they're trying to tear the hierarchy down. So when that happens, you assert a boundary and you just politely say, "You know what? It's none of my business and you you get you you exit politely and charmingly out of that conversation because they will use it against you." Like, "Did you know what Jack said about about soand so?" And then you're going to be ending up in HR while you're thinking scratching your head where it's like, "Wait, I thought Stacy hated Denise." Like, "What? Why am I here?" kind of thing. Well, because they will work together to tear somebody down. Intra the You got to remember there's an ingroup preference as well.
Yep.
Even in intraexual competition, they will always choose each other over the guy.
Yep.
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Do not, I repeat, do not listen to women.
There we go. Lee Silver for the generous five right at the end. When women turn that intra introsexual competition on guys to shame them, that's what we need to be aware of most. All their female friends can be brutal.
Yes, they can. They absolut especially managers, things like that. They will they will guard their position because you got to remember they are also the gatekeepers to who gets hired. And I've seen it plenty of times where all of a sudden all the young people were uh um didn't get a renewal or whatever and all of a sudden what was hired was all like old people. I was like what? But that all has to do with it, you know, because they want to be they want to remain the big kahuna and as long as you're aware of that. Meech would have been golden on this one. Meech knows when it comes to this.
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Oh, that that might be a good thing. So this is my plan right now. I realized that first of all, I don't want to do 2 and 1/2 hours solo again. That was mentally [ __ ] exhausting.
So, what I'm going to do is I'm going to take some time. It's going to be a while before the next one hits, but my plan is, and guys, by all means, if you aren't on Substack, get on Substack. Follow me. It's free. There's no payw wall. That way, you can join my chat. There's anything sexreated, not relationship, not pickup, but like actual nuts and bolts about sex or sexual health, um, throw it in the chat. And what I'm going to do is I think I'm going to take Ryan's suggestion and basically aggregate a bunch of episodes that I think would be good. Maybe anywhere from 12 to 20, somewhere in that range. Do all the research and then um be able to knock them out every 2 weeks or so. Um, so it's just a matter of doing the research um, for things that I need brushing up on or things that I may not know and then figuring out a time that I can do it where it isn't going to interfere with my life. So those are the the two things right now is just because I'm short on time. I will figure it out, but it may take three or four months before I'm ready. But once I am ready, they're going to come out like at a much quicker pace.
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