Out of Sight, Out of Mind | The Minimalists Ep. 538

Yes, the minimalists. Joshua Fields Milbour here, TK Coleman over there. We got Savvy D and Professor Shawn in the studio. And joining us remotely, of course, Tom Cat and Audio Ben, Spire Jeff and Dave. Shout out to y'all. TK, here's something to chew on. Out of sight doesn't mean out of mind. It means out of control. What does that mean to you?

The things we often choose to look at have a way of haunting us from the shadows. And so just because you say, "Oh, I don't want to see this. I don't want to think about it. I'm going to suppress it or hide it or conceal it." You tend to feel stressed out or anxious about it in other ways. You know, it just kind of has a way of welling up in the subconscious and robbing you of sleep, peace, and other ways. But if you choose to look at it, you may not get to feel good in the moment, but it's like receiving that unwanted news from the doctor by acknowledging it, by looking at it, even if that brings stress upfront. You kind of know how to move forward, what you can do about it, what your options are, and so on. I think about Tony Robbins. One of his my favorite quotes of his is uh kill Godzilla when he's a baby. Don't wait till he's taking over the city.

Yeah.

And I think that can be said with illness and sometimes well I mean we know that hoarding is a mental illness. It's on the obsessive compulsive spectrum and uh we often look at hoarders in our TV and I see a stage five hoarder and it's easy to sort of snare sneer at them and say, "Oh wow, look at least I don't I don't have that kind of a problem." It's like how do you think they got there? It didn't happen overnight. They didn't wake up one day and their house was just filled with excess stuff. And so I think out of sight, out of mind makes sense in some instances where so if I'm being charitable to that framing, it's like, yeah, if I literally get it out of my life, then it's out of sight and out of mind. But quite often we hide our problems. If that's physical clutter, we can hide it in cabinets and drawers or storage lockers. And it's not out of sight, out of mind there, though. It's out of sight, but it's still in the back of my mind. It's still taking up space there. And I think even when clutter is hidden, it still weighs on us mentally. But there's other types of clutter beyond the the physical clutter that weighs on us mentally, the commitments, the calendar clutter, right? The relationship clutter, needing more out of my relationships or more relationships in general, trying to extract things from other people, that can weigh on us. And so if we get something out of sight, it's not necessarily out of mind. Maybe it's I tried to hide it because it's out of control. I'm afraid to confront this thing that's in front of me. I think you nailed me.

Well, coming up on this episode, we're talking about the difficulties of podcasting. This is so difficult, TK, just talking into a microphone with you. Actually, let's talk about the joys of of doing this together. Also, how our love for minimalism has changed over the years. what we dislike about decluttering, how to let go incrementally, and much, much more. Let's start with our callers. If you'd like to join the program, give us a call 406219-7839, or you can email a voice recording right from your phone to podcastminimalists.com. Let us know if you're a Patreon subscriber so we can prioritize your message. By the way, big thanks to our patrons. Your support keeps our podcast 100% advertisement free because sing along at home y'all. Advertisements suck. Yes, they do.

All right. Our first question today is from Constance.

Hi, my name is Constance. I'm from Indianapolis. Here's my question. Is it hard being a podcaster? And do you love minimalism?

Constant shout out to you. You know what I love about this question, TK, is we have a wise kid here who is asking questions that I would have never asked when I was constant's age.

Do you Is podcasting difficult? Why would she ask that question, do you think? Curiosity. You know, when when you're young, you you look at what people do and you take up an interest in it in a way that doesn't characterize the sort of autopilot way we go about life as adults. You say, "What do you do? Is that fun?" You know, um because fun is one of the most important things to you. You know, the joy you get to feel from the things you do.

Yeah. As kids, fun is important in a way that we seem to lose as we get older and we have these priorities and these duties and these responsibilities. But who said you can't have fun while you do the duties and the responsibilities? There you go. We we can find the fun. We can manufacture the fun. We can get really good at looking for the fun. We can bring the fun. Sometimes the fun is in the party and the things that are there, the things that people are doing. But sometimes the fun is in us and the disposition we choose to have when we go into a situation. We can witness it. It's right there and it's available right now. That's right.

