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What's going on everyone and welcome back to Reality Pill. Today we are going to react to another Kevin Samuels video. Before we get into the video, make sure you guys like and subscribe.
"So, I'm asking you ladies, why you think women are so angry in the dating scene?"
"Um, well, hello. First of all, thank you for"
"Hi, how are you?"
"Um, I think women are angry because women don't like to be told the truth."
"Uh oh."
"Um,"
"go ahead. I'm listening."
"Yeah. So, I think women are I think women are angry at the themselves at sometimes with maybe the decisions they made in their lives and they project that on."
"Um, maybe it may be your Bluetooth. It may be your headset. It might be your headsets. It may be. Okay, hold on."
"Instagram is a little bit more. Yeah, let's try that. Go ahead."
"So, you think women may be angry at some of the choices they made and may be projecting? Go ahead."
"Yes. And this is just my personal opinion. I don't want nobody flooding my DMs and sending me any threats and stuff. But yeah, so I think yeah, I think women are angry because of sometimes the decisions they made in their lives. um you know lack of accountability and um yeah and they don't want to be told the truth like you have we have to we like to be dealt with care."
"And so so I think there's some truth to those things so what is it for modern men to do in that situation who are coming to the women like this who are strangers if they're upset with things they decisions they made in their lives. Nothing they can do about that. Nothing guys can do about it. Um, how are men supposed to approach you? How are men supposed to approach women like this?"
"Well, I'm not a man, but um I'm going to try to answer that in a woman's point like perspective."
"Yeah. Yeah, that's what Yeah. Yeah. Um, I think just you gauge it. Like if if you see I think as adults we've we've dated enough people. We've have enough experience to know when you're dating someone there's red flags. There's things that people do where you are able to gauge um certain behaviors and see if I'm able to accept this or not. and then you move on or you you have a discussion with the person and you carry on. We all have made mistakes."
"Well, of course, that's the human condition. So, couple of things. Um, one that's that would be very difficult for most men to do to to gauge every woman. It's almost like we got to handle you with like kick gloves. And I'm I'm going just speak for the men, you ladies don't handle us that way. Y'all handle us roughly. Nuclear rejection. Nuclear rejection came from women to men, not men to women."
"So when most men hear that they need to treat modern women with care and sensitivity when they themselves have been treated harshly and rudely,"
"that's a hard pill to swallow. Because the guys are saying I didn't do because guys are saying I didn't do nothing to you."
"No. Yeah, I understand. And I'm not saying to put the ownership on just the men,"
"but you posed the question. The question was"
"we're just talking. Yeah, we're just talking."
"Yeah. How men should handle it. So, if we're talking about how men should handle it, where you have a woman who's angry, and I think if we're talking about the anger that we all know where there, you know, there's the woman that's aggressive and she's like jumping down your throat because you, you know, you say something that she doesn't agree with. Um, you just, okay, this not the person for you. Um, and you tell them like, listen, this I don't think it's going where I thought it would. And then you move on from the situation."
"What about this? What about this? What if what if men"
"What if men just started approaching women like this? Hey ma, what's the name of your therapist? I mean, seriously. I mean, because women ask, hey, where do you work? Where do you live? What if men just starting out for real assuming that most assuming that you need to be handled care ask what's the name of your therapist? And that and this is what it does to men. If they say, 'What therapist? I don't have no therapist. What's wrong with you?' Oh, if you get angry that they ask you that, no need to answer the question. If you if you say, 'My therapist's name is Miss Johnson.' Good. That means you're dealing with the problem."
"Well, I think asking a woman that, asking anybody that, it can be a sense of like there's something wrong with the person from jump."
"Yeah."
"Cuz we associate someone going to therapy that there's something wrong. See, but see, but if you're a healthy person, you don't worry about you don't think that way."
"No, you don't think that way, right? But just that's not how conversations would usually go. So, anybody conversations would usually go was men would have to kiss women's butt and try to and try to tap dance around your feelings and emotions that they didn't have nothing to do with. And I accept that because that's what you say. Women don't like to be told what to do. We and we like to be told in a certain way. That means men who are outside of you when it had nothing to do with you got to treat you tenderly."
