How To Make Them See You as a Wife

Hey y'all, sprinkle sprinkle, welcome. All right, so what are we talking about today? All right, we are talking about how to make them see you as a wife. Okay. Now, some of y'all ain't gonna like what I got to say because y'all don't want to do what it takes to be seen as a wife, cuz y'all are done. But we're going to help y'all, and we're going to teach you. Sprinkle sprinkle. I know that was rude; I'm sorry. We're just going to help you get more educated on how to be seen as a wife. All right.

First of all, you cannot be jealous; that's number one. You got to have self-esteem, so check that off your list. And if you ain't got some, go get some; that's number one. You got to have self-esteem, okay? Because not only are you going to be someone's wife, but you're going to be the future mother of their children. Just think about that. Let me go get my water while y'all sit in. Okay, think about you to be the future mother. So if you don't, if you're not acting like no future mother of somebody's kids, you're not gonna be seen as his wife. All right. It's all about how you carry yourself, how you speak, the bad habits you don't have. All right. It's easier to make somebody a wife when they don't have all these disgusting bad habits that a mother shouldn't have, or a wife, or someone that's going to meet their family or represent them out in the real world. All right. So if you, you know, I don't care how you feel, this is just the truth; this is just the truth. You gotta fix yourself first, especially if the man you're marrying, especially if he's a provider, especially if he has a good reputation, especially this, especially, especially if that's what you want. You don't want no loser, so you can't be a loser. You don't want somebody that's not father material, so you got to not—so you have to be mother material. Okay. So get rid of all the disgusting bad habits that you have. If you smoke weed every day, you know, if you're always cursing and drinking, get rid of that. Don't do that because that's not nobody's wife, future wife. Okay, that's somebody's future… pro. Get rid of all your disgusting habits; that's number one. And have some self-confidence about yourself and don't be the jealous type. Have some business about yourself; that means have a hobby, have something you like to do so you don't always nag him just, you know, to be your emotional support animal. Okay. If you want to be seen as a wife, stop doing stuff that nobody wants as a quality in a wife. Nobody I know is like, "Oh yeah, I want someone that cusses, swears, smokes weed, and drinks." That's not nobody's wife. That that might be somebody's side chick, that might be somebody's jump-off, one-night stand, or somebody that somebody gets led along, or somebody's situationship. That's not nobody's wife. Okay, wives represent. Okay, a wife's got to look good on your arm in every situation, so why can't embarrass you either. So if you look like an embarrassment, if you look like, "Who did it and why?" You coming out the house looking crazy. If you have terrible habits, wife and mother are not in your future with certain types of men. All right. So you got to fix yourself before anybody can consider you marriage material. So look in the mirror and say, "Do I look like somebody's wife or somebody's side chick? Or do I look like somebody's situationship? Or do I look like somebody's one-night stand?" Do I act—then ask yourself, "Do you act like somebody's wife or somebody's situationship or somebody's one-night stand?" Do you represent the type of man you want to even marry? Are they going to be embarrassed of you? So if the answer is, "Well, I got to work on myself to become any type of wife material," yes, you do. There are certain types of women where men see them and they say, "Oh, that's wifey; that's wifey right there. I can take her home; I can take her home to meet the family. She's respectable; she doesn't have any bad habits; she's going to make a good mother; I think my family will like her." That is what men are attracted to when they are looking for a wife. Now, it doesn't mean that you have to be perfect. What it means is you have to represent, and you can't be terrible. You can't be somebody's project; you can't be somebody's, you know, you can't be in struggle mode and and struggling with addiction and looking crazy and, you know, cursing all the time. You can't be that; that's not a wife. Okay. So you got to be someone that can take to the company dinner or the company party, Christmas party. You gotta be someone that their mom is not gonna cringe when you walk through the door. You know, you gotta be somebody their sister can probably get along with, or at least look like they can get along with, or at least look like y'all got something in common. You got to look like the type of woman that's going to make a good mother and have decent morals for bringing up children. Okay, that's what you got to look like; that's what you got to represent; that's what you got to give. You can't give out ratchet vibes; you can't give out, you know, "I don't care" and jealous, low self-esteem, and "I need a man to make me happy" vibes. No, you need to be a strong pillar of a woman to be in a marriage, not a Barb of the Builder, but you got to stand on your own emotionally and not need them for every single thing emotionally. Thank you, Miss Lena.

What if you have a bad past? Can you still be wifey? But remaking yourself. Not everybody knows your past unless you tell them about it. And if you make a lot of changes and improve yourself and everyone sees it, then yes, you could be seen as wife material. A lot of women have done that; a lot of women have changed their ways; a lot of them you could see on TV and became someone's wife. All you got to do is change your ways because nobody wants to marry you in a state, you know, of destruction. Thank you, Miss… the glow-up. Not to J. Sprinkle sprinkle. Appreciate you. Not everyone knows your past; not everyone cares about your past. What are you doing now? What are you doing in your future? What are you representing now? Okay. You said the rapper Eve married a billionaire. Exactly. Pay notes to gram, the rapper Eve, exactly. Anybody can change; anybody can class up; anybody can get wifed up, but you got to change yourself. Okay. Because think about this: Even if you, you, we're not changing for men; we're not changing to be wifed; we're changing for ourselves because we, we love and respect ourselves. And you know, if you want children, you got to be the type of mother that they're going to look up to and not, you know, not want to be around or be like. You know, there are bad mothers out there; I've seen them. There are good mothers; there are bad mothers; there's good fathers and bad fathers. I've seen them, and I'm not judging any of them. All I'm saying is that usually when people choose their spouse, they're choosing also if they're going to make a good parent or not. So you also got to keep that in mind. If you already have kids, they're also going to see how you treat your own kids; they're also going to look at that. Do you throw them in daycare? Do you throw them in the babysitter all the time so you can go clubbing? Do you leave them with strangers a lot? I mean, they're not going to want you to have their kids if they're just, you know, not tending to yours, especially if they're dating you for a while and you're putting them first. That's not maternal. So most of the time, they're not going to wife you because, you know, that's not it. Thank you, Miss Lena. He found out about your past from other people but still with me. I definitely changed the way I am, interest. Okay. Um, well, sometimes men do feel like if you've changed, you know, they can probably, uh, see that you've changed. You got to make sure that they know that you've changed and start doing things on a whole another level, like on a whole another level. That way it's obvious to anyone who is looking for a wife. Okay. So from, from the outside, you got to look like a wife to other men too. You got to look like the type of woman that they would marry as well, not just one but all. So think about that. If you walk out of your house and you're in a relationship with a man and you look like the perfect type of wife, they already know. If you step out of the house, if someone is serious that they're going to take you seriously because you are serious wife material, so they're going to snatch it up; they're going to snatch you up quick. Okay. If they don't snatch you up quick, they already know. If you leave them, someone else is going to snatch you up and probably put a ring on it fast. You need to be very, um, representative of the wife type if you're trying to get married. Thank you, Claire 45. Can't meet no decent dude. You look after yourself, help. Okay, we're not—okay. Thank you, Miss Player. Sprinkle sprinkle. Well, we're not, we're not looking for them; they're looking for us. And if you're 45, you need to be dealing with older men that are looking for younger women. Okay. So, uh, there's older men out there looking for 45-year-olds because y'all are young to them. You need to go find the older guys with the money. Sprinkle sprinkle. Because older guys don't like—they don't want to date someone so, so young or younger than their own children half the time. So you're, you still have a place to meet rich men; you still have a, you know, you still have the opportunity to become someone's wife. You just have to understand that the age is going to have to be a little bit older. Okay. Sprinkle sprinkle. Yes, y'all missed me. Yeah, I've been gone for like a whole week. I was on spring break with my kids, and it was my birthday. Thank y'all everybody, um, putting out on the, uh, Cash App and playing, um, happy birthday messages to me and sending me birthday gifts from my wish list. I made a little short video for y'all, um, to thank all of y'all for my presents, my, my little gifts that y'all had sent me, um, and hold on, let me see, see if I can find it. Oh dear, I made a little video. I, I can't find it right now. Either way, but I received all of your gifts. Thank you so much. I, I'll probably make a short video, like a short—I just think the gifts that I got after, um, last week. Sprinkle sprinkle. Okay. And you also have to be understanding. Let's, let's talk about this. You got to be understanding, like you can't get mad at every single little stupid thing that's going to happen in life. Because if you're locked into a marriage and you keep going off on stupid, dumb stuff that don't even matter, they're not going to want to be locked in a marriage with you. So if you can't control your emotions, if you can't control your temper, if you're not very logical as a person with common sense, ain't nobody gonna want to marry you, period. Sprinkle sprinkle. They might, they might think you're exciting; they might date you so they can hurry up and leave; they might, you know, they might mess with you, you know, every once in a while, but they're not going to want you to be in a relationship, let alone a marriage, let alone handling kids if you can't control your emotions, period. If you make stupid, dumb decisions and do stupid stuff, they're not going to see you as no wife; they're going to see you as, "Oh my gosh, this person is dumb, stupid, uncontrollable, obsessed." So they're not going to make you wife. Wife is calm, cool, and collected. Wife plays chess, not checkers, baby. Wife knows how to control her emotions. Wife only gets results. You got to clock that. Okay. Yes, we can be mad; yes, we can get angry sometimes, but it's not going to be every time. We're gonna, we're gonna, we're going to pick and choose what's more important. We're going to save stuff to when it's necessary. We're going to play chess, not trigger. We're not getting ready to act like no child; we're grown women. Okay. So in order to be seen as someone's wife, you got to have control of your emotions. You can't be jealous; you can't, you know, need him all the time emotionally. You got to have yourself emotionally; you got to have self-respect; you got to have self-esteem; you got to have patience with your, with it, whatever, because you, if they see you as a mother with no patience and can't control her emotions, what kind of mother are you going to be? Thank you, mro. Sprinkle sprinkle. So you need to understand this: You need to, to, to appeal to someone's wife, you need to seem like someone's perfect mother. You literally need to seem like a fairy, a fairy godmother, princess. Literally, you, you need to be like, literally ethereal. I mean, you could still look sexy and cute and stuff, but your personality, your mentality, your patience, that has to literally be ethereal. Even if you're faking it, okay? Even if, if it's just a facade in order to get the ring, that's what men are looking for—someone that seems like, "Okay, this is, this is going to be the wife that's going to give me the type of family I want, respect me the way I want, be logical and not be crazy about everything. You know, I'm gonna have a, you know, a happy life." They seem fun; they seem interesting; they seem like they have their own thing going; they're not going to need me all the time, nagging me; they know how to, you know, control their emotions, so they're not going to be scared to go take that plunge with you. They're not going to be scared to get out on one knee and ask you to marry them because they don't feel like you're going to cause any chaos in their future and that you're going to make a good mother. And also, if they have the money, of course, to afford the type of lifestyle that you desire, and they know that you can go and get it elsewhere, that's why I say it's important to look like you got options because that'll make them want to wife you up faster if they know if they miss out that someone else is going to wife you up quick because you are wife material. He said men like… okay, s says men like spending when you meet but they move too fast physically, waste holding. How can I get them to keep spending while physically distant? Okay. Sprinkle sprinkle. Um, men are visual creatures; they're more animalistic than women; they're more sexually oriented than women are. So let me tell y'all, they're not like women. Women, they don't have to touch you; women, they don't have to do nothing; they don't have to have their hands on you, you know, they can say some nice words and give a compliment and smile and look at your eye. Okay, men are touchy-feely; men like to feel like they have a woman; men are more animalistic when it comes to those types of urges. Okay, that's just how it is. So if you don't want them touching on you, what you need to tell them is that it's a turnoff because the last thing they want to do is turn you off. Okay, that's the last thing they want to do. You need to tell them that certain other things are turn-ons to you that have nothing to do with touching. So you need to tell them. Men that are too handsy, especially in the first, such and such weeks or months, is a total turnoff to me. What's sexy to me is blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. It turns me on so much. So you need to set that clear in the beginning because if their only mission is to get you in the bed, or if one of their missions is to get you in the bed, they're going to understand that they're getting further and further away from it the more that they touch you if that's a turnoff to you. So you need to give them a something turns you on instead. So for example, you can say, "You know what turns me on, you know, whispering something in my ear," or, "You know what else turns me on, uh, flowers and just this, this, and that," like something that's not physical, you know. So you need to tell them that, and you need to say it in a sultry voice so that they believe it. Sprinkle sprinkle.

