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This conversation starts calm, and then everything shifts. Let's break it down on Choir Mediate.
>> Hello.
>> Hi.
>> How are you?
>> I'm good. How are you?
>> I'm good. How old are you again?
>> I'm 30.
>> So, my question was, why don't your friends like my content, boo? Do you have a question?
>> Yes. So, my question was for the high-value women, or the women who are above the 10%.
>> Okay.
>> Earnings.
>> Earnings.
>> Okay.
>> Yeah. You made a post about men who are the 6%. How, why should they only have one woman?
>> 3%.
>> 3%. Why have one woman?
>> Mhm.
>> So, for women who are high-valued, who are educated, who do make more than the 10%...
>> How do we, I guess, get these 3-percenters that only want one woman?
>> I Okay, first of all, a woman's not high value because of her income.
>> Okay, the value proposition for women is different. You know, uh, she's attractive and appealing, uh, has a comforting character. She's discerning and disciplined, and several other things. But money doesn't make a woman high value.
>> Okay?
>> Otherwise, you could go into Hollywood. You can go, you go to places where women have hundreds of thousands of millions of dollars, and they still have to married...
>> Men.
>> Right. So, you're basically asking, "How do I get a 3% man to be a loyal?" You want what all women tend to want. You want a loyal alpha. Why? Where in history have women ever been able to make that kind of demand of of such a rare man?
>> I don't think ever. I mean, I understand it. I feel like every man that I've dated of high value has always wanted more women, but I just never... So, is that something we should just deal with?
>> Where in the history of human beings have men of high cal of s high standing ever, ever, ever been expected to be solely monogous?
>> I, I guess I don't know. See, I was listening to Shar Ali days. This ar, this culture we have here, the, the monogamy, like it or not, was really done for, for business reasons, more or less. But if you really look at human beings who kind of settle themselves accordingly, men of means tend to have more food, more resources, more men at arms, more, more, more soldiers, more this, more that. And he has a queen, and he also has what? Concubines. You get to be number one. But you got to look at it this way, too, man. That's how human beings have evolved. And I know a lot of women are upset with that. But where in nature do you see the top males who are makes monogous pair bonds? It's not even in our nature. Now, just because a man may choose to do it, why is that so important? And here's the funny thing: That man, the man you're talking about, is magnitudes more valuable than another man. Just from an income standpoint, we're talking about a man who's at least three times more income than average men, right? At least. Then why doesn't he get three times more options of women? He's more valuable, right? And see, this is a, this is a female fantasy. "I want you to go out there and kill the dragon, be the top dog. I want you to dominate other, dominate other men, uh, subdue the environment, and I want you to bring it all to me, and then I want you to solely commit to me. Now, for three to five days or more out of a month, I'm not going to even, you can't even touch me sexually." And we know in business, anytime a monopoly is on something, what happens to customer service? Customer service on some products that are monopolies is low. Consumer confidence is average. Innovation is stagnant. What makes a market better? Competition. So, you want a man to go out and do all this stuff, and then he has one sexual partner. Okay. Then what if he wants it? What if, can you fulfill his sexual needs? Because men who are driven like that tend to have high drives. Can you fulfill that?
>> I can try. I can.
>> No, no, no, no, no, no, no, not try. Not try. The, the men we're talking about, let's get into it. The men who are driven like this are generally healthy, generally very viral, have higher levels of testosterone. They are conquerors by nature. And most women cannot keep up with a man's sex drive. So, he's supposed to go out and do all that stuff and limit himself. Why? I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm trying to understand the, the, the, the justification. Why? I mean, I don't, if he's in love. I don't know. So, there's no loyalty if you're...
>> Loyalty is we come home to you. Loyalty is your name is on the mortgage and on the insurance. Your name is on all the important stuff. When a man cheats, he, men don't cheat with their dick. They cheat with their wallets.
>> Okay. Well, I've had men just tell me straight up, "This is what it's going to be."
