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Hey guys, I really hate doing this. I keep making these videos where I'm just totally [ __ ] on dating apps and on Cold Approach and I really don't want to make these anymore because a lot of my friends actually make products where they're teaching guys how to optimize their dating app, which is not something that's real. Or they try to improve their text game, which is not something that is real. Or they're trying to meet nines and tens through cold approach, which is not something that's real.
And people keep coming to me with these objections about how dating requires so much time. And the reason why people think dating requires so much time, well, there's so many busy entrepreneurs that I hear from say, "I don't have enough time to do what you teach, Michael," is because they unfortunately believe that the way you date in 2025 as a man is by using cold approach and dating apps. In fact, they don't know any other techniques. They have no concept of any other way to meet women.
And if that was the truth, then I agree with you. You don't have time. If you're a busy entrepreneur and you had to go out 14 nights a week to try to do a numbers game so that you could meet enough women to go on dates with on a regular basis, that's a massive waste of time. I totally understand that. There's no way that's going to work.
So, the reason why you think that dating requires so much time is because you mistakenly have been taught by matchmakers, pop psychologists, dating coaches, and women panderers on the internet that the only way for you to meet women is to go out and approach them. Approach as many as you can. You're listening to terrible, terrible advice from places like The View. I don't know if you guys heard that video where Gary Vaynerchuk was just like, "Go up to every woman you see and just ask her to be your girlfriend." Or these guys who are like, "Just get in the best shape of your life and then just right swipe on a hundred girls on these dating apps and and pay for the most expensive version of the dating apps."
When the data is clear, there's nine men for every woman on Tinder. If you're a really good-looking guy, dating apps and Cold Approach probably work magnificent for you. In fact, if you probably noticed, take a second to do this. You might want to pause this video. All the dating coaches, pickup artists, and all these female matchmakers that you see on the internet that are telling you to approach more and telling you to use dating apps or matchmaking services to meet women, notice how goodlooking these people are because in their reality, it's true. If you are a male model, you absolutely should do these things.
But for most of you, the rest of you, those of us who are just averagel looking, we don't have bad genetics. We don't have good genetics. We're just kind of in the middle. For the majority of us, we have to do something different. Cold approach and dating apps don't work. They're a rigged game. In fact, they're so rigged that there's data that shows the more money you spend on a dating app, your match rate actually decreases.
I want you to consider this. You're an attractive woman on a dating app and you see a bunch of guys right swipe on you, you're used to seeing that. But every once in a while, you'll get a guy who sends you a super like or a super rose. Meaning, in your mind, you know that this guy actually paid money to send you a like. In your mind as a woman, does this guy seem higher status or lower status to you? And the data is pretty clear. When you use those superlike features, your match rate goes down from 2% to 1%.
Additionally, attractive women aren't going out anymore. Nightife all across the world is dying. There's tons of data about the nightife in Los Angeles crumbling. In places like London, you see five nightclubs shutting down every single week. There's tons of data about night life in general across the world is starting to go down. In part, it's because people are just kind of tired. They've come to the realization after co that they don't really need to go out and spend thousands of dollars on a bottle. But the other reason why is because attractive women are getting their validation through social media and dating apps.
Now, you might be saying, "Michael, you just said dating apps don't work." They don't. There's women who are reporting that they go on dating apps specifically with the intent of just getting attention. And if not just attention, attention and a free meal. You don't believe me? Look it up yourself. The data is very clear on this. Dating apps don't work. Cold approach is becoming less and less effective every year unless unless you do it the way we teach in Men of Action. Cold approach is becoming a very very much zero sum game where there's a few guys at the top who do really well and the rest of guys that don't do very well.
So again, if you believe that the only way for you to meet women in 2026 is for you to use dating apps and for you to do cold approach, then I don't blame you for being frustrated. I don't blame you if you run a six, seven, eight figure business and you're like, "Michael, I don't have time for this. I got divorced. I got to pay my ex-wife alimony. I got to split time with the kids. I don't I got to run a business. I got a 100 employees. I don't have time to date." If you believe that, you're right. You don't have time to date.
But the problem is the reason you believe that is because you don't understand how social circle works. And I don't blame you because there's nobody else who teaches it. The only person who teaches social circle the way that we teach here in Men of Action is us. No one has ever tried it this way where we incorporate ideas from evolutionary psychology, ideas in highlevel networking, communication, leadership, and dating and put them together.
