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Oh my gosh, you're So you're talking about leaving your husband and then begging for money on social. Women are incredible. Read the room, girl.
What's up, guys? Welcome to my reaction series. Thanks for watching. Today, we're going to react to a woman who's 40 and starting over. And I guess it's a full series documenting. Um, and the issue we have with this woman in particular is that she's just not that attractive. Um, now again, I'm not here to be a doomer, right? There are 40-year-old women that like I know a woman that had two uh kids out from her ex-husband who was a crackhead and then got remarried to a guy better in every single way. There are mothers that shoot for the stars and they they they catch it, right? Um but they have to be hot, right? That was a good-looking woman. You are not a good-looking woman. So, I I can't imagine this is going to go well for you, but I hope it does. Let's let's let's tag along.
>> 41 and I'm starting over. Get ready with me while I talk about my life. My name is Cass and my life has completely blown up.
Oh, good. Makeup. You need it. You need it. That's fine. I mean, know where you're at, right? I need makeup, too. I don't have any on today, but I could use some, you know. So, men say they like a natural look. And I know working in media, I know they don't because like I I have direct like thumbnail click-through rates and like I have direct evidence that they prefer light makeup. Um especially when you get older. Men like young women, they like the natural look when you're 20, but not when you're 40. You know what I mean? So old ladies, you put that stuff on. Don't let these men gaslight you. You cake that on. You cake it.
I have two children, one daughter in college and another in elementary school. I am getting ready to divorce my second husband. Yeah, I know. The marriage has been on life support for >> a very long >> not one baby daddy but two. O >> long time like six years. We had five very happy years. I thought they were happy years prior to that. So, we have crossed beyond the point that we've had more bad years than good. I have been the only one who has actively tried to keep the marriage together. Yeah. What does that mean? I'm the only one who has actively tried to keep the marriage together. That means I dragged him to stupid stuff that doesn't work and wouldn't work, like therapy. If you have a different translation, put in the comments. I'm sure you guys I know you guys have an ex-wife that talks like this. and to grow and to move forward from um very bad, toxic, and just really upsetting mistakes that we both made. So, unfortunately, despite all my attempts, it's not meant to be. We are both miserable and incredibly unhappy. I've been crying about this for years and I run out of tears. So, now what?
I have a job that I absolutely love. Um, but I don't make a whole lot of money. So, here I am putting it all out there for everyone to see because while I'm ready to move on in life, I don't have enough money to move out of our marital home. Yep. We still live together. It's not for not wanting to leave. I just can't afford to go anywhere. So through this process of like trying to figure out like what's wrong? Why does this keep happening to me? Why can't I be in a healthy relationship? I just realized that a lot has happened to me in life from childhood on that really needed some care and evaluation.
Oh, girl, when I said cake on the makeup, oh my god, that is not I mean, we'll see where she's going with it. Um, but again, if you're 40 and you haven't gotten over your childhood stuff, >> yeah, >> I've known this for >> many years and have been working tirelessly on my mental health. >> What does working tirelessly on your mental health mean? >> Okay, I would say a a practical thing is to meditate. But I I you know that's like I don't know working on your mental health. What how would you tell her to work on her mental health? To me it just seems learn therapy language to manipulate people. You know that's what it seems like.
>> And now I've been in a big to-do of working on my physical health as well. >> Oh god. Not well enough. Girl, I can see you were above like 30% body fat. >> With the help of a GLP, I've started >> Oh my gosh. So, she got on a GLP and divorced her husband. How are you on a GLP and still overweight? I mean, that's my gosh. >> Losing some weight, exercising, paying attention to my diet and everything that I put inside my body. I've also furthered my education in the field that I'm in to help better my financial standing. I went back to school for this. On top of quitting a toxic relationship that I couldn't let go, I've quit drinking and vaping. Vaping was really hard. I commute every single day for work about an hour and 20 minutes each way. I spend a lot of time on the road. So, I have a dream to get a little place close to my work and get my life back. And this is where social media comes in. I need money. I need to earn more.
