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This video will serve as your texting Bible. It doesn't matter what your skills are or which goal you're talking to. In this video, I will explain everything you need to know about texting in detail. And if you ever feel confused or face any issues with texting, come back to this video, and you'll 100% find the solution to your problem.
The first thing you need to understand is that the purpose of texting is to set up a date and meet the woman, not just to chat. The goal of texting is not just conversation, but meeting up. Listen carefully. As a man, you won't gain anything from texting. It's a waste of time and won't bring you any benefit. This is the first point I want you to understand.
The second point is that a woman will not develop feelings for you just through texting, and this is the mistake that many men make. They text just for the sake of chatting. No, you should use texting to get to the stage of setting up a date. And here, I'll slightly diverge to talk about something important. Men who talk to girls who don't live in the same city. If you live in one state and the girl lives in another, that means you shouldn't waste your time with her. And I'm not criticizing anyone, but if you're talking to a girl who doesn't live in your city, why are you talking to her? What will you gain? Even if you meet once a month or once every 3 months, you need to understand that this is a losing equation for you as a man. There are hundreds of thousands, maybe even millions of women in your city. So why are you looking for a girl in another city? Think carefully before you waste your time and energy on this.
Finally, the third point I want you to understand is that texting is just a conversation in the digital world. This digital conversation, although it has rules different from the real world, is still still just a reflection of the real world. This means that to succeed in the digital world, you first need to know how to communicate in the real world. If you've been following my series on how to attract women, you probably won't have an issue with this because I've explained everything you need, and you likely already understand how a woman thinks. If you haven't watched this series, please, when you finish this video, go back and start from the first episode so you can get the most benefit from today's video.
Now, let's return to the topic of texting. From my experience, I've noticed that the mistake I used to make, and that most guys make when texting, is that they don't know when to ask a girl for a date. That's why I'm now going to explain a basic concept in texting. You need to know what stage you're in. Are you in the stage where you should ask for a date, or in the stage where you should just continue the conversation, or are you in the stage where you need to build attraction? The important thing is that you know which stage you're in.
Now, I'm going to give you a compass that I want you to hold on to. This compass will help you figure out which stage you're in if you're texting a girl or want to start talking to one. There are four stages you might be in.
Stage one: The silent stage. This is when she leaves you on read and doesn't reply. This means that attraction has dropped. Don't worry, we'll discuss this in detail. Just be patient with me.
Stage two: The testing stage. This is when she criticizes you, disagrees with you, or talks about other guys. If you've watched the entire series, you already know that I always say girls test guys. It's a biological instinct they have, and they do it without realizing it. I also always tell you that I'll make a video explaining how to pass these tests. I apologize for the delay, but soon I'll make a video where I explain these tests in detail.
Stage three: The logical stage. This is when she starts discussing topics with you logically or sometimes emotionally.
Stage four: The attraction stage. This is when the girl starts showing her attraction towards you, like sending you her pictures, reacting positively to your pictures, or hinting at a possible meetup.
In any text conversation with a girl, you'll always be in one of these stages, 100%. You need to know which stage you're in right now so you can act accordingly. And don't worry, I'll explain what you need to do in each stage.
To make it clearer, let's assume you're in the stage where the girl has shown her attraction to you, and what did you do? You continued talking to her and carried on with the conversation. Here, my friend, you've made a big mistake. Why are you still talking to her? When you reach this stage, it means you should ask her out. If you don't ask for a date and just keep talking, after a while, she'll reject the idea of a date because you didn't recognize the stage you were in and didn't take the right action.
Or, let's assume you're in the first stage where the girl responds with a few words and leaves you on read without replying further, then you go ahead and ask for a date. That's another mistake. You've taken an action that doesn't fit the stage you're in. So, once you know what stage you're in, it's time to figure out the right way to handle the situation with the girl.
But before I tell you what to do in each stage, I need to explain something about the world of texting. If you've been following me for a while, you'll know that women are emotional beings. For them, the world of texting is an emotional game, and all of their actions are based on emotions. As a man, you won't be able to play this game with her because you're not an emotional being; you're a logical one. That's why in this video, I'm explaining things to you from a logical perspective. I want you to understand texting from a logical point of view and approach it that way so you don't get pulled into the emotional game that women try to involve you in. This may sound strange to you, but this is just how women are. For them, dating is like a game, and it's part of their nature. Consider it an unavoidable reality. But when you enter this game and see it through a logical lens, you can win because logic is your strength. This is what I try to do in all my videos, even if you don't always realize it. In this series, I'm not just giving you information; I'm trying to shift your perspective on dating so you see it in a more logical way. If you'd like me to make a video discussing the logic of men versus the emotions of women, let me know in the comments.
