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What's up, YouTube? Welcome to another video, and today I'm going to be teaching y'all how to get your [ __ ] back. Let's get it.
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All right, so the first step is breaking no contact. For those of you who don't know what no contact is, that is the period of time that you guys have gone without contacting each other. Simple enough? Speak for yourself. That means you guys haven't talked on the phone. You guys haven't texted. You guys haven't seen each other. You literally have been going no contact. What I'm about to be teaching you is the best way to break that. To to to to to end that streak.
So, the biggest mistake I see is people coming too strong when they're breaking no contact. You haven't talked to this girl for months or sometimes a year, years, or a year, whatever. And the first thing you want to say to her is, "I really miss you. Come over. I just feel like we had a..." Hold up, geek. You geek ass [ __ ]. This only works depending on the dynamic you had with that girl. Like, trust me, I've done it before. It has worked for me before, but that is too risky of a move. I'm trying to show you guys how to guarantee you get her back, and you do not want to risk sounding like a geek.
So, the best way is step number one, reminding her who you are. That's it. No big, no big gesture, no big grand gesture, romance, super thought-out text message, nothing. You just remind her who you are. Remind her of you. She has been living this life without you, potentially not even thinking about you for all you know, and you can't just come in strong and hit her with some, "I really miss you. I think we should get back together. Can you come see me?" You're a [ __ ].
Um, what you rather do is just a simple reminder. "I'm here." And the best way to do that is something like social media, like Instagram. Boom. Hit her with a follow on Instagram. Like two pictures. That's it. Follow her on Instagram and like two pictures. That's it. She has 24 hours to follow you back. If she doesn't follow you back within 24 hours, you're cooked. You're cooked and you're going to have to wait, um, a few months before even trying to make another move at all again, or else you're going to look like a goofy. But she has 24 hours to follow you back. If she doesn't, if she follows you back, you are in the green and we can move on to step two.
Step number two. That first message.
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This is where things get scary. I know. But we've been here before. You know what I mean? We have nothing to lose. We know she likes you. She wouldn't have dated you if she didn't like you. Doesn't matter how much time has passed. Somewhere in her heart, she likes you. Somewhere in her heart, you're attractive. You have nothing to be scared of. This is not a random woman.
With that being said, what do you say? When do you say it? I don't worry. I got you. You do not want to, um, the second she follows you back, DM her. I don't know why guys do that. You get the follow back and you try to hurry up and you just text her. No. That makes no sense. I mean, that, that might be good if you're like, you hit up some random Instagram baddie on Instagram and she follows you back. Yeah, you want to hurry up and DM her because you're competing with thousands of, uh, other guys who are DMing this girl. But with, with your ex specifically, erase all competition. It's just you and her. Y'all have y'all singular relationship. So with this, you want her to just question, be thinking about you. Why did he follow me? Why now? She's going to be anticipating a message from you. Don't give her that right away. Leave her to think and fill in the blanks because the curiosity is going to build desire. And what I mean by that is because she's thinking about it so much, why did he randomly follow me? Is he about to message me? Whatever. What is he going to say? Yada yada yada. Slowly, subconsciously, she's going to build that desire to receive your message because she's ex- she's anticipating it. So, when you don't give her that, it's kind of like a letdown. Like she, she, you're changing the dynamic of her brain chemistry of how she's, how she's perceiving you. Oh my god, my ex who cheated on me wants me back. He's trying to follow me. He's about to DM me. To, oh my god, what is he going to say? Is he not going to say anything? So, he's just going to follow me and not say anything? Did he even mean to follow me? What's going on? Now, she wants you to text her. Perfect switcheroo in the dynamic.
