[Self-Maximize 5]: SWORDPILLED [Do women want jerks?]

What do women want? Do they want bad boys? Do they like jerks? Pin your arms above. Why do they say they like nice guys and then turn down the guys who are nice to them?

Good morning, Starshine. The earth says hello. Do women even know what they want? And where the hell does this come from? Better show you a secret move nobody's talking about, but I know for a fact all women want. All we want in the depths of our heart is for somebody to do this. Oh, now she's looking at you. She's yours. You could be a villain slaughtering my people across the seven kingdoms. What a red flag. But that that's that's all it takes. Just a little. She said, "Kill my family and move my face around with a sword." Why does she want that? And why can't anyone agree on how this works even after I wrote it down for you?

I'm going to answer all of these questions again. I've done it before somewhere in here, but this time I'm going to do it all together, all at once. This is my last attempt to get rid of the poisonous language that we have in our culture around good guys and bad boys as if you can only be one at a time, like you have to pick one. If we keep talking about it like that, we're never going to figure this out. What people say, especially men who are not successful with women, is that women like jerks who are low in niceness, and they don't like good guys who are high in niceness. That's all wrong. Throw it all in the garbage. This is zones four. Some people said zones three was hard to read, so I made it simple. What women like is strong guys. That's what makes them excited. And there aren't very many strong guys right now. So, they don't have to be nice. They don't have to be supportive. And they don't want to because it's expensive. Women want this guy, but there aren't any of them left. There are very few strong guys right now. And so, they all get a lot of girls and they can't support all of them, which makes them cry. That's a big part of why women hate men right now. But women will pick the strong guy who makes her cry over the nice guy who is weak because weak is icky. They they just don't like that. They don't like weak for the same reason that you don't like fat, ugly women. It's just gross to them.

So, if you are strong and supportive, someone will want to be with you. If you're supportive but not strong, girls will be friends with you. If you're strong but not supportive, girls will go home with you, but then run away when you make them cry. And finally, if women are not attracted to you and they don't want to be friends with you, you are probably just a weak jerk and you have a lot of work to do. I have been in all of these boxes. And I remember believing that this was mean and this was nice because that is how male attraction works. When a girl is nice, we usually like her. And when she is more masculine and demanding and in charge, we usually go, "Gez, I don't know about this one." So, we end up thinking that women are just like us, but they're doing it backwards. We go, "Women should like nice guys, but they like jerks." And it doesn't make sense until you understand that women have different needs than us. They're more complicated. They need strong, which we usually don't care about. And they need supportive, which we also usually don't care about. They don't want nice. They want strong and good.

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So, why don't men know they need to be strong? Well, it's not your fault. You were just trying to be nice. This happens to most of us. It happened to me real bad. This whole time I was just a weenie and then here I thought I was finally nice enough to get a real girlfriend and she ruined my life. My life gets ruined a lot. I'm I'm on my way back. We all start out here and we want to get here. Then they punish us for being strong and tell us to be nice, so we end up here and girls don't like it. So then we stop being nice and end up here forever. This is as simple as I can explain it. You grow up, you start liking girls, you say, "What do girls want?" Everyone says, "Just be nice. Just be yourself." And then you think, "How would I want a girl to treat me?" And you do that and it doesn't work. And then you have to go try a bunch of things and see what works or just like quit. And I'm telling you what those things are as simply as possible. They're all right here and here.