If you use what we teach, it saves you massive levels of time. I did not create the Men of Action program for you guys to spend more time chasing women. I created the Men of Action program for you guys to spend less time chasing women. In fact, for some of you to spend no time chasing women. I teach you techniques so that you are able to generate attraction, wait for it, while you sleep. That's not what Cold Approach does and that's certainly not what you do on dating apps.
So the first reason why Social Circle actually saves you time for those of you guys who are out there who busy, you want to just get results as fast as you can, you're just a successful entrepreneur, you're up and coming, you just don't have time, you work 60 hours a week, the first way that social circle saves you time is through social media. Social media shows high status with low perceived effort.
Now, I know a bunch of you got up on your hunches and you're like, "What? Social media? I hate that." Your butthole clenched and you're like, "Uh, you're like squinting. I don't like social media." Let me ask you something. If you were an accountant, would you not market your accounting firm on social media? If you were a dentist, would you not use social media to market yourself? If you were a car repair shop, would you not run ads or at least have an Instagram site? It's funny whenever we relate this to business and sales, everyone completely acquiesces to this idea of using social media, but when it comes to dating, some guys feel like it's tryh hard or it's a little bit gay for you to do this stuff.
I'm a [ __ ] to what works. And I have thousands and thousands of testimonials from clients who have had amazing success doing what I teach them. I'm a 48-year-old retired US military officer. I fought in two wars and I flew over Iraq in a plane that was on fire. Do you think I want to use social media? [ __ ] no. But I do it because it works. So for those of you who have this kind of like uh this ickiness or this resistance to this idea, just remember if you were running a business, you would have no resistance to using social media in order to market your business.
A lot of you guys are really, really terrific dudes. You're just great guys with a marketing problem. In fact, I would say that's a good percentage of guys who end up joining Men of Action. They're just awesome dudes. They were awesome dads or they're awesome workers. They're just awesome people who are involved in philanthropy. They're really, really great with kids. They're great with animals. They do a bunch of incredible charity work. They just have a terrible, terrible marketing problem. You understand that concept when it comes to business. So, let's understand that concept when it comes to dating.
You guys are also aware of the globalization of business. When Amazon started buying companies like diapers.com or Zapos and started consolidating all their business into the supply chain, you started seeing all these people buying their groceries and all this stuff. They don't go to the supermarket anymore. They don't go to the store anymore. They just buy it online. We've conglomerated all of our purchases into just a few trillion dollar companies. I don't understand how you can grasp how that would happen with business. But you can't see why the exact same thing wouldn't happen with dating. And that is what we've seen.
We see guys who actually understand how to use social media get limitless attention from women. And guys who don't know how to use social media. That's about 99% of you watching this right now. Guys who don't know how to use social media who are getting almost no attention. So again, here's the greatest part about using social media. It's infinitely scalable. I don't care how good you are at cold approach. If you're the best Cold Approach artist who's ever lived, you can never achieve the level of reach that you can with just an average social media account. And so because of that, it's infinitely scalable. No matter how good you are, my clients are going to be 100,000 times better than you because of how many people they can reach because they have perfect social media. And it's very easy to do. You show relevancy, competency, access to scarce resources, locations, networks, humor, charisma, pre-selection, and social proof on your social media. Notice I didn't say looks. I didn't say height. I didn't say money. I didn't say drugs. And I didn't say alcohol. You don't need those things in order to generate attraction.
While using social media shows high status with low perceived effort, it's infinitely scalable. And here's the last one. It generates attraction for you while you sleep. We teach you in the program how to build amazing lists full of people that you want to network with, how to reach out to them, how to write the proper invite, more evidence, fewer words, so that you can have an abundance of people in your life that you can network with and an abundance of women that you might want to date. In order for you to do that, you have to understand the scalability of social media. You have to understand that it works for you while you sleep. And you have to understand that social media is going to show high levels of status with low perceived effort.
We interviewed hundreds and hundreds of girls on my YouTube channel. If you guys want to go to my limiting belief playlist on my YouTube channel, you'll see these videos where I'm holding a microphone and I'm interviewing several women. We asked them, "How'd you meet the last five guys you dated?" And they all said the same thing. They all said the same thing. Let me say this one more time. They all said the same thing. None of them said they met men through dating apps. None of them said they met men through cold approach. All of them said that the guys that they dated, they met because a friend introduced them or they met them on social media.