So, the, uh, you don't text. I would say wait like, wait like a, honestly, wait anywhere from one to two weeks before even sending that first message. And within these one to two weeks, you should be posting stuff on your story. Post you looking good. Post you out and about at clubs, parties, whatever. Show her that you got a life, that you're having fun, that, you know what I'm saying? You're not sitting here in your bed crying at night hoping she texts you back. No. Show her that you got a life and that, you know what I'm saying? Shit's chilling. Shit's chilling and you're still that [ __ ]. That's what you got to show her. So, wait about one to two weeks and within those one to two weeks, you should be posting stuff that shows her you look good and you got a life. You know, maybe make a little light-skin video rapping to Drake. Okay, look, I'm honest. Girl, I can't lie. I miss you. Some [ __ ]. Boom. The two weeks have gone by and now it's actually time to send this message. What do you say? Y'all probably think I'm about to say some crazy, what's you call, like some crazy, oh my god, that's a bar. Pick, that's a pick-up line. No, you literally just say, "Hey." "Hey." And if you, if you want to say a little more, "Hey, how you been?" That's it. Most likely she's still going to be on that defense. She's tight because she was anticipating this. Now, when she seen that message, she's showing all her friends, "Girl, I told you, I knew it. I knew it. I knew that I knew he was going to [ __ ] DM me. I knew it was coming the second he followed me and liked my two pictures. I knew it was coming." Now she hyped as [ __ ]. She don't know she hyped as [ __ ], but now she hyped as [ __ ]. But you still left curiosity 'cause all you said was "hey."
Now, she might be a little defensive and you might say, "Hey?" with a question mark. But we love that. We love a response 'cause loyal [ __ ] don't respond. I know that has nothing to do with this 'cause she might not have a boyfriend, but the, the term loyal [ __ ] don't respond stems from the fact that if a girl responds to you, you have a chance. Even if the response is bad, it means you are worthy of a reply. You, she's giving you room to work. So, if she says, "Hey?" with like a question mark, or "What do you even," like a little cold, "What do you want? What? What do you want?" You're in there. You're good. And don't worry, she'll be back in your bed soon. We just got to keep it going.
I don't know what step we're on, but after, uh, she says, "What's up?" or whatever, anything like that, keep it simple and make sure you're the one that ends the conversation. Don't drag it. Don't, don't, don't act like we've been here before, you know what I mean? Act like we've been here before. Don't get that text back and immediately try to hang out with her and immediately try to get her on the phone. Relax, okay? You're going to, you're going to, you're going to scare her away. "Oh, nothing much. I was just, just wanted to see how you've been." Boom. Perfect. Or an even better, um, if you've been keeping up with her Instagram or some, um, something smooth, like you've been seeing, paying attention to her story. Maybe she posted some, some inside joke that y'all had as a, as a couple, like, "Oh, she really likes," y'all used to have a joke about how she really likes, uh, all she eats is salads, and you've seen she posted a salad the other day. "Oh, hey, how you been? Nothing. I just, I seen that you're still eating at, uh, Saladworks, lmao. Some things just don't change." Boom. Something like that. Something calm like that. It's nothing crazy. She has no reason to sit there and, "You cheated on me. Why are you texting me?" Nothing crazy. Boom.
Now, I'm not saying that's impossible because, you know what I'm saying? I could, I texted a girl four years later, "Happy birthday," and I still got paragraphs on how bad I treated her and she had a boyfriend.
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So, it's not impossible that, um, she might crash out, but hey, that same girl, uh, a year later was in my bed. Suck my, suck my dick. Suck my dick. So, did I, what, what does that tell you? It tells you I was on the right path, even though it felt like I was on a bad path. But yeah, you say something calm, something cool, nothing crazy, and you leave it at that. You let yourself end the conversation. "Oh, all right. Uh, it was good catching up. Glad to hear you're still doing well." Boom. This is so important because, because you deaded the conversation, now it's like, "Oh my god, he doesn't want nothing from me. He's not, that's, that's it? He's not even trying to like, cook. He's not trying to like, hit up on me." Girls get hit on every day, whether it is social media or in person or even just a guy looking at her too long, or, or by her own friends. Girls get compliments and hit on every single day. Every day a man wants something from a girl. There's always going to be some man that making your girl feel special, making your girl feel wanted, or whatever, whatever. So, when you show a little bit different, you show a little bit of restraint, it's not what she's used to. And the fact that you're her ex and that's what she expected, put your power even higher. I'm telling you, let me cook.
