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By the way, guys, if she says "Oh, I'm doing it for me. [music] I'm doing it for me." usually that's horse [ __ ] right? "I'm doing it for me. I'm doing the long hair extensions for me." Really, honey? Then why do you look like a bag lady around the house? And then when you get dolled up to go outside to walk down the street, you look like a you know, you're a going to work, if you know what I mean, on the streets. What what's going on here? Mhm? [music] Women do these things to attract men or because they're competitive with other women, which is also usually to attract male attention. [music] So, if she's trying to attract male attention that's not from you, get out. Okay? You got yourself a a red flag girl.
>> Cuz here's the problem. Here's the problem with modern marriage from a man's perspective, as far as I'm concerned. >> Yeah. >> Most of the marriages I know, okay? [music] The man provides financially, he protects, right? He, you know, he's also there to be part of the family dynamic, taking care of kids, doing the things that he can do. >> [music] >> What does the woman bring? She brings love, affection, a little bit of sweetness at the end of the day, you know, sex. She brings, you know, taking care of kids. Okay. If you get divorced, every single thing on that side of the man equation, he can be compelled to do by the power of the state. And if he fails to do it, they can put him in jail. Nothing on that other side, the female side, is enforceable at law.
>> All women want the man who plans things and takes initiative, not the man who asks the woman, "So, what do you want to do? Where do you want to eat?" I don't know what to do. They want the man who says, "Hey, I'm going to [music] pick you up at 7:00 p.m. Friday, Saturday night for dinner. We're going to have a great night." Because initiative shows leadership, and leadership creates a space of safety and security for women, and women fall in love through that overriding feeling of security.
>> And honestly, you know, matter wouldn't be like, "Why am I not being asked out?" It's because honestly, men are having With a lot of these young ladies, men are having to >> [snorts] >> ask. Men are having to beg for the bare minimum. I'm having to beg for softness. I'm having to beg for, you know, you just showing some type of interest. I'm having to beg for you to say that you even like me. I'm having to beg for you to say that say thank you. While you're expecting me to buy you all of these gifts and wine you and dine you and all that stuff.
>> And [music] they cannot be controlled by [ __ ] holes the most value, straight up. Because [ __ ] is really do think that they is everything. They have absolutely nothing of value to contribute to a relationship or man who has everything that they need. Um, why would a stable man who has his own house, his own car, his a good job, and you know, his own money, his own motion, completely what the [ __ ] do he have to listen to a who really have nothing going on but [ __ ] for those type of men who lack all of those things because control. Puppet master, she could pull his pull your strings. Oh, you're not listening or you're not acting right, get out.
>> What were some of the things you were told about men while growing up? >> Don't trust them. >> Yeah, I agree with that one. >> What is the most surprising thing you've learned about men from your experiences? >> You can't trust them. >> [laughter] >> Facts. >> Do you prefer a man who is a gentleman or a bad boy? >> Bad boy. >> Bad boy. >> Is it fair to say women lust after bad boys and want to settle down with nice guys? >> Yeah. >> If you happen to be looking for a quality man, where would you expect to find one? >> Quality man? >> Church. >> Yes, that is it. >> When was the last time you went to church? >> I don't think these modern women really understand the level of peace that a man receives when he stops [music] messing with modern women. When he stops uh [clears throat] entertaining modern women. No longer is it and we can even separate the dates. Right? Oh, I got to take you to this this expensive restaurant. We can separate that. We can just talk about how you keep up mess every day for no reason. You're always getting into something that you have no business being in. Talking about you're doing it for the plot. And I've got to listen to the nonsense when I could be thinking about making money. Doing a hobby. You know, enjoying a hobby, picking up another one. Which one do you think is more appealing?
>> I do believe that I'm a 10 full-heartedly because why would I downgrade myself and all of you ladies should think that you're a 10. >> Uh do you think all women should view themselves as a 10? >> I do. I do think all women should have that confidence. >> with her, other 10? >> Yes, if they actually work on themselves. >> So, all women are 10s? >> I think so cuz we're all 10s. >> Are all men 10s? >> I think in their own way all men can be 10s, yeah. >> How come you're willing to give women the the like yes, girl, slay, you're all 10s the confidence, but for men you're like maybe they can reach 10 level. >> Because I I love women and I want to support women. >> So, men don't need support? >> Men do need support. I never said that. >> But but there there she does point something out where you were quicker to say yes, all women are 10s, but there seemed to be hesitation when we were trying to do the same appraisal of men. >> Just because I don't find every man attractive. >> Right. You find all all women attractive? >> I find a lot of women, most women attractive, yeah.
