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Welcome back. I am Black Boy Wonder. I would just like to give credit to Kevin Samuels for this awesome video. Today we have a 28-year-old single mom with the bad B mentality. And I'll just cut straight to the chase. Kevin Samuels wastes no time exposing her in this video. She even admits some things. So, let's just get straight to it. Check it out.
>> All right. So, hello. How are you?
>> Hey, Kevin.
>> Hi. How old are you?
>> I'm 28.
>> All right. So, are you down for this boss [ __ ] bad chick energy?
>> Sure. Because I feel like it's inevitable if you're not going to be married and you're not planning to uh you know what I'm saying? If you're it's like why not? If you're not going to be a wife or present yourself as such, what else are you going to do? What else are you going to do? Be normal.
>> Be normal.
>> What is normal in this gener? What is normal? Really? Literally, what's normal?
>> That's just where I'm at.
>> Okay. You want to know?
>> Yes.
>> Are you Are we being serious? Are you being
>> I'm being so so so serious.
>> Okay. Normal is be normal as a 9 to5 productive citizen. Take off Take off the excessive makeup and the weave and go do what women have always done.
>> right? But but my my question is what you said is if you're not going to get married or present yourself as a wife, why not be a boss B?
>> Uh because it's an act.
>> Boss B. Yeah, that's why I agree. I agree. Like for me, for example, all the makeup and stuff that I wear now, it's it's for social media. I love and I'm not reading the comments cuz I know they go in on your thing, but
>> yeah, don't worry about reading the comments either. But this is how the conversation
>> for me it's like um it's many things. I do um makeup and hair for a living, so I have fun with it. And really, this is going to kind of touch on what you're speaking on. I'm kind of in that weird space where I'm 28, I'm pushing 30, but the things I do are still very young minded like the makeup and the hair, but I'm also in that category of what you were talking about like last week, the entrepreneur. That's just what I do. So, it's like I do get judged quickly off of just little things. People don't even know me. That's just that's life. But people see you and the first thing say, "Hey, look at her. She's got these."
>> It's not
>> It's not life. It's you made choices.
>> life. Yeah. Yeah.
>> Made choices to be You made choices to do What did you say? You do makeup.
>> Yeah. I've been doing it for nine plus years.
>> Okay. Hold on. Hold on. But I'm But you're 28. You could have chosen to do a boring ass job like your mother and your grandmother and women before you. You could have chose to just do
>> And I did. I did both. I did both. I even tried doing it all at the same time.
>> No, that's not that's not what that see that's not what they did. See, one thing that I find with minor women is you guys get bored quickly and y'all want to be entertained all the time. And I mean no offense when I say this, but it's almost like y'all are children.
>> that I don't want to.
>> You are very young minded and and we always say that men are young minded, but I feel like
>> but but but but the difference is reality comes for you 40 years before it comes for uh 30 years before it comes for your counterparts. Because you could do this at 28, but what does life look like at 60 years old if you at this pace?
>> No family, no kids at 60. for me personally.
>> Yeah.
>> Oh god, I hope I'm dead. I hope to God he takes me home because I mean there's like why I understand why women choose this thing. It is a cope. A lot of things in life are just copes. Don't you think?
>> But you hope to be So are you serious? You hope to be dead by 60.
>> If I'm not in a happy, loving relationship, I hope that I've left a good mark on this earth. I hope I just set my not even alone because I I'm I'm very big on co-arenting. It's because I have boys. So, I hope their dads and I have gave them very good examples the best we could before I leave and I I give them what I can because Yeah. I mean, I like you said, I've made decisions and I can only do I can only do my best at this point. 28, I'm an entrepreneur. I'm divorced. Uh you help me realize I'm probably for the streets, Kevin. can probably I I don't know you, but my thing is
>> why are you giving up?
>> You were talking about it last week and you asked the question basically, should we give up? And I think I should. I think it's time. And it's I don't even aim for high value men. My personal issue is um like I'm just trying to be in a relationship. My have mental issues and I realize that. I understand that. But you don't want to be in a relationship. What kind of man do you want to be in a relationship with?