So, yeah, you make sure you dead the conversation after some cool, some comments. You're all right. "Well, I was just checking in. It's good to see you're still doing well." Done. She's going to go. She's going to start thinking to herself, "Why he didn't even ask? He's, is that really all he wanted? Nah, that can't be all he wanted." She's going to start questioning. When she, I'm telling you, there's no such thing as bad publicity. Even if she gets mad, even if she's telling all her friends, "He's definitely trying to, oh my god, he's trying to hit me up." No publicity is bad publicity. Now you're in there. You're in her head. No matter how that conversation goes, you are in her head, and that's exactly where we want you to be because you weren't before. You weren't even a thought before. Now you're there. Boom.
What's next though? 'Cause we still didn't get, we still didn't get her back yet. What's next?
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This would be my favorite part. And this is, you get a little bit risky, but not too risky. Little bit risky, not too risky. You, you, you shoot for, you shoot for a low, low risk, low reward. Low risk, low reward. That's what we're going for. So, very, I would say after you deleted that conversation, if she texts you at all on her own accord, you're already in there and just don't overthink it and, um, play it how you would play any, any other, like if you hit up any other girl, if you were talking to any other girl. She hits you up before you ever even hit her back up after that initial conversation I just said to have with her, you're good. You got your [ __ ] back. You should know what to do. If she doesn't hit you back, which she probably won't because, um, yeah, she was expecting you to and you didn't, and now she's confused, but that's what we want.
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Now it's time to get mid-risky. This is where you wait a little bit. I would say, you know, wait that little week or two. This, you can get a little, you could be a little bit risky. I would say like three days, two to three days at the earliest, at the latest two weeks. You, um, this is where you try to have a, this is where you try to ask for her number or try to hang out with her. Now, play your situation right. You know what I mean? If, if y'all had the craziest falling out and she screamed at you and you cheated on her and you [ __ ] her best friend, don't be dumb. Don't try to hang out with her. That, it's not going to be, it's not always going to be that simple. For, for the people like y'all, just, just try to get her number or try to, try to talk to her, try to have another conversation with her again. This time, maybe go a little bit more in-depth, like make it last a little bit longer. Try to start that, try to make it like a normal, make it feel like a normal thing that you, that she's receiving a text from you. Try to make that feel normal to her. Like it's not a big deal. "Oh, he's not trying to get me back. He's not, he's not being weird." She, she's warmed up to the fact of seeing you on her phone because the first time you followed her and that first message, her heart might have dropped. The trauma from your relationship might have came back. So, you, you need to, you need to ease that anxiety and just make your name not be such an anxious thing in her heart and in her head. So, you just want to have conversations with her. Nothing that puts pressure on her.
Um, now, if you, if the breakup wasn't that bad, maybe she broke up with you because you were, you were mean to her or you never took her out to dinner or some, something that's little. Something that she like, something that she like, try to get that hangout in. Definitely try to get that hangout in, but don't make it an obligation. Make it more of an invitation to something that you're doing anyway. Say that again. When, if you want to try to get that first hangout, don't make it feel like an obligation. Make it feel like an invitation to something that you are going to do anyway. When you make it feel like an obligation, that one-on-one hangout with me, please, let's go on a date, whatever, that, that's scary. Things get scary there. That's pressure. You're putting, you're putting pressure on her. You're making her consider all these things. "Oh my god, he's asking me out." That's pressure. No, you don't, you're not in a position to apply pressure. You're ex. It's not a random girl you're hitting up who thought you looked cute. This is your ex who you cheated on or your ex who left you because you always [ __ ] yelled at her every 10 [ __ ] seconds when you were an immature piece of [ __ ]. So, you got, you got to lock it. You can't apply no pressure. Pressure will make her run. Pressure will make her run away from the situation. "Why am I feeling like this? Why am I anxious like this?" So, don't be like, "Hey, I, I really want to take you out. Let's go to Applebee's." Don't do that.