Now, I'm going to explain what they are before I tell you what swords have to do with it. I'll do this really quick. I've said it so many times. There's physical attractiveness and the masculine part of your personality. That's what causes women to be attracted to you. Everything over here is what you have to offer her. That means what do you give her that protects her from the harsh realities of life? Do you provide? Do you protect? Do you care? Do you give her higher status? So, if you provide and protect and care, you are a friend. And if you are exciting, you are a boyfriend. And if you can do both, you are ideal. A lot of men think they can do these things and expect her to feel this way. And that's not how it works. That's how they tell you it works. They say be nice, but we all know it's not worth anything. They never tell you to look good and be strong and tough and smart and funny and and be superior, better than other men. And they especially don't tell you this part, how women want to be at the mercy of a powerful man. Why don't they just tell us? Remember what Momo said? It's a secret move, but all women want it. I'm going to show you a secret move. This is a move nobody's talking about, but I know for a fact all women want. How can something be a secret that everyone knows about? That's what I was trying to communicate when I put the top half of zones in a speech bubble and the bottom half in a thought bubble. I guess it was too subtle. Not a lot of people picked up on it. But the higher you go on the chart, the more public people brag about these relationships, and the lower you go on the chart, the more secret we keep these things to ourselves. And you might notice that the entire bad boy axis is at the very bottom of the chart. What that's supposed to mean is women don't tell you these things. They tell you these things. So for men, the more we like her, the more we want everyone to know about it. And at a certain point, we'll still hang out with her, but we don't want anyone to know. This is the hardest part for men to understand. Women can like a man or things about men quite a lot and still not want anyone to know about it. That's why so many men have this problem and and these problems too. We ask women, "What do you want?" And she says, "I want a ring and a house and I want you to be nice to me and and be committed." And then we give that to her and she says, "Ew," and then dates a criminal who has these things. And men get really fed up with this and they say women are lying and they want jerks. Again, if a girl is nice to us, we like her more. But it's not a lie. She does want the good guy stuff, just not by itself. So, if this has ever happened to you, it's because you didn't have what she was looking for here. And she's not going to tell you because these are secrets. Secrets that every woman wants. And the sword thing is the biggest secret of all.

So, if women want something, why would they keep it secret? Doesn't that prevent them from getting it? And the answer is of course not. That would mean that life makes sense. And God would never let that happen. So there is a reason that women keep these things quiet even though they want them very much. I'm going to switch to zones three. It's got these meters. So you'll notice that the more a man likes a woman, the more he wants to talk about her more public. And again, we assume that women are the same. And that's not true. The more that a man supports a woman, the more she will talk about him. You've probably seen women freak out and scream and go, "Oh my god, look at the ring. It's so huge. That is a lot of investment. And it's coming from a guy who makes her look good. He's not some 80-year-old that she's robbing. Basically, he's not running around with other women. He's got a lot of good guy points, so he is more public. But remember, none of these things cause attraction unless it's there already. If you are down here, if she has no idea who you are, and you start doing lots and lots of this stuff, you become like a brother to her. And if you do a halfass job, you end up here. And that's how you get fired. That's this. This is you down here saying, "What do women want?" And then they tell you, "I want these things." And then you do them and bring them to her, and she says, "Ew, no thanks, cuz you landed here, here, or here, and you didn't have these things, which she didn't tell you." Because if she does, it makes her look bad. She loses points here. Be honest with yourself. When you hear Momo say this, does it make her seem more or less like wife material? Oh, now she's looking at you. She's yours. You could be a villain slaughtering my people across the seven kingdoms. What a red flag. But that that's that's all it takes. Just a little. This moment has yet to happen to me organically, but God, I long I long for it. I long for it. I long for it. Now, your mileage may vary, but I'm not in love with the idea of building a kingdom for someone who wants me to get slaughtered by a villain. This might also explain a few things about women's voting habits. Think about it. I'd like to thank Momo for taking one for the team. She said the quiet part out loud, and that can make men pretty resentful and less likely to provide. So, keeping these things secret is a strategy, and it's also a test to see who can figure it out. And a lot of them don't even know they're doing it. All of this is buried so deep in the subconscious that most women don't know they have to tell you. They assume that you already know what they want. And that's where we get this dynamic from. This is the you should be able to read my mind conversation that we've all had. This is the a woman's love language is not having to ask. I want to go out to eat. What do you want? You pick. Okay. How about Italian food? No, not that. You pick. Okay. How about if we go get Indian food? No, not that. You pick. She wants you to know what she wants without telling you. And by the way, the answer to that question is usually just get in the car. Where are we going? You'll like it when we get there. And that feeling of being in charge, saying, "Here's what's going to happen now." That's what women want. That's what the sword is. This is a a picture of a guy faking it, and the girl doesn't buy it.