You said, "What if your soulmate is married?" Ma'am, we don't believe in soulmates. Sprinkle sprinkle. That's, that's that stuff that people say that don't got no options. Okay, look, we don't believe in that over here; that's just literally a term of endearment. What if your soulmate is already dead? What if your soulmate dies tomorrow? What if your soulmate's on the other side of the world? What if your soulmate don't even speak English? What makes you think your soulmate is right, right here in your same city? And I keep asking y'all, why do y'all do this to yourselves? Because I think people need to be wanted or needed so bad that think there's a special person out there made just for them. Okay, well, if y'all believe in that, great, keep searching for them. And when they end up not being your soulmate and you still looking for them, then you'll come back to this channel. All right. You live with your provider but you're too emotional. Advice: Have another one on the side or have an emotional support animal or get a hobby or do stuff, get out of being so emotionally attached. It's a sign of insecurity, and it's also a sign that you don't have enough to do on your own. You need to have some business about yourself. Go find a hobby; go join something; go, go to the gym; go shopping with your bestie; go do something. Stop being emotionally dependent on somebody so much because it's—let me tell y'all something—it's literally draining, and people get sick of it real fast. Okay. So go do something else. The point is to make him chase you and still want you and and also to miss you. How's he gonna miss you if you're always all up under him, emotionally draining him? Girl, go find some business. Okay, anything; it doesn't even matter. Even if you got to go scrapbook or something, go do something. Okay, get up from under them men; that's why they get so tired and go look for something else, 'cause it's too much. You said your family's your soulmate. Well, the, the thing is, if whatever y'all believe in, if it keeps you going, keep, keep it going. Okay, if it's not beneficial, then don't believe in it. Sprinkle sprinkle. That's all I tell people: If it ain't helping you out, find another perspective. Okay. He says your soulmate is money, Lizzy. Y'all are silly. How to deal with petty men that are vengeful? Deal with another man who's gonna be a beneficial man. Sprinkle sprinkle. Like, just ignore them 100%. Ignore them; act like they don't exist. You act like they don't exist. They don't—just deal with somebody else that exists a little bit more on your level. Okay, ignore them; just totally ignore. It's like, okay, well, you know, they're obsessed. You know, think about it this way: If you were them, you'd be obsessed over you too, right? That's how you know you left your mark. That's how you know you're wonderful; that's how you know you're the prize. If a man is still taking time out his day to think about you and do all this extra stuff, you know you're the one. So let it boost your self-esteem, man. Sprinkle sprinkle. Okay. Thoughts on separated men, married men, still married. You know, um, someone asked me this question yesterday or the day before: "Is he ever going to leave his wife?" They said they're separated, but he just, you know, whatever. Look, maybe the wife kicked them out, and they're trying to get back in, but in the meantime, they're just going to date until the wife lets them back in. Sometimes that's the problem, sometimes the—because men usually don't separate from wives; wives separate from men, and men are always trying to get back in because it's cheaper to keep her. But in the meantime, they have some freedom to go date, so that's where the women come in. So when a man tells you he's separated, most likely he's trying to get back in the house with the wife. Oh, Style by Max. Sprinkle sprinkle. He told me he was taking back the gift he got me because I was out. Girl, if you don't, if you never got the gift in your hand, then it just—he ain't never gave you nothing. Sprinkle sprinkle. Okay. If he can't—if you got the gift, you don't have to give it back, ma'am. Just tell them you lost it or you gave it away or you sold it, period. Okay. If he ain't even gave you the gift, you ain't got the gift in the first place. Some men be trying to like control you with stuff that you haven't even gotten yet. It's like, okay, well, take it back; give it to somebody that—somebody else that you know plays your games. You know, if you, if you're desperate for a gift that you haven't even gotten yet and you let some man control you with a gift you haven't even received yet, then that's dumb. Thank you, ZZ. Sprinkle sprinkle. Okay, don't worry about it. Then, as soon as they can't control you, they want you even more. Why? Because they can't control you, then the next time you hear from, you know, he gonna say, "Well, I got your gift; I still got your gift; I still got your gift." They're going to use it to, to try to lure you back in, like, "Oh, really? What would you get me?" I forgot. Like, act like it ain't no big deal, baby. Like you can get gifts anywhere. Is he the only one that's can give you a gift? Is he trying to control you with a gift that you haven't even got yet? Come on, you can get gifts from anybody. If you can get a gift from him that you haven't even gotten. Sprinkle sprinkle. All right, that's like some—that's like somebody calling me and saying, "If you don't stop doing A, B, C, and D, I'm not going to give you the car I just bought you." Okay, I mean, like, like, word, I haven't driven it; my name ain't on the title, so it ain't mine anyway. Do what you got to do, and who knows if they're lying or not. Uhuh. You said, "Am I sometimes sad?" Yes, every time I hear a Michael Jackson song, I get's broken. Be like, "Man, this…" I be getting sad sometimes. Prince too, I be—you will—I be getting sad when I hear Prince or Mike sometimes, like, "Dang, all the good music is gone; all the good musicians gone. All we got now is mumble rappers and ratchet rappers, people trying to sound like Mike and… BR." Okay, that's all we got; we got dupes, dupes and ratchets. So I do get a little bit sad sometimes, but then I just go listen to the music and remember the good times. Sprinkle sprinkle. You say you get mad, you get sad, you hear Whitney to… mon. Yes, luckily I got all their albums on vinyl, and I listen to them at any time. My record player. Oh, the peach is in the house, girl. Sprank sprinkle. Where is this jacket from? Please. I bought this at a little boutique by my house called Love Always Boutique. They have a little section in Saks as well. If y'all are in Houston, you—they have little, little rack at Saks as well. But if you're like, you know, have little Love Always Bo cheeks everywhere, and they sell like cute clothes and stuff there, and I got this jacket last week before I went on vacation. I didn't take it on vacation because I didn't think I would need it on vacation, but now I'm rocking it. I'm back. I bought a lot of clothes from there. I need to wear some of them. Like, sometimes I be forgetting I buy stuff, and I don't wear it. I got stuff to wear. I got to make sure I incorporate a lot of the clothes in my outfits. Sometimes I'll just wear the same stuff. I forgot that I have new stuff. Thank you. Tell them she 7even sent you. If you find a boutique, there's one in Katy, yeah, VI in Texas. I know there might be one in the Woodlands too. Okay, they might be different locations. [Music] Um, all right, all right, all right. So wife—how to make them see you as a wife. Okay. If you're not—if you're in a type of relationship where you're not afraid to tell them about themselves, you know, they may see you as a voice of reason. Sometimes also, like when you're out in public and people already assume that you're married or call you husband and wife or whatever, whatever, he starts to see you more as wife material if everyone else does. You know what I'm saying? So for example, if you're out for dinner and you're dressed very appropriate and nice and he's dressed very nice, most people will say, "Oh, okay, well, your wife, your wife better." But if y'all are dressed ratchet, you got on some bodycon with half your cleavage hanging out and you, you know, makeup looking like, "Who did it and why?" You know, I'm not, I'm not trying to be mean, but you know, some people just don't look like somebody's wife; they just look like somebody's, you know, side chick or woman for the day. They're not going to associate certain women with wives. You know what I mean? Because they don't look like a wife; they don't dress like a wife. So they automatically mentally just going to assume that's your girlfriend, 'cause who would marry her? That's literally it. Like when people walk into a restaurant, the hostess usually does this: The hostess will say, "Oh, table for two. Okay, you and your wife look lovely this evening. Are y'all celebrating anything?" If y'all look like man and wife, but if you look like ratchet and, you know, dusty, or if you look like, you know, side chick, whoever, that's what they're—they're not going to say it; they're not going to say wife. But if you look like wife and husband, they're going to say it because they're going to assume it because it's gonna make sense coming out of their mouth, and then it'll start to make more sense with them as the man. So you really got to make sure that when you go out, you're dressed looking like somebody's wife, not somebody's chick, they gotta hide—not someone, you know, ratchet, you know, situationship that they got to take out to eat once a month just to keep it going. You can't look like that; you got to look like everyone is going to assume that you're his wife because a lot of people, they're not going to assume someone is your wife if they don't look like a wife. Okay, dress for the life you want. There you go. Usually when people are coordinated in their choice of outfits, not like corny coordinated like with color matching, but like when everyone's dressed on the same level of respect—when a man has on, you know, like pants and a shirt that buttons and versus t-shirt and shorts—when you go out to eat and a woman is dressed in a nice gown—not a gown, but like a nice dress and like some flats or some heels or whatever, and she's like not hanging out everywhere, they're probably going to assume married couple versus side chick or situationship or baby mama. Okay. Thank you, mango. You're 23, pretty, and accomplished, dealing with a 50-year-old. He asks you—oh, he gives you 200—$2,000. Okay, okay. You haven't touched him; okay, you haven't touched him and would like about three to four and him to connect me with clients for my business. How do I get this? Okay. First of all, you're asking for too much, in my opinion—not money, but for him to also connect you with clients. Which one is it gonna be? You want him or you want his clients? He will naturally connect you with clients eventually if you're patient. You know what I'm saying? He's giving you 2,000 per… me, I don't know how many times you've been with him, but you need to, to come up with a scenario that tells him that you need more, somehow, some way, and see if he'll do it on his own. You know what I'm saying? Because to me, if you—if he's 50-plus and you…

You're 23 and you say, "Okay, I need more than $2,000 every time we meet." And I also want your client. Doesn't seem like you want him at all, at all. So you got to fool him into making you think—him think—that you actually are interested in him more than his clients and more than his money, but the money goes with it. So you have to be like, "Okay, you know what? I really want to spend some more time with you, but it's hard for me because I have to do ABC and D, and $2,000 ain't covering it. But I really want to do something nice and, you know, do this, this, and that with you because it'll be so romantic." And so you gotta have to make it seem like it's about him. And by giving him—you—the money, the extra money, then you can spend more time and energy with him, you see? So that's why—that's what you need to do. And then he'll naturally want to make you happy by introducing you to future clients. Thank you, princess. Sprinkle sprinkle. You look like a wife. But he was married twice. Doesn't seem like he wants to do it again. Okay, well, usually if somebody's married twice, they're gonna marry another time because that's what they're used to, and that's what they eventually get to because that's what they've already done. The pattern is there. They—they're gonna get married to somebody. Sprinkle sprinkle. Now, of course, they say that they don't want to get married, but if they've been married twice, they probably lived most of their adult life as a married person, so they're going to naturally fall back into that, you know? And if they see that you want to get married, they feel like they have to get married if they want to keep you, and they're not afraid of marriage because they've already done it twice. Sprinkle sprinkle. Thank you.

You're a natural extrovert. How can you—how can you still be feminine? Um, I think by toning it down a little bit and making sure that if you're going to be an extrovert, that you do it in a feminine way. Because, um, like I don't know what you mean by being an extrovert as far as like how you act. I don't know if you like drink and become an extrovert. I don't know if you're just laughing at everything and slapping people on the back and joking around. I don't know what kind of extrovert you are, but find a more feminine way to be an extrovert. You know, compliments to other women, like, "Oh my gosh, I love your jacket. It's so pretty. You have to tell me where you got it. Come walk with me. Oh my gosh, is that your husband over there? Wow, you know, y'all make such a great—" Dumb stuff like that, you know? You can be feminine and be an extrovert at the same time. You don't have to be, um, obnoxious with it. There you go. Yeah, if you're talking about being like on a date or talking to a man, you could talk about him, ask him about himself, you know. You know what? You're really a breath of fresh air, and I would love to know more about what you do, like—like what do you do? Like you're so smart, I can't even imagine. You know, wow, impressive. Yeah, here you go. Thank you, Empress. You're learning less is more. Yes. Now let me tell y'all another thing.

After you've been with somebody for a while and like in a relationship, in a marriage, or in a long-term relationship, a lot of times you can't fake it anymore. You can't fake pretending anymore because y'all know the real deal. Y'all know the real people. Okay, let me tell y'all something about knowing the real people. You got to own up to who you really are to make it work. You can't really deny who you really are in a marriage or in a long-term relationship to make it work. And if who you really are in a long-term relationship is not wife material or somebody that you know someone wants to marry, you have to acknowledge it and claim it. Now let me tell you why. Because if you acknowledge it and claim it, they know you already know and that you're not going to change. And if they want you, they got to take you as you are, period. So if they see—see you as somebody that they absolutely want to marry, but you're not going to change certain things, and they already are in a long-term relationship with you, and they already have accepted those things about you, and they already love you, they're not going to care. Okay, but you have to own up to it. You can't deny—you can't be in denial about it because that's a cop-out. Either you accept it—say, "Yeah, I know those are things that I'm working on. I know I'm not the best at this, this is this and that, but you know I try every day, but that's just—you know, that's just what it is"—either accept me as—as I am or don't. And they're not going to throw the whole thing away. They're okay, "Well, she can work on herself a little bit. I guess she's close enough." Okay, but you got to be more than at least 70% wife material. All right. Uh oh, Aaria. Thank you, ma'am, for—for this. Sprinkle sprinkle.

Okay, someone asked about arranged marriage. I don't know nothing about no arranged marriage as long as he got some money and you can spend it. Sprinkle sprinkle. Is it possible to make him feel wanted without touch? Yes, you can do it on the phone. Text him on the phone. Tell him how—how you miss him, how he's nice, and all this kind of stuff on the phone. If he gets in public with you, think about this: that man been waiting to touch you since ever. You on the phone. Okay, so you got to tell them it's a turnoff. It's like, you know, it's such a turnoff when men try to touch women before they're comfortable in—in their relationship. I think men should—I think it's sexy when a man has rest, strength, rest, strength, and it makes me want them even more. You got to lie to them to keep them hands off, man. So if they think they're turning you on by not touching you, what they gonna do? Not touch you. And every time they touch you, if you—"Oh, I thought we talked about that. It's a little too early," but then you say this: "Not so their ego isn't fragile," I mean, so is it—their fragile ego, is it hurt? But it's nice to know that you are attracted to me. Okay, what do you do when he asked you to return something expensive he gave you? Keyword is "gave." I sell it to him back. Sprinkle sprinkle. It's like, "Oh my gosh, no, I can sell it to you back, though. You want to buy it back? I'll put it on Poshmark for you." M, put your bid in, girl. You don't get no gifts back. That's dumb. Okay, if you give something back, it should be like—the only reason you should ever give anything back to a man is if they're holding it over your head and bothering you and harassing you because they're in survival mode and they probably need to go sell it to pay their rent or something like if they're poor and broke. Yeah, give it back. They broke, baby, because they couldn't afford it in the first place, like, "You know what? You should have bought this in the first place. Here, take this, go P it and get—get you some food," you know? But if they're rich, girl, keep that. Thank you, M.

