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Sometimes people's standards are too high, right? This is not what they expect. This is what they are willing to accept. And my favorite example of this, I've seen like, you know, shorts about, you know, people who will ask people on the street like, "What kind of partner are you looking for?" And then they tally up all those things and they make a statistical analysis and they're like, "This is insane. You're looking for a person who's literally one in a million."
Okay. So, how do we know if our standards are too high and if we should lower our standards or we shouldn't lower our standards. So, this is where there are a couple of things that lead to standards that are too high. And one is something called a compensatory standard. When I got an when I get was getting lots of Fs. I was chain failing classes back as a freshman in college, my standard was to get an A, right? Because I needed to compensate for failure with a really high standard. I need to make up for that failure.
Then you create a situation where the standard that you have is unattainable. So the minimum that I'm willing to accept since I got an F, I have to get an A. And if in the first two weeks of my classes, if there was a single B, if I got a B on my first exam, I would drop the class, right? and then I've spent a bunch of money. I've spent three months not advancing my degree at all. That's why it took me five and a half years to graduate.
So sometimes our standards are too high and if they're too high, they create a problem. The first is they set us up for failure. Right? So if I'm getting straight Fs and I'm shooting for A's, that gap is huge. What's what would be way better is if I set a standard for a C.