The Manufactured Cancer: How the Contempt for Black Men Became Socially Normal 📱

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So anyway, but just to start it off before we delve into anything else, y'all know I like to have a segment that I refer to as the sacred black masculine on my show. And there's a reason for that, right? And I I do it organically. I do it as it kind of um crosses uh my um you know, my desk, right? But this one has to do with ODB, old dirty bastard, the Wuang Clan himself, right? who once lifted a car with his bare hands to save a four-year-old girl visitor visited her in the hospital using a fake name. I wanted to shout him out, not just because he did it, but as a reflection of how many black men make sacrifices to support others and really don't get acknowledged and usually aren't even seeking it, right? But the uh this was posted on Facebook the other day um by Hip Hop Life. It says, "OB was on his way to his studio in Brooklyn where he saw a car accident happen right in front of him. Four-year-old girl named Mahati." I may have gotten that wrong. Had been hit by a Ford Mustang was trapped underneath. Her mother was screaming in the street. "Where's my daughter? Where's my daughter?" OB stopped his car, jumped out, and organized everyone around him. He and about a dozen people lifted the car off the ground, pulled my auntie out from under it. She had first and second degree burns on her leg from the engine. He told Howard Stern what happened. He said, "I I just stopped my car in the middle of the street, ran towards her. It was like a spontaneous reaction." He visited her in the hospital multiple times under a fake name. He never told the family who he was. They recognized him anyway and called the media." After that, he kept calling to check on them for years. He kept checking on us. He didn't just leave it like that. My mother, M. Maxine, said, "I told him anything anytime you need to talk, call me." So, he would call me and tell me things that were in his head. I guess if you tell ODB to call, he'll do that. Uh the same man who crashed the Grammys that same month, both things were true. Well, shout out to ODB and again to all black men who have engaged in this type of behavior, no matter how extreme or minute the situation and much of the time uh remain unsung heroes. So, shout out to the good brother. Um, you know, in regard to the sacred black masculine, right? I hadn't heard that story, but apparently I looked it up and uh yeah, apparently it had happened. So, shout out to the brother.

So, y'all can see that the subject of today's show, the manufactured cancer, how the contempt for black men became socially normal. I'm going to show you a series of different kinds of contempt, different types of uh frustration, violence, anger, rage that men are experiencing. And um just to kick this off. So here we go. Now check this out. Love. One thing about a lot of women is by a lot of women tend to not get anger and how you feel about that person. One thing I will say is a drunk person, a child and an angry person usually tell how they feel. A woman can't tell she's a wife. She can't hold back her mouth upset. Can't control his hands when he gets upset. It's the same, >> you know. And that's what people don't understand. Get mad. So when I got you, >> long as I'm on your good grace, you're white material. But when I'm not in good with you, that's when you truly show who you are. >> All right. Somebody said the audio was coming in and out. Could you guys hear that or no? Somebody let me know. It says volume was kind of low. Yeah, I tell you this stuff is always an adventure, man. Um, let me check the settings. Everything on this end looks like it's going the way it's supposed to. Says very low. No. Okay. Oh man, that is indeed frustrating. Okay, let me see if I can do it another way. This is going to be a little difficult. got to do it this way. But sometimes this is what happens with content creation. >> Okay, hold on. Let me see if I can get this done right here. Oh man, tell you man, when you get everything set up, there's always some unexpected crap. All right, let's try this again in a different way and let's find out if at all this is something you guys can hear. Um, so let me see something. So languages. >> Come on. Crap. >> All right. Tell me, could you guys hear that at all? No. Well, I guess you you can't cuz it's not even on the screen. And it's blacking out again. Man, this is one of those days, I guess, where it's just a lot of just unnecessary crap. Everything seems to be working one minute, it goes south the next minute. What the hell is going on? He said, y'all said it's still low. [ __ ] Well, let me see. Uh, weird part is I don't know. Everything is the settings look right. Not sure what's going on with it. Although, now the screen is blacking out. So, let's try it another way. All right. So, my apologies, but I don't quite know why it's acting this way, but we're going to try it another way. Says the sound should be on. Um, all right, let's see. All right, let's see now. Okay, that sounded low to me, but I'm trying to see if you guys can There we go. So, let's try turning this up. Tell me if this is better. >> And the one that we have to acknowledge is why. >> Okay. So, let me know if that was better. Somebody give me a one if that was better and it was clear. Give me a zero if it wasn't. Uhuh. All right. We got some ones in. I only got one, though. So, there we go. A few people coming in. All right. All right. So, let's check it out. >> Love language is words. The one thing about a lot of women and the one that we have to acknowledge is why a lot of women tend to not get and I'm just being fair is because in anger you truly show who you truly feel and how you feel about that person. The one thing I will say is in a drunk person, a child and an angry person usually tell how they genuinely feel. So, a woman can't tell me that she's a white material. She can't hold back her mouth and upset. It's the same way a man said he's a husband material can't control his hands when he gets upset. It's the same thing, >> you know, and that's what I'm saying. I'm like, so get mad, the wife goes out. So when I'm when I got you, >> long as I'm pouring your good grace, you're right. But when I'm not in good grace with you, that's when you truly show. >> All right. So I played that one because we're right now we're looking at different types of contempt, different types of hatred. what he's talking about is this kind of uncontrollable disrespect that often is communicated verbally and I thought it important because in many ways it encompasses what a lot of men experience. I don't know what's going on with the sound. I do apologize for that but um let me see. All right, somebody said that this is causing a problem. So let's try it without it. All right, so that was the first one. We're going to go through a few of these.

