Transcription
For six years now, I've been reading Jana, the dating columnist expert's articles, and I said back then, if she doesn't get a man and settle down before she gets too old, she's going to find herself forever alone. She didn't listen. And now, here comes forever alone.
Some of you longtime viewers know this columnist, this dating expert, guru, Jana Hawking, is my favorite go-to to use to pick apart feminine logic in dating and marriage. And she has come out with a new article that, or newish, it was about a month ago or so. If you remember, she's the one that famously wrote the article about requiring men to spend $2,000 on them before she'll sleep with them. Uh, she's got many other headlines that we'll read from as well, and you'll see why she is my go-to to pick on for being a dating expert for women.
Ironically, she's also been, and I didn't know this about her, uh, she's been on broadcast radio in Australia on Today, Today FM, Triple M, as well as TV appearances on breakfast shows, including Sunrise, The Morning Show, The Today Show, and Today Extra, all mainstream TV shows. And of course, she writes these salacious, um, articles to get people's attention.
Well, for years now, I've been picking on poor Jana. And I genuinely, I've said many times I want well for her. I want her to correct her ways and stop sleeping with a bunch of randos and maybe find a long-term relationship before she hit 40. Now she's about 41 or 42, I think. And she's finding out that life comes at you fast and father time comes for us all. And that we were once again right and her dating expertise was wrong because Jana is finding out that nobody wants an aging promiscuous woman.
Here's some of the headlines she became famous for before we get to the new article. I had a one-night stand with a married Australian TV star, uh, writes Jana Hawking, and what happened will turn anyone off cheating. So, she self-admittedly is sleeping with married men. Uh, start your new year with a bang. I unlock the secret to the next level and why it's time to stop being good. Spoiler alert. Jana has never been a good woman. How to be a gold digger. Jana Hawking's foolproof tricks to hook a rich guy that works every time. Except for Jana, apparently, 'cause she can't hook any man at this point. Uh, Jana Hawking. I've uncovered the ultimate new sex secret and had the best night of my life. Yes, she hooked up with a rando. I spent three days at a camp in the desert where you learn about the bedroom stuff. Here are the mind-blowing secrets. Yes, she hooked up with randos. I was having the best casual sex of my life before I broke my own golden rule and ruined everything. Yes, she was hooking up with randos. Single and 40 and my dating life stagnant, I longed to feel seen again like I was 25. Spoiler alert, no. So, I embraced these 50 flirty rules for life. And a few flings later, I discovered they actually work. Yes, she slept with more randoms.
And now we have our new, which this, the new headline has nothing to do with the actual article. I don't know if this was clickbait or what it is. Uh, that's why I didn't put a picture of the, the, here's what this really should be labeled. I'm now 40 and I can't get no man, no man will commit to me. So, we're going to go through the main article here and then we're going to break down why this is affecting all young women. And eventually, women either have two paths. They realize they were wrong. They realize feminism lied to them and they regret their life, or they become uber cat-mom wine ladies, feminists that hate the country, men, and everything in it.
Before we get into the main story, however, we are going to hear from today's sponsor, Black Force Supplements. I want you guys to know about what some are calling the mother of all antioxidants. Something most people never heard of. Dr. Eric Berg, one of the most watched health educators on YouTube, has been talking about this for years. Check it out. If so, what is this glutathione? Glutathione is like the mother of all antioxidants. It's the thing in your cells that helps you get rid of poisons and free radical damage and oxidation from heavy metals and pollution. Not to mention stress and alcohol and to counter infections as well. So, glutathione is super important to keep your body healthy as you go through this exposure to poisons and stress. If you don't have enough glutathione, you're going to feel tired, you're going to feel moody, you're not going to be able to sleep, and you're going to feel overall toxic. Now, ask yourself, if something like this has been out there for years, why is nobody talking about it? The swamp and big pharma know a healthy, energized population is harder to control. That's why you never hear about these compounds your body depends on to defend itself from the constant bombardment of poisons hitting you every single day. It's called glutathione, the master antioxidant your body uses to detoxify, repair, and defend itself. The problem isn't just what you're exposed to every day. It's that most people aren't giving their body what it needs to deal with it. And your morning coffee, it's not helping you fix that. In fact, most people start