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There's really only one way to deal with a narcissist, and that is you don't.
Now, a lot of people get mixed up because they can't really tell the difference between narcissism and confidence. Narcissism is, it's just insecurity with better branding. The way to tell the difference is, you actually look at how it affects the other people.
Narcissism, by definition, it needs to diminish others in order to maintain a sense of comfort and security with itself. But confidence, confidence doesn't care what other people are saying or doing. Confidence feels comfortable and secure regardless of what's going on around it.
Now, a lot of what passes as life advice in the self-help space, in my opinion, is simply narcissism dressed up like confidence and then sold at a premium to a bunch of unsuspecting, unconfident people. To unconfident people, narcissism will look like confidence because the behaviors are the same and the words are similar. But to a confident person, narcissism just looks like insecurity.
People ask me all the time, like, "Mark, how do you deal with a narcissist?" And the answer is actually really easy. You don't.