The Process Of Removing HER 😒

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All right, you guys. How are y'all doing? How was your weekend? How are you, people of God? Your weekend was amazing, Erica. Really? I hope you ain't pray. I hope you ain't get pregnant. I'm sorry. Hi guys. How are y'all? How are you guys doing? Talk about yes and no. All right. I hope not. I don't want to hear nothing. I don't need it. I don't need it. All right. I have a lot to say. All right. And we need to talk about some things of uh how things are going to go because and I am going to open up some slot for calls this week cuz my recovery was fast and I think it's because of you guys and I love y'all so much for praying for me cuz I feel like a brand new woman, right? So yeah, two things. Um, but we are going to pray, all right, first and then we're going to get into it and then we're going to talk about something that the Lord has been dealing with me about a conversation I had with somebody earlier this morning and I knew that the community needed it. So, let's get into it.

Um, Father God, in the name of Jesus, God, we thank you for another week. We thank you for peace, God. We thank you for getting us through everything that we have been facing. Um, the the fiery darts of the enemy, God, we thank you for helping us to stand. We thank you, Father God, for all that you're doing. Oo, hallelujah. God, we thank you. We thank you. We thank you. We thank you, Lord. We come out of agreement of things that we may have said or failed that's not uh that is not what you want, God. If we are in agreement with the enemy today, we renounce it and we break these agreements right now. Father God, I pray in the name of Jesus, oh God, that we begin to restore our covenant with you. Father God, I declare Exodus 34 and 10 where we will reestablish a covenant with you. I declare Jeremiah 29:11 that we will only walk in your ideologies, your percepts, whatever it is that you desire. our feet will not be shackled or be led by a familiar spirit or a spirit that sounds like you, but a spirit that is you, the Holy Spirit. God, we thank you. I pray, Lord, that you forgive us, God, on today. We humble ourselves before you, Father. We exalt you, God. We adore you on this morning, Father God. We thank you, God. We acknowledge you and we invite you for the Bible tells us where two or three are gathered in your name, you would be in the midst and holy spirit we invite you to sit with us and you have your way in Jesus mighty name. Amen.

Couple things when there's a lot of movement in our community. So, for the sake of warfare, what I want y'all to do, I want y'all to just send me a message about what's happening. Do not post it on the live. Don't post it on the live. Just send me a message, send me an email, and I will post it on my TikTok. That's how we going to do things. Um, because sometimes you just, you know what I'm saying? Like now if somebody comes on the live that's not a part of our community and wants to testify then that's fine you know somebody who's not all cuz you know how people do come back and be like, "oh my god God did it." That's fine. But if you are a person that show up all the time with the things that we do, just send me a message. I'll post it on the TikTok. That way you can avoid uh unnecessary warfare. Reason why I see that is because some people are not strong enough. Okay? They're not strong enough um to deal with warfare after a long drought of nothingness. Okay? Some people are not strong enough to deal with um another realm of warfare, right? You know what I'm saying? After so much. You see what I'm saying? So, it's always good. You can send me a message, okay? Send me a TikTok message. Y'all know how y'all do. Send me an email. Y'all do it all the time. And I always private the message so you never know who it is. Um, that way we keep it because we have a lot of restoration in the community, but people don't want to be vocal because they've understood how the spiritual realm works. So, just going to put that out there. All right. Just going to put that out there.

So, uh, she asked, "How do you join a community?" A lot of times when you like buy ebooks from me or you just show up on the live, technically you become a part. I mean, there really it's not this is not like a a membership or anything. This is a place where you know how you just gather at a particular church. It's kind of like that. Yeah. It's kind of like that and you can just if you buy like get any free ebooks or anything um you will get on the email list and this is when you know that I um I go live and stuff like that. I send a lot of emails out whenever I can or whenever God leads me too.

So first thing I want to get off my chest you guys just to kind of give you guys a reminder that it is not crazy to believe that God can restore your marriage. I want everybody to understand that it doesn't matter how bad it is. It doesn't matter how far gone it is. Okay? It doesn't matter. It does not matter. Renee, I was thinking about doing a Zoom, but I I'mma tell you the truth about our Zooms. We attract a lot of strange people. And that's just a God honest truth. Um, that's the God honest truth. It's it gets a little weird. [Music] It gets a little weird. Okay. It gets a little weird. And that's the only reason why I stopped doing the Zooms because I I can't. Some like I just, you know, I I Yeah, I don't do the Zoom, but I do feel like I want to do a Zoom just to give everybody a chance to get on the mic. You see what I'm saying? um a a chance to get on the mic. You know what I'm saying? I was thinking about it. I ain't know I got to pray about that. You know how I feel about taking money from people. But um I'll think about it, y'all. I was thinking about it. Renee says I should do like a basically something for $30 a month where we go on a Zoom. I think that's not that's not bad at all. It's just uh I got to pray about that. I got to pray about that. And the reason why I don't want to do a monthly subscription is because sometimes I don't show up. Like I I be having inconsistencies in my life, you know. But I'll think about it. I will think about it. Okay? I will think about it.

But um today I want to talk about um today I desire to talk about the other woman. This this came when I was talking to a young lady this morning and me and her was going back and forth and I was helping her get some understanding about the process of God um removing other woman. Now I want everybody to understand especially if you're new here, standing for your marriage is not a normal thing. It's not a thing that the people of the world will tell you to do. You know what I'm saying? People of the world will say, you know, because we talk about the issues with these men all the time. All right? We talk about it all the time. All the time we talk about how they can be lusty, how they can be this. And I enjoy those conversations because I don't want people to live in a realm of delusion. Because once you really identify the reality of a thing, you can live in truth, right? You can live in truth. And you know, God has raised me up to be able to help women know their authority as wives and their worth. Because often times we forget our worth whenever it comes to these men. And you think because that's your husband, you have to be you have to take it. You know what I'm saying? You got to you got to deal with that. I have talked to women, women who have dealt with another woman in their marriage for like six years. You had a third person in your house in your marriage? I y'all I I always I never been that nice ever. Never. I, you know, I I don't like to share, you know, and I just think that that's very crazy for it to go on that long. I don't think it's crazy for it to happen. I think it's crazy for it to go on that long unchallenged. Yes. Unchallenged. That's crazy, you know. And I understand that when you don't know what to do. I get all of that. I get all of that, you know. I get all of that. Which is why God raises up people who know how as I and I hate to say it this way, but I am one person that know how to get rid of her. I went through it for two and a half years. God has taught me how what to pray, how to live while he works this out. But I want to talk about the process of her being removed. Okay.