Last week we were talking during that difficult episode we did about my brother's passing.

One of the things we're talking about was complaining and how like Derome would have never complained about the rain. And then of course after the podcast, TK and I are walk we're walking down to the grocery store for lunch and we get our lunch and as soon as we finish eating it starts pouring rain. Do you remember what you said to me at that moment?

Yeah. I I said it's Jerome.

He's testing us right now, right?

Yeah. He's testing us. He's like, "Okay, I hear y'all talking. Let's see if you can live it." And then there was a moment where um we're walking, we're crossing a street and there's a guy on a motorcycle who stops at a light and he's perfectly in line with us and he looks at us and he just starts laughing cuz he sees us walking. We we've got a few blocks to go and we're just completely drenched and and and I remember us saying, "You know what? So if this is a test, let's go ahead and live it. What's one thing you're grateful for about this rain right now?" And we start playing a gratitude game with each other and making it fun. And I think you can do that with fun as well. And and so is podcasting difficult to do it well is certainly difficult. Now we have more than a decade of experience going into this. So it's less difficult now. It seems more effortless, but it requires a tremendous amount of effort. I would say that about anything that's worth doing, you actually want a level of difficulty, right? Yeah. You you need some degree of challenge. One of the reasons why uh many people find life after retirement to be a little sad, a little depressing, and they look for some kind of hobby or a new side job that they can get into is because even if they didn't love their job, even if there were too many stressful elements and they're glad to get away from it, it did provide some kind of structure that challenged them. It gave them obstacles to overcome, difficulties to navigate. And we actually need that. Michael Chick sent me high talks about this in flow the psychology of optimal performance. Uh Martin Seligman also talks about this in his works on positive psychology. How lasting happiness requires the right balance between things we feel like we can control but things that seem to challenge us so that they bring out the best in us. We can't be happy if we've already mastered what there is to be mastered. We can only be happy when we feel like there's something we got to figure out, some area of life where we have to become more competent or skillful.

And that's why out of sight, out of mind, the thing we were talking about earlier, is such a problem because it apes the form of control. But you're really hiding the things and and you're not you're not really controlling it. You're simply hiding the problem to deal with later. But then, of course, Godzilla turns into a monster and it's taking over the city or it's taking over your basement or your attic or your spare bedroom or your third walk-in closet that's just full of stuff. And so, decluttering is difficult, but it's worthwhile. Podcasting for us is difficult, but it is worthwhile. I remember when Nicodemus and I first started this podcast back in 2015. We were five years into The Minimalist at that point and we were in this storage closet at the University of Montana. They cleared it out for us and we had these desks in there and we were recording it. But those early episodes, we might have published one out of four and then there were sometimes it was like one out of six. It was we weren't publishing episodes. We just go back and redo it. I didn't like the way that sounded so let's go do the same episode again. Didn't like that. Let's try it again. And these were practice rounds for us in a way. And and many many times now if I do a live event, it's a type of practice. There's a safety net of some sort. I can get up and talk for an hour at this point, but it's uh it's still difficult. And I know that I'm not going to end my life even if I do something catastrophic. Have you ever given a talk and just blanked out at some point in your life, TK?

Oh, yeah. I mean, I did that in the TED talk. You You saw it. You saw my eyes when I lost.

Oh yeah, that's true. Yes. I remember uh November 2013, Ryan Nicodemus and I were in New York City. We had our publicist at the time, Sarah. She had got all of these outlets to uh join us for this book launch event we were doing for a book, Everything That Remains, that was coming out in a few months. And so we had the New York Times there and we had, you know, a bunch of these different outlets who who were there, the Village Voice and which was still around at the time and all of these different organs that were there to review our book and our event and our message and they really hadn't had a whole lot about the minimalist before. So this is maybe their first exposure, in-depth exposure to the minimalist outside of reading a bio or a blog post. And so we're there and we're at this bookstore and it is packed. I mean, in fact, there are moments of it in the first documentary, Minimalism, and there's this moment where I look at Ryan and he just blanks. He's giving this long talk and it's super heartfelt and the talk is like 20 pages long and he has it memorized, but for some reason he goes from page four to page 11 and skips out this whole meat of the talk. And it's like, oh, and I could see the look on his face and he's dying inside and he's so nervous even though we had practice practiced this you 100 hours probably and he gets and all of a sudden you could just see like uhoh, how am I going to recover from this? That's difficult. Doing an hourong talk or 40-minute talk in front of a large audience of people that's usually a number one fear above death for your average person. and public speaking is is scary, but you also know you're not going to die.