If I'm teaching you to use social media for women to be able to check out your account after maybe they meet you in person, what it's doing is it's causing them, it's giving them the ability to investigate you, to learn more about you, to go through all your photos. They're investing in you, which generates attraction. So, it's generating attraction for you. Literally, this is not a figurative thing. It's literally generating attraction for you with multiple different women while you sleep if you understand how to do it properly.
For those of you who just want to learn the secrets of social circle, go ahead and click the link below. You can skip the rest of this video. For the rest of you who want to hear these secrets, stay tuned.
The second way that Social Circle saves you time is that you get invited to events and then you host events where there's seven, eight, nine girls for every guy. This is really important to understand. While some guys doing pickup may have to go out 14 nights a week, you only go to two massive events per month. You end up meeting a bunch of girls, getting 14 girls IGs, and end up leaving with two more. You're able to do this easy. So, while some other people have to go out every single night, you only have to go out like maybe twice. And in doing so, you have dates lined up for weeks. You have group dates lined up for weeks. This is what social circle teaches you.
And this is another thing that's a little bit off topic here. Whenever you go on dates, I don't recommend guys go on dates one-on-one. I don't go on one-on-one dates anymore, unless it's someone I'm dating. I recommend you take four to six women with you out on a first date. The last few girls that I've gone out with, every single time I was always with two or three girls on our first date. In fact, they didn't even realize it was a date. It was her who turned the whole thing romantic. But that's that's more advanced MOA stuff if you guys want to get into that.
So, what I recommend you guys do is you need to learn how to get invited to these events and you need to learn how to host these events. How do you do? Go back and refer to step one. If you have really good social media, you're going to get invited to everything. There's people who criticize me all the time. They're like, "Michael, you post pictures with those girls and it looks so cheesy and bad." I'm like, "No, I get invited to parties you could never dream of getting invited to. I have people that reach out to me to come on my podcast or come out to party with me that you would never believe. I can't even say their names cuz I had to sign NDAs. You would have no concept of how many things I get invited to. There's literally no nightclub in the entire country I can't just walk into because of my social media. And the same thing goes for my clients. That's what it does. It gives you access by having social media. Access to incredible events like I said where there's seven, eight, nine girls for every guy.
So, in order to do that, in order to get into these events, you got to fix your social media and you have to become calibrated and you have to go over all these other concepts that we went over, the different attraction triggers that we teach you in the program. But if you figure this concept out, then you end up saving time. Again, here was step number two. You go to fewer events, you spend less time at these events, you get more contact information from more beautiful women, and you can leave those events with beautiful women because at those events, you have wait, wait for it, wait for it, you have social proof. And we'll teach you more about that as well when you have these events or you get invited to these events. Or if you come to one of my events, I'm literally just going to come up to the girl and big you up the whole time cuz that's what wingmen do in social circle. In social circle, you have wing men and wing women who big you up.
Which leads me to reason number three. So the third reason that social circle saves you time is because you have a ton of wait for it cuz here we go. Here's where I'm going to get the mean comments and everyone's going to tell me that I'm wrong about this. Because social circle requires you making a ton of female friends. Now, I'll use the term female teammates cuz I know female friends offends a lot of you guys, but if you have a bunch of female teammates that are on your side, there's four things they do for you.
The first thing they do is they generate pre-selection. The data is conclusive on this. Even when women know that you aren't sleeping with the women in the photo with you, if you are in that photo, women perceive you as more attractive, more generous, more intelligent, more wealthy. There's several pieces of data that show this. So having female friends who show you compliance and approval actually raises your level of status and raises your level of attraction. Regardless of what any other male model dating coach tries to tell you, it's irreutable. Don't argue with me, by the way. Don't bring this debate to me. Take the debate to evolutionary psychologists who've surveyed tens of thousands of people, tens of thousands of women on this subject. And then if you still don't believe it, come and check out the thousands of testimonials that we have. We have so many testimonials of guys who ended up in successful relationships or having tons of options with dating, dating whoever they wanted. You can't make all this data go away. It's irrefutable. So again, the first reason why you have female teammates is because of pre-selection.