Hey. Hey Val. I want to talk about um the I want to talk about the process of her being removed. Okay? Because a lot of times when your spouse is dealing with another woman, the wife, if you're not actively working on your healing, you live in this state of sorrow, almost like desperation. And I'm speaking from my experience, but like you almost like you just live in this way of woe is me. Um, you live like in a state of desperation or all hope is gone or I love my man so much I'm afraid. I talk to so much women who husband is the bread winner and they are stuck. Okay? Because their husband has taken the he's the main financial provider. So, it's almost abuse the fact that he could go do what he wants to do and he can pick and choose whenever he want to take care of you and the other woman. The money is divided. You see what I'm saying? And this is that's I think that's one of the hardest things um dealing with this because you have to go through a process of God becoming whenever you become that type of wife and I'm going to get into it, but whenever you become that type of wife, you have to go through a very hard lesson of learning that God is your source that like if you if your husband was like the soul taker and pays all the bills and you didn't have no income. The lesson that God is going to take you through is learning that God your h God God is the provider because your hus a lot of times women like that, your husband becomes your God. So you have to submit to you have to submit to everything. You see what I'm saying? You if he want to be with somebody else, you got to submit to that because he paid the bills. You see what I'm saying? So it's like what do you do in a situation like that? I always tell women this. Hey, at the end of the day, whether he pay the bills or not, God is going to take care of you. You know, but you have to let go of the man so God so you can see that because if you're consistently like enabling his sin, you're in God's way. That's why you don't see nothing because you have not, you know what I'm saying? like you haven't really gotten to a place you're you're fearful that he's not going to provide. And let me tell y'all what they do now. These men, I've seen it. They going to buy you a new car. Yes, they will buy you a new car. They will listen. They will buy you they will they will. Okay? Cuz they got the money to do it. If they like, "Oh, well, I'll buy you a new car. I'll get I'll get a new thing." And in your mind, you looking like God working. No. No. He's just being manipulative. That Yeah, he's just doing what he, for whatever reason, he wants to continue to do that and then still do what he wants to do. Sounds like a pimp. Okay. So, and then you got the man that doesn't want to provide. Okay. Then you got the one that doesn't want to provide. Like, "oh, well, I'm not going I'm not I'mma just stop paying the mortgage, right? I'mma just stop paying. I'mma just stop paying everything." You see what I'm saying? Men like that. I I mean, I have heard the most wickedest stories that comes out of these men mouth when the devil get a hold of them. They say things like, "I'm assure you that you need me." What? Oh, I I They do it with the intention of you suffering. Yeah, that's what they do. They want to see you have nothing. That's what pride does. But see, God is a God. Okay? God is a God that sees all things. And he will step in. He will step in and they will not understand how is it that you're still surviving. And then they get mad at you. How you mad because what you wanted to happen to me did not stop did not work. That's crazy. But all in all, it is the game of Satan. That's how the devil play. You see what I'm saying? That's how that's how the devil play. That's what the devil do. That's what the devil do.

So I want you guys to understand this. The removal of this other woman is not always all hellfire. Okay? It's not always a lot of noise around it. It starts off very quietly. This is where a lot of people get um this is where a lot of people really kind of like get in the way because they always say, "God is not doing anything. You know, she's still there." But you got to understand that the Bible is so true when the Bible says that God does not think like us. See, you think if the woman is gone, okay, you think if she's gone, things will be better. But God understands the soul of a man, he understands the mindset of a man. He understands the way of a man. He understands the choices of a man. So a lot of times that's why the one woman leave, he go get another one. You see what I'm saying? Because it's the God has to deal with the mindset first. All right? But I want you to understand that you first must understand and know that anything that is on the outside of God's will is not blessed. Get it in your mind today that success comes from God. It does not come from what a person chooses to do. This morning, God woke me up and he gave me Deuteronomy. Come on, Jesus. I read, this was like 4:00 in the morning. I read Deuteronomy 39. Deuteronomy chapter 30 verse 9 and it says, "The Lord your God will make you abound in all of the work of your hand, in the fruit of your body, in the increase of your livestock, and in the produce of your land for good." Is Deuteronomy 30:9. Deuteronomy chapter 30 verse 9. That scripture alone tells you that things happen by God's blessings. God has to breathe on it. So it don't matter if you not married on here. You it don't matter how fine he is. If the Lord is not going to bless the relationship, it will not work. you will have to compromise your blessings to keep it. Okay? So by reading that, we understand that it is by God's power and all of his sovereignty that things succeed. That is the reason why you're still standing till to till this day. That is the reason why you were you were able to be uh to come this way this far for this long. Because naturally, you were supposed to give up the first 60 days, right? Naturally, you know what I'm saying? After him leaving and getting another woman and flying her around social media and all his sister them coming back, naturally, you was supposed to, you know what I'm saying? But a lot of women go through the breaking of the idolatry in the very beginning. So God has to knock down those idols that you have in your heart, the marriage and the man. And the way to knock God up roots idols out of us is that he removes the idol and make you completely powerless to get it back. It's almost like you you go with you go through withdrawals without it because for so long you felt like I need this to survive. I need this to survive. You see what I'm saying? So you got to understand that God has to make you whole. That's the very first thing. That's why you don't really pro you probably don't even see movement yet or much change because God's still trying to make you whole. Restoration does not start when they come back. Restoration starts when you surrender. You You got to understand I I love to look at things as if God is like the Bible compares it as a potter in the clay. The fact that God is deciding to work on you to heal you is a sign that the Lord is going to do this thing. Because if God has been showing you conf cuz God doesn't waste time. He does not waste time. Now there there are in some situations where I've seen women they get in these marriages and they they realize when they heal, they realize their husband was always the devil. And now they're allowed to walk away because staying is more damaging. You see what I'm saying? But it even even if a person decides to God releases them, they break a cycle of meeting another spirit like that. You see what I'm saying? That's the truth. Whenever you heal, y'all don't share the same demons no more. You see what I'm saying? This is why there's a warfare. But whenever you begin to pray for your husband, them demons, they don't like the fact that they don't got control over you through this man no more. Because think about it, this is how you know demons got control over a husband and a wife. When all y'all do is argue, all of y'all, all y'all do is argue. You see what I'm saying?

No. Lolo, let's I'm glad you asked that. Lo says, "So God will make some stand and then release them." No, baby. Some people want restoration and they stand, you know, and God is a God is that is very strategic. I've seen it. What he does is he'll heal you and then he will make his will known to you. So much people don't know what to do but to stay in the marriage until clarity comes. So when clarity comes, they're like, "Oh, this never was your will for me." Because a lot of times trauma blinds you from the from the knowledge of God. And the Bible tells us in Romans 12:2 that we are to what? Renew our minds. Once your mind has been renewed, you can see everything clearly. You see what I'm saying? Once your mind gets renewed, God will make it very plain to you what you supposed to do. That's why he doesn't send the man back immediately because you still can't see. You still can't see. All of y'all, including myself, we are always being worked on. We're always being strengthened. Our minds are always being set free in some way, shape, or form. And God is teaching us to maintain it. You see what I'm saying? But there's an understanding that the Lord wants you to give. And I love the fact that revelation of the text and revelation of the scripture, it just gives you an understanding about God's ways. You see what I'm saying? When God is removing the other woman, you got to understand that anything outside of his will will not stand. So in Psalms 127, the Bible says that unless the Lord builds the house, the laborers labor in vain. And that was the very first scripture that God gave me when I found out that my spouse was living with this girl. I didn't really understand it, but then I sat with it and God kept giving it to me. It's it's going to be in vain. It's going to be in vain, Raven. what he putting all that work in, it's going to be in vain because a lot of times these men will put their best foot forward in a relationship. They will they will treat this other woman as if it's almost like she going to get everything you wanted. You praying for everything. And I'mma be honest with you, you want him to do that so that it fails. So that he understands that I did everything to make this work. I paid all the bills, the money and everything and it still did not work. This is why God allows people to do what they want. This is why you got to let them. Whenever you let a person, the Bible even says even if the the spouse wants to walk away, the Bible say you let them go. You let them go. You see what I'm saying? So, it's like it's like you have to get the to the understanding. You see what I'm saying? You got to get the understanding. Letting them go is going to be the best thing that has ever happened to you. It's going to hurt, but God literally God himself will literally fill that space with peace. Peace is better than a man. I did y'all know that peace is better. Listen, being in your right mind is better than having a man. Yes. Because even when you get a good man, they still come with stuff. They do. All right. The good even when you get a good man, they still don't like to listen. All right. Because I told this man not to park in this section. And what did he do? He went and carried his behind and parked in this section. And guess what happened? I We was lost. A good man, but don't listen. But don't listen because why? I can't find you if you had just parked where I told you to park at. So yes, peace is better than a man. I'm letting y'all know this now, right? Okay.