What you want to do is, "Yo, um, let me think. You got to be like, 'Yo, there's this, uh, party on Saturday and me and, uh, me and the guys are going. Uh, you and your friends could pop out if you want to. Uh, I'll, I'll send you the address. It's going to be lit.'" Boom. That makes her feel like her saying no, I can't, or, um, if she genuinely can't or doesn't want to, it's, it's, it's, it's less pressure. You're going anyway. You're not putting her in that one-on-one position where, "Okay, let's go on a date." She says no, now there's no date. So, it's really on her. If you invite her to something you're doing anyway, like a party or going to the bar, mind you, peep, peep game, peep what I did. I said, "I'm going with my friends, you and your friends should pop out." Girls love going out with their girls. She probably does that every weekend anyway. You just gave her a new location to go to. Nothing feels pressured. Nothing feels different. Nothing feels like this big deal. So, maybe not the first time. Maybe the first time. But eventually, that is a good way to, um, that is, that is something that more than likely she would be willing to do. She'd be willing to do and we're all hopeful here. Let's say it pulls through. This, this is where I can't save you. If you got her to pull up to a location because you asked her to come and you guys are there together and you sell this, there's nothing I can do for you. But, tutorial isn't over. I'm going to see if I can give you a little bit more help on how you should act or how you should go about when she gets there. This is going to be everything.
Now, whether she likes you or not, and the girls in the comments will tell you this, whether she likes you or not, whether she's planning to do stuff with you or not, or planning to, what you call, she's going to want to look good. She's going to want to smell good. She's going to want, she might even shave. And this is has nothing to do with it. She might actually [ __ ] you that night or anything like that. This is just psychology. You're her ex. She knows you're about to see her. Whether it's to flex on you or to impress you, that psychology is good because in her subconscious, no matter what she's saying here, in her subconscious, she's dressing for you. That's what you want. She's going to try, she's trying to look good for you. Feed that ego. Give her that satisfaction. When you see her, "You smell [clears throat and snorts] good. You look good. Damn, you look good. You look, you look, you look different. You look, make a little joke. Take away the trauma of your relationship. Damn, maybe I was holding you back. Ha ha ha." It's like, "Nah." Boom. Make her feel good, but also make sure you show up good. Don't wear that, don't wear no that same ass hoodie you used to wear when y'all dated four years ago. That same ass cologne you used to wear back then that she never complimented you on. Make sure you look good, smell good. Make sure you are dressed to impress as well because unlike her, you're the one playing the game. You're holding the controller. You're holding the controller. So, you got to act like it. So, that psychology [ __ ] it goes both ways. Except one person is creating the situation and one person is just in the situation. So, you have to be on your [ __ ] too. Make sure you look good. Make her feel good. And honestly, just remind her who the [ __ ] remind her why she dated you in the first place. That's the best thing you do. Remind her why she dated you in the first place. Whether if you're a flirty guy, a playful guy, a funny guy, uh, a very intimate guy, like she liked you 'cause she all could have serious conversations or 'cause you were always there for her. Whatever the, the, the, the key thing was that she dated you for in the first place, that's what you have to showcase, um, when you're at this first link-up. You do that and that's going to, that's that familiar rarity is going to bring familiar experiences, bring familiar feelings. So, if you give her that familiar experience of you being this funny guy and that's why she liked you in the first place, here you are bringing that experience again. The familiar feelings that she had when you were being a funny guy back then is going to come back, also. Now, she likes you again. Now, she's starting to build this crush for you again. The psychology will already be in your favor. I've been saying it this whole time. The psychology will already be in your favor. Now, it's just your job to complete it.
Now, you don't want to shoot big here. Once again, these initial things that are happening, you don't want to shoot big. This initial link-up, it's the first time you're seeing each other ever. You don't want to shoot big. You don't want to try to [ __ ] that night. You don't want to try to get her back to your crib that night or make out with her in the corner that night. If she's going, she's going. Definitely take the opportunity if she's the one pursuing all that. But you never take the risk of trying to pursue all that, even if that's what you want. Even if it looks green, no. If a girl likes you, you'll know. So if you don't know, she doesn't like you. It's that simple. If a girl likes you, you'll know. So if you don't know, she doesn't like you. If she's not the one making the move, um, at least in this particular instance, it, it, it would be too risky of you for to try to make a move on your ex your first time you ever see each other again. So relax, act like we've been here before, flirt a little bit, hype her head up, feed her ego a little bit, show her why she liked you in the first place, but don't close. Don't go for the close. This is a long process. Okay? You're trying to change the way she thinks about you. You're trying to change your combating. She's going to be going to her friends, "Do I give him a chance? Do I do it?" You, you're in a losing battle here. You cannot take any risk that could throw it all away. So do not go for the close. You go for the close any hangout or text message after this one.
