DELIVERANCE FROM SEXUAL PERVERSION

We are persuaded to share this morning on deliverance from sexual perversion. Deliverance from sexual perversion. And we take our text from Romans chapter 1, verse 24-28. God's Word Translation says, "For this reason, God allowed their loss to control them. They dishonor their bodies by sexual perversion with each other. These people have exchanged God's truth for a lie, so they have become ungodly and serve what is created rather than the Creator who is blessed. For this reason, God allowed their shameful passions to control them. Their women have exchanged natural sexual relations for unnatural ones. Likewise, there are men who have given up natural sexual relations with women and born were lost for each other. Men commit indecent acts with men, so they experience among themselves the punishment they desire for their perversion. And because that they thought it was worthless to acknowledge God, God allowed their own immoral minds to control them, so they do these indecent things."

There are different types of sexual immorality: fornication, adultery, homosexuality, lesbianism, incest, bestiality, prostitution. Perversion is a form of human behavior which deviates from what is considered to be normal. So you need to be very, very sensitive in these end times because the devil and demonic spirits are consistently and aggressively trying to redefine what is supposed to be normal. So although the term perversion can refer to a variety of forms of deviation, it is most often used to describe sexual behaviors that are considered particularly abnormal, repulsive, or obsessive. A pervert is a type of person with behavior that deviates from that which is understood to be normal. A male sexual pervert has absolutely no respect towards women. A male pervert views women as sex objects, sex objects, and would do anything, even will or acceptable things, to satisfy their sexual desire. More than ever before, you need to be very sensitive in your spirit. Some of the most chronic sexual perverts around, their dark practices are unknown to many people that they interact with on a regular basis. A pervert is more obsessed with sex compared to any normal person, and a pervert can be male or female. Compared to most people, sexual perverts just can't control themselves. And you are not going to leave a man who can control himself at home, your daughter or daughters, on the grounds of a short visit, on the grounds of spending the vacation with your family.

Often hear that certain people are described as loose. That man is loose, stay clear. That woman is loose, stay clear. A loose person is someone lacking moral restraint, someone lacking moral restraint or integrity. And a sexually loose person is someone who is sexually promiscuous or immoral. So that brings us to the word promiscuous, and we need to continue to emphasize the difference between normal and acceptable sexual behavior and abnormal and repulsive sexual behavior, such as is found on the side of promiscuity. A promiscuous person is someone who has sex with many different people. Take note of this: for instance, Jesus met a certain woman at the well, the woman of Samaria, and by word of knowledge, he revealed that the woman had had five husbands. The woman of Samaria was not a promiscuous woman. So you can understand the difference. She was not a promiscuous woman. A promiscuous woman would not bother to marry. She will stay married and be having sex with many men. To be promiscuous means having sexual relations with many different people on a casual basis. Promiscuity is the practice of engaging in sexual activity frequently with different partners or being indiscriminate in the choice of sexual partners.

You have often heard them describe some men as with words like anything in scet, anything in sc. You have heard people describe men, some men as dogs. It has to do with this trait of promiscuity in such men. Now listen to this very carefully because there is a lot of insight in this information. A common example of behavior viewed as promiscuous by many cultures is the one-night stand. One-night stand. Someone that can go for a party and while the party is on, the person can just go into a dark space there within the venue of the party and quickly have sex for five minutes with someone he doesn't have a relationship with, with someone she doesn't have a relationship with, and he or she does that regularly. That is a promiscuous person. Promiscuous people have sex with people they don't have a relationship with. You don't need to have a relationship with them for them to have sex with you. And being promiscuous, take note of this, is slightly different from a prostitute. We have heard some stories of prostitutes that eventually married a customer, one of the men always patronizing her. Somehow they eventually fell in true love and they married. And it's very possible that if possibly the man was always coming every day and paying her whatever she will make on a daily basis, she would rather stick to that man.

