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In alpha male 2.0, we have three categories of women. We have FBS who are friends with benefits. We have MLTRs, who are women you're dating, but you can date many of them. You're not exclusive. And then you have OOLTR, which is your equivalent of your girlfriend if you don't live with her or your wife if you do live with her, but it's not monogous. So, you can have FBS on the side.
There are no real requirements for FB other than she's attractive. Uh there are no real requirements for MLTR other than again, she's attractive and doesn't give you a lot of drama. But for OOLTR, there are lots of requirements because that's a long-term committed relationship that you're actually making commitments to.
And what can happen sometimes, and some of you have experienced this, and if you haven't experienced this, you might experience this someday, or maybe you won't. I have personally experienced this more than once over the past 19 years as an alpha male 2.0, including recently in my life, as in the last few years. And that is this. It's a strange scenario, but it happens. A woman will come along in your life who you will be with as an MLTR or OOLTR candidate or god forbid an actual OOLTR and she will be literally perfect for you except for one thing.
So, let me describe what that means. Perfect for you means things like her hair is exactly what you like. Her face is the exact type of face and hotness and skin tone you like. Her body is the exact perfect body that you consider a nine or 10 body for you. We all have different opinions about what we like in women's bodies. Some men like big tits. Some men like small tits. Some men like big hips. Some men like like small hips. Some men like more chubby girls. Some men like crossfit chicks. Some men like pale women. Some men like darker skin women. and like it whatever the [ __ ] She has literally the exact body that you like that you consider the ideal. Okay.
Then outside of her physical appearance, sexually she does the things during sex without being asked that you like. She acts during sex the exact way that turns you on the most. Again, with you without you having to tell her what you like. It's all just effortless and perfect and automatic. It's whenever you have sex her, it's like a fantasy come true. Literally, her personality is awesome. You go out, she's amazing. She's low drama. She's happy. She never complains. If you know, you have the talk or it's non- monogous. She never [ __ ] about other women. She never brings up other women. She almost doesn't even care. You're like, "This is [ __ ] great. She's not a gold digger. She's not [ __ ] She doesn't demand a bunch of money. She is perfect.
Now, no woman is literally perfect. I'm using perfect as a metaphor. Of course, she's not perfect. That she has flaws. When you spend time with her going out, she's great. When you spend time with her talking in your home, she's great. She's great across the board. She doesn't bother you too much if you're working hard like me. She respects your time. Here's one of my things. when she schedules an appointment for you, she [ __ ] shows up and shows up every time and on time. She doesn't forget or is late or oh, I forgot or she's organized. She may not be organized with her own finances because few women are, but she's organized in terms of her time management. It's perfect. She has no baggage. She doesn't do drugs. She doesn't drink a lot. She doesn't drink a lot. She's It's just She's [ __ ] amazing. Okay, except for one glaring flaw. And that flaw can be anything. Depends on the woman. There's one thing about her that's a real problem that you know would be a problem if you were an OOLTR.
Now, maybe it's not a problem right now, but if you got serious, it'd be a problem. And it depends on the woman. Every woman is different about this. Uh maybe I'm making this up, but I've seen these scenarios. she's her sex drive is low and so she'll have sex with you because she wants to make you happy but she really doesn't she's not into it and so if you got serious with her and you've always been having sex with her she'd be like it it might be an issue in the relationship. Um or another scenario is she's cool as an MLTR. She's cool with everything but if you get serious with her she has these wild expectations. That's what I ran into in the last few years. There was a woman who was in this category, amazing in every way for me. And then one day we were in the car together. She's driving because she has a car. I don't own a car because owning a car is stupid. And she's t and this is not a gold digger. Perfectly fine. Normal girl next door. Great. Okay. She's talking about, "Well, when I get married, I'm ready to get married." Hint hint wink wink. That's how women convey this sometime. I'm ready to settle down. I'm ready to get married. Okay. She was in her late 20s. She's like, "When I get married, my husband, we're going to have two kids." Okay, problem number one. We're going to have two kids. They're going to go to private schools. Problem number two. Um, and my husband's going to buy me three cars. And I'm like, and I'm listening her talk. She's like, "I'm going to have a Mercedes. He's going to buy me a Mercedes. And then he's going to uh buy me a Range Rover, and then he's going to buy me, and then we're going to Haha. And then we're going to travel." Haha. And then we're [laughter] going to haha, and we're going to h and she starts rattling off all this very expensive [ __ ] She was Eastern European. Probably not surprising. So, she's rattling off all that [ __ ] and I immediately go, "Oh, no. Oh, no. Oh," and it's one of these one of these scenarios where, "Oh, she's just saying that and if you if you actually settle down there, she wouldn't be like that." No, I knew she meant it because I know her pretty well. And I went, okay, well, there's her glaring flaw. I'm in the scenario because I've had this scenario before. I had the scenario about 10 years ago with someone else just before Pig Firefly where amazingly perfect but one glaring flaw.
