The Power of Luxury - Session 1

[Music] Hello gorgeous people of the Power of Luxury event. This is our official first session. I actually really enjoyed spending time with you in the welcome call for those of you who are the first in the group. And I've been getting excellent feedback already from breakthroughs, and I've been absolutely loving reading the contemplation post that I put up, asking you what this started to open up for you, and what you were starting to think about, what you were starting to contemplate.

So, just to give you an idea of how this is going to go, we have three live sessions. Today's our first one. This is going to be live like this. We've got almost 600 people live on Zoom. Other people are watching directly in the Facebook group. When we are complete with this session, it's going to be also put onto YouTube, and the links are going to be hosted in the group for you as well, in the guide section. So, it should be pretty easy to pick up on.

Um, what else is important for you to know? There's going to be other contemplation threads, other things for you to think about, other invitations. So, if you would like to post those, you know, or respond to those in the group, just look at the featured section of the group whenever you're in there. See if there's anything new for you. And if there's anything very important, I'm going to be messaging you or emailing you directly. So, it should be very easy to to get the information from me during this master class.

Now, my team is amazing. My team is so hands-on and always there to serve in every way possible. But there are a lot of team members. So, I have like Emma Alpha Team, Vanessa Alpha Team, Lisa Alpha Team, Kimberly Alpha Team, Cheryl Alpha Team, Marilyn Alpha Team, Tammy Alpha Team, Nicole Alpha Team. There's so many people that are there. So, the best way to connect with the Alpha Fam team is through the AlphaFam team account. So, there is an in there is an account called the AlphaFam Team. That's the one you would message if you have any questions or if you need any assistance, and they have got your back. So, we're hands-on and we are ready to serve you.

Um, I've seen that a lot of you have shared today's graphics already. I'm very excited about that. Thank you so much for sharing. Um, if you have shared already, your name is already in the draw. At the end of today, I'm going to be drawing two people who are going to win $2,000 in AlphaFam money. Um, which I call Alpha Bucks. And so, you will be able to use those to purchase any AlphaFam program, course, bundle, whatever you please. Um, and we're going to do that at the end of today.

So, while we're live, two ways that you can continue to share is either just taking little clips, just little videos. Um, or you can share the graphic that was included in your email. And my team's going to be gathering shares all throughout the live stream. And then at the end, I will draw. Just make sure you're tagging us so that my team can track. So, if you're doing it on Facebook, tag Melanie and Leia. And if you're doing it on Instagram, tag AlphaFem or Melanie and Leia or We Are AlphaFem or all of them to make sure that they find you. And that is that.

All right, let's dive in. So, this is for me one of the most potentially life-changing conversations that I could that I could offer. And why I say it this way is because I really believe that every person that's set on this journey to make a difference on this planet has a message that is unique and that is their responsibility to figure out what it is in their lifetime. And we trial and error. We figure it out. We live. We test things and we figure out why we're here. Like, why? Why me? Why did I make it? Of all the souls on the planet that made it, why am I here? And why did I discover at some point in the middle of my life that I was actually meant to speak to people? And why did I figure out how to eloquently speak English in this way? And why did I get pulled to learn these things and these things? And why did these things hurt me? And why did these things, why did I make these mistakes? And why did I learn this? And why did these opportunities fall in my lap? And as things start to unfold, start to realize a lot of what your angle is, what your what your reason is. And I am realizing that I have a very big reason and a very big purpose that's attached to what I'm going to be talking to you about during this luxury master class.

This is not just about one kind of luxury. It is not just the concept of like luxury the way you would expect, but it's actually something that goes far beyond and goes far deeper. And so when I open the doors like this in free master classes, there's a few different things that can happen. Either I'm going to manifest the exact people that are meant for this conversation because you'll notice my marketing is a little bit different there. There's no like super salesy like this is why you need to come here. It's more of an invitation. So, usually people who really needed something that I'm not offering don't feel drawn to what I'm doing. But also, there's this feeling like it could happen that someone thinks this is something and then it's not. So, what's more important for for you to know during this master class is everything you're hearing and everything you're seeing, it is what it is. So, you want to just kind of lean into it. Listen from a different perspective than you maybe normally would and open yourself up to hear things that may or may not be the way you normally think.

So, we're going to be talking about energetics. This is called the Power of Luxury, a cultural shift in energetics, energetics, frequency work. It's not just cut and dry. We're not just going to be talking about Chanel and Louis Vuitton during this master class. There's something deeper at play. If it goes above your head, it's like, I don't understand. That's fine. I make it available to all, but it's meant for those who get it. And this is something that's so important for my brand, but also for luxury as a whole. And so I want to kick off in this energy.