"And that ain't gonna fly on me because these men got to live their own life. So if a man could walk up to you off the rip and realize whether or not you the kind of woman they need to talk to or step from like you were saying,"
"asking about asking about therapy, it'll be no different than if a woman asked the man in the first five minutes, 'Where you at?' 'Oh, I don't have a job.' Uh, she leaves, right?"
"Same thing. See, we don't we don't men don't have no problem being questioned because if we got a job, we'll tell you. If we don't have a job, then the beatbox starts."
"[laughter]"
"Okay?"
"But see, what you're hearing is accountability being put directly onto the women off the bat. And honestly, most women probably aren't going to have a therapist, have not risen to the level of self accountability where they need to look in. And that's something that my brothers need to know off the rip so they don't waste their time."
"Well, we're not Well, you saying that that's assuming that somebody or woman who goes to therapy um it's she's getting something out of it and it's productive, right?"
"No, no, no, no, no, no. The presumption is you the presumption that you're self-aware enough to know you got problems and you're doing something about it. I made no I I didn't ask how therapy's going or if talking about the nuances. We're not talking about the"
"No, the fact that the fact that Okay. It's no different than say, 'Hey, hey, dude, where you work at?' You know, you need money, so you need a job."
"It's no different. You ask somebody who's a little who's overweight and you say, 'Hey, what gym you work out at and who's your personal trainer?' And if they tell you, 'I work out at 24-hour fitness, and Robert Thompson is my personal trainer.' You least you take some accountability. If they say, 'What a gym and what's a personal trainer?' You keep on moving."
"Okay?"
"See, I'm with you. I'm with you that women want to be handled a certain way. And what I'm saying is men don't want to waste time and be trying to do all that stuff with women that they ain't done nothing to. So in my opinion, a person that's healthy would be like, 'Oh, I'm in a good place. I'll tell you about my therapist. No big deal.' Because it's no big deal because I made some progress. And I'll ask you about your therapist. That means you probably have one, too. that we're both kind of healthy-minded people."
"The only ones that get upset will be people ain't doing that."
"Um, that can be said. That's something that could be put on the table."
"H"
"I said it's an option. See, what I'm trying to do is give an option that's fair for both sides because the options you gave honestly ain't fair for men. It's men got to waste a lot of time there."
"As as a man who you know service men in a sense of you you're in this business where those are your clientele. What would you tell a man how to deal with a angry woman? What would you say?"
"Don't don't."
"No. But even before you even like because that's what I'm that's what my objective is. You just don't deal with her. You find a way to communicate like this is not what I want and you move on. Uh, I would I tell my I tell my guys that and I tell the women I deal with also, the world does not owe you understanding and your problems are your own. You should be expected to be addressing the issues that you know exist. And if you're dealing with an adult that doesn't even know they have issues, you need to move on."
"It's one thing to know you have issues and you're doing something about it. It's another thing to have them and not doing anything about it. You and I don't have time for somebody to get self-aware to start fixing their problem. Our time is ticking."
"See, I'm about putting accountability back on the individuals who are out here in the dating market and realizing that your product and you're trying to get somebody to buy you and looking to make a good deal. A good deal is when you feel like you're getting the value for your money. A bad deal is when you feel like you got ripped off."
"Okay?"
"And men don't want to get ripped off. and not to do women. So, starting out, I presume that if you're born in if you're black in this country, we all need therapy. That's what I've I've said that for years."
"We No, we we all do need therapy. But because I'm very careful with that because in today's society with social media going to therapy now is kind of like a fade, right? It's like trendy. So people are going to therapy but not really it's not productive, right? You're not being honest because just because you are going to therapy does not assume that the person is"
"but that but due respect that's step two. That's step two. That's step two. What percentage of what percentage of people in the black community would you say are going to therapy actively right now?"
"Probably 3%."