>> [clears throat]
>> Personally, I go for affection. Like I want to protect her and provide her stuff.
>> Focus on what I'm about to say.
>> What is his career?
>> Don't tell me the feelings. Don't tell the Don't tell me the feelings. Tell me what he does for a living.
>> That's my problem. I never think about that. It's my problem. I'm not thinking about that. You have children like loveydovey wanting to be
>> You have children?
>> Yes, I'm divorced. I have children.
>> How many kids?
>> We have We have two.
>> Okay. I'm going to ask you a direct question. When are you going to grow up?
>> Only Only time will tell.
>> Well, see, the thing is, a man couldn't do what you're doing. A man could not be 28 years old and have two children and be this ruthless because child support will put him in jail. We can't go through life this way. We have to grow up. So my my my thing is I get I get that you say you want to be in a relationship, but my my my and the only way you're going to get what you want is to mature.
>> right?
>> act like a mature mother, divorce aay woman of mother of two. This is giving me high school vibes.
>> right?
>> And that's the thing. I've already chosen and you're saying why? I guess it's just I guess I've chosen to choose influencer and you know what I'm saying? I choose.
>> No, I don't. I don't because I know most people who call themselves influencers aren't making I mean I don't want to get too personal but are you are you making substantial money?
>> No, no, no, no, not at all. I'm not I'm not saying that I'm financially stable because of it. I'm just saying it's I did choose this.
>> But let me let me take it away from But let me take it away. If you were trying to be a singer or an actress and you couldn't book any gigs, at some point you'd have to go get a job. So you have to deal with reality. And this is the problem with this bad [ __ ] boss chick energy. It makes it it breeds a a delusion to where
>> it is. I agree. I agree. I think it's just to cope.
>> I agree. I don't disagree.
>> Well, I guess I guess what I'm looking at. But who has custody of the kids?
>> Me. But um this is really personal, but as of this year, I let them know that, and yes, it's due. I let them both know that um I think it was it's appropriate for men to raise boys. If we're not if I'm not your wife, I don't think it's appropriate for a mentally unstable, financially irresponsible
>> black woman to raise black men.
>> Yeah. The first one um the first one I married at 19 and the second one
>> he proposed.
>> How old is your youngest child?
>> Two. I have a eight and a 2-year-old.
>> Yeah. So, well,
>> but yeah, like I said, as of
>> So, last question, last question, last question. Last question. Where where who champions boss chick bad [ __ ] energy in Hispanic, Asian, Middle Eastern, and white culture?
>> Spanish.
>> Yeah, Hispanic like which you had like like if you had to say hold on hold on if you had to say this is a this here are some white women who are public figures who champion the bad [ __ ] boss stuff energy in white America. Here are the Asian women who champion the bad [ __ ] boss chick thing and a outside of black women who's doing this in their culture.
>> These are my choices.
>> But I'm asking what other what other culture or race of women is doing this?
>> Oh, what other race actually identifies that way?
>> Yeah.
>> Living their life.
>> Um I think I think many many women are doing it because it's just a trend.
>> But but I'm okay. many did then name me some non-black women who are prominent in their culture who are doing it.
>> They're influencers like like there's a bunch of thick Asian women that do nails or they're on
>> Okay. Okay. Her name is uh she does nails and she was on um um and she's she goes with another girl too and they just made a little video where they're saying we're not the same person. Okay. But
>> but but they're not but what I'm saying is they're micro influences. They're not major.
>> Lovely Mimi. Her name's Lovely Mimi. Her name's Love.
>> Name me the major people.
>> Main people don't talk like that. They don't.
>> Yeah. Major people don't talk like that.
>> Why?
>> Um, they're holding themselves up to a different do. If I ask you do that with black people, you can name me a lot of black major figures who talk who champion this.
>> I mean, I would say Cardi B. She's she's Hispanic, you know. I I really believe it's just a it's just a trend. Like it's just a thing. It's like even a bad
>> Cardi B. Cardi B identifies more with black culture than Hispanic culture. So basically what I'm what I'm trying to get you to understand is black women are are are in particular. This is a thing with y'all. It has no long-term future. You can see how impractical it is. and no other group of women. Why if this is why aren't anybody else doing this? Why they choosing boring and y'all are choosing this?
