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If you're really frustrated or sad or worried or depressed, you think something Horrible's happened. My favorite question asked myself: what else could this mean? And I make myself come up with these three different meanings because what happens is, beliefs become self-fulfilling. See, once you believe something, you don't see anything else.
I've done this with your audience before. I said, "You look around the room and find Brown." Everybody looks around. And I say, "Now, with your eyes closed, tell me you saw that was red." And nobody sees much red. I was hoping I'd look for red, I may find more red. Why do you find more red? Because you get what you look for. Your beliefs condition you to find.
And then I say, "How many Saw—" I said, "You even saw things that weren't there. How many Saw beige stuff, called it brown just to feel successful?" They all laugh. You know, "How many saw a burgundy, called red?" They all laugh. And the reason is because once we're after something, we'll even make the color different to feel successful.
If you think somebody's mean, you'll find means—anything that's not there. You think somebody's your dear friend, and they do something terrible, you'll say, "Oh, they're having a bad day." So, our beliefs control is so unquestioned; beliefs that produce stress—those are the ones you've got to question.