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Today, we live in a world where guys are growing up without a father figure or male role model. At face value, this might not seem like a problem, but it's actually one of the main reasons why so many guys have trouble attracting girls.
Many guys actually had a father growing up, but since their father never had a male role model or the Internet, he himself never actually found out what it's like to be a man, and he never learned what it takes to attract girls. Think about this: how is a young man supposed to learn how to attract girls from his father if his father doesn't even know how?
Not too long ago, the internet didn't exist. You couldn't just pull out your smartphone and find a male role model on YouTube. You either had to get down and dirty in the trenches and figure it out for yourself, or you needed to find someone to learn from, like an older brother. Today, you have all the tools that you need to learn how to attract girls, but even after you learned how to do it, you still have to take action and gain experience.
Before we continue, there is something that you need to know. Every single time that you watch a video on this channel, the information is tucked away inside of your brain. The crazy thing is that if I were to ask you a week from now what you learned from these videos, you probably wouldn't be able to tell me. But here is the neat thing about your brain: when you consume information, such as the information from these videos, every bit of it is stored away. If you tried to recall the information about how to act confident around girls while taking a shower, you probably wouldn't be able to recall all of it, but while talking to a girl you just met, suddenly all the information starts pouring into your head, seemingly out of nowhere.
Think about a song that you used to listen to all the time but haven't heard in many years. If I asked you to recall the lyrics and sing the song, you probably couldn't, but if I were to play the song, suddenly the lyrics will start flowing into your head, and you could probably sing almost every word. This is exactly how things work when you're trying to improve your social skills, confidence, charm, or other traits. When you first learn how to do it, your brain tucks it all away into a little folder, and unless you're actually in a situation where the knowledge is needed, you'll probably never even know that it's there.
Picture this: Bob walks into a bar with the goal of meeting and leaving with a girl. Bill walks into the bar with the exact same goal. Now you have two guys in a bar with the same goal of meeting and leaving with an attractive girl. What are the odds of that? Both guys start talking to different girls, and before the night is over, Bob leaves the bar with no girls and feels completely defeated. He feels like a loser and starts to believe he was literally born to give up on girls and buy a dog.
Bill, on the other hand, watched his videos on YouTube, and some random guy has taught him that life is a numbers game and what girls are really looking for in a man. Like Bob, Bill got rejected by the first three girls that he interacted with, but the handy knowledge about life being nothing more than a numbers game popped into Bill's head at just the right moment, right when he was about to give up and go home after the third girl rejected him. Bob went home, but Bill kept trying and trying, and eventually he ended up leaving with an attractive girl.
After his first major success, Bill's confidence increased, so he went back and did it again next weekend. Over time, Bill became extremely confident meeting girls, and this confidence spilled over into all other areas of his life. Bill is now the president, has a beautiful girlfriend, and he is constantly chasing his fears, improving himself, and raising his life to new heights. Bob, on the other hand, spends the rest of his life blaming girls for his lack of success. He becomes bitter and falls asleep every single night with his dog in his lap, watching infomercials about how to get rich with real estate. And to think that all of Bill's success started with the information that he learned from a simple YouTube video that just happened to pop into his head at the right time.
Now, before we move on, I want to say that younger guys have a huge advantage when it comes to attracting girls. Attracting young girls around your age is so much easier than attracting older girls, for the most part, and here's why: a young girl, let's say ages 18 to 22, is attracted to all of the primal signals of attraction, like older girls, but here's the crazy part: since young girls are still developing, they're easier to attract with the primal signals. All that you have to do is display these traits, and for younger girls, the power of these traits is magnified two to three times over.
But here's the catch: most younger guys are naturally less confident and have trouble displaying these traits just because they're young. For many of the guys that I'm talking about, they might not find their inner confidence until they're in their late 30s or 40s. This can be a problem because by this time, all of those young girls have now grown up, and through experience, they are much pickier with the guys that they choose to be with. Put simply, if you're a younger guy, all that you have to do is learn the primal signals of attraction that work for all girls and put the knowledge into action. This will give you a huge advantage over most other guys who have a dominant father figure, a male role model, or a bigger brother.
But before you can start attracting girls, you need to know a few major signs of insecurity that repel most girls. One of the biggest mistakes that Bob made in the bar was not being able to maintain eye contact. A lot of guys think that when talking to a girl, they need to stare into her eyes the entire time they're talking. This is actually really creepy, so don't do this. For casual talking, you should hold eye contact for about five seconds, look away for one second, and then repeat. If she's telling you a story or something, you might want to hold it for 10 seconds instead of 5. Not maintaining eye contact with people, especially girls, is a huge sign of emotional weakness and lack of confidence. In fact, it's so obvious that the girl doesn't even need to test you because you're instantly showing her your lack of confidence.
Another huge mistake that Bob made was not knowing what to say and freezing up while talking to the girl. So why does this happen? What causes a guy to not know what to say in this situation? Maybe he's pretty confident, but he just quite literally doesn't know what to say. Not knowing what to say is usually caused by a lack of experience with girls, and another core cause is a lack of confidence. To fix this problem, you need to improve your confidence and social intelligence.
The truth is that none of these guys that are really successful with girls will tell you this, but most of them started out with girls who have average to below-average looks. It's almost like when you're training to get stronger in a game; sure, you could try to take on the biggest, toughest monster right when you start out, but you would probably be killed instantly and gain no experience. Average-looking guys hook up with super attractive girls all the time in the real world, but if your game, confidence, and other skills are weak, it might be better to start training on the weaker monsters, so to speak. By the time you start approaching the nines and tens, you'll have so much more confidence in your game and in talking to girls in general if the conversation will flow naturally. Approaching super attractive girls is kind of like hitting a new PR when lifting weights; it serves as a great way to test your skills and game to see how far you've come, but you probably won't be able to hit the new weight for reps.
Another major mistake that Bob made while in the bar was convincing himself that he could never hook up with a super attractive girl since he never had much experience with girls growing up, especially in high school or college. Like any other belief that you plant in your head, Bob truly believed that attractive girls would never go for him. If you could be described as Bob, just get rid of this belief right now because the truth is that you can get a 9 or a 10; you really can. You might need to work on yourself first, but anything is possible, just like in a game: better skills lead to slaying tougher monsters and getting better rewards.
The first step to attracting beautiful girls is to avoid making Bob's mistakes. The second step is understanding the primal signals that girls are attracted to and using them to your advantage. In some of my other videos, I've said that girls always say that they want a nice guy if you ask them, but when it comes down to it, the nice guy is not the one who they're leaving the bar with, unless he's really rich, really powerful, or famous. A few of the traits that create primal attraction in any girl are confidence, masculinity, humor, unpredictability, charm, and social intelligence. The more that you learn about and practice improving these traits within yourself, the more success that you'll have with girls.
If you weren't fortunate enough to be born with a father who knows what he's doing with girls or some type of male role model, there is nothing wrong with gaining experience with girls who have average to below-average looks to enjoy more success with girls. Realize that younger girls are much easier to attract with the primal signals and avoid making Bob's mistakes. Also, remember that all of this knowledge will never help you if you don't take action and put yourself in situations where your brain can pull it out when it's needed most.
And that's it, until next time, thanks for watching.