Yeah.

And so, yes, a lot of these things are difficult, but I also know that it's going to be fine. Even if there's a catastrophic failure, I'm going to be fine on the other side of this podcast episode. But I do beat myself up from time to time because like, oh, I didn't like my performance there. The irony of that is I often go back and listen. I'm like, wow, that was a great episode. I remember one in particular. I think it was last year, but the episode was called Restraint. Let's put a link to it in the show notes, Savvy D. And I remember after our performance on that one, I was just like, I wasn't feeling that. I went back and listened to it. And it is one of my favorite episodes we've ever done.

Wow.

So, your feelings in the moment may not really map on to reality. Why Why do we think that is?

Well, our feelings are a reflection of, you know, our own self assessment, what we think about our work. But work is about value creation as far as other people are concerned. If you're a stand-up comedian and people are buying a ticket to come see your standup show, it's because they have things on their mind and they have things going on in their lives that they would like to get a break from and they would like to laugh. And it's possible that you can succeed in giving them that even if you aren't having an internal experience that says, "I'm on." I remember asking one of my friends who's an actress, his name's Ben. And I I said to him, I was just so curious. I go, "Ben, when you're on stage and you're playing the sad scene and and and maybe your, you know, your character has to cry, do you really feel sad?" He says, "That's not what's important. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. The important thing is that the audience believes that I feel sad." And I think that's the important thing. Who's the customer that you're serving? Who's the person you're trying to create value from for and and and what's their feedback? And if you're nailing it on on that, then you just accept that those feelings, man, that they're they're like the like the weather. Sometimes you get the rain, sometimes you get the sun, and you just weather it. So, in summary, if podcasting was just super easy, I don't think we would keep doing it because you want that level of challenge. And so, in order to grow, right, you want to be a little bit uncomfortable and that's the space from which you grow. I think we've hit a real stride over the last year or so, couple years even. Uh, and uh, we've continued to grow. I go back and look listen to episodes from 10 years ago back in the Patreon archives. You can find them there. And some of them are really valuable. Some of our most popular episodes ever are just sitting there in the Patreon archives. And that's why I go back and I'm like, "Oh, we're so much better than that now." But it required those steps to get to where we are. Which brings me to the second part of Constance's question. Do you love minimalism? What's your answer to that, TK? Do you love minimalism? I love how minimalism makes me feel. I love how it challenges me to think.

And so, if I'm if I'm just giving the answer to the 12-year-old, I would say, "Yeah, I do. I really do love it." Yeah.

