The video excerpt discusses the nature of covert abuse, highlighting its insidious and difficult-to-perceive characteristics. It explains that the more covert the abuse, the harder it is for the victim to articulate their experience and for external observers to recognize it. The speaker lists a series of adjectives describing the feelings of a victim of such abuse: unseen, disregarded, disqualified, unequal in status, demeaned, and used. The core of this abuse is described as an assault on the victim's personhood, value, and worth, ultimately aimed at exerting control over them. The victim is made to feel like an extension of the abuser, existing solely for the abuser's benefit, rather than as an individual with their own rights and existence.

Dr. David Hawkins

The more covert the abuse is, the more difficult it is to explain, difficult it is to describe, the more difficult it is to perceive from the outside that the other person feels and and here comes sort of a a long string of adjectives.

That a person feels unseen, disregarded, disqualified, unequal in status. Um, demeaned, used, um, felt as not a person in their own right, but only an extension of the other person, existing only for their benefit or good.

It is largely an assault on personhood. It's an assault on value and worth aimed at control of another.

This is How a Professional Counselor Describes Covert Emotional Abuse #narcissism #emotionalabuse

The more covert the abuse is, the more
difficult it is to
explain, difficult it is to describe,
the more difficult it is to perceive
from the outside that the other person
feels and and here comes sort of a a
long string of adjectives. that a person
feels
unseen, disregarded,
disqualified, unequal in
status. Um, demeaned, used,
um, felt as not a person in their own
right, but only an extension of the
other person, existing only for their
benefit or good. It is largely an
assault on personhood. It's an assault
on value and worth aimed at control of
another

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This is How a Professional Counselor Describes Covert Emotional Abuse #narcissism #emotionalabuse

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