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Welcome back to No Filter Dose. Tonight's caller is a woman who says women are getting mixed signals about being high value and she's tired of feeling like the rules keep changing. She comes in talking ambition, respect, and wanting an elite man. But once Kevin starts pressing her on cooperation, competition, and what those men actually pick for, the energy flips quick. Stick around till the end, hit like, subscribe, and make sure you support Kevin Samuels original channel so his work can keep circulating. Let's go ahead and get into this.
How are you?
>> I'm good. How are you?
You can um you can put my
>> Yeah, I'm trying. Yeah, I'm I'm I'm trying to switch it over right now. Uh it's just a little bit of a lag. So, how are you doing today?
What do women tend to get wrong about being high value?
Well, I I did hear you talk and I know that women are feeling really confused because on one hand we're asked how much debt we're in. Did we go to school? Are we able to take care of ourselves? Do we have our own place? All this stuff. But then on the other hand, we're told that that stuff doesn't matter and it doesn't make us high value. But this but it's like it kind of does if we don't have debt or we have our own place and we're able to take care of ourselves. I feel like that's kind of like like our efforts is kind of being like [ __ ] on.
>> What do you mean? Cuz I want to be clear. Um when I asked I said um it matters. It matters why you did it. Did you watch the first part where I said she decided to go to a private school to become a physical therapist? Even she said, "Don't do that."
>> Right?
>> Because it put her in $230,000 worth of debt,
>> right?
>> Um that has to matter to a a man. It has to matter to a prospective husband. Now, it's it's not the amount of the debt, it's the mindset. See, I want to be clear that I'm on the same page because what I'm kind of hearing from you is like the women can't win no matter what we do.
>> That's what it feels like sometimes.
>> Okay. Um, are we talking about the same kind of men though?
>> Um, I believe so. We're just talking about the majority, but at the same time, the majority isn't high value. So,
>> right. But, but so again, I concern myself with men who are high value, who want to who understand that the burden is on them to pay the cost to be the boss.
>> Right? Now the question is if if women want that kind of they want that kind of they want those kind of options. What do men like that want from their women?
>> They want them not not be in debt to be stable to be able to at least take care of themselves, right?
>> Nope.
>> That that that m they want cooperation. High value men high value men value after the looks component because attraction has to be there for men because we're visual. After that cooperation I'm president. You're vice president.
>> Okay.
>> I'm pilot. You're co-pilot. I say we go that way. You say okay.
>> I can see that. I I can also I also feel like men should choose a woman that they respect and value her wisdom as well so that he doesn't feel like um, there's maybe so much competition or feel like she's talking and she doesn't know what she's talking about cuz I do think like you said co-pilot that's a partner. So I do believe men need to pick partners that are smarter and I I think that a lot of men just based off of how
>> Now we need to be clear on now I don't like the word partner. uh you're an assistant. Um Mike Pence does not ever try to usurp Donald Trump's authority. That's one thing. So partnership, if you listen to my content, I believe a woman should be feminine, beautiful, and inspirational. And that is a that is a part of of being feminine that only a woman or a father can do. Inspire a man to become greater than he normally would have been. That is part of being feminine.
>> So there is a feminine wisdom that comes through there. But correct only when a woman is in her femininity can she really aspire inspire a man. You can't inspire me by trying to say run harder, push, push, push, climb, climb, climb. That's not your job. That's
>> there's a way. There's a way. And like you said, inspiring. And there's a there's a wisdom. And if a man can respect a woman's wisdom, then she can inspire him in the right way to build his empire beyond what he could have even done by himself.
>> You you've said the word respect several times. Why is that important?
>> Um because I do feel like a lot of men don't respect women's roles as much as they respect theirs. I feel like a lot of men
>> Okay, let's let's go down that path.
>> Yeah, I feel like a lot of men make money and they feel like, okay, money gives me respect, but as woman, you making money doesn't give you respect. So, you just you just need to make money and take care of yourself, but I'm not going to give you any respect for that. But I'm making money and I need respect for that and I need this.
>> All right. So what I need to So here's what I need you to if I heard you correctly. You feel you you feel as though men value their roles and responsibilities is more important or supersedes a woman's roles or import or responsibility.
>> Yes. They don't respect our role which is why a lot of women want to make money.
>> Oh okay. But that's true. My role as a man is far more important than yours.
>> Well
>> because this I I allowed you to speak. Let me go ahead. Women don't build. Women nest.
>> Is that not important?
>> Huh?
>> Is that not Is each role not equally important?
>> No, it's not. No, not as equally important because if it was, you could show me some place in nature where women individually could survive on their own without the group.
>> Okay.
>> The female is always dependent upon the male. See, in a state of nature, a woman's ultimate purpose on the planet is a man. You
>> Is that true? Doesn't Aren't there bugs that like kill the man or something like that? I mean, they
>> Okay. All right. So, if we're going to do this, I'm going to try to speak to the not the anecdote, not the not the black widow. We're going to just speak to the greater. There are always the exception doesn't disprove the rule but let's say it I have you have an egg but my sperm you have one I have many your job is to take the sperm the egg incubate and make baby I give you multiply we build you nest so without the ability there is no nesting without the first building so and that's one of the fundamental disconnects today is women often women and it sounds as though you think we're equals.
>> Um I don't feel like we have equal roles, but I feel like our roles are equally important.
>> They are. They have equal they have importance but but as far as the equality see
>> if you and I we could have the rip roaring debate all we want to
>> but if you and I were laying in the bed and a bump went off in the in in the night
>> it's my job to get up and go deal with that
>> right that's part of your role at the same time it's part woman's role for to make sure you have peace and to make sure how to finish but but the thing is but the thing is one role supersedes the other. I have to be willing to die for a woman. You just have to be willing to follow a man.
>> But saying just, you're controlling our lives.
>> No, no, no. No. See, no, no, no, no. That's the thing about how that's the thing about high value men don't control anything.
>> I just high value men. What we do, we don't control anything. We just tell you what we are or not going to deal with, and you can choose whether or not you want to be there.
>> Well, well, that is controlling.
>> It's not controlling. It's an option. You don't have to be there. You have a choice.
>> I I understand that, but that's not really giving someone an ultimate. I mean, that's like basically saying it's my way or the highway.
