Become the Architect of Your Life | Webinar with Irina Haitin

Hi everyone, my name is Arena and welcome to our live webinar. Today we will be talking about how to become the architect of your life. I hope you can hear me, that you can see me. Please give me some feedback in the chat so I know everything works for us.

Meanwhile, just a couple words actually. Actually, um, today will not be a usual webinar where I give a lot of theory, explanations. Yes, it will be today will be like that. But I will be sharing my personal story. Um, because, um, very often when we look at a person, we think, "Oh, for him it's easy. Oh, he's a Silva instructor, or she's the daughter of Jose Silva. It should be so easy for her, for him, for anyone." But my life is different. My obstacles are different. My disease is different, my headache is different. So today I want to jump straight, basically almost straight to my personal story because, honestly, I should tell you that I am with the Silva method for 17 years. I know about the Silva method for 17 years. I've been practicing actively less. So I want to show you, and I don't know where I would be without the Silva method. Honestly, I don't know if I will be alive or not. What kind of condition, health condition, finances, everything. So, I want to show you where I started, even knowing the Silva method. That's very important because I know many people bought programs from us 10, 15, 20 years and keep buying. And it's not about owning the program. It's about about understanding and practicing the method. And of course, you are part of the Silva method webinar. Uh, I work with Lara Silva, daughter of Jose Silva. So, of course, today I will be referring to Silva, to the Silva method, to Silva method techniques, and I will be sharing my personal experience and my personal, let's say, understanding of the method because everything I tell you, I teach you. And I teach the Silva method in Russian for over, in Russian language, right? I'm Russian-speaking. I live in Estonia for over five.

Okay, I see you're looking good. Thank you. I can hear and see you. Thank you so much. Thank you. Yes, you reminded me about the slides. Now, I love slides. I like to show you something. It's easy for me to keep the structure. So, July for us, it's summer time. In Estonia, summer is very short, and we love summers because it's white nights. We have white nights, and for us, it's already approaching the beginning, the middle of the summer. And the rest of the year, it's quite cold and dark. So we are getting really upset about that it's already July. What about you? Six months since, uh, January, since January 1st, did you do you have, um, the, let's say, the habit to set goals, to work with your goals? When and how do you? I know people set intentions, manifestations, goals. January, maybe December. I like to do it in December. So what about you? Please share with me. Did you, do you usually set goals? Because I know some people stop setting goals or writing goals or working with the goals because they just don't achieve anything. So today I wanted to give you a like a system which can work and maybe wake up again motivation and desire in you to set goals, to work with your goals, knowing the tools we're going to be talking about today. So tell me, not this one. Not here. This one. Slides. Yes.

So, first of all, did you set the goals? And second question, have you accomplished anything from your goals? Have you were a were you able to, what is it, to cross out anything from your list? I would love to hear from you. What have you achieved? What have you done? And I always like to look back. What about five years ago? That's very, five years is a very good timing because in five years, you actually can accomplish a lot of things. And for me, I always look at my life in five, 10 years, looking back, comparing with the life I have right now, with the life I want. Because for me, five years is a mark where I can see the progress. So what about you? If you honestly look back at five years ago, at your life, has your life become better? That's a very important question because I believe if our life is not becoming better, it cannot be just stable. It cannot be just the same because if you are constantly improving your life, working with your life, setting the goals, it becomes, no matter even if you are getting older. I, I mean, honestly, I like myself, I love myself, I appreciate myself, I value myself. I'm more healthy than five years ago, but I got older five years. But opposite, I feel much better.

So in Silva method, we have that mantra affirmation saying every day in every way, I am getting better, better and better, or every day in every way, my life is getting better, better and better. And many people, we have that injected in our in Silva exercises, meditations. And many people think, "Oh, that's enough just to say that." But life doesn't just happen. It's just not your life is not becoming better just by saying that. So my life getting better, I'm getting better. That means every day I'm doing something better, every day. So I maybe exercise a bit, a bit longer or differently. I look out for my what I am eating, what how I'm moving, what is with my relationship and etc. So every day I am focusing on getting my life on actually consciously on becoming better. In that case, your life will become better and better. And I can see.

Okay, good, good, good. I do not set goals. I do by month. Awesome. I do the same. I I said I will share how I set my goals. I like that. So, like I said, let me share with you my personal journey because Silva method came into my life 17 years ago. Actually, that would be very interesting. How long have you known Silva? So I would say 17 years. 17 years and actively practicing 10. So it will be 17 and 10 years. What about you? Give me two numbers. How many years you know about Silva and how many years you practice it daily, consistently with your life, with your goals. For me, it's 10 years. So right now, I will show you my life with in different areas about 10 to 12 years ago, just to get you an idea where I was 10 years ago, when I was 10 years younger, where I was. And if I wouldn't consciously start working with my life, that would be just, I don't know. But we don't go there anyway.

Okay. So 10 years ago, I was in, I was about 12, 14 kilograms, u, what is it, 28 pounds heavier. Can you imagine? Almost 30 lbs plus. So I didn't do exercises. And I remember I tell people, I tell people that story. I remember I was trying to do yoga, uh, and I, I had that mat on my in my bedroom, and I remember myself lying down on that mat and crying, crying because I didn't want to do anything. I didn't want to do stretching. And I was crying thinking, "Is this I should do for forever? People tell you have to move, and this is what I have to do my whole life, really?" I was like in tears. So I didn't move. I didn't, I didn't do any exercises. I was kind of like putting on with alcohol. I was, uh, I, I didn't really smoke, but I could. So I didn't exercise, and I really was in low energy. So I didn't have, I was 10 years younger. I didn't have really like any disease yet. But if I would continue that way, probably by now, I would have maybe pre-diabetes because I was overweight there. I don't have many pictures, but you can see I have a scarf over my body because I want to, I wanted to cover my body so no one could see me. I was like putting, um, clothes. And look at that face. It doesn't fit into the camera, actually.