Now, this let me see this one here. I'm going to have to read for you. Yeah. So, it is as you see it, right? Man attacked by his ex-wife as he slept dowsted in sulfuric acid and left to die in agony. You can find this one on the BBC.com. This is dated initially February 18th, 2026, but there's a number of articles coming out now. They're just behind a payw wall uh covering I guess what's an update to the story. But it says the ex-wife of a drug dealer killed by an acid attack told police through uh threats um about threats to her by a gang boss. Right. Paris Wilson was arrested in March after the attack with sulfuric acid on her ex-husband Danny Callahane, 38, um at his home on Lipson Road, Plymouth on February 21st 1st. Uh Win Winchester Crown Court heard Wilson told police interview in an interview she had been in contact with drug boss Ryan Kennedy known as Frost before the attack. Kennedy who police believe is in Dubai had made threats over £120,000 debt owed by Callahane. Now Kalaine I guess or Kahala Lane I don't know what that is. Kahalain right? So, you know, a number of different kinds of contempt, different kinds of violence. We're just going to cycle through a few of them just so we can kind of see what the situation is.

Now, hold on. Since I got to do this a different way, hold on. Let me open it up with different uh uh oh, okay, let's open it up with a different media source since I can't do it that way. Let's try it another way. I was trying to cut down on time consuming stuff, but this is harder. All right, here's another one. Uh sent to me by Rodney. Check this out. It's an example. So, it's a it's a very clo a short clip, but if you could see it, this woman is going into this young black male's hospital room and apparently um throwing something on him in the midst of all of that. Right. just different types of examples. Um, let me see if there's any additional information with this. Okay. Says his girlfriend set him up, then pulled up to the hospital to betray him one more time. Right. So, he's unconscious. He's in a hospital bed. That's how he's treated. Let's see. Hold on. Then of course this one hit the news um I want to say what yesterday, the other day. You guys are familiar with this young lady, right? Come on. Ah crap. I don't want to get hit with a copyright for the music, but this is the young lady that apparently uh you know accused uh Stefon Diggs of assault, number of other things. She tried to extort 5 a.5 million from him. And this is her after the fact. Of course, now she's also trying to spark drama with Cardi B to uh further attack him while she's releasing these kinds of videos. And again, we're looking at examples of contempt, right? This is what we're looking at. Okay. Somebody said Jordan Graham case. Okay. Hm. Right. It is trifling and desperate and there were no repercussions of significance as far as I could tell for what she did. You know, just ruining people's reputation because she can without much uh without any uh consequences.

All right, we're going to look at another example. Different kind of contempt. Let's check it out. >> It's a woman who was punished after being violated. A woman whose pain made people fear her. A woman turned dangerous because nobody protected her. I hate for you to have to go through this. And not only am I bitter and not only am I pressed, I am frustrated. I am tired. I am angry. Um, I'm now in my Medusa moment. I am enraged and I can't seem to contain it. It comes out everywhere since a woman who was punished after being violated. A woman whose name made people fear her. A woman turned dangerous because nobody protected her. >> Yeah. I feel like Medusa. I feel like society is telling me that I should just take it because because I'm a woman and he's a man, which leads to, you know, all the conversations that I have when I talk about, you know, I'm not going to submit to a man and people have problem with that and people tell me, oh, you know, that you're never going to have a man. Okay, who's to say that that's what I want? if having a man that I was married to and that I got divorced from could cause this level of frustration, rage, pain, anger. Um, then I don't want it, that you can keep it. No, thank you very much. >> All right. Now, the the thing about this when this was posted on Facebook, the caption also read uh it was talking about this hive mind uh between many women. And so here you have a a kind of a hatred that we can see that's been sparked even from women who haven't experienced these things, right? So hearing about it and then going out of, you know, operating out of rage toward men as a category because of what you heard about what happened to somebody else, right?

Let's see. Let's check this one out. Now, this one's a little different. This isn't a woman um who's talking about her own hatred. This is a woman who has an observation that I think is useful for us. >> I did not realize how black women did my husband was raised by a single mom and this is what I learned. And then I did another video black men in therapy and the comments from black women. Wow. Color me surprised. I kept receiving comments full of skepticism from men saying, "Are you really trying to give us grace? Are you really trying to understand us?" And when I saw the women comment, I went, "Oh, wow. Now it's starting to click." And it it saddened me, but I now understand. And a lot of them brought up generalizations about black men creating broken homes and leaving more baby mamas and babies out there. But I feel like millennials and Gen Z are swinging the pendulum the other way from exers and boomers because they're trying to be in their their children's lives. They're not trying to have these broken homes. They're trying to make their partners. So now I understand comments like this, but I'm a big advocate for all men. Okay, so somebody said there's more sound issues. I really don't know what it is. Uh, every setting I have on this side is okay, and the only thing I could do is to reboot everything, but obviously we're mid show, so I do apologize. Um, but this is a woman talking about how she was surprised to observe how much misandry was directed toward men. And I think she's really talking about black men on top of that. But she's kind of, you know, here you have a and there are a few others that I've run across that are finding themselves a bit surprised at just how much Missandry is is is become common place, which is the crux of what we're talking about today. Right now, I'm not going to read through all of them. I am going to read through about three of them, though, or I mean, one of them, but I'm going to show you three. This is um dealing with this hatred, right, that's been going on. Um where' it go? There it is.