their day already overloaded with chemicals and don't even realize it. So, instead of starting your day overloaded, let me show you what you should actually be doing instead. Introducing the world's first longevity coffee built around the one system of your body depends on every single day to defend itself. It starts with acetyl glutathione, a more stable form designed to actually survive digestion and support your body's detox and antioxidant defenses. But it doesn't stop there. NMN 250 mgs, the same NAD precursor, studied for supporting cellular energy and healthy aging. Magnesium glycinate in one of the most bioavailable forms that supports recovery, focus, and nervous system balance. TMG helping cellular functions. Plus, vitamin C, B12, and 8,000 mg of cocoa base, giving you a smooth mocha flavor with additional antioxidant support. And of course, real life coffee, about 90 milligrams of caffeine, so you still get the energy, just without the downside of doing nothing for your body. This isn't one supplement. It's a 10-in-one longevity formula built into something you already do every single morning. You could buy all of these separately or get them all in one. One scoop, real ingredients, real function, and it tastes good as it looks. And here's the bottom line. Black Forest just went live with their biggest deal of the year. Buy one get one completely free in their bestselling longevity coffee formula. It's live right now, but it ends in 48 hours. And once it's gone, it's gone. We can't depend on big pharma or processed junk to protect our health. Hit the link in the description or pin comment down below. Get grab the amazing deal while it lasts and take control of your health before someone else does it for you. Discount codes and affiliate links below.
So, dear, dear Jana discovers that she's been dating playboys and they only want to use her for her body. I know. 41 or 42-year-old woman only being slept with because she looks halfway decent. And these guys that she sleeps with have many other options, so they bounce. I know, terrible, shocking. It's only something we've said 100,000 times plus on this channel and others like it.
I thought I'd found the perfect boyfriend. Then I discovered what he really wanted. I was mortified. Well, he basically, he wanted the same thing Jana wanted for the last, I don't know, 15, 20 years, except now she wants a boyfriend and she can't get no man. Uh, so many men are obsessed with this new sex trend, which is apparently dating openly and having options. Now, remember, we're talking about the Jana that's gone out and banged countless men, slept with married men, always wanted an open relationship, never wanted to pin herself down, and now that she wants to pin down a man, well, these men are evil, obviously. But when, when these men asked her to be in long-term relationships in the past, when she was maybe in her young 30s or late 20s, she wanted nothing to do with it. The only thing that changed Jana's mind is time and it running out on her and her not finding the ability to hold on to a man anymore. And now she's mad.
This is the same thing that women who are, I don't know, 23 years old, who are, you know, pretty, have lots of options. Why? They say, "Oh, dating a 35 or a 40-year-old guy is fine because he's attractive and he's got money and he's got his life together and he's in good shape. He's a silver fox and nothing's no problem with that at all." But then when those same women hit 40 or 45 years old and they want the silver foxes for themselves, but these guys are now dating the 18, 22, 25-year-olds, these same women that once were saying, "Hey, nothing wrong with this," are now saying, "Why are all the good men dating younger women? This is unfair." Same women, same motive. The only thing that came after them was father time.
She says, "Tonight, I had a startling realization. I've been in open relationships for the last 10 years. Kind of sort of entirely by accident." And all, all these headlines are these accidents? No. She was sleeping with dudes 'cause they're good-looking. She was sleeping with men because it was fun. She was hooking up with guys because she was the belle of the ball and everybody loved her because she was pretty, sweet, lovely Jana. And they could wine and dine her and take her on weekend vacations just so they could sleep with her, and she loved it. It wasn't by accident. This was a choice. But this is women not taking accountability for their own actions. Same as always. How many times do we call that out? As a guy, if you mess up and you say, "Well, it wasn't my fault. It was this and it was this and it was this." You're a weak man. You need to step up and say, "You know something? I got to own this. I got to fix this. I got to solve this problem and then I'm going to move on with my life." Not hopefully, hopefully not repeating the same problem again. That's how men need to think and act to get through society. Today, women can just say, "Oh, it wasn't my fault. It was the patriarchy or men or, uh, they fooled me into feminism. It was all the men's fault. It's always everybody else's fault but their own." So, good to see you take accountability, Jana.