Slowly, step by step, action by action, habit by habit, I will talk about that. I started to work how I look, how I move, with my weight. And I am in my ideal weight, right? We're talking about ideal weight. I'm in my ideal weight for for the last five years. Five years. And I've been stable. It's there's no like gaining, d going down. There's no strict diet. I have a very good nutrition, what I found which is working for me. I exercise daily. There's no single day that I don't exercise. It's just the matter of what kind of exercise. I'm jogging, I'm walking, I'm lifting weights, I'm doing stretching, I'm doing morning, um, uh, how it's called, like morning exercising every day. No matter what time I wake up, if I'm at the airport, I will do that in the airport because I created that kind of system for me. With nutrition, I can eat anywhere. I can exercise anywhere. I, I can be in my best body. So, I, I feel so much better. And of course, for me, Lara Silva. And here's the picture. It's just me jumping and with my girlfriends. We are on the, we are doing sometimes, um, sports travels. We travel for some kind of, um, like not marathons, but, uh, for the runs, let's say. Here we were running in Porto in Portugal for it. We were running only 12 kilometers, I think. So I think it was 12 or 15, not, not many. I, I had done half marathon once a year. It was, I have to prepare for that. So I, I jog for fun. For I love jogging. I, I hated it. And now I, every day, we didn't have time today because we got a small kitten yesterday. So we didn't run with my husband, but we will be running after our webinar. So we will be exercising with him after that. I did my exercise in the morning, but I didn't run. So, no, it doesn't matter. I'm 47. My eyesight, my blood pressure, my blood sugar, everything in very good condition, and I plan to continue that way.

So now, love and relationships. I was, um, I got apart from my son's father when my son was only 9 months old. He was very small, and for 10 years, I was raising my son by myself. So for those 10 years, I was alone or in quite bad relationships, like not abusive, but in in the sense of allowing a person to, let's say, they were not relationships for me making me happy. I was in relationships, but I was not happy because this is was that was not the relationship what I wanted. So my low esteem was low because my weight was too high. I didn't move. I, I didn't have energy. So, and of course, I, I had a lot of resentment towards my past partners. But I mean, there's no one to to blame, only me, because I was allowing people to behave with me the way they were behaving. And thanks to Silva method, thanks to Silva method technique, subjective communication, you probably heard that story from Lara. And I remember when Lara was telling the story how she met her husband, Mel. I was like listening like a fairy tale. "Oh my god, I wish I could do the same." I was thinking, but I didn't use that technique. And only several years later, when I repeated exactly how Lara Silva teaches us, I, um, in six months, I met my future husband, and in one year from the, from a year and a half from that moment, we got married. So this year, we're celebrating eight years of our marriage. And I should tell, this is how techniques work. We match with my husband so well. It's like, you, you cannot imagine meeting a person so suitable to you. And again, I'm not an ideal person. He's not ideal. It's not about meeting an ideal person because I don't believe there are any ideal people on the earth. It's about meeting the person who suits you so well, like a puzzle. So it's the same works with my husband. We are s in a such good partnership. We are so lucky together, and we grow and moving and developing together. And I always tell, when you meet the right person, 1 + one, it's not two, it becomes 11. You multiply everything what you can do. And of course, thanks to that, but again, thanks to Silva, thanks to me that I was applying Silva techniques.

So now, my career. I was with Silva method, I didn't practice it. So at some point, and really, I was like, "Silva doesn't work." I sometimes share that stories, is because I was not practicing. So I, I started to look for something different in my life that will bring me happiness. So I was doing work just for the sake of work. But sometimes I really, I didn't want to do what I was doing. I was afraid of changing something, and I, I had a feeling that I have to do something different. But I was so, so afraid, so afraid of that. And again, thanks to Silva, thanks to Lara Silva, thanks to her personal guidance. Um, we became really good friends. I call Lara my Mexican mother, my second mother, because she is really, um, support. If I need any help, I text you. I text her. I, we are in touch through, uh, chat almost every day. We are on the calls. So Lara really helps me. And thanks to her, that was her not intention, but she saw that potential in me, and she was telling me for a long time, "You have to teach Silva." And I was like, "No, no, no, no." And she was giving me some space. Lara giving me some space. And slowly, again, it just happened. I didn't really want to teach Silva. It just happened. Actually, the same happened with Lara when she was coming back to Silva method. She didn't really, she just needed money. And her brother Tony asked her, then offered her to help her during the seminars, to put out coffee and cookies and everything. And this is all what Lara wanted, money. So the same was with me. I didn't have the opportunity. I either close everything connected to Silva, or I start teaching Silva. And it was about six years ago when I was doing my first course, and I was like shaking. And you know, for in April, I, so the same was with English language. Lara was telling me, "Start doing things in English." I was like, "No, no, no. In English? No." Never say never with Lara and Silva method. So, and you know, in April, I had my first webinar. Today is my sixth webinar in English. And I was only putting together presentations. I did, I don't know, 200 probably different webinars in Russian language. But I, every time I create a webinar, I do something differently. I come up with a different structure or different examples. And even though you, you probably hear me telling many things the same, but again, it's a little bit different. So I was putting, putting slides together for today's webinar. I was really enjoying. I really enjoy talking about Silva, teaching Silva. Right now, I'm doing, I do live seminars. I travel sometimes. I was in Germany, uh, in spring. So, um, in Russia, in Russian language, I, I travel to Russia as well for the seminar. I did seminar, live seminar here. So I probably plan some kind of live, uh, training online, of course, for now in English, but later. Right now, I do live online in Russian language. So I, I wake up with ideas. I love what I'm doing, and I'm getting really good financial reward for that. But most important, I love what I do. And sometimes people, when when they start doing Silva or buying Silva and getting the first result, one result, I get so often questions, "How do I teach Silva?" And I always think, like, you have to go through the path. I had my path over 10 years. And when Silva, actually, only when I started to practice, only when it became part of me. And again, only when you repeat it. I've been to 50 live seminars by Lara in different, we travel together. I was lucky when Lara was doing, was still doing live seminars. I traveled with her. We did in in New York, we traveled to New York, we traveled to, uh, France, we traveled to Norway. So we traveled to many, Greece, Moscow, how many times? So we traveled many countries together, and I got lucky to be part of seminars what Lara was doing. But Lara is on, not even soft retirement. She, she really enjoys her husband, her family. They travel a lot. It's not that Lara is not teaching because there's, it's, she doesn't, Lara doesn't teach because she's too busy with her life, with exercising, with traveling, with her. And they just got back from a cruise. So there, there. So I'm helping right now Lara with English language.