Now, this is uh a BBC article about this kind of hatred. We've been seeing reports about increasing amounts of female angriness. One one source called it a female angriness epidemic. Um, see if you guys can see it here. I'll come back to that. But this is what we're seeing, right? Young women are facing a female angriness epidemic per study. They're the most unhappy and and pessimistic group and view the world negatively, blaming men for their unhappiness. Now, this is interesting to me because I was told that the biggest threat right now were men in the manosphere, right? Angry young men in the manosphere. And apparently, this has been, you know, already the source of numerous movies and documentaries where they're talking about just how much of a threat that men are. And yet, despite this, you've had this angryness epidemic that's been presented to us as something new, but really isn't. Right? So, this is this this BBC article is dated 2022. Are women getting angrier? Right? BBC.com uh says, "An annual poll by Gallup suggests that women on average worldwide have been getting angrier over the past 10 years. Why might this be?" And then they give some examples of an individual person. Says, "According to the BBC analysis of 10 years of data from the Gallup World Poll, women are getting angrier. Every year, the poll surveys more than 120,000 people in more than 150 countries asking, among other things, what emotions they felt for a lot of the previous day. When it comes to negative feelings, in particular, anger, sadness, stress, and worry, women consistently report feeling these more frequently than men. The BBC's analysis has found that since 2012, more women than men report feeling sadness and worry, though both genders have been steadily trending upwards. When it comes to anger and stress, however, the gap with men is widening. In 2012, both genders reported anger and stress at similar levels. 9 years later, women are angrier by a margin of six percentage points and more stressed, too. And there are particular divergence around the time of the pandemic. Of course, that exacerbated a lot of this, right? the pandemic itself, but we're seeing it happening more and more nonetheless. So, this article, like I said, was 2022. Uh, and it did not end there. Let me see. Let's see if there's an update by the Guardian. Where'd it go? There it is. Right. Right. So, you have the Guardian. All the rage, women are furious and repressing it can ruin our lives. U looking like a justification for it. This is dated 2024 July, right from the Guardian, and it's covering some of the same stuff. Like I said, I'm not going to go through these first two in depth, but I will read through the last one at the very least. Um but uh you know they're calling it an age of rage and this is referring to at least early on this book um uh where to go damn it from Dr. Jennifer Cox, right? Um, Cambridge educated Tavistock Clinic trained psychotherapist. She co-host with writer and actor Selma Saxton the podcast Women Are Mad and is just about to publish her book Women Are Angry: Why Your Rage is Hiding and How to Let It Out. See, the interesting thing that I can point out just on the surface of this is how, you know, how much women's anger, especially in terms of of mainstream media, is being received. It's being supported. It's being justified. It's being, you know, they're they're advocating for her book. There's, you know, but when it comes to men's frustrations and angers, it needs to be stamped out. You need to get rid of it. And of course the whole discussion gets kind of uh whittleled down to Andrew Tate and uh you know one or two other you know content creators but there are hundreds if not thousands of content creators that have all kinds of different approaches that aren't being discussed. And that's clearly because the mainstream is not interested in uh humanizing what men's frustrations are. But they are interested in humanizing women's. Right? So they justify all of this rage. They provide a provide a a platform to discuss it, right? They even go into depth about her book. Cox's book is a feminist take on anger inducing life experiences from unresolved feelings about miscarriage and loss uh to the sometimes madding business of looking after toddlers, feeling undermined at work, partners failing to pull their weight at home, sexual harassment and violence. In other words, it's, you know, a subtle attack on men, right? This is a misandress attack. But this is the issue. It's not just that it exists. It it's that it's supported by the mainstream, right? So you you got this feminist launch, right? Where they get support for their anger, right? But again, when it comes to men, it's all about Andrew Tate. As if Andrew Tate encapsulates all men's frustrations, right? But he's easily dismissable because in his extreme um at least what's regarded as extreme especially the choice clips that they use uh to kind of catch him um he's easy to dismiss and it's easy to associate all men with him without having to actually hear what men are saying. Right?