>> It's not really No, no, no. No, ma'am. It's No, no, ma'am. It's not. If you don't like the job, you go find another job. You You're not a slave.
>> That's what I'm saying. We're not a slave. So
>> So find if you don't like
>> Why are we being treated as
>> Give me Okay, we're talking about hyp we're talking about generalities. Look men. Okay. In nature, when where's a civilization that women have ever built, created and run?
>> What? Where's the civilization that men have?
>> No, women.
>> Oh, I don't know.
>> They haven't. See, and that's part of that's part of the issue.
>> Our role isn't to build. Our role is to nurture.
>> Right. But one comes before the other. Without the building, we would still be tribes. We would still be in living in caves and nomadic but and we would have to follow the food sources. But when we started when men started to collaborate together, we started society. This is anthropological and sociological. This isn't this isn't new. Human beings have learned how to see one of the things I think Jana is interesting. Human beings for thousands and thousands of years have learned how to do this. But in the last 70, we want to flip everything on its ear and say that well you and I are are equally important. And that was never in question before. But at but at some point but at some point
>> who leads?
>> Well, hopefully the men.
>> Why is there hope?
>> Because a lot of men aren't leading but hope or even leaving leading properly. But hopefully the men.
>> Okay. So when you say a lot of men aren't leading, if you Okay. I two two tracks. I deal with men who are high value men who are leading properly because they have the receipts to show in their life. They're doing just fine with what they're supposed to be doing. But the men who aren't leading properly, why do they have women?
>> Because there's not that many high-value men to go around.
>> Okay. Well, if you want a highv value man, then you have two choice. You have several choices. You either can compete to get one, which he's going to give you your options. And do you want to compete to get one? And if you get one, it's going to be competitive. Can you get one and secure one? If high value men are the only options, then you have to do what it takes to get one of those. Or what are the other options? not have a high value man.
>> Yeah, that's the other option.
>> So,
>> and if you and if it's not and which most men aren't and so if that's the case then then men just have to evolve and learn how to
>> well men are having the pro men aren't having the problem though. Men see society has always been set up for 30% of the men to never have children. Men have always accepted the fact that some would would live through life and never reproduce. What society has never dealt with is so many women 30 plus who are unmarried and untethered to anything other than their jobs and their friends. So in in Korea
>> I think that's smart.
>> Huh?
>> Cuz I think that's smart.
>> Okay. Well, if you How is that smart? Well, let me ask you let me ask you a question. If you go look in Korea, there ain't no black people over there. It's Koreans. In Korea, the amount of single women is bankrupting Korea. It's crippling the state because the system is not set up for so many women who have unmarried, no children who are florists, who who don't who typically don't have jobs to where they build infrastructure. They women typically take from a society. Men typically build. So whereas you didn't need a large social safety net for men cuz men would be if men are homeless, men are on the streets, society doesn't care about those. But when women are homeless on the street, then it's a problem. But see, at some point you have to say who is putting the money or the stuff into the economy that supports all these independent women and it's still the men. Okay.
>> At the end of the day, if you're the freest you've ever been, women in this country are more entitled to you have more rights, more freedoms, uh more abilities than anything else. But happiness is through the floor 25%.
>> Because
>> I say why.
>> Of course, it's always gonna come back to men though.
>> Evolve. They haven't evolved with women.
>> Well, see, now tell me, and this is where we're going to have a problem because every time I talk about something that men do, I I will let men be responsible. But your points tend to always go back to the men.
>> Okay, I can I can take that. I can understand that. I I don't mean to do that. But I do see I do see things from a woman's point of view. And so, I'm just giving the other point of view, which is just I think that things did evolve and women did change.
>> What do you mean did evolve? What? What's the evolution? What's the evolution? Hold on. Let me let me let me explain what I mean by the evolution. The evolution is women uh women have not evolved. Women have demanded more, but you still expect men to be traditional men. Yet the average woman today is not a traditional woman. This is why female dating coaches, female relationship gurus are starting to pull back from working with women because they can't even deal with women's unrealistic standards when it comes to men. Men are really simple. Men really want sex sandwich silence and cooperation.
>> Yeah, men are really easy to keep. I mean, I've really
>> But if that's the case, why are so many women unmarried?
>> Um because I mean in in my case, I break up with my boyfriends because I'm not going to just stay around just because of money or I just feel like a lot of people haven't worked through their traumas. I know you talk about therapy a lot and I do too. That's great. A lot of people don't work through their traumas and um they push blame. They don't know how to communicate.
>> Well, my my question though is why are they your boyfriend?
>> Uh because you don't realize that until the relationship? like they they're good guys and they have a lot of great qualities about themselves.
>> I disagree. I disagree wholeheartedly because when I was broken, I picked broken people. I don't have those problems anymore.
>> I don't have relationships that end poorly now.
>> Even the ones that don't end in marriage, they don't they don't end terribly.
>> My my relationships don't end terribly. That's how I feel. I feel I feel very positive about all my all my exes. I don't I don't I wouldn't bash them or say anything.
>> But I also understand that women are women and men are men. And at the end of the day, who leads? And only high if you basically what I'm hearing is only a certain kind of man can lead. Only high value men can lead. So basically, you're telling saying 90% of men should do that.
>> Cannot lead.
>> Well, if that then if that's the case, then here's the thing. If that's the case and you want a man, you better make sure you're one of the you better make sure you qualify for one of the 10% that can lead you.
>> Well, I mean, that's most women, though. Like, I mean, No, but but I'm saying but I'm saying like one to one. I can't deal with most women. See, I I accept what you're saying. 90% of men can't do anything good. Then you better make sure if you want one, you better qualify for one of the 10%. Know what they want and be the one they pick. Separate yourself from the other women so you can become his his wife, his long-term whatever. That's what it that's what it comes down to. Women who believe what you believe. I I'm good with it.
>> Yeah. I it's it's one of those things where I think that we're disappointed and we want men to level up in a lot of ways.
>> Why do you need to be disappointed if you only think 10% of men can lead? Don't worry about the 90. Just say that those But see, the question I have is can you get one of those 10 and keep them?
>> But but that's what's disappointing is I would like more women to be able to have high value men.
>> But but I'm asking you a direct question. Can you get one of the 10% and keep him?