Anyway, I'm now finances. Again, let's go back 10 years ago. I was 35, maybe 12 years ago. I got into a situation where I had to ask money from my mom. Can you imagine? A grown-up woman, 35, 36 years old, asking money from my mom, from from mom, because I didn't save money. Even though I had a good income, I didn't save. I was, uh, making debts. I was using my credit cards. I was living over, over my income, actually. And of course, at some point, when things changed in my life, that was a really scary situation. So now, and when we, when we married with my husband, we were both kind of in the same situation, in financial situation. But we started consciously to work with our finances. We created savings. We, we lived, I lived in an old apartment. Now we live in the city center, in a new apartment. So we have passive income, actually. We got rid of our debts and everything. So I know how to manage money now. I, of course, f, but I'm prepared for my future. It's not that it doesn't matter what happens. I got prepared, and I'm getting prepared every month. It's not like you, it's not that you exercise once and then for five years, you accept. No, with finances, with your love, with your relationship, with your health, this is where you move every day. You have a plan, and you, you work on that plan.

So, social environment. Here is my friends and my family, right? Because, uh, I love and relationship for me is very diff, it's a separate area because it's very important for for us. I didn't have really healthy environment. I had friends who were, uh, abusing alcohol, and we were like, really partying. I was already a grown-up woman to party like that. I wasn't 20 years old. I was kind of 35, 36, partying hard. So, and, uh, and for example, I didn't have a good relationship with my mom. I had a lot of resentment towards her for how she was raising me. And slowly, I started to work with my life, and I have now a group of girls, we travel, we run together. I, uh, have a big family, thanks to my husband's family, extended family. My brother got married. So now, here's a fresh picture from October, where we traveled all together to Greece because my brother lives in the US. So we met in Greece to, and we spent time together. And now we have a really big family, extended family. I call, and I have friends from theater because I play there. So my social life is very busy. I quit alcohol four years, five, almost four and a half years ago. I don't drink at all. And I don't know why I was drinking. I, I always tell people, alcohol is overrated. Actually, you don't need alcohol to enjoy your life. You don't need alcohol to relax. It's, it's opposite. It, it, uh, doesn't help you to relax. So, uh, and joy, creativity. Right? It's how I enjoyed my life, how I, I was allowing myself to rest. I was, um, I did, yeah, like I said before, I was trying. But there's actually no time for even creating time for myself, putting myself first, to enjoy. If I was not doing something, I felt really guilty. I was working a lot. But it's not about working a lot. It's everything about balance, right? That you, you balance your work, your social life, you balance how you rest. So I was just working, working, working. Now I really work on my creativity. I'm not talking about even Silva, because I create programs there. I create meditations there. I record meditations in Russian language a lot. I'm not there yet for English meditations, but I'm getting, we are getting there. So I travel, we travel with husband many. We just got from Azerbaijan, so we travel a lot. I play in theater. It's for adults, but it's, it's a very interesting, interesting experience. So it's, I really enjoy my life, and I have a lot of things there, very busy social and, um, personal life.

Now, how can you manage all those changes? Again, if you look at your life, I don't know where you are at, but sometimes I meet a person, he, that person tells me, "Oh, it's so bad at work, and my health, and my career, and my relationship, and this and that. Where do I start? How do I work with that?" And again, I always tell people, "I was there. I was a mess. I was a mess in every area of my life." And slowly, I did everything what I will teach you today.

So now we move to how to become the architect of your life, of your life. I will look at the chat right now because I want to give you seven key elements which helped me, and I hope they will help you so you can. Okay. Yes. Yeah, someone is really using for 40 years. Okay. We have people who just recently heard about Silva. Hi. Hi. Thank you.