Let's see here. Let me adjust my screen a little bit. Uh, all right. So, this is the the last article that we'll go through. This is dated April 15, 2026. Right. Only a third of young women hold positive views of men. New poll finds. Findings show women under 30 are three times as likely to hold a negative view of men compared to the other way around. All right. Uh, just 35% of British women under the age of 25 hold a positive view of men. According to the new poll, the findings show only 11% of young women hold a very high positive view, while women under 30 are three times as likely to hold a negative view of men compared to the over30s. Right? Now, the subtext to all of this, of course, is that men are the reason. Men are the problem. Men make women's lives uh horrible. Even though when you look at the, you know, the the accomplishments of feminism, especially in regard to policy, uh, women are on paper doing better than they ever have. And yet the unhappiness levels, um, you know, the frustration, the anger is increasing. And of course, men get the blame for that while we ignore men's frustrations. Uh, it continues, "According to the poll carried out by the Merlin strategy for the New Statesmen, young women don't care for young men, believing the feelings are mutual, and citing an overfocus on sexual motivation and a lack of care about political issues, with women aged between 18 and 30 found to be the most progressive demographic in the UK by far. Research found that young women are 26 percentage points less likely to feel positively about capitalism compared to young men. And we've seen this political divergence between men and women and it's happening in the black community as well. Um you know uh especially politically along political lines you have women moving further left, men moving further right. Uh contrary to popular uh stereotype that does not necessarily mean that all men are moving toward being Republicans and all women moving toward being extreme uh progressive Democrats. It just means that some men are breaking from this expectation that we vote one way to appease uh this progressive idea. Some are voting for the couch, some are voting third party, some are not voting at all, some are voting for Trump. There's all kinds of variations amongst black men. But it didn't really matter cuz even when black men voted the way they were told to vote, there was no particular appreciation or acknowledgement. If anything, the first response for many black women was that black women were the reason that Kla Harris didn't win or black men were the reason. That was the blame early on. And then when they found that to not be the case, nobody apologized. Nobody really acknowledged it. They just moved on, right? You know, that's kind of where it's gone. So these are some of the issues that I think men are struggling to grapple with and it's coming out in very distinct ways that the media doesn't want to cover. Right? And in particular, what we're seeing men do is withdraw on a variety of levels. Right? But I'll finish this before we go back to that. Um let's see. All right. They were also found to be much less likely to believe the economy works in their favor and far more pessimistic about their own and others futures. Even though young men are more likely to be unemployed, it is young women who are 21 points less likely likely to believe they will earn more than their parents. Right? So you have a difference between perception and experience. Right? Men are the ones and this is true in the black community as well. Men are the ones that actually grapple with unemployment to a greater degree. But here you have women who are frustrated um about a situation they're not necessarily living. Many of them are actually employed. Although we know that's changing in the last year where no numerous women have found themselves unemployed, but only outside of a couple of moments in the last couple years, black men's unemployment pretty much supersedes everybody else's. And it's so common that that be the case that people will talk about black women's unemployment and read over the data on how black men's is worse and keep moving. Right. So we still see the same kind of thing breaking down. We still get blamed. Exactly. Quiz. Uh okay. Feel like my system is moving sluggishly. I don't know what's going on here. Anyway, all right. Um, it says, "And more privileged women were found to be the most pessimistic of all with women in in the middle class professions less likely to believe they are valued by society or that they will succeed in life when they work hard than their working-class counterparts. Under 25s were also found to be twice as likely to not want children as young men and said they feared the prospect of being pressured into having babies, right, by a reformed UK government." So, this one is very UKbased, of course. When asked how she felt about the boys she knew, a girl called Ruby told the New Statesman, "I don't care for them. They're not bad people, but they refuse to call out their friends who make other girls uncomfortable." This is where you get into that zone of feelings, right? Where you're going to be held accountable because someone feels a certain way, not about you and not about what you said, but by what someone else said and the degree to which you didn't go confront them. Sound like that makes sense. They'll laugh at jokes that are sexist, racist, homophobic. They don't care about political issues. I don't think they like women a lot. I feel like a lot of it is quite sexually motivated with men. They said men would only discuss subjects such as toxic uh misogyny if they fancied her. Well, why would they want to? We've been inundated with this notion of toxic masculinity, misogyny. We've been inundated with it. boys in particular, they've been told they were toxic from birth. Black boys are not only told they're toxic, they we they've been hearing that they ain't [ __ ] in their own community decades before toxicity from uh males became the trend, right? So, there are many that are getting a double dose of this. And of course, they're checking out. They're told that they're monsters. They're told that they're unreliable. They're told that they, you know, women can't depend on them. So, it's not surprising when they start to check out, right? in response to this malignant cancer, right? This manufactured cancer of contempt of misandry toward black men, right? I say the group of young women she was with all agreed they would not date a man with different politics with one telling the publication, "I don't think I'd even be friends with one. They don't see you as human." So, because they have different politics, they don't see you as human. That's interesting. That's interesting. So in other words, you know, this is a kind of hostage situation. You have to fall in line politically or the very concept of coupling and family production might be, you know, under threat, right? Unless you espouse her political values, there's no relationship. And this is what I was talking about a couple shows ago when I talked about how women kind of hijacked uh the relationship dynamic, particularly in the West. And this started with the rise of of of second-wave feminism in the late 60s and 70s. What they did was they started to redefine womanhood. They started to question gender roles and suggest that there shouldn't be any for themselves, but that men still needed to pretty much follow the traditional gender roles. And then they offered men a product, a redefined notion of womanhood that men had no, you know, involvement in creating and basically said, "If you don't accept this, you don't get to reproduce." And they figured that they had men cornered and backed against the wall and men would conform because they had another no other choice. They believed this idea that men's desire for sex was so strong that they would conform to anything they were, you know, thrown. And what they're starting to see several generations later is that men have come up with a series of alternatives. Right? What did they say in the Matrix where the machine machines say there are levels of existence we're willing to entertain? And I forget the exact verbiage, but men started to go down this route. You have many boys at 13 years old who are checking out before they even get started, right? Withdrawing from the process altogether, pulling out and refusing to participate because between Me Too, between various policies, you know, there's so many we could talk about and I have talked about on this show going back decades, it's just become not worth it for too many of them. this just become not worth it. Right?