So the reason that women don't say this stuff is because it means I can be taken away by competition that is stronger than you. And when men hear that, we say, "Well, why would I give you anything then? Why would I give you time and money and stay away from other women for you if someone can just come by and take you because he's taller, has a better car or something?" Making a man wait while her 10, 20, 30, 40, 50 previous partners she slept with on the first or second date is like me going to McDonald's. Everyone in the restaurant paid $1 for a cheeseburger. There's three people in line ahead of me. They all pay $1 for a cheeseburger. Then I get to the front of the line, ask for a cheeseburger, and the clerk looks at me and says, "It's $1,000 for you, sir." Then don't care. Exactly. Let's see. I got more. Or it's more like, but no. That's why I love the Whatever podcast. They're so good at getting women to say, "Give me everything all the time and you get nothing." And that is how it is out there. So, what men are saying is, "If this is what makes you like men, why would I give you any of this?" And then they say, "Well, you just should like give me." And then we say, "No." And then they just vote for it. Some guys get confused about this, too. When I tell men to improve themselves, I'm saying be more attractive. And some of them think I'm saying give women more stuff. I do not want you to be this guy. I want you to be this guy. So, it's true that women are failing really badly to provide men with what they need in order for men to want to provide commitment and stability and everything that makes a stable relationship. And that's what most of my videos are about. But this one is about how men are failing to be the things that make women like them in the first place just in case you ever find one that's not like but no just give me give me give me give me. So you need to understand that if you want women to like you more or if you want your life to be better at all you can't accomplish that by going to work and making money and being nice and giving people things. That doesn't move the needle. That just makes you this guy. And it's also not accomplished by being cruel. This has been a very difficult point to make. I wrote this on zones 2 and I also drew this picture which was controversial. I was trying to illustrate what's going on when things like this happen. When you watch her hate the nice guy and like the jerk, it's easy to get mad at women. Now, let's change our language. No, [Music] that looks different. Remember, she's not going to talk about these things. They are secret. She might not even know about them. On top of that, this behavior shows that he doesn't care what she thinks. It's not abusive. It's confident. But this behavior is wimpy. It says, "You might not like me unless I do nice things for you." He's giving her good guy things and expecting her to feel attraction and that's creepy or icky. That's what I mean by the sword. This guy has power and he knows when to use it. This guy is saying, "I have no power. Please like me." Here's another one. She has heart eyes because he's protective and obsessive. Again, that's not going to move the needle unless she already likes him for reasons that she won't say and might not know about. This is difficult for modern men to understand because they raise us to be wimps. One of my fans contacted me with a story. He was out with his girlfriend and they were blocked by some crying, whining protesters and so he shoved his way through them and his girlfriend was mad at him. Later she said she didn't like it. And his question for me was, I did a bad boy thing. That's bad boy points, right? Why didn't she like it? And the answer is that the the crying affects women. This is how you manipulate women. So their useless trash bag crying fit made her have feelings. So when he shoved through them, she felt like he was shoving through her feelings. That's why it's just not true that women like jerks. Otherwise, they would respond to things like this. You have to be a jerk in a very specific way. You have to use your sword on things that bother her to create a space where she can feel safe. And sometimes those things are in her own subconscious. Like, I don't want to pick where to eat or I don't want to feel guilty for sleeping with you too soon. That's where we get the mystery zone from. If you haven't seen this video, go watch it after this one. Why don't men get hints is the same thing as you pick where to eat. It means make decisions for me, but make sure they're the ones I want. This is, by the way, how weak, inferior males sneak into women's emotional spaces. They pretend to have the same feelings as the girls about poor babies, and then they act like they're going to do something about it, even though all they ever do is cry.