>> Follow us, free game. If you've been courting a woman and you want to know if she actually likes you or she's into you, say something to her and that's going to tell you everything that you need to know. If she gets irritated or disgusted, she doesn't like you, she actually hates you. Because one thing about it, women break the rules for the that they like. Cuz that she like, cuz send that dick pic. Cuz she like, cuz ask her what she wearing. That she like, cuz tell her to come bust them down. That for that that she like, he can talk to her any way he want to and that's going to make her jump. Women have no morals when it comes to that they like. Now, ladies in my live,
>> and modern women continue to talk about and this is why really honestly and truly they come up with the mental load. You know what? Okay, let's be fair. There are in some relationships, >> [music] >> the man is not doing what he's supposed to be doing. The man is not carrying his weight. Fair. Got it. He shouldn't be doing it. He should be actually helping, right? But what they do is they put instead of being like, "Okay, I'm carrying 90% of the mental load, but my husband is carrying 90% of the physical load. I got the mental load, he's got the physical." She's expecting the man to come in. She says half, but what she actually means is "I actually want you to carry 70-80% of the mental load and continue to carry your 90% of the mental load." And when men realize that, that's when they started out opting out.
>> If women like men, why don't women listen to men when they talk? Why if women like men, why they keep Why anytime [music] a man speaks about what's going on with him, why they call it mansplaining? So he can shut up. If [music] like men, why are women seeking to understand the people that they say they like? Cuz we men understand a lot more about women than women understand about men. And men have to understand women. You know why? >> [music] >> Because sex don't come easy to y'all. You have to put in the work to figure out what a woman wants in order [music] for you to get. Which is what most women do. I want a man to I want a man that's going to do this, that, and the other. But everything you're saying [music] that you want him to do is what women do for men. Not the other way around. So, women are actually looking for a woman in a [music] male frame. Cuz the reality is women just like sleeping with men. They don't actually like [music] men. If a man turn her down, and she can't get her way, you must be gay. If women like men, then why is that the reality [music] and not women actually seeking to understand the party that they say they like so much? You like a man, then why you trying to change everything [music] that makes the man the man?
>> As men, nobody warned us about this, right? When I say protecting your peace [music] is a daily practice, I mean it. You have to learn how to disconnect [music] nonsense from reality. If you don't, you'll find yourself [music] carrying weight you were never meant to hold. These days, I don't deal with other people's drama. [music] I don't get dragged into arguments that have nothing to do with me. I don't play a referee for couples. I don't play therapist for people who don't want [music] change. This is how I protect my peace. I'm I'm not getting involved in other people's drama. I'm just not. [music] And if this is something that you find yourself doing, then this book right here will teach you how to stop doing that. How to protect your peace. It is more important than [music] you know. Pick this book up. Grab this book. It's down in the link below. Pick this [music] book up. Protect your peace. And what you're seeing from a lot of these men, uh the men that women are calling or hoping to be chivalrous, the very men that they're saying, "Oh, he's not chivalrous. He's not a good man. He's not a gentleman." You don't know what you're talking about, quite frankly. Uh a lot of brothers still know how to, you know, be thoughtful, plan, and do all of these other things. It's just, you know, first of all, you're disrespectful. Second of all, you're not really putting out anything that would make that man that would make that man want to get to get to know you. >> [laughter] >> There ain't nothing to get to know. You're acting like a loser.
>> I feel like body count don't matter. >> Okay. >> And if it does matter, you insecure cuz why you want to know like why you want to know that? Why do you want to know that? And why does that matter to the now? Like, I can understand you don't want it to be too high, I guess, but that's out of your control. It shouldn't matter. It's about the >> I'mma say if you got two cars in front of you. You got two hair cars. Both of them the exact same goddamn car. Same Same color, same model, everything. But, you ask for the Carfax on both of them and you see one of them been in way more wrecks and [ __ ] They've been totaled. And the other one just had a fender bender. Both of them refurbished now. Which one would you feel more comfortable spending your hard-earned money on? >> Of course, the one that ain't been in all them wrecks. >> Okay. So, if I do that about my car just because I don't want to waste my money, don't you think it's justified to me doing even more about the woman I plan on spending my life with? If I'm doing all this about a car, I'm asking for Carfax and all this about some material that's going to give out on me in 5 6 years anyway. Don't you think I should do even more questioning and car facts about my woman?