I'll read this last paragraph. Evelyn was the only one to admit having male friends and share her concerns about what content they were consuming online. The stuff that's been being said about women is crazy. Uh they're getting all these reels talking about like bad stuff about women. And I get reels of women saying bad stuff about men. I try to think not all men are like this. But well, the interesting thing about this is it's getting worse in the era of public of social media. And I think one of the things that's changing is that now more than ever, we actually get liveaction examples of women's behavior, not curated by a TV channel or network or a movie industry, not curated by any particular industry. We get to see raw behavior from women. And from there, what we're noticing is that men can actually comment and verify what they've been talking about for years, what our fathers and grandfathers could only mention, but often didn't have evidence for. Now, you get to watch it in live time. I think I watched three uh not related to this show, but this morning I watched three different videos of women attacking police officers uh attacking, you know, men who were in the vicinity, attacking, of course, boyfriends and husbands. It's just been ridiculous. And of course, we haven't even talked about false accusations. We haven't talked about, you know, false paternity. All of these things are happening. But prior to social media, when you try to talk about those things, they could be easily dismissed as they're not happening because we, you know, we're not heard of it. And what do women always say? Oh, I my friend network, I've never heard of that. My girls would never do that. As if that stood in for how women as a whole act. But now with social media, you're able to see those examples live. And young boys to grown men are starting to react to it. They're starting to respond to it because now they have evidence of how they're treated. They have evidence that their experiences are valid and the response from women is they don't like us much while the anger quotient for women goes up. Right. Uh shout out to essential says peace and blessings to the family. Salute the truth 100%. Thank you. Please secure your environment. Stand on truth. Be extremely cautious of liars and all agent provocators. Indeed. Indeed. Right. Uh, shout out to Black Nerd Talks. What's good with you, man? Says, "I used to be told all my negative experiences with women, including family, were the product of my own until recently, thanks to social media." Exactly. When social media starts to expound and and demonstrate what men have been saying, we're starting to see the reaction. But strangely enough, despite that, women's angers anger ratios are going up uh above men's, right? Who dislikes the opposite sex more? Recent report shows women have uh higher dislike of men than men of women. But one of the other dynamics that's not necessarily being pointed out in this discussion is that other than going monk, men have started to look for women raised under different value systems. And it's starting to change the dynamic because you're not men are no longer uh forced to just deal with the women in their environment. And you got to remember too, decades ago, even when I was a kid, your only real options were the girls in your area, especially if you didn't have a car yet, right? But even when you had a car, you you know it, the most you could do is drive to another city, go to a concert, go to an event, try to meet girls there, something of that nature. But for the most part, most people pretty much dated with who was around them. The only way you actually got a chance to meet a different set of women is if you traveled, right? So, this is long before internet dating and whatnot kind of changed the rules and opened things up. But that became a problem unto itself, right? Because women could more easily get attention and response on dating apps than men could. So, what did men do? They started moving outside of the boundaries of the United States. And this is changing the dynamic. It's frustrating women to no end. But especially for black men, it's almost been a revolutionary uh shift because we were told that uh we only had one option and it didn't even matter if she demonstrated respect for you or contempt. Didn't matter. You just had to shut up and take it. And men got tired of that. Black men in particular, right? But this has been happening in in chapters. This has not been a one-way uh kind of shift. Right? I've talked about this and I keep reiterating it because I think it's important. Right? When black men started to shift and go to different places, this happened in chapters over different generations. Whether you're talking about World War I, World War II, you had black men going to other countries and coming back and reporting on the difference on how they were treated. Now, let's be clear, nobody's saying there weren't acts of racism that they experienced in other countries. I mean, Emtt Till's father dealt with that. uh I want to say in Italy he was put to death. So these things happened. Racism took place. I'm not saying that. But you also had many men uh academics and entertainers who came back from other countries talking about how differently they were treated and this was a this was you know profound right. So but so you had the military, you had athletes, you had you know uh celebrities that were traveling. You started to see this with um black Muslims where there was more of an international bent and of course on multiple marriages. There was more emphasis on that than in say Christian practices particularly in the United States and in the black community. So a lot of those men were dating and marrying internationally and it became far more common for them to do so and they started coming back with particular experiences. Right? So you started to kind of see this in chapters. Afrocentrics, black nationalists who started coming back with African wives, things of that nature. And that was you can see that in the 1980s and and whatnot. So we started to see black men doing this in chapters. And it's roughly about 2020 when you started to see this this kind of whole push for uh passport bros, which I think other groups jumped on the bandwagon with, but it was black men that kind of led led that. But this happened over generations. This didn't just happen in 2020. And even though I would say co exacerbated a lot of it, right, in terms of revealing people people's unhappiness, being forced to uh, you know, stay together at home. What I think happened beyond that though is that this was a a developing conversation uh over generations, right? This this has been going on since before boomers, the silent generation participated in this as well. This goes back quite a ways, almost a century, of black men slowly starting to discover that they could be treated like human beings. They could be desired. They could be sought after. They could be competed for and it didn't have to require that they be millionaire runway models with perfect pecs. You know, that's the only problem I have with this idea that that, you know, when women start telling you you got to be this and that in order to be worthy of their attention, I'm like, if you look around the world, everyday men have access to wives that reflect their sexual marketplace value. It's only in the West where I hear this kind of shift as if you're supposed to be some kind of perfect Adonis in order to be to qualify for a woman that works at McDonald's. It doesn't make any goddamn sense. doesn't make any sense. So this is shifting and men are starting to respond in different ways and some are walking away immore style or migttow you know well migt is the the brother's version of that right more particular to our situation but still brothers are starting to create their own options and this is further leading to frustration so when we talk about this contempt that's become normalized a lot of it is rooted in the shift in women's anger but in a black community again, we always have a different bent than what's happening in the mainstream. The contempt for black women has been has I mean it's been growing for generations and it's usually rooted in my humble opinion in black men's inability to emulate what wealthy white land owners and slave owners were able to do. The contempt for black men started early. And BGS talks a lot about this because at the end of the day, we were not um brought together as it were to be a community. And this is something that I've been told in my years of study, in my field of study, that uh black men and women came together and formed a community. We did in some respects, but that was an act. What's up, Jesse? Appreciate you coming through. That was an act of recalcitrance on our part. But at the end of the day, when you look at it, we didn't control bringing in black women in high numbers. For the most part, from early on, even going back until the early 1600s in regard to slavery, we didn't control how many of us came here. We didn't control how many women came here. And and in this brand of slavery, if you will, because every European country had its own bent, its own approach to slavery as it related to North America, the focus, well, really the Western Hemisphere, the focus was on extreme labor to the point of death. So they overemphasized men. Whereas if you look at Arab slavery on on the continent of Africa, they focused a great deal on women. They castrated the men, but they focused a great deal on the women. But European slavery focused on men because it was laborbased. But they didn't start bringing women in significant numbers until the early um 1800s. So it's about 50 60 years before the Civil War that supposedly ended formal child slavery that they started bringing in women in large numbers to breed them. But not necessarily to form a a coherent functional community and not even to breed just with us. White men perfectly had plans uh to breed as well, right? to bolster the number of people they could exploit. So we weren't brought together as a community and of course we were brought at different times from different regions of the African continent and brought together for a very specific economic purpose. We tried to turn that into a community. But the difference between us and other groups is we don't have a longstanding coherent functional history. We have a shared context. That's what black American men and women have. We have