Let's recap. Now, you understand that it's not good versus bad or nice versus jerk. It's strong versus weak and supportive versus selfish. And most guys are weak and selfish and they think being weak makes them nice because they still think it's nice guys versus jerks. Then society says be nice. So they become more supportive which women find gross because they're not strong. So now you understand what the sword is. It's using your power to make things happen or to stop things from happening. You understand that having power doesn't make you bad. Even though they tell you it does, that's just a test. As soon as you have any power, they say that's toxic masculinity. And then if you give it up, you lose. And you understand how to use your sword. You have to cut a path through the world so that she can walk it safely. And sometimes the jungle you have to cut through is her own feelings. And finally, you understand why women are never going to tell you that you need a sword. Because that's like saying, "The strongest guy wins me?" And then we think, "Well, it's a big world. There's someone stronger than me. What are you going to do? Leave when he gets here?" And then we don't give them anything. That's why they say, "Put down your sword and be nice." And then we do, and they go, "Ew, gross." This is why female dating coaches are so terrible for men. I thought high value for men meant same as men. In my mind, it was only logical if I want a man who's rich, successful, wealthy, I have to also be rich, successful, wealthy. Whenever I would go on dates with men, I would tell them about all my accolades and all the accomplishments and all the countries I'd gone to, and I thought, "Wow, I'm so cool." Do you see how she got it exactly backwards? Just like you. Just like me, just like everybody at first until you figure out what's going on. Men, we look at women and we say, "Well, I want her to be nice to me and I want her to make me not compete with other men, so I will give her niceness. I'll give her lots of time and money and I'll talk only to her." And then she goes, "I wasn't very strong. I want a man who's strong, so he must want a woman who's strong. listen to all the countries I've been to and all the sex I've had and we go, "Well, geez, what do you need me for?"

Here's another way to look at it. Remember, women don't see these men. They don't exist. And women like these men, but these men make them cry. And women are friends with these men, but no woman would ever coach this guy on how to become attractive to her because ick. She doesn't want to think about that. That's not what women say to these men. They say, "You're going to make some other woman happy someday." other girls will like you, not me. So, when you go to a female dating coach, you are asking her, "How do I get from here to here?" Because other girls must already like you. Why wouldn't they? You're so sweet. Just don't touch me. And what she's telling you is how to get from here to here. So, women don't have any idea at all that they need this from you or that you need to go get it. And that's why they always tell you to be more supportive. And that turns you into this guy. Please love me. Please, I got you presents. So, they call you evil for having power. Then they test your power to see if you're strong enough to ignore them. Don't pay someone to do that. They do it for free. Before I tell you where to get a sword figuratively, why is it the biggest secret? Well, we already know that women usually don't know about it, and if they do, they get punished for bringing it up. But also, it's very uncomfortable to talk about. We don't want to believe that women could be like this. And it's also very subconscious. Most men don't get it either, which is why they do stuff like this. So, when you bring it up, when you say women want the strongest guys, some people think you're being a bad person. I told you earlier that I made this drawing, which made someone uncomfortable. This person thought I was recommending this behavior, like you have to be aggressive with women, even if they don't like it, and that was not my point. I'll just let women say it themselves. Okay, so one of the hottest things like I can do in the bedroom is pin your arms above your head. Outside of the bedroom, I am in control. I am loud. I'm obnoxious. I'm telling people what to do. I'm a firstborn. But inside the bedroom, I want somebody to shut me the up. So, take control. Pin my hands back. Put in the work. Make me feel ravished. That's her asking for the strong part. She did not say the hottest thing a guy can do is buy me flowers, call me princess. She said, "Shut me the [__] up." The guy she wants it from is nice to her elsewhere, and that's why he's here. This drawing was just an extreme version of, "Shut me the up." I've heard that one before. This video was popular recently. I can't show you the whole thing, not cuz it's that bad, but because people will freak out and scream. Again, this is just very difficult to talk about. This video started a whole trend. Basically, something happens and then he gives her cake and a flower and she's happy. And then a bunch of people copied it. And again, I'm not recommending this behavior. It just illustrates the point. It's the same pattern that Momo said. Strong thing then nice thing. Let's get a little more intense. It's no secret that women love criminals. This is also controversial. So I will also let women say it. Joseph Lancia was officially. Dear Joseph, this is why I like felons. He's obsessed with you. You ain't going nowhere. You can't leave. You can't stay. He's not going nowhere. You're stuck. Do you know this is how I got held hostage and ended up with a summer? Same. How I ended up with a gun pointed to my head. But that [__] was hotter than this. At least I got attention. Okay, I know that I'm like so culturally late to this, but I just started watching the Sopranos. I'm not crazy, right? Like, there's nothing wrong with me, right? Like, I want that man so bad. She's talking about this man, Tony Soprano, fictional mob boss. Women also love bad boys in media. Here's Beauty getting thrown around by the beast and the big bad wolf from Puss and Boots. The girls say he's so fine.