If you are privileged to discuss with some of the people that have a calling to minister to prostitutes on the streets and bring them back to God, and many of them have been doing a great job, great job. It's a secret ministry, but they, they've done a great job. Just like those also ministering to people battling with drug addiction. Nobody knows them, and they cannot publicly talk about their success in ministry. And if they do, they speak in parables because the identity of the people they have successfully ministered to and transformed their lives by the help of the Holy Spirit, that the identity of such people has to be seriously concealed and guarded. But they are doing a great job. Now, some of these vessels of God ministering to prostitutes will tell you that not every prostitute is in prostitution because they love sex so much. Many of them have been driven into prostitution because for survival, financial survival, economic survival, not necessarily because they are promiscuous. So they are prostitutes that even when doing the job, inside them, they are not happy. Inside them, they are not happy why doing what they are doing. But a promiscuous person enjoys sex like another thing with anybody, anywhere, anytime.

Studies of the spread of sexually transmitted infections consistently demonstrate a small percentage of the studied population has more partners than the average man or woman, and a smaller percent, a smaller number of people have fewer than the statistical average. Other studies have suggested that people with multiple casual partners are more likely to be diagnosed with sexually transmitted infections. Cross-cultural studies, the perspectives of people on promiscuity varies significantly depending on the region. So you could see that church is so key in your journey of life. There are some few places on the surface of this Earth where by their way of life, there is nothing wrong with a married man sleeping with multitudes of women, including married women. And there is nothing wrong with a married woman sleeping with multitudes of men, including married men, to the knowledge of her husband and to the knowledge and knowledge of the of the wife if it's a man involved. That on a street, you could see a married woman would have slept with up to 10 men on that street, and the husband may be aware of some, and there's no quarrel, and they are still together. So the perspective on promiscuity varies significantly depending on the region. So that is why when you become a Christian and you join the church, part of the assignment of the church through discipleship is to teach you the right way of life as a Christian, the right ways of life, things that are not acceptable and things that are acceptable.

Tom Hill and U Gad found out that women, now please listen to this, that women are much more likely to sexually fantasize about and be attracted to extra-pair men during the fertile phase of the menstrual cycle than the luteal phase. I believe the women here, especially the mature ones, will understand what the luteal phase is about. I think the average people are more familiar with the menstrual cycle phase. So the, the survey from this group showed that women, they, they have a funny tendency, they fantasize. They don't necessarily, they may not necessarily do it, but when they are in the fertile phase of their menstrual cycle, they can think of another man other than their husband sexually, and they could fantasize about it in their minds. But the attraction to their primary partner does not change depending on their menstrual cycle. So if we are to go by this information, then that means if you are engaged or you are, especially for those who are married, you may need to keep a closer watch on your partner when they are in that fertile phase of the menstrual cycle, if we are to go by the outcome of this, of this research.

One review found that people from developed Western countries had more sex partners than people from developing countries in general. In that same survey, they found out that the rate of sexually transmitted infections was higher in developing countries. So you can then really understand why, you know, so that means in some parts of the world, people are not, they're not sensitive and conscious of, of their vulnerability to sexual infection. They're not, unlike in the developed world. In a book, Sex and Culture, by JD Onwi, concerning the correlation between a society's level, he found out that there is a correlation between a society's level of cultural achievement and its level of sexual restraint. The book was published in 1934 and it concluded with the theory that as societies develop, they become more sexually liberal. As society develops, they become more sexually liberal. So we have to be very mindful about this pattern. We have to be very intentional in preventing this pattern from playing out around us, our families, and our own.

Under religious, social, and cultural views, one very interesting observation is that Christianity and Judaism condemn promiscuity and instead they advocate lifelong monogamous marriage. Now, what does the Bible say about sexual perversion and promiscuity? What does the Bible say? Romans 1:24-28. So don't give room. You must set boundaries. Teach your children to set boundaries. Nobody touches your private part. And then define to them the parts of the body that are private parts. Don't ever let anyone that touches it. This is how you will respond to them, or else they will try it again. Please, it's not everybody that can stay in your house. It's not everybody that can stay in your house. Even if you have to squeeze yourself and pay for a hotel accommodation, it's better because people with a depraved mind, give them five minutes, five minutes, they will stray.