Luxury isn't something that can be explained because the minute you try to explain it, it loses all of its magic anyway. Luxury is for those who get it. There are people on the planet that just understand the value of a certain thing so deeply that you don't need to explain it to them. And those very people sometimes will go to the edges of the earth to try to explain to other people the luxury, the experience that they feel, and people don't understand it. And this goes for different people for whatever it is that luxury is to you. For some people, it's like the luxury of camping and living under the stars and boiling your own water and and foraging for your own fruit and being able to live from the land and being free and and waking up with the sunrise and and the going to bed with the sunset and not hearing the traffic and the air is clean and like the luxury. And people are like, the luxury? Have you lost your marbles? How about the luxury of a five-star hotel? They're like, "No, no, no. You're missing it. You're missing it. You can't explain something that's a luxury to you because the reason it is is that you understand its highest possible frequency. You understand the height of its purpose, the height of its beauty, the height of its meaning. And so to try to explain to someone that doesn't see the value, the height of the meaning of what you care most about, it's like that's going to be difficult to do. It's trying to explain that you love someone and why you love them to someone who doesn't love them. It's like, well, yeah, okay, you love them. I get it. But you don't necessarily get them to love it through your explaining of it. You couldn't be in love with your partner and just be like, "Okay, I'm gonna explain to my best friend why I love my partner." And suddenly within the same conversation, they're like, "I get it. I'm in love with them, too." It's like, that doesn't exist. It doesn't work that way. You can't just make people fall in love with things just because of the way you talk about them. But what you can do is connect with people who love whether they love the same things or not. And this is what I love so much about this conversation because I often see people compare what they feel is luxurious in this world. And they do it in a way that really discredits other people's luxury, which I find interesting. So it's like, you think that's luxury, that's not luxury. This is luxury. Oh, you think that is? That's not. That's not at all. This is instead of, "Oh my gosh, that's so interesting. Tell me more about that." See, to me, something that I would find luxurious is this. So, you feel like that about the way I feel about this. That's so interesting. We're not bonding over the beauty we see. We're discrediting the beauty other people see in order to try to prove that what we believe in has more value. And then we wonder why the luxuries we want feel further and further away.

Now, there is always another level of a luxurious experience in this life. There's always going to be a greater experience, a more extraordinary experience, a more high-end experience, a more free experience, a more, you name it. There's always going to be a greater possibility because human beings are meant to evolve and so we will evolve until we die. That's just the way it goes. So, even if you think you found the best of the best of the thing you love, someone is going to innovate on that in the future and it will become greater and better. Kevin, do you mind finding me a tissue please?

So, the idea here is to look at luxury not as a mental thing but as a frequency. And what I found is that the real beauty and magic that has set my life on a totally different trajectory is that, like we talked about in our welcome call, I separated deserving from the actual just frequency of a luxurious thing. And this has been really such an important piece of the puzzle. So, let's say for example, I decide in my life, and just so you know, you don't need to be sharing that you've shared in the in here. You just tag on the page and that's it. So, you can focus and people can be focusing when they're listening to what I'm saying. But I appreciate you all so much for sharing.

So, when you look at your your desires and the things that you want this life and you're like, "Okay, I would love a luxury Louis Vuitton purse." And you're like, "This to me feels like it would it would mean something. There's there's something about the fashion. I care about fashion. There's something about the way that that this brand has done so much and it's still alive. Like, there's something about the company. It it reminds me of something I want to build. There's something about the purse. It draws me. It feels like it was made for me. It's my style. I care about style. Luxury for me is having a style and feeling self-expressed and being able to purchase the things that I want to purchase. It It's also the feeling of being able to connect with the brands that I really love and be able to shop there without wondering about the price tag. Like being able to buy that purse from a place of luxury, not a place of like, "Gosh, this is so expensive," but actually from a place of resonance. Like, "Oh my gosh, I love this bag. Tell me the story about it. Well, who designed it? What is it made? You know, what is it based on? Is this a a wink from something of the past? You know, I'm I'm all about it. I get it. I feel the luxury." And then someone else says, "You're so superficial. Why would you need that? It. I would never spend my money on that. If I had the money, I would go on a vacation and I would spend my money on a vacation."

Now, here's the thing. If you do not care about fashion and you do not have a sense of style that is just part of your identity, if you don't know really what Louis Vuitton stands for, if you've never, you don't know the history and you don't know that some of the designs that are coming back now are actually winks from the designs of the past. You don't that's never been fascinating to you to buy an expensive purse. It would be totally superficial. It would be to buy something expensive to look rich. But to decide that that's why everyone does it. That's how we get further and further from the luxury we want. Because instead of leaning in and being curious and saying, "Talk to me about this. What is it that fascinates you?" We just say, "People who do that, I'll never understand." What makes buying an expensive Christian YSL Louis Vuitton purse worth it is that the person who's buying it has a connection to fashion. Without that connection, then it would be superficial.

Now, when we look at the person who says, "I would never do that. I would go on a vacation. I would travel. I would travel the world." And someone says, "Why would you do that? How is that possibly going to help you? It costs. It's bad for the environment. The planes are bad. What are you going to do? You're going to live in a hotel? You're going to you're going to eat food that's not good for you?" Like, why would you even do that? It's been proven that, you know, if you if you want to live a simple life, it's better that you don't change time zones. You stay home. Don't do that. Why would you travel? I think that's such a waste of money. It's something that's impermanent. Once it's over, it's over. And you can't keep it. Like, that's such a waste. Like, have you even seen your own country yet? If I had that money, I would be buying a personal development program. I would be bettering myself. That that is luxury education. Really learning about myself. But the people who have the wanderlust, the people who literally reinvent themselves every time they travel, they wouldn't be even able be able to live a full life without imagining that there's another vacation coming. And to be told that it's not this and it's not this and it's not this is like, and you can't fight for it. You can't explain it. You can't say no. Here's the beauty of travel. You can't explain to someone who doesn't see it.