So, I want y'all to understand that it starts off with little stuff between them. But the reason why God does not allow you to see anything happening is because he wants you to have faith. That's the reason why you don't it seem like she just living it up, right? It seem like she just living it up. That's not true. You don't understand the process of how God is doing it. That's the that's what's happening because you're you're listening to a pl a person. You're listening to what he's saying to you. You're listening to you're looking at what he's doing. That is the reason why your heart is consistently broken. So let's talk to the women who husband cheated the whole marriage. Let's talk about it. like this ain't his first rodeo. He is a covenant breaker and you didn't understand that he was a covenant breaker until you got saved and you trying to figure out what do I do because he cheated the whole marriage. I got you got notebooks of every woman that he has ever been with. What do I do with a covenant breaker? Now me personally, this is Raven, not Holy Ghost. I'm not staying with a covenant breaker because if you ain't going to be faithful to me, you're not going to be faithful to God. However, God can still restore those relationships. He can. I just prefer not to stay in them. Okay? I I can't mentally. Uh-uh. Uh-uh. But God can restore them. You see what I'm saying? And you're going to have to really Let me tell you something. If your man has always cheated on you in the marriage, that is a door that only your prayers can keep shut. I promise you that if this has been a hab that means that this is a spirit that lives with him. This is a spirit that rules him. And a lot of times when they always cheated like that, it's bloodline. It's it come from their family. You see what I'm saying? So only God can keep that door shut. You see what I'm saying? Because it's a mindset that he has, you know, like in his mind, he's thinking this is the way this it's a an adulterous man, KD, he is a covenant breaker. Y'all, the covenant is not broken when you get a divorce finalized. The covenant is broken immediately when a person steps outside of the marriage. When a person steps out of the marriage, they no the covenant been broken. The divorce don't do it. The covenant they not did that. You see what I'm saying? So I say all that to say even those marriages are redeemable, but we need wisdom and strategy. You cannot have restoration with no strategy. Because most people think, well, the devil's not the devil God did it. The devil ain't coming back. Okay. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. I I I was so happy earlier. There was a young lady. She sent me her testimony. She said her husband had um came back home, moved all his stuff back and came back home, right? Um, and I had a lot of calls with her and it did seem hoopless because her husband was set on being this way, right? And um, she just never gave up basically. And sometimes God does make you sit in it, but he came back, right? And she told me something. And she said, "Raven, now I'm working on the second ebook of not in my house. Keeping her out, keeping keeping her out because she got the severing her influence ebook, right? Praying those prayers to uproot her." And she was wise enough to say, "Okay, bet. Now we got to keep her out." And I told her, "Target those soul ties, okay? Because the soul ties is what'll draw them back together. You see what I'm saying? The soul ties. Cuz people be like, "Oh, he keep going back. He got a soul tie with these girls." You see? So, whenever you step in and begin to pray and cut the soul ties of your husband because you're married, you can stand in a gap because you ain't coming back here, sis. I don't know where you going to go away from here. Right? But I say all that to say is you got to understand that you got to have a strategy. All right? Most people they don't they start praying when they when they man come back. No ma'am, that's when you pray them I when I tell y'all I was on my face man. You ever wake up with a rug burn on your face man? It was mornings where I know the claws have been tired of me because I was like, God. But I'mma tell y'all something. You You don't You got to understand that whenever God begins to light like change them, it gets lighter, y'all. It doesn't stay heavy. Can I tell you that? See, when it come back and God begin and you're praying and you're doing everything and you're taking it day by day, little by little, some prayers you don't got to pray no more. Does that make sense? Like you don't got to pray that he cooperate no more because God already get him to that level. So it doesn't stay heavy, but in the beginning, oh baby, it's heavy. It's heavy. Yes. It's a It's a day by day thing cuz every day you don't know. Y'all learning how to walk again, right? Y'all learning how to walk again. You see what I'm saying? It's day by day. Sometimes they feel like they don't want to be back. They don't they don't want to do that. You just pray. Pray. Ain't nothing you could do. You know, it's nothing you could do.

So, listen. Let's talk about how does God begin to remove the other woman. This one that God gave me, Esther. Um, I'mma give y'all the summary. Long story short, Esther Oh, okay. I'll read it. We going to the Bible. Hold on. I was trying to I was trying to I was trying to. I was just trying to make this a quick live. All right. We We're reading the Bible. We're reading the Bible. Let me go to NLT. Um, let me go to NLT and we're going to read Esther chapter 1. Okay, we're going to read Esther chapter 1. All right. And we are going to start at verse 10. Y'all, I was I just was trying to hurry up and get off the live. I'm sorry. Allow Lord forgive me. Forgive me. Forgive me. So, yes, I was just trying to get the word out so I could go. All right. So, let us go to verse 9. We're going to read Esther 1 verse 9. Now, I want everybody to understand that um this chapter was the very first chapter that God gave me when it came to understanding my rightful place. Like my rightful place, my who I was, if that makes any sense. Like how God decides to remove people. You know what I'm saying? Like that is like the way that he began to teach me about Vashi. I had not known anything about Vashi ever until this situation happened in my life. So I'm going to read um Esther 1 verse 10. Starting at verse 10, it says, "On the seventh day of the feast, when the king was in high spirits because of the wine, he told the sevens who attended with him, Miham, Bazata, Harbana, Btha, I don't know the people name Abatha, Zarth, and Carcass to bring Queen Vasti to him with the royal crown on her head. He wanted the nobles and all of the other men to gaze at her beauty for she was very she was a very beautiful woman. Verse 12 says, "But when she conveyed the king's order when they conveyed the king's order to Queen Vast, she refused to come." This made the king very furious and he burned with anger. 13 He immediately consulted with his wise advisors who knew all the Persian laws and customs for he always asked for their advice. Verse 14 says the names of these men were oh God is that say Karisha Carina Shithra Admaris Maris Marcina and Bana. seven nobles of Persia and Media. They met with the king regularly and held the highest positions in in the emperor.