So, seven key elements, how to become the architect of your life. And of course, and again, it's my sixth webinar in English. It's my 250th webinar in Russian language, and you always would hear the same: What are your goals? What are your priorities? And if your life, if your health, uh, if your, uh, relationship, health, finances, career, happiness, joy, rest is on a low level, this is where the normal question: "Where do I start? How do I start?" And I want to give you a really very simple, very simple strategy which I actually use every year. We do that with my husband. It's not in five, in 20 years, but for many, for many people, even 20 years sounds a little bit scary. But for why I like to create your ideal you and life in 20 years, because it gives you the perspective where you want to move. And when you know the big vision, I call it big vision, when you know your big vision, it's, it's so much easier to create the path there because you can work on your career, but for what? What is your big vision for career? You can want a relationship or a husband, but for what? That's why I always ask people, start. And it's okay. Just imagine. Just come up. Just don't show it to anyone. Write it for yourself. Play it. Remember how children were playing and imagining things? Do the same. Sit down, take your time. This is part, this is meditation as well. And if we have time, I prepared, not, not for 20 years, but I prepared one meditation also for to practice. But let's see if we have time. We do that practice at the end.

So we have main areas of our life. There can be less, there can be more. You can only leave maybe two, three, four, five areas. You can take all the areas. Sit down and write down how you want your life to look in 20 or maybe more years. Create your big vision. I always was using 20 years. I'm 47, will be 48. But for me now, it's more fun to create how I want my life to be when I'm 100 years old. So for me, it's more than 50 years. Can you imagine that? And yes, I have that big vision of me at 100 years for health. And here's the example. Here's this, just excuse me for my examples, but just to show you the idea. So for health, it's not only "I want good health." No, what exactly? What is your weight? What is your energy? What do you sleep? How often do you exercise? What do you do? Do you swim? Because on my 100, I want to do a triathlon. I want to do an Iron Man at some point. Not now. I'm too young for that. Later. So, and the same, here's, we will be going through four main areas. For me, finances and work and career are connected, but here they are split into two different areas. So sit down for health. Exactly. What is your health in 20 years? You, you cannot go 20 years. Go, go, go in 10 years. 10 years is hard. Do five years. Because you remember I asked you how your life is different from five years back, because five years is really a good time to make big changes. And what about finances? What income do you want in numbers? Particular numbers. Do you have savings? How much savings do you want in 20 years? I know exactly what kind of, uh, passive income we want, what kind of income we want. I, I know exactly what our financial situation will be. This or better. I, I set goals, but I constantly work on my goals. Every year I revise my picture for 100 years. I add things, I remove things, I adjust things. And then this is my big vision. I do it every year, once a year. And from there, I build my, my path for, for, for this year. So the same for work. I know what I want to do at 100. I want to be on the stage and I want to teach Silva. Maybe it won't be Silva. Maybe in five years, it, I change it to not to Silva, something else. It doesn't matter. Right now, I have that vision, and it excites me. And the same for love and relationship, what kind of relationship I want with my husband, with my family. So you can go on and on. Just give yourself, be brave, bold. Don't show to anyone. Just dream big. Dream big. Put things there because you, once you have written them down, if it's your goal, you will find a way there. And again, it's 20 years far. We are more, we are more brave and bold to put something really far away because, "Oh, it's 20 years, I have plenty of time." But then you start working on that, and sometimes if it's really, if you're working on that goal, you can achieve that goal in five years, actually. So, and this is what I like to create. I call it matrix of life, or matrix of goals. It doesn't matter how you call it. And this is what I do once a year for my life. We do it, my husband does it for his goals, I do it for my goals, and we do one for our common goals because we match, um, where we want to live, how we want to do, we match our goals. We do it together. So we have a connected matrix of our life as well. But we have personal goals, of course, because he's for career, his own personal goals, for my career, personal goals. So, but for common areas, we match them.

So now you put in your matrix, and you can do it in one, one sheet, your big vision. It's in 20 years, and then you fill the gap. You create the path. You start where you are right now. Your point A. And how I showed you. Yes, you have to look at at your life right now, in your health, in your love, in your finances, in your career. You start with point A. You have a big vision, and then you fill the gaps. And there's, you can use different systems. For example, for me, I use the gap where I want to be in five years, where I want to be in one year, and then I know where I want to be, where I need to be in one month, in order. This is my priority. Like, when I have that set, this is one month my priority for this month because I know exactly what I want to achieve in health, finances, love, and for example, career, and other things. And then every month, I look, I revise my goals. I adjust them. I revise my goals. I adjust them. I look what happened to my life. I, um, measure point A or value point A, and I move. And this is how I move because every day takes you to your goal for this month. Every month moves you forward to the goal for this year. Every year moves you forward for the goal for the next 20 years. So this is a system what works for me. If you like it, please use it. Uh, I. So you fill the spreadsheet, you fill the gap, and you concentrate only on on the first month. That's it. You don't have to think about anything else. You can take even one area, one month, and that would be enough because when you work on one area, it always improves other areas. Automatically it happens. It influences your whole life. But sometimes when you're like, "Oh, maybe health, maybe finances, maybe this." Then you get scattered, you don't do anything. And months, day by day, week by week, months by months pass, nothing changes.