>> Yes, I can. That's easy. It's easy to keep a man. Keeping a man is easy. Now, when I determine when I I define keep by marriage.
>> Well, keeping a man is easy. Getting a man to marry you is easy. Do I want to marry him though is the question. And
>> no, no, no, no, no, no. See, we're bouncing around. So now, now see, you you blended two things. I don't care about the 90%. I care about the 10% that you said high value and can lead. Let's talk about those.
>> I said, can you get one and keep them? Meaning, can you become one of these men's wives? And what I'm hearing you say is you don't want to be a wife. No, I'm saying that I can. I'm saying that it's easy.
>> Do you want to be Do you want to be a wife?
>> I would. Yeah, I would love to be a wife.
>> All right. So, how many highv value men do you have that are prospects that that you're the prospect to be their wife?
>> Well, when you say there's only 10% that are high value, then it's really not that many, is there?
>> No, no, no, no, no, no, no. I I'm not dealing with everybody. You said it's easy to get. It's easy to get. So,
>> it's easy to It's easy to keep. So, so then you then you should have no So, you're telling me that you you you can deal with any group of men.
>> That means you can get in the 10% of the high value men. And if that if it's so easy, then you should have plenty of proposals.
>> Let me tell you all the time. Okay. And but you should have plenty but you should have plenty of marriage proposals that you're fielding and turning down.
>> Well, that is true. I do. Okay. And but the but the the issue is I see things from a a whole a broad perspective of there's not enough men and even in
>> I'm not worried. Okay, but Jana, you only need you can only marry one person. I don't see it doesn't but it doesn't what what you're saying isn't making any sense
>> because it's not just about me. It's
>> But yeah, but I'm only talking about you. See, see when we Hold on. When I'm talking But see, that's the thing. When I talk to women, I talk about them, not all the global issues. It's onetoone. And see, Hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on. Okay, you can't talk over me. You can't do that. I'm asking, you said you have Are you trying to Are you saying you actually have been proposed to by high value men and you've turned them down?
>> I'm saying that.
>> Is that a yes? That's a No, that's a yes. That's I just need to know that part.
>> No, because I've broken up with them before that.
>> Okay.
>> They've talked to me about marriage, but I've broken up with them before that.
>> So, why'd you break up with them?
>> Because they don't have good communication skills or one was abusive. He ended up being abusive or
>> So why are you classifying these guys as highv valueue men
>> because it's a highv valueue man as all the points that you had of a high-value man. You never said anything about not being abusive. I mean, he had he had money. He had money for a long time. He had a network. He was a sports broadcaster. He like did a whole but you know he had all the he even the attractive level. All the I mean every every like pinpoint of a high value man. Everybody thought he was a gentleman. He was very sophisticated. He held himself well. Everybody knew him. It was his name was good in the street. It just months into the relationship, he showed a very abusive side that I as soon as he showed it, I had to get out.
>> We talking about physically abusive.
>> Yeah. Physically.
>> Okay. Then Okay. And then the next one.
>> And then the next one. Um, this that one was more so later. The one be previous before that. We were just both too young. I was like 19. He was 21. He was
>> You can't be high value at 21.
>> Um, he was in the NFL. So
>> I don't care that. No, no, no, ma'am. You can't be high value at 21. The starting line is around 30. See what what I this the video and this why I'm trying to this kind of
>> that's why I let you kind of explain it. That's why I said what women get so wrong about high value. And one thing that I noticed that women, you'll you'll classify men as high value that don't fit because everything that I've heard you say is pretty much these guys over here don't qualify. They need to be more like these guys over here. But even the guys over here, there's something wrong with them, too. So, at the end of the day, ma'am, it always comes down that there's something wrong with men.
>> Yes.
>> And that's not and and and again, you're free to have that, but that means you're going, "Oh, oh, no, no, ma'am. No, I can't. No, not on this channel. Cuz that's that's the same. No, no, no. I'll let you speak. That's the same thing K Michelle tried to pull. The men are bad people. If something's wrong with all the men you we attracted where we are.
>> There's not something wrong with all the men. It's
>> the men all the men you pick.
>> No, it's not something that's just wrong with all the men. I mean, obviously, you can't just say me because there's a lot of women.
>> No, but I'm only talking about you. I'm talking about the men in your world because again again again I don't I don't worry about all see we can't talk about things that we haven't lived
>> you said that these guys over here aren't capable of leading and the guys over here that are capable of leading there's something even wrong with the ones I'm picking
>> something wrong with them. Yeah.
>> All right. Well then if that's the then if that's the case my question is this. Who is helping you vet through these men? Since you seem to be able to attract these guys who are high value, but there tends to be something wrong with them down the pipe. Who's assisting you with vetting them? So, you don't do that anymore.
>> Um, I don't I don't have anybody helping me. I mean, I would like somebody to help me, but I don't have anybody to help me.
>> Well, that would be that would be wise because the thing what because if you're going into this with a good faith argument, you can't there has to be something to say, well, you know what? Maybe there's something wrong with the way I'm evaluating things. This is why therapy is always
>> a question.
>> Go ahead.
>> So, I did hear you say that in that women should basically go to college to find a man, but if we're going to college to find a man, then wouldn't that man be in his 20s? And so, wouldn't he not be okay?
>> Uh, you you misunder Well, first of all, every woman doesn't want a high value man. So, you're confusing things. You you basically said you need a high value man. And my thing is if you need a if you need a man in the top 10% but I need but here's the question and here's and if you need a man in the top 10% you can attract them. You seem to be attracting ones that don't sound high value. They sound high value like but either way you're not really getting the outcome. So someone to help you sort through that. But let's assume you did have someone to help you sort through these highvalue men. What do they want from you?
>> Um, they want peace, peace of mind and um a helpmate.
>> Okay.
>> Good sex probably. I mean, you know.
>> Okay.
>> The regular.
>> Not the regular. I mean, these are elite men. I mean, to me to me it's like like you said guys are simple so it's
>> No men are simple high value men are a special breed they all the stuff you're talking about comes, you know peace they don't they don't deal with conflict
>> right
>> so
>> so do my question is do you know what men in this category of men really want from a woman that they would marry so if you did run across a man who hit your all your high value marks and they were they weren't abused. I mean, all the negative stuff that you've normally that you say, if he was the man,
>> why would he why should he pick you over the other 99 women in front of him?