Hear me out. I'm in love. Hear me out again. You get the idea.

Some people call this a disorder, hibisophilia, the love of criminals. But that gives you the wrong idea. Like normal women are all love and cuddles, and women with hibistophilia have evil sex cancer. The reality is that normal women like bad boys a little, and women with hibistophilia like them too much. But it is in all of them. And in my opinion, that's why so many women watch true crime and not any of these innocent answers. I just want to be safe from killers. That's why I have to write them letters in prison.

This makes a lot of men feel really bad about women. They say, "Well, I don't want to be a criminal. If that's what women want, I give up." But you don't have to be bad. You just have to be stronger than the bad guys. You know, like a hero, like every story ever told, remember? Like a knight with a sword. They don't fight dragons with hugs and kisses. They stab them to death. You forgot about that, didn't you? And that is why the sword is the biggest secret. They lied to you. They told you nice is good and strong is bad. So now we don't have what women want, and they don't correct us because we get mad if they do. That's why so many men are pathetic now. Look at me. I'm a good boy. I would never hurt a fly. Y queen. Let's ban all the weapons, and we'll do hugs and love. I'm fighting for women. They tell you to be this way, and they find it disgusting.

By now, everyone has seen or heard of the fact that conservative men are struggling and dating in this political climate. Here's aing thought: Change your mind. Who are the cuties in the Democratic party that are speaking? I don't know. Talk to anyone who lives in DC. It's hard to find a cute Democrat. Oh my god. Shots fired. No, that's I mean that's the tea. Ask anyone who lives in DC. It's the same pattern. It's always the same pattern. Do as I say. Here you go. Ew. I don't know about you, but I'm not changing my core beliefs for a four with a dirty mouth. Here's a thought: Maybe if you acted like a lady, you'd have a husband. And even if you do change your mind, that just turns you into this guy. And then you're right back here. Believe what I say. Here you go. Ew. Women don't like this guy. They like the strong guy. This guy has to hang around foolish women and wait for them to get drunk.

This is the biggest thing that men don't understand. They get married, and then their wives don't want to touch them. And they go, "I don't get it. I go to work. I pay the bills. I do the chores. I remember your birthday. I'm nice, nice, nice, nice, nice. I obey my wife's every command. Why doesn't she think I'm hot?" And it's because you're trying to purchase attraction with obedience, and it doesn't work that way. That has the opposite effect. That makes her feel like she's chained to a loser. Ew. You have to be the things she likes. Like, "Here's where we're going to eat tonight. Wear something comfortable." And not "Where do you want to go? I need your instructions. Tell me what to do, and I'll obey you." That's not the formula. The formula is strong thing, nice thing. Get in the car, and then you get dinner. Slaughter your village, but boy, aren't you pretty. And yeah, it's pretty messed up that women don't care if the strong thing is good or evil. But you can't blame them. That's nature. The male performs, and the female selects. Nature likes winners, not nice guys. That is an ugly truth. And to most people, especially women, ugly truth means false. If you haven't seen Who's a 10, that explains it.