>> Well, I can only speak for myself. I really do believe it's a cope. I really do believe it's a cope for people that have already tried
>> cope. Cope.
>> Cope. I don't think I think that I don't
>> Okay. Well, I mean, that's your opinion, but it's not coping. It's It's not really dealing with reality. I think one this is what happens when you have no fathers and women are in charge of community and women can just do what y'all want to and that's fine but then it comes with costs it comes with consequences because you know at at 60 it's not a good look at 40 it's not a good look so I that's why I'm trying to understand the boss [ __ ] bad chick energy doesn't end well so you said if I'm not going to present my wife something like this or that Then why not? This is why not because it ends badly.
>> Then if you can if you can agree that then why continue to do it?
>> I don't think I personally do boss [ __ ] anything. I'm just saying like it's it's just a term. I I feel like it's just a term. Like it's
>> not it's not a term. It comes with a look though.
>> Oh, I mean I can this is not an everyday thing for me. I don't I don't walk around like this all the time.
>> Everybody I think the audience understands what I'm talking about. And it's what it what it really comes down to is it comes with a a and I'm trying to be as nice as possible, but it comes with an overall lack of seriousness. Women who the women who tend to aspire to this don't tend to be very serious. Tend to be very creative and very flighty and open-minded. And it just sounds good. And you're telling and then you have women up here who may have prominence and money who telling you you can be just like me and no you can't. Most people are going to be normal and average. And the issue is kids and relationships get caught up in this. And then when men are looking for wives, men can't keep families together with women who are all over the place. All right. Appreciate it though.
So, this was another great hit by Kevin Samuels. I really enjoyed the way that he was able to articulate his points by causing critical thinking from these type of women. You know, she's a 28-year-old single mom of two children, right? And you can clearly see that she's got this bad bee mentality because she's got the eyelashes, she's got the eyebrows, she's got the hair, and then she's definitely got the mindset. And this behavior is only a thing of what women can do it. Men can't do this, right? Because men have to face consequences directly right away. It starts straight away. And for men, we have to get out there. We have to make a name for oursel. We have to earn our living. Whereas women tend to get coddled, right? And if we're really talking about black women, black women are the most coddled specy in the world. We think it's the white woman, but it's really not. It's actually the black woman. And it is really to their own detriment. I think it's a psychological war tactic. If I'm honest with you, she at 28 can't tell you about anything that she's doing legitimately in her life that she's working on and taking seriously because she's really just floating through life. If you pay attention to these single moms that are younger than her, they're pretty much doing the same thing. And older women that are in the same predicament are no different. They're doing exactly the same thing. Where is this behavior going to get you? She is afraid to be alone at 60, but she's not willing to take accountability for her poor behavior and thus turn around her life and her lifestyle. Because these type of women, they are afraid of being irrelevant. They're afraid of being average. They're afraid of not being viewed as successful, as important and esteemed and established. But this is the thing. You cannot demand those things if you do not go out there and do anything reputable. If you're not out here doing things that are generally respected, then you're just going to be viewed as the opposite. He asked her, "Can you name any other race of woman that is actually like the main influence of this type of mentality, this bad bee mentality?" And she couldn't name one. She named a micro influencer that she struggled to get the name of. And I think somebody dropped it in the comments. So, it just shows you how insignificant this type of influence really has on other races. It seems to really be the black woman that follows this type of rhetoric and this type of lifestyle. So, yeah, this was another hit. Like I said, shout out to Kevin Samuels. I'm going to need y'all to go over there and check him out. You know, subscribe to his channel. Let's help keep his great work alive. Thank you for watching. Drop me a comment. What do y'all think about this video? Do y'all agree with Kevin Samuels? Do you disagree with what I've said? And what are your thoughts about these single mothers like her? Don't forget to click the like and subscribe. Catch me in the next video.