>> That's what, and that's why I say high-value men don't cheat. They exercise options. And as a man who's never cheated, I still understand that, uh, you can. And if you're a man of value, you do have options. And if you're a woman that wants to deal with a man like that, you be a fool not to understand that those men have, that man has options. And if he chooses to do something completely different, that's on him. But it's not natural. What we're talking about is an even natural man. I mean, you know your sex drive, and you know that men's sex drive tends to be higher than a woman. So, he's supposed to get out there and conquer and dominate, and then make, beg you for sex. I mean, if you tell me a woman is rip, ring, and ready to go whenever, however he wants it, he, and she's going to meet his desires, so he doesn't need to desire another one. But you can't tell me a woman that can do that. It's not possible. That's why I asked. So, I asked the question, "Where, where did this concept come from?" Because it's not even natural. Where do dukes and ears and, uh, the top 10% of men throughout civilizations, where, where have they ever just had one woman solely?
>> Yeah, I agree. That's true.
>> So, I always tell women, like, your position, if you want to deal with men who are in high demand from other women, your problem isn't typically your man. Your problem is typically the other women, because the other women are trying to get your position. It's your job to make sure that everything else does this, that there's rules: No outside babies, no STDs, uh, no public or private embarrassment, and no putting the family at risk. Right. Because, do you not know, women? Because think about how your standards are.
>> If a man can meet your standards, that means he can meet a lot of, a lot of women that you think are beneath you, their standards. Right.
>> Right.
>> Well, then go for a man who's lesser. Why don't you go for a man who's not valued? Who, who is not, who's not pre-selected? Who other women, just like you, can have? You, you can have him all to yourself. "I don't want him. You got him, girl." But that ain't what you want, right?
>> No.
>> Right. And how old are you again?
>> I'm 30.
>> Okay. When you, do you want to get married?
>> Kids?
>> I have one. I want more. I know I have a son, and I know you all. I'm just, I'm just telling you, if you talk about high-value man, you know what that means, right?
>> My son is with a high-valued man as well. I know.
>> Ah, was he your husband, though?
>> No, he was not my husband.
>> Why was he, how long were you guys together?
>> Um, on and off for 10 years.
>> Why didn't you guys get married?
>> I don't think we're compatible.
>> Then why'd you make a baby? See, men, I need you to understand. You want a high-value man to be a stepdaddy. Sierra got y'all confused.
>> Yeah. I mean, my son's father is a great man. And it doesn't matter. The kind of man you're talking about can go get a 25-year-old version of you without a kid. That's why I'm like, "I think you ladies need to realize when you have children, high value is pretty much off the table." Especially in today's dating environment. Today's dating environment is different than it was even five years ago. Too much information. The cat is out of the bag. New York Post even talked about it today. Do you realize that you can't have one struggle to get the kind of man you're talking about? Not one. Did you watch my broadcast last night? Is it over for these women?
>> No, I didn't. I didn't see.
>> I talked, I talked about the kind of women that it's over for regarding high-value men. And I said, "These career boss chicks, these high earners, uh, who want to continue that, it's over for them because a man's not going to compete with that. Go watch it last night." I talked, I was like, "And then, uh," and I also talked about women who are unfit. "It's over for them." And I said it, too. "If you have a kid, it's a wrap." Because you got to realize that your, the men you want are in the top 5% of men, and they can go get, and they have access to, and women are actively shooting their shots. So, what can you do? And then you want them to be monogous. You're not monogamous. She bringing somebody else's kid. Uh, here, here it is. Men with golden [clears throat] I'm going to talk about this. Men with golden penis syndrome are ruining sex and dating for women. And this is written by a really lame blue pill dude. Um, a lack of competition has led the men to develop golden penis syndrome. And arrogance stems from the assumption that there's a steady supply of females. This is a beta male who wrote this, who's jealous of men who have options because women choose the men that they want, and he's not one. So, there's a plethora of men. The, the men up here have an, an [clears throat] unchanging supply of women. So, how can you go in at 30 with a 10-year-old expecting a man up here, and he's gonna be loyal? That's, that's, that's a, that's a big ask. That's a big ask. Uh, sex ratios among college-educated heterosexuals and singles is approximately three women to every two men. And then, even at the 1981, was the last time a four-year colleges graduated more men than women. And then, where was this in New York City? Nine to 12% of men in that category identify as being gay or by. So, uh, what is it? Some nine or 10%, nine or 12% of men hadn't said they're gay.