So as we are closing it up, we also observe that among the 20 prominent issues that cause offense and separation in marriage, some of the key issues are sex-related. Number one, sex-related complaints. Number two, adultery and emotional infidelity. These are we are looking at issues that cause offense and separation in marriage that are sex-related. Number three, loneliness and frequent absence of spouse. Number four, pretense and insincerity. And what is this point about? They, we've also found out that in some marriages, there was deceit. There was deceit before the marriage. The man already knew he had a major health issue. The man already knew he had sexual challenges before marriage, but he concealed this, only for the wife to discover after marriage. So some of the issues that has made some women, some wives commit adultery from the research done. Finance, finance issues, attraction to power and influence, sex-related issues, delayed childbearing, revenge is another reason why a lot of women have gone into adultery. Revenge. This is why we tell us that please let, let your consecration be for the sake of God, not for the sake of your spouse. Because if you are not in extramarital affairs because of your spouse primarily, that's your, your, your marriage should be the second reason why you won't do that. But the first reason must be in your commitment to God. Because if you are only preserving yourself from extramarital affairs simply because of your spouse, the day you will find out that your spouse is doing something outside, you will feel justified to do the same thing. And this is how a number of wives went into adultery. So some, it has to do with self-esteem, lack of appreciation and admiration from the husband. Some have gone into it due to sexual harassment. Some have gone into it due to timidity in resisting temptation. Timidity in resisting temptation. Some have gone into it feeling too sophisticated for their husbands. And the other reasons are lack of fear of God, drinking of alcohol, especially in the absence of the spouse, when there is no personal accountability to a spiritual mentor, there's nobody you can confide in, lack of consistency in your daily personal devotion with God, then watching pornography and X-rated movies with another man alone. And then sometimes the nature of her work or business, like sales and marketing, and certain jobs that expose ladies to the opposite sex. Then, of course, unresolved spiritual problems.

But please, these were some of the advice, words of advice for wives. Stop discussing your family or marital issues with the wrong people. Be content with what you and your husband have at every phase of your life. The quality of accommodation, means of transportation, quality of children's school. So please, please, whatever you have to just manage for now, manage it. Don't lose your husband of many years only for that same husband in a few years' time to enter into a breakthrough that he never dreamed of, and another, another very young girl, young lady, or smart, smart lady will be positioned beside him. So please be content with every phase of his life. It is in phases, and God does not do it for any one of us in the same way. Four people are ordained. God has said you will be governor in your lifetime, but it's going to happen when that man is 70. Another one, God has sworn, he has decreed that you will be governor in your lifetime, it will happen in his 30s. For some, it will happen in their 40s, some it will happen in their 50s. And there may be someone here between 50 and 60, your own will happen. So let's, let's, let's be patient. Let's be patient at every phase. And wives should avoid wearing provocative dresses that attract the attention of other men. Avoid wearing negligee in the sight of males in the house, even in the house, avoid it. There are certain things you should not, you know, when you have mature men in the house. And wives should communicate well with their husbands about their sexual preferences. They should deliberately appreciate their husbands anytime their husbands specially satisfy them. It is not spirituality for you to think otherwise.

So the, the final word is that we must have standards, moral standards that determine the things we can do, the things that are acceptable as an individual, as a family, and any group you are connected to, including the standards, moral standards of your church. You must abide with them. And the last scripture is a warning to every one of us, starting from those who think they are very spiritual. That's the last scripture. It says in 1 Corinthians 10:12, Amplified Bible, it says, "Therefore, let the one who thinks he stands firm, immune to temptation, being overconfident and self-righteous, us take care that he does not fall into sin and condemnation." So you achieve this by setting boundaries.