"So I'd rather deal with what the 97% are doing versus the 3%. 97% ain't even worried about no therapy. So but I know personally people who's been to therapy and I wouldn't be able to tell if the person is going to therapy actively. But I focus on the majority, not the minority. Because to me, that's a 10. That that's a if 3% that means 97 out of 100 ain't the 3% the three out of 100. Okay. Then we determine how good the therapy is. And I that's that's fine. You got a more of a chance of running into somebody who's got real issues over here. So, um, do you"
"why do you think No, no. What do you think what would you say that modern women owe men of the society?"
"What do we owe them?"
"Yeah. Because I I started a conversation last week on my YouTube channel basically saying that removing reproduction, men don't need women to survive because we already run the infrastructure. We will survive to the end of our days with pretty much no issues as far as survival. Women on the other hand need men because we run the infrastructure,"
"the the power plants and all that other stuff. So many women today who are single, you have jobs and you can make money, but you're not doing the job to keep the society running. What responsibility or what admiration or what respect do women owe to the men of the society who keep the world running so you can have a life?"
"Um, I don't think I'm going to answer your question. Actually, I don't think anybody owes anybody anything."
"That's a problem."
"That's a problem because see, let me let me explain why it's a problem. Back in the day, before we were industrialized nations, when we lived in towns, we knew we owed each other because we needed each other."
"Watch what just happened here. When she says, 'Nobody owes anybody anything.' That sounds modern, independent, empowered, equal. But he immediately says that's a problem. Why? Because society only works when people admit they need each other. If nobody owes anybody anything, then nobody owes respect, loyalty, sacrifice, protection, or cooperation. And once that mindset takes over, communities fall apart into just individuals doing their own thing. He's arguing that modern independence killed gratitude. She's arguing for equality. He's arguing for structure and roles. That's the real conflict here. And once he says that's the problem, he's no longer debating feelings. He's defending the idea that people need hierarchy and need to depend on each other. That's the turning point. Women don't far too many women today don't feel like anybody owes anybody anything because far too many women believe you are really independent and can do this on your own. And if you watched my show last week, you would hear that most women don't even know where water comes from. Oh yeah, cuz the lady said that she would go to the ocean and get water and so are you single?"
"I'm not married."
"Okay. So my point is if there's a fire, you calling the fire department. Those are men. There's a you need a police emergency. Those are men."
"Men built your building, built your car, built the roads. Mhm."
"You don't think the people who were living in the world, the men built, owe the men that built them, the men built your house. You don't think you owe them something?"
"I'm fasc I'm truly fascinated by this concept."
"No, I'm I was going to answer your question. I just wanted to put it out there, right? But yes, I do. I think we in societ we owe each other something, right? Not just women owing men. I think women, yes, we have an obligation to each other. Fix your face. We have an obligation to each other. Now, to answer your question, what do women owe men?"
"Um, we owe them to continue whatever it is that they need to do. We owe them to support them so they can go and do what it is that they need to do. Right. I don't know what that means. See, see,"
"it's nothing in particular, though."
"Yeah, you do. Let me let me explain to you. Let me explain way first when first when I said who owe do you owe anything? And when I hear a woman say we owe each other, that's just another equality argument."
"That's just another Let me explain. Let me explain. Let me explain. Because it's basically saying, I need you. You need me. I owe you. You owe me. And the numbers No, ma'am. And let me explain."
"This country has a military, right?"
"If we had a world war"
"and we had people trying to come invade our country and kill us,"
"who would defend you?"
"A man,"
"you would owe him something for putting his life on the line to save yours and save."
"I answered that though. I answered that. I said women owe men whatever it is that they need to go out there and do what they have to do."
"You know what you can you can what you can do? Go study World War II France. Go study what the World War II France and watch what the women of France how they responded to the Allied forces when they came and liberated France"
"because their men quit. Those women were having sex with soldiers, cooking for soldiers. I love your America GI women today. Honestly, the your answer is I don't really owe you nothing except"
"that's not what my answer I want you to know that's not what my answer is. So I answered the question in a sense of like in its entirety, right? So whether no matter what situation is, it's going to apply to that situation. So my answer was to your question, a woman owes a man whatever that man needs to go out into that world to be productive."
