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If you ever felt like the law of attraction is too woo-woo and out there, or if you do believe it but you feel exhausted trying to do everything right, then this is the video for you. A lot of messages out there make manifestation seem like a magical ritual. But at its core, it's really just identity, mindset, and getting out of your own way. In this video, I'm going to talk about three paradoxes of the law of attraction, law of assumption, whatever you want to call it, that helped me practice and understand it in a more practical, healthy, and grounded way. And these aren't just spiritual concepts, they're practical mindset shifts. And I especially think that the second and third one will be game changers for you.
First things first, since a lot of you guys found this channel very recently, I just want to take a quick minute to talk about where I want to take this channel. And if you don't want to hear this, then feel free to skip to the next section. I am really overwhelmed by the response that the last video received and by all of your comments. I'm very grateful that the message resonated. So, thank you for being here.
With that said, I know that the topic of LOA, law of attraction, law of assumption is very popular on this platform, and I know that a lot of you guys found me through this. However, I just want to make it clear that this is not going to be a pure LOA channel because at the end of the day, the law is the law is the law, and the principles are all the same. The key is not to consume endlessly, but to really put what you learn into practice. Ultimately, I want to use this channel as more of an open journal, as I say in my bio, and I want to talk about various things like mental health, personal development, share books with you guys that I like, um, general life reflections. And I already know this is probably not going to be good for the algorithm, but this is the plan for now. And I do hope you guys stick around. And if you don't think this is what you signed up for, then that's totally fine, too.
I'm sure you've heard of this paradox so much. The more you can allow yourself to detach from something, the more you can allow it into your life. The way I think about detachment is two things. So first, it's not needing an outcome to happen in order to feel okay. So you don't have to feel happy, but you are emotionally independent from the thing happening. And secondly, if that thing is not happening, you don't feel the need to force or control outcomes. So for me, it's a combination of those two things.
And let me give you a personal example of what detachment does not look like. The reason it took me so long to make another video was that I got very attached to outcomes, and my fears got the best of me. People were saying, "Hey, can you keep making videos like this?" And my mental dialogue started going, "Will I be able to make something that resonates like that again? And will I disappoint people?" I tried shooting this video three times because every time I sat down to try and edit it, I just started nitpicking everything, and nothing felt good enough. So suddenly I was not creating from a place of flow anymore, but from fear. And that's attachment. Trying to force something, trying to prove something, trying to protect yourself from something. Attachment can really choke whatever it is you want to bring into your life, whether that's a goal, a project, a relationship, a connection, whatever it is, anything.
But then I remembered when I did have an energy of detachment. And so my last video, the one that gained traction, it was sitting at like 50 views at most after 5 days. And for context, that video idea about the bridge of incidents had been sitting in my brain for over a year. So when I made that video, it really did feel like stuff was just flowing out of me. Like I didn't really have to think about what I was saying. Even though that video had virtually no views, I remember feeling just relieved because I finally made it, and it's out there, and whatever happens, happens. I was detached.
However, my goal is still to grow on this platform. And I had to be very honest with myself and ask, what would I be doing if I were really serious about this? And so, after that 5 days, I sat down and I made a list of 20 plus video ideas, and I started writing the outlines for them. I decided that I was going to commit to the process and not the outcome, no matter how long it took to get monetized because that was my original goal. And I think that's what detachment from the outcome really looks like. It's you just keep doing the thing and you keep being the person because the person who wants to do this long term would be planning for the long term, right?
Florence Golshin refers to this as digging your ditches, which basically just means that you build your life in a way that makes room for what you want to receive. Some people said, "Oh, maybe you manifested 100k views or whatever, right?" And maybe I did. But here's the thing. Manifestation is not trying to manipulate the YouTube algorithm with your affirmations. It's not about trying to control outcomes. You're never trying to control or change what's out there. You're just trying to change what's in here and then seeing it reflected back to you. Making a shift at the identity level. It's also not about should I take action or should I not take action. That's a very simplistic way of looking at things. It's you're asking yourself, would the person I want to embody be taking this action? And sometimes it is just setting a clear intention and moving on with your life. But that's a judgment that you have to make for yourself. Like you can't go around asking people, should I do this, should I do that? Because if you're honest with yourself, you know.
I'm certain you guys have heard of this book called Atomic Habits. It's a book about productivity and changing your habits. The very first chapter in that book talks about how you can only change your habits if you also change at the identity level too. This is what I mean when I say the law of attraction is not this siloed woo-woo thing because you can find a lot of the fundamental principles in various fields.