The second reason, and this is a big one, and this is something that a lot of pickup artists don't understand, matchmakers don't understand. Anyone who thinks that men and women can't be friends, they don't grasp this concept. Being around a lot of attractive women, calibrate you towards being with women. Women don't understand this because women generally don't get nervous being around the opposite sex. I'm not saying there aren't certain cases where women get nervous about being around a celebrity or really good-looking guy, but most of the time, men are more nervous approaching women than the other way around. Women generally do not experience the same level of approach anxiety that men do.
In order for you to get calibrated with that approach anxiety kind of lessons, some guys think, well, you need to just approach a bunch of women in a sexual manner and show a bunch of intent. That's absolutely not the way to do it. Having a ton of female friends, especially female friends that look like your type. So, imagine your type is blonde hair and green eyes. Imagine if you had a bunch of beautiful blond-haired green-eyed friends and maybe they had boyfriends or they were married. Whatever reason you were disqualified from there or they disqualified you, it's fine. But you had them as friends. Being around them on a regular basis, your autonomic nervous system would become calibrated towards being around them. Meaning your voice wouldn't crack. You wouldn't come up with this little different persona, this little pickup persona that you have where your voice goes up and down like this and you make these little flamboyant movements and you're like, "Awesome. Great. Let's go get a drink somewhere. Yay. You guys look cool. Spin around. Where'd you get that dress?" That's what I see several of you guys do when you're around really attractive women. And so by being around attractive women, hundreds of women, you start to get calibrated.
That's one of the greatest things that I've learned is a lot of women will tell me once they start dating me, they're like, "Michael, I didn't think you liked me." I was like, "Every other guy stares at my boobs, but you don't. Every other guy compliments my looks, but you don't. You just treated me like a bro." And I was like, "Yeah, because I'm around beautiful women all the time." First place I learned this was from managing a strip club 25 years ago when I was there. I would go into the dressing room and women would sexualize me, grope me, say all kinds of things. They would be naked the whole time and I was totally desensitized to it. It absolutely didn't affect me at all. And the more I was desensitized, the more turned on they became. You being desensitized to it, you being calibrated towards being around beautiful women is an incredible gift you get by having a bunch of female teammates.
The third reason why female teammates are so amazingly important is because remember step number two, they're the ones who get you into amazing parties. And when you throw incredible events, they're the ones who show up. The best party in the city by default is the one that has the hottest girls. The best nightclub in the city by default is the ones that have the hottest girls. The best strip club in the city by default is the one that had the hottest girls. Not the one that has Tiestto or the one that is in a really nice mansion or the one with the cool chandelier or the cool light show. It's the ones with the most attractive girls, period. That's where the most high status parties are. All the times where I would end up at the Ignite parties or the Playboy Mansion or the Maxim parties or the FHM parties or the Sports Illustrated parties or any party on stage at any nightclub or any high status event that you can possibly imagine. It was always women who got me into those events. They would introduce me to people or these guys would see that I was with seven, eight, nine girls wherever I went out and it gave me access to places where there were even more beautiful women. So again, having these beautiful women getting you into different locations saves you time. You're going out to some dive bar that you can get in where you don't have to pay any cover and there's three guys for every girl. I'm going on stage during F1 at XCS where there's 17 women for every man. Do you see the difference? That's how having female teammates helps you.
And then it leads to the fourth reason. Again, please refer to the videos where we interview hundreds of women and we asked them, "Where'd you meet the last five guys that you dated?" And all of them said social media and social circle. The last reason why having female teammates saves you time is because those women introduce you to other women. Guys, go on my Instagram right now and check out the video and the photos where all these girls dressed up like cats for my birthday. I didn't know that. I didn't plan that. There were four girls who got together and planned out my birthday. They all the girls dressed up like cats. And here's the crazy part. In those photos, I don't know half of those girls. I had never met them before. What happened was there were about 40 girls that showed up. 20 of the girls who showed up brought another 20 girls to my birthday party. So, it was me and 40 girls. And if you doubt it, please just go to my Instagram right now. You can see the photos of what happened. Women are constantly introducing me to more women. It happens all the time. And so, what does that do? Does that waste your time when women are introducing you to more women? Again, let's relate this for you entrepreneurs to business. How does an affiliate program work? You have affiliates going downstream and introducing you to new leads. It's the same kind of situation. Because these girls are in your social circle and they think it's cool, they want to include their friends. And I'll tell you, that's almost exclusively how I met every single one of my past girlfriends. It was a group of women that I was friends with and they had other girls that they invited to some event, whether it was a Swimsuit USA preliminary or it was the Playboy Mansion or whatever. Instead, me doing creepy cold approach where I have no value to offer and she doesn't know anything about me or me getting swiped on a dating app, swiped left hundreds of times. Instead of me doing that, I have a bunch of females telling this girl how awesome I am and this girl confused why so many women are following me around. That's essentially how female teammates saves you time.
