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Go play in somebody else's face. And I can see through that [ __ ] very quickly. She cannot see through that [ __ ] very quickly at all.
What up guys? Welcome to my reaction series. Today we're going to do what we do best on this channel, watch women take L's. Not only do women take L's, but we also tell the world about her L's, which means I will be employed. I will be employed for the rest of my life. I will never, I will never not have a job because women are just going to keep doing this.
All right. She says dating as a single mom in your 30s is a war zone. A single mom in your 30s is a war zone because I flirt, you flirt back. And then as the natural progression happens, I catch feelings and I let you know about that. And then you hit me with a, "Oh, I can't be intentional with you," or, "I'm not looking for anything serious." What the [ __ ] do you mean? Are you flirting with everyone out here? I, I grew up listening to Never Saw Never and Hello Goodbye. You can't do this, Jimmy.
Dating. Yeah, um, men are not. The men you want aren't dying to take on single mothers. Now, again, there's an alpha in every age category, every demogra-. There's some men that just, you know, they like to run through single moms and occasionally one, one gets them. Or, you know, a single mom puts her foot through the door and women will always pedestalize that one woman that got in, you know, barely. Um, but most, you know, for every one winner, there's a bunch of losers.
It happened again. I had a date cancel on me and we were supposed to go out for dinner tonight as a single mom. So, it's a few hours before the dinner, I get an Instagram message that he's not going to be able to make it. He has to bail. This was a guy from my DMs and he's out of town. He said he was coming into town, wanted to take me out for dinner. I said sure, cleared my schedule, made sure that I used one of my, one of my four free nights a month to meet this guy. And the funny thing is is that I knew this was going to happen. I had a feeling a few days ago and told a few friends that this guy was going to stand me up. So, I guess at least he had the decency to send me a message and let me know that he wasn't going to make it. I just don't get it. I don't understand. I don't think this guy had actually any intentions of coming to my city. I think it was all [ __ ] and I was just picking up on this really hardcore, but I can't even get a date. I literally cannot eat.
>> Yes, you can. You, you can't get a date with the guy you like, but come on. Fellas in the chat, I know a lot of you guys would take her out to dinner and try to bang her after. I know. I know. And get one date, get people to meet me. I don't understand what it is. I'm not on the dating apps, trying to meet people in real life, thought maybe I would try my DMs to see if that was an option, like my own personal dating apps or.
>> The L. I mean, men get stood up on all the time. You got to eat that L.
>> My social media. That's not working. What is it? Like, yeah, it's single mothers. Okay, let's see. This one's got a little potential. None of these women are ugly enough that I think they'll die alone, 'cause there's always going to be a guy that does it.
>> As if things couldn't get any worse, the guy that I've been seeing for like all of five weeks texted me just now and said, "I just feel like you haven't been showing me a lot of attention the past two weeks." Like, actually shut the [ __ ] up because you know how it's like, you make a to-do list and it's like the super important things and then there's like the little fun section at the bottom where it's like, these are things that like need to get done, but like, it's fine if I don't get it done. That's where he's at. I'm like, you're not even a priority right now. Like.
>> Damn. Oh, that cuts.
>> I'm so sorry. Like, you actually don't matter. Don't piss me off. As if. Yeah, 'cause again, okay, let's see. Dating my standards is a single mom. Here are my standards for dating for the people that I date and myself. I say that because I never expect anything from someone that I don't also expect from myself. And also, if you're dating, you need to have your standards defined before you start dating. If you don't have your standards predetermined before you start dating, how do you know if someone's violating them? Number one, and probably the most important to me, I do not do casual hookups. If you're just looking to sleep around, I'm not your girl.
No, I really think that you should sleep around as a single mother. Um, if you're not going to get back with your baby daddy, you're in the, basically a prostitute market. That's kind of how they see you, like as easy pickings. So you might as well be easy. Work with the men. And you might get a taker. Um, this whole, "I'm going to raise my standards after I've had a child" just does not, I don't know. I wouldn't really recommend it.
>> At all to anyone who doesn't mind casual hookups. Not at all. Get yours. You know what I mean? Love that for you. It's just not for me. Number two, also very important. If you are MAGA, goodbye. There's no discussion. There's, I don't want to hear anything you have to say. Just go. Any affiliation with MAGA or the Conservative Party at all, goodbye. Number three, if you have children and I find out you are a deadbeat dad, goodbye. Goodbye. I don't date deadbeat dads. If you try to play the card of, "Oh, I want to see my kids, but I can't see them because their mom won't let me," I realize that that may be true in some circumstances. And if you say that to me, I will find out if that's the truth. I will find out. And if I find out you lied to me, goodbye. 'Cause I also don't mess with liars. This one might ruffle some feathers 'cause people get real sensitive about it, but if you do not take care of your body at all, then we are not compatible. I don't need you to be the most fit person in the world with big muscles and a six-pack abs.
>> She does need that. That's what she's saying.
>> But like, if you don't work out at all and you only feed your body junk, we're just not compatible. I take a lot of pride and respect in the fact that I take care of my body. Um, I work out every single day and for the most part, I eat well. So I need my partner to kind of be on that same playing field. I don't even know what number we're at, but let's just keep going. The second, and I mean the second you make me feel like I'm annoying you, I'm bothering you, or that it's a chore. Okay, sorry. Or to talk to me or spend time with me, let me just go ahead and lift that weight off your shoulders, baby. You will never hear.
>> Yeah, again, you're a woman. So at some point, he, he's going to find you annoying. It just is what it is.
