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So Isis, you said more is more. Always date more, not less. Each interaction is a data point that will enrich you as a woman. Yeah. Like I said, more experience is good. You figure out what you want. Is it? Yeah. Yeah.
What about all the like trauma though? Yeah, it is hard. But trauma. Yeah, it's true. Trauma that doesn't transform, transmit. So you will keep transmitting the trauma, but if you heal, you'll get stronger. And that's what I hope everybody does is heal.
Okay. Uh, you said you've uh how and you said you wait, hold on. Where's the thing about serial dater? Oh, you used to be a serial dater. You've had a lot of turmoil and heartbreak. Might seem like I'm always struggling. All these heartaches gave me exposure therapy and the experience. I would go through them all over again.
Uh, how long were you serial dating roster rotation? Whatever. It's not how long. Like I dated my ex-boyfriend and be since 18. No, since 16. It's more always like I already look for the next uh boyfriend already have feelings for the next person before breaking up with the current one. So it was maybe like three guys back to back. I didn't give give any break.
Why do you not fight to stay with one man if you are really in love? Because I was just not that's what love is about, right? Continue. Because I didn't love myself fully. I couldn't love other people even though they are really loving to me. I couldn't see the value in. But that is probably why men do not marry you yet. No, it's because I didn't want to marry them. Cuz I don't love like I don't think I'm fully myself yet.
Well, do you think that you were sad and didn't love yourself in relation to your behaviors? In relation to because you're so when you say like, oh, I need all these data points, I should date a lot, but then when I was doing that, I felt worthless and I did not love myself. That's wouldn't that be the opposite of what that exposed the problem? You know, I was suffering. I was like, "Why am I suffering?" And I realized because I love the problem was exposed to you when like a person says, "Hey, don't just date around because it's going to be unfulfilling and ultimately hurt you. You should decide what you want from an intimate relationship and just don't settle for anything less than that." And are you not a little someone talk to me like that? Do you think I would listen? Of course not. I make the same mistake all the time again and again.
Are you not a little bit scared? Because maybe you are always looking for some kind of trigger and if you do not have that trigger anymore, you will find it somewhere else and else and else. Are you a little bit scared you will never find that fulfilling trigger? No, I think I believe in myself. All right. Okay. Good for you. All right.
And then let's see. You said monogamy isn't human nature. Marriage has always been an exchange of power, money. We need to be more realistic. Don't marry potential. Yeah. So what do you what do you mean by don't marry? I think that until this guy has proven that he can financially support me and my future children and our lifestyle, I won't marry them. Okay. Even if they have the potential to earn down the road. Yeah. Potential isn't real.
You're underestimating the what a couple can achieve. I agree with you on that. If you pass up on a guy before he has reached or prior to him reaching that point, you could be passing up on a millionaire. But at the same time, there could be a lot of people that match what I like and then fits all the criteria. Why do I have to sell? You say potential is not real, but you believe in your own potential to be a billionaire. So why is that man always so wrong in your eyes? Potential is not real. Would you believe in your own potential? You probably go home, light a candle, thank God for this podcast and your potential. Would you say a man doesn't have potential? Men have potential. I do not believe in potential. I didn't say men don't have potential. I'm saying I want the men who already got their back. That's what I'm saying.
Why does the money matter? You could be missing out on an amazing guy, but men who already have money, but why would he want you? Because you're not there yet. Because you can find someone who's compatible to you that you might think is trash, you know, like, but the kind of man who would listen to you say this on a podcast and be like, "I'm going to marry that girl." Do you think he would treat you very well or thinks of himself? That's your opinion. Gosh, you have to that's from your perspective. It is my perspective. That's why I'm talking about because there. Yeah, exactly. So I think there are guys who I think are compatible to me and watch this podcast will be okay because this is me. I can't change who I am. Even if I don't say things or pretend donated $200, thank you. Any man that would marry any of the prostitutes on here absent complete repentance is a zero. Not everybody man in the world is wealthier than someone that wife's a proud prostitute. Not everybody is a prostitute. Yeah. Giovani. Mayor Cebuku. Thank you for the uh TTS there, man. Really appreciate it. Good to see you in the chat. And now we I'm glad we fixed the whole Giovani TTS robot naming thing. Uh, okay.
And so you also monogamy isn't human nature. I think it's hard. It takes discipline. You're for you for everybody. It's just against nature. I think for men, for women, I think they're both hard. I think a lot of people are tempted. Have you ever not been monogamous? No. I've always been monogamous, but there's been hardship like there were dry times. We don't have passion anymore and I don't know what to do. And but if you really are in love as a woman, if I'm in love, I only see one person. There's one person in my head, my eyes that my body is attracted to. There is nobody. If you're really in love, there's just one man, one feeling. Like there's a woman's thing, right? So, how does that work to have multiple men in your life? Then if you're really in love, if you talk about love, I don't I don't fall in love with them. I go on first date with different men. I don't understand what you're talking about. No, if you're like really in love, you want to have like a little bit monogamous relationship. I just think monogamy is hard and I think people have to put hard works into monogamy. That's why I'm saying it's against nature. That's why there's a lot of divorce rate and it take that's why I want the perfect man because I don't want to when they want to divorce him for some dumb reason, you know, because I dated someone for 5 years, he's wonderful and and I don't know why just passion was lost. So sometimes love is gone, you don't know why. That's all relationships. The passion. Exactly. That's why the commitment is compatibility, you know? I think it's not compatibility, it's commitment. But both, right? You have to have the It's commit. Well, you have to have the same values for sure, but you have to commit. It's not about compatibility to the right person. No, the right person is the person you choose. You know who you should be. There's nothing else needed. If you choose them, they're the right person. Perfect men for you know who you should be dating. You know, no Johnny Sins because he can do everything. Every job, every everything. You should be dating him. Would be perfect. Oh my god. That man can do everything. Uh, last.