Miley says he stepped out because he craved the chase. He's remorseful. Advice? I believe is because we live together. 100% provider. Well, ma'am, step out too, ma'am, because you deserve—you also probably miss being chased. Just don't tell them. It's like, "You know what? I totally understand. Men feel insecure, and they still want to know if they got it. I understand, but I'm not going to accept your apology just like that. You know, you're gonna have to prove to me that you're invested in me," and then name what you want. "I want you to give me the money to start a business. I want you to go to the dealership and help me upgrade this vehicle. I want you to do ABC and D." I want you to do whatever it is you want him to do. Hold him accountable while making him do it. Hold him accountable because if he does it again, he knows he's gonna have to do something else even bigger. Because if you're dumb enough—if he's dumb enough to mess up again and you catch him, he knows whatever you want is gonna be bigger than the first thing. So make the first thing pretty big. Okay, sprinkle sprinkle. I don't—to stand out at a party where he will be, but lots of women tend to throw themselves at him. Find the richest man in the Rome and go stand next to him. Sprinkle sprinkle. All right, that's how—if he is the richest man, then find the second richest man. Thank you. That's exactly what he said—to see if he got it—exactly. You know, a lot of men are going to say that, but now you need to know if he got it financially to keep you. Sprinkle sprinkle. Okay, blah blah blah blah blah blah. Do you—you currently have a man on the side? Um, no, I don't have a man on any side right now. Spr sprinkle. You said what? How can I tell if he's future faking in early stages? Because they all are—all of them are future faking in the early phases, ma'am. All right. When they start spending money and investing in you and—and uh—spending time with you, when—when you don't have to pay bills no more, they're not future faking. Because a man is gonna take care of what he wants and what he loves. So you can't future fake if you're pay—okay, so he taking care of you, you're secure, you don't have to work if you don't want to, you got your little business started. Okay, you're already secure. Okay, what are your thoughts on polygamy? Um, well, if you're there for the man, then a lot of women don't like that, but if you're just there for the money, no one cares because you're just gonna be shopping with it anyway. Long as he got money, can't be polygamous with a broke dude. If—if you're there for an emotional attachment to a man, you're probably not going to like polygamy. If you're there for attachment to his money, you probably don't care. Okay, so it depends on the woman—what the woman is there for and what she's benefiting out of that marriage. Okay, if there's enough money to go around and you can just go shop all day and don't worry about what he's doing with his other wife and you're free to be the one—not—it just depends on why you're there as a woman. Okay, if they ain't Rich, then the whole thing is out of—out of the question. Out of the question. They not rich—rich. Okay. Out of—you said would you be Neo's fifth girlfriend? Okay, first of all, girlfriend—oh, because it's not legal in the United States. Okay, I got you. Um, honestly, if you see the pattern of what men are doing, okay, that's just two steps away from being R. Kelly and—uh—Diddy. So I don't think I want to be involved in that. Sprinkle sprinkle. If I'mma do all—if I'mma go do all that, I'mma go somewhere where it's legal and I can get my money for real, like where you can legally get married to more than one and get your money—not no pretend—not no R. Kelly—not no Diddy. All right, you got to do it big. Go home. Sprinkle sprinkle. He said y'all can't marry, but it's been two years. Are y'all in y'all's 20s? Ma'am, if y'all are in y'all's 20s, men don't want to marry in their 20s. If you want—if you want to hurry up and get married, you need to find somebody older that's ready to get married. Okay, where did I find my denim jacket? Okay, this little Boutique called Love Always Boutique. Love Always Boutique. They have an online store. You can probably buy it online. Tell them she sent you. They also have a little rack in Saks—Saks Fifth Avenue, and they also have two locations or three—I don't know—a couple of locations in Texas—Houston, Woodlands I think, and Katy—then might have a racket Saks Fifth Avenue—um—in the Galleria, or you can order it online. Love Always Boutique. Sprinkle sprinkle. All right, he said it's sold out. Oh yeah, there was only a few left when I was in there. Okay, princess. Your 45-year-old boyfriend is rich, got upset when you asked for shopping on vacay, 3K. He said he sent me money last week and already spent a lot of money on the vacation. Okay, sprinkles, then—um—if he's rich, he doesn't like how you're fast—you're spending that money. That's why I always tell you you need to backup man. If you need backup money, you need a backup man or you need to start a business. All right, so if he's a rich man, he's a businessman. If you're just throwing money in the trash on stupid stuff like—and I'm not being rude because I love to shop myself—okay, but if it's coming out of his pocket and you're just spending money on stupid stuff that's going to be out of style next year, if you—to use that money to start your own business or invest it in something or at least save it, he would probably be more likely to give you more money because you're doing something smart with it. So if you want more money, you need to start a business. Okay, now let me tell you something. If you start a business, it could be anything. You could buy clothes and sell them online. You could buy clothes from, you know, different places. You could be a—a buyer and go buy clothes and then have your own little Boutique or—or sell stuff online and then shop at the same time, wear your merchandise. Okay, um, that's what the lady that owns this shop does that—where I got this jacket from. She dressed every day—okay—with clothes, shoes, jewelry, everything because she invested in a business that sells clothes, shoes, and Jewel. So be smart about stuff because a lot of men who are rich got rich from being smart financially. And also, who wants to give money to somebody that's throwing it down the drain on crap that's going to be out of style in—here, unless you're making money off of it. Okay, you got to be smart with this money or get two. If you're done with money, get two—two men. If you're smart with money, they'll want to give you more. I promise you, because they're gonna see how you make it grow. Okay, or you gotta find one 45—you know, I'm 46, and I don't like throwing money in the garbage either. So maybe somebody much older who has way—way more and doesn't mind throwing money in the trash cuz you know they got to spend it—they can't take it with them—maybe. But somebody that age, they're very business-minded, and they don't like seeing people throw money away. So you got to appeal to an older man or you gotta appeal to his business side. Uh oh, Jia. Sprinkle sprinkle. Thank you for that super sticker. You'll see if you—if you date an older man, you'll see that they're much more generous with the money versus someone that age who's like still in their career mode and business mind. All right. Another way to make them see you as wife is to not be stupid with money. Thank you for bringing that up. You can't be done with money. Nope. You can't look stupid with money. You can't spend money done. All right, especially if you're trying to marry somebody close to your own age—age, or if you're trying to marry someone close to your own age, you definitely can't be stupid—that's number one. You got to have some type of financial intelligence and plan for the future. That's number one. If you just stupid—that sitting there looking like, "Who did it and why?" when it comes to money, they're not going to want to deal with you in a marriage contract. Okay, but if you—if you have a head on your shoulder, you know what you're doing, you seem smart, you got a little savings or you know how to save money or you know how to invest money or you know how to invest in yourself or you're interested in maybe doing something or just making sure that you're not buying stupid stuff for no reason. I mean, if you got it, you can, but like in the beginning or in a marriage, people don't want to see that until later. Okay, you can't present it straight up front. All right, use those things for like occasions, for like gifting, like you—like something like, "Okay, well, it's my birthday soon," or, "Okay, well, it's our anniversary soon," or, "Okay, it's our whatever soon," okay, "Well, it's been a while," or, "Okay, it's vacation time." You know, you got to make things—everything—a special occasion if you want to spend money. You have to make it seem like you're celebrating something versus just spending it for no reason. If you want—if you want to spend stuff for no reason, that man is going to be like, "Okay, well, she's just using all my money," especially if they don't make a lot—a lot. That's why you got to either get another man or start a business, that way you can—like, you know what I'm saying?—you're making money on the money he's giving you. All right. It said, "Am I interested?" I don't follow politics. I don't—I barely watch the news, baby. Sprinkle sprinkle. I'm here for a certain reason, and so I stick to the reason that I'm here. I'm not here for every Reasoner. So you have to understand that I'm not here for every reason. I'm not the savior of the world. I'm the savior of women that need my message. That's why I'm here. Okay, don't pull me in five different directions, baby. I focus on this, and this is what I'm good at. All right, sprinkle sprinkle. Okay, that's not my job, baby. This is what I do. Thank you. I'm old. I've been around here a long time. This is what I'm good at. This is what I stick to. This is what I do. Oh, he gave you cheap jewelry as a gift. What to do with it? You're disappointed. I have a whole video about this. Okay, so it's like, "Oh my gosh, my little niece would love this," if it's cheap looking, you know, she's like a—name a young age. If it's old lady jewelry and it's cheap, like, "Oh my gosh, my grandma would love this." Okay, so you—you compare the gift as if it's not for you. Said, "Okay, my—my niece would love this so much. My grandma would love this so much." Then he'll be like, "Oh, your—these? Yes, she loves these little trinkets like this," or your grandma, "Oh yeah, she loves this old-fashioned style"—[Music]—"jewelry." So he's gonna know you don't like it, then he's gonna offer to take it back and get you something else that you like. If he doesn't, don't ever wear it. Don't take it out of the package. Leave it where it's at and regift it to somebody else. When he asks you where it is, "Oh, it's not really my style, but thank you for the—it was the thought that counted." Then he'll be mad because he wants you to be happy with the gift, so he's going to take you to buy something better. And if you wear some nice jewelry after he gets you the cheap jewelry, he's gonna see where he messed up and he got to go try again. Okay. All right. Okay, you said your man said you get too giddy and childish sometimes. He is 33, and you're 27. He says, "I'm very—very mature but can be childish at times, but I don't really understand how to meet him where he needs." Okay, um, well, you know what I would say—well, you know, they say never lose your inner child. Maybe you need to loosen up. Don't want to become old and frigid, do you? You know, play—play on your youth, play on your childlike demeanor as something that's valuable, that's something that's not—you know what I'm saying?—so twist it around. You know how to do it. Yeah, do it. Here, every day it's like, "Oh, they say never lose your childlike qualities, so it keeps you young and vibrant. You don't be old and stuck up and stuffy," to you all—[Music]—right. Sprinkle sprinkle. All right, hold on. I have to make—gonna mute this for a second because you know I gotta make a call. Oh wait, hold on. I don't—what today—[Music]—[Music]—somebody wants to deliver something and I'm not home. All right. Said you get bored so fast with material things. Well, then you need to have activities that you like to do. Like some people—materials aren't the thing, or you're bored of materials. Now y'all got to go do stuff like the activities or you got to do more activity stuff—[Music]—[Music]—um, let me read some of this. Okay, which skin practices? Just get you a facial every now and then and wash your face, exfoliate, moisturize. All right, don't sleep in your makeup. I—I've only gotten lip filler. I think it's wearing off or salty naturally with—where did makeup, ma'am? Thank you. Um, be—be blessed. Spr spr. Thank you for being a new member. Okay. Yeah, and if you going to be outside, wear sunscreen. If that's—if that's going to keep you—uh—looking young, yes. Say sheir. I told him to unfollow a woman and stop Snapchat. He says I'm being controlling. What do I do? Okay, ma'am, stop following that woman and get off Snapchat. I'm serious. Stop doing that. What you're telling him is that you're insecure and jealous and you're overly concerned about what he's doing. Let me tell you something. If he's not overly concerned about what you're doing, that's the problem, man. Why ain't you on Snapchat? Why ain't you following rich men in your city—in your city? Okay, why aren't you doing it? Why aren't—like women do this better. What you doing? Women do this better. Okay, you will actually have a chance if you did what he was doing. He's just looking and wishing and hoping. You can actually get what you want. So why isn't he worried about you? Why you over worried about him? Is he the prize, man? Is him the prize or are you the prize? Because it seem like he the prize in this relationship. You said material things feel empty. Okay, well, then go on adventures. Go sailing. Get a yacht. Bring a yacht and go sailing across the world. Maybe that will fill the void. If materials don't—go into outer space, like these rich people that got everything. Go do something. All right—[Music]—sorry. Yeah, you don't need to be worried about what they're doing. They need to be worried about what you're doing or else you're doing everything W R and backwards. Okay. All right. Now I don't know what the dynamic of y'all's relationship is, but if he looks good and he looks better than you, then you would already did it wrong in the first place. Okay, if he feels like he could play around online and do all this stuff and you still—and you just gonna take it—I mean, y'all—you already chose wrong in the first place. But if you can't do the same or better, you know that's the problem. You need to focus on that. You need to focus on doing better and why he's not concerned about what you're doing online and who you're following online. You need to ask yourself why he's not so concerned, but why you are extra concerned. I'll tell you why: because he trusts you. He thinks you're going to be a good wife or a good—a good girlfriend, and you—he's the prize, and you're not going to do anything to mess up the relationship with him. He—you know—he has options, and he's looking at other women because you're so predictable and you're so insecure and you so worried about what he—he's doing, you wouldn't dare chance of losing him because you cherish him so—so much. That's what he feels. You know, if—if you cherish someone so—so much, they know you ain't gonna let them go, so they gonna do what they want. If you checking up on them, being a spy, going all through their DMs and Instagram and Snapchats, you love them a lot—a lot more than they love you if they're not doing the same thing. So they know you ain't going nowhere, so they're gonna do what they want because you're too busy trying to make sure that they're going to stay exactly where they are with you. Because if—if you could do better or if you had plenty options, you wouldn't care about what they were doing. They'd be caring about what you doing. So you got to flip the script on them. I'm telling y'all, these men know she's not going nowhere if she's doing all this extra work to make sure I stay faithful—her—or make sure I'm not looking at other women. I'm the pr—that's what they're thinking. That's what happens when women become pous. All right, you got to do better. H oh, Mila. Gym owner asked you to join him for a Pilates class as a first date. How can I make him do dinner instead, or should I accept Pilates? Dat girl, ew. Okay, owner of a gym. What kind of gym is this? Is it a nice gym? Is he super rich or is like one of them little gyms in a shopping center where he's struggling to get clients? Is it nice or is it like, you know what I'm saying? How many other women do you think he takes to Pilates class? How many other women is he on a first date with in the Pilates class at the same time? I mean, if he gonna date all the women in there, he can't take them all out to eat now. So they all in the class. So you decline. It's like, "You know what? I would rather you sit over a nice ambient dinner or nice table with ambiance and get to know—" You can't really get to know you in a Pilates class. You say it like that. He might ask you to dinner first. First is, "Come be one of my extra—uh—chicks in the Pilates class, and I'm probably sleeping with all of them." Like, don't do that. Stand out and know your value. [Music] Is it more appealing to act robotic and about my business or to be natural, perky, cheerful self to attract a husband? Well, it depends on what kind of husband you try to attract, you know what I'm saying? So I—I say be yourself, but don't overdo it, you know what I'm saying? Like don't overdo the perkiness. If that's—if you're not naturally extra cheerful, just go about Midway, you know what I'm saying? If you are naturally extra perky and cheerful, you know, then you need somebody that's upbeat as well because some people that's—training—you know—want to say—some people is very trading. If you're too much—[Music]—okay. Your provider wants commitment, quote-unquote, s before he gives me what I want. He's very rich. Ma'am, he can get that from anybody. Sprinkle sprinkle. Let me tell you a secret. If he's very—very rich, he can sleep with any woman and still give you what you want, you know what I'm saying? So this is another thing about being as a wife. You stick to your high standards and morals and say, "No, I'm so sorry. I'm just not that type of girl." He'll literally go sleep with somebody else and come right back to you. Okay, and if you don't give in, he's gonna say, "Okay, well, she's very hard to impress. She's very hard to buy. She's very hard to get to do anything. She has high standards." That's wife. See, if you just gonna do something to get a little change for—know—do something strange for a little piece of change, that's not wife, baby. He can go do that with someone else—anybody else. He's rich. You see what I'm saying? But if you hold out and keep your standards and you got another one on the side that's giving you money too, so you ain't missing a beat, he might wife you eventually because you keep your standards high. He don't know you keeping them high and getting money from somebody else. Just like you don't care if he's—if you know he's sleeping with somebody else and still giving you your money because you're not—or still dealing with you because you're not lowering your standard. So that's why it's very important to have one on the side, especially when you're dating.

People that way, you don't let them control you or play you. So if you need money and he's not giving you money, but he's, you know, he's attracted to you and he wants something from you and he can't get it, no matter, you know, what he's trying to offer you, then he may say, "Okay, well, she's good wife material; nobody else can take her from me; she has high standards," da da, or he can say, "Well, she'll be with any man's offer." Great. What he don't know is that you get money from somebody else already, and you don't really need his life, but you'll take it, you see. So, so I need more than one. Okay, one or two, ma'am. It's like, "No, I'm so sorry; I'm just not able to do that, but I really like you; I love spending time with you; I'm so glad that you want a committed relationship, but like I said, like my standards are just very high, and I want to feel safe and secure in a relationship before I, you know, take it to the next level." And if you really want, you go do it, and you're not going to be missing a beat because you got another one that's giving you money as well. Have two. How? Oh God, is why. Sprinkle sprinkle. There's no feelings in business. Sprinkle sprinkle. That's true. A no feelings. Sprinkle sprinkle. How you doing? Sprinkle sprinkle. You're shuddering at the thought of how society would be lost and doomed without. She was s girl years ago; it was looking that way. That's why I had to get online and get to talking because it was getting in that direction. I start, we started reverting back to—I don't even want to say it—but it was getting terrible. All right, it was it was starting to look like—uhuh—it was starting to look like super ratchet and dusty out there, and I had to stop what I was doing and start a channel. All right, it was starting to look real bad.