Once again, it generates pre-selection, works on your social media while you sleep. It calibrates you to when you're around beautiful women. It gets you into better events, which saves you time because you're at an event with seven, eight, nine girls for every guy. And these women introduce you to more women, saving you time.
I have a buddy of mine who's a very, very successful entrepreneur. If I said his name, most of you guys would already know who he is. He came to me one time and he was like, "Michael, I don't have time to go date. I don't have time to meet women. The easiest way for me to go out is just spend a bunch of money at a nightclub and then these gold digging women come around me and I don't want gold digging women. I want a woman who actually likes me for me." So I told him, I said, "Well, here's what I want you to do. I want you to find the four most attractive women that go out on a regular basis in your city. I don't want you to hit on them. But I do want you to tell them this. Whenever you go out, the table, the dinner, whatever, you're going to handle it. That's what's going to happen. And no one's going to see you paying for anything, but you're going to handle it as long as the girls understand that they need to bring more girls with them." And this is something that I've told several of my very successful entrepreneurial friends. You need to have a group of women that you're not hooking up with, but they know that in order to hang out with you on a regular basis, even travel with you to different locations, they are required to bring one or two other girls. He did this one time after I gave him this advice one freaking time. I was so excited cuz I was like going to party with this guy on a regular basis. He did this one time and met his fiance. I was so I was happy for him, but I was so disappointed cuz I thought we were going to have years of us going out and partying, but he did it one time and then he one of the girls, this like Brazilian model brings this other girl who's really really attractive, this other attractive model and they immediately meet each other and because of that they're engaged to be married now.
So this is how social circle saves you time if you're a successful entrepreneur. If you're just somebody who works 60 70 hours a week, you just don't have time or you want to skip a bunch of levels and you want the most results with the least amount of time, that's what social circle can give you.
So here's the thing. I hear this word anecdotal thrown around a lot. So I want you to know I didn't make this course from some anecdotal means. Yes, I do have 25 years of experience in this field. But I made this course because I watched hundreds of men who effortlessly had success with women and I reverse engineered what they did. And then I compared and contrasted what their results and advice were to what the studies from evolutionary psychology, evolutionary biology, and sociology taught me. In addition, I have 4,000 clients, and I see what works for them and what doesn't work for them. That's why I made this course. This isn't trust me, bro. This isn't bro science. These are things that are actually provable and work. And if you have any doubt about it, please go to mammentoring.com/estimonials and check out the hundreds of testimonials. Take a day off, watch 8 hours of testimonials if you want. If you're still skeptical after that, sorry, brother. I don't know if there's any way to help you.
The reality of the situation is I did not create men of action so that you guys could be leerous drunks going out every night and trying to pick up women. There's plent if that's what you want, and I know some guys want that. Yo, there is a plethora of pickup programs that you can take. You can go out there and hit on girls till four o'clock in the morning and and go home with a four and enjoy your life. Do that if you want. But if you want a life where you're actually getting beautiful women, your nines and your tens funneled into your life on a regular basis while you sleep, consider trying Social Circle.
Instead of spending the next year listening to matchmakers or pop psychologists or idiots on TikTok trying to give you this platitudinal advice that doesn't work for anybody or people trying to tell you to just be yourself or go up approach more girls and tell them that you like them and be more vulnerable. Instead of having another year listening to advice that you know isn't right, why don't you consider clicking the link below, joining us on this journey of improvement where all of these men, these 4,000 men, are improving their networking, leadership, communication, and dating skill set. Hit the link below right now and I will give you the free blueprint that's going to be able to save you time in 2026. If you're a successful entrepreneur, if you're a guy like me who's just too busy, if you're working so many hours you can't even think about it, or if you're just like Michael, I don't want to waste any more time with this. I want the results quickly. Click the link below and we'll see you on the other.