If you've made it this far, you are in the clear to finally get your [ __ ] back. If you made it through the night and it went well, you are now in the clear. You have reversed the psychology of all she can think about is how you cheated on her, or she can think about is how bad of a boyfriend you were back then, or all she can think about is blah blah blah blah blah. You are now in the clear to get your [ __ ] back. Now you can just play how you would play. Maybe you hit her up. Maybe now you ask for that one-on-one date. Whatever the case is, now you're good. And just like that, you got your [ __ ] back.
Now, if I, any of, if, if anything went wrong at any of those steps in the process, like for example, when I tried that first initial contact break step I was telling you guys about, I hit my girlfriend up, I mean, I hit my ex up after like four years, told her, "Happy birthday." I was trying to break that initial contact. And she started going off about how bad a boyfriend I was and how much drama I gave her. I smiled.
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'Cause that's a good thing. Oh, baby, you still care this much? It's been four years, you still care? You still care this much? I never lost you then. I never lost you then. Honestly, if she, if she would have ignored me, that would have been worse. If, if, if she would have maybe potentially in some cases, if she would have just said, "Thank you," and like it was nothing, that could have been worse. But seeing how much she cared, I, I knew I was in there.
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I knew I was in there. It was just a matter of time. It was just a matter of time. Fast forward to a summer later, that same ex is in my bed. So, it might have felt like it went wrong at the time, but I just, I just took a pause, took a wait, and this is what I was saying, if something goes wrong at any of the steps, you take a pause, you let that no contact form, and you do the same thing but in a very, in a completely different approach.
So, what I did was, when she did that, when I said, "Happy birthday," and she, uh, screamed at me and said she hated me, whatever, I said, um, "Yeah, I'm sorry about all that. I was a, I was very young and immature back then. Uh, uh, I'm mature now and I changed. Uh, I'm sorry for everything." And she was, she still kept going, "Fuck you, blah blah blah, whatever, whatever, whatever." And I said, "Yeah, yeah. I don't blame you for not believing me, but you, you have a nice life. I hope you have a nice life. I'm sorry for bothering you." What I do, I took my control back. I'm ending the conversation. I, I fed her ego a little bit. "You're right, I'm sorry. You have a nice life." I didn't let her just randomly block me. I didn't let her say, "Fuck you, don't talk to me," and whatever. I took back the control by being the one to dead the conversation. I didn't, I stopped it. I didn't try to go on this big ass defending myself streak. I said, "You're right. I blame, I don't blame you for not believing that I changed. Sorry for bothering you. I hope you have a nice life." Boom. I'm in her head. Now I have to approach it differently next time I do this. Maybe instead of just trying to casually say some [ __ ], I, now that I know that she still, that's still on her mind, maybe next time I get risky. I say something, I say, "Everything's said. Hey, maybe a month has went by. Hey, I just seen this post that said, 'Listen, it made me think about everything you were saying.' I realized that, uh, realized you were right and I don't know why I tried to just casually hit you up again after everything I done without apologizing. So, I'm sorry, but I want to, I want to give you a formal apology." Some, a little [clears throat] slight hook. You, you learn from the way that went wrong the first time. You're doing the same thing. You're trying to break no contact. You're trying to normalize the fact that you texted her without it being this big deal. So, you now try a different approach. I tried casual. "Oh, happy birthday, even though we didn't talk in four years and I [ __ ] screamed in your face, um, when we were younger and when we were younger and dating, I screamed in your face every day 'cause I was immature for some reason and didn't know how to love right. Oh, happy birthday, though." Casual didn't work. She screamed at me, "Fuck you. Why are you texting me?" So, now I try more intimate. "I've always been good with my words. I've always was a, I always could be a caterer, and maybe that's what she liked about me. So, I got intimate. I don't know why I would do that."