Now, let's get back to our topic and go through the stages one by one. By the way, these stages aren't in a fixed order. You could find yourself in any stage, and sometimes you might even start in the attraction stage. So, let's begin with the first stage, the silence stage.
In this stage, the girl doesn't respond or takes a long time to reply, or she might not seem interested. In this case, you should avoid overwhelming her with messages. Don't send too many, and don't ask for anything that requires a response. Most importantly, don't bring up a date. The only thing you can do is leave a simple comment, like reacting to her story or saying something that doesn't require a reply. The goal here is to maintain your value and not show any neediness, even if she doesn't respond.
The second stage is the testing stage. Here, the girl might start provoking you, talking about someone else, or disagreeing with you. This stage is relatively easy because all you need to do is pass her tests. I'll explain this more in a dedicated video, but briefly, here are some ways to pass these tests: one, completely ignore what she said; two, take a comment and turn it into a joke; three, give a response that's completely unrelated to what she said. In this stage, don't ask for a date yet because attraction is still being built.
Stage three is the conversation stage, where the conversation flows more naturally and might even involve exchanging voice messages. At this point, you can ask for a date. In this stage, I want you to apply everything you've learned in this series, like qualifying techniques or asking emotional questions, and try to incorporate them into your texting. But remember, texting is slightly different from talking on the phone or having a face-to-face conversation. To succeed in texting, you need to include a lot of humor in your messages. The funnier your texts, the more positive responses you'll get from the girl. One key to text messaging success is to avoid using the girl's real name. Instead, give her a playful nickname, like "munchkin," "cutie," or "my dear." These nicknames will help you get faster replies.
Here's a text messaging technique I've personally developed that works quite well: "You: Hey chickp, how good is your memory on a scale of 1 to 10? Huh? Well, 10. You: Okay, let's test it. If you lose, you're buying me dinner. Ready? Huh? Yes. You: What color shoes was I wearing when we met? Hm? Hm? I think black. You: Wrong answer, young lady! Now you owe me dinner, big time!" Then call her immediately after, even if she gives the right answer. Still call and playfully argue that you had on a different color shoes. See how simple this is? All you need is a bit of creativity, and you can easily secure date after date with minimal risk of rejection.
The reason some guys often get rejected is because their messages are just too dull. They send texts like, "Can I call you?" "Are you free?" "Would you like to watch a movie?" Not only are these messages boring, but they are also practically asking to be rejected. Here are a few examples of messages that will get you quick and positive responses: "You won't believe how badly I embarrassed myself today. My mom would be so ashamed. Call me." "I'm starving. I'll let you buy me a burger if you promise to take me out." "My cousin's here. She's just like you. You have to meet her." "This is the best day of my life. I finally did it. Buzz me when you're free." As long as your messages include humor, mystery, and a touch of excitement, you'll always get positive responses.
Now, we move on to the final stage, where the girl starts sending you her pictures or showing significant interest, such as engaging positively with your pictures. At this stage, if you haven't met her in person yet, it becomes essential and urgent to ask her for a date. If you don't ask for a date at this point, you risk losing her. If you like the girl and want to keep talking to her, you must ask her for a date. If you don't, she'll either place you in the friend zone or stop talking to you altogether.
Now you should have a clear understanding of the texting game. Like any game, there are rules you need to know and follow to succeed. In short, these rules are: In general, keep your texts short and to the point. They should be emotionally stimulating; she should feel something from your text. You should not be texting her all the time. You are a man who has important things to do. Texting her constantly is not one of them. Every text should serve a purpose: to spark her emotions or to set up a date. Send her the first text within 48 hours of getting her number. Don't ask boring questions. Don't try to impress her. Don't be mentally waiting for her to respond. Go about your busy day as you normally do and respond to her texts when you get a chance. Text like a man. Don't ask her too many questions. Instead of asking questions, make statements and commands.
And here we have come to the end of our guide. In the description, you'll find the link to the full series for free on YouTube. If you're still watching at this point, don't forget to hit the like button. And if you have any questions, leave them in the comments so I can know what challenges you're facing. Take care.