Now, element number two, that's very important. Of course, responsibility. First of all, you, you created that matrix. You look at your point A, and it doesn't matter what is written there. You have to take responsibility that that's my creation because if you want your life created in 20 years, what you written down, that's going to be your creation. But what you have right now, this is also your creation. So take responsibility for what you created, and tell yourself that now I will be actively, consciously participating in creating the life, love life, of a love to life of my desire. I will do that. So now it's not about, it's not about the past anymore. It happened already. You made some mistake. You did something. You waited for five, 10 years. You did, you didn't do. Doesn't matter. From now on, how can I behave, do what I can learn, what I can heal? From now on, I take responsibility. And you change the question. Not, not "Why is it happening? Why did it happen? Why life punishes me? Why no?" What today I can do so I can be there? And today and tomorrow, you ask the same question. And today, and today, and today. And especially, it's easy when you have the matrix of life. It's easy. You know their answer. And it's actually doesn't take long time for, for us with husband. We do it usually on 31st of December during the day. It's our ritual. We were searching for our time for the, for this ritual. We really enjoy it. We, we celebrate a big, uh, celebration on Christmas with the whole family, and usually New Year's Eve is a little bit different for us. It's more quiet. So we enjoy that with him. Sometimes we do it on our honeymoon travels. It's, will be eight years of our anniversary, and we will go to the to France where we went for our honeymoon. So maybe we will revise our goals there once more. So it's just, we are flexible. We are enjoying it. We do it because I want to move forward. I want to move forward.

So now you take responsibility and you look what actually brought you where you are right now. You honestly evaluate why it's health, the health is like that. Maybe you overeat, or emotional eating, or don't. So you evaluate your, I call it obstacles, or things which brought you to where you are, because from there, you take the action. Okay, now how can I change it? What can I do so I can behave today differently? And the same, you look, okay, I don't save. I sometimes people, I'm worried about the future, why? Because I don't have savings. Okay, so what now? You start saving every day. My son started to save last year, and he has savings which some adults don't have. It's not much, but he's only 19. He's going to be 19. It's almost €2,000 he saved for maybe for study, maybe to buy an apartment later, just to use that money for the, for something else. But I know people who don't have that money, and he, he's created his own plan, and he's following through. So the same with your career, with your love, you look why you're there. You take responsibility, not to blame yourself. This is important, not to blame or punish yourself, because once you know what brought you where you are right now, it's easier to change it.