So, you can't get answers from women cuz they won't tell you. And they don't even know why. That's why they say, "Don't ask fish how to catch fish. Ask the fisherman." We know more about women than they know about themselves. So, do women know what they want? Maybe sometimes, but they're usually not going to tell you cuz it makes you look like a little boy. Remember, more public, more secret. What women say they want is not what they respond to. And what they respond to is strength. How do you get strength? Well, I'm telling you right here, look as good as you can. Be capable. Be confident. This stuff can make up for looks. I'll say it again: It's not about being evil. Women are attracted to strong, and they're disgusted by weak. They want Prince Charming, but they will take the bad boy over any wimp, no matter how nice. And you need to make sure that you are not down here calling yourself nice for being obedient to women. They hate that. You cannot nice your way into attraction. Listen to this girl one more time. She's not saying "I want a felon." She's saying felons are trouble, which is bad, but they're still better than nice wimps. I am so fed up of lowering my standards because I think, "Oh my god, I'm going to give this guy a chance. He might actually be nice." She wants nice. No, they don't. They never follow through. But they are never strong. This is why I like felons because once you fall in love with a felon and a felon falls in love with you, it's over with. He's obsessed with you. You ain't going nowhere. And that's the good part.

Here's another one. She says the same thing. This is the hottest thing a guy can do. Um, I'm not really into nice guys cuz I like boys. So again, the problem is with language. She said, "I don't like nice guys. I like boys," because we only talk about niceness and not about strength. And what's the worst thing a guy can do? I guess be nice. Be nice. Cuz sometimes if you're too nice, it gives like it's like the ick really, you know, cuz it's like "m Why are you so nice?" Again, the language is terrible. She's saying when a guy tries to pay me for attraction with niceness, it's gross cuz that means no one else wants him, which is weak. Now watch the guy get confused just like you probably are and just like I used to be. "Do you like when guys like degrade you type [ __ ] Is that what you like? Not degrade me but like you know guys like degrade you type [ __ ] Is that what you like? Not degrade me but like you know cuz I feel like not cruelty not degrade me but like you know secret won't say it." If a guy is nice that means he gets no girls and that's like a turnoff. You know what I mean? Yeah, unfortunately. But then I'm on social media like I want a guy that gets no [ __ ] But like that's just not true. So on social media in public I say I want a guy who gets no but it's just not true. On zones three I wrote popular. I should have made that bigger. And that includes popularity with women. He's going to pick me one day over all the other girls who find him attractive, which is in itself attractive.

So, that's rule number one about how to get strength. It's not about being mean. It's about being strong enough to get away with being mean. I'm not going to go over all these again. I did that in self-maximize one. Just rewatch it. Rule number two is look good. Be fit, get dressed, haircut, smell nice. You know the drill. Rule number three is be impressive. Get good at things that impress women. She has to think you're amazing. Not nice, but like, "Oh my god, he's so cool. You don't see a guy like that every day." So, not like a Rubik's cube, more like double alpha. Oh my god, he's so rich. He's so tall. Look at his muscles. Impressive. Girls like musicians. They like motorcycles. They like I don't know. Some girls might like Rubik's Cube. You can hang on to those. Different girls like different stuff. Get good at the stuff you want to be liked for. And remember, do as much of this as possible. So, I don't mean just like build a really cool birdhouse. You should also be strong and tough and smart and fun. And you need social status. That's an important one. You should have power over others. You should be popular. They should respect you. Do as much of this as you can. And when you get any of these, it helps you get more of them. If you get some, you can use it to get more. Number four is show off. Let women observe you being impressive just like nature. I have a large audience. Some of them are women. Some of them are impressed. Trust me, it works. Number five is look for the hanky drop. Women used to wear these big ridiculous dresses, and then they would drop a handkerchief and they'd go, "Oh my goodness, I need a strapping young man to help me." And it's [ __ ] She could get it herself. She just wants you to look at her. The hanky drop comes in many forms. It could be a smile out of nowhere, asking for help with something easy, looking at you too long or several times in a row. One time I got a lot of extra food at the farmers market. But it's always like a reason to look at her. And then, well, now that you're looking at me, what else do you have going on? Number six is be confident. That means believing that you're likable. Once a woman shows up, you cannot say, "Why would anyone like me?" You have to say, "Of course you like me, and you're lucky you saw me first. Get in the car." I could do a whole video on confidence. I probably will. But if you believe something bad, like, "I must be unlikable about yourself," it comes from your experiences. Here, there's you, there's a girl, she didn't like you, and so you think, "I must be unlikable." To fix that, you have to believe someone else might like you and then find someone who does. And when she does, now you have proof, and now you can believe, "I guess I am likable to some people." I used to think I was weak. Every little boy looks up to his father. And my father used to call me a weakling. So I said, "I guess I'm a weakling." And it wasn't until I was 23 that I said, "Well, I could try lifting weights and see what happens." And then it worked, and I got all huge, and I said, "I guess I can be strong." Your confidence is built from your successes. And to get successes, you have to believe you can have them and then go out in the world and find one.