All right, just to give you guys context, they they were at a there was a banquet going on and the Bible describes like the king was in high spirits basically. I think he was a little tipsy, okay? and he wanted his wife to come with a crown on her head and basically he wanted everybody to he wanted to basically you know exalt her and everybody to look at her and for whatever reason she said no. Now to my during my research about Vashi because I really I really wanted to understand this lady. All right. I wanted to understand who she was and like why like why did why didn't you want to go out there? And what God revealed to me through the scripture is that uh sometimes when you are high in royalty um when you when you are high in royalty you get comfortable like you get comfortable you know you get prideful you see what I'm saying and it sounds like you know she was not submissive at that time and you know it cost her everything. You see what I'm saying? I think if she had truly knew that the outcome would have been her eventually getting banished, she would have never did that. But ultimately, that was just a circumstance that God used. Okay? That was a circumstance that God used. You know what I'm saying? Um just to get her out of the way. So God will allow human error to uh fulfill his plan that's next. He will he will allow human error to cause his his plan to go forth. If that makes any sense. So we're going to go to verse 15 and it says, "What must be done to Queen Vashi? The king demanded? What penalty does the law provide for a queen who refuses to obey the king's order properly sent through his unox? Verse 16 says um Mimukan answered the king and said to his nobles, "Quing Vashi has wronged not only the king but also every noble and citizen throughout your empire. Women everywhere will begin to despise their husbands when they learn that Queen Vasti has refused to appear before the king. So this it just goes to show how influential the queen is during that time. You know, they're basically saying when they see that she do the every it's going to happen everywhere. You know, verse 18 says, "Before this day is out, the wives of all the king's nobles throughout the throughout Persia and Media will hear what the queen did and will start treating their husbands the same way. There will be no end to their contempt and anger." That means that them wise, them wives, they was going to start knocking and bucking because they was already tired. But you know something that I learned about reading this, the king did not know what to do. He had to consult his wise advisors. The reason and what I got from that from reading that y'all is that that's not a common thing that women do. They don't they do not you know what I'm saying? They do not go against their husbands during that time. the queen. The queen is always submissive and the king didn't know what to do because it's uncommon because think about it. If it was a common thing, they would have already had protocol in place because they already experienced it, right? Think about it. You see what I'm saying? So like he would have naturally if this was a common thing, he would have already had things in place. It just go to show how much influence and how things were in order during that time. Like you can't mess up your role. But the thing about God is like God will break a protocol just to do what he wants to do. You know verse 19 says, "So if it please the king, we suggest that you write a written decree, a law of the Persians and Mercedes that cannot be revoked. It shall be ordered that Queen Vashi be forever banished from the presence of King Zerz the king and that the king should choose another queen more worthy than she. All right? And this was Esther 119 was a scripture that I would get up in the middle of the night and I would begin to replace Vashi's name with the counterfeit name. Now, if you've been walking with me for a long time, you already know Esther 119 is not something that you should be unfamiliar with. But I've always used this scripture because it talks about how she is banished. It's very specific how she is banished like gone. It says banished in another translation, but basically that's what that scripture is. You know, verse 20 says, "When this decree is published throughout the king's vast empire, husbands everywhere, whatever their rank will receive proper respect from their wives." The king and his nobles taught this me taught thought this made good sense. So he followed Mimikan's council. Verse 22, he sent letters to all parts of the empire, to each province in his own script and language, proclaiming that every man should be the ruler of his own home and shall say and should say whatever he pleases. So we understand that during that time did it not play about your wife as a queen and your wife as a your your your rights as a queen and your basically your rights as a wife. So they had to do that, right? But God understanding how that how that uh empire works, he used Vast's uh you know her human her error, her pride to maneuver her out of the way. So one thing I want y'all to understand about your man being with another woman, they got to be together for God to remove him to her. Okay? Just get get over. They got to be together. They gota they got to. All right. Because that's the only way that's the only way that God is going to remove her. They got to. You see what I'm saying? This is why you can't you just got to sit and allow the Lord to work it out. You see? See, I was talking to a young lady this morning and she was like, "Reven, why doesn't God just remove her? There is no change." Right? There is no change. There is no change. like he he act like he want to come back. He he talks about God. He talks about doing the right thing, but the actions behind it is not there. There's two things. There's two lessons. I'll talk about one before. One thing, like I said earlier, God doesn't operate like how we operate. You think removing her is what makes everything better, but he is still the same person. He's still the same. So that means that he's still going to do he'll just attract another situation like that. So whenever God begins to remove the person, he starts with the mind first of your husband. Come on now. So let's say that they live together but he has no peace. He has no peace. He always telling you how unhappy he is. Okay? And He always telling you like, "Oh, I don't like it here." You know, but he ain't coming back. Like, he not making no he not making no advances to come back. It's because God has to change the mindset of that person. All right? Just like us before God I post before God changes the situation, he changes us first in the situation. So God has to get him to a place where he understands I've done everything that I could do to make this happen and it's not working right. It doesn't matter the smiles that you see. Those smiles are temporary y'all. I promise you those smiles are temporary. The what you see on the Facebook and all of that, that is what the devil wants you to see. the highlights. You don't know what them people go through. And when God begins to remove cuz that's what he do, y'all. And God does it when y'all can't see it. So, no, you're not going to see it. You're You will see little stuff happening, but you're not going to see it. Okay? You only And let me tell y'all something. with a broken heart. With a with a broken heart, it's gonna look like he got he having the time of his life. Your heart is broken. Your heart is broken. All right. Your heart is broken. You going through you going through rejection. Psychologically, when you look at it, you going to think, "Oh, he just living his best life." Just cuz he not speak. You're seeing it because you're sad. You see what I'm saying? You're seeing it because you said, "But when you are healed, you could look at a person and be like, uh-uh, something ain't right with him." You could look at him and be like, "You ain't telling me what's going on, but something is not right with you." I hear people say all the time, I could they be like, "I don't know why he look like that." Because when you healed, you know what I'm saying? When you when you healed, your mind is like, "Something ain't right." But when your heart broken, you you see you think he just having the the carnival. You see what I'm saying? Like you're not telling me, but I can see it on you. Something something ain't going right with you. You know, but whenever God begins to do judgment, let's talk about it because everybody process is different when it comes to the removal of the other woman. Sometimes it seems like they won't let this person go. Um sometimes they go back to the person. It's a lot of back and forth sometimes, you know, and um there's many lessons when it comes to this. All right? Many lessons. And I'm going to try to cover them. But I was talking to a young lady this morning and she said that her husband talks about God. He lives with the other woman. Okay? And when her husband talks about God, he talks about God, but he still lives with the other woman. And he comes over to see the kids. Um, immediately I told her, "Absolutely not." Um, because I'm all about protecting the babies and psychologically, you keep coming over here to spend time with the kids and then going back to another woman house. Absolutely not. You're disrespectful. Absolutely not. And I told her, I said, "Well, he can talk about God, but look where he's going." You see, look where he's going. Now, naturally, you're you're thinking you're thinking like God is working, right? Well, he's talking about God, right? He's talking about he's talking about God, right? But he's still violating the the marriage. You see? And I'm not saying him talking about God is not God working. Sometimes it's manipulation. That's the reason why I posted that post this weekend because how do you know if it's manipulation and how do you know if it's God? This is the reason why the other woman is still there because you might not be at a place where you're sharp in your discernment. You might not be there. You might just be there like, "Oh, well, he says he loves me." And then he go leave and you're not setting any boundaries or anything. You're just allowing these things to happen. I am a believer that if you don't set boundaries, you're in God's way. Yes. If you don't have a if you don't set because you got to understand that he's being ruled by a spirit right now. So if a man comes back and forth to you, that spirit is designed to take you out too eventually. This is the reason why you this is the reason why these women these other women are staying in the marriage these these years this they are planted by Satan. So if you do not have any type of boundaries if you're not challenging it if you're not enforcing if you're not standing for the truth in spirit and in the physical it's not going to budge because naturally you're thinking well I just need God to do all the work. Yeah, but you cannot He can't do that to you. You You will never heal. You will never heal. And you're going to think that what this is is love or this is good enough when really you have always been through a rejection trauma type thing, right? So you think that any sign of attention from him or any sign of anything would be um you would think that any sign of attention from him and any sign of anything is movement when you just have to really utilize your discernment. Like this is where we ask God, show me, show me the spirit behind it. You see what I'm saying? See, but a lot of y'all have to go through that. See, I went through it. So that's why I'm able to spot it. If a Let me tell y'all something. Men want to do, men will do what they want. Understand that. You got to understand that a man is wired to pursue. All right? They are wired. They are wired to pursue. God initially has created Adam to go and do a job. That is his that is his wiring if that makes any sense. Right? It's in them to pursue things, right? So, if he's if he's coming back and forth and he's saying, "I want to come home, but he still is where he's at." He doesn't want to come home. He doesn't I don't care. Anytime a person doesn't want to be anywhere, they're going to make sure that they do what they need to do to get out of it. They will begin to take they will begin to take steps forward to leaving. Even if leaving does not even if leaving is not easy for them, they will begin to make baby steps even steps forward. Not just sitting on the phone telling you, "Yeah, I plan on coming back." yada yada yada. Secondly, let's talk about when they talk about coming back. I'mma tell you now, a lot of times a person could be so deep in sin, God has to get them out of

That. Their own free will will not make. Listen, when a y'all know how much stuff that God had to come and get you out of their own them coming back is not a free will choice thing. It's God that has to bring them back.