>> Come get your stuff from my house, please. Please come get your stuff. >> What did I leave over there? >> That sock. >> I don't want it. You can throw it away. >> I'm I'm not throwing away thing, dog. Come That's your favorite sock. Why would I do that? Do you need to be Cuz you ain't got to worry about me calling no more. I just need you to come get your >> You just want me to come over there. >> [music] >> Please come get this sock. And I tell you one thing, if you don't come get this [ __ ] sock, I will bring it to you. >> You just want me to come over [music] there. >> you to come up over here. I don't just want you to come no more. Please don't. Please [music] don't. But come get your sock. Come get Please come get this sock at my house. I'm tired of looking at it. Just come get your sock, please.
>> And you see a lot of these modern women, God forbid a man would ask any questions about what she brings to the table. Even if they don't say, "Well, what do you bring to the table?" But modern women, they don't mind getting their questions out. You come to a first date, y'all really don't even get to the first date, to be honest. But let's say you do actually get to the first date. You know, the first question, I'm barely sitting down. You ask me about what my firm size is. "Are you an entrepreneur? Well, what do you do for work?" By the By the time the appetizers come, "So, how much is in your bank account?" You know, she's running his credit score by that time. So, everything that he needs to tell you or you want to know, he got to tell you off rip. We don't even need to get to dinner. We don't even need to get to dinner. And I need to know what you got going on. But if I should ask you, "Okay, what is it that you do?" Huh? [laughter] If I should ask you, you know, "How do you contribute in relationships? What? If you can't see my value then do I even need to be here? I mean, if that's the way you feel, I guess not.
>> My last relationship, it was in 2023. you don't have to answer, but I'm going to ask. When's the last time you was intimate with someone? >> Last night, this morning. >> Why you not with that guy? >> That was my first time meeting that with him. >> Are you being serious, Baltimore? >> I'm so serious. I had to put him right here on this couch. >> Okay, why you being >> The makeup still right there. You see it? >> Okay, Raven, why do you want to be this much of a hoe? >> Huh? >> Why do you want to be this much of a Yes. >> How I'm being a >> You told me you just met a man last night that you just slept on went on the couch that you calling me and looking for a new man right now. That's hoe activities. It don't get no more hoe than that. >> Kendra >> I'll be I'mma call you baby girl. You said you met him yesterday, had sex of him on the couch that you calling me on. That's a hoe. >> All right, I could be a hoe sometimes. I'm going to admit that. But, I knew the guy or whatever. We just met up last night and I had to whoop him. It was good too. But, we We got to get there, but I don't >> And now and now you calling me looking for a new guy. >> Yes. Cuz that ain't my guy. We just had >> Not trying to pay 150 on a first date. >> 150 on a first date. I mean, who can blame them? Who would want to pay that much money just to get to know somebody, which I might add is the entire purpose of a first date. >> 150 is honestly like an average cheaper price of going to eat out for two people nowadays. >> Average cheaper price. Where exactly are some of these individuals eating? That's not cheap. That's exorbitant. >> If you can't afford that, maybe you shouldn't be dating. >> If you're [clears throat] a woman and happen to agree with that particular sentiment, that $150 isn't all that much for a guy to spend on a first date, and you're one of those that actually expects a guy to spend a minimum of that much, then I'm just going to say it. You're not interested in getting to know the guy or starting a relationship. You're simply interested in the perks that you're getting for having someone pay for your meal or your activities. Hmm. I wonder how many names I'm going to get called for that one.
>> And here's what women will do, modern women. They'll [music] reject a man for years. Right? Where they you know, single moms and stuff like that. Well, yeah, I I I got men lined up da da da, and they'll say all this stuff. And they'll talk a whole bunch of trash. You they'll sit up here and uh reject men for years, and expect those same men and expect those same men to step up. They'll expect those same men to Oh, we need a man to step up uh and be a step dad. Without question. [music] Well, do this, go here, do that, right? A man A man ain't got no word from nobody but just step up, start taking care of my kids. It don't matter if my kids uh going to disrespect you in the future, I'm not going to stop it. I'm not going to be on your side. You're always going to be a last priority. But step up. Step up to get abused. Step up to get taken advantage of. Step up to be disrespected. Why? Why would anybody want to do that?