And there's number, uh, three, element number three. How to change that? And I call it obstacles. I call this is obstacle. My lack of movement, or overeating, or, I don't know, resentment. This is obstacle. This is why I'm here, because I'm showing on the past, or afraid of future, or doing something wrong. So how do we overcome obstacles? Again, we, we create, we change the question. Okay, if this is what I don't do, what can I do? I start saving. How much? Every day, or every month, for example, every year. Because in order to be in one year, in 20 years, where you want to be, you need to create the action plan. So you change your obstacles to the, let's say, positive action. And, uh, for example, I will work on my sleep. I will go to bed at that time. I will improve my, maybe for career. Maybe I will improve my knowledge. Maybe I will do that. Maybe I start exercising. So you create that action plan for every area. And then, of course, there is the question, "And so what? I did it. Okay, I did it many times. I told myself on January 1st, I will do this, this, this, and I'm now on July. In July, and it doesn't happen. What do I do?" And this is where I tell people, sometimes we know what we need to do, or people, or I don't know, sometimes I read books, they tell things what we should do, but they don't tell how to do that. So, how to move my body daily? If I'm lazy, if I'm procrastinating, if I'm dropping, if I don't have energy, how do I do that? How do I save money? If I have bad habits, if I overspend, if, if I get upset, I go and swipe my card. How do I do that? That's the very important question. How do I overcome those things? Well, actually, actually overcome obstacles. Not just write them down, not just create this nice image on the paper. How actually I do that? And I honestly, again, you are part of Silva method webinar. So I, I will be talking about Silva method. If you have better systems or methods, of course, if it works for you, please. If you're here, that means you are searching for something, and something is not working. And I always tell, you need to have a system which helps you actually apply those changes what you just wrote. Hey, hey, let's write it down. And like motivational seminars where we come out, yes, now I will be doing that. In two weeks, you're like, not even there. System. And this is what's interesting part about Silva. Many people don't really get Silva. I mean, I mean, it's okay. I didn't get Silva for many years also. Thanks to Lara, taught us because she was with Silva, traveling, teaching with Jose Silva for many years. And we, we, it's now I understand why Jose Silva. I was, when I knew that, I was like, "Why did he spend 22 years on on his research? Why for me? I don't know what, what you thought when you heard that number, 22 years of research? Why? Why do we need so long time?" Because Jose Silva was a genius, and he was creating. He was not just creating, let's say, single stand, single standing, um, like discoveries. He, he put that everything into this system. That's why we have Silva Life System. That's why we have Silva Intuition System, because it's really a system what Jose created. I don't want to be talk about Jose Silva, his discoveries, what his. I just, I want to jump straight into actually what is Silva method. Why, why if you, for example, if you go for Silva Life System, there's 13 models, 14 chapters, and you start with stress management. And people like, "Oh, I don't have stress. I no sleep. I, I have a pill for headache. And I have Red Bull for energy." No, no, no. "Give me this mirror of the mind technique. I need to manifest. I need to change what my boss is telling me." Or, "Yes, I need to change my husband. I want to change my boss. I want to change the president, what he's doing." Yes, this is, "Give me mirror of the mind." And I always tell people, Silva method is not about that. Silva method is about changing you, changing your life, and then as a result, your environment changes. Physical environment changes. Manifestation, physical manifestation happens when mental or subjective manifestation happens only after that. But what is mental manifestation? What is subjective? How to use it? What is mind? How do we use it? We create first with your mind, and then we get the results on a physical level. But how do we do that? And again, Silva created. It seems quite boring in the beginning. All these meditations, exercises, we call them exercises where you program techniques. And you don't understand why. If, why do I need alarm technique if I can set an alarm on my phone? Why do I, I need to remember things if I can write them down on my phone? Why do I need headache control technique if there are pills, you know? But this is where how the system works. In order to activate your intuition, you first work with the foundation. You learn how to relax, how to enter alpha level, how to manage your state, how to work with your emotions, how to work with your thoughts, how to work with your internal world, with your beliefs. And that's why we have techniques for stress management, for relaxation, for mind-body connection. Only then we go, we enter healing techniques. Only then, only then we go to the problem-solving techniques, to the manifestation techniques, and only then we, we learn intuition techniques. And this is the techniques what more or less again taught in Silva Life System, in Life seminar, because they can change. They can change. For example, I know hand levitation technique. I don't know if anyone teaches that. I teach it only in live seminars. I don't think we, we have hand levitation in English, at least. With Lara, glo anesthesia, we have part of, um, for example, for healing program. So, but more or less, H. Silva created, not just discovered that your alpha level is best for mental activity, that you can use your mind. He didn't just discover that doing 20 years of research. He created techniques to solve any kind of problem you have because in order to move, to make your body want to move and exercise, you start with your sleep. You start with your stress. You start with clock technique. This is where clock technique and all those techniques start to work. It's not the willpower. It's the programming where how you use your mind. You program your brain, and your brain gives orders to your body, and you do it with your mind. And all this Silva method, it's Silva Mind Control, or Silva Mind System, or Silva Life System. It's, it's everything in the system. So again, this is, I don't know, 18 maybe techniques right now which are more or less part of Silva Life. Only one program, Silva Life System, we have. And here are the examples. For example, lack of movement, you use free fingers technique for that. So this is where system what you not just learned, not just listened once, one meditation. No, Silva method technique, when you use that technique in the moment you need. If you have a headache, you use that technique. If you can't fall asleep, you use technique. If you don't want to go for a run, you use that technique. If someone upsets you, stress management technique. So this is where you use techniques what Silva created Ed for overcoming obstacles. Now, we answer not "What I need to change?" but Silva method gives you a real system and techniques how, how to create, overcome procrastination. How to overcome resentment? How to overcome laziness? How to overcome excessive spending? How to overcome emotional eating? Silva gives you. If I, you don't want, if you don't know what to do, there's a glass of water technique. There are your guides in laboratory, or you just go to laboratory. I, if I get a little bit sick, I go straight to my laboratory. Straight, I heal myself. I can heal myself in one night in laboratory. The moment I get something with my throat, next day I, I heal. I heal. I, next day I'm totally healthy. So I use Silva techniques all the time. So there is a system, Silva method. And again, I showed you Silva Life System. We offer Silva Intuition System. That's the system Jose Silva created to actually activate your intuition because you do it in Silva Life System, but you enhance it, you understand it, and you have. Maybe we do next webinar where we talk about intuition. I actually wanted to do something on intuition. So intuition, there is a special course on mind-body healing. Only healing, we talk only about healing. There's a course on manifesting. But I always tell people, go study them in that order. Start always with Silva Life System, then do Silva Intuition, then do Silva Manifesting, Silva Mind Body Healing, and then finances. I always tell people, by the moment you move to finances, you probably will be already on a different level, and that would be just a very, a lot of people start and finances were the lowest, like the main priority, uh, for people, main priority for, for the life. And I still, I tell people, work with your sleep, work with your energy, work with your health, work with your self-worth, and your finances is the extension of you. Like it or not, money you receive, or abundance you have in the physical world, is the extension of your, um, internal world. That's why you want more money, work on your internal state, internal world. And one of the best techniques, not just talking that you have to do real techniques. You, you have limiting beliefs, you work with beliefs. You have problems with sleep. Again, for example, I programmed sleep control technique over 10 years, more. I was 30. 30. For 18 years ago. Yes. 17 years ago, and I was actively using that technique for the last, not, not right now, but in the spring, I, I couldn't fall asleep, probably my hormones or something, and I worked on that, and I balanced my sleep only with mental techniques what I learned 18 years ago. So this is how. And this is only the programs. Big programs what Lara created. That's all creation by Lara. All exercises, everything created by Lara. And of course, we have many more for kids and for that. We have many programs, actually. Lara Silva was very productive.

Now let's talk about this, um, key element number five. It's, of course, discipline. So you can buy all these five programs, s, not even buy. You can sign up. You can do whatever, but you need to have the discipline to go through that, to work on with your goals, to finish what you started, to go. So it's a, it's, um, I, I have to be honest, nothing is done without discipline. And then there's a question, "How do I do that?" You start slowly. You start with your. That's why I tell people, take one area, take one action, make it work, then move to another one, because it's so easy to drop everything when you have too many things on your plate. So this, and can you promise walk every day for 10 minutes? Yes, it's easy. 10 minutes a day. Only 10 minutes a day. Can I make a promise and make myself disciplined for that? Yes. But if you think, "Can I run a half marathon in one month?" No, I don't want to. I don't want to wake up and do that. I don't want to do that. But can I walk? Can I then jog one mile? Can I jog two miles? Can I do that? Slowly, slowly, slowly. So, you have to search. And that's why I always tell people, habit tracker. It's a funny thing, but it works. It makes you do things when you put. And I use habit tracker for injecting new actions. So if I want a new action to become part of my life, and I've been, for example, meditating, exercising for many years, and I was still filling habit tracker every day because it takes only two minutes for me. I revise my goals because I have that, I have the book like that by my bed, and I do it before falling asleep. I open, uh, my notes. I write down couple, couple sentences how my day went. I fill the habit tracker, and I revise my goals. Once a month, I revise my goals for the next month, and I close it up. Less than five minutes, and I fill it every day. So try habit tracker. Even if there will be one action, and you will be putting yourself good grades, pluses, marks, you will feel so much better looking at that. And then next month, you add another. Sometimes people make two long lists, one action for this, let's say, week or month. Now we have two.

