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I can't wait to do the candle cam 'cause we got to see this whole outfit. YOU LOOK >> GOD, NO. I'M GUILTY, BABY. LOOK AT HER. TELL ME WHAT YOU WANT. TELL ME WHAT YOU WANT. TELL ME WHAT YOU TELL ME WHAT TELL ME WHAT TELL ME WHAT TELL ME WHAT YOU WANT. I GOT YOU. I GOT YOU, BABY. >> [laughter] >> 150K CAN TRAVEL OUT THE COUNTRY AT least once or twice a year. Um, and he could buy his own ticket. If I know I, I know you travel well. Can, can he have a shot if he's a good man, tall? Did you say anything about it? Yeah, um, I'm not sure if that might be sexual. That might be a really good time that we can have, but I'm talking like long-term. If it's long-term, that might not work unless you are looking to like bump up a couple of, you know, three or so to 100,000 a year. But for short-term, because we ALL NEED MAINTENANCE. AND so for short-term, we can kick it, but you might have to be on the younger part of my my bracket. On the women's side, I hear I can get men. I've been around high-level men. Men spend money on me. But if you had to ask yourself a real question, what are you actually getting from those men? Because there's a difference between a man being attracted to you, a man spending money on you, and a man actually choosing you. A lot of times too, you'll meet a guy and he doesn't live here. He's like, "Oh, I'm visiting from New York. I'm visiting from DC." La la la la la. Oh, I'll never see you again 'cause I'm just trying to be here and turn up. That happens a lot. So yeah, I still haven't figured out the whole dating in Miami thing. Some women recommend going to a nice upscale gym. Some women say that they date and go to a horse like a nice hotel or nice bars, nice lobbies. There's definitely money here, not going to lie. There's definitely men with yachts and boats and live lavish lifestyle, penthouse suites. Like living in the Gables, living in like the money is here. But you're going to have to figure out how to infiltrate it and how to assess it and to make sure, is this a real dollar? Like, is it real or not? So as I said, as I, if you are Hispanic or white or something like that, it's a lot easier to meet a man who will probably spoil you, take care of you, and do that whole thing. >> [music] [music] [music] >> So you see, she's already setting the table. She's putting parameters on her dating experience in Miami. You're looking for a man of substance and you want him to be paying? Y'all need to come and tell me where to go 'cause it's, it again, it has not been easy. I have multiple beautiful black women friends who are single, who are having a hard time meeting people, and they're beautiful, they're hard working, they're intelligent, all the things. In another city, it's easier. Miami, Chicago, New York, San Francisco, LA, Houston, Dallas, whatever big city is out there, there's always a woman on social media saying the dating market is trash in that particular area. So you can take this with a grain of salt. All right? So she's saying that she's in these, you know, pools. She's able to move and shake, but she's not getting the outcomes that she wants. She said, you know, Miami has a high access environment, so she's around that. The money is visible. She knows where the guys are. The lifestyle is visible. Opportunity is everywhere. Men are temporary visitors, some are, not rooted there, not looking for long-term. So that's what she's experiencing. She's saying the money is there, wealth is everywhere, yachts, boats, penthouses, etc. Her view on dating dynamics is this: Hispanic or white women have an easier time attracting and being spoiled by men in Miami. Black women may have a harder time in this environment. Let me give credit where credit is due. This conversation is definitely inspired by Patrice O'Neal, who actually introduced the idea of a broader 1 to 30 scale. And also Kevin Samuels, who brought the 1 to 10 rating system, you know, you can't use seven, into mainstream dating conversation. Access, are you even in the room? Attraction, are you competitive in that room? And outcome, what are you actually getting? Everyone has a level in every dating market, dating business, uh fitness, social. Your results are shaped by who you attract, who commits to you, the level of people you consistently deal with. The market doesn't respond to potential. Guys know that very well. Okay? And the reason why I say the market doesn't respond to potential is using that example of that woman that said that I got in two car accidents, but I am working out. Okay, Tyra. I see. Okay, you're more top heavy, Tyra. Okay, they definitely coming your way, Tyra. This