>> Oh my gosh. You're So you're talking about leaving your husband and then begging for money on social. Women are incredible. Read the room, girl. There's people um You just got to read the room. Money. I live in Southern California in one of the most expensive places in the country and I'm trying to get to San Diego, one of the most expensive cities in the country. So, why am I telling you this? Well, I'm sharing my life in hopes that this can bring me to earning more money. I would love to make enough. I I I don't need much. I need like 3,000 a month to make it on my own without any help from my ex, without any I don't She does need help and she will be putting him on child support. >> Want any money from him? I really just want a disconnect as much as possible. Living together has been >> She will take money from him when it comes down to it. >> Very difficult. on very hard on me and it's really um affecting my healing process. I am not scared and I am not discouraged from moving forward. So I plan to use this channel to show you all my >> progress on my over 40. >> Okay, let's see. Let's see the weight loss. Sorry, this from May 11th. It's been about a month. Oh my god, girl. How are you on a GLP? All right, women are so full of it.
Okay, let's see this next lady starting over at 40. >> Men in their 40s having to rebuild their lives is astounding. I'm 41 and I'm starting over. Since my last video went viral, I've discovered some really heartbreaking things. The amount of women that are going through the exact same thing that I'm going through is devastating. So, we are all just quietly living our lives alone in our bedrooms. Wow. It's like self-inflicted. Like women, I think, like trauma. I think women enjoy being traumatized so they can just like cry about it. I think women like crying and so we like inflict trauma upon ourselves so we can cry about it and that like makes us happy and and in this case cry on the internet just trying to get by. We are just quietly rebuilding our lives, trying to figure out money. Some of us just can't even get out of bed because the weight of the weight of it all is just too heavy. It's just everyday women still going to work every day, raising their kids, and just suffering in silence. We shouldn't have to live with our exes because rent is just too damn expensive. I mean, like, what is happening, you guys?
>> Okay, well, the reason all the prices of everything are going up, they say it's inflation, right? But I think it's really just um people can keep charging more money because women will still buy it no matter what. Um and so businesses kind of have to make the choice. Should we charge absurd prices and do less work, provide a worse product and get more money? And obviously they say yes. Yeah. So that's where we're going with this. >> It's just it's it's an epidemic. It's like hundreds of women. >> Okay. You're not going to be able to put makeup over um the fat, like lose the fat and then come back. >> Just on my video, just mine. Such a small sampling of women that have seen my video are all going through this. How many of us are actually doing this? And then legit like what is going on with men? They just they see this. I know. I know. I know they know that we're having a hard time. I know that they see us suffering. They don't. They're not as dumb as they come off to be. >> I don't get how somebody can just watch another person suffer. >> Translation: I left my husband, ruined my family, and I still want him to deal with my problem. All right. Next.
>> Most difficult things about starting over in midlife is actually just taking that very first step to do something different for your life. I can't believe I just would think that if you're going to break up your whole family that you would be hot before it just kind of surprises me they don't lose the weight before they leave. Like if your girl's like going really hard in the gym, it's a wrap. You know, she's never gone to the gym before. It's a wrap. >> I get it because at 44 years old, my life completely fell apart after I went through a divorce. I hit rock bottom. Literally, my life completely fell apart and I had no idea what the heck I was going to do with my life. And taking that first step towards the unknown or towards the uncertain or towards this life that I had no idea what was going to be on the other side of was so [ __ ] scary and overwhelming. But I tell you, as soon as I took that first step and then took another step, I started gaining clarity and I started getting really in tune and in alignment with who I was and who I was meant to be. So I see you. I totally understand. And if you are scared and you don't know what direction you're going to go, I promise you if you just >> He's going to be a divorce coach. I bet that's what they do. They [ __ ] up their life and then that's not enough. So, they become a coach on bad decisions. I mean, that's why you see on TikTok, it's like herpes coach, it's divorce coach, it's um what do you got? Like food disorder coach, uh money coach, it's just like coaching women coaching women into making horrible choices. >> Take that first step, baby steps, even just a little bit every single day. You will start to get clarity and so much more confidence in yourself. It's just going to take time, but believe in yourself because I believe in you, too. One of the most difficult things about starting over in midlife is actually just taking that.
All right, guys. All right. Um, I wish these ladies well. Um, I don't predict it'll work out for any of you with the face cards and the body cards we have, but don't fear. There's always a man who will do it. Oh, but Pearl, they're going to learn their lesson. Nope. There's always somebody who will do it. Uh, get yourself a GLP1. Why work hard when you can work smart and starve yourself and uh some simple do it and then you can get fat after. Like the video, guys. Subscribe to the channel and I'll see you next.