Yeah. Yeah. And and so if I were to give us a short, you know what was fascinating is rais raising a daughter from when she was really little and I could start explaining some basic concepts. It really helped me better explain minimalism through every stage because the way I explained it to a three-year-old was different from when she was five or when she was seven or now she's 12 years old. And so it's different how I talk to her about these things, but it's helped me grow in a strange way because I'm like, "Oh, I can't just you throw pathy maxims at her that that sound arudite." That doesn't impress her at all. So stop trying to be impressive. Stop trying to serve your ego and help her understand what is minimalism and why do we do it? And so to answer Constants head on is to love is to let go. And so in a way, yes, minimalism helps me love, right? We just did the episode about drum last week and there's a lot of letting go there. And tears are a way to let go. But to love is is to let go. Because the opposite of that is what? To cling. Can you love something if you're clinging to it in perpetuity? I I don't think so. You have to be willing to let it go. and able to let it go in order to to love it. And minimalism helps out. And so maybe in a way minimalism is an amplifier of love for me. Constance, if you haven't checked it out already, have your mom download our new audio book. It's called Very, very simple. And I think it's like the best doorway or entryway into minimalism and decluttering because TK and I talk about some tools. It's these 12 tools for a simpler life in that audio book. And so we it's a a book that I wrote. It's a short 90minute sort of thing. And then TK and I did this podcast between each of these rules or tools or boundaries that we set up around our things. But then I think it also begins to apply outside of our possessions as well. So if you want a deeper understanding of why we love minimalism, I would check out Very, very simple. And you can download it for free over at veryversimple.com, the audiobook or the ebook there. Or you can also find it over on Audible or on Kindle if you want to read it on those platforms. TK, before we get back to our callers, let's investigate the question of the week. So, playing off of Candace's or or Constance's uh question there, our question of the week is this. What do you love about minimalism? What do you hate about minimalism? Now, let's check in with our Patreon community chat. See what they had to say. Alana said, "I love how the idea of minimalism starts with physical items, but naturally extends to intentionality in all aspects of our lives, allowing us to eliminate excess in every sense of the word. But I hate the monetizing of the alleged concept. And in doing so, corporations seem to get it completely wrong and muddle the message for others. TK, this is my biggest gripe, too. The sort of corporatized minimalism. I recently saw a t-shirt over here at the Beverly Center, which is like one of the largest. It's a eightstory mall, and it's walking distance from our studio. Oh, the irony, right? I was walking through there. It was last year. I was with um Savvy, were you with us? Uh Jordan was with us and uh maybe Kristen Zingler was with us as well. Oh yeah, we were walking through there and one of the fast fashion stores had this shirt with the word minimalism embossed in like some sort of rhinestones or fake gems or something. And I was just like, "Oh, is this what it's come to?" Is is this like what they call latestage capitalism? Everything that is virtuous eventually gets turned into a a commodity that kind of misses the point. And I'm not against selling things obviously, but it seems to me that there's like this 2D version of what this thing called minimalism is. And so why do you think this type of corporate minimalism bothers Alana and me?

I think it has a way of of making something that that feels so pure and beautiful and and representative of of everything that you love. it it has a way of making it feel cheap.

And it's it's it's interesting because if you look at if you look at sacred sites, sites that acquire a reputation over time for being a place of pilgrimage or for being a good place for meditation or for just being a place where you can go and and and cultivate a sense of interior peace. One of the things you'll notice about sacred sites is people who have something to sell really love the sacred sites as much as the people who have something to seek because they know that people are going to go there. And so they're going to try to figure out, well, what can we sell to the people that are going there? Because the sellers like traffic. They like wherever people are. And so it doesn't really matter to them if the people are there because they want to meditate or they are there because they want to find themselves. That doesn't matter. People are people when you're selling something. And so you just want to find the people. And that can sometimes feel a little disrespectful, a little inconsiderate, a little insensitive in the same way, but not as dramatic as walking out of a wedding or walking out of a funeral and having a vendor a vendor standing there being like, "Hey, I can sell you some uh t-shirts with that person's name on it." Or, you know, hey, you know, it's just like, ooh, you know, it's like

there's a time and a place for the hustle.

Mhm. and and and and it's in those spaces we're most likely to feel perhaps this ain't the time in the space.

Yeah. And I think at at its worst it represents this false ideology that you can buy simplicity.

It can be acquired the same way we can buy happiness. Like no, we can buy pleasure. I I get that. We can buy things that we enjoy. And for the most part, I don't have a problem with that unless we become addicted to those things. And that's a different conversation, but it presupposes that like buying the shirt makes me the minimalist. Or if I wear a shirt that says minimalism, now all of a sudden I embody the superpowers of letting go. And I think that's just not true. And I think you're you're right. There's something about the mismatch of the commodity versus the sacredness of of the thing that you admire. to take it away from minimalism for a moment. I remember Nicodemus and I were driving through South Dakota and we were on tour, a book tour, and we're like, "Oh, we have to go see Mount Rushmore, right?" And and because like I'd never been there. When am I going to be back in South Dakota? And we're driving through there, and I got to say that there are like entire towns predicated on selling you little plastic memorabilia that commemorates Mount Rushmore. And I'm not necessarily even against selling the I don't know the the object that represents the thing, but it kind of ruined the experience in the sense that like the experience itself was still fine and and remarkable even. But I can only imagine if we had just been driving through South Dakota and all of a sudden you look up and the side of a mountain has these four faces in it. I it was all inspiring. You just seeing the amount of effort. Talk about difficulty. How many people died making that even and and that is carved with dynamite. How how did they do that? And then you have this little Stan who's like, well, here's a plastic keychain with George Washington. You're like, that's that's not the same thing at all. Yeah. By the way, there there's also an element of co-opting as well. And and I think this is one of the things that people react to. So, it's kind of like, you know, you're just focused on sales and you're running your corporation and then you hear like, "Oh, uh, minimalism. What's that? Never mind. No time. Put it on a t-shirt. Sell it for $25. Somebody's going to buy it." Right. And, and we we kind of have a we don't have a problem with a psychologist writing a book about psychology and selling it. We don't have a problem with a former basketball player writing a book about basketball and selling it. But when it feels like someone who isn't even involved in a movement or doesn't even care about the principles, doesn't even create any value in that field, they're just looking for a way to monetize it to to to profit off of the trend. I think that's something that, you know, u sparks a little resistance as well.