Rule number seven, be a safe place. This is the last one, and it's the big one. This is where you really need to understand what the sword is and why you need it. The sword is safety. They tell you it's danger. They say swords are dangerous. We need to take them away from you. and your job is to tell them to shut up and go to hell. You never give up your power. This is true even if you're in love. If you're in a relationship and she does this to you, you give up the woman before you give up the power. She's going to test you. They all do it. She's going to scream and cry and call you names, and if you get a bad one, she might use threats. That's I got some stories, man. And listen to me really careful. Sometimes I say things that are generally true, like statistically speaking, women are this is 100% of the time, you never give up your power. You use it in ways that make her happy. That's that's the good guy stuff. That's strong thing, nice thing, but you never give her the keys. She's going to tell you, "Give up your power or you can't have me." And that is a test. You can have power in a woman. You can have power and no woman. You can have no power, no woman. But you can't have no power and a woman. Even if she's still there, you don't have her if you don't have power. Ask all the married men who are lonely. This is Samson and Delilah from the Bible. You don't have to believe in magic. I'm not selling you Christianity, but the Bible is full of wisdom. Just listen. Samson is superhuman. He's like Hercules. And Delilah gets paid by Samson's enemies to seduce him. And she says, "Don't worry. I love you. You can trust me. Where does your strength come from?" And he says, "It's my hair." So Delilah waits for Samson to fall asleep, cuts his hair off. And then his enemies capture him and rip his eyeballs out, and he dies. I'm not saying don't ever trust women with anything. I let my last girlfriend drive my car. I'm just saying they will ask you to give up your power. And when you give up your power, they don't like you anymore. And then you lose everything. Because power is how you create safety. You point your sword this way. And then this is where it's safe. It's how you cut a path through reality for her to walk safely. And when she says, "Give me your power," that's like saying, "Let me go first." And if you do, she doesn't like it. So that's all a little abstract. You have to have power and keep it. But what does that mean? Well, unfortunately, it all comes down to this. This is how animals have power in nature. Humans are more complex. We talk, we trade, we negotiate, we make rules, we enforce them. But when those things don't work, this comes back. We still have war, physical conflict. So when I say take the sword pill, what I mean is you need to be sure of yourself in everything you do. Even physically, you can be huge and know how to fight. You can exercise your rights if you live in a country that has them. Being quick-witted is a form of power. Being a good speaker, you can control people with words. Women do it all the time. Musicians control people with emotions. Or you can just be the boss. Remember Tony Soprano? Not exactly a playgirl model, but very hot to her. This girl thinks this guy is hotter than you cuz he has power. And if you're a mob boss, what that means is I can make things happen. Most people rely on the police for safety. And it's good that we have them. But that doesn't mean you get to be a weenie. You can't say, "I don't need to be strong. Someone else will do it for me." Cuz the girls will just go find him. So, you can see why the sword is such a big secret and why women don't talk about it. Because it doesn't mean just have money or be good at juggling. It means that whatever you're good at and whatever you have is backed up by "I can make things happen." I once referred to this as having violence in the heart. It means you have to be scary, but in a good way. And people have a hard time holding both of those thoughts at once. They say, "But but but but but but scary means bad. You could do something wrong." But heroes are scary. They scare bad guys. That's where our disgusting language comes from. Nice is weak, strong is bad. You can't be both. Just one or the other. So violence in the heart does not mean violence in the street. It means you can do bad things, but you won't. Jordan Peterson explained this once with another Bible quote, "The meek shall inherit the earth." What he explained was that the word meek was translated poorly. It doesn't mean wimp. It means men who can [ __ ] [ __ ] up, but they don't use their power for evil. They use it to create safety. Meek doesn't mean no sword. It means uses the sword for good. It means hero. That makes a little more sense, doesn't it? The heroes shall inherit the earth. Oh, the Bible makes sense if you know what it says. Here, let me open up Proverbs. "Be not envious of evil men, nor desire to be with them, for their hearts devise violence, and their lips talk of trouble. By wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established. By knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches. A wise man is full of strength and a man of knowledge enhances his might." It's all in here. It's a user manual for being human. And that's why saying bad boys and good guys is so stupid. You can't be good if you're not strong. Just a nice wimp or a weak jerk. So, you have to make being strong a central part of your life. And when you do, people will be able to tell. It radiates off of you. I know I might not sound like it, but I'm very good at this part. People used to stop me in the middle of a conversation and say, you know, "you're a commanding personality." And I'd go, "Mhm." And they'd say, "Well, that didn't help." I didn't do anything wrong. I just feel serious sometimes. One time I was walking down the street getting a little sun, and someone stood in front of me and said, "I need you to donate to a social issue." And it was a sensitive one. It was one of the things you can get yelled at for, but I didn't like it. So I said, "I feel the opposite way." And the guy goes, "Oh, damn." And I turn around, and I saw him standing there with two friends pointing at me and shrugging like, "That guy doesn't like the thing. Do we do something?" They didn't. Another time I was sitting with a girl having coffee, and a homeless guy started saying obscene things to her. So I told him to stand back, and we left, and I told her how I felt about him, and she said, "Well, I'm glad you didn't hurt him, but at least you wanted to." She liked it a lot. She was very sick of wimps. I have other stories I don't want to share. Just imagine them. But the point was there was a time before I was assertive and a time after. and the time after was way better.