"Is that her? Hold on. Is But is that her is that her boyfriend or her husband? I'm talking"
"No. No. No."
"I'm talking about this. I'm just Okay. So, do you think that modern women in the Do you think Okay, let's use in the black community in the black community since they're black."
"Do you think black women even give black men basic respect?"
"No. Then if we're not getting basic respect, we're damn sure not getting admiration."
"So just from a basic human respect standpoint, we're not getting that."
"So anything that's built or done to keep the world and stuff."
"That's my ultimate point. Men aren't even getting based on respect for women in the society."
"Now, where do you feel like that breakdown came from? Um,"
"we started it as women like we"
"Well, yeah. Well, let me answer. I think it started in third in in a in it started in second-wave feminism, [snorts] but in the black community, it happened around 1965 with the Great Society and erra and the women's movement. Black women didn't have problems with black men that white women were having with their men. Prior to 1965, we had communities, churches, neighborhoods, H.B.CU, schools. We knew we needed one another. After that is when it all started falling apart. Now it's starting to do that uh across other races, but other races have more of a patriarchy and their own economy to keep the women kind of uh more dependent. When soon as black women's financial future was separated from black men, i.e. government,"
"that's when all bets were off. Mhm."
"So, uh, and this is why so many black women, I think, feel unprotected or say, 'We need protection. We need this, we need that.' Well, that's a response from the men not being respected. Men are going to go rush to protect something that doesn't even respect them. So, um, can we say we're arguing what came first, the chicken or the egg, or you're just automatically saying?"
"No. No. It came first. No, no, no. It's you guys came first. You did. Women did."
"We We approached the disrespect first."
"Yeah. Because in"
"So now in the 60 in the 60s, in the 60s, look, read the Monahan report and read Monahan citizens. women chose the government over their man."
"So, and I hear you. So, are you saying it's us as black women the responsibility to change the narrative?"
"Yeah, because we never left the table. I said this on my YouTube channel. If a war is over, the gender war is over, the war between men and women are over,"
"two waring sides, the war is over, they come sit down and do what? They have a peace treaty, right? They they have peace talks."
"Okay."
"It's it's it's the losers who go to the winners and hammer out a deal. The winners don't travel to the losers territory and give them anything. You can obviously see women lost the gender war. 80% of children born out of out of wetlock. One in four black women are married in their lifetime."
"That's a loss. So regardless"
"to gain to gain some type of power back, we um we started disrespecting our men."
"I I I well, I don't know if that was the initial thought. I mean, I will say that I don't believe that in mass black women thought I'll just take money and kick men out of the house. I do think there was some uh shortsightedness"
"of long-term effects because even the greater society was surprised at how black women responded"
"when they were given government aid. That's Monahan scissors. They were like they expected when the when the benefits stopped that the women would start to rely more on their men. No, how how women actually addressed it was to have more kids to get more benefits. But we can't go back to 1965. We're in 2021. Corona just"
"So what do we do now?"
"Well, what are y'all going?"
"And there's the I'm correcting you. If I'm understanding, we have all these angry black women. We have these men who never left the table. I'm just trying to like wrap up, right? I tell you I tell you what we do."
"We have all these black men who are just waiting to love on us and we're angry. What is it now as black women? What do we do? Cuz I'm curious."
"Uh, well, first of all, um, you admit you lost. You admit you were wrong. And come back with some humility because we all you got."
"White men ain't sitting there waiting to marry you. Hispanic men ain't sitting there waiting to marry you. Middle Eastern men, uh, and Asian men are not ready to sit there and marry you. either you marry us, you you marry each other, or you buy a dog and die alone. Those are"
"I listen"
"those are the three options because most"
"Well, that's not that's not because now you see women freezing their eggs and they're talking about they gonna have their kids on their own. So,"
"and that's still dying alone."
"Okay? If you cannot, but you still have to have a sperm dome. And see the fact"
"still need the man."
"But see and the fact and I thank you for bringing that point up. The fact that you have women that are that belligerent"
"that'll be willing to go to those lengths instead of getting some therapy, sitting their hot pants down and trying to figure out how to work themselves out with a man."