kind of, this kind of, yeah, I'm sure the guys are definitely coming your way, Miss Tyra. Are we working on our weight? What you say? Are we working on our weight? I am. That is something I'm getting back into. I was in a car accident. Okay. So I, I couldn't really do it and then I got into, I got hit again in another car accident. So I'm kind of trying to let my body heal, but just more so getting back to watching what I'm eating and then doing some slight workouts, so. Okay. I'm sorry to hear that, dear. Thank you. Yeah, I'm here though, so I'm blessed. She wants to sell it to guys, I'm potentially going to get in shape. The two forces that determine your results. For ladies, it's access, again, where you compete determines what level of men you have access to versus attraction, whether you get chosen. Determines whether men choose you over other options. And the factors of access include where you live, your social circle, your access to to events and environments, your lifestyle and environment, proximity to high earning men. Again, this is a catch-all for all these soft life and level up conversations. And then attraction is it determines the factors are looks, age, yes, age, shape {slash} physical fitness, presentation style, are you hanging out out there? And your personality and vibe. Most of this stuff men can pick up on your social media footprint, very easy. Both matter in different ways. Lower tiers, access is a challenge because you don't live there. Make sense? Higher tiers, 21 to 30, attraction is the competition, okay? The goal is is not just to get access, it's to be the best option in the room. You need both to win in the dating market. She's in the room. High-level environment, high-earning circles, real access. But watch closely. No approaches, no real interest, no follow-up. Because access doesn't guarantee attention and attention doesn't guarantee selection. Same room, same level of access. But now, watch the difference. Approaches, engagement, interest. Because once you're in the room, attraction determines who gets chosen. Are you getting chosen or what? Based on uh, be honest, based on your actual results. And like I said, this is questions that women can ask themselves. Which one applies to you most often? And this is for the single ladies, okay? A, men pursue me for serious relationships. B, men pursue me mostly for casual sex. C, men invest in me, but it's transactional {slash} situational. And then D, I get no attention, but no consistent commitment. And then E, I struggle to attract men at all. So that D and E, those tend to be, I think, the women that have male hatred spaces, the ones that don't get the outcomes that they want. So that turns into male hate. And if you're decentering men, I'm going to say the quiet part out loud. It's not by choice. If you're decentering men, I'm going to say for most women, it's not by choice. Women can ask themselves this question. Because men will determine based off of how you present. And this should hopefully make you make some changes if you want to get some better outcomes. One, casual {slash} sexual access. This is the low barrier for women. No real investment, no consistency, no long-term intent. Wide range of women qualify. A lot of women qualify for sex only. He desires you, but doesn't value you long-term. And if this sounds familiar, put a pin in this. Transactional {slash} situational involvement, middle tier. You get gifts, you get trips, experiences, but it's inconsistent commitment. Value exchange implicit or implied. Benefits come with conditions, i.e. I give you this if you give me that, and that tends to boil down to sex and you get a bag, okay? And then he invests in you, but on his terms. There is no commitment. Now, committed relationship, high standard, consistency, exclusivity, long-term intent. He removes other options for you. He, he chooses you over other options. Now, when we first started this live stream, who did we discuss? Meg the Stallion and Klay Thompson. Klay sold commitment and monogamy to Meg, but he didn't give her that because he was dishonest probably in the beginning and I'm just assuming here based off of what she said. Now you don't think that you can be monogamous. So Meg thought that she had a commitment, committed relationship, but she fell into the one and two category with Klay Thompson because he didn't tell her. Make sense? So yeah, so that's how I sometimes I tell dudes, don't be dishonest. If you got it like that, then you should have enough nuts to tell this woman, "Yo, I can't be committed to one woman, but I like you." And you, you let her decide if she wants to move forward or not. Trust me guys, if you make as much money as Klay Thompson, there's always a woman who will. But he was probably attracted to Meg as a lot of guys are and he got what he wanted and he sold monogamy, but he couldn't live up to it. It is what it is. It happens. Your tier is determined by where you consistently operate, not where you visit occasionally. Soft life ladies, pay attention. 