This is probably the most important part of this video. Something we're always told is that when we have a negative thought that we should flip it, right? We should flip it to the positive. We should affirm the positive because positive thoughts create positive realities, and that is true. However, if you are currently triggered by something in your life right now and you feel the emotions start to come up in your body because emotions always show up first somewhere in your body, and you start to notice thoughts pop up in your head in that moment, the more you try to push away or push down all of that, the more stuck it's going to become and get within you. Because it's very simple. Whatever you resist persists. So, think about a beach ball, right? A beach ball that's inflated with air. The more you try to push it down into the water, the harder it's going to pop back up at you.
I want to say feel your emotions and let yourself have those thoughts for now. And I know you're worried that your negative thoughts are going to manifest, right? The way I think about negative thoughts is this. So, the average human has over 60,000 thoughts every single day. Every single one of us, whether you know it or not. So, thoughts themselves don't always have real power. Thought is kind of like a manifestation in itself in that it's a byproduct of your identity and beliefs, right? So, it's like a circumstance. So, if you're reacting in a panicked way to a thought that comes up, it's like you're reacting to a bad circumstance, as people like to say. So, if you have a negative thought and your immediate reaction is to panic and think, "Please go over there. I don't want you here. Let me affirm this away," you're actually giving it more power by resisting it. But if you just let the thought pass by, it's going to lose its grip on you. It's the fear and resistance around the thought that charges it. And then when you're no longer reacting from a place of fear, resistance, or panic, then you can shift your focus onto the more positive stuff, right? Or whatever you want to focus on from a place of neutrality and non-resistance.
Think about the premise of meditation, right? Meditation is not about having no thought. It's not about pushing away thoughts. Meditation is allowing your thoughts to be as they are. Noticing them without judgment and letting them float away on their own.
One thing I really try to do in my life right now is think of everything as just is. And what I mean by that is I try not to put a label of this is good or this is bad onto anything that's happening. And this is not some toxic positivity thing where I think of everything as good, but it's more that I don't know what the thing that's happening in front of me will mean for the future.
For me, the last couple of years really tested me in a lot of ways. And during that time, I would have thoughts like, well, why can't I just affirm this away? And the answer is that was my bridge of incidence because if I hadn't gone through a lot of that, I would not have faced a lot of my insecurities, attachments, fears, and thus gained some of the emotional maturity and I would say resilience that allows me to have things I have now. And for example, this channel also does not exist if I hadn't gone through that period of my life, full stop. And I'm not saying that you always have to suffer in order to get what you want or that you have to go through the ringer anytime you want to level up in life. But what I am saying is that I do have a very deep sense of gratitude for the experiences that I've had and the seasons that I've had, as cliche as that sounds. And I know a lot of rhetoric out there says to ignore what's in front of you, right? Ignore your reality. But for me, the more I accepted what was in front of me, not in a defeatist way, but in a non-resistant way, the more change I was able to see. And also, it's just a more sustainable way of living life. So, I want you to ask yourself, has there been a time where the place you didn't want to be, the place you desperately tried to escape from actually led you to where you needed to be? Because I'm sure there has. So, can you allow yourself to give wherever you are right now gratitude and surrender, even if it's just a smidge?
I'm going to end this video on a little bit of a rant because I think it's important. Sometimes I feel like the more you learn about this, the more lost you get. And you have to really remind yourself that again, manifestation is not a switch that you turn on and off. It's not some magic potion. It's something that you do every day of your life. So don't let people on the internet, including me, convince you that you don't know how to do something that you already know how to do. When you feel stuck, think about how you brought things into your life before you knew about all this. Think about where your state of being was, where your mindset was when something significant happened in your life. I know a lot of people come into this thinking it's about controlling, but that's not what this is about because the true magic always happens when you can become detached and become this non-needy state of being. So yes, I made a video about instant manifestation. But the entire point of that video is about allowing things to come to you on their own time in their own way. And meanwhile, you get to enjoy the unfolding.
And I know this might trigger some people, but I have to say it. And it's that knowing about LOA does not mean life will not happen to you again. It does not mean that you're never going to get a paper cut again. You're never going to get into an argument with someone again. It does not mean that you're never going to face challenges in your life again. Life is still going to happen, and you are still going to have to face it. It's about who you are being when you're in front of that. Again, thank you for being here. Thank you for watching this video. Let me know if it resonates. I make videos like this not because I have everything figured out. I very much do not. It's that I've had to learn a lot of things the very hard way. And I want to help people not do.