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My partner gave me his, what he called, his green light, and my friend and I had a wonderful night. We connected. I found out his last relationship had been open, and I didn't even know that, and it was so beautiful. I could not wait to tell my partner. I felt so connected to him, so in love. It was one of the two most validating experiences in my life on this journey so far. And so, I left my friend's place. I called him immediately. I was like, "Babe, I can't wait to tell you everything! Thank you so much! Like, this feels so special! I'm so grateful!" And just silence on the line. And then all he says is, "I can't believe you did it." >> [groaning]
Oh, she opened up her relationship, bro. That's what he gave the green light on. Opened it up, spent the night with Chad, and then calls her man expecting him to be excited about it. Bro, yo. Now that I'm really looking at him, this kind of ugly. Me, every few weeks, while looking at my husband while he's breathing. Oh, wow. And then, look at all these. Wow, make sure you get signed up for that charity work, baby. Wow. And then somebody said, "Your comments make it funnier because this is real." And then the creator says, "Laugh my ass off! I love the girlies 'cuz he be thinking he's the prize sometimes, and she don't make any sense." So, you're the one who lays at home, probably on your butt, while he pays all the bills, and you're over here roasting him. I hope he leaves you. Yeah, he should divorce you. Seriously. Public disrespect, dude, are you kidding me? Why would you put up with something like that? I've decided to move into another direction. >> [music]
So, cool. If that's all you have to say, I'll respect it. And that's all you have to say, that's all I'll do. I'm going to respect it. You seem like... >> You said to one another, "And that's all you have to say? This is... that's all you have to say? Let me know when you want to go." You seem like you already made a... It ain't about me already making a decision. You don't have a rebuttal. You seem like you already made a decision. I wanted you to say something. Okay, you're not saying... It's not time to listen, it's time to talk. All of the things you say you want to be there, you're here for me. You're all about the future and everything. It's something I have said for a very, very long time. No reaction will always be the best reaction, homie. You know, I... I know it hurts, but you got to be able to look at that situation and analyze it. Hey, you know what it is, what it is. Yeah. I had a man >> [laughter] >> crying, screaming, and throwing up last night because he found out I was going on dates with other people.
And then I said, "Well, it doesn't feel like you're pursuing me." And then he said, "But I'd love to pursue you more. I just don't want to come off as clingy." And then I suggested he stand in his authenticity and and show up as himself and and declare how he feels about me. If you—if he wants to know me better, know me better. I'm open to it. And he said, "Okay. Let's talk tomorrow." Tomorrow is today. I haven't heard from him, and I don't... Honestly, I'm so detached from dating now, so I'm just like going about my biz. I get a 2-minute voice note from him letting me know that actually >> [laughter] >> he's not ready for a relationship. And, um, he has to date casually right now. I don't give a [ __ ], but you see like how sometimes I feel like men have brain damage.
>> The men have brain damage, but she can't see a guy that is clearly trying to put an effort. If he has such a severe reaction where he's a throwing up... She said he's throwing up, and she says, and she says, "No, well, I'm... I'm still seeing other people." Are you blind? Judging by the huge glasses, clearly. At least, good for this dude for grabbing his own balls and not putting up with her anymore. He's saying, "Oh, yeah, no, I'm not looking for a relationship anymore." At least he learned from the experience and moved on.
The comments: [music] "Never be a backup plan for a woman. Either you are the number one, or nothing at all. 100%! Never be the guy that she has to settle for. I swear that is one of the biggest reasons why we have such an incredibly high divorce rate." It's because women, basically, they ran out all of their biology. You can look at the statistics on this. The average age of marriage for women is like 20, 28, 29, right when they're hitting the wall and their biology is running out. And I can basically guarantee you that they had to settle for the nice guy, the beta guy. And that's one of the huge reasons why the divorce is so high. Because when she has to settle for you, she doesn't respect you. She's been alpha widowed by 10 guys in her past, and you were just the guy that was around. You're either number one or nothing at all. This is so on point. No man of value chases after a woman who rejects him. His time is too valuable, and he moves on looking for a woman who recognizes his worth. No woman on Earth is worth pursuing after rejection. Hell, most aren't even worth a damn even before then. Who hurt you? >> [laughter]
Roll over. My mom never let me have a dog. Hayden, what do you think you'd be doing [music] right now if you weren't dating? Dude, I'd probably have a lot more money. Do you spend that much money on me? Yeah, I do. Like, gosh, I'm always going everywhere, you know what I'm saying? Hey, this is tough. I'm hungry. I'm hungry. I want a snack. I know where it's right there. Like, look at this Gucci bag that I bought you. That was like $2,000. If I wasn't dating you, I'd probably have so [music] much more money. And my car would probably be fully built right now, instead of stock parts. Do you know how much power I'd be...? Why am I with you right now? I'd make so much more power in my car if I wasn't with you. It'd be fully built. You care more about your car than more than me? 100%! I'm dropping you off home [music] right now. We're done. I'm breaking up [singing] with you! What? What? You're breaking up with me? Yes, I just realized how much more faster my car would be if I wasn't with you. You're a loser! [music] We're going home. All right. You're going home.