Here's another glaring flaw that I've seen. She's perfect but every year she gains five pounds. Every year without fail she gains five pounds. So you're like all right if we get married or settle down within four years she's going to be a fat ass and this can be a problem. And you tell her like, "Maybe you shouldn't lose." She's like, "I'm eat whatever the [ __ ] I want." Now, she's perfect right now. Maybe she I've been with women like this. I had a woman like this years ago. She would gain a little weight, but she'd gain it all in her ass. So, she would be just like skinny. Her you could see the the veins and the neck, the bones in her neck skinny. Perfect. Beautiful. nine face, shoulders perfect, upper body perfect, leg, but the ass would just go hell yeah, hallelujah. The problem is it kept growing and growing and growing and she started growing and growing. I haven't seen her in like this particular person in 10, 15 years. I saw a picture of her on my personal Facebook like a year. Big fat [ __ ] Big fat. Just not [ __ ] but I was right. >> [snorts] >>
So, here's the challenge with this scenario. You're going to make excuses, and I did for a while with these women. Okay? Well, there's a glaring flaw that will completely derail us if we get to OLTR, but I'm going to move in that direction anyway because she is so perfect in every other way. You're going to be tempted to do that. Don't do it. The vast majority of men, and I mean the vast majority, when they run into something like this, they just proceed full speed ahead right into an OOLTR, god forbid, monogamy, or at least de facto monogamy, and they're happy for two or three years, and then they have nuclear explosions and divorces and breakups and and child custody battles, and it's a big [ __ ] mess because they didn't do this. They led with their dick. You cannot be tempted by this. If you encounter a woman like this, and maybe you won't, and if you won't, you're lucky. Great. But if you do, you need to keep her at the MLTR level and keep looking. Keep looking. She's not your future. She's not. That one flaw is bad enough to derail you long term.
Now, I'm not saying she has some flaws. So, let me clarify that for a second. Pink Firefly has some flaws, but she has no fatal flaws for me. So, when I was going when I was courting Pink Firefly as an MLTR, seeing if she was a candidate for OLTR, she had some flaws. All women have flaws, but no major flaws that would cause problems with us long term. So, I'm like, "Oh my god, perfect. This is the woman for me. Let's get married, settle down. Awesome. And I've never regretted it. We're still together. She's amazing." Because she had no fatal flaw. I'm talking about one fatal flaw that will cause a problem for you long term in your relationship. And if you're not sure, you ask yourself that question. Will this flaw create a long-term problem in our long-term relationship? Or is it something we can easily manage together? And and if if it's like, oh, she has two or three little flaws, but they're little, and this is something we can manage, great. But if it's one major flaw, like the one I just said, I gave you two or three examples. Those are all major flaws. You can't go there. And if and when that woman finally leaves your life or you leave her life, it will be a sad day for you because you're like, "Man, she was so awesome. She was so perfect except for that one thing. She was amazing." Wayos part about being a man and making these tough decisions. And I'll leave you with this. She's not the only woman out there. She's not the only perfect woman out there. If you found a woman who is perfect in every way except for one fatal flaw, you could find another woman who is perfect in every way and has little baby flaws that won't matter to you. Pink Firefly is an example of that. And there's there's more than just her. I have two other PDMs besides her. Look forward to that.