A shared context. But I was talking. I remember a few years ago, I went to a campus event, and there was a, I had never seen her before, and I actually haven't seen her since. I don't remember what her position was. She was like a dean for another college. She's an older Asian woman. She had to be like in her late 60s, and we just happened to be sitting next to each other, and we started talking. And she had on this piece of jewelry, and I said, "That's really cool. What is that?" And she started to break it down. She was explaining it was, it was a family heirloom, and it was a crest for her family. And she started to explain the 400-year history of her particular family line. And she said, the way, the way she was trained in her family, she could tell you about family members and name them going back 400 years. She could take you to the family plot. I forget what her native country was, but she could tell you where her family lived. And they still own the property where her family line had supposedly developed from.

And I just remember, and the reason I'm, I'm blanking on Chinese, Japanese, she was one of the two, but the reason I'm blanking on it is because while she's talking to me, I was realizing that outside of my great-grandmother on my father's side, that's about as far back as I could tell you in regard to family lineage. It's about as far back. My great-grandmother was over a hundred years old when she passed. By the time I met her, she wasn't really coherent. I think it was dementia. But my only point in bringing all of that up is sitting next to somebody that comes out of a culture that is, you know, has a strict cultural continuity element to it that can speak to you at length. Not about her country in the last four centuries, but about her specific family line on top of her country. She could talk about the cities that her family lived in. She could talk about the country itself. And I was in awe sitting there listening to this. And for her, it was just a Tuesday, you know what I mean? She, she, this was something she had grown up here. And so for her, it was nothing. She had no idea how stupefied I was and why. She couldn't imagine not knowing who her family line was beyond one of her great-grandparents. Couldn't fathom it. They had pictures and paintings, she was telling me about. And of course, the family crest. And I can't remember if it was a ring or a necklace, but whatever the crest was on, I was just staring at it. And I started to feel a certain way, and I couldn't articulate it in that moment, but it just amazed me. And for her, she couldn't understand why for me that was unfathomable. That's not.

And so when I talk about, you know, a culturally fused Black community, we don't come from that experience. Now, you can go to different areas, you can go all over the African continent, and you can find ethnic groups that have had that kind of relationship with each other for centuries. African-Americans is very different. And it's even different from other groups in the Western Hemisphere, right? Because at the very least, when you look at the Caribbean, they have their own countries, you know. You look at South America, they're in very large numbers. But in North America, in particular, we never had control over our land space, even when it comes to family homes or the land that the family home sat on. There are over 300 examples of, uh, Rosewoods and Tulsa, Oklahoma, where they burned out and killed people that owned property and never got to see it again, never got to pass it down their bloodlines. So we, we come from a very fractured context, and the relationship with our, with with Black women is a reflection of that. We don't have a shared, uh, lineage in that respect. We do have a lineage. We have a shared context more so than anything. And the contempt that we see, the disregard, the, the, the straight disrespect, in my opinion, not only was initially rooted in Black men's inability to navigate the society as white men did because white men were held to be the standard, it got exacerbated over the years. So whether you want to talk about COINTELPRO, whether you want to talk about hyperincarceration, whether you want to talk about the war on drugs, our context beginning in poverty out of after Reconstruction and not really getting any consistent support. Hell, the degree to which they even started affirmative action and DEI ended up, you know, being relegated to white women and white men, for that matter. And they benefited more for it from it than we did. And Black women benefited more from it than Black men did. So Black men always having to struggle from the bottom, the extent to which we were not able to emulate others and had to get it out the mud, as it were, fostered a lot of the contempt. And we're still seeing it, and it's growing as a cancer does to such a degree that it's getting un, unattendable. It's, it's, it's reaching a point where it's becoming more and more difficult to manage. And so now you have Black men planning alternatives. And this has been going on for a minute, but it's been growing. It's been silent. Hasn't been talked about. Shout out to Dark Power on the Cash App. Appreciate that support. But this is where it's going. And Black men are further being blamed for not accepting the treatment, right? Cuz the idea is we're supposed to accept it because we're supposed to accept it.