>> Because I'm I I mean, besides all the stuff you said is basic, I am actually intelligent and I'm a I'm I'm I know how to help inspire him to grow his u empire.
>> Okay. So, how would you communicate that to him in just an open dating setting?
>> Um, I I think we would just talk about maybe his ambitions and where he's taking himself. I mean, I don't know. It just kind of happens. Well, and what I'm trying to what I'm trying to kind of show you is you have you know what you want
>> and you can definitely say what you don't want,
>> but what you what you seem to have a trouble articulating is
>> how to give somebody who you would want what they want.
>> Okay?
>> And that tends to happen often times with women because it's all about you. It's like, I want this, I want that, I need this, I need that. I hear you. And there are men out there who have that and more. Why would they pick you over the rest of the competition?
>> I mean,
>> that's that's the question that all women have to answer. Huh?
>> I said what it is. I I whenever I say I feel like whenever I say it's my intelligence or what I have to offer, how I want to build with a man or how I want to
>> Well, understand now. I need I need to now So, when when you say how do you want to build, what does that mean?
>> Um, I mean, I have very big goals and dreams. I'm not I don't I don't have regular ambitions. I'm not a nineto-fr. I just I I like business and I have a lot of business ideas and uh things I like to invest in and I
>> So do you have do you have any so real fair question do you have any ideas are great do you have any actually acu business acumen and accomplishments in that fee in in the business world?
>> Yes I have. Okay. Um, I I will say most highv value men are not looking to marry a wife.
>> And see that and see that's exactly like it's like you ask me that and then you say that you're not you guys aren't interested in that. So it's
>> hold on hold on hold on slow down.
>> Hold on. Slow. Okay. You can't over talk me.
>> What I'm showing you is you don't seem to realize who high value men. I I'm telling you what high value men and fit in the category of kind of men you're talking about what they want from their women. And you cannot be upset that they don't want what you bring to the table. They don't care. That's nice.
>> So what do they so what do they want? Like
>> but see that's that and see but Jana but see that's that's the thing that and thank you for asking. If you want one of those men, you need to get curious about who they are and what they want and see can if you can bring it to the table. It's not my job to go translate what these men who are out there doing what it is you say you want want.
>> Okay. So, Okay. And so I would like to know what what do they want from what are the
>> one thing one thing that they one thing that they want is cooperation. One thing that they want is cooper high value men across the board want cooperation and that that comes in a myriad of different ways but they also expect their women to play the background. They don't want their wife to be up there trying to build with them. Having ideas is great. Uh this is what often times you see men who are truly high value what do they do? Their wives will start their own business or their own company or their own pet project. Right? Why do you think that is?
>> So that they're not involved in the same project. They don't have the same
>> so they're out of their freaking way so they can go over here and the wife can use her in but that but but and that's better for instead of trying to go over here and build. What you said is you have big goals, big dreams, and big ambitions. That's fine. But a high value man, but a high value man is not looking for a woman who's as long as you can facilitate those dreams and ambitions on your own income.
>> You'll have too much time. That means who what's going to become your what's going to become your your motivation, him or your ambitions?
>> See, so I I don't really I'm confused on what you guys want. Like it's just so it's so weird. So you don't
>> we want we want you to be a we want you to be a help me. We want you to be a help me. We want again we want you to be a help me. We want you to be what females traditionally are because so many I think so many women in general are used to talking about guys who cannot get it done. And that's what you've become accustomed to dealing with that when you run across men who can get it done and don't need you to do anything else. They got I mean due respect Jana you may be an intelligent woman and have everything you have to offer but I need a CFO and a CIO or somebody that I can hold to the task that the board can hold to the task that the shareholders can hold to the task. I'm not going to use nepotism when my career my legacy are on the line. I got plenty of people I could put in that job. But you got hundreds, thousands of people that are relying upon his decision. And men, high value men need women to understand that number one, you will always come a distant second to his purpose.
>> Okay. So, what makes a Okay, so I ask more questions. What makes a high value man find value in the woman that he's with if the things that you're asking for are so
>> cuz he values women. He He values a lady. He values a woman, but a woman is not a man's equal. See, the value a man has a value a man has in a woman is in her femininity, her beauty, her cooperation, her submissiveness, her her elegance, her sophistication, her her her way of being softening to his harder edges. This is why you see the first lady typically put in front of the country uh on different kinds of initiative versus the president cuz men have to get in there and be rough and tumbled. Men don't want to sit around and and have to debate with women. They that's an arena for men. And see that now the the thing my question is is there any value in being a a a high value man's woman if that's because it seems to me like that would be kind of constricting for you.
>> Yeah. I really wouldn't want to feel like I'm somebody's slave. Like I just got to be
>> you slave. You use slave but slaves don't have I mean so basically women who have a high value lifestyle are slaves. So that's cool.
>> Kind of like Trump's wife.
>> Well again but there are more women than Trump's wife. So, so by extension if you don't want that because then you open yourself up to what it sounds like you want
>> being controlling and
>> it sounds like what it really sounds to me is you want to it sounds to me as though you want a non-traditional a a very fluid kind of relationship and guys like that tend to not be very ambitious not very motivated and don't
>> No, I like really ambitious men.
>> Okay. But okay, but again very but again ambitious men tend to be cut from the same cloth. That's why success has a template.
>> See what I'm hearing from you is modern women and that's fine but modern women want men to be traditional men choice. We don't you know we don't have no no ma'am that's bull. You have a choice. You you do have a choice. You you do no ma'am. You You have a No, ma'am. You have a choice. You just don't like the choices.
>> Well, the choice is go to school, get into debt, find a man while you're young, and then just do whatever he says, and hopefully you pick the right
>> So, how many how many highv value men do you know their wives?
>> Do I know their wives?
>> How many high value wives do you know? How many women do you know that are married to highv value men?
>> Um, I know a few.
>> Okay. Do they do they talk like they're in prison?
>> Um,
>> be honest.
>> I mean, sometimes.
>> Ma'am, come on. I'm not talking about the nuance in general. Do they sound like their lives are miserable?