more elements if you have. Any questions, please write them down because we are approaching the end. Knowledge, of course, again. All right, now, you at one hour. We are at right now, mark one hour live webinar. And I'm, it's what free webinar. Let's say it's more about showing the opportunity or possibilities. What can be done if we take Silver Life System? It's 13 to 15 hours of packed knowledge. If we take Mind Body Healing, it's another hour. So it's, it's packed with knowledge. So seek out for new information or knowledge. It doesn't matter. I'm not talking about Silver. I'm talking about any kind of knowledge. If it's health, and of course, here I will be talking about, but it can be knowledge at your career. It can be knowledge in nutrition. It can be knowledge in movement. What works for you and doesn't work for you. Can be any kind of knowledge. But I think learning, developing your knowledge constantly, working on that, being a life learner, it's so interesting, so much interesting. So you, and actually in these five programs by Laora Silva, you learn so many things. And maybe you don't even need other 200 personal development books. I mean, I like just for the change, but I've been with Silva and listen to every single program for, I think, more than 10 times, so many years. So I like to listen to different perspectives and different authors. I like to do. I always listen to something every day. I listen to someone or or La. I enjoy calls with Lara. I relisten to them, revise them, come back to them. So I really like that.

And key number seven is motivation, of course. How, even it's not even only motivation, it's more even about support. Do I do it correctly? For example, when, uh, I, I didn't, I don't have it on my slides. I used to have it for another webinar. For example, when I, I wanted to get discipline, knowledge, and motivation for doing regular exercise. Do you know what did I do? That's so funny. When my husband heard that, he was like, "Really?" I didn't, I didn't take a personal trainer. No, I didn't sign up for the gym. No, I went for the training to become a personal trainer. I enrolled into the paid nine months long program, how to become a personal trainer, because it helped me to develop discipline, to get knowledge about how to shape my body, and to get support and motivated because I paid money and I really wanted to finish and get that certificate. I don't use it. I don't train people. I don't use it. But I use it for myself. And everything I learned for discipline, for motivation, for support, for knowledge, I use it for me. And it was probably five years ago I graduated. So the, uh, it was nine months long course with theory, with, uh, not biology, really not biology. Anyway, I, I didn't prepare it for in English, some anatomy, anatomy, but really hard, uh, training. I mean, Um, and we had an exam at the end when we, where we worked with the person we don't know. They just introduce like a customer, and we have to do the training, proper training, one hour training, and we have three teachers watching you like that around and looking everything and hearing everything you tell to your customer and you do with him. And out of the group, we had a group of 25 people. I was the only one person who passed that exam from the first time. I was the only one in the whole group. And the course was in Estonian, and I'm a Russian speaking person, and Estonian is my second language, like English. And I passed it from the first time because I used Silva techniques, all kind of syllabi I could use to pass that exam. And it was successful, and I passed like, really, like I passed on time. Everything I did, everything. This is motivation. This is what I'm talking about. Not just enrolled into the gym, you know, or got get a personal trainer. And now I'm a personal trainer through myself.

