Modern Dating Will Make A Man Go Cold

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The title of this video is "Modern Dating Will Make a Man Go Cold." And what I want to talk about in this video is why it's easier for a woman to be ruthless while dating than it is for a man. This is going to be a hard-hitting video, but we're going to try to make it positive and informative now and try to give you some solid advice towards the end.

Now, the first thing that you need to understand is men and women fall in love differently. In the RP spaces, they say that men love idealistically and women love opportunistically. Based on my experience, I'd say that's a pretty accurate take, but I don't think it goes far enough. I think men fall in love based on pure fantasy. A man, the way a man loves a woman is just complete fantasy land. You know, he sees a woman, he likes her, he just says, "You know what? I love her." He overlooks all of her flaws, all of her red flags. He just falls in love with her and he just hopes that it'll last forever. It's just pure fantasy.

The way that a woman loves a man is realistically, you know, she has realistic goals and realistic expectations. And what I mean by this is it's a real goal, you know, to get married. Getting married is a real accomplishment, I should say. Having a kid is a real accomplishment. Moving into a bigger house is a real accomplishment. A woman's love is rooted in reality. You know, she makes her choices on who she's going to fall in love with based on a realistic goal, based on whatever her current needs are. So, you have to understand there's a different approach there. You know, women aren't just looking at men and saying, "Oh, he's so dreamy. I just love him." That's not the way they do it. They decide, "Okay, I want a relationship. This guy is relationship material. I want a friends with benefits. This guy is friends with benefits material. I want sugar daddy. This guy's got money." Right. It is real. It's it's found. It's realistic. It's based on reality. It's not as sneaky as people think.

And [clears throat] in terms of being ruthless, you kind of have to understand how hypergamy works. So, let me give you an analogy. Let's say you've been going to a barber shop your whole life. And you've been getting your hair cut by the same person since you were a kid. You never had your haircut by anybody else but this one person. And you walk into the barber shop one day and that barber called in sick. So, there's a new barber in there. You say, "All right, I'll schedule with the new barber," and the new barber gives you the best haircut you've ever had in your life. Now, you're going to be ruthless. There's going to be no remorse for the action you're about to commit. There's going to be no guilt. You're just going to look at the new barber and say, "Hey, I'd like to schedule with you next time." That's a damn good haircut. And your old barber will be sad. You know, they'll they'll miss you. They'll wish you would come back to them. You're not you're not going to feel remorse for your actions. As a matter of fact, you're going to be excited about the new journey with the new barber. Well, in modern dating, you're the barber if you're a man. She's getting her haircut. If somebody else is given a better haircut, then expect for her to schedule with another hair another barber. That's hypergamy. I'm not saying that, you know, anybody can be loyal, anybody can be faithful. I'm not saying that it's impossible, but I'm saying generally speaking, this is how it works.

Now, you don't want to come from fantasy land. You want to you want to understand that that's just sort of how sex intersexual dynamics work. And you know, it's not good, it's not bad, it's not ugly. It just is what it is. You know, it's just human nature. That's uh I mean, I guess it's a good deed for humans in the long term. If women are attracted to tall guys, good-looking guys, intelligent guys, athletic guys, well, that means each generation is going to be more tall, is going to be more athletic, more intelligent, so on and so forth, right? So, it is what it is. We can't change it. So, keep that in mind.

And I'd like to share a story with you guys. The first time that I got to witness this with my very own eyes, I had a front row seat. I've told this story a couple of times before, but never from this angle and never quite with this much detail. A girl that I was dating when I was 19. Still to this day, the best looking woman I've ever seen, aside from my current girlfriend, but you know, we're talking 1A, 1B. You don't get any higher than that. Now, I really liked her a lot. And I don't know why, but it seemed like our relationship, the fullest extent that it went was the two of us meeting up at a hotel. We'd pick up a six-pack of Smirnoff for her, a six-pack of beer for me. We would go to a hotel, just sit there and talk and chill, and one thing would lead to another. We'd get tipsy and we'd do our thing. That's really all we ever did.