Now, the person who purchases personal development thing and says, you know what, I'm investing in myself. I'm realizing this is this is where I want to be spending my time, my energy. My life changes when I'm in containers like this. Changes my relationship, my business. This is what I want to be in. Someone says, "Gosh, you fell for that. Why is it so expensive? It shouldn't. If if it if it were real, wouldn't it just be free? Shouldn't everybody have access to these things? I would never spend my money on that. I would buy real estate."

There will never be something that everyone agrees is a good way or a good thing or a meaningful thing because the world is so incredibly different and so incredibly diverse. But the difficulty is that when we misunderstand the frequency of luxury, we imagine that the thing we want, we deserve. And this is when the world starts to break down. Because what I have seen, and I'm sure you guys have seen this in some way, shape, or form, is that people want something, and they believe they can have it long enough until one day they decide that they were wrong to want it, that they'll never have it, and then they either hate the thing or decide that they're undeserving of it. And there's this moment of like, you know what? It doesn't matter anymore. I don't care. I don't know what I was thinking. The whole thing's ridiculous. The whole thing's stupid. I don't need that stuff. Or they have an existential crisis. I must not matter. I'm not good enough. Clearly, if I wanted it, I would have had it by now. I guess it's not meant for me. I'm not good enough. I'm undeserving. Self-deprecating. Self-deprecating. Self-deprecating.

And so, I have had conversations at this point now with thousands and thousands of women, and I have watched them ping-pong across these three ways. I want it. I deserve it. It's going to happen for me. I don't care about it anymore. None of it actually mattered. I've unmasked it. I've realized what it is. It's a bunch of baloney and I never needed it anyway. To I'm none deserving. Clearly, I was silly to keep my hopes up and I never should have thought that it was possible for me.

Now, you can look at these things as face value, purse, travel, personal development. But you can also look at luxuries as other things, which are, as I explained in the energy of the first welcome call. The frequency of deserving is a frequency where everyone on earth should be able to at least play to to try to attain it. Everyone should at least have a fair shot of giving of going for it. If they sabotage it, that's their own thing. If they stop believing in it, if they, you know, if they misbehave or if something goes wrong, like life is imperfect and humans are imperfect. But everyone should be able to give it a shot. That's the frequency of deserving.

But the frequency of luxury isn't like that. In the frequency of deserving, if everyone had it, it would still be the frequency of deserving. Like, if every single person on earth had love, we would all deserve love and it would not change a thing. That love would be on the frequency of love. Deserving love would still be on the frequency of deserving love. Nothing would change. It would not alter the frequency in any way, shape, or form. But if suddenly, all of a sudden, everyone had a Lamborghini Urus, this would no longer be a luxury car because it's not supposed to be for everyone. That's what makes it a luxury. But everyone can want one, but not everyone will end up having one. And definitely not everyone deserves one because it's not on the frequency of deserving. Everyone deserves to want one because desire is deserving. But not everyone deserves to have one because no one just deserves a Lamborghini. That's not basic human deserving. It's a higher frequency. It's a playing frequency. It's like, ooh, if you don't get a Lamborghini Urus, it has nothing to do with your deserving whatsoever. Like, none. And if you don't have love, it's not because you didn't deserve love, but it can make a lot of sense if you have not felt love anywhere in your life to do the work of like, why do I feel I am undeserving of love? Why am I pushing love away? But I see a lot of us trying to figure out why we feel undeserving of luxuries, and I don't know that there's ever an end to that work because I don't think that's actually the work. Why do I feel undeserving of a Lamborghini Urus? Let me try to figure out how I can feel deserving. It's like that's not the real question. You can do the deep work about how to be deserving of love, how to be deserving of clean water and food in your cupboard and a safe home, to be deserving of respect from from other human beings, to be deserving of health. You can do the work around those things. But when you start doing the deserving around, I want to do the work about being the deserving of being a a millionaire, something starts to not work. Cuz if everyone on the planet were a millionaire, it would change the currency of money. It just doesn't actually work. It can't be. But everyone has the deserving of being safe. So why are we doing deserving work around something the whole world can't have? This is where we start splitting ourselves. If the whole world can't have it, I need to decide that I'm more deserving than everyone else on the planet. Cuz everyone in in an ideal world, if everyone had safety, it wouldn't change the frequency of safety. It wouldn't be like, well, no, not everyone can be safe because if everyone would be safe, safe wouldn't be safe anymore. It's like, no, it would just be safe. Everywhere would be safe. That would be great. Let's go with that. But you can't say everyone should have a, you know, 5-carat diamond ring on your hand because then it's like the the luxury of diamonds would just no longer exist. But safe wouldn't change frequency. Love wouldn't change frequency. Health wouldn't change frequency. If we were all healthy and safe and loved, that wouldn't that would not change any of those frequencies. But if we all had a 5-carat diamond ring and a Lamborghini, those things would no longer exist on the frequency of luxury. They would change them.