>> The day a man stops chasing is the day something inside him finally clicks. The [music] day he stops being the first to text is not a game. >> [music] >> It is not him trying to make you miss him. It is a man who has woken up to his own worth. [music] He was not always like this. He used to be the one keeping the conversation alive on his own. >> [music] >> Replying within minutes to somebody who would take days. Always free. Always there. Always trying. [music] He believed if he kept showing up, eventually he would be picked. Then it hit him. [music] People do not protect what they can have for free. Being available all day, every [music] day was not making him important. It was making him forgettable. >> [music] >> Even the softest heart hardens after enough rejection. He found more peace in silence >> [music] >> than he ever found in in trying to win somebody over. He stopped forcing connection because >> [music] >> attention you have to beg for is not really attention at all. So, he stopped saving spots in his life for people [music] who treated him like a second option. They will tell themselves he changed. He just stopped being the only one putting in effort. He took his time back. He shut the door. He raised [music] his bar. Do not blame him. He did not vanish. He just outgrew the version of himself that begged.
>> If you're dating a divorced man who has kids, you absolutely need to look up the public records of that divorce before you get serious. Abusers use the court system as another playground. So, you'll see the abuse tactics [music] if you know what to look for. But, pay special attention to the motions filed against him. [music] Whether or not his ex-wife had an attorney, how much he paid for his own attorney, find out a lot of things he wishes [music] could stay hidden. And if his ex-wife was a stay-at-home mom and [music] gets no spousal support or child support, but he earns plenty of money >> [music] >> to pay for that? And maybe he's even on the record as saying he should be the only parent after the financial abuse rendered the mom unable [music] to care for the children. Now he's going to step in and be the only parent? You can find all that stuff out [music] in the public record of the divorce case.
>> [music] >> You know, a lot of these modern women, they want men to approach, but they want to tell men how to approach, right? And to a degree, that makes sense, right? You know, obviously don't approach me, you know, in certain places like at night during the park. Like at um in a dark parking lot. Or, you know, don't come up and call me baby. Like I don't know you. I'm not your baby. Makes [music] sense, right? But modern women have a way that they want men to approach, and you have to have it It's one thing to say, "Okay, I don't want a man to call me baby cuz, you know, I don't know you." But then there's also "Oh, I want him to be in a black suit wearing some Louis Vuitton, I don't know, flip-flops, have a a buzz cut, look like I don't know, Matt whoever. You get it. It's one thing to say, "I don't want him to disrespect me" versus "Oh, he's got to come up and talk to me to me like this with a glass in his hand." And you don't get approached because if a man doesn't look a certain way, um if he doesn't talk in a certain manner, right? They disrespected. [music] And so, people men watch that. Men see that. And then they're like, um No.
>> Because men understand something about men. They understand that comfort really comes out of nowhere. Men test boundaries. They test access. >> [music] >> They're going to pay attention to what you correct versus what you tolerate. So, when another man suddenly [music] finds himself bold enough to try something, your man isn't just looking at the moment. He's also looking at the [music] path that led to the moment. And that's why a lot of us get so frustrated [music] because we're focused on the disrespect. We're like, "Babe, this man disrespected [music] me. Do something about it." But your man is not just focused [music] on the disrespect. He's also focused on the access. So, you are asking, [music] "Babe, are you going to check him?" But your man is asking you, "How did that other man [music] get this comfortable in the first place?" Now, your man is going to react and he's going to [music] act based on how you answer that. Now, let me be clear about something. The other man is obviously still responsible for his own behavior. But accountability doesn't stop with him because protection [music] and accountability can exist at the same time. Let me explain. Your man can stand beside you as his woman and still ask questions about [music] what got you where you are in the first place. Because he's not just trying to address what happened. He's also trying to understand how it happened. And he needs to understand that so he can know how he's supposed to move.
>> Let's debunk some red pill myths. Here's the claim. Women are wired to be hypergamous by nature, meaning they only want men with higher status than them and they will likely leave the moment a better man comes along. Let's get into this. Historically, women needed to marry men for resources because they had no other choice, but that's not the world we live in anymore. Women today are economic powerhouses. Women earn as much if not more than their husbands in 46% of households, and in 30% of homes, women actually outearn their husbands. And young women are outpacing men in home ownership and income. So, nearly half of all married women didn't marry up, and 30% by red pill definitions are marrying down. Red pillers also point to the fact that women file for 70% of divorces as proof of hypergamy. But let's look at why women file. According to a 2024 study, the top three reasons women cite for divorce are growing apart, constant conflict and poor communication, and lack of attention or emotional neglect. And finally, red pillers claim women are born to be disloyal due to hypergamy. But statistically, men are 54% more likely to cheat. And if women were really just waiting to trade up, you'd expect them to jump into a new marriage fast. But men are 23% more likely to remarry after divorce than women. So, who's really the one trading in relationships? The bottom line is hypergamy isn't hardwired. And in today's world, it's less relevant than ever. But red pillers talk about it like it's inevitable, like women are biologically programmed to leave you the second someone richer walks by. But the truth is women don't need men for resources anymore. They want emotional maturity, partnership, and someone they can actually connect with. In red pill content, hypergamy is overstated, misused, and misunderstood. And remember, if women hear you using talking points that sound like red pill, it's actually a red flag.