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"I don't know why I would do that. Just text you like nothing happened. Shut up. I realize I never apologized, but I, I was, I was really missing you, and I just, honestly, I was just wanting to say happy birthday as an excuse to see how you were doing, but I can't. We can't. I, we, say we, we can't just act like everything, none of, none of what we've been through happened. So, I'm sorry for trying to." You just included her subconsciously in the resolve of y'all's relationship. "We can't just act like that didn't happen. So, I'm sorry." It's a little confusing 'cause you're saying something y'all both did, but you're the one apologizing. Now she feels included. "I'm sorry for going off on you like that. I was a little drunk. But, yeah. It was kind of weird that you just randomly texted me acting like NOTHING EVER HAPPENED." BOOM! IN THERE! IN THERE LIKE SWIMWEAR! IF YOU CAN'T GET YOUR [ __ ] BACK AFTER THIS VIDEO, IT'S ON YOU. GAVE YOU THE SAUCE. I'M LIVING PROOF. DO WITH IT AS YOU PLEASE. I'M GOING TO GIVE Y'ALL LIVING PROOF RIGHT NOW LIVE. ME AND THIS GIRL ACTUALLY JUST STOPPED TALKING LIKE TWO WEEKS AGO, UH, BECAUSE HER, HER VIEW IS BECAUSE I WAS YELLING AT HER TRYING TO KICK HER OUT OF MY HOUSE. MY VIEW,
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UH, SHE WAS BEING ANNOYING LITTLE [ __ ] WHO, UM, I ASKED TO NICELY LEAVE. AND SHE WOULDN'T LEAVE, WAS YELLING AT ME, ARGUING WITH ME IN MY FACE, AND THEN I GOT REALLY MAD AND STARTED TAKING HER STUFF SAYING, "GET THE [ __ ] OUT OF MY HOUSE." OF COURSE, HER PERSPECTIVE, I'M JUST SOME BIG MEAN MACHO MAN WHO TOOK HER STUFF AND TRIED TO THROW IT OUT OF HER HOUSE AND TRIED TO KICK HER OUT IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT. THAT'S HER PERSPECTIVE. THERE'S NOTHING I CAN DO TO CHANGE THAT. THAT'S HER PERSPECTIVE. BUT IF I'M THE ONE THAT WANTS HER BACK, I GOT TO PLAY THAT. I GOT TO IGNORE, WELL, YOU DID THIS. NO, I GOT TO IGNORE THAT AND I GOT TO PLAY THROUGH HER PERSPECTIVE. GOT TO PLAY WITH THE CARDS YOU HAVE DEALT IF I WANTED HER BACK. SO, I'M ABOUT TO CALL HER. I'M ABOUT TO SHOW YOU HOW I COOK. NOW, REMEMBER, THIS IS JUST BREAKING. WE HAVEN'T REALLY TALKED. IT'S JUST BREAKING THAT INITIAL CONTACT. THIS IS STEP ONE.
