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After reading the Bible and singing gospel songs to myself, I ended up on X and I was amazed at what was coming up on my feed. It was Boyce Watkins. I really don't care for Boyce Watkins, but every now and then he'll have something on his feed that makes sense. And I read the caption, "Someone should tell this poor woman that it's just as easy to say black people as it is to say black women. Unfortunately, the Democratic Party has never had a pro-black [music] family agenda, so this makes sense based on her politics." >> Huh? >> So, you know I had to go and press play.
>> So, when it comes to answering the question of what America owes black women, the answer is everything. When we think about the sacrifices that black women have made from the moment that we were stolen from our homelands and transported into this country to the fact that black women continue to stand as the backbone specifically of the Democratic Party, we know that black women are always the ones that are doing the labor, but we are also the ones that are always the first targets of any harm. So, this 4th of July, I say celebrate a black woman that you know because whether it's an invention that she made or whether it's the very democracy that still hangs by a thread right now, there is a black woman to thank for her contributions.
>> Let me first say that as a black man in my 40s, [music] I am very proud of the women in my community. They've done a lot. They have experienced a lot of adversities. I went to undergrad with black women, medical school with black women. Some of my favorite teachers, Miss Holmes tail from Detroit [music] that came to Sacramento, Miss McLemore 5th grade, were black women. Literally, that's been my engine into who the man I am today. The problem with her statements was that it alienated black men all the way. I can understand if this was International Women's Day, which typically happens on March the 8th, but it's not. This is the 4th of July, a national holiday, and even though it's essence, she's praising black women for all of these things, while at the same time >> [music] >> alienating black men, as if these black men do not exist. But, this is not as uncommon as you think.
>> I'm pro-black, obviously, but I like to say that I'm pro-black with rankings, because number one is black women, and then everybody else. Sorry. I My bad. I don't know what to tell you. Black women first, though. Black women first. Like, it don't matter. Black women first, though. And then everybody else.
>> This sister [music] says, "I'm pro-black with rankings. Black [music] women first, everything else is secondary."
>> Boy, you all sit your stupid ass down. Who the you think you is?
>> This would be different if we were talking about animals, like [music] I like dogs and then everything else, like cats, >> [music] >> hippopotamuses, flies. Okay, fine. But, literally, when you are a woman, there is nothing else out there but men or males, however you want to configure that in today's society with ALL THE ACRONYMS.
>> GODDY!
>> THERE'S LITERALLY only men. And so, when you're saying you're pro-black women first, we can infer that you mean girls, and everything else is men. Which is probably okay to feel that way if you want to live >> [music] >> in a world all by yourself. Guys, and this is devastating. But, but wait.
>> I remember I was talking with somebody not too long ago, and they asked me why I'm a pro-black woman instead of just being pro-black.
>> Go on.
>> So, let's get into it. Number one, why wouldn't I be? Why wouldn't I be, especially considering the fact, whether you like it or not, black women and black feminine presenting people are the most unprotected group in America, besides indigenous women, of course. Although both black men and black women both have to go through the struggles of racism and have to deal with various types of oppression like hate crimes, police brutality, over-masculinization, fetishization, and etc. because of their skin color, black women not only have to deal with that, but also have to deal with the same types and forms of oppression that I just listed because of the fact that they're a woman as well. It sounds absolutely reasonable to me to put the same group of people that I'm also included in that face double the oppression first.
>> So, she said some very interesting things that I actually agree with. Number one, black women are unprotected. Number two, black women are not only going through the same things as racism and white [music] supremacy, they are also women. This is true. And then the last part is why don't I represent the group [music] that I'm a part of? I would be silly not to put that first, >> [music] >> right?
>> But then, our community, >> [music] >> right, in and of itself will not get better if we are constantly excluding half of our population.
>> The brother brings up a very strong point. Why would you alienate half of your population? To be pro-black would mean pro-black men and women, community, women and children, black men trying to work together. And this largely occurs, especially when, you know, I was kind of in the black manosphere community, and this is what kind of happened in 2015 with the black manosphere, when that community was formed largely in response to feeling alienated or not included in the black community discussions, and the male's point of view not really being listened to thoroughly. And this is the reason why those things happened. And it's completely okay for a black woman to be pro black woman and everybody else last. The problem is once the men give you THAT SAME ENERGY. I'VE DONE SEVERAL VIDEOS ON THIS CHANNEL LATELY about why black men don't speak to black women, why black men don't ask for women's phone numbers. And the conflict that's happening here is the same black women who want to put black men as second class citizens expect these same black men to build functioning communities for her and her children, even if she has kids from somebody from a previous marriage, and believe that a black man should go into this relationship with gladly being second and being denied. So, let's say for an example, if you are a black man and you are taking care of business and you are doing things um to to lead your household and providing your household, you're doing so as a second class citizen. And so, what happens is the people receiving your effort don't really appreciate it because they kind of feel like they deserve it. And then on the other hand, if you're a black man and you don't want to fall into this, somehow, you know, you're a self-hater, you don't love your mother, you don't love black women. When obviously dealing with a woman like this, there's no real incentivization as to why you should be with her.