There is no world where you should allow useless people in your life, especially in your close intimate relationships, where you just have someone in your life that it's like just throwing >> [music] >> money into a furnace over and over. I want you guys to have this mindset while you're dating, while you're seeing women: ask yourself this question. Okay, what is she genuinely bringing to the table? And you cannot say "bedroom fun," okay? You have to take that off the table. Have the mindset of: how is she going to improve my life? And when you'll do that, you'll kind of realize, like, "Huh?" Hm. A lot of these women just aren't that impressive. They're not really bringing, you know, they're not going to really improve my life at all. So, what does this do for you? Higher your standards, good, gives you frame, gives you confidence. But, just keeping it totally real with you guys, this probably means that you're going to be single for a little while. Because trying to find that true >> [music] >> good woman that's going to improve your life, it's rare to find nowadays, especially if you're in the West, all right? If you're really serious about finding a good woman and improving your life, get out of the West. You have to, bro.
>> In a relationship? >> No. Oh. Okay, well, you say "yeah," you say "no." >> We are... we are not in a relationship, no. Okay, I guess we're not. >> [laughter] >> Miscommunication here. >> No, perfect communication. We're actually just an acquaintance. I like... I like, only recently, like met him like 2 weeks ago. >> It was love at first sight, but she's shy. She needs time to like build into it. That's what I think. >> No, I don't. >> Why does the friend zone exist? For losers who are meant to be there. >> And would you say he's in the friend zone? >> Yes, I do have a boyfriend. Oh, you do have a boyfriend! >> him. Just 'cuz there's a goalie, it doesn't mean you can't score.
Yo, that is... that's a wild clip. What the is this guy doing? He's just sitting there. She is talking maximum [ __ ], and he's like, "Haha, [laughter] you're right, I am a puss. I am an absolute beta." >> [laughter] >> Pathetic. She lit- she literally calls him a loser to his face. He's like, "Haha, yeah, you're right. I am in the friend zone. What a loser!" It's like, bro, women like this are going to exist. All right? They are just out there. There are bad women out there in the same way that there are bad men. And it is your job to see, okay, which one is worth your time? Which one is not worth your time? And the ones that call you a loser to his face, you already know, dude. If I had... If I have to complete that sentence, you are destined to be exactly where you are for the rest of your life. You should know: you shouldn't keep people around that treat you this way. That man who got called a loser to his face, that hurt... That hurt me for him. That was disrespectful and cruel. I guarantee you this was not the first time this has happened, either. Disrespect like this really doesn't just, you know, come out of nowhere a lot of the times. Usually, it's built up to this. So, in the beginning, the questions would be like, "Wow, it's so funny you never have girls around you," or something like that. Where it's super, super minor, level one, and then at level five, it's, "Wow, I bet you can't even get a girlfriend if you tried." And then level 10, "Wow, you're a loser!" >> [laughter] >> Damn, that hurt me when she basically called that man a loser. Then it... Basically, she absolutely did. It was not thinly veiled whatsoever. At the end of the day, it's about accountability, okay? Be around people that respect you. It is that simple. If they don't respect you, they're constantly talking to you this way, why are they around you, dude? Why? Is your self-esteem that low where you really think, "Okay, I should accept this. This is fine"? Like, man, you really just have to believe that you are better than that. You are worth being treated with respect, if you are respectable. If you're a hard-working man, you take care of your life, you take care of yourself, you have a good job, you know, you're really on a good track, you should absolutely not allow any kind of disrespect like this, especially from your chick.
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