>> So, basically what I'm saying is, you ladies, you want these men are up here, and, and you know, do you think you don't know what you have in your house that's of more value? If a man knows that he's socioeconomically from a height standpoint, or from a marketplace standpoint, he is more rare. How important is it to have a man like that? Or would the average man not do?
>> Okay. Well, then you need to be ready to be part of a rotation. The best you can expect, I think a winning hand for you, uh, if somebody were to, if a high-value man were to accept you as his wife, that man would likely have children, and he would still likely exercise options.
>> And that's been my experience. So,
>> Yeah, that's why people get mad at me. I'm like, "This is what it is." It's like because he's like, "Well, I'll promote you to primary, but you know what it is. I got, I got a kid over here, and I'mma be, I'mma be [ __ ] down my baby mama from time to time." You got to understand that you can't have no part to your baby daddy. You need... And then you still got to live up to all the, you got to live up to all the rules: No social media, cut off your single friends. You still got to live that life. He can do what he want,
>> Right?
>> And, and, and you know, and women like, "That's not fair." Ain't no, there's no fair in this thing. You don't have to deal with men like that. You could choose to say, "You know what? I'll get a guy that's making average income, and I'll have all of myself," if that ain't what you want. So, just be primary wife, and, uh, don't ask questions you don't want to answer to. Do you want to have any more kids?
>> Yes.
>> How many more?
>> Too.
>> Then you better get to work on the, on the sales proposition. What's the sales proposition? "Date me because what?"
>> 'Cause he got, you got a 10-year-old, right?
>> Right.
>> So, a 10-year-old, is his father taking care of his responsibility?
>> Yeah, he's a great, great father, great provider. Still, I mean, I've been in that position, too. Still, um, y'all need to come over. I'm just, this is a good conversation, but you got to know the kind of man you're going after. Unless you're going after a man who's in his late 40s, 50s...
>> Mid-40s, early 40s.
>> Late 40s, 50s, 'cause those are the guys that tend to be like, "Ah, fine." Yeah, we're like, "Whatever." But if you mid-40, I mean, you talk about income. A guy doesn't hit his financial strate 45 to 55. So, depending upon the kind of income you're talking about, he has to have time to get there. So, you're either going to give, you're either, you're going to, you're going to... Okay, ladies, understand something. To get a high-value man, you're going to give up at least three things. To be a single woman with no children, you're going to give up three things. And for every ding you have on you in the sexual marketplace, you're going to give up one more thing. If you want a man who is a certain age, [clears throat] well, what you gonna give up to get him? Because that's the three things you g to give. You gota give, you got to give something to get that man.
>> So, what I'm ultimately saying is, if these men by the numbers are, are more rare than women who want them,
>> Right?
>> Um, I, I'll give this example. It's kind of like, um, if you've ever bought something, uh, on the, on the open market, like watches and things like that, you can't go buy certain watches because they're just not enough of them. So, they have a whole market to where the price is increased in the gray market. High-value men are on the gray market, and they're increasing in value. So, um, I would suggest that with a woman with a 10-year-old, just come and say, "Look here, man. I know what it is. I'mma be this Beyonce up in here. I'm with you. We got some ground rules. I cannot tolerate public embarrassment, any, any, any diseases or whatever. I can't. Here's the things I can't tolerate other than that. But if you break this, and you break like public embarrassment, that kind of stuff, bringing home babies, diseases, you break this, I'm coming after you like Dr. Dre's ex-wife was coming after him, and you can't say [ __ ]." And most men be like, "'Cause we, 'cause we understand rules."