Yeah. Yeah. I think you can see that it's most blatant in a lot of sort of religious contexts, right? You have someone who who fakes being religious in order to divorce people from the money in their bank account.

And that is some of the most pernitious ways of doing it. But as you said, there are so many other ways that this happens where, oh, that's a trend. Let's see how we can hop on the wave. Frank says, "I love the abundance mindset around minimalism, but hate the weight of identifying with it. I never identify openly as a minimalist, but I do share that I aim to live a more minimalist lifestyle. TK, what do our descriptors So why do they often these words we use to describe like minimalist, why do they often calcify into a an identity for us? Well, labels when rightly understood are incredibly useful, right? If you go to the grocery store and you want to buy a can of chili, you don't want to buy a can of chicken noodle by mistake. Uh, if when you go into a bookstore or a clothing store, we appreciate labels telling us that the dresses are over here and the shoes are over there or you know that the books on on history are over here and the books on sci-fi are over there. But one of the downsides of labels is that when we apply them to people, we tend to associate everything that comes to mind when we invoke that label to that person and then we cease to treat them as individuals. I've talked to a lot of people who have beliefs that you might consider to be weird. You in general here, some of these people are religious and it's their religious beliefs. Some of these people are simply people who believe things like, you know, aliens exist and so on. And they say, "I would never talk about this in public because although I believe X, I don't want to have to die for X. I don't want to have to be an evangelist for X. I just want to be the person that I am who happens to think that such and such a thing is true, but the moment I wear that label, I will be looked at as a hero by a community or a spokesperson for a community or somebody that bears a responsibility to a community. And so I think for a lot of people, they just don't want that. They just want the benefits of being able to live in this way and make their lives better. And when it comes to minimalism, I'm all for that.

Yeah. Me, too. And what you're talking about is the benefits of living counterculturally in a way, right?

But it's the virtues of living counterculturally, right? Because there are plenty of ways to be countercultural that are not virtuous at all. In fact, they're the opposite. You know, if you can uh if you just engage in random acts of violence on the street, that's countercultural, but it's certainly not something any of us aspire to live like. And so I'm with you on the the labels piece that they're great descriptors. I do want to know that it's chicken noodle soup or tomato soup. And minimalist is a great descriptor as well, but Frank, I'm like you. I don't go around calling myself a minimalist, right? If it works as a label and a conversation, that's great. I ran into Pete Holmes this week. We were at the Farmer and the Cook. Kelly Jean was performing there. She does our sound baths at some of our live events. And so Kelly Jean,