>> [music] >> Uh and many black men will look at such a woman as just completely broken and unfixable.
>> He's right, you know.
>> But then, here's the worst thing.
>> And the reason why that falls apart is because we're all interconnected. So, they can say they're very pro black woman, but then they have like children that sometimes be black boys.
>> Now, this is the saddest part because if you are a black woman and you feel that you should be pro black female first. The fundamental question is what happens when such a woman rears a son? And there's a good possibility that if you're a black woman and you're a single mom, you literally have a 50% chance of bearing a boy. And most black women are going to love their sons the best way that they know how. Now we have a black woman who's pro black woman first and then has a son that's secondary that she doesn't really want to relate to men. So then what are the effects of a young boy or young man growing up in the ecosystem with a black woman that thinks like this? Number one, whoever the father is is most likely going to leave or she's going to force the man to leave. Secondarily, no other man would sign up for a relationship like this long-term. Some might, many won't because a woman that talks like this doesn't have a whole lot to offer. But here's the worst part.
>> And then if you look into that Yale study that showed black teachers, these were black women having the same levels of implicit racial bias against preschool black boys as their white counterparts.
>> The brother brought up this 2016 Yale study. In 2016, Dr. Walter [music] S. Gilliam at Yale Child Study Center had this particular [music] study performed. And he was using this new eye tracking technology >> [music] >> where students monitored the attention of children. They had no idea that these children were going to be actors, [music] but it was early childhood teachers. And they took teachers from all different [music] races, including black female teachers. And what they noticed is that all teachers paid attention [music] to black boys the most, expecting them to misbehave.
>> Damn, damn, damn.
>> Now that included also black women.
>> [music] >> Shockingly, the white students held black children to a more lenient behavioral standard because they believed that there's an underlying stereotype that black children are naturally more prone to misbehave, even though none of the students were misbehaving. Black women wanted to give black young men strict discipline to prepare them for harsh racially biased world. [music] That's important to know if the child is misbehaving, but the child is not misbehaving. So, now what we have is black women misdiagnosing young black men, and at the same time, if they share this particular narrative that they are pro black women and not pro black male, and then you have black women that have biases towards young black men, then what happens when those young black men get older is those young black men, at least some of them, could become broken because of the biases that they face from black women. And this is important to understand in the black community as we get older and age if we want children in the black world or the black diaspora to favor their ecosystems that they come from, which is black women or black men, it's important to understand that we must treat each other with a certain level of respect and kindness for that sort of relationship to come. And then when you see black men or black American men once they get older, they decide that they want to go their own way or become passport bros. It's funny that nobody refers to studies like this. And even if these black women mean well, and I honestly believe that they do, I honestly do believe that black women are frustrated, love black men, but sometimes you can be frustrated and love somebody and still go about it the wrong way. And when we're talking to the black women out there who are pro black female, imagine a man saying that. Imagine a bunch of black men coming out and saying, "We are PRO BLACK MEN, NOT PRO BLACK WOMEN." EVEN THE pro black women will come around and say TO THESE DUDES, >> [screaming] [cheering] >> BLACK MEN ARE STILL HELD TO A HIGHER STANDARD, and black men would never be able to say this without being called misogynist. But when you talk like this, you do turn off the group of men that is supposed to help you. Because remember, when things get tough, like government layoffs, job cuts, in which black females are affected by that, and you don't have any kind of community behind you, such as black men, men of all groups uh typically go out and develop stuff. You know, if they have the right ecosystem, they go out and they build, they go out and they start businesses, they go out and they get trades, >> [music] >> and nobody benefits from that than women. And when you cut off that opportunity for men to be in your life, or for men to come together and work together, and try to give a community or build a community around you, you're cutting off a big lifeline. Got it?
>> He's right, you know.
>> Well, guys, what do you think? It's your boy Oshay Jackson back at it again with another episode of The Celebrity Junk. Pretty sure you follow me, you subscribe to the bell. We're out.
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