So, why is luxury so powerful? Because luxury is passion. Luxury is something that you fall in love with and you see at its highest possible value. It's something that's not just deserving. It's something you choose. It's something you strive for. It's something you desire. It's a different frequency.

To break this down a little more, everyone is deserving of love, but not everyone is deserving to be loved by you. You don't have to love everyone on this planet. It's a luxury to be loved by you specifically. Who here is married or in a long-term committed relationship? Okay. Is it fair to say the whole world deserves to be loved and be in a romantic relationship, but your partner doesn't doesn't have to love everybody else the way they their partner loves you? Like, you're the one you're the one to receive the luxury of love from your one partner. So, when I am Kevin's one, when I am Kevin's one, that is a luxury. Now, could I be in a different relationship? Yes. Do I deserve to be in a loving relationship? Yes. But do I deserve Kevin to treat me the way Kevin treats me when it's like the top of the most incredible relationship I've ever been in my life and he goes above and beyond and he treats me in a way I've never I've never been treated like this before? Should I just be like, "Well, yeah, I deserve it." Is that the right frequency? Or is it like, "Oh gosh, this relationship, this is incredible. I found the person I want to do life with. What an incredible experience. This is everything I've wanted. Like, thank you. Thank you. Thank you." And for it to continue on this frequency and for Kevin to go above and beyond, not just love me because everyone deserving of love. Not everyone's deserving of the kind of heaven that I receive. And if I was deserving of that, then everyone's deserving of that. But the thing is, not everyone's capable of what Kevin does. So, how can we be deserving of something that doesn't exist everywhere in the world? It doesn't work. So, it is a luxury.

But then, how did I manifest Kevin? I am also a luxury. Of all the people in the world that could be loved by me, Kevin is the one lucky person. I am magic on legs. And I had to know that in order to manifest Kevin. I needed to know that I was special to be loved by. And I think a lot of us struggle with that a little bit. Like, am I really allowed to say that? That I'm special? Am I really allowed to say that like being loved by me is a luxury? Am I really allowed to say that? Well, let's break it down. Ask your partner right now. Would it be okay for you to love someone else the same amount as you love them? What will they say? No, of course not. Unless you're in an open relationship and that's your thing. But in a committed, monogamous relationship, it's a luxury. And even then, even if you're in a polyamorous relationship, what's the limit? There's a limit. Even if your limit is three, if you're in a thruple, if you have 10 people in your relationship, there's still a limit. The luxury of "I love you. You're the person." We lose that luxury. We forget how precious that is. And we just think because everyone that we know is in a relationship, it's normal. We think because certain people have really great romantic relationships, that's normal. It's what we should have. It's what we deserve.

But one of my favorite concepts is "you deserve each other." You ever heard people say that? "You deserve each other." "You deserve each other" is not something people say about people who are really good together. Have you noticed that "you deserve each other" is the thing people say about people who are missing the mark colossally. You're like, you know what, you two, you deserve each other. It's kind of an insult because the love you have when it's extraordinary is not a love you deserve. It's beyond deserving. It's so beyond that.

It's, can you imagine? Just imagine being a fly on the wall, okay? And being Kevin's mother. And I want you to be a fly on the wall as Kevin's mother. Embody this person, this person in your soul. And I am having a conversation with someone and they say to me, "Gosh, you are so incredibly blessed to have a relationship like the one you have with Kevin." You're a fly on the wall with Kevin's mother's soul in your body. And you hear me say, "Well, yeah, I deserve it." Do you fly right into my eyeball in my ear? Like, what did you just say? My son is extraordinary. He treats you the way I've never seen a man treat a woman in the history of my entire life. And your explanation for this is that you deserve it? Good men don't go where they're deserved. They're go they go where they're seen. It's not just a deserving thing. Unless cherished. Cherished is such a good word.

Unless, and now here's the incredibly beautiful thing. Unless the energy could be a mirrored energy. So, when I talk about energetic match, I want you to imagine that in exact same reality at the exact same time as that's happening, Kevin is in another room saying, "How did you manifest?" And someone says to him, "How did you get a woman like Melanie? How did you get that? how I've never seen a woman love her man the way like how did you manifest a woman like that?" And Kevin says, "I deserve it." If both of us at the exact same time in the exact same energy said it, something could happen in the world because here's the difference, and I'm going to tell you something here. This is so big and so important. Whenever we have a deserving issue, it's because we believe the thing we're trying to get is better than us. So, it's like an unfair match. It's like, I got the best guy in the world, but it's because I deserve it. But if I look at the energy behind this and I say, "Look, if I have a Kevin, I will cherish him with all of me. I will be the greatest fiance, wife. I will be the greatest that I can be. I will not take him for granted. I will see him." And that's why I deserve a person like Kevin. Do you feel that? Do you see the difference there?

Now, imagine money. I want to be a millionaire. I want to be a multi-millionaire. Well, how do I how do I get behind deserving a million dollars? What have I done to deserve a million dollars? What do I do to deserve a million dollars? It's so difficult to get behind "I deserve it" because "I deserve it" often means based on what I've done so far, I deserve it. We calculate deserving based on up until now. If I have been good enough, I should have it. I should deserve it. If I have been bad, I don't deserve it. It's like love is a reward or money is a reward. And in that system, nothing can change unless you change.