she's great. And we uh and and Pete Holmes stopped me afterward. He goes, "Hey, I saw your your movie." He's like, "You're the minimalist guy." And I was like, "Yeah, yeah, but like that's helpful as a descriptor, but as soon as I'm like, why yes, I am. That is who I am as a person." Well, what happens if that label gets stripped away from me or someone doesn't know what minimalist means? Am I a lesser version of myself? No. It's a it's a fine description. I don't have I don't run away from that. And by the way, if it's a a cumbersome or clumsy description for you, Frank, there are other descriptions that can work well as long as they don't calcify into identity, right? So, you could call yourself an intentionalist. If that was a a better conversation starter because no one knows what the hell that means. I'm an intentionalist. I'm an essentialist. Oh, wow. I'm an enoughist. Wow. Oh, you one thing Nicodemus, he and I were just uh back at Miami University in Oxford, Ohio giving a talk out there and he talked about how some of these if minimalism is too austere for you, pick your ism. Is it enoughism, intentionalism, deliberatism, selectivism or living within your means ism and some people understand that in a different way. It's like when Dan Harris started meditating and he people asked him why he did. Oh, it makes me 10% happier. And it wasn't a perfectly accurate description, but he was going to the why behind it and it helped people understand like, oh, this is not some woo woo nonsense. You don't have to be super esoteric. You don't even have to find value in Ramdas and echartole. You can, but also you can just meditate and maybe it'll make you a little bit calmer, happier, more at peace.

Yeah. Can you imagine if you and Beex when you when you all did that podcast, How to Love,

if before you did it, you said, "Oh, wait. This doesn't have anything to do with minimalism.

Let's not do it. I'm the minimalist guy.

I can't be seen talking about love. Who am I to talk about love?"

You know, and sometimes we get stuck there. You know, you may have have something that you truly believe in that you want to say and you say, "Oh, well,

I can't be heard saying that. I have an ism to uphold and and now the ism becomes more than an organic authentic expression of what you truly believe and feel it. It it it becomes a sort of prison and it be and and in the same way that we have audience capture becoming beholden to an audience. It becomes label capture. You become beholden to to a label and then it loses the point.

Yeah. I'm not the type of person who would talk about love or that would buy this thing. And I've I've run into that a few times where it begins to harden into an identity for me. It's like, well, I can't own that as a minimalist. Well, why? If it adds value to my life, I absolutely could. There are some things I'm more cautious about now because of minimalism. I couldn't see myself I think Lexus makes great cars, right? I couldn't see myself buying a Lexus, but it has less to do with the image it would project. It has much more to do with I don't think that's the best use of that money for me. And I think that's the key. If it was the best use of that money for me, then that's a totally different conversation. But that's always a question I'm asking. Is it the best use of my resources? Money uh is certainly one of those resources. How about you listeners? What do you love about minimalism? What do you hate about minimalism? Let us know your thoughts in the comments. All right, I've got my minimal maxim ready. You can find this episode's maxims in the show notes over at theminimalists.com/mpodcast and every minimal maxim ever over at minimalmaxs.com. We'll also deliver our weekly show notes directly to your inbox every Monday if you sign up for our free email newsletter. It's called the simple newsletter and you can find that over at the minimalists.com. We'll never send you spam or junk or ads, but we will start your week off with a dose of simplicity. Okay, give me something piffy, TK. What do you love about minimalism? What do you hate about minimalism? I love the art of simplicity. I hate the sport of comparison. Another way I could say that is I love minimalism, but I don't hate people who hate minimalism or who feel no need for minimalism. I love minimalism, but I don't love the art of trying to measure people and size them up to see who's a true minimalist and who's not. I think minimalism is about leveraging the art of simplicity for the sake of figuring out how you can make your life better and then how you can be a positive impact on the people around you. It's not about becoming a police officer and and and evaluating other people's integrity by how good or bad of a minimalist you think you are or by defining as opponent or enemy people that just aren't into this or even people who despise it.

Which actually ties perfectly into my pathy answer. My minimal maxim is our culture defaults to the mathematics of consumption.