And being in the position I was in, like I said, I had a front row seat to really see how a hot woman who has game, who has the whole world in the palm of her hands, conducts herself in modern dating, or at least has the ability to conduct herself in modern dating if she chooses to. She had a guy about 10, 15 years older than us. Bought her a car. Bought her a not quite brand new, but like 10,000 miles on it. Uh GT Mustang 5.0. And you know, back then those probably ran you about $35,000. Now they'll run you about $50,000. So it's the equivalent to that. Just bought it for cash, no problem. That's how pretty she was. That's how good her game was. That's how in love with her he was. She had another guy. It was a boss of hers. I saw her kiss him on the cheek. And she didn't operate on the same point system as the rest of the the workers did. She could call in whenever she wanted to. They didn't give her they didn't write her up or, you know, penalize her for it. Go on vacations whenever she wanted. It was just just easy mode. I know she was seeing her boss, too. I could see all the signs.

But the thing about this is her boss and the other guy 10 years older than us knew nothing about me. You know, here's the thing about that. Women will show the world who their sugar daddy is. They'll show the world the guy that is supporting them or the guy that's their boyfriend, but they'll keep a big secret about the guys that they're sleeping with. You know, they aren't going to let anyone know what's going on in that area. So, if you're a guy that she's sleeping with, you'll see the guys that she's messing around with, or you'll see the guys that are supporting her, I should say. They'll never see you. It lowers her value if they know that she's sleeping around. So, she would play it off like she was this good girl around them and they'd support her. And I knew damn well that she wasn't, but I wasn't in a better position than them because I really liked her and she didn't take me seriously. I was a 19-year-old with no money, no nothing going for myself. I mean, a lot of you guys would say that's a good position to be in, but not when you like her, you know, not in that case.

But nonetheless, I got to see the way a woman operates when she has a roster and she has men at her disposal and she can get whatever she wants. And even to this day, just about every woman I've ever met up with who's, you know, that I've dated, went out with, been in a relationship with, anytime they've opened up and showed me their DMs, you know, their old dating app profiles and the messages they get, they always have the same thing. You know, they have guys that are like the uh the friends with benefits types that wouldn't really be taken seriously. You know, they got plenty of those and they got plenty of sugar daddy types. Got everything, everything they could possibly want. And they explore their options and they do it in a way that's private. You know, they aren't going to let everyone know all the details about what's going on. And they move accordingly to what their needs are. So, you know, if she just currently wants a guy to hook up with, she'll find a guy to hook up with. If she decides she wants to get married, she'll find a guy who's marriage material. If she wants a bigger house, she'll find a guy with a better job who can buy a bigger house. You know, they can kind of move on accordingly to whatever their current needs are. Not saying that all women are going to do this, but I'm just saying they have the ability to, you know, it's just reality. Men don't have this opportunity that we don't have it the same way.

And if you ask me, I'd say we've all just adapted to the free market that is modern dating. You know, and men, our position in the market is be as high value as you possibly can be, be as good-looking as you possibly can be, have as much game as you possibly can have, and go out there and play to win. A woman's position in modern dating is here. I am. I'll take you. You, you. Uh, I'll dump you. I'll leave you. I'll be in a relationship with you, but I'll move on to this other person whenever I want. That's their position. And I'm not saying this, I'm not demonizing anyone. I'm just saying it's actually men. It's actually simps that dictate the way modern dating works because they're willing to to do this, right? Women are willing to um sort of uh like they can be strict and I'll put it like this to word it perfectly. Men are built physically rough and tough but internally we have a soft spot for women. We're weak for women. Women are built sweet and fragile physically, sweet and delicate physically. But they have a hardened rough spot for men. An ability to reject men, tell men no, leave men with ease. It's amazing, you know. It's it's amazing that we're we're opposites in that way. But that's essentially why the market is the way it is. You know, it's just the behavior of the two.

But I've seen this take place time and time again, over and over again. In my 20s, I hung around the bodybuilding scene quite a bit. So, I knew a lot of dudes that were like, you know, tall, physically fit Chad type of guys. Pretty much most of the dudes I knew had hot girlfriends. Some of them got those girlfriends pregnant, you know, and they they got married. They started their little families. But then it was amazing how fast after just a few years. You know, the guys would give up the bodybuilding thing and they would try to mature and be 30-year-olds and all that. The women they were with would move on to something else. They were no no longer into the guy that he was. No longer into that type of guy anymore. Now all of a sudden they're into like a nerdy type of guy, you know, never lifted a weight in his life, but he's got a good job, makes good money. She just bounces onto him. Her and her kids move in with a new guy. It's amazing, right? It's it's just amazing how you see these things happen. Now, I'm not saying that they can't be faithful because they can. I'm just saying they'll move according to their needs.

