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Perception, because like the goal of this conversation should be to, like, progress, right? Do like, unless you're ladies that you don't want to deal with men at all, then we should talk about.
"We don't want to deal with black men at all."
"I love all men and not black men."
"Just not black men."
"Well, is there, is there any women here who don't want to deal with men, period? Or is it just black men? Or is it a mixture?"
"It's just black men, and we actually want non-man, non-black men's help in these corrections that you speak of."
"So what are the, what are the corrections that you're looking for specifically?"
"Force, force, 'cause that's the only thing that's going to work."
"But I mean, what, what are you looking for black men to arrive at a place of understanding of, like, what do you, what do you want to see?"
"Well, we believe that there is no help for hope for them. We don't believe in changing their minds. We don't. But I'm trying not to say what I really want to say because you're on stage. But if they could not exist, hey, we wouldn't be mad at it. I think for me, I think I want the coddling culture to kind of stop. I think they get validated a little bit too much and they're not held accountable as much as white men, Hispanic men, Asian men. Like the legal system works to their benefit a little bit more than they think it does. Um, they are seen as the ultimate, like, most oppressed, and I think that that coddling culture needs to stop, and they need to be held accountable for their actions."
"Because we live in white male patriarchy. White men set what's socially acceptable. So with you all setting what's socially acceptable, the degenerate behavior of black male culture needs to be checked, and there needs to be more. 'Cause we're no longer looking for accountability from them because they've proven that they will not take accountability. We need the men who set the culture to make them take accountability by exacting some sort of consequence for perpetrating behaviors that are not socially acceptable because you all create the socially acceptable behavior."
A few moments later.
"Hey, black man. Hey. Hey, black man. Hey. Black man. Black man, send this to a black man who needs to hear this. Okay, black man. So, I was sitting here and I was thinking, you know, the most beautiful thing about you, we can't even see. Even, even if you were naked, we still cannot see it. And I want you to remember that. As always, my black man, I love you. I appreciate you, and I hope you have an amazing, what's it, Friday weekend."
"Baby, I love y'all bad. I love y'all real bad. I love y'all tough, baby. Know that you're loved."
"You know, when I, uh, you know, um, created the term the reachback a few years ago, right? I was explaining to black men that, uh, you know, the, the reachback usually happens later in life with these pieces. They give their prime years to pookies, right? And then after they, you know, have pooky children, they decide that they want to get productive, clean black men, right? And the problem is that sometimes, you know, they're successful at it. Let, let, let me tell you why, why the reachback happens is because usually they need help. Usually they need help. The reason why they want, you know, they want you after all these years, they'll call you at 35, 40. It's because they need help. They're poor."
"The primary reason I see black men who are distrusting a black woman, just in general, or who are, um, just hesitant to trust black women today who are singing black men's praises, is because the last few decades of anti-black misandry that has been unaddressed, not only in just mainstream society but particularly in the black community. The ways in which there have been black women in key positions of power who have actively supported misandry's point of views, who have promoted, you know, feminism, toxic feminism, who have promoted really negative ideas about the black community, specifically about black men, and have been praised. That is specifically why black men um may look at black women and be like, 'We're not accepting the reach back. We, we, we don't want to hear anything you have to say. We don't want to hear your 'I love you black man' videos. We don't want to hear your affirmation videos. We don't want to hear your, you know, your smile emoji hearts, your cute text messages, like whatever. These little, these little gestures that you're doing to try to prove your love. It fails in comparison to the last few decades where we've felt incredibly disrespected, you know, and just disregarded because we have to remember many of these videos are coming out of a culture that has said for decades, 'We don't need men,' right? Right. And this just, this wasn't just in the black community. Like, media itself has told women that they do not need men. Men are kind of like side notes. Uh, they are not an integral or necessary part of life. And these ideas are things that are also talked about in college, in college feminist literature, which questions the patriarchy, which questions the need for men, for masculinity. Uh, the, the roles that masculinity has played. Like, it questions and undermines all of those things. So, I'm just saying, we've had decades upon decades upon decades of anti-black misandry. We've also had, I would argue, an educational system that cultivates misandry and in many ways, um, along with media representation and different magazines, different shows, different things that promote that and that have not given, um, black women in particular equal parity or, um, expression."
"Really, at the end of the day, if a woman wants to show or prove that she loves a black man or loves black men, the best way to do that is actually in your real life. Like, you know, I'm not necessarily saying the videos, 'I love you black men' videos or affirmations are bad in and of themselves, but they are bad if your love for black men does not go beyond TikTok. If your love for black men only exists within the confines of TikTok or YouTube or Twitter or whatever social media platform, then it's not genuine, right? If you can only say these nice things and have care and compassion for black men, as long as there's clicks, views, and maybe Cash Apps associated with it, then it's probably not genuine. I think the best way to show that you do have a genuine love for black men and your community is actually through your everyday actions. And again, this is the, this is the frustration that I'm hearing, that I'm sensing, that I'm seeing from men. This is why many men look at these things and say, 'This is disingenuous. This is fake. This is just a reachback. This is black women who are, um, really just looking for somebody to pay their bills.' And they're pandering in hopes that they'll find a man who was silly enough to do so. But I'm not accepting the reachback. I know better. I understand better. She doesn't really care about me. Again, this is what I hear a lot of black men saying. Why is that important? The reason that's important is because, you know, you don't get to go say those things, right? You don't get to go, you know, say those examples of how you basically hate black men and and beyond hatred to the point to where you're now, you are now doing lives and having conversations with the Klan. Like you're so disconnected from your own sense of reality and your own blackness and your own, uh, black consciousness that you think that collaborating with people who hate you is going to go well for you."
"But I'm saying, like, when you, when there's been a documented history of women actively hating men in the community, actively disparaging them, laughing at them, insulting them, disrespecting them with little to no pushback. Right? It's one thing if women go out here and say these crazy things and then you see black women raising hell because black women know how to raise hell. Black women absolutely know how to raise hell. Y'all know how much black women raised hell when Kevin Samuels was popping up. They were very vocal. They were very loud. And y'all remember how they were acting when he died, when he wasn't alive, right? Black women know how to make their voice known. So the issue is that these things can happen in these spaces and there's not like World War II in black America. You know what I mean? Like black women are not doing. They're not being loud and vocal like black women can do. And so because of that, it's very, very, very hard for black men to see those kinds of examples and then take this kind of stuff serious."
"I love y'all bad. I love y'all real bad. I love y'all tough, baby. Know that you're loved."
"Right. It's like you don't get to have decades upon decades upon decades of misandry and disrespect towards black men and then all of a sudden you just get, 'I love y'all bad. I love y'all real bad. I love y'all tough, baby. Know that you're loved.' And so that's exactly what I think, that's where I think the disconnect is coming from between black men and black women. You have black women that think these cute compilation videos is going to make up for decades upon decades upon decades of disrespect and misandry. I'm done. I'm done with life and it's all Jermaine's fault. It's always Jermaine's fault. I'm done."