1 through 10 is limited access. So most you, you hang around in mostly average environments, limited exposure to high earning men, dating pool is local {slash} familiar. The reality, competing within your immediate surroundings. I tell women that all the time, okay? Rare interaction with elite circles. It's that simple. You're not in these spaces, you don't live there. So 11 through 20 would be uh occasional exposure to high-level environments. Somebody invites you, events, work, inconsistent proximity to high earners. The reality, you can enter the room, but you don't live there. It's that simple. 21 to 30, elite access. Description, consistent presence in high-income environments, regular proximity to high earning men, lifestyle aligns with that level. The reality, you don't chase access, access is your normal environment. Teedra Moses, she's 50 years old, she's an entertainer. She's been singing and she's been in the entertainment space for I'm pretty sure over 30 years now. >> [music] >> We, I can't wait to [clears throat] do the Kendra cam 'cause we got to see this whole outfit. YOU LOOK >> [laughter] >> TEEDRA MOSES, MIAMI, 50 YEARS OLD. SHE'S A SINGER-SONGWRITER, SAGITTARIUS, mom of twin boys. Have you ever been married? No. Never married. Okay, so what kind of man you looking for, Miss Teedra Moses? >> Um, a grown man. Young men love me and I love y'all too, but I have 30-year-old sons, so I can't have a 38-year-old man. I can't have a 35-year-old man. That's a little creepy to me, to me, but I'm not knocking anybody that does it. It just won't work for me. I want a grown man somewhere like 45, 58, that little range right there. I'll take 60, but work out. I don't like the dad health. So somewhere between 45 and 60. Yeah. Could he make, is $400k good enough or is that too low? We about, okay, we, we neck and neck and you know, somewhere around there. So that's okay. Okay, so, so 150 we can't, we can't do that. No. Okay. All right, so for around a 400, okay, I don't, 400 is the bottom of the list. 'Cause I also invest in a very nice lifestyle for myself. Kendra, this was her Nicki Minaj moment. You remember when Kevin Samuels went on Nicki Minaj page and everybody was like, "Oh man, you wasn't as tough on Nicki as you was with the other ladies." It's because he was kind of playing the game. Kendra was playing the game with Teedra Moses, okay? So she was like not giving her, you know, significant pushback because when she said $400,000, Kendra tried to explain, but she did it kind of softly because Teedra doesn't understand what what's going on in the dating market. She looks good, right guys? She looks good for her age. This is a 50-year-old woman, she's still got a nice shape, you know what I'm saying? Thick in the right places. Nice pretty face, goodness, okay, 50, 50 years old. There you go, guys. So she is in the elite access group. She's been around those high earning men, but she wants 400k earners. So one, so one thing that you would probably have to ask yourself is, "Well, you have actually a leg up on the competition because you've been around these men damn near all your adult life. So what happened? Why aren't you able to lock down one of these high earning men?" That's the, the most obvious question that you would ask, right? But on social media, women cannot make it seem like they're losing. And this is uh, some insight from the offers that she gets. This guy said, "I'd like to apply for this short-term position." And she laughed at it. So she liked that comment because again, on the interview, Kendra asked her, "Would you date a man who is either younger or makes less money than you?" And she responded by saying, "I would, but that would just be for fun." Yeah, um, I'm not sure if that might be sexual. That might not be, um, I'm just being honest. That might be a really good time that we can have, but I'm talking like long-term. If it's long-term, that might not work unless you are looking to like bump up a couple of, you know, 300,000 so that 100,000, yeah. But for short-term, because we all need maintenance. And so for short-term, we can kick it with that 150,000. We can kick it with that 150,000. But you might have to be on the younger part of my my brackets to make sure that ED ain't you was talking about, you