She says, "You see, for the past decade, I've jumped from one situationship to another. Your fault. Very rarely making it to the dreaded 'what are we' chat. Your fault. And if we did get there, one or both of us would usually run for the hills. You ran for the hills. You said it in dozens, nay, a hundred of your articles that you always pulled the rug in 99% of them. But tonight, it dawned on me that what I've actually been doing all this time is putting myself in open relationships." Correct. You've been chasing the bad boys. You've been chasing the top 10 or 20 percenters. You sleep with them and then they move on and you're like, "Oh, well, I had my fun." Except time is running out to have the fun. And now she's getting scared because modern dating dictates. Nope. No. She's modern dating dictates that if you're not technically boyfriend and girlfriend, then you're free to sleep with other people. No. Modern society and modern dating doesn't dictate anything. You dictate your own life. You dictate the type of relationship you want. You dictate who and what you do. Here's how this goes. You're in the modern dating market. All the men just want to sleep with other people. None of the men want to commit. What are the choices you have as a woman? Not be in the date, modern dating market. Go to clubs, go to places where you can meet people with hobbies instead of going out on the beach and sipping on mimosas. Because here you can see her with a glass of wine, which is her usual forte before bedding a guy that is a stranger at night. You could just determine, you know something, I'm not partaking of this. If a guy only wants to sleep with me before he dates me or too soon in the relationship, I'm not going to date him. I'm going to vet men to discover if they're like that or not. And if they are, I'm just not going to participate. There's lots of women that don't do this. Now, it's not nearly as many as the women that will just sleep with far too many people. But there are some women that are still out there keeping it in their pants until they judge a man is worthy or not before they give him a, a one-night stand. Especially if, for example, uh, you had a one-night stand with a married Australian TV star. Are you going to blame that on him because you willingly partook of that? So, it's your own fault for jumping in and doing this. So, once again, now she's blaming it. It's an accident. It's not her fault. And also, it's modern dating and society. It has, it's not my fault. It's quote unquote modern dating. Blaming everybody but herself. This is why I know she's going to fail. Ultimately, Jana's going to be writing articles at the age of 55 or 60 with a cat on her lap and a mimosa in her hand. And she is going to be blaming the world for all her woes and that, and she's going to be a raging feminist even more than she is already. You did it to yourself. You and probably the millions of women that have listened to you and your bad takes. For someone who's always ranted about how I don't believe open relationships really work. No, you don't rant against that. You partake in it. What are you talking about? Uh, she says, "Thanks to generous friends sharing their horror stories." What about your horror stories? Interviews with divorce lawyers and plenty of statistics, I've now realized I've been a willing participant in them for years. Uh, wait, I have a sound button for that. >> Ding, ding, ding. What do we have for her, Johnny? >> Yes, you have been a willing participant in them. You've championed them. You've gone out actually seeking them. So, why earlier in your, in your rant here, are you blaming other things other than yourself? I guess maybe she just wanted to blame other people and then eventually had to land on the reality. It's herself. Maybe. I don't know. Maybe that makes her feel better and sleep better at night. I don't know. I turned a blind eye to rumors and gossip about the men I was dating. And I certainly didn't divulge my own dalliances either. Okay. So, you're a player dating players. Don't see the problem. As long as you're both okay with that, which you were when you were younger. So, yes, technically I've been in open relationships for a very long time. Now, you were in the hookup culture. It wasn't an open relationship. This is another way they make themselves feel better about it. Oh, I've been in a string of open relationships. No, you've been in a string of going on dates and sleeping with strange men. That's really all it is. Maybe you can sleep better at night. Again, calling it open relationships. And how did I stumble upon this realization? Well, I recently found myself going on quite a few dates with just one man. I know, bravo me. So, it's a big deal to go out with five dates with the same guy. We went on wildly romantic dates, spent entire weekends together, met each other's friends. It all felt very green flag. And after two and a half months of dating, a few red wines deep, I decided it was time to tell him I wanted us to be exclusive. So, here she is dating a guy that is probably sleeping down with her. She's dating up and she says, "I want to keep this guy around. He is a winner and I'm, I'm actually going to ask him to make it exclusive." Okay, that's fine. But you spent months sleeping with each other before defining the relationship. Now he will not want to define the relationship because he doesn't need to because he's already sleeping with you. This is the mistake a lot of these women make is instead of defining the relationship, saying, "Hey, this is just going to be a hookup and a fling." Guy says, "Okay." Now you have an agreement. Now, a lot of times women will change their mind and they'll do the "what are we" stage of it and the guys will say, "We're just hooking up." And then the woman says, "Ah, it's not fair. Uh, I've developed feelings. How dare you be cold and so calculated and, uh, you're an awful man." And the guy rightfully can say, "Look, we had an agreement. This was just open and fun. You've just 'cause you've changed your mind doesn't mean I have to. It is what it is." Now, the woman can get mad at the guy, but he, he was not in the wrong in that case. Now, what about the woman that says, "Okay, I want us to be boyfriend and girlfriend, and we need to be exclusive before we sleep with each other. Is that okay with you?" And the guy says, "No." Okay, then she doesn't sleep with him, and they go separate ways. No one has a body count now any higher than it was before, and you move on with your life. But when you don't set up the relationship rules and then you just go into it with a fling, I got bad news for you. The guy's probably not going to jump on board with you like this guy didn't.
