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As a great Moroccan thinker named Boal Sara used to say, sometimes one is overwhelmed by their potential. It's that the good Lord sees you have great abilities, and you resist and block yourself because you say, "No, it's too much, it's not enough, these things." You are a Jew, you are a dirty Jew. Yeah. Look at my wife, she was very discreet, she was very refined, she was very pretty, she was always well-dressed, always well-made-up, always with the little jewelry, the things, but from within. Yeah, you can be a sack of potatoes and cry all day, or you can be well. Yeah. When I was speaking during the Shiva, a woman came up to me and said, "I wanted to tell you that I didn't know your wife." And I saw her at Z Begadol, for those who know, at Ba Vegan, it's a supermarket. She said, "I saw her well-dressed, beautiful, made-up, all that." I saw her, she told me, "I wasn't refined, but when I saw her, I took on refinement." That means someone can express themselves, but it only works if your refinement comes from within. It's that if you are refined inside and outside, it works. It's the same. If you observe Shabbat out of love for Shabbat, with the fear of Shabbat, and you tell someone to observe Shabbat, the guy will observe Shabbat. But if you say, you know, Shabbat is important, but for you personally, the truth is it's complicated. Well, there are no laws, but there are rabbinic decrees. Well, you turn on the elevator with God's help. That means you are not coherent. Strangely, your word has no effect because it is written "from heaven." He who has the fear of heaven, his words are heard. Now, what is the fear of heaven? It's to babble or yeah. No, the fear of heaven is an exaggerated awareness that God exists and that God intervenes every minute of your life. "Chivati Hashem l'adit Hashem," I am before Hashem. So in prayer, it's easy. You see Yoavke in golden letters, you put on the tefillin, you see the YK'F in front of you, but it's the same. You're going to talk to your wife, you're a little annoyed, you say, "Oh, wow, be careful, she's the mother of my children, she gave me her life, she gave me her youth, she gave me her body, and I'm going to insult her because she scratched the car." Now, when you master that, it's called "Yirat Shamayim." Then, when you tell her "I love you," strangely, she believes you. Do you know why? Because your love has been proven by the effort you made not to get angry. Whereas people, what do they do? They get angry, they insult, they swear, and then they say, "But you know I love you." The truth is, I have a bit of