This is where women are getting caught up with where he's saying this and he's doing this. God is the one that brings him back. He don't got it in him. Like God has to create situations in order to where he has no choice but to leave that. Does that make sense? So it's like you're you're listening to what he's saying, but I promise you, you can never tell.

Listen, I will never let you be delusional. I will never let you be delusional. There's no way that this man is going to tell you he want to come back, but he's still sleeping next to that girl. There's no way. There's no way that he going home to her every night. And you think that he going to turn down the cat and she want it? Absolutely not. Absolutely not. Absolutely not. You can't if you if you can't put a big fat juicy stick in front of a dog and expect a dog that's not like a dog just the nature of a dog is going to eat the steak. You can't you can't possibly think that he's not still doing what a man does. You see what I'm saying?

I'm having this conversation so you don't be dulu, right? You don't need you don't need to be if he out there laying with her. I promise you because sex is a natural humanistic thing. People be having sex when they don't want to. Even when they don't want to do it when they married, it's a natural thing. It's like our body is wired to do that. You see what I'm saying? So, it's like you can't really think that that's not that's not what's going down regardless of what he's telling you.

This is the reason why boundaries have to be set in place. So, I was having a conversation with her and I said, "Well, he can talk about God, but there repentance is a change of behavior. It's a turning away." Even I don't even know Val, I need you to give me a scripture. I say it every day. What's the scripture? Humble yourselves. Turn from your wicked ways. And then what? I will hear your I will hear your prayers. Right? So even God himself says, "Hey, I need you to humble yourselves and then do what? Turn. I don't need you to just humble yourself and pray." No, no, no. I need there to be a change of behavior. Okay? I need there to be a change of behavior. I need there to be a change of heart, a change of attitude.

When God begins to deal with them, okay, when God Thank you. When God begins to deal When God begins to deal with them, okay, when he begins to deal with them, the number one thing that God does is a lot of the peace and everything that was holding that relationship up is absolutely removed. Okay? Absolutely. Absolutely removed. You see what I'm saying? Absolutely. When God begins to remove the other woman, the main thing that's holding that thing together, God's going to remove it. But that doesn't mean that he's going to immediately come back because God so has to change the way that he thinks. Yes. And depending on the trauma level of your your spouse, right? Depending on the trauma level, because some of these men are narcissistic. They think hard times is just, oh well, I'm just gonna get through this and I'm gonna be good. But sometimes a person like God showed me one day that pride is like a a rock. Okay? And it's something that you have to keep picking up and dropping on the ground. Picking up and dropping on the ground. Picking up and dropping on the ground. Right? So with that being said, a lot of times you a lot of people have to keep going up and down, up and down through situations to break the pride. My spouse had to go through that. He consistently kept losing them. You think you getting ahead, then boop, you think you getting ahead. God even did that with me. You see what I'm saying? Because something has to break. When when God wants to break a thing, things have to be crushed, right? So, it gets to a place. Hold on, y'all. It gets it gets to a place. It gets it gets to a place where you have to understand how things how these things work.

You I'm telling y'all and I feel it so heavy in my spirit to say this. You cannot hold on to him. You have to let him go and get out of God's way. Set the boundary. But setting the boundary has to be enforced. So setting a boundary is saying, "Okay, okay, I'm I this is what we going to do, right? I was telling her this, so I can I can say she said that she wanted to he was coming over to see the kids or whatever." And he ultimately wanted to begin to spend the night um a few days of the week so that he could be with the kids and then leave to go with the other woman, right? I told her absolutely not. I said, "Well, if he wants to see his kids, you have to set the boundary and say, "We can make arrangements for you to see your kids, but you're not going to spend the night and confuse them and then go and leave with somebody else." Absolutely not. We're not doing that. So, I told her, "You have to set and force the boundary."

Men who do not people who do not have accountability in their life they don't know boundaries because nobody has ever like told them hey that's wrong and they actually you see what I'm saying and they actually submit to it people who don't have accountability they they violate boundaries all the time they do not know c they don't they don't know consequences you see what I'm saying so it gets to a place where you have to enforce these boundaries. Well, Raven, how do I enforce the boundaries? Think about it. You think about it. You have a house, right? You have a house and you buy an alarm system. Okay? So, you you buy an alarm system, but you still have to enforce the alarm to work, right? So, buying the alarm system, it doesn't you got to set the alarm. Does that make sense? like buying the alarm system and not using the alarm system defeats the purpose. So you have to tell them hey this is if you want this this is how we have to do these things and you have to enforce it by standing on it because when you don't stand on it and actually put it into work they don't take you serious. You have to make it a reality to them.

But if let me tell you how the spirit man manipulation works is that they'll see your boundary but they know your weak spot. So they'll say the things that you like. They'll do the things that you like so you can let the boundary down and they can continue their foolishness. Absolutely not. So you want to continue to enforce the boundary until you see a consistent change. Your your discernment will tell you your discernment will tell you if a person is playing with you or not. You got the Holy Ghost. Okay? You got the Holy Ghost. You got the Holy Ghost. All right? The Holy Ghost going to tell you that ninja is lying to you. All right? He lying. Don't take him serious.

But the whole infatuation stuff got to go first. Like you got to get you got to grow wisdom over your love for them. You can still love them, but that in love factor, God is going to let that die. They are going to disappoint every inch of you to where that in love factor dies. Okay? dick because it's a part of them that you're probably still using to give you some type of peace and you fantasize about them and you do all of that or whatever. Yeah. No, no, no. That's going to die. God will let them hurt you. They will disappoint you. They surely will. It will go away. You will still have love for them, but the in love because when you're in love, you running to their every beck and call. every beck and call. It don't matter what he do, you still going to be there. You still going to be there. Can I get your food stamp car here? You going to give him You going to bring it back? You going to give him gas money to put in his car to go see the other woman? No, we're not doing that. God would never call you to do that. You see what I'm saying? You could still love them unconditionally. Absolutely. Absolutely. But that duluess, no, it's going to go. All right. Because the reason why God kills that because you're being moved off of emotions and emo your feelings are going to deceive you and and the enemy will manipulate your feelings. The devil will make your feelings seem like it's the truth. I'm telling you, Satan will amplify those emotions. You will you going to live in a fantasy world where you'll be fantasized his whole return. Girl, listen. You'll be done fantasize that thing. You see what I'm saying? I'm just saying. I'm just saying.

