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Let me ask you a question: Have you ever been in a relationship that failed and couldn't figure out where it went wrong?
When a guy and a girl first meet, if the chemistry is there, the sparks start to fly, and before you know it, you've got a raging fire of love burning. This is what we call the honeymoon phase, and it sounds nice because it is nice. During this phase of a relationship, your brain releases a potent blend of love chemicals, and this is what makes you feel like you're flying high. Whenever you go to meet that special someone, the honeymoon phase sounds amazing because it is amazing, and unfortunately, it will come to an end.
After this phase, a lot of people break up and move on. The honeymoon phase might last a year; it might last two years, or it might only last six months. Everyone is different. With the right psychological tricks, you can keep that special someone emotionally attracted to you before, during, and after this phase. These tricks are extremely powerful, and unfortunately, most people unknowingly ruin a relationship because they practice the complete opposite of what you're about to learn. In fact, guys tend to make these mistakes more often than girls.
To make and keep someone emotionally attracted to you, you must understand more of the psychology behind the attraction. The problem is that they don't teach this stuff in school, and some people go through their entire lives without ever learning these simple but powerful tricks. For example, many girls have the false belief that they must look like a television supermodel to attract a decent guy. The truth is that most people fall for someone who is much less attractive than what they have imagined in their head.
Have you ever wondered why this happens? Why do we see extremely attractive girls with guys who don't look nearly as appealing? Why do we see attractive men in the same predicament? These odd situations happen because attraction is governed by our subconscious mind, and if you've ever stopped for just a moment to listen to your subconscious mind, you know that it rarely speaks to you with plain logic. That's what your conscious mind is for.
The ability to get and keep anyone emotionally attracted to you is an essential skill to have, and it could be the difference between a relationship that lasts a month or one that lasts the rest of your life. To develop this skill, there are a few principles that you must understand, and once you understand them, you can implement them immediately. It doesn't matter if you're a guy or a girl; if you start applying these psychological tricks to your relationship right now, you will strengthen your bond with the other person and dramatically improve your life. On the flip side, if you don't start using them, your relationship is almost bound to fail.
The first trick that you need to understand is that availability can put out the spark of attraction. Once you've captured a person's attention, like when you're first dating, it is time to make yourself less available. They say, "Out of sight, out of mind," but your goal is to stay out of sight just long enough to stay in their mind. In other words, once the person shows significant interest in you, make yourself less available. You can still let them know that you're also feeling the butterflies, but you should distance yourself enough so that they are thinking about you, but they can't be around you whenever they want. For example, if you want to go to the movies with this girl or guy every week, make it every two weeks instead. This trick never loses its power, even in long-term relationships. It's kind of like when you leave your house for only five minutes, and when you walk back in, your dog acts like you've been gone for five years, but not nearly dramatic.
The second powerful psychological trick that you can use to make anyone emotionally attracted to you is indirectly showing off. I remember when I was younger, I was hanging out with this girl, and I said something about how nice my car was, and she just looked at me like I was speaking Japanese or something. Let me give you another example: Think about those guys that drive around in sports cars with every single window in the car down while their stereo system is turned up to the maximum volume level. When I was younger, I did stuff like that, and the funny thing is that I actually thought girls would think this was cool. If only I knew the truth about how I really looked during that time. One of the best ways to make someone attracted to you is to show off indirectly. In fact, most people don't like people who show off directly; we're actually hardwired to automatically dislike people who show off. If you have a lot of money and want a girl to know about it, never talk about it. The same is true for muscles or anything else that you believe makes you a good catch. The trick is to find ways to show off what you bring to the table without directly showing it off.
The third psychological trick to make anyone emotionally attracted to you is to be unpredictable. Predictability won't ruin your relationship quickly, but it will slowly erode the passion, like the sand in a desert washing over a stone. The truth is that people get bored with things they are familiar with. Imagine when you beat your first game on the PlayStation 3; it was fun for a while, but after you beat it, the predictability made it boring, and you felt a strong urge to move on to a new game. The same thing happens with people, but unlike PlayStation games, the urge to move on takes quite a bit longer. If you always take your girlfriend to the movies, switch it up and take her horse riding on the beach instead. If your girlfriend is expecting you to be predictable and thinks you're going to buy her a box of chocolates for Valentine's Day, surprise her with a random trip to somewhere special. When it comes to emotional attraction, predictability is boring, and to keep that spark going, you've got to switch it up every now and then.
The fourth psychological trick to make anyone emotionally attracted to you is to make them think of you as much as possible. The more a person thinks of you, the more they will subconsciously become attracted to you. Get creative and think of ways you can get the other person to think of you while never making yourself too available. As humans, we instinctively want what we can't have, and if you're always available, especially in a long-term relationship after the honeymoon phase, then the attraction begins to fade away. As mentioned earlier, most of the processes that cause attraction occur on a subconscious level, and this is why, if you asked someone what made them attracted to the other person, they would need time to think about it first because they're not really sure.
With these simple psychological tricks, you can make anyone emotionally attracted to you and build the foundation for an amazing love life. I want to take a moment to thank you for continually supporting this channel, and even though you might be watching from halfway around the world, on the other side of the screen, you're helping to change the lives of thousands of complete strangers just by watching every video, hitting that little like button, and leaving a comment. And with that said, until next time, thanks for watching.