I grew up in a cultural environment where disrespect for Black men was considered par for the course. It was just oxygen. It was what we breathe. So much so that when you called it out, everybody in the room would turn and look at you like, "What are you fantasizing about? That's not real." Even though she just told you you wasn't [ __ ] a second ago, whether it was your mother, your auntie, your sister, your girlfriend, your wife, completely oblivious to the contempt and the misandry. That is a day-to-day reality for many Black men. Only thing was, because we didn't have anything to call it, it never rose beyond a feeling in your gut that something was wrong. For most of us, that's how we survived. Ignorance. We knew something was wrong. Now, there were probably a choice few of you that could articulate it better than the others, but I was, I'll be the first to tell you, I was part of the group of men that didn't know how to word it. It was a feeling in my gut that something was wrong. And that's as far as I could take it. Because when everybody around you from birth acts like something is normal, it's hard to see it otherwise. Very hard. And this is the reality many of us have been grappling with for years. So when we finally get a platform to communicate with one another, something that we've never had to the extent we have it now, as much as social media has caused so many problems, there are a couple of good things about it. It has become a social mirror for Black men to see the truth that we've been saying, but others have told us didn't exist when it came to women's behavior. And it also gave Black men a platform to dialogue, which is something we never had. Uh, Black women got a platform, uh, facilitated through, uh, the entertainment industry, right? Where they could operate as groups. They could, they could make films, they could have talk shows all through the '80s and '90s. They had that platform given to them because, um, in the last, from the definitely from the '80s to the '90s, starting in the '70s, especially, you had this notion that, you know, women consumed more television. They consumed more, they purchased more, especially in response to television and and talk shows and now we have reality shows. As long as women had the highest numbers of response, they got the majority of the resources in regard to media. So women, Black women in particular, have been telling the world we were monsters for decades because they got a platform during this era of feminization that served their financial interests and it served the financial interests of the media elites to let them have it. Black men didn't have any such good graces. So it wasn't until social media. This is why there was never an organized response to Black feminism by a large mass of Black men. We never had a platform to even dialogue about what we were experiencing. Closest we got to it was entertainment, hip-hop, comedians, flashes of it here and there. But we didn't get a platform until social media. And when Black men started to actually talk to one another, they found out that the same thing that was happening to you in California was happening to someone in Philadelphia and Texas and Florida and Arkansas. And then you started seeing Black men from other parts of the world that started to comment and say they actually had very similar experiences from Jamaica to Britain to all over Africa to South America, [ __ ] in China writing me talking about similar things. It's amazing to hear. But once men started comparing notes, and shout out to Obsidian, then it was then was considered a gender war. But it wasn't a gender war when it was a one-way attack on men for the last few decades. And growing up in a family full of women and consuming media that is so deeply rooted in misandry, there was no discussion to be had like this film is God is. Right?

So the current moment and the importance of the moment can't be stressed enough, right? Because this is an opportunity for Black men to decide what kind of community they want to be a part of. Be forming communities is a natural human thing, and it's going to happen no matter where we go. We're either going to, if we're too small in number, we're going to bleed into whatever communities we join, or we're going to recreate one. But I think the community that many of us have been talking about, hearing about, reading about for the last number of decades is irrevocably changed. And a lot of it is not because Black men are at fault. It's because Black men have decided to no longer accept poor treatment. And I want to definitely make that separation for us in this discussion because the only discussion about us has in mainstream media has been that we're tearing apart the community. We're monsters. And white folk don't even need to say it. Black women will tell them what to say. And who's going to disagree with them? The idea is, well, if these Black women are saying it, and as intersectionality suggests, women are more oppressed than men anyway, then they have the ultimate authority to tell us what the truth of the Black community is. And we're going to ignore if they have any vested interest in doing so. We're going to ignore if they're incentivized to tell the world that we're monsters. I mean, their careers advance in the academy if they do so. If they do these kinds of films and projects in mainstream media, how you think we got Oprah? Oprah appealed to white women with resources, leftist white women, right? She appealed to them because she was willing to say that men weren't [ __ ]. She created an environment for misandry across race. And in order to establish that and to maintain it, she had to double down and participate in the media lynching of Black men. And in many ways, she provided the space to do it, and women like her. And right now, as everything is falling apart, they're still trying to find a way to profit from doing so. Again, this is why we had the, the remake of The Color Purple. I can't speak on Is God Is yet. I'm going to see it this weekend, my son and I, and we'll check it out. But at the end of the day, this is a, this is the kind of ongoing practice we're seeing. And as the, the, as the white elite begin to remove the support and the options that they've been giving Black women for years, we're starting to see a lot of panic, a doubling down in some spaces. You know, uh, the, the playbook they have hasn't changed much. It's only got two or three plays, and most of them are rooted in blaming Black men, sign language, and a lack of accountability. There's, it's very rare that you actually see women coming out in public and saying, you know what, we did some things that we need to own up to. The language since I was a little kid is that Black men [ __ ] up the community. They were drug dealers and violent gangsters. Much of that can be explained economically, sociologically, but either way, it didn't matter because it was profitable to be able to point the finger at Black men as the problem. Whether it meant that you got a, a greater access to certain kinds of, uh, uh, welfare resources, or whether it meant you had a, a successful career as an academic, talking [ __ ] about Black men came with, uh, butter biscuits, as it were. And we were told that if we weren't perfect, we didn't deserve a woman. But we looked all over the world, and we found everyday men could get with everyday women. I had a, I got a landscaper. I don't have, you know, I'm not, I don't have no big plot of land, but he just comes and he does, you know, does my yard, my backyard. He's real cool. Barely speaks English. Latino cat, Mexican cat. And one day he showed up without his crew. It was just him and one other person, his wife. And his wife was, the cat can't be four. He got to be like 4'11". His wife was right there next to him. 4'10". And when his crew wasn't there with him, she was there. She didn't speak any English. She didn't even look at me. But they both cleaned my yard together. And the weirdest part is they looked alike. But nobody said that he couldn't have a wife because he wasn't a millionaire, that he, he didn't qualify for. No, they were a direct reflection of, of each other's sexual marketplace value and had been together for decades. They didn't even have to talk. You know, he drove up in the truck, she pulled the stuff out, he pulled his stuff out, they went to different parts of the yard, just got to work, they were done in an hour, bounced, gone. But with Black men, you can tell them they can make six figures and they still ain't [ __ ]. And they don't qualify unless they buy houses and cars and bags and it's ridiculous. So the kind of contempt that we're looking at, and it's starting to grow again because I think people are looking for whatever kind of profit they can get in this economy, is having an adverse effect on coupling, and I think it's only growing. I think it's only growing.