know, affecting this fun we we trying to have. Dating, i.e. sex, the young men need all the practice so they can practice on these older women. Older women think they women when winning when they say that. It's cool. Get your rocks off, these young dudes don't mind sneaking in. So that guy said, "I'm open to the short-term position." There it is. This woman, I don't know if she's being truthful or not, but she said she's Teedra Moses. Her ask is very reasonable. Now this guy, he said, "If it was, you think she'd be in this podcast? Let's be reasonable here." Which is fair. Now Teedra Moses responded. She said, "I have men that make far more money than that begging for my time. I'm just not interested in their personalities. My world is not your world, baby. I'm promoting a song. LOL." So you, I don't know if y'all noticed, but you see what she just did there? She is attempting to win at both ends. Let's go back to her comment. "I have men that make far more money than that begging for my time. I'm just not interested in their personalities. My world is not your world, baby. I'm promoting a song." Okay? So again, we've talked about this before. Women cannot lose on social media. So they have to attempt to win at both ends. It means no matter what angle you approach, approach her situation from, the outcome is already framed as a win because women are watching. On one end, when the question is, "Can you actually get the type of men that you're asking for?" The response from her is, "Yes, I get those men all the time. I just don't like their personalities." So what does that do? It establishes access, options, and selectiveness all on her end. Now in that moment, the narrative is, "I'm not losing, I'm choosing." Make sense? But when that gets challenged or when the situation starts to reflect actual outcomes, now we shift to the other end. Now it becomes, "This doesn't even matter, I'm just promoting my music." So you see how she just won at both ends? She's like, "Look, I'm just here because I got a a single out and I'm just, you know, playing. It's just jokes. I'm not really up here trying to look for a man because all of those men are already vying for my attention." So now the entire situation is reframed as it's not serious, not reflective of her reality, and not something that men should evaluate. And again, this is where the strategy comes in because what she did there is she removed the ability to clearly define her outcomes. So now if everyone believes her, then she's winning. But if she's challenged, it doesn't even count because I'm just promoting music. Make sense? >> [laughter] >> And that's what I mean by winning at both ends. Of course he's up here trying to find a single guy that makes $400,000, but on social media, women can't lose. Women like her, they, they don't want to lose, all right? So, you know what I'm saying? She, she won't ask herself, "What are her consistent results?" because we're now stuck at, you know, what she's saying in the moment, if that makes sense. And this is why I like to separate access from outcomes, because Teedra is in those spaces. Do you think that a 1 to 10 woman would probably have a leg up if they were in those spaces consistently? Probably yeah, if she looked good, but they're not able to get in those spaces, but she is. That's why she's in that 21 to 30 range, but she also has to understand that she's competing with all of the other high-earning, younger, more attractive women that are in that pool. Do you guys know who this is? So, she's in the same spaces as uh Teedra Moses. She's younger, she doesn't have kids. This is Madison Cawthorn. >> [music] >> She's a concert harpist. She was classically trained. Women don't like to admit that they can, they have to compete, but yeah, you got to compete, okay? So, she's competing with women, you know, like that. Same thing with Kendra G. Kendra G in those same rooms, right? Kendra G probably will, Kendra G makes it clear that it just tends to happen that the only men that I attract make a lot of money, so she doesn't have to put a dollar amount on it. And that keeps her safe from women judging her ask, like they did Teedra Moses. So, if Kendra was to come up there, my man needs to make $500,000 or more, people would laugh at her, but Kendra G, she found the loophole by saying, well, all the men that I date, they tend to make a lot of money. So, I don't even have to ask for that. They just come to me with duckets in their pockets. Make sense? So, yeah. So, y'all got, you got to compete. It is what it is. And again, this is self-rating, all right? So, the attraction phase, you're in the room with Teedra Moses