How to get a busy man's time and attention? Um, that's very easy. You got to be what he wants. Okay, you got to be like—hold on, I have to reschedule—because if he's busy, he got money. People will wait; people will reschedule; they don't want to lose business; they don't want to lose money. He has the power to make himself un-busy for what he wants to make himself un-busy for. All right, he's not like—it's not like he's a mother that has to pick up kids from school and, you know, go to the parent-teacher conference or, you know, stay home and breastfeed the kids. Men don't do stuff like that; they make—they can make time in their day to go for what they want to deal with who they want to deal with. You shouldn't have to make them notice you; you got to make sure that they like you enough to make that time because there are people that have full-time jobs, kids, and are married that make time to find to do other stuff. If he don't have none of that stuff, he got time, baby. There are men out here with a full-time job, wife, kids, gym membership, and still out there cheating; they found time to do stuff where, you know, they'll make the time. All right, they make it. So my philosophy is men should give women money because they should pay for what they want. My philosophy is that men should already have money if they're even approaching a woman. If they're not in the woman's life to make it better and understand their uh role as a provider, then they shouldn't be stepping to the women in the first place. That's my philosophy, man or sir. Sprinkle sprinkle. Okay, don't come to a job unprepared; don't come here unprepared. What you—no. All right, he said, "Is that not prostitution?" No, ma'am; it's called being prepared as a man before you step to a woman and having your priorities in the correct order. Okay, if you're looking for wife material, don't you think she's looking for husband material? And that ain't no husband material if you got to ask and beg some woman for money because you ain't man enough to provide. Excuse me, sir, go become a man and then come back. All right, there's no arguing with that; that is what it is. Is sprinkle sprinkle. Ain't nobody trying to marry nobody that they got to struggle with. Thank you, Veronica. Can you meet providers in the afternoon? Yes, you can; it just depends on where you're going and if you got to go to the rich side of town. Yes, of course, you meet them at the gym, playing golf, pickleball, country club, walking a dog in a dog park in a nice area of town. You can meet them at the little happy hours; you can meet them at like nice steakhouses. A lot of single men like that have money; they may go out to dinner, go to a little steakhouse, sit at the bar, have a little meal, whatever, but you know it's possible, but you're going to be more—you know, it's easier to do in the a or early p.m., but it's definitely possible. Sprinkle sprinkle.

What are your thoughts on preparation to becoming a wife? Um, I don't know about preparation to becoming a wife, but if you are what that man wants, I mean, that should be enough preparation. Sprinkle sprinkle. He said, "What?" Okay, see, a lot of a lot of people from different cultures see marriage very different, and a lot of men from different cultures see wife is very different. Some men see you as a domestic servant; some men see you as the prize. So depending on what type of man you're dealing with, that's how they gonna treat you. Thank you, Alexandra. Sprinkle sprinkle. Thank you for the sprinkle. All right, so if you're coming from a culture where you cook, clean, and wash dirty draws, you know, and that's the definition of what a wife is, that's a domestic servant, baby. All right, we make our own definition of what marriage or wife is, but in order to be wife material, the one thing or the two things that are most likely going to be is that you're going to be somebody's mother and you're going to represent a man as somebody's wife. So, and they got to represent you as a husband. So if you're respectable, you look nice, you have patience, you're gonna make a good [Music] mother, you're not super vulgar, you're probably gonna make somebody a good wife. Right, none of that has to do with being a domestic servant. Sprinkle sprinkle. All right, he said, "Is it okay to say you're Russian even though you're not?" I mean, if you can get away with it, ma'am, yes, ma'am. Sprinkle sprinkle. People been faking accents forever or lying forever, ma'am; it doesn't matter as long as you're getting what you want out of it. I, if you got to go to this extent to get decent treatment from somebody, then you know why not. What about submissive men that like dominant women? Well, hopefully their paycheck is dominant and got some money to give, and y'all can role-play and pretend and act all day as long as he got the submissive bank—I mean, as long as he got that dominant bank account to pay you and give you what you want. We don't care; get get his money, man. Um, what to do if a man is a provider but wants domestic work done? Hire help. Sprinkle sprinkle. Hire help that comes a couple of times a week or once a week where you don't have to do too much. All right, because a lot of people, they don't realize your value or your worth if you're—if they only see you as the domestic. Help. You need to separate that. The reason why I'm telling y'all this, it's not because I'm trying to be mean, but it's true. If a man only sees you as a domestic worker, he's not gonna see you as no wife; he's going to take all of that domestic work for granted, even though if you were a real domestic worker, you'd literally be getting paid. Okay, you're doing thankless free work for someone that's not going to appreciate it. So don't become the domestic help; hire the domestic help. With all that free time you're going to save, you can look more beautiful for your man; you can look more beautiful for yourself; you could be a better mother to other people, you know, the babies, nieces, and nephews; you can be a better aunt; you be more attentive, you know. So if you're not in a bad mood every day from cooking and cleaning all the time, worrying about what you going to buy at the grocery store and make for dinner, if you know—if you can just not have to do all those things every day, now you can do them some days, but if you don't have to do that stuff every day like clockwork because that's what's expected of a domestic worker, you can literally just be a wife and relax and live in your feminine and use the money that your husband is making to help you also live a softer life as well as make you feel good about your role in that family as being a mother because being a mother and being a wife is not just about cooking and cleaning and doing damn laundry. Okay, that's why they have services to do those things and help you because that is not the definition of wife; that's not even in the marriage vows. All right, sprinkle sprinkle. When you get married, don't say anything about cooking and cleaning, baby, so you ain't breaking no vows if you don't cook or clean. Sprinkle sprinkle. All right, he said, "If a man is cheating and exposing you to STIs, is it worth it?" Ma'am, if a man is cheating and he's broke and exposing you to STIs, is it worth it? Because y'all be acting like broke men don't cheat; y'all be acting like Ray Ray and them that be at the bus stop ain't trying to holler at whoever else at the bus stop with them booty shorts on. Y'all act like—well, y'all at work, clocked in, and he got your car, that he ain't out there circling the block trying to find some. Okay, is it worth it? Because it looks like that broke men have more STIs than rich men, baby. Sprinkle sprinkle. And I'm not taking up for nobody. If you think somebody's cheating, stop sleeping with them; cut them off; tell them to go get tested; go to CVS, get a test. Who out here sleeping with men who think they're cheating on? I see—I—I forget some of y'all ain't got no common sense. All right, y'all always want to say, "Is it really worth the money?" Ma'am, is it really worth being broke and having a cheating man? Ask Pig Misha; she knows. All right, Alexandra, thank you, ma'am. Sprinkle sprinkle. Uh, how do you—what do you do with a wealthy provider whose health is declining? Sprinkle sprinkle. Girl, get in the will; be by his side; getting in the will; get something—some properties. Okay, OA. Sprinkle sprinkle. Hey, Shear, my question is how do I protect myself from relatives who like to trigger and trigger you and fight between your own people? Headphones, ma'am; earbuds; headphones; phone calls; perfect distraction. Is it even work on dust? Is when you're leaving the store, you just pretend like you're on the phone or you have your earbuds in, and you like pretend you're talking to somebody on the phone, and "Hold on, I'm talking," and just clear the room; leave the room; fake phone calls; pure buds. You know that definitely will help you. Why do you think—okay, what do I think about something—something class in rich areas? Oh, salsa dance class and richer salsa. I don't know how I feel about salsa dance classes; I feel like you're going to find a lot of gay men there, not a lot of straight men. I'd go for more of the rich tities. Okay, sprinkle sprinkle. All right, you're looking for lavender marriage; you can hit them salsa places for sure. Sprinkle sprinkle. All right, imagine living in a man's house, broke, watching She-7. Um, well, hopefully the man has money if they've been watching me. Spr—imagine staying home all day, living a soft life, living in a man's house that gives you money and being able to watch She-7. Sounds like a flex. It's sprinkle sprinkle. Imagine being a grown man, jealous of women being able to rest in their feminine and their man's house and watching She-said FX. Okay, okay. This new era of women who are jealous of women that men are following—look, or who you following—man, who are you following? Who's in your DMs? Why are y'all so worried? Who's trying to get with you? Yeah, did you forget who you were? The prize. I don't understand y'all; I don't know who's following who; I don't care; I don't even know who's following me. All right, all I know is I be sending Cash App to these people that be DMing me. Talk about—what's your name? What's your—on Cash App? Who's following you, ma'am? Who's sending you Cash Apps and Venmos? Why you—why you chasing behind some man? Why you spying on him online all the time? Are you with him for his ability to be faithful? Are you with this man for his ability to be faithful? Is that why you're waiting? You ain't waiting for no money, no lifestyle, no gifts; you only with him because you think he's going to be 100% faithful to you? Is that why you're—the only reason you're with him because that's the only reason you're with him, ma'? I think you need to find a couple more reasons—financial reasons—if you're going to waste any more time with that man. Okay, because before he met you, he was online; after he leaves you—if he leaves you—I'm not saying he will—he gonna be online; in between, while he's with you, he going to be online. Why? Because everybody's online; everybody—live your life, man; you be online too. I promise you. He said, "So most of you are for sale?" No, sir; most of us have high standards and only deal with men who are financially intelligent enough to have the correct priorities to become a provider before he steps to a woman. So once y'all figure that out, y'all won't have to think everything is for sale. Uh, nothing is for sale; uh, we're looking for men who have their priorities in order; not looking for discounts; not looking for coupon codes; not looking for uh 30 minutes here and there; not looking for women that rent themselves out. If y'all are looking for wives, go get some money. Sprinkle sprinkle. All right, y'all always think something is on sale—for sale—want a discount? Sir, just go get some money. All right, that's the only answer to the question: get money. Y'all—y'all like them people that want a discount on everything. "Can I get the discount? Can I get something free?" Sir, go get your money up; stop being broke. You gonna hook me up something free? You gonna give me a discount? Why is it so expensive? Because you're broke; that's why. The answer is go get the money. All right, put your priorities in the right order and come back when you can afford it. There you go. Sprinkle sprinkle. All right, he said, "They even want Gucci on a discount." Okay, so another thing about being a wife, you got to have high standards; gotta have high standards because when they see you have high standards, they know if they get with you, their standards gonna get higher too. They know if you're a type of woman that's disciplined enough to have high standards, take care of herself, don't take nothing less, they know you know who you hang around the most; that's who you going to turn into. So they ain't gonna want nobody that has, you know, no discipline; they ain't gonna want nobody that bends their, you know, standards for and lowers their standards because somebody begged them to. Uhuh, like, okay, "If I'm around her, she's going to make me better; she's going to hold me accountable; I'm gonna have to really put it—put it in work; my life is gonna get better." You know, that's exactly what I need. They're not gonna be around some Pig Misha that's gonna baby them for the rest of their life and, you know, never allow them to be the man to reach their true potential. A—a wife that—so you gotta keep your standards high. Sprinkle sprinkle. He said, "What these men need to be masculine again?" Yes, and a lot of men don't think that they're not masculine; they think sitting in a woman's comment section whining and making excuses is masculine. Somebody needs to redirect them. Okay, like, that's so masculine—you're in a woman's chat whining and making excuses—giving—not masculine at all. All right, it's giving clear see-through [Music] closet. He said, "They are competing with women." They're competing with women? There's no competition; you can't compete with women; it's like the Olympics; you got to compete within your own gender. Okay, go compete with a man that has money; go compete with a man that's making millions; go compete with them; you'll be better off; I promise you; you'll learn more from them, and you'll get a way ahead in life if you go compete with a man that has something. We can't compete with a woman; we're not the same. Okay, so why don't y'all go over there, find some man that's living the lifestyle you wish you could be living and go see what he's doing. Okay, go see what he's talking about. [Music] What to tell a man when he asks about your dad, but you don't speak to your dad for years? Just lie, ma'am. Tell them what they need to hear to get what you need to get. Sprinkle sprinkle. All right, not every—not your business—ain't everybody's business, ma'am. You can tell them whatever you need to tell them. Okay, tell them what you need to tell them; tell them what he needs to hear to get what you need to get. All right, there you [Music] go. What if they ask—what if they ask about your body count? Are they dusty? Yes, ma'am; that's a dusty question; you never hear no rich man asking nobody that; that's a dusty question, man. And even if they do ask you, you know, it's like, "Oh, I'm sorry; I don't answer those personal types of questions; it's very [Music] inappropriate." Yeah, only broke men ask them questions. Sorry. Uh-oh, my—how current guy you've been seeing says you're ungrateful for what he provides for you, though it's not always the amount I want. What do I say? Like, "I'm very grateful; every little bit helps." Every little bit helps. Like, you don't understand; I am—I am grateful for every little bit; every little bit helps. That way, what you're telling him is he's only contributing a little bit of what you actually need. So if you were—if you seemed ungrateful, it's probably because it wasn't enough, but you do appreciate his effort and the little bit that he can help, which means either he can't afford you or he needs to do more, or somebody else is gonna pick up his slack. Sprinkle sprinkle. Okay, some men can't afford the women that they want, and they just have to come to that conclusion; either they'll go out and be able to afford her by getting more streams of income, or they'll let her go so she can find someone that can afford her. That's literally it. All right, afford to keep her lifestyle; afford to have the type of woman that they're trying to get. The same thing—like a lot of men don't realize this—just because a woman falls in love with you doesn't mean that her expenses change. I mean, how dumb can a man be? Just because a man falls in love with you and you're supposed to be in love with them doesn't mean the price on those bills change; doesn't mean the price of stuff changes with you; it might even increase. All right, so they have to understand that it's not, "Oh, well, she loves me; she'll—she'll—she'll not make me do this anymore." No, now you're even more responsible. Okay. He said, "What's the most impressive thing a man has spent on you?" House, car, bills, ring, vacation. Okay, remember, ladies, you can always walk away from anyone at any time you want. That's right. Sprinkle sprinkle. Say how to get a house. Well, it's easy if you get married first; it's easier to get a house if you're married. Okay, if you're trying to get a house and you're not married, then they have to have a lot of money, and especially if you don't want them to live in it. They have—being a real estate—got a lot of money if they're just giving out houses like that, man. Yes. Sprinkle sprinkle. You said thoughts on baby mama culture? Well, I honestly—I feel like some women get pregnant to try to keep some man that don't want to be kept, and some men impregnate women to trap them to always have access to them. So here's what I feel—um, I don't think women should lay down with anything broke. So if you're gonna be a baby mama, at least—at least your baby daddy had to have some money and be generous with it or get the government involved. Okay, so you can get some of that money. So I feel like if you're going to lay down with somebody, just don't—just make sure he ain't broke, and make sure you can get some money out of it, period. If not, get married first and then have some kids. Sprinkle sprinkle. All right, what should you say when you ask for money for a sex meet and they ask me, "Have I done this for—" Honestly, I would say you should work for an escort service, man. Sprinkle sprinkle. Because if you—if you're out there doing that, that's literally, you know, that. So I don't really specialize in that; I specialize in getting money without doing stuff. Sprinkle sprinkle. You know that's the whole—sprinkle sprinkle—means like getting your money, knowing your value, knowing your worth. But if you're—if you're SW, then you know—y'all should know better than me what to say. Sprinkle sprinkle. Okay, I don't know, man, but what I can tell you is that you better be careful with who you're talking to because they could be undercover. You ain't a professional; you need to go—you need to go figure that out. All right, sprinkle sprinkle. Go figure it out; you talk to somebody that's already in the game. Uh-oh, Shear, I've never had a relationship, and you were 23. Any tips on meeting someone rich? Yes, go to the rich areas and look cute; join something over there in the rich area and do some rich tities around some rich men and look cute while doing it. It's a numbers game; before long, somebody's gonna invite you to lunch, ask you out for dinner, whatever. It's—you got to be in the environment on a regular basis and look cute. Sprinkle sprinkle. Most important point of making them see you as a wife? Remember, they're also going to look at you as a future mother as well. So uh, I said this earlier, but one of the most important things is your ability—your ability to control your emotions and to represent as a mother and a future wife. You got to look the part and act the part; that doesn't mean anything about being domestic either; it has everything to do with outside representation and your ability to be a good mother. Okay, and keep—and have high standards because they know if you have high standards, it's hard to sway you; they know if you're a decent woman, you're going to make a decent mother. So you can't be all stuff hanging out everywhere, cursing and smoking weed all the time; you can't be none of that. Okay, you got to represent as someone who they can introduce to their mother and someone who's going to make a good mother of themselves and someone who represents someone who takes care of themselves and has high standards. That's literally it. When they meet those types of women—and a lot of men aren't going to be ready for marriage even if you are—you just have to understand that, and some men will tell you—some men will straight up tell you, "Too good for me," or, you know, "I don't want nothing serious." You know why? Because a lot of times some of those men know they're not ready for marriage, and they don't want you to waste your time with them because you know you got to listen and read between the lines because a lot of men—they're—they're like, okay, "This woman, she got everything together, she makes this, but I'm not ready for that; I just want some side chick, or I just want some, you know, one-night stand, or I just want some, you know, situationship; I'm not ready for a classy woman that is wife material because I'm not going to be no husband." So a lot of times men aren't ready for marriage. So even if you are wife material and they see you as wife material, don't mean they want to marry. That's the whole point. If you are—if, like I said, if you're dating older men, they may want to marry versus younger men sooner rather than later. Okay, so that's what I'm saying. If you're young and you're trying to marry somebody in their 20s, good luck to you. Okay, if you're trying to marry somebody in their 30s, good luck to you. 40s, they may be ready; 50s, they're ready. And I know a lot of women like, "I don't want to marry no old man; I don't want to marry no 50-year-old man; I don't want to marry this; I don't want to marry that." Okay, but do they want to marry you? Probably—probably they probably do. Are they financially stable? Do they have everything you need? Do they have the lifestyle you need? Are they going to treat you right? Are they going to be able to provide for you and the children? Are they going to say you can stay home from work? You ain't got to clock in nine months pregnant, probably. So y'all have to think about yourselves and your lifestyle before you think about anything else. If you're going to marry somebody your own age, if you're going to marry somebody close to your own age, don't be mad and asking me why they're stalking people on Instagram because y'all know that's what y'all do at y'all's age. All right, if it's age-appropriate and they're doing it, don't come ask me about it. All right, he's following everybody in the world on Instagram and Snapchat and and TikTok. Well, ma'am, how old is he? 20-something, ma'am? Get out of my face. You want somebody that ain't doing all that? Go find somebody can't even see that—well, go find somebody don't even know how—what a TikTok is. All right, well, "I can't—I can't deal with no older man; I need to have somebody that looks just as good as me and as my age." Well, good—good luck, ma'am; have fun with that. Why is he always following people on Instagram? Ma'am, he's 25, ma'am; he's 30. What he supposed to be doing? Why is he always playing video games, and why is he following all these chicks on 20—on Instagram? Why is he doing this? B—how old is he? That's why he's doing it. All right, you don't never hear me talking about that because I'm married to an older [Music] man. So if y'all don't want the problems that come with dating men your age or younger men, then don't date them. Y'all don't want the problems that come with them because all them problems—they come with them; they come with them. So if you want to be seen as a wife, you got to understand those problems come with them men; you gonna have to deal with it if you're gonna try to marry somebody your own age that looks just as good as you and you—you're literally just putting them on the pedestal, and you go behind them—chasing them—behind them and looking who they're following on Instagram, stuff like that; they need to be doing that to you. These problem—problems come with these types of men; take it or leave it. H cat. Sprinkle sprinkle. You met a great guy; you're 38; he's 65; obsessed with me; kindly takes you to restaurants—the best restaurants—loves to see you happy. Your question is how can you hint at what I need, for example, like a new iPhone? Girl, find you an old iPhone—I know y'all keep them old ones—y'all keep—find your old one, plug it up, make sure it's charged up, drop it on the phone—drop it on the floor in front of him—and break the old one. Tell them you need a new one. Sprinkle sprinkle. Go—go get you one that's already broke somewhere; ask a friend—borrow they broke—crack phone—and tell them it's yours; tell them it don't even turn on no more; block his calls temporarily; get your phone. Sprinkle sprinkle. What do you do if you're early 20s, in school, not interested in romantic relationships anymore, but want marriage and—