So, we live in a stupid culture that says strong is bad and weak is nice. So, I get accused of being bad a lot cuz it's easy to tell when I'm angry. But, I'm angry at bad things, which is what makes me good. And I don't act on that unless I have to, which is what makes me meek. When a problem shows up, I'm not afraid to demonstrate resistance. And a lot of modern men are afraid. Why are they afraid? Because they could lose. Why are they afraid to lose? Cuz they don't have confidence in their strength. So go stand up for yourself until you feel like a winner. That is the secret that all women want. Because if you're not strong, she's not safe. That's why this picture upset people. It depicts safety and strength at the same time. And in our culture, people cannot see both at once. It's either or. It isn't nice, so it must be bad.

So, these are the seven rules. I made a worksheet. You can buy it on my Patreon. I'll give it to members for free in a week or so. And bonus rule number eight is keep going until you die. You don't get to quit being strong. You don't get to say, "I did something cool two years ago." If you don't keep doing it, she doesn't keep liking you. You get married, and she says, "Stop doing the things that made me like you." And you go, "Okay, what do you want me to do?" And she tells you, and you obey her. And then she feels chained to a loser who has to pay for attraction. And if eight steps are too much to remember, just remember strong thing, nice thing. Someone always tells me, "No matter what I do, women will never like me." That's probably not true. Remember this guy? Not a model. Personally, I'm only a little above average. I'm 5'11. I'm not a model either. Before I put in the work, I lived my whole life right here. I started trying. I shot up here, and I stayed for like 12 years. I still get benefits. I just say the right thing. And women go, "Oh, not a wimp. Refreshing." So, most of you are here. That's just how math works. Chances are high that you can cross this line with effort. So, figure out what to do. Ask yourself, "Does it give me more of any of these things? Does it make me more confident in those things?" Thank you for listening. Good luck on your travels. It's dangerous to go alone. Take this with you.

After I finished editing this video, somebody sent me this, and I had to include it. Look at what's happening. His wife selects an apple, determines that it is good enough, and puts it in the bag. He takes it out while she's not looking, offers it to her. She inspects it and puts it back. She thought the apple was good the first time, but she doesn't like it when he offers it. She cannot even see the apple. The only thing she sees is her disgust that he's asking her permission to buy an apple. Ew. And they're never going to tell you. Secret.