So, God has to get you to a place where you put him on the altar. You don't love that thing. You don't love it more than God. You don't love it more than your peace. Because some wives, you love him more than your own sanity. You will go days. God didn't even call you to fast and you on a No. Never again. Never ever ever again. Will you ever ever invest your entire identity in a person? Never. Ever. Ever. Okay. Never. You can love your husband, but your all and all goes into God. And I He could come back and be the best man ever. He literally He literally could be the cheese to your burger. But your but your entire mind, body, I done been there. And that is a prison. That is a prison. That is a prison. And that's something that God is going to allow to die in you. You going to be in love. Yeah, he'll awaken that back up. But I promise you it's going to be to I promise you it's it's not going to be like how deep it is because excuse me because you don't I don't even feel like the Holy Spirit will even let you let it get that way because it's times where I have to like get off the in time it's times where I have to get off the phone and say you know what I'm about to go spend time with God or I'm about to go upstairs and spend time with God. As much as I want to watch this movie, as much as I want to do this with you, I got to make time for the Lord. You see what I'm saying? And I believe that's what keeps me from being from idoli, from idolizing and going back into idolatry because I put God at the center of everything. If that makes any sense.

But the removal of the other woman, it is a process. Everybody's process looks different. Okay? Everybody process looks I'm telling y'all, everybody process looks different. I always tell y'all if they're disrespectful to you, go no contact. Y'all have nothing to talk about. Why are you on the phone with somebody that keep telling you he don't want you? You ain't got no edges. The other woman is better than you. Why? Y'all ain't got nothing to talk about. Nothing to talk about. Um, and one thing I want to say because a lot of women, the spirit of fear uses this, uh, the spirit of fear, uh, tries to control a lot of women. Well, Raven, if I don't do this, and I know y'all hear me say this a gajillion time. Well, Raven, if I don't do this, he's going to go to her. He's already chose her. He's already chose her. Yes, you going to have to get that through your mind. Well, if I don't answer the phone, he going to be with her. He's already with her. Yes, he's already he's already with her and you just going to have to come out of that that mindset. That is a spirit of fear keeping you there to rob you of your peace. All right? Satan does not want you to have peace. If you have peace, you can hear from God. Okay? You could hear from the Lord if you got peace. He don't want that.

Listen, that's why the devil will use them. The devil will use them to act like they're coming back so that you can let every so that they can come and viate violate your healing because you let your guard back down. You know, you done did this and then I did that and he done gone again. Now you back at square one out your mind. You got you trying to book a call. Yeah. You let your guard down. No ma'am. Repentance looking at it requires you got to look at it. You got to watch it. Consistent change, y'all. Consistent. I mean, it is consistent. For real. All right. Consistent. You have to watch them literally operate in a way with that they are about you. Okay? They are about you. Men know what they want all the time. I talk to a lot of husbands. Okay? I talk to a lot of husbands. Guess what? They don't they be the first thing they do is chase their wife. I can't even get mad at them because that's that's in them. That's that's a man. And he going to pursue, pursue, pursue cuz he's wired that way. He chases her. You see what I'm saying? But even the husbands have to be led by the Holy Ghost. Literally, even the husband has to know when God is like, "At this point, I got it from here." Okay, you going to have to back off just a little bit. Joseph said, "Pursuing until the end of the earth." Okay. So, yes, repentance means that they are consistently changing.

But here's here's the thing. I need y'all to understand that it's not and this is where women get it messed up. And I see y'all in the comments. They they can't it just can't be about you. Does that make sense? Like they have to be after God. Yeah. Yes. you you are a part of the process. You see what I'm saying? But they literally have to be after God. That's the goal. Because the love of a man who was in love, let me tell y'all, matter of fact, I ain't going to call his name on here, but his name start with a J and a O and a S E F PH. I talk to him all the time. He said, "Riven, I'm about to book a trip to another country for my wife." I said, "Dang, Joseph." Listen, when a man loves the Lord, he will go to the ends of the earth for you. For you. I'm telling you, it is different. It's different. He will go to the ends of the earth. Just because the Bible is very clear. Love your wives like how Christ loves the church. Do you not know that Christ laid his life down? You see what I'm saying? He laid his life down. You see? So, it's like I I'm telling y'all, you need a man that love God. I told I showed this man one time the purse I wanted. This man took a screenshot of the purse, went to different stores to see who got the purse. Why? Because loving your wife in whatever way in whatever way that's that's what makes God proud. God loves that. God loves that. He loves it. And it keeps the man blessed. I'm not saying that I'm not saying that he's a doormat. Absolutely not. Because the wife whenever you respect your husband, you got to understand that that thing that thing really does make them confident. Like it it really does make them confident. They be feeling like I can't even I they be feeling like they could they could go and get the moon. [Music] When you pour into him and when you build him up when you're able to speak things that the Holy Spirit show you about him and he didn't even tell you. Yeah. Yeah. Absolutely. You see what I'm saying? That's why the devil hates marriages because he don't like unity. He don't like love.

Your man got to have the Holy Ghost. Even if he come back, you need to be praying that he be he gets filled with the Holy Ghost. And I'mma tell y'all something. I don't care how long it takes. You do not start praying until God get him. Cuz God will get him. The Bible, he said, "I will leave the 99." God will get him. not you but the Lord. Okay? And everybody process is different, you know. So don't ever give up praying for them because right now it does hurt. The disappointment does hurt. You know how they act right now does hurt. But they won't stay that way. Not if you pray for them. Not if you pray for them. But you also can't be no fool. All right. You um you can't be no fool now. Don't you be no fool. Hey, Macy girl, I've been thinking about you the other day. Don't be no fool. All right. And you do things that's going to hurt you. I I know you love them right now, but at the same time, you got to use your wisdom, right? You got to use your wisdom because one thing I do know that it's either cuz the Bible says that the flesh and the spirit are always at war. The demonic the demonic and and the kingdom and the kingdom of heaven is always fighting. They fighting right now. Y'all, you know that there was a full-blown flight fight over your soul when you was sleeping. Them angels been knucking and bucking so that you were able to wake up today. You see what I'm saying? They always fighting. So this is why you got to be vigilant on how much you give yourself to a rebellious person. All right? All right. They are going to break your heart. I'm telling y'all, their rebellion will disappoint you. You will get discouraged. I'm telling you the truth. You will get discouraged. You will your heart will be broken until you get to a place where their actions do not move you no more. God got to get you there. That's a God thing. You got to be walking with the Lord to where you have a peace that it just don't bother you no more. That's God. That's the Lord. You see what I'm saying? That's God, right?

But a wife is to never stop praying for her husband. I don't care if he speak in tongues at 2:00 in the morning. Never. Because you got to remember the flesh is weak. There's always temptation, y'all. There's always temptation. But when you understand how the enemy attacks his destiny, now you can have scripture. Right? Now you'll have scripture to say, "Okay, I know how I need to pray for him." It's a selfless journey and it is one that can be one. God can do anything. And even if y'all not married, you are so good because if you can pray him to salvation before y'all get married, that is a blessing. You don't have to go through a lot of things that you don't have to go through. Okay? You don't um you don't have you don't have to go through a lot of things if you do the work before y'all get married. You see what I'm saying? But you got to make sure that that man is from God. You know what I'm saying? You got to make sure you got to make sure he from God. All right? I always say that. make sure that this is something that God um is trying to do because you don't want to be like I done been through it. So yeah, that's all I have to come on here. That's all I um that's all I have. That is all I have to say. All right. to come on here and I want you guys to be encouraged because it is possible. You're not crazy. And let me and another thing, don't ever let somebody dictate what can happen in your life. Okay? All right? Because even if you're not married, you praying for him. Everybody don't got to know that. Because we all go through different things in life. I'm telling you, nobody is exempt from challenges. And when you marry a person, just know that marriage in itself will take you places that you didn't even think you were going to go. A lot of people have an idea of how they think their marriage is going to be, but having two souls join at once, always evolving, like y'all are consistently growing and y'all are consistently like experiencing different emotions and stuff like that. You're always going to be a student. You're never going to get to a place where you was like, "Oh, we this how we you don't know what that boy got going on in his mind at night." No. Never. Never. Never. Prayer is a is like a a a lifeline. You cannot do marriage without prayer. It'll never work. Something else will come. Become a a master of that marriage. You know what I'm saying? And whenever you don't want to pray for your husband, that's the devil. you just discouraged. You know, you don't want to pray because of what he did. And I understand that too cuz I done been there. But at the same time, you need God to heal you. That's it. You got to ask God to heal you. Ask God to help you forgive him. But when you forgive him, if he's still acting a fool, don't let that man back in your house if you know he going to leave again. Yes. If he come back and he's still out there in them streets, meet him at the door that don't get me started. Why are you going to let him back in for what? He going to do the same thing and now you need healing again. No. Set the boundary. Say, "Hey, listen. I don't want to do this back and forth with you." There's nothing wrong with vocalizing saying, "Hey, this is not cool. This is not cool. You're not going to do that."