And this is why it's important to vet women and understand what you're getting yourself into. You got to pay attention. You got to be realistic here. You can't live in fantasy land. When you're vetting a woman, you have to pay attention to what it is she's currently looking for. Because one of these is permanent. It's real. And you can work with it. You know, you can make it work with her forever. The rest of them, it's all about, you know, what you're currently able to provide. It's all about the current situation. So, you have to vet a woman and find out, is she with you for money? Is is she just looking for a guy with money? Look at her past. Look at her history. Look at her actions. If so, keep in mind you know what you're getting into. If this is a woman that's just looking for a friend with benefits, you know, she's looking for a handsome guy or a guy that's packing and knows what he's doing, keep in mind that's what you're getting yourself into.

If a woman is just looking for an emotional connection because she's the type of person that needs to share life with somebody, she needs intimate relationships. You know, she needs a bond in order for her to feel like she's complete in life. That's a woman you can work with. You know, all you have to do with a lady like that is spend time with her. You know, give her hugs, have a good sex life, and it'll be fine. You know, that's the type of woman that you can, you know, that that's genuine, that will actually like you. She'll be low maintenance on her birthday. She doesn't care about going to a super expensive restaurant or something. She'll be cool with like having a little bonfire, inviting a couple friends, you know, drinking a couple beers, grilling out, something really simple. Make your life easy, you know, but that's only if she's really into you. If she really likes you and she really feels that connection, if she's with you based on the circumstances, based on, you know, something to do with money or or sex or something like that, it ain't going to work.

But yeah, that's essentially all there is to it. You know, understanding that, you know, the way a woman moves in a relationship is totally different than the way a man moves or the way the way women move in dating is totally different than the way a man moves. You know, we've seen this take place. A lot of guys have seen this take place with their parents, their brothers and sisters, their friends. Seen it happen in their own lives, seen it happen on social media or reality TV. Now you know the way it works. You heard it in all the songs, all the catchphrases about loyalty, about the way this stuff works. It'll turn a man cold if you don't fully understand the way intersexual dynamics work.

But one thing you need as a man in order to move accordingly and understand, you know, how to be resilient. I suppose you know it's almost like you need to have an out-of-body experience. If a woman ever disrespects you or betrays you, don't be mad. Don't be sad, be disappointed. You know, you should have an out-of-body experience. Goosebumps, hair standing up, not mad, not sad, just disappointed. Realizing how strong you are in this situation, you know, creating a natural push-pull in the relationship. If a woman is doing something you appreciate, show her appreciation. If she's doing something that disappoints you, show your disappointment. You know, it's smooth. It's easy. It's a nice no policy. But the key is vetting a woman. You know, understanding what it is she's looking for. You know, is it something that can last forever or is it something that's just based on the current situation and what you can provide? That's really hard to do when you're living in fantasy land, you know, when you're a guy that is just in love.

And look, a lot of guys, you know, once they turn cold, I get it. I understand why a guy would go on Seeking Arrangements, you know, and find some hot girl on there, give her an allowance, see her a couple times a week, have her go on about her business. Yeah, that's kind of like almost like a fetish. It's like a power thing. I get it. Not my thing, but I get it. I fully understand why guys would rather stay single and just have friends with benefits. That's not too hard to accomplish in this day and age. I understand why guys avoid relationships altogether, but I've found that being in a long-term relationship is a is a better life for me. That's why I do it. And when you know you're with somebody that's emotional for you and just desires that connection with you and your only responsibility really is to maintain that makes things super easy. You can't fall into one of them other situations and expect to switch it over to that situation because it ain't going to work like that. Follow those steps. I think you'll have success. You know, if you don't, you may run into some problems.

All right, guys. I think I pretty much hit this from every angle that I would like to and don't really see a reason to ramble on anymore, but hope this video was somewhat informative. And that's about it for tonight, guys. Until next time. See you.