Family, ma'am, you're still in school. So you want to go to school and have a marriage, family? How are you going to juggle all of that, and who's going to help you with that? You know what I'm saying? Finish school first. Do one thing at a time, man. Finish school. That's what you want to do, all right? Then go worry about that other stuff. Stop trying to do everything at once. Do get one thing out of the way first so you can focus 100%, or at least way more, on something else that you're trying to accomplish. Okay? We said you only want to get in the rich areas of town, man, and stay away from dust. All right.

How to move on from someone you've never dated? By getting the mental help that you need. Sprinkle sprinkle [Music] unless it's Michael Jackson, of course, then we all understand. All right. Just having a high, high education decreases chances from having a provider. Well, ma'am, if you have a higher education and most of the men that you're dealing with, or that want to deal with you, don't have a higher education that you do, it will be a problem. This is why a lot of men need to step their game up and start getting more educated and getting more money. Because if women are outdoing them, they can't impress them anymore, and they're gonna have to go find someone that they can impress. But a lot of women who do have multiple degrees, they don't even use those degrees; they still go find a man with some money, and if they got them, if they need them, and they got the man if they need them, or they probably gonna live off the man's money, start a business, and don't use their PhD degrees like me. Sprinkle sprinkle. I don't use none of my degrees, but I got them. Okay. Whatever you can do to make it work for you, whatever is beneficial, that's what you do. If you are passionate about what you got your degrees in, great. Maybe you'll marry someone in your own field that's even higher up.

Okay, you say he pretended to be a provider; now he wants 50/50 after you moved in together. Tell him that you need to move in another roommate to pay that 50% because you ain't the one. Say, "Well, let's rent out, let's rent out another room, and they can pay for my half since you ain't no man and you're looking for a roommate, go find one." Put out an ad. They can sleep, they can sleep in the, the guest bedroom or on the couch if you need some extra money. Sprinkle sprinkle. Girl, he would be cut off so quick from [Music] everything. Girl, bring some boxes; let me tell you what to do. Bring some boxes home; go get you some boxes, bring them home, and, and set them by the, the bedroom door. Just leave him there for like a day. When he asks, "What, what are these for?" Oh, well, I can't afford to be your roommate, so I'm gonna have to go. Sprinkle sprinkle. Let them, let that, let them boxes sit there for a week and see what he does. All right. If he doesn't change his mind, pack him, baby, and be gone. Thank you, BC. She says, "Happy birthday." Thank you, ma'am.

Can you give us advice again about if you are embarrassed to be seen with him out? I mean, he, oh, oh, and people stare. Okay, well, ma'am, okay, first of all, if you are not living the lifestyle that you want to live yet, let me tell you, if you don't have the money that you want yet, if you don't have the lifestyle that you really want yet, you shouldn't be embarrassed of anything. You know, let me tell you why, because that's what you're working towards. You're working towards the lifestyle, the money, the car, the home, or whatever it is that's, that's, you know, how long, you know how long it takes people to work for that in real time? They got to work about 20 plus years to get what you can get just by being seen in public with some old man a couple of times. Okay, that old man could give you some money to start your business. That old man can buy you a house. That old man can leave you in his will. That old man can fund whatever you need him to fund. That old man can pay all your bills so that you can go on vacation or save up money and do what you got to do, or whatever. That old man is literally like a bank. That old man is literally like a GoFundMe. That old man is literally a scholarship. That old man is an, a private investor. Like, what are you doing? You could say it's business, okay? Or you can go the long route and take 20 years to get what he gives you in probably two months or three months. Sprinkle sprinkle. All right. What's embarrassing is working and never getting anywhere. All right. You don't know them people; you'll never see them again, but you gonna see that money, you gonna see that savings account grow. All right. You don't ever see them people again, and they know exactly why you're there because you don't want to take 20 years to get what they didn't take 20 years to get. Old downtown dutchess. Sprinkle sprinkle. Sure, the tea is most wealthy women only go to the Ivy Leagues to get one degree, only their MsM degree, to meet a rich, ambitious man. That's true. Sprinkle sprinkle. I mean, that would be the only reason I would go to Ivy League. [Music] All right. Even if you just wear the sweatshirt that says you went to an Ivy League, that, that could help too. Like, oh, yeah. All right. [Music] All right. But [Music] yes, what, what, what, what? Sweep the dust out the door anyway. So yeah, y'all make sure if you're trying to be somebody's wife or trying to be taken seriously as wife material, that you represent as a wife and as a future mother. Thank you, Lily. Sprinkle sprinkle.

26-year-old pays all your bills, wants to marry me, is ugly. Okay, I'm not marrying nobody in their 20s. Sprinkle sprinkle. That's the dumbest thing you could do. Don't marry no man in his 20s. All right. Wait till he's a little older and got a little bit more in that account. Does he have money for a rainy day? Is he living paycheck to paycheck? Is he providing for your little small bills? What happens when you get big bills? Can he afford those? Okay. Don't, don't deal with somebody that ain't got the lifestyle that you already want. Okay. Is he living paycheck to paycheck? Does he have savings? Does he have investments? How many streams of income does he have? Is he father material? Is he husband material? When you're nine months pregnant, is you gonna be able to afford all the baby stuff, a bigger place to live? You know, don't do it too young. Make sure if, unless he got money, money, and you know he can afford it, I still wouldn't marry; I'd have a long engagement until he's well in his 30s. Sprinkle sprinkle. You could get the ring, just make it a long engagement. Cuz he's not ready for a marriage in his 20s. It's like, oh, well, uh, yes, um, where's the ring? Okay, we're gonna have a very long engagement. And the way that you can make a long engagement is to lie and say, you know what, it's going to take me years to plan my wedding for what I want. That way there's no rush. You got the ring, and you can plan your wedding, and by the time you plan it, he's going to have enough money and be at least in his 30s. Oh, say he has a rich family and trust fund and for me a car. Okay, but still, okay, so let me ask you a question: are you only marrying him for his money and his family's money? Because his, his, I don't know, his trust fund can run out, and so can his, so his family can cut him off. But if you're only marrying him for money, great, just get his money. If you're marrying him to be faithful, I really wouldn't invest too much in that. All right. So if you're only marrying him for money, great, go for it. If you're only marrying him for faithfulness, brace yourself; he's in his 20s. All right. Just, just focus on the money, man. Go shop.

You said you women really look weak dating older men. We don't look weak; we look smart. That ain't weak; that's smart. I mean, why deal with a young man who doesn't know what he's doing when you could get an old man that knows what he's doing? Why get someone financially inexperienced and still struggling or not being able to understand what you need as a woman when you go get an older man that knows exactly what you need, already got it, already got it, and can give it to you? I mean, what makes a woman weak, not wanting to struggle with a grown, able-bodied man? That makes a woman smart. Okay. Just say you're weak and need somebody to help you. Just say your priorities are out of, and all you got are, are excuses. Just say that. A woman is never weak when she chooses a man to provide for her; she's smart. If y'all, if, if younger men could fully provide, if most younger men could fully provide and have their priorities in the correct order, women would have no problem with that. But a lot of women have a problem with younger men being unfaithful and not being financially responsible, so why would you even put yourself in that position? Now a woman can have, you know, a younger man experience, a younger man and say, okay, this is not for me; I'm not for the struggle; I'm not for the dumb, uh, financially, uh, ignorant. So let me go find someone who knows better and has done better and has more. Okay. It's just common sense after a while. Sprinkle sprinkle. He says, "As long as my money isn't weak, who cares?" Exactly, TC. Exactly. Get your money. He said, "We don't care how we look to you anyway." Exactly. Women with older men don't care how young men feel about them. Y'all don't have nothing to offer us. Where y'all with that old man? Okay, because he got old money. You got no money. You figured [Music] [Music] out. Um, you said they're losing us to old guys. Exactly. And you know the funny thing is, when they get old, they're going to be so focused on the wrong things right now that they're not even gonna have no money when they get old, then they're even more mad. So let that be a wake-up call to go get some money. Okay. You said a real man deserves a woman who spoils him. Well, then he deserves his mama. Sprinkle sprinkle. Go back home to mother or grandma, grandma or granny. Go find mother or granny, maybe Aunty, but ain't no woman your own age or that looks at you supposed to respect you as a man is going to try to spoil you. What, what they spoiling you for? You somebody's child. Go home to your mom; the mom will spoil you. Okay. You're not the prize, sir; you're the provider and the leader, not the prize, sir. You can't provide and lead, goodbye. You can't spoil yourself with your own money, goodbye. Now, if you give your woman your credit card or your money and say, "Hey, go spoil me," all she got to do is go shop with your money and give it right back to you; that's a whole another story. But if you think she's going to go out there, clock in nine months pregnant to come spoil some dusty, you got another thing coming. Sprinkle [Music] sprinkle.

You said all the dust is going to be in the hospice together complaining about all the women who left them. Good, at least they'll have some good conversation on the way out. Now that you've gotten married, do you spend on your husband or the household since you have your own social media platform? I spend on my kids and myself. Sprinkle sprinkle. Um, thank you. Yeah, I spend on myself and my kids, but whatever I want, I can afford it, you know. But, uh, he takes care of all the stuff; he always took care of, you know what I'm saying? And of course, I still get gifts and all that kind of stuff, but he takes care of everything else. I take care of whatever I feel like I want to. If I want something cute, I'll just go get it. My kids want up; we go on vacation sometimes; he pays some, sometimes I'll pay for them, or whatever, especially if they want to go somewhere and he's not coming. Sometimes he'll pay for the whole trip; it just depends. But the whole part is, I have a business; I can write all this stuff off. Sprinkle sprinkle.