>> I said sometimes. Sometimes.
>> Okay. Well, that's the human condition. You can get 80% of what you want. Jana, you are you you are you want. Here's the thing. One of the problems with us as human beings is we tend to want more than we bring to the table. That's what that's what Rebecca Limpopo, a matchmaker, was saying. I don't I don't begrudge you for wanting what you want. I just hope you can bring equal or more than what you want to the table.
>> Well, what's equal or more than what I want?
>> Well, you have a lot of you have a lot of different parameters. I hope you bring as many parameters and options to a man that he's that he finds appealing.
>> Like what?
>> Oh, I can't I can't answer that. I'm not I'm can't answer that. I'm not I'm not dating you. But what I'm saying is you want a you want a you you want you want a unique kind of high value man that really does not exist because the traits that make you high value uh you seem to find somewhat troubling or offensive that yes, they're going to be he's going to expect to be in control. He's going to expect to leave and and that's that's what it's going to be. He's not going to go out and be the CEO of an organization and then come home with you and negotiate on things that he's already decided. He will take your input. He values his wife's input. But see, I what it sounds to me is though that that's not enough. You
>> No. No. Valuing the input is enough. But don't come in and just say the man this is this, this is that, I don't want to hear this. like have respect for
>> but but see your the way you've come at this is the implication is there's already no there's no respect from a man which seems as though due respect ma'am it sounds like you have an issue with men men in general as a as a as a as as a species
>> I mean not not all of them cuz I'm friends with a lot of uh I'm friends with a lot of
>> but being friends with them being friends with them and cooperating with them and building a life are two different things
>> yeah because I I do feel like I do feel like guys are very sometimes, especially when they make money, they feel like and and and if you're young and they're older, they feel like they know everything and you're young and you need to just sit down and shut up and they don't really
>> Are we talking about Hold on. Okay. Okay. Hold on. Hold on. Hold on. What are we talking about? If you're young and they're older, they know more about what?
>> Uh just everything in life. I've I've you know I've dated I've dated a guy when I was young maybe when I was like younger and he was in you know 10 years older than me and um it just seemed like everything I said he was like you don't know you're young and you don't really know and he always just kind of like belittled me or kind of silence. Okay. But but the thing is, well, okay, again, one man, it's not all men. You sound like you have an issue with men. And that's the because you you talk about men and you'll go back to one experience. Uh there are more of us out here. And have you ever had how about this? Have how about this? Have you ever had good healthy relationships long-term romantically with the man that ended well?
>> Um, that yeah I would say they were Yeah. I mean, sometimes no sometimes no no I mean, I mean the relationship was good healthy and it ended well there just there's I mean, you that you have nothing but that you have nothing but great things to say about the guy outside of just
>> I mean if that's the case you should marry that person, right?
>> No. Well, how you going to have a good
>> because because sometimes it just doesn't fit. Sometimes the because in western romantic relationships sometimes the chemistry is just not there. Modern women want it all. And the thing is there every man cannot be a problem.
>> Well, if the chemistry is not there, then that's not
>> but but that's I mean yesterday you also talked about looks and this and that.
>> And at the end of the day, let me let me just put it down to you this way. Um, if other women are figuring it out, why can't women like yourself?
>> Um, I think that there sometimes people just get lucky and
>> No, no, no. Okay, then then Okay. So, do you talk to the women who got lucky and figure out how to be lucky like them?
>> Um, I have I can talk to more I can talk to more of my friends who have. Yeah.
>> All right. So,
>> I mean, but they did they just got lucky. Like I have one friend and she she found them off of a dating just a dating app.
>> Well Well, again, high value men really don't deal in luck. Success is not a matter of luck. It's a matter of work. And again, I asked you, you talked about being a highv value man's wife as almost like it's a prison sentence. like you're like you're in a gilded cage. And I mean, and honestly, that's a that that that's really prevalent, especially in a lot of, you know, womanist feminist kind of language that we're equals this and that. And that and that that is fine in an argument or a debate, but in a in a relationship. Um, if you want a driven, ambitious, alpha kind of personality man, you're going to have to be a feminine beta kind of woman.
>> A beta woman.
>> Yes. What does beta mean? Beta just seems very pushover. And
>> can you I mean you are I mean dear dear I mean I got to be honest. Beta is just second in command. See every time I say something that's just not in charge you find just uh oh my god I
>> it's not it's not that it's not in charge. It's just that I'm not going to be looked at as like I'm lesser than or I don't
>> Okay, let's get let's get let's get to let's get to the rubber meets the road. you are. Can you Can you Can you Listen, no offense, but honestly,
>> you can have all the opinions you want, right?
>> Can you actually subdue a man physically?
>> So, because I'm not sure.
>> I need you to understand. No, ma'am. I need you to understand something. The reason if you don't want to do the exercise, we can't. But see, you can have the attitudes you are, but at the end of the day, men are physically stronger than you, larger than you, have more hand strength than you. And you cannot, women cannot survive individually in the world alone. You need a group. Men can survive by ourselves. And see, it's like today, so many modern women really have a problem with the fact that you are the weaker vessel. You are the feminine. physically weaker, but we're not weaker. It doesn't make us weaker.
>> Where are women stronger than men?
>> Uh, well, emotionally, as soon as you guys get your heart broken, once you guys are done with all [ __ ] and [ __ ] ain't [ __ ] blah, blah, and we get our heart broken over and over and over and abused over and over and over.
>> Okay, that's okay. That's that is okay, Jana. That is subjective. Show me where Hold on, man. Hold on, man. Okay. No, man. We going let's go through where have women where have women when they're headtohead with a man where have women uh out of when a woman wants to let's say become a firefighter can women dead can carry 200 lb of dead weight
>> no women are not equal to men in strength men
>> women are not equal how about this Jana women are not equal to men period and that's okay
>> that doesn't make you guys better than us or that doesn't make you
>> okay it does in it does in this sense if you Want a world? No, no, no. Here's it. Does in this sense. If you want a world to where you're equally valued, build it. No one's stopping you. No one's stopping you from
>> the world is already built. So, I mean, I No, ma'am. You But you can go out and compete. Okay. See, but you tell men to get out here and compete, too. You can go out into the same world. You can There's plenty of You can go out and buy land. You can go out and you can go build Amazonia. Well, and that's what women are doing. That's what I'm saying.
