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The mistake that a lot of people end up making is they try to get rid of that negative emotion. They try to think like, okay, I'm a loser. Instead, I should be a winner.
First thing to understand is if you have a negative identity, it is serving you in some way. So, if I'm a loser, I never have to try anymore. Right?
If I am lazy, it's not my fault. Because there's the people out there who are disciplined and the people out there who are lazy and I'm one of the lazy ones. I'm unlucky.
Then the problem becomes that our identity literally shapes the way that we move through the world. So if I think of myself as ugly and I go on a date, my expectations of the date, the way that I show up is going to heavily affect the date because human beings are empathic. So if I walk into a room and if I think of myself as a loser, other people will pick up on that empathic energy and they will think of me as a loser as well.
If you have some part of your identity that you think is bad that you want to get rid of, wrong approach. Ask yourself, what is this identity doing for me? Yeah. When I think of myself as a loser, how does that protect?