Now, and this is where I feel a lot of personal development gets messed up. It's like, I have to believe I have to change something in order to become rich. I need to change something in order to be loved. And I'm working on changing myself in order to get this thing, but like that's not pure. That's not like I see this like bargaining with God. Okay, God, listen. Here's how we'll do it. I'll be better. I'll I'll I'll be more positive, you know? I'll I'll believe in myself. I'll be confident. Just give me the money and I'll and and and we'll do it. Like, I'll do the thing. Let's just bargain here. Let's I'll do it. I'll do the work, but it's transactional. I'll do this and then I get this. But in luxury, that doesn't exist. The minute you do that, in a luxury context, imagine you walk into Tiffany's. The store is beautiful. All the cream-colored counters, the beautiful jewelry, the employees with the smiles, and they say to you, "I'll make you a deal. If you promise to buy something, I'll take you into one of our luxury side suites and pour you a glass of champagne." Does that feel the same as, "Why don't you come and sit while you're looking, and would you like a glass of champagne?" One feels like, "Because you're here and you're even contemplating shopping with us, I would love to give you a glass of champagne and make you comfortable." The other one is a bargain. I'll give you this if you do that. Energetically, they're a hair apart and two universes apart at the same time.

Most of you are bargaining with God, Mother Nature, or the universe trying to say, "If I do this, will you give me that?" And it doesn't feel the way you want it to feel. And you're not getting the things that you want to get because you're doing the whole thing on a different frequency than what it's meant to be on. Most of the real things that you desire are on the frequency of luxury. And luxury is not taken for granted. It is cherished. It is seen. It is it's experienced. It's felt. It's loved. It it's presence. It's beauty. It's art. It's care. It's innovation. It's the greatest. It's it's pure. And we want to just somehow do something and make that happen. That's not going to happen. It's not going to work.

So, in order to get on the frequency of luxury itself, we have to untangle it from deserving. Because if you deserve something, then it should happen. If you desire something, you could spend your entire life wanting it and it could never happen. And there is something so beautiful about that. But it's very difficult for us when we want things. We're like the petulant child in Willy Wonka. "Don't care how. I want it now. I don't care. I want the world. I want the whole world. I want the luxury. And I want it right now. And I don't care how. I want to lock it up in my pocket. It's mine." But that's so different than the leaning back and the world gives you an abundance of any everything and anything that you're present enough to experience. You don't feel the same when you made it all work with force. When you pushed it into a corner for it to happen and you're afraid of it running away the minute you let it go. That's not luxury. That's a simulation. The life we really want.

And if you've been drawn to this master class, what I really believe you really are ready for in your life is the feeling of receiving and being blown away by what you're receiving of being like, "Oh my gosh, what is this greatness?" Of all of a sudden having your partner behave in a way that's even greater than ever before, that you sleep better than ever before, that you wake up more rested than ever before, that you eat the greatest food and you're aware of it than ever before, that you receive the greatest clients that you've ever had. And it's like, gosh, these people are incredible. What on earth is this? This is amazing. And that you never lose that feeling, that you get to go where you want to go on and be free when you're there and and feel the way you want to feel when you're there. None of that is what deserving feels like. Deserving very, very rapidly becomes what it should be. When's the last time you took a breath in the middle of the day and thought, "I deserve clean air"? But I can guarantee you if you had terrible, terrible air to the point where you could barely breathe for one day and then you returned to this air, it would be the first thought you had because in that moment, clean air would be a luxury. When we believe we deserve something, it stops looking the same way. I don't believe I deserve what I have. It's not about that because it can't be. It can't be about that because what have I done that's more than what you've done? It's not like, "Oh, yes, you deserve it." Like that. It's not the frequency of deserving. "I should have it because I deserve it." Like, who am I going to become like that?

And this is an interesting question that that's popping up and I've seen this pop up multiple times like, what's the difference between luxury and privilege? So, privilege is normally when we're talking about something that is not earned. It's something that is not earned. But luxury is the opposite. You do earn it. You choose to choose it for yourself, but you earn it in a different way. It's and we're going to unpack this during this master class, but the the the way I'm privilege in the in the that we could unpack this for days, by the way, and this is probably something that I would talk about more in my House of Oates containers, but it's a privilege to have the luxury that you prefer. But luxury isn't always a privilege and privilege isn't always a luxury. They are they are different energetically. And I will say a lot of privilege comes with guilt, whereas luxury comes with absolute presence and gratitude. And if privilege as a lot of the world sees it came with more gratitude, I think the world would change. If people change the frequency of some of those privileges into luxury and other things into like, this is actually deserving. There's something wrong with the world. This shouldn't be a luxury. There should be a deserving. We would actually be doing far greater work in this world. But that's a much bigger conversation.