Okay, uh-oh, mua, help. I have been doing what you said, but nobody goes up to me. It's been a while; I guess I might as well be cute. I thought 22 need more to move out, your parents are you okay? You're 22; are you consistently going to the rich side of town consistently, like every day or every other day? You doing that? Are you making sure that you look like you belong there? Are you making sure that you're not giving off desperate vibes? Are you doing all your errands over there? You doing everything over there? Okay, you're 22, you're 22, so you're going to, what you're going to need to do is you're going to need to make sure that these older, I don't know if you're going for older men, but these older men know that you are interested, which means you're going to hold the eye contact a little bit longer, you're going to smile, you're going to let them know it's okay to approach you. Because a lot of older men will not approach younger women, especially if you look very young; they're not going to approach you because they think you're not into older men. So you have to let them know in, in a roundabout way, you know, like by giving them a little eye contact, smiling, smiling at him, asking them a dumb question, you know. Um, so usually it's easy to do in places like grocery stores, um, like, uh, gyms or like just in some type of physical activity like working out, pickleball, golf, or whatever. It's easy to get older men to notice you in rich activities like that. Okay. So try to join something, uh, like take some pickleball lessons, take some golf lessons, or get in like the rich neighborhood where they have the little courts and go play tennis. And a lot of, a lot of men, especially older men that have money, they like to instruct people; they, if you, if you have a question, they'll be like become your teacher, you know what I mean? So you got to get them into that, in that mode if you want men to like start trying to talk to you and ask you out, do stuff like that. Okay. You got to put yourself in where their interests are, and then you got to play them, and ask questions. You can't just go sit at a bar. Okay. You gotta like literally get involved in the community or these, the activities over there on the more wealthy sides of town. Okay. Try, try to go into like a charity event or a fundraiser as well on the, on the rich side of town, or like a little gala or something like that. Try doing those things too. You can go to nice restaurants, sit at the bar, but like I said, it's, it's a numbers game; you got to do it consistently.

You said a wealthy man wants you to visit him after one F call or text. Ma'am, your name ain't your dash babe. Think about what he just told you; he wants you to visit him. That means he expects you to come to him. No, no, no. If he likes you that much, he needs to hop on a plane, and he needs to come visit you and your city. Okay. It's not a flex to say some old man wants you to deliver yourself, or some rich man wants you to deliver it; no, it's a flex when they come to you. Okay. We're not getting ready of that; we ain't no takeout. It's like, well, that's so nice that you would love me to visit you, but you know what would even be better? If you came over here and visited me and took me out to dinner and took me shopping, I would be even [Music] better. Okay. If you are that excited enough to get up off your butt, pack you a little bag, get on your little flight, and come and come over here, that would be even better. I wouldn't. You can get them to come to you, ma'am; that's attraction. Okay.

When a man is already a provider, what to do to start asking without being asked to be a girlfriend? Asking what if he's already a provider, what are you asking for? What are you asking? Can you get a rich man in church? Yes, you can, but he's gonna be, uh, he's not going to, he probably ain't gonna be too faithful, meeting him in church. Sprinkle sprinkle. I, oh, M, bro, thank you. Sprinkle sprinkle. Thank you, girl. Yeah, you can meet rich men; go to the rich side of town where the rich church is and go up in there, but don't expect him to be faithful, man, cuz if he's single and rich and he's at church, he's doing the same thing you're doing. Oh, Katherine. Sprinkle sprinkle. You're 22 and engaged to a 29-year-old provider. How do you get out of being weak-minded, insecure, and less emotional, more logical, and feel not trustful and is driving me crazy? First of all, ma'am, thank you. Sprinkle sprinkle. Thank you, Katherine. You're not crazy; he's 29 years old, so you already know he's not going to be faithful; you already know he's going to mess up; just accept it. Let me, let me help you out real quick. Accept that he's going to mess up; accept it. This is also part of marriage; accept that people are going to do wrong and mess up; they're not perfect; nobody's perfect, man. If you accept that, you're on a good start to starting to be less emotional. Uh-oh, thank you. Sprinkle sprinkle for the super sticker, the little cat picture. Thank you. Okay. So understand that first; you got to let, you got to let all, let go. Number one, number one, you got to let all that go. You can't stop him from doing what he wants to do; that's number one. Number two is, if you're so worried about him, he's the prize, and you're not, so why should he ask you to marry him? You know what I'm saying? So you need to figure out how to flip the script to get him to be worried about you and what you're doing, and if you're going to replace him with somebody, that's what you need to do. Because if you're that worried at that young of an age, he's the prize to you, and you're the pck Misha. And also, if you're too attached and too emotionally attached to this man, that's going to get over real quick, okay? And it's gonna, like you said, it turned into insecurity. You cannot stop him from doing whatever he's going to do; you have to accept that no man is perfect; you got to accept that. And then what else you got to do is you got to understand your power as a woman to build and get whatever you want out of his mistakes. And once you learn how to do that, it won't even matter because you're going to be continuously gaining and getting whatever you want out of the situation every time he messes up. And what you're doing is also teaching him that every time he messes up, he gotta pay. So either he'll figure it out to mess up less and less and less, or you're going to keep gaining and gaining and gaining. And if you decide you don't want him anymore, you still leave, and you still win because you have gained, and he has lost. Okay. Thank you, Salma. Has, what's your opinion about having a threesome with a great provider? It's his idea, ma'am; no. Sprinkle sprinkle. If it ain't your idea, then you shouldn't be doing it. Thank you, ma'am. Don't be no, don't be a desperate pkm, ma'am. You go find a provider that doesn't want that at all. To me, he's telling you you're not wife material. Sprinkle sprinkle. I don't know if you want to marry that provider, but like literally, he's not seeing you as a wife if he's willing to share you, darling. If you don't care about any of that, you just want the letting, whatever, whatever, then do what you got to do, but in my opinion, that man doesn't value you. Okay. I feel like the man just, just told you he doesn't value you on the same level that you probably want him to. [Music] Okay.

Say, so how these men be having orgies with their wives is crazy. Yeah, because they don't really care, and the women don't care; it's not about the love; it's about the money. So it just depends; like everybody has a different reason for doing stuff. If you don't care and you're just about your money, then do what you want to do, but you already know that it's not about you either; it's just about what you'll do, you know. So for you, you got your own standards; you have your own set of standards; you follow them, and you never break them. Okay. So whatever you're comfortable with, then that's fine. I mean, I can't tell you what to do; I know I wouldn't be doing it. Why? Because that doesn't go in with my standards. Sprinkle sprinkle. But that doesn't mean it's right or wrong; it just means that that man probably, if he shares you, he doesn't respect you on that level. Okay. How do you know if he's the right fit to be your husband? If he can provide you the lifestyle that you want, he'll make a decent father. I mean, those are the top two things: if he makes a decent father and is able to provide you the lifestyle you want; those are the first two things you need to know if you plan on having kids. If you don't plan on having kids, if he can provide for you and he's a decent human being to you, because that goes along with it; if he's gonna make a good father, he probably makes a good husband. So you, if you're not worried about the kids, then just worry about yourself, but make sure he has the lifestyle and the money to provide what you want right now, not in 20 years in the future, but right now, what you want in the future as well. Okay. See, I would never get to a point where a man could convince me to do anything that I wasn't already gonna do. You know what I'm saying? That's weakness in a woman, when a man can bend your standards. You're, as a woman, you should, your standards should be so unbendable, the man has to work around them. You know what I'm saying? That's why it's very important to have standards as a woman from the beginning of the relationship, so men know not to cross certain lines or to say certain things or do certain things. You got to put that right in the beginning, and they know better if they, if, and they, if they disrespect you by asking you to bend your standards or to change them, you know that they're, they don't respect you. So your question should be to them, well, you know my standards, and for you to ask me to bend them or break them shows that you don't respect them. If you need to go find someone else that has lower standards, by all means, go do it; it's all you got to tell them. Okay. Empress Diva. Sprinkle sprinkle.

He seems generous, but he isn't rich but working towards it. How do I tell him the things I want? Do I just send links? Yeah, send links, girl. If he likes you that much, he's going to make sure you got what you need, you know. But I tell women this, okay, make sure he's not, I said this earlier in the video or maybe another video, make sure these dudes aren't going into the credit card debt and are secretly broke trying to keep you as a woman and they can't afford you, because this one girl earlier said that, you know, she was in a relationship, and this dude was providing, then after three months, he broke up with her and said that she, she was spending too much money. Uh, so his credit card bills probably piled up; he probably couldn't pay them off, and he got to take a little break, you know what I'm saying? And he may start over with a whole another woman so that he looks like he's got money and he's a provider in her eyes because now he needs that break to recover. So make sure he's not trying to recover in credit card debt trying to afford you; make sure you find a man that can actually afford you if that's the things you need. Okay. If he can afford you, great. If you can't, got to have a second one or move on.

What if you're going through a divorce, and men you're talking to say he can't afford because you're married? He can't, he can't continue because you're married. Ma'am, then you told him too much information. Sprinkle sprinkle. All right, you told him too much information, or you didn't lie good enough or something. So if you're going, if you're going through a divorce and you're seeing a man and says, "I can't continue because you're married," like, you know what, I'm not really married; you need to use that to convince him, like, "I'm not going back; I'm not married; we're just waiting on the court date." Shoot, you, you know, all, and sometimes when they tell you that, they don't even want you anyway; maybe they didn't, just maybe they were done with you. Like, if a man really, really wants you, he's gonna wait, man; he's gonna be in there; he's gonna make sure ain't nobody else gonna get in. Okay. So you, you have to understand sometimes these men just use that as a cop-out or saying that they don't really want you or, you know, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. I really wouldn't care; if a man really wants you, he's gonna stick to you so nobody else can get to you. It's like, oh, okay, don't worry about it; I understand. If you act like you don't care, you ain't worried about it, like you got options, great. Sometimes men just say that, you know. Okay, I really don't want to be, I can't be with you because you're married. But if you don't live in the same house, if you're getting a divorce, if you're separated, or whatever, great. Some, maybe they'll still date you, but maybe they don't sleep with you. If they really wanted you, they'd stick around. Okay. Brown. Sprinkle sprinkle. Are short skirts and pantyhose okay to freestyle in, man? I like what you're trying to look like. Sprinkle sprinkle. Pantyhose, tights? Are you, you looking like Bina Carpenter? What's happening? K Brown. Sprinkle sprinkle. Give me, you looking like the nanny? What's going on? What style are you rocking? If you look good in it, I guess, ma'am, if you look good in it, don't look like you're trying too hard; I guess it's cute; it's if you look good in it. Okay.

How do men determine our worth? By how you determine it, Miss Katie. Men can't determine anything until you determine your own value and your own worth. Sprinkle sprinkle. Just like you can't determine the value of a man until he's determined his own worth. Very easy; it's about you, not them. So if a man determines his own worth by becoming a successful person, by becoming a good provider, by becoming a good husband and a good father, or father and husband material, that's his value, what he has determined, not what anybody else has determined; that is his value because you set your own value. Do other stores come in, other stores putting price tags and values on other stores' products? No, you set your own value. Now, a shopper can come in and say, well, I don't think that item, that item may be overpriced, or that item may be underpriced. Oh, that's the deal; let me, let me snatch it up; that's a good deal, or you know, no, I need to save up a little bit more, or no, that's overpriced; I can get it cheaper elsewhere. It's the same thing; you determine your value, and depending on the convenience, how much money a person has and how much they really want you right now is going to determine whether they take you off the market or not. You know, you ever been shopping somewhere and you like, girl, you can, you can buy that on Shein for cheaper. If you got the time to wait for Shein, great. If you want it tonight and you got to wear it tonight, you gonna cop it; you're gonna wear it; you need it for an occasion right now.

You ain't gonna wait on sh*t, you gonna get it now, right? Okay. If you tried it on, it's your size, and somebody is convincing you that it's, you know, get it right now. Don't worry, don't worry about it. You're going to buy it because the store determines its own value. The person determines their own value, not no man, all right? Sprinkle sprinkle, all right. What, what if you know you don't have all that? You're not Beyonce type. Listen to me, and then so what do you sell? What you don't sell it for anything. The man that has the money to provide the lifestyle that you require will be a contender. It's like, it's the same thing; it's like you're a contender. So many other people can afford the same thing, but you get to choose. You see, it's like, like when I tell y'all to date more than one, you got, you're dating this guy, you're dating this guy, you're dating this guy. They all got money, they all like you. Which one you like? Sprinkle sprinkle. [Music] Okay, he said the obsession. Okay, Downtown D says the obsession with determining value is a concept that came from dusties to make women compete and feel insecure. Exactly. You determine your own value by how you treat yourself, by how you look, by how you care of yourself, by your high standards. And every woman sets their own value by how they treat themselves and their high standards and what they expect and what they will accept and what they won't accept. Because I mean, if you're walking around thinking that your value depends on some man's opinion, that's backwards, baby. Okay, your value depends on yourself. [Music] Yeah.

So how to make them see you as a wife? Know your value. If you know that you're wife material and you know that, don't act like nothing else either. They gonna dismiss themselves or they gonna put a ring on it. That's literally it. So, and you could have different eras, like ladies, when you're young, you're 20, early 20s, you might not be ready to get married, so you're not going to literally, you're not going to present as a wife. But when you get to an age where you're ready to get married, then start presenting as a wife. Oh, Truth theme it, education. Your beautiful 46-year-old people pleaser in recovery. Oh, you can't be a people pleaser, man. The day I stopped being a people pleaser was the day I was free. So glad you gave up on dating online and focus on freestyling alone. What, where to meet rich men? Okay, ma'am, we're the same age, me and you. My birthday just passed, but let me tell you something: the only people you need to be pleasing are yourself and maybe your kids, okay? As long as it's beneficial to you. Women are notorious for being people pleasers and dormant. It's a new day. It's a new day. Focus on yourself. Treat yourself like you want to be treated by others. Teach them how to treat you by how you treat yourself. Get offline; ain't nothing on there worth anything, so get off. Go out in the real world, on the rich side of town, during the daytime, in the a.m. Lots of 55-plus-old men out there on a golf course, on a pickup ball court, in the park walking their dogs, um, chilling, sitting out there eating alone at a steakhouse, maybe, don't, maybe they're divorced, maybe they don't have no wife, maybe they do, you know, maybe they're in the car dealership waiting on their car to be finished getting serviced. Don't never know, but they're somewhere in the daytime, okay? All being 55 and up ain't out in the club at night or in the bars at night; not too many, most of them are all in bed by 10 or at home. So got to go out during the daytime, on the rich side of town. Run your errands over there, join a little gym over there, sign up for pickleball lessons over there, sign up for golf lessons over there, go do your grocery shopping, go to a Pilates class, go to a gym, I don't know, go, go over there, hang out every day until you meet somebody because it's a numbers game; that's literally it. Every day, every day, at least every other day. A lot of people, a lot of women told me that they've actually moved and downsized to live on the rich side of town so they could literally be there often, every day, and they find their, find their provider. You know, sometimes you just got to make that move or drive, but sometimes if you live right there, very easy. Okay.