>> Who is this? >>
>> Hello. >>
>> What? >>
>> What are you doing? >>
>> Um, doing some like online stuff. >>
>> For >>
>> For CPR? >>
>> Yeah. >>
>> That's nice. Did you have to pay? Did you have to pay for it? I remember you said something like that a while ago. >>
>> Oh, yeah. >>
>> Okay. What you doing today? >>
>> Um, I was kind of like unpack a couple things I brought from my mom there and just finish this thing online 'cause I, I'll finish it by tomorrow morning. >>
>> It's tomorrow. Yeah, I went to, uh, Rax yesterday with Dom. And Marquis was there talking about, um, how you be. He's like, he's, he's like obsessed with it about you be. He said you didn't realize it, but because you were talking to him, uh, like there was this girl he was trying to talk to, but she kept, she walked away because you were talking to him. >>
>> Which is funny. >>
>> Mad or >>
>> Yeah. Said you blew his [ __ ]. >>
>> Oh, no. >>
>> Yeah. >>
>> Oh, he doesn't like me. >>
>> See, I'm acting casual. I'm not like putting, she's expecting me to ask her to hang out or something. I'm acting casual. No, he didn't say he doesn't like you. He, he was like, we were laughing about it as like a joke. >>
>> I feel like I kind of remember that. >>
>> Yeah. But [sighs] how have you been? >>
>> I mean, nothing really changed. >>
>> See, look. I'm just a normal guy. I'm just a, she's a, she's anticipating. I know her back to back. As she's anticipating me to ask her to hang out or something. I'm not going to. Uh, all right, I was just calling to check on you. I've been >>
>> Up on me last night. >>
>> Yeah, I've been, I've been mad lately. I don't want to be mad or anything. Like it has, it's not, it wasn't you or nothing. Just trying to figure [ __ ] this [ __ ] out with Destin. >>
>> Me for hanging up on you. >>
>> Yeah. But that was all >>
>> Okay. >>
>> See, she's not satisfied 'cause she was expecting me to >>
>> I heard. [laughter] >>
>> She's expecting me to ask her, so she's not satisfied. That just changed the dynamic. Real time. I'm doing this in real time. >>
>> Oh, okay. >>
>> [sighs] >>
>> What just happened? >>
>> Nothing. I thought you were about to say something or something. >>
>> Were you just putting me on hold or something? >>
>> Nah. Oh, someone just called me. Unknown number. >>
>> I was talking. >>
>> You were talking? >>
>> Yeah. >>
>> What did you say? >>
>> I honestly don't know. I was just saying like, hello, 'cause I couldn't hear anything. >>
>> Mhm. All right, I'm about to go. >>
>> [sighs] >>
>> Okay. >>
>> All right. >>
>> I don't >>
>> I don't know. I'm about to just get dressed, probably get food or something. >>
>> Okay. >>
>> All righty. [snorts] You have a good day. >>
>> You too. >>
>> All right. >>
>> Bye. >>
Now, that looks like nothing. That looks like nothing. But listen. Aw, I'm glad that, I'm glad you're working on it.
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I'm in her head. Now, I don't talk to her for the next three days. Boom. I'm going to give y'all an update. I hope this before I update this video, I mean, before I edit and upload this video, I can get proof. No [ __ ] lie, I'm sitting here editing the video right now. Look, we haven't talked. She tried to call me drunk like the other day, but I just kept hanging up on her. But besides that, we haven't talked in weeks. I did that phone call. Guess who's sending me stuff on Instagram? Guess who's sending me stuff on Instagram? We haven't talked. She hasn't sent me anything on Instagram or a message or anything like that. Now I made communication seem normalized by that casual conversation. And that's why, bro, lock in. You do what I say, you're going to get your [ __ ] back. Oh my god, it gets better. I didn't even realize. So, I have two Instagrams. I have like a public Instagram and a private Instagram. On my public Instagram, we used to text on that when we were actually messing with each other, but she blocked me. So, before we stopped talking, she was, we were, she would text me on my other Instagram. She unblocked me just to start texting me. Just because of that phone call. I'm telling you, without that phone call, this wouldn't have happened. This is what I mean about normalizing communication. I made it feel so casual. I made it feel so normal for us to be on that phone, for us to be speaking, even though we haven't. I didn't ask to hang out. I wasn't, didn't have a motive. I didn't make it like a big deal. And now here we are. I, it led to me, same day, less, less, it's been less than two hours getting unblocked and getting reels sent to me.
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Lock in. All right, last time I'm, I'm pulling back. It gets better. You want to see what she's sending me? Tell me, tell me I'm not in there. Tell me I'm not in there. Hold up. Let me replay it.
>> [screaming] >>
All I need after a long day. Wrap me. The song says, "Wrap me in your arms again." Are you listening? Blah blah blah. Couple [ __ ]. Couple [ __ ]. In there like swimwear. I do this. I'm going to show you what we do. We, we're casual. You double tap like it. That's it. That's it. You double tap like it. That's it. Nothing else. We're in there. If you can't get your [ __ ] back after this video, it's on you.