What I really want to help you access right now is access to the luxuries you desire. And the way that we access the luxuries we desire is through acknowledging the luxuries we have. So many people want to go from the deficit they have to the luxury they desire. Those are that's a such a leap in frequency. It is extremely hard to do. And one of the greatest reasons it's hard to do is because when I'm in lack, I tend to imagine that the luxury I desire is a pristine, easy frequency. Something that if I had it, my life would just be easy. But that's not true. Even when you have the luxuries that you prefer, you will have duality in your life. And so a lot of us don't have the luxuries because we're not prepared for the duality that comes with them. But if we realize that everything in life has a luxury and a flip side, we can raise the energetic field all the way through all of the luxuries we desire.

So, I asked you to contemplate, what are the luxuries you have versus the luxuries you desire? And it's like when I say, "Look, I have no I have no money. Wouldn't it be great to be rich? If I were a millionaire, that would be what I want. That's what I want." What we're seeing in that moment is that wanting to be a millionaire is something I deserve that I don't have. And having no money is a problem I have that I don't deserve. And I am trying to bridge the gap here. But energetically, those aren't the truth. Emotionally, totally get it. But frequency-wise, that's not the truth. Frequency-wise, you could either put them both on lack, and you could see that you are completely misunderstanding the frequency of luxury and painting it to be something it's not. In which case, as soon as you access it, you will be disappointed. So, you've now put luxury in a weird blurry cage you will probably not access because it doesn't exist. It's like you've put a location that does not exist in your GPS and you're trying to drive there, but on top of that, you've put yourself in absolute deficit, which is not exactly where you are. So, you're trying to go from where you are to where you want to go by putting an incorrect address for where you are and an incorrect address for where you want to go. What are the odds you're ever going to get there? In order to actually go where we want to go, we've got to be clear about where we are, and we have to be clear about where we're going. Neither one of those two things happen frequency-wise in the way most people see their financial situation.

So, if you look at it and you say, "Look, I have the privilege in my life, I have the luxury in my life of being able to wake up without a million stresses of owning a huge company. I'm off on the weekend at the end of the day at 5:00 p.m. when I clock out. I'm done. My brain is completely free to think of everything it wants to think about outside of work hours. I have the luxury of time freedom most of the hours of my week. I have the luxury of having a family. When I come home from work, my kids are ending school around the same time and we have family night at night. I have the luxury of having a romantic partner that doesn't just want to be like, "We love each other, be grateful." It's like thinking of my birthday, thinking of anniversaries, thinking of romantic things, always so great. Like, I have the luxury of having a partner that is so in love with being a parent and I'm gosh, it's the best feeling in the world."

Now, the luxuries I would desire to call in are the luxuries of more financial abundance, creativity to figure out what's the thing that I would love to do that even though it might require more work, I love that work and it fulfills me. I'd love the luxury of a passion, something that really feels like it's it it gives me purpose and it gives me I'm so grateful to be doing this. I love the luxury of really enjoying who I am. There's a few things about me that I feel not great about and I love that luxury of feeling like I own myself and I love who I am. Now, as I'm doing that, I have not discredited the life I have imagining that if I had a different life, my life would be easy. I have seen the luxuries I have and I have looked at the luxuries that I prefer.

Now, I could do the exact same thing with someone else and they would say this to me. "I have the luxury of having financial abundance. I have the luxury of never having to check to see if I can afford something at the grocery store. It's like I want to go shop. I go, I shop, I buy, I say yes, it's fine. I got it. I have the luxury of being so passionate about what I do. I have the luxury of having a voice. I have the luxury of being heard. I have the luxury of being location independent. But the luxury that I desire, I would love to have children. I would love to have a clear vision for a a book or a a body of work that would really represent everything I've lived up until now in my life. I'd love to know what that angle is. I'd love the luxury of having a friend group that could travel with me, a a friend group that really is doing similar things to me, for example." So, I have these luxuries and I desire those luxuries. But how people do it is like they will say, "Well, you have all this, you should just be grateful, you shouldn't want anything else." Or they do even worse. "Ah, see that person is rich but they don't have all the things that they want. See, money doesn't buy you happiness." See, no discredit all the luxuries they have because they don't have these things. And with other people be like, "You should be grateful for what you have because all these other things are superficial." And so we create a huge gap that feels almost impossible to bridge.