>> Is this a red flag? What's wrong with you? Why you looking like that? >> I'm hungry. >> Okay, why you ain't stop and get something when you was gone? >> Cuz why you ain't cook? >> Because I'm busy. >> Busy I mean you've been in the house all day. >> Okay, and I got to take care of kids. I got to wash clothes. I got to clean. I got to go to football practice. I got to pick up for football practice. Then after that I got to go to football training. Do I got to keep going? I don't have I didn't have time to cook. >> But when you had a full-time job before I was working, I was doing all that. I ain't complain. I still cook. >> I'm not you. I'm not you. I can't cook every day. Like you should be able to respect that I did everything else but cook. Like >> What black woman >> You could have brought some food. Don't don't don't use the race card on >> No no I'm about I'm I'm about to use it cuz it's deep. This is a deep situation. >> it's not that deep for you to use >> Think about what you're saying. What black woman don't at least make cornbread once or twice a week for their man? Dinner at least for I'm going to say three times and I ain't I ain't even push I could really say four, but I'm going to say three times a week. >> At the end of the day >> even make me dinner yesterday. >> Okay, I was busy yesterday. >> But today's Sunday. I put on overtime shift and went in to work. >> Okay, that's fine. I'm I was busy today, too. >> So you ain't even cook Sunday dinner for the kids? >> No, the kids ate. You just not going to eat. That's why I said you should have got something on your way home because you passed all those food places. And you could have just got you something. >> I pass food places every day out here. >> Listen, it's not that serious. Like everything >> no no we ain't even about to do that. We not about to pull that. It's not that serious. We not about to pull that. >> Do you want me to go get you >> No, I want you to cook me something. >> Okay, it's I don't have time to do that. >> So what you about to do? You busy? >> Yeah, I'm busy. >> What you about to do? >> I got to help my kids with their project. >> I can do that while you doing that. >> No, you can cook and then I I can help them with their project. Like I'm not with that cooking stuff. You going to have to find somebody else to do that.
>> I heard a guy say, "Woman only want a rich man because they're lazy." And I had to laugh because who's going to tell them? Most women I know are exhausted. They are working full-time, paying bills, taking care of the kids, taking care of their parents, running households, doing emotional labor. Lazy where? And let's be honest, if a man says he wants a woman who's beautiful, fit, feminine, kind, supportive, emotionally available, that's called having standards. But if a woman says she wants a man who's financially stable, responsible, suddenly she's a gold digger. Make it make sense. Most women aren't looking for a rich man. They're looking for a grown man, a man who pays his bills, manages his money, handles responsibility, and contribute to a partnership. Because after a certain age, love is great, but love and a shutoff notice, that's a stressful combination. So, no, women want rich men because they're lazy? Women want stability because they work too hard to build their own lives to attach themselves to unnecessary struggle. There's a difference. And a woman who has their own money understand the difference the most.
>> And what you're seeing from a lot of these guys is they're more selective [music] in the time that they give to people. Um their family, friends, all of that's golden because those are those are people usually that have invested in them, that have shown them love, that have been with them, that have you know, ride or die. That's my boy. Hey, that's I got a homegirl, you know what I mean? Those are the people that have shown them love, that have talked to them, that have counseled with them, that have uh supported them. Those are the type of people that have their back. They are there, loud, every time you need them. Hey, man, I'm here to support you. You know, not only with my resources, money, finances, >> [music] >> you got my voice, too. You need me to speak up for you, on your behalf. You need Some of these brothers out there, they'll get out They'll get out there and rumble with you, man. I I ain't I ain't condoning nothing, now. I ain't condoning. I'm just saying. I'm just saying they get out there and rumble with you a little bit. Okay, so they'll do [music] that. But for modern women, you don't get those same perks because you don't say First of all, you don't reciprocate. Second of all, you don't show that same type of loyalty back. I'm not going to get anything back from you. So, you going to get those perks from me, at all.