"That says something as my as far as I'm concerned."
"No other group of women has fought to be apart from their man like black women have. And black men ain't done nothing to y'all. We have never been a patriarchy. That color purple stuff was a fiction. Black men have never had that kind of power over you guys."
"Well, I'm going to play devil's advocate. Although we know the devil advocate, right? Let's play devil's advocate. Maybe. And I do agree with you. Um I personally have my personal opinions with, you know, women who do decide to go that route. But do you think it's because there there are some women that saw it happen and it becomes now a possibility that oh maybe I can raise a child on my own because my mother raised me or and my and my siblings and we turned out okay or I've seen my aunts and other people let me answer the question. This is just this is not my belief but I know I get it but let me answer the question. How old are you? 33."
"33."
"All right. Uh, [laughter] 20 years ago, the black community was a better place or a worse place than it is today."
"Is it a better place or a worse place when you were 13?"
"20 years ago."
"20 years ago. When I was 13, I think it was better maybe because I was maybe sheltered in."
"Okay? I know. Because it was better"
"because we still Okay. And 20 years before that, it was even better. Okay."
"Right now in 2021, we have plus 80% out of wedlock child birth rate. Black boys are reading at a fourth grade level."
"Yes."
"So there's a difference between maintaining a child and raising a child. Is the black community today 2021 better off than it was in 1950? Jim Crow segregation and all the other stuff. Which was better?"
"No. I I have strong beliefs in that. I feel like we should have kept it in a sense of keeping it black."
"So to say that the women feel like that, well, I saw my mother do it. Yeah, but it's not successful. Just because you're alive doesn't mean you're successful."
"Well, wait. But the only reason I say that is because there are some people that can argue there are doctors, lawyers, engineers that that came from single mothers. So there are some people that argue those points."
"Yeah. Okay. And and this is this this is that 3% versus the 97%."
"Okay?"
"That's what that is. That's the 3% looking for the exception. And the exception only goes to prove the rule."
"I judge it based on one thing."
"Any any society is built around the strength of its men. Where are black boys at right now?"
"Most of them are incarcerated. the bottom."
"They're at the bottom academically. They're dropping out at alarming rates. And that's the next"
"I work in the school district."
"So that's the next group of black men. How do you build a community with a bunch of people reading at a fourth grade level and dropouts? What has to happen is black women need to realize you cannot do it alone. Every other race of women realizes they need their men,"
"need them, not not optional. You need them."
"And that's where the ego"
"uh and the humility and all that needs to come back. And that's what happens when someone loses a war. Because this side over here and this side over, they were fighting. At one time, either side thought they could win. But there's a time when something happened and once I realized they were losing"
"well that's also because women like you said women are progressing, you know, the the"
"progressing"
"the income gap"
"in a sense where there's more opportunity for women are graduating at a high level women are"
"that's that's a mis that's a mis that's a misnomer though"
"science engineering hold on hold on hold on ma'am I have to correct this all the time and I'll do it science, engineering, technology, and math and things that run a society. Women are not they're not growing in these fields. Women are graduating in the humanities and things like that. They're not growing in the things that actually make money. Men, the wage gap is a myth. Black men, women and men make the same amount of money. Actually, women make more money uh with the same income and the same job title when it's adjusted for the amount of actual hours worked. See, there's a lot of propaganda that floats around in the black community, but at the end of it all,"
"when that pandemic hit, everybody else was hunkered down with their family. And I saw many black women out there going home and it was just them and their dog. And that's the reality. every other group. Women can swim across the Rio Grand with a with a man from Mexico and he can sell cans and pick up trash and and be a day laborer, but that man still gets respect in his house until black women"
"submit, become humble, respectful to their men that they need. What? How you expect to have a community? You cannot have it with a bunch of mother- le households and there are no men. You raised the very men that you you raised the women raise the very men that they end up. So at what point do at what point my question so my question to you is you're 33 years old and even though this may not sound good at what point do women sisters stop digging and start realizing that you know what it is time for us to stop this fight and try to make peace with black men."
