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This is Marquette Devon Burton, the saint and the sinner, giving you lessons from a pimp. And today folks, we are back again. This time I am answering a question that one of my subscribers asked me to answer, which is, "How do you thrive in this world if you grew up without your father?" which is a really important question and that question will become increasingly important given the way the society is going being that there's increased enmity between the male and the female although there's still the same biological drive that causes them to procreate.
Problem is once they procreate sometimes they don't stay together in a happy union. So, the real question that I'm being asked is, as a male growing up in a single parent household headed by a female, how do you thrive in this world? As usual, I'm going to try to dig a little deeper and go to the root. Why do we think that's even a problem? To start with, individuals who grow up in single parent households have generally more likelihood to enga uh end up in the criminal justice system, not working there as an inmate. Um they also generally have lower educational attainment and blah blah blah blah blah. You can imagine all the other ills that result from this circumstance. It does not mean it's a guarantee that you will be an underperformer.
The real question that I'm being asked is, having grown up without your father, what are you missing? And I've had a couple unique experiences that allow me to comment on this. Number one, in many ways, I grew up without my father. So, my mother uh raised me by herself at some level, but every weekend I would go to my uncle's house and he was married in a nuclear family, had a son himself, and treated me just like a son. So, I had a a unique experience of literally having that every weekend and then having my mom during the week and being able to compare the two.
I also had the unique experience of being a public school teacher in Baltimore where a lot of my kids there were growing up with single parent households headed by a female. So, I was able to observe the behaviors they display and also compare them to the behaviors of the kids who had two parents. And when you're teaching 150 kids, you get to see a lot of case studies, so to speak.
So the first thing is if you're being raised by a female only, you're not getting a balance, right? So that means you're you're getting the female traits and characteristics and those are not being balanced up against the male traits and characteristics. What I've observed in females is the following. The data indicates women are less inclined to be entrepreneurs. Why? Because it requires a lot of confidence, a lot of stress, and you're the leader. You're the one. And those are not the chief traits of the female. The female animal, you know, whereas they say, you know, fight or flight, fight or flight is actually not a genuinely an inherent female response to a conflict. given that it's going to make the female behave in a certain way, which is all fine if that's balanced out with a male who is naturally a protector. How do we know this? Because the male by nature is more aggressive. They're physically stronger and larger. So, the female is also more inclined to be fearful. When you have a fearful female with a male, she's not as scared. You have a fearful female by herself. She is not in a peaceful state of mind.
How does this manifest itself? For example, my mother always kept a a golf club behind the door. So, and she always kept like a hammer behind her bed, the headboard in her bedroom. Now, my aunt Leslie didn't do any of that cuz she didn't feel the need. She knew if a motherfucker busting that house, Uncle Jimmy was going to put that work in and she wouldn't have to lift a finger. Whereas, if someone busted in our house when I was a young child, my mother would have to try her best to fend off this attacker. So, the female is not going to be at peace. They're going to be a little bit fearful when they're unto themsel. And I'm not saying women don't have good characteristics. I'm saying these are the ones that need a male balance for her to be at peak and feel the peace that will make her happier, you know, not constantly living under stress. So those are the the the challenging characteristics.
Now here are the great characteristics of women. They're very loving, caring, sympathetic. And those are the things we all love about women. Now here's the challenge when you have a woman who's caring, loving, and sympathetic without the male balance, which is the male is can be hard, harsh, disciplineoriented. As a result of me having had certain experiences with my my uncle being a very hard disciplinarian type man, my grandmother being an older woman who's very sober and southern and making my life very regimented. My mother being a young woman who is very feminine and is still experiencing all of the the rich hormones and biology of a female that is fertile in her youth. U I noticed very clearly that my mother was way more sympathetic i.e. you can get away with things. Very loving, which means she's going to love on you and there's no one to say, "Man, leave that boy alone, you know, let him do, you know, and for example, I remember one time I was at football practice and I grew up in Los Angeles and athletics are very competitive when you grow up in an all black environment. So, we were playing for a football team that was like a champion every year since ever. And we were doing this football drill called Oklahoma's, which means that you're about 30 yards out, you're laying on your back, there's a football in the middle, you get up, you run to the center, you grab the ball, and then you impact the other person. You try to run him over. So, we did this drill. I I outran this kid, picked up the football, and laid him out. Lading straight on his wallet. And this kid was laid the fuck out like this. He got up and started crying. And literally crying. We're 11 years old. Not to say that that's permissible just because you're 11, but he starts crying and his mom gets up on the off the sidelines start trying to run onto the fucking field. Fortunately, all the coaches and the ad and everyone grabbed her like, "Bitch, you better calm your dumb ass down. This is football, bitch."
So the fact is his single mom saw her boy get laid out, her dumb ass want to run onto the field. Whereas a father sitting there with the wife, if she wanted to run off on the field, he would have grabbed like, "Bitch, you ain't going to embarrass me out here. It's a motherfucking football field. Niggas is going to get ran over." That's what happens in football. Sometimes you run a nigga over, sometimes you get ran over. And a man is more comfortable with that fact. A man is comfortable with the fact that sometimes you get your dick knocked in the dirt. Sometimes you're the one that knocks somebody else's dick in the dirt. But a woman, she sees you get hurt, she wants to go out there and love on you cuz that's their programming. That's the beauty of the woman. But when you don't have the male to counterbalance it, what happens? The woman's loving on the child too much, giving him too much love, and he grows up and he ends up being soft or fruity, whatever you want to call it. Not to say that growing up with a single mom is going to make you homo. Growing up with a woman only will definitely make you more emotional. Why? Because we learn from our role models, right? Whoever you're around, that's who you soak up. And so when you're growing up around a woman and she's stressed and she's expressing stress, that's going to stress you out. You're not going to have a good tolerance of of dealing with troubles. You're going to be inclined to complain. Why? Cuz women are in inclined to complain. And it's not necessarily that they're like trashy individuals. It's that females are more communicative than men. Female females speak a lot more than men. So whatever they're experiencing, whether it's good, bad, or ugly, they're going to talk about it. And so the male child is observing this characteristic and adopting it as normal because that's the example that he is receiving. You know, when a woman gets mad, all bets are off. Like a woman's scorn, who knows what she's going to do? That's why you niggas end up getting wiped out when you divorce. They want to take all your money because they're hurt and they react emotionally instead of rationally. And that's what happens in the ghettos. That's why you see a lot of these young men when they come into conflict, they react emotionally and gun you down.
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