And that's kind of what you're talking about here. Now, I will say to me when I first stumbled into minimalism in late 2009, November 2009, it was from a tweet from this guy named Colin Wright, whom I love, become friends with, I started a business with him 13 years ago as well. And I think he's a phenomenal human being. But the thing that was most interesting to me is he owned 52 items or 51 items, whatever it was at the time, about 50 items. Everything he owned fit into his backpack. And he took a picture of everything he owned. Everything I have in the world fits into my backpack. Now, that worked well for him because he was a parapotetic writer. So, he traveled to a new country every 4 months. And he couldn't have a coffee table cuz it didn't fit into the overhead bin on an airplane. It wouldn't get on the Greyhound bus with him. And so practically that made sense. But the counting of the items was really interesting from a oh this is possible. It was more of a lens that showed me a life but it was not the ultimate end goal. And if the end goal is 51 items, well then I saw someone else who had 43 items. And then there was Nina Yao. I think she owned 15 items at one time. And I was like, "Oh, she won the game of minimalism." until you see the guy naked running down the street shrieking who owns nothing and you're like ultimate minimalist. We're totally missing the point when we're just trying to measure what is success. Whether that is money or square footage or how few items you own or how many items you do own. That is the mathematics of consumption. I think that puts us in a world of trouble if we're not careful. Yeah, that's almost the end of page one. TK, we still have an entire switchboard of colors to talk to. Also, you got to check out these talk about I have for you on page three. But first, real quick for right here, right now, here's one thing that's going on in the life of the minimalists. So, I've been doing this new newsletter. It's for my how to write better class and students. But you're welcome to sign up for it for free. Every week, I've just been sent out one pathy writing tip. And uh actually this week I sent out two and but it it made a whole lot of sense. And so I will send out just one pathy writing tip that you can read in less than 2 minutes. So if you're interested in improving your writing, whether that's your emails or you finally want to publish a a book or you want to work on a book you've been thinking about for a long time, whatever it might be, I started this free newsletter over at how to write better.org. I think we have about 70,000 people on that email newsletter. And every week, every Friday, roughly every Friday, I just send out a just a writing insight that I've had. It could be based on a conversation I've had, something I'm struggling with in my own writing or something I've overcome recently. Maybe there's a sentence I've been working on. I want to show more here and and tell less. What does that look like? Here's a first draft sentence versus a final draft sentence. And so, I've been doing that over at how to write better.org. You can sign up for the email newsletter over there. If you do, I'll also send you my uh free ebook. It's called 15 Ways to Write Better. How to write better.org. We'll put a link to that in the show notes. Much more coming up. But first, here's a minimalist tip from one of our listeners.

Hi, minimalists. This is Tyler from Manhattan, Kansas. Last year, I created a simple system to turn my minimalist values into intentional goals. And I wanted to share it in case it helps others who feel stuck after decluttering and are wondering what to do next. A few years ago, I wanted to improve my health, especially my alcohol consumption. I didn't think I had a problem, but I was drinking most days. I had tried to decrease my drinking in the past, but it never really stuck. So, I created a very small goal. No alcohol one day per week for one month. I realized cutting just one day a week would reduce my drinking drinking by roughly 14%. In the following months, I continued increasing the days that I wasn't drinking to two times a week, then three times, and so on and so forth. Eventually, I was taking weeks or even months at a time without a single drink. That's when I realized the real power wasn't the goal. It was the intentional structure. So, I built a system around the five core values from your book. Health, relationships, passions, growth, and contribution. Each month, I choose small goals that align with those values, and I limit myself to just two or three items so I don't burn out on them. The values give me direction, and the small goals help me make steady progress without overwhelming myself. Whether that's building healthier habits like flossing and stretching or pursuing growth through trying new hobbies. Now, instead of wondering what to do with the space after decluttering, I follow my curiosity while staying aligned with what matters most. Thanks for everything you do. Your work really helped shape this system.

All right, y'all. That is the first 33% of episode 538. We'll see you on Patreon for the full Maximal edition, which includes answers to a bunch more questions. Questions like, "John is downsizing after a heartbreak. What's the best way for him to part with some meaningful things from the past that he no longer uses?" And after losing her job and her mother, Karen now sees everything as a potential asset. What does When does survival mode turn into clutter? and how can she determine what to let go of. Plus, we have a million more questions and simple living segments over on the minimalist private podcast on Patreon. The link is in the description. When you subscribe, you can listen to our private podcast episodes on Apple Podcast, Spotify, or your favorite podcast app. Plus, you'll gain access to all of our archives all the way back to our very first episode. And that is our minimal episode for today. On behalf of Ryan Nicodemus, TK Coleman, Audio Ben, Inspired Jeff and Dave, Tom Cat, Professor Sean, Savvy D, and the rest of our team, I'm Joshua Fields, Milbour. If you leave here today with just one message, let it be this. Love people and use things because the opposite never works. Thanks for listening, y'all. We'll see you next time. Peace.