>> But then, but but but but are they doing it without complaint?
>> Of course, we're complaining about
>> then it's not worth Okay, so let me get this right.
>> No, ma'am. No, ma'am. Let me get this right. Let me get this right. You don't want the world that men built. You have the ability to build your own world, but you're going to complain while building it. What you're showing is you can't make women happy. So why try make
>> What do you mean you can't make women happy?
>> Because you're not happy. You're not happy in the world. You're not happy in the world. You're not happy in the world that men built.
>> No, we're not happy.
>> Then go build your own world.
>> We're trying to do that.
>> Where?
>> Okay. Like with what you guys call the whole feminist movement. Like we're trying to build it. That's why that's why we're getting better jobs and that's why we're making more money and that's why we're trying to buy land.
>> Okay. Ma'am. Okay. Who's Okay. Trying. What are What are the two largest employees of black women? I I don't know.
>> The
Federal government and retail. Okay. What are you going to build with income from federal government or retail? Okay. Well, then women just need better, better guidance on.
No, no, no, no, no. See, if you're my, see, this is where it comes down to. If you want to, if you want to be equal, you got to get out here and compete with us. And see, men understand we got to compete. If you want to be treated as equals, you're going to get out here and have to beat men. And we're not going to take it easy on you. We're gonna compete against you just like anybody else because what you're saying is what we've done isn't good enough. So you need to go do better.
No, what we're saying is the the.
What we're saying is give me what I want, my way, how I want it, like a spoiled, petulant child. That's how a lot of women come across. Like, I want what I want.
But here's the thing. You men didn't build. You men that are acting like you guys this. You guys didn't build anything like your past fathers built.
You men didn't build. Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. You men. Oh, now, now you sure you want to go down this path?
Okay, but you guys are demanding all this stuff.
I'm not. No, ma'am. No one's. No, ma'am. See, men like myself don't demand anything from women. I don't demand anything. I don't demand. I tell you what I want and what I'm not, what I will and won't accept.
I don't demand anything.
That's demanding.
No, it's not. How is it demanding? How is, how giving you a choice is demanding? How?
Yes. So if a waiter comes. So if a waiter comes. So if a waiter. So let me get this right. If Jana went to a restaurant and said, "Okay, uh, what tonight, man? We have chicken, we have fish, and we have steak."
Oh, you're demanding they eat those. What about the vegetarian dish? Well, what about the vegan dish? You know, you don't have ve. You don't have. You don't have lamb. No, man. We have chicken, steak, pork. What? That's I, I need, I need a congressional hearing. These are the choices. You don't like what's in this restaurant. The restaurant that sells the vegetarian restaurants down the street, but I don't like their food. Okay, ma'am. But this is what we have on the menu. Choose.
No, this is more so what you're saying is you're saying we have chicken or get out. That's.
No, no. What I'm saying is I'm saying is. Okay, so you don't give men choices. Um, yeah. I mean, I have my boundaries.
I have my boundaries.
Careful. So, so you're demanding.
Uh, I have my boundaries.
So, you're demanding?
I might be a little demanding.
Okay. So, it's all right for you to be demanding. Why?
Because I, because I, I also am very understanding.
No, no, no, no, no. We haven't. We haven't asked whether or not the men who had these demands, whether or not they were understanding at all. Just the demands by themselves were automatically invalid.
See, what it is is you, what it is, Jana, is women like you, you want a, you want a world that you did not build. You want to take the control of the world we built because it ain't good enough and it doesn't work and it doesn't work the way you want it to work. And then when women get in a position of power, you don't make it better. Name me any city. Let me name, name me any city that's led by women that has flourished.
Um, I mean, hasn't I mean, city, but hasn't Queen Elizabeth been in? I mean, what is she?
Oh, do you really? I mean, I'm good at history, and I don't think you want to do that.
I don't know. History's not my thing. M.
Okay. That's why I said I don't want to. But here's what you're showing. At the end of the day, you're really wanting, and that's what I said. I hope you're willing to bring as much as much to the table as you're demanding.
See, I am. And and then you, and then if that's the case, Jana, you should have no, you should be overflowing with proposals from viable high-level men to be their wife.
Um, uh, you have to make sure you're in those positions and you're in those places. But.
No, no, that.
Sure, at the same time, like you're saying something, but then you'll turn around and say that only 10% of men are high value.
No, but, but the thing is, ma'am, I'm not. It doesn't. It doesn't matter for only 10%. Guys. Aren't most of those guys married?
No. No. Okay. See the. See the question. See, every time I talk, every time I talk about you, you, you go to disqualify and go vague. And see, that's that's problematic.
Well, I don't know. It's problematic.
Well, it's it's problematic because you take it off as specifically you and you go back to something vague and nebulous. And I won't argue that.
Because.
Well, it is. I mean, what city do you live in?
I'm in Austin, Texas.
Austin, Texas. The seat of power in Texas. I lived in Austin for a short period of time. The Silicon Valley of the South, lots of successful high-value men there in politics. You should have no problem, no problem attracting a high-value man and becoming a high-value man's wife because that is the seat of power of the largest state in the union.
Uh, that's true. Austin's very, um, there's a lot of white men. And I'm just, I do need to, I do need to, you know, open up and expand.
But hold on, hold on. Let me be honest. If you have a problem with what high, what high-value black men are offering or asking, I don't know if you're really going to want to hear what high value, what Brad is asking for.
Um, I, I don't really like Brads. They don't.
But you said you need to open up. Okay, Brad. I say I do need to open up and try to date other races.
So what would you. So what would you date if you didn't date a white man?
Um, Hispanic. Um.
And they Hispanic men earn less than black men.
You picked the one group that earns less than black men.
Well, then that's unfortunate.
I don't know. Biracial. I don't know. Like.
No. See, see, and here's the thing. And what you, and what, and what it's going to come down to, ma'am, is at the end of the day, high-value men across any race are going to still have the same requirements. And see, what you're, what you're saying is ultimately your particular way of thinking doesn't line up with what high-value men want. And that's unfortunate. If you want a high-value man, they're not going to pick you. And you don't want to, you don't want to, uh, compromise with what they want.
