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Three easy ways to kill your marriage. Here we go. Okay.
Number one, put your career or your kids before your spouse. Now, I'm going to gender stereotype in the next couple minutes, and we're not going to freak out because we're big boys and girls, and we don't act like internet mobs at Lake Point. Adam is found in the wilderness, but Eve is created in the garden. And Adam is put in the garden to quote, "work it and keep it." And then Eve is created as a helper for Adam. Husbands, your temptation will be to take a good thing and make it a God thing and end up prioritizing at different seasons your work or your career over your wife. And listen to me, husbands, you must never do that because you are not one flesh with your job, but you are one flesh with your wife. Your employer can get a new employee. Your wife cannot get a new husband. Wives, let me let me gently lean into you and let me even with my tone of voice try to do it a little different. In general, your temptation will be to at different seasons of your life prioritize your children above your husband. And listen to me, you must never do that. Because even though your children literally came from your flesh, the Bible does not say that you are one flesh with your children, it does say that you are one flesh with your husband.
Now, second way, second way, easy way to kill your marriage. Put your parents before your spouse. So, this is what Jesus says. He says, "For this reason, a man will leave." Everybody say, "Leave father and mother and cleave to his wife." Now, you can't cleave fully unless you leave fully. Your son or your daughter now it's their job to prioritize their immediate family. And when they left your family and started their own family, you became extended family and their new family is their immediate family. Parents will say like, "Hey man, we don't do that in our family." No, no, you don't do that in your family, but they just started a new family. I've got two daughters. Someday, oh bud, someday I'm going to walk my two daughters down an aisle. Oh, bud. And in that moment, I will literally take the hand of my daughter and in front of everyone there, I will hand her hand to another man. Pray for me right now. I'm not doing great. And in that moment, what I will be signifying is I am transferring headship over my daughter from myself to another man.
Third one, last one. You can kill your marriage very easily by putting yourself before your spouse. It's the easiest way to kill your marriage. You're either a selfish taker or you're a servant-hearted giver. When you have a marriage where both people are selfish takers, the marriage feels like a battle. And when you have a giver and a taker, the marriage doesn't feel like a battle. It feels like abuse. So now this third one, here's what we all want. When two people are filled with the spirit of Jesus Christ, who is a servant, the marriage doesn't feel like a battle or abuse. Everything just feels like a blessing. Let me just be real gentle. Wives, you start walking into the marriage going, "Man, how can I serve you? How can I submit to your leadership?" And then husbands, it's you walking in going, "No, no, no. How can I bless you?"