So my word to my brothers is, uh, you know, to find your peace wherever you find it. Don't let anybody shame you into telling you where you shouldn't get it and where you should. [ __ ] that. You find it. Just like I tell people all the time, I got brothers that will send me, you know, pictures of them and their girl, and I'm like, "Send them." But here's the thing. I'm not looking at her. I don't care if she's a 9.5 runway model or, you know, she's 350 lbs with a gold tooth and no hair. I'm not judging your choices. I am 51 years old. I know how hard it is to find peace and and contentment with a woman in a relationship. So, I am not judging what you like. I'm not judging what has worked for you. The only thing I'm looking at in those pictures is your face. Cuz if you're not happy, you and I got a problem. If you're content, I don't give a damn what I think about her. As long as you're content, content. As long as you're being treated properly. And I want brothers to support each other like that. Right. That's what, that's the kind of support that I want brothers to extend. That's the kind of friendship I try to offer. When, when one of my boys is telling me he's newly in a relationship, that's cool, how you feel, how she treats you, what is she demanding, if anything, what is she expecting of you, and what are the kinds of things that you've been doing to appease her, if that's what you're doing. And you know what I mean? I, I want to have those kind of conversations, you know? Because I think at the end of the day, that's the kind of brotherhood we need to move to. But anyway, I just wanted to get a few things across. It didn't come off as much as I wanted to cuz I seem that I'm having some kind of tech issues that I can't really name. I'm going to check to see if I have some kind of virus in the system. But anyway, as I said, in the next 20 minutes, I'm going to move over to Patreon and we're going to start our, uh, review, our Black Masculine's review of Moetta Blues. Um, and then, uh, sometime this weekend, I'm going to see Is God Is. Um, I'll still, I'll still, I still plan to do the daily videos. And by the way, if you guys have any ideas on what you want me to cover, feel free to let me know. Uh, what you might suggest. Send me some articles, whatever clips you want to send. Um, I appreciate the support. Shout out to Ryan says, "Thank you, Doc. You're a treasure in the space. Sysbm or nothing, man. I appreciate that. It's generous, man. I appreciate it." You know, but, uh, yeah, Leon's. I'm planning to enjoy the summer. Like I said, my boy is coming back, so it'll be good to see my son, all 7 feet tall of him. And now we're finally able to have grown-up discussions about relationships. And this is a real interesting thing. It's a, it's a pleasure, uh, to be a father. And at this kind of stage, just a pleasure at each stage, but, you know, each stage brings something different. And so now, as, as a full grown man having his own experiences, we can have very different conversations. And I'm digging it, you know. So he'll call me and tell me about issues he's going with, going through with different kinds of situations. And I'm, I'm lit for him, you know. It's, it's a beautiful thing, man. It's a beautiful thing. You go from, you know, changing somebody's diapers and then past it a few, you know, a little moment later, next thing you know, you got a grown man sitting across from you telling you about his own situations, his own experiences. It was cool, man. It was, it was real cool. It's been cool talking to him. I look forward to, cuz I haven't really, I've seen him, I saw him in December, of course, but haven't had a chance to really sit with him for any extended period of of time, but, uh, I'm enjoying it. I'm enjoying it. So he's at that point where he wants me to show him how to cook the meals that he likes, you know. So, uh, I'm not only going to be cooking it for him, he's going to be, he's going to be right there, uh, further writing down artic, uh, uh, uh, recipes and whatnot. So, I'm looking forward to it, man. I'm going to have a ball with my son, and, uh, we'll go check that film out. All that good stuff. But again, if you guys have any suggestions, let me know. Um, and I think I might, uh, he and I might head out maybe to Vegas sometime this summer. We might do something just to get out the house and chill. Um, so any of y'all out there, let me know, and, uh, might have to connect. All right, but appreciate the support. Uh, again, let me know if you got any subjects you want me to cover. And at the end of the day, man, don't let any of this stereotyping about Black men get you down. Just always put the [ __ ] in context, um, in dialogue with your brothers, because if we allow these people to think for us, it's never really going to go well. All right, so I will see some of you hopefully over on P on Patreon in a little over 15 minutes, and I will holl at y'all later. Peace.

I am here to tell you brothers, we are not criminals by birth, perennial rapists, incapable intellects, manchildren, sperm donors, child support wellsprings, success objects, walking fallacies, ATM machines, lottery tickets, unintelligent henchmen, valueless assassins, pro bono mercenaries, unpaid bodyguards, interchangeable stepfathers, child discipline proxies, unpaid repairmen, workhorses, emotional tampons, or any other socially accepted dehumanizing stereotype. We are thinkers, inventors, innovators, leaders, fathers, and men. Embrace your humanity. Know your worth and extend your time, attention, and resources only to those who genuinely respect you. And remember, your worth is not defined by meeting other people's narcissistic, selfish, and unrealistic needs. You define your worth. Peace. Hey, there you go.