So where you can get that motivation or support or the person who can help you answer questions? It was probably two months ago when I posted a simple, simple, simple page on Laora's website because it was kind of, let's say, on demand for Russian, but in Russian language. I was doing a lot of, uh, webinars with my, not webinars, calls with my customers. So I posted, um, a page for private sessions with me. And I didn't even announce them anywhere, but people started to sign up. Now I have four, five calls a week. I, I don't announce them. I don't advertise them. There's just, it's just there on the website. So, and I was like, oh, okay, people really need that. People, people really need a human being explaining according to their needs, to their questions, because we are so different. And if Silver technique, you read about that and you apply it, and it's a little bit different for you, where to ask, how to ask, how to get that information. We got lucky. Many people got lucky. They got training straight from Laour when Laour was doing master programs for the last two years. It's a very small group. Very expensive. So expensive training, small group, live calls with Lara, weekly live calls. We don't have that luxury anymore. Now, only for graduates, for really small group. Lara is doing live calls on Zoom once a month. It's a, it's a limited offer. We invite only people who graduated, who bought five programs, who, so it's not for everyone because we are, we have to, um, get some kind of level before we ask questions. So that's why I decided I talk about my personal journey. I talk about key elements that work for me, and I introduce the kind of support I can offer to the Silva community. So if you feel that you need this support, you can choose one of the options. I prepared different options right now. So far was available only one private session, and I have people who just buying one after another, one after another. So I was thinking, okay, maybe I can create a package of four sessions, or maybe another package of four sessions with me plus one Silver program, what you choose. It can be Silver Life System, it can be Manifesting, it can be Intuition. You, we can, I can help you to pick the program depending on your needs, depending on your goals, depending where you are, where you want to be. So, and plus to that, we have four private sessions. Again, it doesn't have to happen every week. It sometimes I tell people, it can happen every two weeks. Sometimes we can longer. Sometimes I give time to the person first to study the program. Then we have a call. We adjust goals. Then person practices. So we have contact. We are, um, I give support on chat to that person. So we, I send the additional information, information, techniques, meditations, explanations, whatever. I'm here to motivate and support you. So I'm just, if you're seeing that, hearing that, if it resonates with you, if my journey, my story, the way I teach Silva resonates with you, you are welcome to book any option with me. Um, right now, I still have space. I really enjoy private sessions. I love them. I love everyone is so different. I love to think and come up with different solutions for everyone. That's my, that's my passion. So that's probably it from for now from me. I will post the link right now here, and then I will post the link in the comments, uh, after the replay is available. There will be a button on the page where you can ask me a question if you have any question about any package. I will be happy to help you. So here are the seven key elements, just to repeat. This is what worked for me, and I show you my, my path, and I hope you will take that also. Some, you, that, that webinar was beneficial. Now, I would love to see if you have any questions. That's number one. Secondly, I would love to hear if that webinar was beneficial for you. And too many questions, right? And I want to ask you, I have a really nice meditation that I created for another webinar. I call it, I called it, let me open. It was called My Best Year, because we were doing that in the end of, end of, with my group, end of last year, with, uh, for that med, for that webinar. We can call it, we can actually keep it My Best Year. We can keep that. So, do you want to do meditation with me? I can guide you through that meditation. It probably will be about 15, maybe 18. And let me look at the comments. You are quiet. I don't ask questions. I just talk, talk, talk. Mhm. Will we get slides if we missed something? Okay. I will add, Mariana. I will add the download link, like we did before with previous. Let me post the link for the, for the sessions in case anyone wants to take a look. And then it's already, it's actually already, uh, part of the website as well, on the website. Yes. Unice is voting for meditation. Good. I hope some other people will stay as well. Let's do the meditation. The My Best Year. I think middle of year is also very good because it doesn't matter when you do. It doesn't matter where your best year starts. It can start. It can start today. So, let me, this is how we do. I use close my video. Shut down my video. Now I will use light background on my phone. Music background. The serenity sound, what I really like. Let me know if you can hear it. And it doesn't really interrupt my voice. It's should be quiet on the background. Now, meditation, My Best Year. Find a comfortable position. Close your eyes. Take a slow deep breath. And while exhaling, relax your body completely, releasing and relaxing tensions and pressures along the. To help you relax, I'm going to direct your attention to different parts of your body. Relax your scalp. Relax your forehead. Relax your eyes. Relax your face, jaw, and tongue. Relax your neck and throat. Relax your face, shoulders, arms, and hands. Relax your back. Continue breathe slowly, deeply, rhythmically as you relax your chest externally and internally. Relax your abdominal area externally and internally. Relax your knees. Relax your calves. Relax your feet. Take another deep breath. And while exhaling, relax your mind by thinking of a passive and tranquil scene. Any scene that makes you feel tranquil and passive helps to relax your mind. Do that now. Take another deep breath. And while exhaling, connect with your inner self by acknowledging the calm and peaceful qualities of your inner experience. Experience. You are now at a deeper, healthier level of mind, deeper than before. Make a point of reference of how it feels to be so deeply relaxed. Relaxed in body and in mind. Now imagine that a line of your life appears in front of you, like a road moving forward. On this line are your past, your present, and your future. Take a mental step forward along this timeline and imagine that you are moving one year into the future. Simply allow yourself to arrive at the point where one of the best years of your life has passed. Look around. This is your life one year from now. One of the best years. What do you see? Who do you see? Where are you? What people, faces, space do you notice? What do you hear? What do you feel? Now, let's go through the main areas of your life. Health. How does your body feel? Make a note. What kind of energy do you have? What habits support your well-being? Relationships. How are your relationships with your loved ones, with your partner, your family, your friends? Take your time. Imagine and see. What you hear, what you feel. What has changed in the way you communicate, listen, express yourself with your loved ones, with your partner, with your family, with your friends. Now work, career. What are you doing for work? What gives you a sense of meaning and usefulness? Who do you see around? What do you hear? What do you feel? What results do you see from this best year? Finances. How do you feel financially? What has changed in your income, in your relationship with money, your confidence about the future? Now your lifestyle. What does your day look like? How much time is there for yourself? For rest, for growth, for work, for love. Imagine that you are living one full day from this best year, from morning until evening. What time you wake up, how you start your day. Go through your day from morning until evening. One full day from this best year. Notice how you behave, what decisions you make, and how you relate to yourself and to life. Remember this state, how you feel in this version of yourself one year from now. One best year. And now begin to move mentally backward. Move three months from the moment you were right now. Three months back. Look at the steps, decisions, changes that took place and which led you to the results you just have seen. That's going to be spring. What new actions, habits became stronger? Now move three more months back. It's going to be winter time. You are already in the process of change, and you seeing first results. What are you doing there? What are you doing differently? And now move three more months back. That will be autumn. Three months from now. You making decisions, setting priorities, choosing your direction. Notice the key decisions you made. And all this led to the one of the best years of your life. Now bring your attention back to the present moment, to where you are right now. In front of you is the timeline of the year ahead with a clear sequence of actions, steps, habits. Say to yourself mentally, I choose to make the next year one of the best years of my life. Take a deep breath in and breathe out. Bring your attention back to your body. And slowly, when you're ready, open your beautiful eyes and smile. Come back to me. Our meditation was 18 minutes. How did you like the meditation? How to make every year the best year of your life? Right. This is going to be our mantra. Every year you just lift your best year, and next one will be even better, better, and better. Lovely. Nice. Okay, everyone. Thank you. This is all for today's webinar. I really enjoyed it. I, I like to tell my story, to share my story. If you enjoyed it, please also let me know so I can get feedback from you. And, uh, if you willing some kind of support, also please join my sessions. And I see you next webinar. We'll see when and what topic it's going to be, and we meet somewhere online for sure. Thank you so much. I appreciate your participation. Have a good.