Why do some women recommend online? Because they're lazy, okay? They're lazy in the wrong way; they're lazy in the wrong way. So they don't think they're attractive enough to pull in real life. I said it: if you know you can go out and pull, what you look like with no filter on and no Photoshop, you confident, get out in the real world and pull for real. Okay? If you online, you, you, you doctoring up your pictures, you're lying about a lot of stuff, they lying to you too. They online, they got a date every night of the week with some chick who's clueless. You over there sitting there looking for your soulmate, looking dumb, and both of y'all gonna end up looking dumb in the end. So my question is, why aren't enough women bold and confident enough to go pull in real life? Okay? Get out there. Some of these men that be trying to date y'all online be telling y'all, "I don't look like this picture." They looking at the picture like it don't look like you, you. That's 'cause I used 18,000 filters and I photoshopped. Okay, well, ma'am, if you can't pull in real life, just say you can't pull. You know, a lot of women are like, there are a lot of people online whose pictures are years and years old; they don't even look like that no more. I don't even know why y'all doing it. If you can't pull in real life, if a man can't cross a room and risk it all, might even get rejected, just to say hello and try, uh, I don't want them. Sprinkle sprinkle. He said the woman shouldn't have rosters. They should, if they're smart. Dumb women don't have rosters. Smart women do; they do. So if you were looking at it financially, would you recommend people put all their eggs in one basket and wait? No, that's dumb. Okay. Smart people know how to multitask and not put all their eggs in one basket; that's just, that's just intelligence. You want dumb women? That's fine; a lot of them are just pretending these days anyway. Maybe you'll find one that will lie to you and tell them, tell you that they don't got no roster, and you'll believe them. You can't afford to live in a rich area? Well, that's your new goal, ma'am. I, you a man that lives in a rich area, then maybe he can help you afford to live over there. Sprinkle sprinkle. Okay, G, they got little, they got little studio apartments in rich areas. You can get, maybe you and another girl can have a roommate situation until y'all find y'all millionaires or whatnot. A lot of women are doing that. Sprinkle sprinkle.

So this is hilarious. It is hilarious. Where you should be at work getting some money or some second, third strings of income. This is hilarious that you in here complaining and being mad about what women are talking about. Okay. Do you have a video on how to build a solid roster, girl? You don't need no video; you just gotta be smart. I think I do though, somewhere. I, I don't know, I might make another one. I have so many. Okay. I think I've explained it a couple of times. As soon as you meet one, you go meet another one. So as soon as you secure one on your roster, go out the next night and the next night until you find number two. That way you got two at the same time. So you're, you find one, you don't stop and celebrate and say, "Oh, I found me a provider," and then stop. No, you keep going out till you get two. You got to secure two, okay? At least two. If you can do three, great, but two, you know, that's, that's workable. So as soon as you meet one, don't get comfortable. You going out the next day and the next day until you meet another one. Because if you met one looking like you look at that specific time, you're looking good, that means you can go pull another one with just as much money, just like him or similar. So you keep going. Don't, you're, you're on a winning streak, okay? So you keep going out till you secure two or three. All right. You tell one your schedule is the opposite of the other one. You get a little notebook and you write it down, all your schedules. Okay, "I'm available at this time, between this time and this time. I'm available on this time, this time." If you're smart, you got wigs, you can switch your wigs out. You meet them on totally opposite sides of towns, and they're totally different from each other, so that they'll probably never run into each other, and you will never run into that person doing the same type of activities because they're going to be different or mostly different. Thank you, Holly. Can the type of vehicle you drive deter a man? Depends on what it is. If it's nice, really nice, he might think he can't do anything for you, or you might have a good career and he can't impress you. If it's really ratchet, he might be able to help you upgrade it, man. Sprinkle sprinkle. But yes, soon as you get one, you got to get another one. You said this old man wanted a hug, and he told him hugs aren't free, and then he gave you a hookup. You gave him a hookup. Okay, girl, sometimes people just want to know that they're still desirable. You said the body count goes up with those rosters. Yeah, but rich men don't count like that. Rich men don't count like poor men because they don't need to count. You know why? Because it doesn't matter. Ain't nobody sitting over there counting your body count. You need to be worried about your bank account, sir, not nobody's count, all right? Because if you see a woman that you really like, you ain't gonna care about her body count anyway. They act like men care about body count. You see a woman that turns you on, you don't care about her body count, sir. If you see a woman you really want, you don't care about her body count. Y'all just use that as a way to lower a woman's value in your mind or in her mind if she's dumb enough to fall for it because you ain't got no money. Okay, we don't fall for that no more. Rich men don't ask them dumb questions. Just say you ain't got no bank account. Just say that. Just say you broke. Just say you broke. You don't even have to ask a woman about her body count. Her body count is her business, and it ain't yours. You need to go get some business. Sprinkle sprinkle. A woman can do whatever she wants. You can't afford it either way. Sprinkle sprinkle. Uh oh, Salma. Sprinkle sprinkle.

Do you think you should have your man on IG or not? Girl, I really don't care about no online stuff. If y'all, if y'all are young and y'all got to deal with these men on IG, then make sure yours looks better. Make sure you're following richer men than your man. Make sure you got what he needs to be cautious of. Don't be spying on these men; let them spy on you. Okay? Who cares what they doing, what you doing? Are they afraid to lose you? Are they keeping tabs on you? Are you following somebody with a nicer car than them, with richer, you know, that are, that's richer than them? Why they ain't worried about you? Yes, we don't care who they're following. We don't care if we follow them or not. I'm not, I'm not trying to hook up with my, if you live with your boyfriend, if you have your own boyfriend, why you need to follow him on IG? Did y'all meet on IG? Honestly, you need to have two accounts. You need to have the fake account and a real account. Give them the fake one. Sprinkle sprinkle. Thank you, Stella. How do you bring up to him that you don't want to work anymore, and what makes a man commit? Okay, uh, what makes a man commit is when he wants to take you off the market and don't want you to be available to anyone else, which means he will pay for your bills if that's what you want and that's what you require and that's your standard. So in the beginning of your relationship, you, I don't know if you did this or not, but you need to say, you need, you should have told him that you don't want to work, always, that you're going to eventually quit. But if you didn't tell him that, he might have married a worker, he might have married a barber, the builder, you know what I'm saying? Because most men will say, "Okay, well, I need a barber, the builder, so I need someone who's working." And if you agree to whatever 50-50 relationship or whatever relationship, that's what he depends on. So you need to have a conversation like, "I'm tired of working, I'm thinking about quitting, uh, so are you able to, uh, provide?" And if he says no and looks at you crazy, you know, you're the builder, uh, you could give him a few months' notice and you can say, "Okay, well, you need to, you need to figure this out because this, this is, and that," and if he loves you and he wants you, he'll figure it out. If not, you're the roommate. Sprinkle sprinkle. Okay, okay, but you need to figure it out. Some people only get with people because that's a roommate. So if y'all not in a roommate situation, then he will find a way to provide. Okay, just give him a, just give him a few months' notice and tell him you're gonna stop doing this, and he better be prepared. You can say in a nice way, make it seem like it's his idea. Complain all the time about how tired you are. When he says, "Man, you should quit," like, "Thank you, I'm so glad you said that. I was, I'm trying, I'm ready, I'm ready to be a stay-at-home girlfriend," whatever you are. He's gonna be like, "No, I didn't mean for you to not find another job." Oh, you too late; you already said it. "I'm, I'm falling in love with the idea of being a stay-at-home," you got it. Okay. He said they ask about bank accounts. Ask about bank accounts. Exactly. I don't even know why these men don't realize that's a low-level dusty question. I mean, they haven't figured out, it hasn't, it hasn't gone through all the social media platforms to the, to the dusty side of TikTok yet or the dusty side of Instagram. They haven't made it over there yet. Well, it needs to make it over there. It's dusty to ask that question. It's a red flag that you are dusted, that you're broke. Rich men don't ask that question. Okay, and a lot of women know because they're dating rich men now and they left the dust alone, and that question doesn't get asked when you're on a date with a man that has money, all right? Only broke bums ask them dumb questions. Okay. Sprinkle sprinkle.

So you know what would be funny? I might do it. I'm gonna make a list of red flags, dusty questions, of dusty. Only a dusty blasts when you need to get up from wherever you're sitting when these questions, when soon as these questions are asked, get up, all right? Body count, get up. Do you have kids? Get [Music] up. Because if they're not there to date you, they worry about everything else but you. Let me focus on today, focus on right now. Impress me; that's what you're here for. You ask me out; that's what you're here for. Impress me, all right? [Music] Especially if they ask you more than once if you have kids, super red flag. What do you bring to the table? Ooh, super red flag that they're dusty. What you gonna do for me if I do this for you? Dusty, fake wealth, splendor. What you gonna do for me? All right, red flag. Let's see, what do you do for work? That might not be a red flag, but um, it is one of the questions that you could just lie about. Just tell them an occupation that doesn't earn a lot of money and see if they get upset. Their reaction is going to be the clue that they're broke because if a man is going to be a provider, he's not going to care how much money you earn. Okay, um, that's true, uh, that's them, are red flags. Body count, what do, do you have kids? If they ask more than once, of course. What do you bring to the table? What you gonna do for me if I do this for you, and what you do for work? My dusties are scrambling right now. They like, "Oh, what are we, G? What are we, G, to ask?" [Music] Oh, how much money do you make? Oh, that's in person. People should never ask that question to a woman, I, especially a man. You're having trouble getting in your creative bag, you want to start a business. Okay, do what I say in my book: go in a room, don't come out till you have five ideas on how to make money right now with what you already got or with little of nothing. Starting a business is not, doesn't have anything to do with being super creative; it's, it's using what you have right now and building it up. Start off small and, and grow it. Sprinkle sprinkle. Whatever you're doing right now that you could literally be getting paid for, incorporate that into your business ideas and what you can do now. A business doesn't have to be something major and, and huge in the beginning; it just needs to be something that's going to earn you money and get you, you know, to be able to flip your money easily. Oh, Grilla, thank you for being a new member. Sprinkle sprinkle. And remember, you can always start new businesses all the time and have several. That's it. Someone says, "What kind of car do you drive?" Is that a dusty question? I, I gave us a dusty question. What kind of car you drive? Is they trying to see if you'll let them borrow it? All right. Also, any demeaning statement to try to make you feel insecure about yourself is what dusties like to do because they can't reach your standard, so they try to bring you down. So any, any demeaning comment, just flip it back around on them. Okay. Sprinkle sprinkle.

Okay, so women that, uh, want to make men see them as a wife, they need to represent, dress for the life you want, have standards for the life you want, deal with the type of men who belong in the life that you want. That's literally it. Okay, uh, cut out all the drinking, the smoking, and the swearing around, you know, these guys. Improve yourself, become a respectable person, someone that they'll want to introduce to their family and who they want to introduce to their friends and colleagues and who will make a good mother, at least in their eyes. That's what you have to represent if you want to be seen as a wife. It, it's all of those things. Okay, and usually, because this is psychological, a lot of men end up marrying a woman that reminds them of their mother, so that's even, it's even crazier. So if you ever meet their mom, understand that's what they're going to be attracted to, uh, her demeanor, the way that she acts, the way that she explains things, the way that she reacts to things; that's what they're literally attracted to. So be careful. You meet the mom; understand that's what he's attracted to, some in some form or fashion. Not maybe not the looks, but maybe the attitude, maybe the way that she operates or makes logic out of things, but definitely you study the mother. I mean, that's what, that's what our girl Megan Sussex, formerly known as Megan Markle, did. She studied the mother; that's how she got Prince Harry. Sprinkle sprinkle. Now that doesn't mean that you're going to cook and clean and be a Pik Misha like their mother. It's the other things; it's how they, the tone, it's how they speak to them, it's their triggers, it's their, it's all those, it's, it's literally studying psychology. You study the psychology on how their mother treats them, how they handle them, and you do the same. Sprinkle sprinkle. It is crazy. It's rude for men to ask why you're still single. Yeah, it is rude. A lot of men don't know that they, they, they literally think that, you know, you're such a good catch, like, "Why aren't you with someone?" Or they can't believe that you're not with another man; you possibly could be cheating. So that's why I always like, tell, tell them what they need to hear, like, "Oh, when he moved out of the country, and I wouldn't try to move out there with him." You know, just tell them something they need to hear. Don't, you don't have to explain yourself. You know, you don't have to tell the truth or whatever you say. You know, these men ain't ready; just lie. Tell them what they need to hear. Okay. Sprinkle sprinkle. He said, "Do you give wife, or do you give side piece, or do you give baby mama?" The choices are yours. That's true. Like, dress for the lifestyle that you want. You know, so if you don't know how to dress like you look like someone's wife, go look at people's wives. What are they, what are they dressed like? You want to see how a baby mama dresses, go look at people's baby mamas. You want to see how side pieces dress or situationships, go find somebody that's in a situationship and look what they're looking like. Okay. But if you want to be seen as a wife, walk, talk, dress, and have the standards of what a wife has, period. You said wives look haggard. No, those are domestic servants that look haggard. Ma'am, I said wives, not domestic servants. And if you're dealing with rich men, you're not going to look haggard. Those are only, uh, wives to broke people. Sprinkle sprinkle. Okay. If you look haggard, you're married to a broke man, period. We ain't looking for that lifestyle. Go look at the rich wives, all right? Sprinkle sprinkle. And look, you can be all of the above, but when you're ready to change, all you got to do is switch up that wardrobe, switch up those standards, and you too can be seen as a wife. Okay. You know the sad thing about the term wife is that so many hear that word and automatically think of domestic servant, and I don't, because I'm not a domestic servant. Nothing against domestic servants; get your money, but that's not what wife means. Thank you, N.N. So y'all gotta come up with a different definition. When, when y'all hear the word wife, think of housewives, rich wives, country club wives, women of leisure doing what they want to do, women out shopping during the day while other people are clocked in. Think about that, those wives, not the haggard wives that have to do laundry 20 times a week and don't have no money to go get their hair, their nails done. Like, not that, that's struggle love, baby. Talking about lifestyle now. Not everybody's going to be on the same lifestyle; some people are going to live better than others, but as long as you're not struggling and as long as you're not the domestic help, you're winning. You get it? There's levels to it. Some people are going to attract some people; some people are going to get better lives than some people, but as long as you're not struggling, as long as you're not in struggle mode and survival mode and you don't have to do, you know, the work of four people, you're good. If you could stay home, put your feet up, relax, and live in your feminine, you're winning. Okay. Not everybody's going to be able to do it on the level of, of these like, you know, Instagrammers that are, you know, social media influencers that have like, you know, Bentleys and all this kind of stuff. Everybody's not gonna do it on the same level, but if you can do, if you could stay home and live in your feminine and not have to clock in nine months pregnant, you go shop wherever you can afford to shop when you want to or whatever, whatever, you're winning, still. Okay. So focus on that. You don't have to, you don't have to secure a billion-dollar bag; just secure a bag that makes you happy and lets you live your best life. You know what I'm saying? Use what you got to get what you want. You know, make them see you as a wife if that's the man that you, you know, are attracted to as to be your husband. Make sure they see you as a wife; don't make, make sure they don't see you as nothing else but. Okay. Keep them standards high. I don't do that; I don't do that. Go ask someone else; that's not what I do; that's not me. They're, and if they're, you know, understanding that they'll wife you, if they're not, they'll go get another one. Okay. Sprinkle sprinkle. All right. Yeah, yeah. I said this earlier in the video: I got this jacket from a place called Love Always Boutique. They do have a store online, but I think someone said that they might have been sold out, but maybe if you write and ask for the pearl and rhinestone denim jacket, they might order some more. Just tell them she was 7 Cent, you. Sprinkle sprinkle. Uh oh, Veronica, 21 and in Cosmos, in Cosmos school, but tired of working. Provider. Yeah, girl, I don't know why you haven't got one already to pay for that school. Yes, I think provider. If you're tired of working, like if your, if your family can't say, "Okay, well, girl, take a break," you know, whatever, whatever. If you don't have family backup, then of course get you a provider, man. Sprinkle sprinkle. He said how to deal with a man who only sees you in a sexual way. You want a relationship? You can't change that. Uh oh. Sprinkle sprinkle. You can't change how that man looks at you; it's too late. You need to find someone, you need to, first of all, if they only see you in a sexual way, and you need to change your look, change your standards, change a lot of stuff so that they don't look at you that way. Okay? If you don't want to be looked at in a sexual way to that man when you go around him, don't look, you know, don't look sexy. Look posh, look fashionable, look wifey. Okay? Don't have stuff hanging out; don't have stuff skin tight. Okay? Keep your standards high, keep your posture good, act like a wife. Okay. Sprinkle sprinkle. You see, I'm covered up, and I'm very demure. Everything's covered. I'm standing on business. Eyebrows are arched to judge you when you ask me to lower my standards. I don't even have to move my face; this eyebrow is already arched. Like all I got to do is turn my head and tilt it. See, just like their mama. Just give them a look, baby. Remember, men marry their mothers or women like their mothers. So they say something stupid or out of line, just give them a look. [Music] And dress appropriately. Don't be showing everything; that's for the side pieces, that's for the one-night stands, that's for the baby mamas. Covered it up. If you want to be a wife, give them the looks. Sprinkle sprinkle. What if he only wants to fully provide once you move in with him? Now I live in another girl, that's a trap. Sprinkle sprinkle. Tell them you need the money to get to the country. Tell them you need the money to move, to pack up, to pay movers, to pay the, he think you gonna do all that stuff for free and you come in there? He got about five roommates? No, ma'am. Don't fall for the Okie dokie 90-day fiance scam. Uh oh. Lean, dating rich 62-year-old man for a few months who got me what? Said marriage is impossible because of, oh, he got you a car. Marriage is impossible because of age, 25, after I said no sex, no commitment. Do I hang in? Okay, you got a car out of it. Sprinkle sprinkle. His, his stuff probably don't work no more. All right. Sprinkle sprinkle. Just, just get the car and be happy, man. This stuff ain't working no more. All right. Don't y'all realize that men of a certain age, their stuff stops working unless they got them Viagra pills? All right. Stop trying to marry him, girl. He about, he got one foot in the grave. What you doing? I mean, if you want, he said he, marriage is impossible because...