So, what do we actually want to be doing here is we want to say from the luxury I have to the luxury I desire to experience, that's the bridge. And whenever you feel undeserving, it's because there's something about what you're asking for that you don't see yourself belonging to. So, I want to give you an example. When AlphaFem was a twinkle in my eye, when doing this work was a dream that really I had no idea how it. One thing that never crossed my mind, and this is something that I've I've talked a lot about with clients over the years. One thing that never crossed my mind was to ask myself if I deserved AlphaFem to work. And the reason I never asked myself if I deserved AlphaFem to work is because I was so clear about what AlphaFem working meant for the world. If AlphaFem works for the world, it means that more relationships are finding freedom where women are free to earn as much money as they want and be the boss and also be a goddess at home. And we're no longer doing this like gender roles thing where unless a man's able to financially support, he'll never find a partner. Like, what if he's able to support in every single which way and the woman is like a money magnet? Couldn't that relationship work? Would it? How do women intimidate all men? Is that really true? Or can we just figure out how to be the boss at work and the goddess at home so that we can manifest powerful men and actually have equal balanced relationships? Is it possible to find a person that you love and you and they love you and you're everything everyone has ever told you you probably would never manifest a relationship in because you know how to lead yourself. You understand the energetics. You know when to be in the balance of energetics. You know how to do it. Shouldn't women be able to earn every single however much that they want? Shouldn't anyone be able to earn however much that they want? Is everything just hard work? Or is it sometimes that you just create something extraordinary for the world and you get paid? Like, what's what would happen if more of the world believed what I believe? Well, we'd live in a really amazing world. So, if AlphaFem works, this is what happens for the world. Yes. Where does my deserving have anything to do with it? If I'm willing to lead it, I'm willing to bleed for it. I'm willing to learn. I'm willing to be forged in the flames like a breaking phoenix. I'm willing to be the proof of concept of this work. Over and over again, and the world is changed by it. Where does my deserving have anything to do with it? The deserving that we talk about. But if I change it just a little bit and I we talk about deserving in a different frequency, then I would say, if I'm the person who's willing to stand for this and I'm going to give so much of myself to help the world see this and I believe in it with such depth and power and I will I will live by it and I will teach it and I will share and I will refine it and that's who I'll be. Don't I deserve it to work? Wouldn't I be the one deserving of the role of leading this company? If I'm going to treat it like that in the exact same way, if there is a Kevin, doesn't he deserve it to be a Melanie? If there is an AlphaFem, doesn't the world deserve it to be led by me? That's the way we've got to look at it. Not deserving because of what I've done until now. Deserving because of who I'll be when I receive it. But the thing is, we mess all of that up when we think it's deserving. Because when we think it's deserving the way we thought it was, it means, well, once I get it, I deserve it. So many people have told me, I want to be rich because then I'm going to

retire. I'm going to leave. It's like I could have retired three years ago, four years ago. Can you imagine? Make all of this money helping people believe in the possibilities of the future. And the minute I make enough money to retire, I'm like, I've served myself. Good luck.

It's like, of course, there's a reason that I'm the one that is alpha fem is because it wasn't just about the money. I've had so many people people on the internet. If I were that rich, I wouldn't still be talking on the internet. That's why you're not rich in this line of work. Because if the minute I make my money, I'm out. Why is mother nature, God, the universe, going, let's give it to her? It's like, I didn't do this to make my money and get out. But you would. So, you do not have the position I have. Oh, if I were a millionaire, I wouldn't be telling people about how much money I make. Well, you would if your entire purpose was to help people believe in what's possible financially. And if that was what you told God you would do and the minute you actually did it, you stopped talking about it for selfish reasons, it would probably be taken away. I'm not really interested in what you would do if you were in my position. Because you didn't make the promises that I made.

What's what why do I deserve this is not because I was a good person or I was not a bad person. It was because I was going to be me. Even when people come there, you know, I I I would love to work with you. I've been thinking about it. I've been thinking about doing a master class with you for years. I've been thinking of joining the Alpha FEM experience. I've been thinking of being in a mastermind with you. I've been thinking of being your client, but you know, I just like I just don't know how to get myself behind spending this money or doing this thing. And it's like that's just never the way I used to see it. For me, it was like, imagine who imagine what this room would be if I were in it. Like, Tony Robbins deserved to have me as a client because years later, I still talk about some of the things I learned from him. Rory Ray deserved me to find her in the front seat of that car because 13 years later, I still have tears in my eyes when I talk about how she was the only voice. She doesn't even know who I am. But she's the one program I bought on a credit card that declined. And 13 years later, even though she doesn't even know who I am, I still talk about her with tears in my eyes. It's like they deserved me to be their client. Thiar Vecker, Secrets of the Millionaire Mind, deserved me to read that book because years later, I still talk about it. I still talk about his money jar concepts. I still talk about what I learned at warrior camp. I still talk about it. They deserved me as a client. I deserved to go because of who I would be for them.