"Um I mean listen we can have this conversation. I can get it. I've seen that you turn off the comments. One, you know, one person can get it, two women can get it, three women, but it's the majority in a sense, right? Like the majority, it has to be a consensus where like all women come together and say, 'Okay,"
"well, no, that's where that's where that's where I tell No, no, no. I'm not trying to get the women. All you need is 10% for a tipping point. What really needs to happen is women like yourself saying, 'You know what? The best way to show other women or to get women to get on board is that you go find you a man husband, go make some black babies and go build a black community with the rest of the black folks.' And then the single folks and sit over here and do what they want to."
"But it say what does it say in the airport? What does it say in when you're in the airplane?"
"The mask drop down. You got to put it over your face first. Oh, and save yourself before you save someone else."
"Yeah. Women need to start saving themselves because it is your When I talk to women, it's always y'all trying to, well, what do we do with the other one and other sisters? Save yourselves."
"No, no, that's fine. We can save ourselves. But the percentage of women that are screaming out, I got a good man, versus the one that is screaming, you know, he ain't about nothing is lower. in a sense, right? So the women that are screaming, the women, okay,"
"the women that have the good men, the men that are doing something, that are taking care of the household, that are happy in a healthy relationship, they're not really out there bozing and screaming out their top of their lungs like, 'Okay, I have this.' Whereas you have the women,"
"but why? But why?"
"I don't I don't know. Because it's more um appealing. It's more Listen, I'm on Clubhouse and it's every day. It's a w about men this, men that. So"
"because because hold on, hold on, hold on. I asked at the beginning,"
"do you think the average black woman even gives black women respect? So when a black man is doing it right, he don't even get credit. But when he does it wrong, hold on. But when he does it wrong, it's it we saw this in the 80s all over talk show TV. This is why the problem is not on the men's side. 61 51% of black men are single and childless. 64% are in the middle class."
"The stats are in. Black folks, black men are not the issue."
"This is why black women have a really dysfunctional way of looking at the men to even in your scenario to say, 'Well, only one in four will get married.' So, if you're one of the four that has a man and he's doing the right thing, you should be walking around with a with a sign saying he's the [ __ ] instead of he still ain't did this [ __ ] right? Because how because you gotta be honest, when was the last time you went to a beauty shop and you saw a woman who's in a relationship"
"singing the praises of her man?"
"Well, when that happens as a woman,"
"when was the last time you seen that happen?"
"Um,"
"that's a goddamn shame."
"Well, let's consider it's co. So, let's consider the last time I went before CO. It's That's a damn shame. That's a damn shame that black that black men"
"Okay? Even if I say 2019, it doesn't mean that we had a whole pandemic. So, let's consider"
"we got a whole we got a whole damn problem. The the sisters need to find a way to start praising. See, that's why I say forget the forget the men."
"Forget the men. [clears throat] What are you doing with your boys? And your boys don't get praised. Your boys aren't getting what they need. So if you're not gonna do it for your boys, the men ain't got a shot."
"So this conversation, it's gonna be seen by a lot of people."
"No, this conversation is going to be seen by a lot of people. At the end of the day,"
"black men want what every other men, every other group of men want basic human respect."
"No, definitely. No, definitely. But I'm what I asked you is I answered your initial question. What I asked I asked what she say?"
"I said I got it."
"Yeah. But what I asked you is like, okay, let's just give an example. If I'm doing it and I'm in a group of females that my home girls, we do that too where we praise our men, then what? What about the ones who still don't do it? You know, like"
"I'll explain to you, they won't be around you. But then that's still not going to eliminate what you're saying."
"No, no. If you're doing it and your home girls are doing it, the ones that aren't doing it will leave because no one wants to hear them [ __ ] and moan in order to be down with the group. They're gonna have to come and start praising their men. Because ladies, when one woman starts complaining, another woman starts complaining. Save yourself. See, what's more likely? What's more likely is that one woman will start praising and then the rest of the group will shout you down to get you back on program. No, we don't want to hear that [ __ ]"
"I've seen that."