She says, "I'm an anxious avoidant, so vulnerability doesn't come naturally, but I put my big girl pants on and I did it." His reaction, however, did not follow the script I'd been playing in the in my head. The one where he smiles, looks relieved, and tells me he'd love that. Nope. His first response was very clear, followed by, "Let's talk about this in the morning." In, in other words, let's talk about this, but I want to sleep with you. So, he slept with her. By morning, I already hightailed it out of there. So, she didn't wait for the answer. She didn't have the tough discussion. She asked him, then she slept with him. Then, she ran. That doesn't really sound like a great, 'cause she knew the answer coming for her wasn't the one she wanted to hear. This went from, "We're just in an open relationship. We're just having hookups. We're having a good time." She caught the feels, she got the feelings, and she tried to move in on it, and he said no. And it crushed her feelings. But why is this a surprise? Look, Jana has a bunch of stories about guys that have asked her out to to date seriously and asked her to be exclusive, and she shot them down. She's been very open about wanting to keep her options open and they, that these guys weren't Mr. Right, and they weren't perfect, and they weren't all the things she needed, and she needed to keep her options open. Now, that of course was at 32, 35, 37. Now she's hitting, starting to move closer towards mid-40s than early 40s. And now she says, "Oh, I got to lock it down. Like, I'm going to, I got to find the guy that's going to do this with me. This guy seems to be pretty great. I'll ask him." And he's like, "No, I, I, I have options. You are just one amongst many options for me, and I'm bouncing." Uh, she said, "I, I was mortified by his reaction. There was no way I was sticking around to hear him reaffirm his desire to keep sleeping with other women. My sensitive heart wanted absolutely no part of that." So now, when she was sleeping with multiple people, no problem. When she wanted to sleep with multiple people, no problem. When she wants to be with a guy and she wants to make it exclusive, but he still wants to sleep with other people, problem. Now she's mortified. Now this is awful. Now she doesn't want to be in open relationships anymore. When did it change? When she fell for a top 10 or 20 percenter and she realized other options of capturing other top 10 and 20 percenters were running slim. And so she said, "I got, I got to nail this guy down. I got to, I got to get this didn't work." So when he woke up and later chastised me for leaving, I felt awful. Well, you ran away like a child instead of having an adult conversation. Who's surprised? So, a week later, we went on a long walk and he explained to me he'd been married twice for most of his adult life. And now that he was finally out of those relationships, he needed more time to be by himself. Um, translation, this is a guy that got burnt twice in divorce. He might have been cheated on. He might have been taken for money. He might have struggled over child custody. And now he says, "I'm not getting suckered into a position where I can be, uh, controlled by a woman or by the law or by the government. So I'm just going to, I'm just going to keep it simple and I'm going to keep myself safe." That's what that's what that translates into. See, all of this could have been ironed out before she slept with him. You know, after the first date or two, she, this is where you have the conversation. And this is, this is why talking and the ability to speak to other people, whether it's other women, other men, other people, would solve so much of the world's problems today, but they just can't do it. Amazing what conversation before the bedroom can do. But the advice she's given out for the last, I don't know, 15 or 20 years is do whatever your heart desires. Sleep with whoever you want. If you catch feelings, don't be weak. Just move on in life. There's always someone bigger and better out there. And she can't do that anymore. So now she's getting scared. This is the conversation a woman that is fearing being forever alone is having. That just is because she's the one trying to lock him down, where in the past she was a free bird that never wanted to be locked down. The only thing that changed is time and gravity and wrinkles.