is. Now, the question is, where do you rank? Access gets you in the room, your rank determines if you get chosen. So, this is what men evaluate, and this is statistically proven. Men evaluate a woman's looks, facial attractiveness, symmetry and features, overall appeal. This is the reality. This is the first filter. You either pass or you don't, and then they look at your age. Youth is definitely an advantage. Prime window is real, value declines over time. It is what it is, okay? Every year matters. Men notice, the market does, too, okay? Shape, body composition, fitness level, health and energy, how you carry yourself. High-value men expect you to maintain a certain standard. Damn near all men require you to, um, to, to maintain a certain standard. And then your style and presentation, dress sense, grooming, feminine, feminine energy, how you present yourself. How you present can a value can elevate your looks or destroy them. I cannot stress that enough to the young women, okay? When y'all come on these damn shows, these dating shows, pop the balloon, your social media footprint, if you are half naked, you hanging out, and you like, hey, I'mma dress however I want because I can do whatever I want. You absolutely can, but I promise you, men are watching. The men that you want are watching, and they determine what's, what category they're going to put you in. If you have naked on social media, you really think you'll get a man that's bringing you flowers and [ __ ] trying to court you like that, when you twerking and working? No. So, you got to fix that if you want a different caliber of man. If not, then back to the streets you go. It's that simple. Get tired of playing this damn game like y'all think that it ain't going to be no repercussions to what you do on social media, okay? It is what it is, goddammit. And then your personality vibe, confidence, attitude, conversational skills, emotional energy. Great personality can elevate you, poor personality will definitely cancel you out. This, and I'm pretty sure the young single men can attest to this. Every time we used to do the pop the balloon reviews, I'd be like, oh, it's an attractive woman, she's sweet, and then next thing you know, she get to talking, and it's like, oh, goddammit. Y'all was in the chat like, hold on, Media man. Just wait a little bit. Just let her, just let her talk a little bit, let's see what she got going on. Next thing you know, I'm like, oh, goddammit. God, goddammit. >> [laughter] >> But this is the most common one. Social media, you, you women are their own movie star. So, they can do these dating reviews, talk crazy about men, and then get on here and complain about men not showing up to dating events, the men that I want won't approach me, because your personality and your attitude is off. You canceled yourself out. You act like men can't see you on social media. You go on Kendra G show with a bonnet on. What's wrong with you? >> [laughter] >> What you doing? God dog. All women are not equal. You are all not 10s. All right? Even in the same tier, you are competing against other women. Higher rank equals higher outcomes. The higher you rank, the better the men, the better the results, okay? Men and then also women need to understand this. Men have options at every level. If you don't rank high enough, he will keep looking. I.E. Meg and Clay. It's that simple. Clay found Meg attractive, I'm pretty sure, okay? But he didn't value her enough to be monogamous to her. And that could be either taken as a, as disrespect or it could be taken as a learning, teachable moment. As, you know, as attractive as Meg is, nice, you know, nice physique, in shape, she in the gym, but Meg naked out here, you know? Meg naked out here, Meg making music, wap, every song is about how good her vagina is. It's going to be, it's going to take, it's going to have to take a strong man to walk Meg down the aisle. Even though she can cook, you know what I'm saying? She, you know, successful, she's still young, no kids, but she naked out here. That all boils down, I'm sorry, man. It's very tough. Hopefully I was able to explain it best possible, you know what I'm saying? I think this is good for the ladies, and like I said, this is a self-evaluation tool, because when you get to the, the tiers, you as a woman, you know, if you're a woman, you can put yourself in the, what tier you actually belong to, right? You don't need men to put you in this. If you know that, you know, you hang around in mostly average environments, then you don't have to lie to yourself and be like, yeah, I'm in the 21 to 30 category. No. Okay? Yeah, it's as simple. >> [music] [music] [music]