Well, if they're a high-value man and they're still single and they're over 35, there's probably something wrong with them.
Oh, now we go with that stuff. Again, we're just talking about you.
See.
Well, it's a. We're talking about me, but.
No, but see, that, that that assumes again something wrong with them. Excuse me.
So, have you ever thought about maybe what's wrong with them? Have you.
No, no, no, no. Again, again, a, a typical deflection tactic in an argument is to go back to the the general. If there's, you basically pulled that out of the air. If they're over 35 and they're single, that has nothing to do with you.
There. But it does. No, it doesn't. No, it doesn't. Okay. All right. So, I. Here's the thing. I know it, it typically makes an an argument easier to digest when the issue is always out there, not right here. All you can control is your attraction level to the kind of men you say you want.
Mhm.
And they exist.
No. No. No. No. Do, do men do they exist?
Uh, yeah.
Then. No. No. No. No, they exist. They exist. Then, then the problem is, and, and you're in a place where they exist. You're not in Anchorage, Alaska. You're in Austin, Texas. You not only know they exist, you have access. Then you should have no real issue if you, what they want, in getting one.
Okay. And also when you say access, where do you meet these people at for you to say there's access? Because I just.
Access meaning the fact that you're geographically located where they are.
But just because you're geograph geographically located where they are doesn't mean that they're.
Well, J. I hate to break. I hate to break this to you, but what you want is rare. So if it's going to inconvenience you or be a little difficult, so be it.
You don't want. You don't want one of. You don't want one of the 90% of guys out there. You want one of the top 10%. So you got to go. What you then you have. See, that's the thing. That's what, that's what so many women don't want to do. They don't want to have to compete. And this is what. Let me finish. Let me let me finish. Let me finish and say I'll let you go. This is what a lot of feminine instructors, uh, whether especially when they're talking about this level up kind of stuff. They'll often talk about you're going to have to scrutinize yourself from head to toe, inside and out. You're going to have to get real about your ideal man. You're going to have to invest heavily into breaking into that society or doing whatever. You're going to have to educate yourself about that man's world and you're going to have to take action. See, that's outside of the fitness and the beauty component. And that's a lot of damn work.
Mhm.
And if you're not willing to do those things, that's your choice. But you're not going to say, "Take me as I am and come knock on my door and find me when your competition is willing to do all that."
Okay. No, I understand. I didn't say knock on my door and find me. I'm saying that like I'm in Austin. It's very white populated. I go to.
Well, you can. Well, you can move.
You can move to. You can move. You can move.
You're not. You're not. You're not a slave. You can move.
I thought about that.
Okay. And and that's and and that's what I ultimately tell women that follow me. You have choices. You're the freest group of women that have ever lived. The most educated, most a. You can do whatever you want to. If you don't get what you want, it's because you chose not to go make it happen.
Or it's not offered. But.
No, no. And it's not supposed to be offered. It's supposed to be gotten. See, I'm not supposed. You don't supposed to offer me a success. I'm supposed to go make myself a success. See, this is what so many of our. This is so many of our women, so many of our black women, they don't want to go out there and compete. Becky will compete. Meen will compete. Marisol will compete. They will compete for the Anu will compete. They will get out there and compete. They will move. They will do what they have to do. That's why they have their ass in the gym at 5:00 in the morning. They're taking wheat grass shots and drinking water. And come on, sis. Come on. You. And I'm just telling you basically, you need to go find know what the kind of man you say you want. What do they want? And you can't even really tell me because it sounds to me as you spent more time fairly understanding what it is you want. But you got to get curious about what men want because they're not just going to take not whatever you think. They have. They have wants too.
Right? I mean, do they think about what women want?
They don't. They. Yes. No. Honestly, here's the truth. They don't have to think about what women want because women want them and they want their purpose.
Well, men want women, too.
Yeah, but, but see, the thing is when you're, see the reality. See, the reality. Here's the reality. When you're a high-value man, you always have plenty of women trying to get after you. You can be a beautiful.
Yeah, but are they are they valuable though? Besides sex, besides their looks, are they the. Let me. Let me answer the question. Let me answer the question. The valuable ones make themselves known. If you're truly valuable, it's only a fool that hides that.
But you know.
If you're truly valuable, you make it known. It's only a fool that hides value.
But when a woman, when a woman knows she's valuable, she doesn't let a man just run her. All of a sudden it's a problem. Again, you asked about high-value men and do they. I answered the question. If you are what they want, you are foolish for not making it known. Hey, I'm here. And you keep going back to men that don't work.
I know a lot of high-value men, a lot of older men who are very, very wealthy, and they are still having problems finding a woman because they have this mindset.
I'm sorry, but again, but again, but here's the reality. We're not talking about them and the ones you have problems with. I'm. That's not the point. The point is you.
Talking about 1%.
Yes. No. No. No. We're talking. No. We're talking about why you say you want something and why you can't find it or get it.
Just like the rest of these women.
No, no, no, ma'am. I'm not dealing with the rest of the women. We're talking about you. We're talking about you. You are you. What do you want? Here's the. Here's the question today. Simple question. Let me. No. Let me. Let me just. Let me make it real simple. Let me make it real simple.
What do you want and what are you willing to do to get it?
You want me to answer that question?
That's what life comes down to. What do you want and what are you willing to do to get it?
Like, do you want me to answer the question?
Yes. I'm waiting. I mean, you. I've said yes twice. What do you want and what are you willing to do to get it?
I mean, I told you what I want and I'm willing to go to events and do all that stuff and go find that go and put myself in positions to find a the type of guy that I want.
Okay. Now, my qual is.
No, let me. Now, now I have the follow-up question.
Okay.
You may want an A in class, but if you're only going to do C-level work, you can't complain that you don't get an A. So, whatever your qual is, I got to look at your effort. You're just willing to show up. And you expect an elite-level man.
What do you mean I'm just willing to show up? I'm willing to go to events, put my. Hold on, hold on, let me. No, no, no. Let me finish. Let me finish. No, ma'am. I listen to what you said. I'm willing to go to events, put myself in place. You're willing to go and be.
And that's fine. Hold on. Hold on. But, but see, the thing is.
I can showcase.