>> Because if he does something like that, that's reckless. It's, it's dangerous to the family. It's dangerous to the brand. And he has to pay. But most men would say that's a fair deal. Now, here's the funny thing. Here's what you ladies need to understand. The older men get, or the busier we get, the less we want to exercise these options. We barely got time to, to have sex with you. We want to go to bed. We want to go to sleep. A lot of times your, the, the options these guys are exercising, they're going over there for a mental, uh, release far more than sexual. She's providing a different girlfriend kind of experience, and you're providing a wife experience. You want to keep the kind of man you're talking about, be his wife and his girlfriend, not his wife and the mother of his child. Be his wife and his girlfriend. And it's a lot less than some chick can come do, because we as men, we don't want to get to know another chick. We don't want to get to answer her questions. [clears throat] You can actually win. And this is where women your age should be outpacing younger women, because you should at least be wise enough to be like, "All right, I got it, kid. I know what it is. This the deal." You should be able to kick younger women's ass. So, I just gave you some real good game right there. If you're willing to be pragmatic, you can win. You can win because we men who are at this level are pragmatic more than anything else. They ain't trying to have sex with somebody new every day. You know how much the sex, uh, STDs are out there? Ain't trying to do all that. They ain't trying to do all that. Lastly, if you need to get him a sugar baby, or, or get him something like that, this comes in between me and you. I'm not talking the rest of y'all. [clears throat] A lot of women allow their husbands to sugar or seeking arrangements, and they set a budget, and you're like, and, and, and it's kind of like a pretty woman thing. He's like, "All right, you go do what you do, whatever. It's, it's, it's above board, and you know what he's in it for, and she comes with a certain specific skill set, and he ain't leaving you for the sugar baby. He's not leaving you for that because she can't, she can't be the mother and minister or whatever. It's really what happens. And a sugar baby or seeking arrangement is much better than, uh, a, a rotation or whatever, 'cuz she just want the money."
>> Yeah. She want your man. She want your spot. So, if you have the kind of mindset to be like, "Look, [snorts] trust me, it's better that way." And sugar, [snorts] 3 months, 6 months, two months, whatever. So, uh, and men, and more often than not, guys get tired of doing that. They don't really want to exercise it. They just want to, more often than not, men just want to know they have options to do.
>> That's it. They want to know they have that option. That's it. So,
>> All right. Good.
>> Yes.
>> Okay. Bye-bye.
>> I know I'm going to get hate mail on that [ __ ]. Oh my god,
>> Man. Always the smoke alarm. At this point, if I hear a chirp, chirp, chirp in the background, I already know how the cause is about to go. Let me say this straight. They always find out they weren't compatible after the baby shows up. Not before, not during dating, not during the red flags. It's always after the lifelong commitment is already locked in, and then suddenly it's, "We just grew apart." Nah, you ignore reality until reality handed you the receipt.
And let's clear something up that Kevin always try to drill into people's heads. Loyalty isn't a feeling. Loyalty is that man waking up every day, going to work, paying the bills, and keeping a roof over your head. Loyalty is provision, consistency, and responsibility, not vibes, not butterflies, not how he makes me feel today. That's why this idea that a woman's social or economic status automatically makes her high value is pure delusion. A woman making money does not suddenly make men look at her differently for marriage. Men don't select wives the way women select careers. A woman's value in the eyes of virtually all quality men has always been the same things: Youth, beauty, femininity, fertility, cooperation, basic domestic competence, and, yes, a clean past. That's not hate. That's not opinion. That's observable reality across cultures and time. Men don't say this to be cruel. They say it because that's what actually leads to marriage. And what kills me is how offended they get when that truth is said out loud. Like facts are somehow disrespectful. No, reality doesn't care about your feelings.
Now, let's talk about this particular woman for a second. I'll say it plainly. She wasn't on the show for advice. She was there to advertise herself. That call was a resume, a dating profile, a look at me men moment. But here's the problem. Kevin wasn't running a matchmaking service. He was running a reality audit. And once the question started, the crack showed fast. Smoke alarm chirping, life unstructured, baby before commitment, confusion about what men value, all of it. And that smoke alarm, that thing is symbolic at this point. If you can ignore a loud, repetitive warning designed to save your life, why would anyone believe you're going to listen to a man, compromise, or follow leadership?
Kevin never hated these women. He was trying to wake them up before it was too late. But most didn't want answers. They wanted validation. And the moment validation didn't come, attitude, defensiveness, giggling, talking in circles, same pattern, different call. So yeah, always the smoke alarm, always the not compatible after the baby, always confusing money with value, and always shocked when men don't line up to commit. Kevin just said what nobody else was brave enough to say.