But see, one thing I've learned is our words are everything. And I want to tell a lot of women this. If you see him, if you see God doing a work in him, all right? If you see God doing a work in him, you always, if you see a man that's trying, not rebellious, but he's trying, you always want to acknowledge the good first. You always want to let him know like, listen, I love the person that you are growing into. You know, I'm I'm so glad that you're working on this because this right here, most men be feeling like don't they got to do this by the self. You know what I'm saying? Like you got to be a husband and a father and you don't really know what you doing. Like you got you see what I'm saying? like you don't really like some men are they have to figure it out, right? You know, so you always want to pray that God gives him good people in his life, people that will help him become a better husband, people that help him, people that help him uh be held accountable. You know what I'm saying? your intercession could could remove that that that crazy cousin and that that that them high school friends. All you got to do is pray, baby girl. All you got to do is pray.

One thing I want y'all to get to a place where I had to understand is if it don't if it bothers you, you don't always got to voice it. If he's telling you something, let's say like you still be battling with insecurity, right? and he hang around his h her his cousin that's still in the world and you know his cousin done gone through a divorce or his cousin is out in the street and he's telling you yeah I'm about to go out with so and so naturally you might say well, I don't like when you you know what I'm saying I don't like when you do that do that this that and the third sometimes that be stuff you got to pray about because you don't want him to feel like you're trying to control him a man that feels feels like they're that they're control, they're going to go be with somebody else. I'm not even going to lie to you. They are going to rebel against you. I've seen it. Okay? If you are ever a controlling wife, they this is their pattern. They are going to go be with somebody else and they're going to be with somebody else that's younger because the person that is younger is more submissive and they can have their way. The person that's younger is not going to control them. You see what I'm saying? the person that's younger is going to do everything they want versus the person that's kind trying to control them. They're like, "No, I need something a little easier, something a little lighter." It's wrong, right? Because they're not being held accountable, right? But being a controlling wife is what will make your man be with somebody else. And um removing sex as a way to weaponize him and control him. Yes, he's going to leave you for somebody else. You might not see it now. Okay. But he's definitely going to his mind is going to cuz think about it. He goes out in the world to go to work. All you know what I'm saying? Like that's what they do. The household is supposed to be a place of peace, right? He's supposed to be he's supposed to be a place of peace. You see what I'm saying? So, with that being said, with that being said, yeah, Glowron said, "I'm 5 years older than my husband and every woman he's with is older than me or him." Then he might not, you might not have been controlling. He might like older women. That's It sounds like that's what he likes. So, if he likes older women, then he must be like women that probably like take care of him a little bit. You know what I'm saying? You might not be controlling, but he might he might be a man that likes, you know what I'm saying? Older women lot. And I think it sounds like mommy wounds though, if that makes any sense. If that makes any sense. Um, but those are just my perspectives, you guys. I'm I don't know everything. All right. Hi, Shaya. Shayla. Hey, girl. I see you girl. you know. Um, so yeah, everybody's situation is a little bit different, but all in all, y'all, I I really have a heart to encourage you guys to grow. I I can't have you not grow. Like, even if and a lot of times, y'all, we talk about the same things because the situation is traumatic. You can't just have one conversation about this thing and your mind be at peace. You see what I'm saying? Like there are you sometimes you might hear you might have heard me say the same thing again like a couple months ago, but if I said it again, you probably needed that reminder, you know, like you needed to learn these things. You see what I'm saying? Because this journey and the stuff that you go through, the warfare will make you forget. Oh yes. You will forget you. You will forget sometimes. You see what I'm saying? So it's like there's nothing wrong with getting your cup filled up. And if you are a person that feel like all we do is talk about the same thing, it is because we're always having new people with the same questions. And if you are out growing the community, it's fine. This is a journey. All right? You got to go on where whatever. And I I'm just saying like if you're outgrowing it, then that's fine. You see what I'm saying? Like we outgrow things, you know? So if you're outgrowing it, then you got to ask God to fi help you find people um that feed you where you're at now because you're you've outgrown it. You like you don't need help with the other woman in the rebel. You don't need help or whatever like that or whatever. Right? So I just I just wanted to say that because it happens. It really does. It happens. You see what I'm saying? So, yes, that's all I have to say. Um, I am going to open up some slots for this week because again, I thought I was going to be down this week, but I um I'm going to be I'm going to be down this week, but I'm going to open up some slots for calls and I'll send an email to you guys. Um, Tracy said, "What do you think about those video Tik Tok talk about your miracle is coming on 24th?" Um, God don't give me God don't give me that type of prophecy. So, um, I don't I don't know about anything about that. God doesn't give me those type of specifics when it comes to time frames. Um, so yeah, that is all I got. The event are you is your name Lesie? Cuz I had to refund some people and I had to reschedu. It was a mess. It was a mess, boy. I and I don't want to res I didn't want to refund them, but I had to. You know what I'm saying? So, yes, I am going to um open up some slots or whatever. Um yes. So, the next ebooks that God has me coming out with is rejection. So, we're going to walk down that, but it's going to be a little bit more deeper. So, I'm almost done. So, basically what I'm coming out with is Oh, Crystal G. Oh, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. Please see send me email. So, yes. So, what I'm doing is for women who do not know how to function when you have a a husband that's rejecting you, God had me write an ebook on understanding the spirit of rejection and what to actually do in that situation. And it also comes with an ebook on how to pray when he is specifically rejecting you. All right, it's two things. That's two things that he has me um writing about. Rejection is like the number one thing that has traumatized me. So, I know what it smells like. I know what it looks like. I know what it tastes like. I know what it seems like. All right. So, that is what's coming out. Um, and that's all I got. And this morning, he gave me something about rebellion, but I don't know. So, excuse me. That is what I got today. Any questions before I go? Any questions before I go? Any questions? Empress, you always said check my my email. Empress, I have never gotten an email from you, friend. Okay. I have never um I have never got an an email from you, Alicia. Um I got to work today. Last week really did put me down, but I probably got to work today. What do I pray when he's not holding himself accountable? Um, I wouldn't I just would pray that God corrects him and stay out of God's way. That's that's kind of what I would do. Like I would pray that God corrects him. That's the biggest thing. And um you know what I'm saying? Um but he you you might just have to wait on God in that situation. I know how it sounds like. Um, I know how it sounds like when it, you know, when you you don't see God doing anything. Let me tell y'all, if you don't see God doing anything, it doesn't mean that anything is not happening. But I would also ask God, what is the lesson that you're trying to teach me? All right. Will you have an ebook on setting boundaries? Honestly, Melissa, I could. I never did that before. I have not done that. I could do that. Could constant communication be a sign that God is moving as well or could it be manipulation? Um, it depends on what y'all talking about. You always know what spirit is behind it and the actions behind it, behind what he doing. So, if he's talking to you and still dealing with somebody else, but he talking to you and still doing everything he doing, he's manipulating you. Okay? He is manipulating