"And that's the So, you gave me this utopian thing that don't happen. And that's what needs to happen. If you're in if your man's"
"No, it's not utopia because it does happen."
"It doesn't happen. No. If it Okay. If it happened even close to being enough, black men would not feel so dejected when dealing with relationships with sisters. You already said the black men don't even get basic respect, so we damn sure not getting praise."
"No, but what I what I'm asking you is what you just the point that you just made go to my point right where you have there are group of women that are doing that. But"
"why is I just gave you an example."
"Okay. But but what you're giving me is a theoretical example. A theoretical group of women."
"No, that's actually happening. I have I have group of friends who if you know we have the single ones, but then we have the ones that are on relationship. We're not bashing men. We're not sitting here talking about he ain't [ __ ] we this, we that. Like"
"what's the problem?"
"The problem is the fact that the narrative is that there are black women that are angry. There are black women that don't"
"Well, you know what? You know who you know who put that narrative out there in the first place?"
"Black women."
"Exactly. That's what needs to fix it. For from 19 from the late 1970s through the 80s and 90s, black women sat up on Sally Jesse Raffio, Donna Hugh, Oprah, Ricky Lake talk shows, talk running down black men. Essence, Ebony M. I mean, you got uh Waiting to Exhale. Uh, color purple."
"But waiting to let me let me no."
"No. No."
"Okay."
"Cuz waiting to Exhale. There were also positive stories in that book that did not make it to the movie."
"I didn't read the book."
"I did."
"I didn't I was 13. I didn't"
"I read it. That pissed me off because they put all [ __ ] on the movie"
"because it goes into a narrative make you guys the victim queens you've been. You're victim. It's the perpetual victim and the narrative. The reason why it is so easy for the remainder of the world to run black men down is because they hear all women turning us down."
"We're only I'm the only group of men that go into the world and we have to deal with the perception of the world and the perception our women give to the world. So you want a better perception of your men, change how you talk about us."
"No, I totally agree with you. This is not a glad you"
"agree. But but but when are you going to get But when saying I'm glad you agree, but you say, 'How do you get the other women on the same page? You and your friends that are doing it, right? You got to shock them down. Every here's another thing. Every time you see a a black woman talking [ __ ] running down a man, you go after him. You go after her and shot her down. Like, y'all come after men who are talking about women because y'all tend to let women ride. Because when a man's talking about a woman, you can count on black women to come in there and try to check you."
"But when a black woman is talking about black men, y'all are just like this."
"That's foul. Y'all need to be shutting your sister down because she's talking about your son. Your sister your son and your brother."
"Well, I'm not that. I'm I'm not."
"I didn't say you, ma'am. I didn't say you. I said that."
"Okay."
"You asked how you want to if the problems with the narrative of how women talk about men, then if women started if imagine a world for for a year. What are you looking at over there?"
"Oh, I'm my laptop. What happened?"
"Because we're talking right here and it's like attention. [laughter] Go ahead."
"Imagine a world for a year to where a woman came in and she just started complaining about her man."
"And she got checked by the women saying, 'Girl, please be quiet. You got a good man. I don't want to hear that shit.'"
"Uh, just imagine what a year that would do."
"I've witnessed that. I witnessed that."
"Okay? I'm not I'm talking about just not witnessing. I mean, that was the standard to where the only time we want to hear some real complaints is when something really happened, not just you in here fussing."
"Because every time a woman, black woman, fusses about a black man, people hear it and they take that into themselves and that's how they see us. The world sees us through your eyes."
"You want to change it, change how you talk about us."
"No, I totally agree. I totally agree. And the only And the only ones that can check black women are black women."
"We can't even do that."
"Oh yeah, you can. You can check them by ostracizing them. Guar. Yeah. Oh yeah, you can. You just don't. You don't have the strength to do it. You don't have the strength to do it, but you can because if it's because No, no. If it's four of y'all and Alice comes in there talking that [ __ ] y'all say, 'Alice, you need to get up out of here with that.' "
"And Alice start gone. We don't want to hear that. And if Alice realizes that uh she ain't getting invited back over to play uh spades because she come here talking that [ __ ] Alice will come in on a different tune."