>> From me again. Goodbye. It's a privilege to be in my presence and talk to me, and I don't say that in an arrogant way. It's just I know I'm a good person and I have a lot to offer. So if you don't want to take advantage of that privilege and you want to disrespect it, I'll just take it from you. But at the same time, I don't expect all day communication 'cause you're not going to get all day communication from me. I'm busy. I got things I'm working towards on the daily. I have kids. I have my own life. I don't have time to sit on my phone all day and text you. I just don't prioritize talking to someone, especially in the beginning. Like, take me out.
>> Okay, you keep just saying you're not a priority to me and then wondering why the men are like, "All right, see you."
>> On a date and we can learn about each other then. Like, we can have a few texts during the day. You can send me a funny video. I might send you one, but like, I'm not going to sit around and text you all day. Next, let me catch a whiff of games, you will never hear from me again. You will never see me again.
>> He will absolutely see you again. That is cap. That's translation. That has worked and it will continue to work on me. Because I'm a grown ass woman. I do not have time to play games with somebody's unhealed little baby boy who is just using women for his entertainment and to feed his ego. Go play in somebody else's face. And I can see through that [ __ ] very quickly. She cannot see that through that. She cannot see through that [ __ ] very quickly at all. Very quickly. So don't.
>> She's just saying things.
>> Don't, don't play with me 'cause I have no problem blocking you. Okay, last one. Um, I need you to be a little funny. I do. If you're like a dry personality with no sense of humor and you just like don't want to.
>> She's kind of dry and she, you get dry because she's dry and unfortunately, um, so it's just not going to be good enough for banter with me at all. I enjoy the banter. I enjoy a little bit of.
>> Like play. Translation. Okay, let's see another woman. Realize how hard it is to date as a single mom that actually cares about who is around their child because man, I'm, I'm literally with my child 24/7. Like, rarely do I have an opportunity to do anything without my kids. And specifically Marco, like, he's with me 24/7. So I actually, I had an opportunity, you know, Friday night and, um, during the day on Saturday 'cause my sister kept him. And they offered to do it, you know, more. But I feel bad. Like, I feel terrible. Try, like, it's not putting my child off on someone when it's family, you know, their family. He deserves to know who his family is and me and my sister have grown into this amazing relationship. But it also, like, it's like a damn, like I'm sending my child somewhere so I can go hang out with somebody or, you know, something like that and it feels terrible. But at the same time, it's like, I will not allow anybody around my kids. I've done it before, made that [ __ ] mistake, ain't doing that [ __ ] again. Hell no. I learned from that mistake very big, very big. I stayed with a man for four years because my child was attached to him. Toxic ass psycho. Not doing it. So I'm like, I'm like at a loss 'cause like, what the [ __ ]? How do I manage that? How do I go around that? It, it's wild, honestly. And you know, then it's like I think about, okay, well, I'd rather have a man that's like, "What are you and the kids doing?" You know, "How are the kids?" rather than, "Oh, are the kids asleep?" 'Cause [ __ ] my kids are my life.
>> Yeah, just take that L. I don't even know what you're saying. Take that L. Okay, go on.
Okay, so I am dating and I'm a mom and just thought I'd give my share my tips on my dating standards that. Oh no, a single mother talking about her standards. Hell has frozen over. Keeps me going. It makes it exciting. It gives me hope in men because I have high standards and I understand that not everybody meets those standards and that's okay. I'm good with this. So, here's a few of my tips on dating. Okay, ladies, listen up. Number one, I especially, I know when it comes to a first date, I do not go out to eat to dinner on a first date. No, ma'am. That is 'cause it's my. No, ma'am. I sound like Shay. Shay loves Diva. She also talks about this. Um, 'cause it is, it's my resting time. It's my night time. I'm relaxed. I just want to hang out and I don't want to hang out with a stranger. I don't want to end my night with a stranger. Like, I just, it doesn't sound like a good time to me. So, I will not go out to eat or dinner date for the first date. That's number one. Also, two, no alcohol. I should not be drinking and having some sort of mind-altering substance substance if I'm trying to.
>> Again, the first date's really just to figure out if you're attracted to him. The rest can come later. So, as a single mom, you should be dishing it out. It should be like a giveaway. I mean, you don't have a lot of time. So, you might as well just put out every first date if you like the guy. So.
>> Get to know this guy. Like, if I have to drink to get to know you, we should not be on a date. Okay, so this leads, first dates are great lunch dates. And then number two, 10 times out of 10, I will not pay on the first date. No, no, no, no, no. Women, I feel like you get my presence, you get my time, you get my attention. Um, we get to know each other and I don't know. I can do it all pretty much. I can create life. I can get a job. I can pay for the tab. But in order for, I feel like for the man to feel valued and feel appreciated, he's got to bring something to the table, too. And that is one of the big things that men, they're very, they're providers. Like, men are providers. They like to provide.
>> Yeah, and she's going to expect you to provide for Daequan, her child. So, you know, it's like, provide. And they like to give and they, they love to give. It makes them happy to give. So, let him give for you. Let him.
>> If he wants to, but there's a difference between say, like, it's, there's a difference between accepting it because he wants to then expecting it because he has to. Pick up the tab, especially on the first date, and show that he's a gentleman, show that he's chivalrous, and that will one, hopefully lift your spirits, 'cause it does, it lifts mine to know that there are good men out there. Not all of them are, okay? Get that. Okay. And number three, I would say to ask the hard questions. Like, you're in observation mode. You're checking out to see if this guy is. Yeah, this woman's going to die alone. Because what's going to happen is she's going to come in agenda mode. Like, if, if I was a single mom, right? This is kind of the energy you want to give. I'm easy for you, baby. For you, I'm easy. Let's make it as easy to meet and easy. Asking him a bunch of questions. It's not going to inspire his best, you know? So. All right, single mothers, take that out, eat it. Sorry about, sorry about the situation you're in, but you picked it. Like the video, subscribe, and I'll see you next time.