A few weeks later, after two mandatory martinis, so obviously she can't have a serious conversation without alcohol, I raised the exclusivity conversation again. Boy, she sounds a little thirsty, doesn't she? Uh, this time he said, "Put it this way. Let's keep seeing each other and if other opportunities arise and it feels right, we go with them. In the meantime, we keep seeing each other and see how this goes. If it goes well, then we'll have the exclusive chat." Okay, that's him saying, "Uh, we're going to see how this goes. I'm going to keep sleeping with other women 'cause I have lots of options. I'm going to keep sleeping with you for as long as you let me, and maybe someday later we'll have the conversation." That's just his way of towing her along so he can sleep with her more. It's as obvious as the makeup on her face. Uh, she says, "In other words, a beautifully constructed word salad that meant he wasn't planning on shutting up, uh, shutting up shop anytime soon." Correct. I managed to hold it together until I reached my car. Then it was full waterworks. Dear reader, that's your own fault. All of this could have been avoided. Uh, the old me, the me of 10 years ago, would have swallowed it and said, "Okay." Quietly hoping he'd change his mind. Yes. And then you'd go out and sleep with a bunch of other men and reaffirm that you're still a pretty desirable woman. And then you'd move on with your life because you use men and sleeping with men and your beauty of men and your ability to attract men as your therapy. That's how you got over a, a guy that you, she's admitted this before. Like, this is not me making up things. That's what's so wonderful is Jana can't come out and say, "Well, I don't really mean that." Okay, let's go back seven years ago when you wrote this article. Now, yeah, times change, but that's exactly the point. Times are changing for Jana. She's getting older. Maybe she's maturing, but she's also aging. She's falling out of the demographic. The men she wants, wants to date, and now she's trying to lock him down. Uh, she continues on. Oh, the delusion. I've held out far longer than a couple of months with men like this before. But this time, I recognized the pattern. I could see exactly where this was heading. Another unintentional open relationship. Another slow erosion of my needs. Another version of myself waiting patiently for a man to choose me. And then I realized something else, too. It's not that open relationships don't work for anyone. It's that they don't work for me. And pretending otherwise cost me years of clarity and more than a few tears in parked cars. Open relationships worked fine for her when she could sleep with men she desired. It worked wonderfully. She said it multiple times. If this didn't work out, it doesn't matter. This other hot guy or this other desirable guy was more than happy to take me out to dinner and wine and dine me and take me on a vacation and sleep with me multiple times. So, there's obviously plenty of men out there. So, why am I worrying about one guy that did this to me? There's plenty of men out there that desire me. Now, of course, in the end, she said she didn't desire them because they weren't the right type or whatever else for her. But now, now as her dating evolution, now as the opportunities come to a close, now she says, "Open relationships aren't for me, and they never were." When we have 10 years of weekly, if not bi-weekly articles stating the exact opposite. It's not Jana that's changed. It's her reality. The reality of her and finding the men she wants don't want her anymore.
She says, "So this time, instead of agreeing to something that would quietly break my own heart, I chose to walk away. Not dramatically, not angrily, just honestly, because if I've learned anything from a decade of accidental open relationships, they weren't accidental. Secure the relationship, then secure the bedroom. You did it backwards every single time. It's your own fault. It's not accidental. It was your stupidity." Period. End of statement.
For six years now, I've been reading Jana, the dating columnist expert's articles, and I said back then, if she doesn't get a man and settle down before she gets too old, she's going to find herself forever alone. She didn't listen. And now, here comes Forever Alone.
Guys, if you like my work, make sure to join me over on betterbachelor.locals.com or for those of you on YouTube, at least get over to Rumble. The channel is Oddman Out. Uh, I because I also do news stories over there. Anyway, come on over, join us. Great community of like-minded guys. You can sign up for free. Doesn't cost you anything. You can check out the forums. Check out the topics we're talking about. And, uh, you can see the live streams that I've done in the past. And then if you say, "Hey, you know something? I kind of like this. I dig this. I want to be a, a part of this community where I can post and share things and join some of the live streams that I do for supporters only." It's five bucks a month, which is literally less than a crappy cup of coffee from Starbucks. So, come on over, join us today. I think you'll appreciate it. Enjoy the, the members-only live streams that I do. It's a good time. It's a gig community. So, come on over, check it out, and, uh, you won't regret it.