Your age, that means he ain't got what it takes to keep you in the bedro. I mean, his stuff don't work no more, okay? He just told you what he told you. Sprinkle sprinkle. He said, basically, he says, "I'm old, my stuff don't work, so we can't get married, but here's a nice car. Make sure you just come visit and make sure I'm still alive due to wildness checks." That's what he told you. Sprinkle sprinkle. But at the same time, at least he gave you a car, man. Be happy about that. And some of these guys out here, they not gonna tell you they got one foot in the grave. Sprinkle sprinkle.

All right. You said, "Most men look at us like sex objects, even covered head to toe." You just need to set strong physical boundaries until you're in a relationship, if that's what you want. Okay, thank you, ma'am. Sprinkle sprinkle. That's true, and you know that's why you have to keep things very respectable and draw that arch eyebrow. So when they start talking like that, you just all you got to do is look down. Okay? A lot of women don't know how to stop men from thinking like that. You got to tell them; you got to literally tell them, like, "You know what? It's such a turnoff when men are just so focused on sex all the time. It means they have nothing else to contribute or talk about, and they're more animalistic. And I like, you know what turns me on? Intellect." Sometimes you just got to tell them because they're stupid and they don't know any better, and they don't know it's turning you off. They think you like sex just as much as they do, so you got to let them—excuse me, sir—it's really a turnoff when men are more animalistic and they can't talk or have a decent conversation about anything because they're so distracted, like animals. They're so easily manipulated as well. I mean, the kind of man that I like is smart, disciplined, and has actual conversations to talk about that has nothing to do with sex. It's literally mental foreplay. They're gonna switch it up real quick if you know how to talk. Okay? Gotta tell them, like, "I'm sorry, you can't just sit there and wish that they stopped." You have to, like, literally come up with a whole conversation about how it's a turnoff and how men are this and how men are that. And that way, you're teaching them how to act; you're telling them how to act before they even start acting stupid, before they even start acting dumb, saying stupid stuff. You don't even give them the chance; you tell them straight up before they even start, just like a mother. "You go in that store, don't ask me for nothing; you're not getting anything; you better not cry." Da same thing they want. I tell you, men marry their mother, so you do the same thing when y'all start dating. I don't like it, and it's a total turnoff when men start talking about sex right away. It just shows they're desperate; they're not really serious; they're not trying to put in any, you know, effort to get to know a person on a mental level. What I really find attractive is an interesting, charming, intelligent man. That's the real turn-on. It's literally like mental foreplay. You say that in the beginning of any type of dating situation; they're gonna pull back because it's gonna make them look stupid. And just like a mother telling them them children, "You better not act stupid when you walk in the store," you're doing the same thing, so they're going to naturally respond to it. Okay? If you can't take—if you too shy—if you can't speak up for yourself, I mean, they're going to walk all over you; they're going to treat you like what you acting like. You can do it in a feminine, nice way, but you're still doing it; you're still putting down the rules, setting the rules, setting the tone, and tell them that they better not act up. Okay? Sprinkle sprinkle.

You said, "Y'all want money all day." That's a turnoff. It is a turnoff if you ain't got no money, I guess. Okay, thank you, Jonathan. Sprinkle. Appreciate that, Goddess Laurel. Thank you, ma'am. Okay, mistos. Okay, you're 22; your boyfriend is 20, turning 21. He's in the Air Force; he lives in Florida, and you live in NY. You sometimes get jealous when he tells me other women tries to get him, get at him, and I show that—show that I am—what should I do? Okay, bam. Y'all are too young; y'all ain't about to get married. He's cheating; have fun, man. You need to go be dealing with somebody else too. Sprinkle sprinkle. Long-distance relationship in your early 20s? You don't think that man's cheating? Why aren't you—y'all are just together in theory. Sprinkle sprinkle. Uh-oh, Mandy, find out he's playing the field. Should I speak up? Only if he got some money to pay for his forgiveness; otherwise, you need to be dating somebody else and slowly making a transition to replace him if he ain't got no way to make up for what he's doing. Okay? Sprinkle sprinkle. And yes, ma'am, go date other men. That man in the Air Force is dating everybody in his—he can get his hands on. Sprinkle sprinkle. That uniform, please don't get mad at him; he's only 21 or 20; that's what he's supposed to be doing. Okay? And so are you; you're supposed to be out there dating other guys, having fun, looking cute; that's what you're supposed to be doing too. Okay? So go do it, and you don't have to act like you're jealous if you got some business of your own. Oh, thank you, Jonathan. Sprinkle sprinkle. For the super sticker. Y'all are getting jealous over stupid stuff that y'all aren't going to be able to control. You're not going to be able to control no 20-year-old man that's far, far away. You can't do it, and he can't control you either. Thank you, thank you, Goby or Gabby. Thank you, girl. Sprinkle sprinkle. Just understand that y'all are both young; y'all both gonna do what y'all want to do, and just go do it, all right? Just go get some money for about your whatever job or education you're doing right now. Okay? Date other people and go have fun. Don't lay down when nothing's broke; that's for sure. I'm gonna be gone in a few minutes, y'all, so get your question, and I'm about to leave in a few minutes. How can you not be a dormant and reel him in? Sprinkle sprinkle. He got to reel you in, ma'am. How can he reel you in? We don't reel in men; we're not out there chasing; we're not fishing for men; they're finding us. If if he doesn't like you enough to chase you and reel you in, then why are you trying to be with him? A lot of y'all get mixed up when it comes to dating and relationships, and y'all think y'all are supposed to chase behind a man and reel them in. If they don't like you enough to want you, then they're not worth it. Okay? We're not trying to chase; we're not trying to make them want us; they're they're supposed to want us naturally and automatically. They don't? That's the wrong one, Target. Okay? I mean, for young people, I think y'all are just so excited and anxious to be out there in the dating world, and y'all see somebody attractive or cute, and you just have to have them. That's lust; that's lust; that's not—that's not logical thinking for lifestyle, future, and uh, someone who's financially intelligent enough to be a provider, husband, and father. That's none of that; that's just lust. That's why I tell y'all young people, y'all are infatuated, and y'all are in lust; y'all don't know anything about love or future, you know, lifestyles and stuff like that. If you're going to base your relationship on temporary emotions, make sure they got some permanent money behind it. Okay? Sprinkle sprinkle. If y'all are going to be jealous of somebody in their 20s like it's the end of the world, understand people in their 20s going to do—they going to do, period. Accept it; go do what you want to do. To another thing, you know, if y'all are worried about that, you're—when you're young, you're fertile; you're trying to procreate; that's all you're thinking about. Get to it, right? So you're going to be looking for attractiveness; you're going to be looking for traits in men that you find attractive so you procreate with, but if they don't have any money, you're doing all of that in vain because then you're going to be struggling. So if you're smart, you understand the game; you're going to understand that that's just lust. And if you're going to lust after somebody, make sure they got some money. Okay? There's men that have money; that that doesn't mean they're going to be the best option, but it's better than a broke option, baby. All right? If you're going to lust after somebody, make sure he got some money to—all right? Because I know young women are going to lust after people; they're going to be infatuated with people; they're gonna—they're going to feel like they're the one, even at at high school or 20 or whatever. We've all—we've all been there, but make sure they got some money. Okay? That way, if you lay down with them, you wake up, get up, pregnant, at least they have some money to provide. Don't—don't fall in love and lust with dust. Don't fall in lust with the dust. Get—get smart and at least lay down with something with some money, man. Dusty can't do nothing for you or or the offspring. Sprinkle sprinkle.

All right. Okay, Jonathan says that he got—he's gay, and he—his boyfriend, friend, is got bad news 'cause his father got sick. Okay? Only got two years, and he's getting drunk and mean. Okay? He needs to seek grief counseling. They have these apps that you can get. I don't know; somebody needs to sponsor me because I used to be a mortician, and grief starts when people find out the person is going—they're going to lose a person. That's when grief starts, when the sickness starts, so they're going through grief—grief right now, so they need to seek grief counseling, or there's an app that does grief counseling or whatever they need to figure out right now. He's in his anger stage; he's taking it out on the person closest to him, so you need to address the problem. Tell him he's grieving; he needs to seek grief counseling; find an app for him; download it. When he starts to be mean, remind him that he's going through grief; redirect those intentions back to what it's really about, and that should help—at least for you to talk about it or for him to seek the help that he needs temporarily, anyway. So sorry, but you know that happens. Okay? The Coco Chanel, thank you, girl. He's 40; you're 26. Is that old enough? He said he wants to spoil me; he still acts young; he wants—wants to take me away next week. I want to make sure he will spend on me. What can I ask for to test it? Okay? Ask them for money to board your three fake dogs that you don't have, and they're big dogs too. Go look up the boarding prices of three big dogs for however long you're gonna go visit him. Sorry. Uh, parking money—money that you're gonna lose if you take off work. Make sure he compensates you for all of those things before you even book a plane ticket. And I don't believe in flying out to meet men because it's very piga—literally, I don't know if—I guess y'all are flying away together. Okay, that's fine, then you should also be able to have that. Okay? Nice nasty response to excessive questioning. "You sure are curious; you have a lot of questions. Okay, well, we're going to have to see a lot more of each other if those questions are going to be answered, so hope you like such and such restaurant." That's how—sprinkle sprinkle—tell them it's gonna take some more money to get—to get to them questions. Thank you, Stephanie. Can you set boundaries without scaring him? Yes, you can say them in a nice, nasty way. Set the rules in place like I like—like I did earlier in the video; it's like, you know, just use it in conversation, like, "You know what really turns me on when a man is intelligent and doesn't talk about this, this, that. That's really what—that's really one of my turn-ons. And also, I really like guys that do this, this, and that." So you're going to give him a list of things that he has to become in order to impress you. You can do it in a nice way, just in casual conversation in the beginning of the dating, you know? You don't have to say, "Dear, these are my rules." You can just introduce them in conversation, and if they're listening to you, got them. And if they didn't hear you the first time, you can repeat it. "Well, remember when we were talking, and I said that I really like this, this, and that?" Pause. That pause means message. "Do you remember when I said I really like men who are intelligent, and it's really a turn-on instead of men who are, you know, minding the gutter?" That's how you do it. Okay? With a smile, a pause, and a reminder once, you know, if they're not listening. All right, y'all, I gotta wrap this up, so thank y'all so much everybody who sent—sprinkle sprinkle—and donations. Um, if y'all want to ask me questions in private, not—don't write me no whole book; keep it three sentences or less, y'all. Uh, join my Patreon tier two and up, send me a question; I'll write you back within a couple of days. Uh, I had to catch up on all of my Patreon questions last night because I was on vacation, and I totally forgot, but I was on vacation, but now I'm back, and I'm answering questions. So if y'all want to join the Patreon tier two and up, there's PDF books on there; there's posts; there's videos; there's where you can message me and ask me questions. If y'all want to sign up for the mail-out where I send you a letter, a handwritten letter or card each month, definitely do that too. Thank you, Goddess W. Sprinkle sprinkle. Appreciate you, and I'll see y'all very soon. Bye.