Hold on, ma'am. You can't overtalk me. You can't overtalk me. I'm trying not to mute you, but you can't overtalk me. See, that's the extent of what you're willing to do, and I accept that. But there's a handful of high-value men and much, and there are four times the women. 10% of men are wanted by 20% of women. That means there's at least two to one before marriage.
So let me. Let me. Let me. No, what you can't do is your competition is willing to do more than that.
See what you didn't. So what you did not, what you did not say is, you know what? I'm willing to go learn and understand what these men want, and I'm willing to do whatever I have to do to get what I, what I want. I'm willing to be Becky, Marisol, Maling. I'm willing to go put in the effort of a champion because you want a champion-level man. You just want to show up, and that's fine.
No, I gave you. I told. Okay, the reason why I said I wanted to do that was because you just said we just had a conversation about putting myself in those positions. So, I said, "Okay, I'm willing to put myself in those positions. I've already told you what I have to offer." So, there was no reason to repeat that. So, I'm saying to offer. I'm willing to put myself in those positions. This has been a good back and forth, but I will. I will say this. I take care of. Hold on. I got to. I got. We're almost at 1:00. I, I do thank you for coming on. It's been a good back and forth, but I will say this to wrap it up.
If that's what you're willing to do to get what you want, if you don't get the outcome, it is your responsibility. It's not because you didn't have the chance. That's how this world works.
What do you mean? Because I didn't have the chance? Well, if you, if what you just articulated was the extent of what you're willing to do and all the other stuff, and the thing is, if that's what's being offered, and if you don't, if he decides to pick someone else, then you had a shot at it. And if you don't get it, it's not as though they didn't exist. And see, this is a hard thing for a lot of women to really accept. If you don't get what you want, it's not a problem with the men. Maybe you just weren't good enough.
What do you mean? What if those the guy wasn't there? What if he doesn't exist? Why are you.
No, they exist. They. Because, because I already gave you the example of what are you willing to do? I'm willing to show up. That means you showed up and go to the places where you know they are. They're there and you didn't. And what are you willing to do to separate yourself from the crowd? See, if we talked about going to college and I said, "What are you willing to do to get into Stanford or Princeton or Harvard?" you would be willing to do far more than just to get into junior college because the the because you're going to have a greater return.
Because it's guaranteed and there's going to be.
But that's the thing. There. See, that's the thing, sweetheart. There are no guarantees in this. There are no guarantees. There all experience love and war. There are no guarantees except one thing. You get out of life what you put into it. And if you're not willing to compete for a high-level exec, high-level elite man, you cannot fault the fact that you don't get one if you have a shot at it. But thank you for calling in. I appreciate it.
Oh, well, thank you for having me on.
All right, bye-bye. The video wraps here, so let's break down what actually went down on this call. The caller came in saying women get mixed signals about being high value, arguing that having no debt, education, and independence should count for something. She says she wants a high-value man, but also wants to feel respected and heard. Kevin pushed back and said, "Attraction comes first, then cooperation, and that high-value men don't want partners to build with. They want women who make their lives easier." Things got tense when she kept framing everything as men not respecting women. While Kevin kept dragging it back to roles, leadership, and what men in power actually look for, she brought up past relationships, including one that turned abusive, and used that to explain why she leaves men. Kevin flipped it and said the problem wasn't all men. It was who she keeps picking and how she vets. She then claims she's been with men who had money, looks, and status, even saying she's had marriage talks with high-value men, but broke up with them. Kevin challenged that and said those men didn't qualify by his definition. And if it's really that easy, she should have multiple real proposals. That heated things up as she pushed back and Kevin kept asking for straight answers. Race and location came up when Kevin pointed out she lives in Austin, Texas, full of successful men. She said it's mostly white men and talked about dating other races. Kevin shut that down and said high-value men across all races want the same things. And her mindset doesn't line up with what they pick. From there, it kept circling back to what she wants versus what she brings. She talked about intelligence and big dreams, and Kevin said high-value men don't want wives trying to build empires beside them. He kept asking why one of those men would choose her, and she couldn't give a clear answer. The call ended with Kevin asking what she wants and what she's willing to do to get it, then bringing everything back to her effort, her standards, and the choices she keeps making. What this call really shows is how some women can build a whole identity around what they want while staying foggy about what they actually offer. Standards get loud, expectations get heavy, but when it's time to show a real resume of how they move with men, there's nothing solid to point to. Men with money and shine get called high-value until they don't behave how she wants, then suddenly they're flawed, broken, or beneath her. There's also this habit of talking about wanting marriage while running from every situation that could lead to one. Saying it's easy to keep a man while having no long-term wins on the board. Talking about being wife-ready while breaking things off before they ever get serious. Ambition, intelligence, and business talk get pushed forward. Like that's what earns a seat next to a powerful man, even though what those men scream for is peace, cooperation, and someone who fits their world. Then there's the contradiction of wanting to be led by a king while arguing like a rival, wanting elite access without elite discipline and willingness to compete. And instead of looking inward, it keeps sliding back to society, to men in general, to bad past experiences, using every outside excuse to avoid facing the one common denominator in every outcome. If the door never opens, it's not because there's no one inside. It's because you don't have the key. Fellas, here's what separates the ones who keep getting burned from the ones who don't. They look at results, patterns, and relationship history. Anybody can talk about growth, standards, and what they deserve, but patterns leave fingerprints. And those marks tell the truth every time. What counts is her cooperation, whether she actually likes you, and her willingness to move with you instead of against you when things don't go her way. When you choose based on proof and good vetting instead of promises, the whole field looks different. That's when the odds tilt in your favor. Ladies, here's the part a lot of you miss. High-value men don't choose based on who sounds impressive. They choose based on who makes their life feel better. Being educated, driven, and independent is fine, but that doesn't replace cooperation, warmth, and knowing how to fit into a man's world instead of fighting it. The longer you go without real relationship reps, the harder it gets to soften, adjust, and connect on that level. If you want a high-value man, you have to be the kind of woman who brings exactly what he is looking for. That's what turns attention into commitment. If this one hit close to home, tap like, drop what you really think in the comments, and subscribe so you don't miss the next video. Make sure you also support Kevin Samuels' original channel, too, so we can keep his voice in circulation. Stay grounded, stay real, and I'll see you in the next.