"Women bi women psychologically are wired to care about the good opinion of their of their other women. That is how women that is part of your genetic makeup. That's part of your your uh psychological makeup. Women respond to the pressure of other women. Okay,"
"that's"
"but that's but that goes back what I'm saying is that goes back to what I my point that I made is that's in your group right like that's in your group of females but sometime it ends there though it really it ends there let we're speaking logically if I"
"we're speak we're speaking that okay but a group is a microcosm of your life it it if it was just ending there, it wouldn't be it wouldn't be a a global problem. The problem is it doesn't end there. It goes from your group to this group to that group to the world. Bottom line is what I'm saying is what I and I'm gonna say this. I'm g wrap it up. At the beginning, I said, 'What are men supposed to do about these women who are upset?' And you basically said, 'Men should here's an idea. Men could do this this a certain way.' And my response,"
"say no, say what I said."
"No, I'mma say what I said."
"No, I said"
"No, I'mma say what I I'mma say. No, I'mma wrap up. No, I'mma wrap up my program the way I'mma wrap it up."
"No, I understand. But I don't want"
"Okay, I'mma wrap up my program the way I'mma wrap it up."
"Okay,"
"thank you. Bottom line is I said no. The responsibility is not upon the men to handle you with kit gloves. Responsibility is the on the men to decide whether or not you got your head in the right space and leave you alone."
"But that's what I said. That's why I asked you to repeat what I said because"
"I know what All right. I mean, okay. See, I said what I said for a reason."
"Okay."
"Is this really a heel worth dying on? No, definitely not."
"All right. Well, I just want to make sure my point Okay,"
"ma'am. I don't want to go back. Okay. Bottom line is this. The accountability is on women. It's not on men. It's not on men to talk to you a certain way. It's not on men to c your feelings. It's not on men to bring you up to a level. Men didn't do anything to Men did. Men aren't the responsibility. It's not a responsibility that's in a ditch right now. It's on It's on you guys."
"It's on you guys. And it's for you to figure out how to fix it to come back to your men."
"Because right now you still have men to come back to. One thing that women in general, black women in particular, have never really contemplated is what if black men aren't there for you to come back to? What if we like what if they just said forget I don't want to deal with y'all period? Then where you going to go? There's no one else. It's up to you guys to fix you guys and present."
"I said this on my channel. Men are the consumers of the product that is a woman. If men aren't buying the product that is a woman, it's for women to make a better product. It's not for them to chastise the consumer and ask them why I'm dying. But"
"this has been good back and forth though. I gotta get to somebody else. Shout out to Brooklyn. later."
This whole conversation comes down to one question. Who needs who more? He claims men built the infrastructure, run the power plants, build the roads, fight the wars. His argument is about leverage and power. He's saying if men control survival systems, then women's independence isn't as real as they think. When she says we owe each other, he hears equal dependence. But he doesn't believe it's equal. But that's the split. Then he talks specifically about the black community, bringing up welfare expansion in 1965 and feminism. His point is when women could survive financially without men, relationships changed forever. He frames it as women won financially but lost in relationships and community. Here's his main message. You need men. Not optional, actually needed. Respect drops. Cooperation drops. Community gets weaker. His emotional point is black men feel disrespected and replaceable. And when people feel replaceable, they just leave. The most important thing he said is if you want people's perception of black men to change, change how you talk about them. That's real because reputation spreads through what people say out loud. If the loudest voices are negative, that becomes everyone's belief. His final warning is, "What if black men just opt out?" That's the real fear. Not fighting for control, but just walking away completely. Because once a group checks out, rebuilding trust is way harder than any argument. This debate isn't about who owes who. It's about whether modern independence destroyed mutual respect. And once respect is gone, relationships become transactions, not real partnerships. If this was the wakeup call you needed, smash that like and drop a comment with what shook you the most. Subscribe for brutal honesty that doesn't care about protecting your ego. Thanks for watching. and I'll see you next time.