A lot of times people come into something I offer, whether it's a master class like this or even my bigger containers, and they wait. They wait for someone to invite them. You don't deserve to be invited. You would take yourself there and then you be who you be for the whole community because they deserve you. They deserve your heart. They deserve your voice. They deserve your leadership. They deserve your best. They deserve your breakthrough. You don't come here into a class like this because you deserve it. You come to a class like this because the world deserves it. Your partner deserves to be seen as a luxury from this point forward. That's why you took this course. Your business deserves you to be the leader that you need to be in order for it to work. That's why you took this course. I deserve to have clients that respect me and listen to what I'm saying and show up for my master classes, especially when I offer them for free. That's why I manifested you because you have class. Because you show up, because you share, because you listen, because you do whatever it is that you do. Like, I manifested you because you're you. I deserve that. We're a match. You can't not be deserving of something if you're going to make it better by being there. Every time we believe we're undeserving, it's because we believe the thing we're trying to have is better than us instead of seeing how we create it to be a better thing. The beautiful hotels I go to, they deserve me to go there. To take the most beautiful pictures, to treat their staff beautifully, to tip in a beautiful way, to care about the environment, to notice everything that's beautiful, to be enamored, to notice their service, to say thank you, to say, "Gosh, this was incredible," to give the most beautiful reviews. They deserve me as a client. Not I deserve. Do I deserve to go? Of course, I deserve to go. Do you know what kind of client I'm going to be? Of course I deserve to make Alpha FEM work. Do you know what kind of leader I'm going to be? Of course I deserve a man like Kevin. Do you know what kind of wife I'm going to be? Of course I deserve it. Do you know what I'm going to do with this opportunity? How could I not deserve it? Do you even know what I'm going to do? Who I'm going to be? What I'll become? If that's the way you spoke to mother nature, God, the universe, if that's the way you saw your dreams, deserving wouldn't even matter anymore. It would be the silliest thing. What do you mean, do I deserve it? Based on what? The more present you are, the more open you are, the more available you are, the less self caught up in yourself you are. you can be for the world. And that's what luxury is. Luxuries are things that are created for the world. Luxuries are things that are created for the people who get it for the people who you you couldn't sell to even if you wanted to. No matter how much you want to, you can't hard sell a Lamborghini or you can't hard sell a Chanel purse. You can't hard sell a presidential suite. You can't hard sell seats on a private jet. You cannot hard sell luxury because that kills the entire frequency. It has to be on desire itself. And in order for it to be desired, deserving cannot be a part of it. It's got to be like, of course, I deserve first class. Do you even know who I'll be when I sit there? I can already feel it. Who I'll be for the flight attendant, who I'll be for the people next to me, who I'll be for the entire airline, who I'll be for the world. I deserve to be the kind of person that goes first class because I'll show I I I will I will literally make more first class more appealing just by being a first class flyer. Of course, I deserve weekends off. Do you know how strongly I'll advocate for like mental health and family first and all these things if I have weekends off? I will help change the world if I have weekends off. Of course I deserve. If once you have it, the world is better for it. You deserve it. But we won't know that until you have it.

So, how do we set ourselves up to show mother nature, God, the universe that we are the correct candidate for all the luxuries we desire? Not because they're better than us and we deserve it, but because the thing that we desire desires us. Like you want clients, but those clients deserve you. You want to buy a luxury thing. Well, that luxury thing deserves you as a client if you are on the frequency of luxury itself, which is what we're going to move into tomorrow. How to start actually calling this in in a whole other way. This first call is to open the doors, to change the frequency entirely, to flip on its head any way you've ever thought about this. So that when I put the information in tomorrow, it lands in a way different psyche. It lands in a wide open vessel. Not an already completely put together idea of what this all is. And now you're just trying to make things work with what you have. It's like, I have potatoes, walnuts, and peas, and I would love to make tapioca pudding. Your ingredients are pretty incorrect. I have a wondering if I deserve it, a lifetime of feeling like I don't belong and feeling like everything else is better than me. And I would love to create a life of luxury. That's going to be a weird tasting tapioca pudding. We had the wrong ingredients. Now we have the right ingredients. So tomorrow we can start cooking.

Contemplate what came up today. I want to I want to see if you end up writing a post about this or you have a breakthrough about this, tag me. I I want to see it. I want to I want to see what comes up for you. What I love about these master classes and why they're so powerful is it's not just about what you learn. It's about who you become because of what you've learned. And for a lot of you, things could change today before we've even done the second part. Allow yourself to live by it. Notice things in your life as luxuries instead of deserving and see how that changes things. every little thing. There are things that you deserve, like clean air. Actually, maybe notice those things, too. Gosh, I'm so grateful for clean air because I do deserve clean air and I'm so grateful I have it. But notice what is a luxury and how you may have missed it and how much closer you are to the luxuries you desire when you see things this way. I look forward to seeing you tomorrow. Thank you so so much for such a beautiful call. I've loved seeing the comments fly by and I shall see you on the internet.

Oh, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. We have a draw. Where am I doing to leave before the draw? I lost my marbles. Okay, we have a draw. So, we're going to be drawing two people. Two people that are going to manifest $2,000 in AlphaFam money. So, Alpha Bucks. Um, and then what we're going to do and so that this will be from the shares all up until today. And then I've I've been feeling about it. My team was like, "Are we going to do more draws?" They they love draws. And I said, "Well, I don't know. I'll see how I feel at the end." So now I kind of feel like maybe there will be. I think there will be. So we'll we'll see how it goes. But for this one, I'm going to draw them right now and then if there is another one, I'll send you an email on on what to do next. Okay. So, AlphaMe team, whenever you're ready, let us know who is our first winner. Drum roll. Who is our first winner? Kevin. Kevin. Kevin did this. Kevin is the reason we do drum rolls. Way over the top. Sarah Cross. Sarah Cross, you are the winner of 2,000 Alphab. Congratulations. You can use these towards any AlphaFm program or or course or bundle. Congratulations. Okay. And our second winner for the day. Second winner for the day. Thank you, Vik. That really means a lot to me. I really love your comments, you guys. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Our second winner is [Music] who? Erin. Erin Tular. Erin Tular, congratulations. You are our second winner of the day. So, congratulations for that. I am feeling like there's going to be another one. I can already feel it bubbling inside. So, I'll send you an email for how to get into the next draw tomorrow. But, please just be with what happened today. Let it land so that we can add on top tomorrow and it's not overwhelming. Like, let this sink in. and then we'll go from there tomorrow. Thank you for watching. I appreciate you so much and I shall see you tomorrow. [Music]