you. You cooked turkey wings yesterday, Ty. That's so good. No problem, Davis. I don't know how to pronounce I'm talking to the lady with the red hat on and her profile picture. I'mma call you Davis. Okay. Because I can't pronounce that first name. Okay. Do you have a a book to deal with the spouse still pursuing you but having the other woman in the cut? Not really, but I could. Or Kim. Okay. I could call you Kim. I can call you Kim. Somebody asked, um, yeah, Felicia, what do you do when it's polygamy running in this man's family? I probably would def you have to live a life of prayer and fasting because that's a spirit and it's a mindset. It's a mindset. It's a belief that they believe that hey, it's a belief that they believe that that's okay. And it sucks that I had a conversation with somebody I don't remember la recently and she is from another country. I don't know the country right and she said that her husband is dealing with somebody else but she said that people are telling her are laughing at her because her she want her husband to be a one woman which is her. She said that people are laughing at her because she's not dealing with it. I said, "That is demonic." What? That is that is demonic. That is that's that's demonic. I That is very sad. Honestly, I'mma tell y'all the truth. And this is the God on truth. And you got to get there to really understand what I'm saying. Whenever God brings you out of this um whenever God brings you out of this and you get to the other side, you're not going to love anything more than God. I'm telling y'all that. All right. You You're not going to love anything more than God. I'mma say that again. You're not even going to love him the same. You're going to love God more than anything in this world. even when he comes back. All right, you will love him or you will love your wife. But the the the stand it makes you fall in love with God when you truly let go. Like when you truly and I mean truly let go. All right, let go. Lolo said, "Can God restore if a spirit spouse is in the picture on either sides?" Yes, God can restore, but that demonic spirit is designed to destroy marriages. So, you're going to have to have a really tough prayer life. Like, I I think a lot of times God will take you through deliverance before if you have a spirit spouse, nine times out of 10, you going to be delivered before there's any type of restoration because those demons think that y'all together. You know what I'm saying? Um, those demons think that y'all together. Bail bell said, "How do you know when you tr when I truly let go when you just don't care or feel peace?" A lot of times, Bell, it's peace. When certain things do not torment you anymore. When you don't feel like you going to die without talking to him. When you feel like, you know what I'm saying? Like you just at peace. You're not mad at him. You're not angry. You don't feel nothing. you know, you're you're in a good space. You don't have no negative emotions. You're not meditating on what he did or anything like that. Now, it doesn't mean that those thoughts won't come, but you're not sitting in it and entertaining it. Does that make sense? Like, you're not um you're not checking social media, checking bank statements. You not you know what I'm saying? Like, you're just going on with your life. You know what I'm saying? Like, you see what I'm saying? Yes. Danielle said, "When you can sleep at night." Yes. Leaken said, "It won't consume you." Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Not reacting. Yes. That's when you truly let a person go. Um and you really have peace, right? And you really have peace. And I'mma tell y'all, you got to get there, y'all. You You got to It's a place that you grow into. It's something that you you walk in, if that makes any sense. Like God has to get you to that place because being married to somebody, being one with somebody, it's hard. It's hard. But if you pursue God, if you pursue God every day, okay? Not when you're just crying, not when you're upset, not when you want to answer, not none of that. You know what I'm saying? When you really pursue the Lord, you get that. You get that. But if you're a person that is anxious for a return, you going to be waiting for a second. All right. You will be um you will be waiting for a second. Okay. What should I pray? If he don't want to be together, but he keeps delaying the divorce process. Um victorious, I would see if it's God blocking the divorce process. You know what I'm saying? Like I I would I would look at it as what if God is trying to stop it from getting to that place so y'all can reconcile. He does do that a lot. He does do that a lot. So it might not even be him. It could be God putting a pen in it, you know, until y'all get to a place, hey Lola, where y'all could reconcile. You know what I'm saying? God does it. God, I have seen it. He'll keep you in the marriage. It don't be the man. It be the Lord. It will it be God. God will keep you in that covenant, friend. I've seen it. I've seen it. I've seen it. I've seen it. You know what I'm saying? I've seen it. Empress said, "How do you know if God will restore your marriage?" He tells you. He will show you that restoration is your portion. But if you are confused if God is going to restore a lot of times you have to let the person go. You do. Okay. You have to um you have to let that person go so you can get clarity. Holding on to them will block out God's voice. How do I let them go? Spend an astronomical amount of time with the Lord. Get you a prayer closet. Get you some pillows. get you some ice, juice, whatever you need and go in there and sit down. Building this relationship with God is not a a formula type of I got to do A B C D. No, no. You start off by going there. And when we read the Bible, Samuel when he when Samuel started to um Samuel started to hear the voice of the Lord, Samuel just made himself available. [Music] Okay? He made himself available. Building a relationship with God starts with availability. You got to be available. You got to make time for God. You are not too busy to make time for God because the time that you make to go to the bathroom, the time that you make to go get something to eat, you can make time for God. You can God will help you make time for him. He will He will put them kids to bed. He will put them turn to bed and you like, "Oh, I don't got I don't got nothing but time." Yeah. time to talk to God. And even if you don't hear nothing back, live with the understanding that God can hear you. If you can hear from God, the best thing to know is that God can hear you. And you don't stop talking to him. All right? And you and you don't stop talking to him. You keep on talking to him. All right? I promise you if you start there on top of reading your word, you gonna get where you need to be at. You gonna grow. You're going to grow. Okay? You're you're going to grow. Bea, if you've been separated for two years, I I was two and a half. Um I would look at the I would pay attention to everything that God has done so far. Yes, Shik Ray. I bother God about everything, too. I talk to God about everything, y'all. Everything. It is the best relationship that you could ever have in your entire life. Jesus Christ, just to be specific, accepting Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior. God gave me a revelation yesterday when I was going to Walmart. He said to me, "People cannot control what they what happens to themselves." People, we cannot control everything that happens to us, but we serve a God who can. We serve a God who protects us. Okay? Who protects us? We do. You see, what do you do when you got warfare coming from bloodline adopted in his family? We're not together. Um, I would only target, honestly, that's usually what happens. Um, I would begin to really ask God, "What am I fighting?" Mimi, I want you to understand that you you God is doing the heavy lifting. I know it sounds like a lot, right? But you, I promise you, sis, you only you only fight. You only God is doing the heavy lifting against everything that you're dealing with. It it might feel like fire, but it's you just getting a little heat, you know what I'm saying? A little steam, you know, but God is doing the heavy lifting. I know that everything that you're battling, it makes you exhausted, but remember, God is doing the heavy lifting. Y'all need to target what the devil is doing. What What is Satan doing in your life? That's how you know you That's how you know what to pray against when you pay attention to what weapon is the devil using. That's why I make that's why I make the book specifically on specific things. So could it be manipulation but also God also God because you see his heart softening. It depends. It really does depend. Like, how do you know if it's truly his heart softening? Like, how do you how do you know? Is it because is it aligning with what you pray? You got to ask God to show you his true heart behind this. Like, you got to ask God to show you his heart on who he is right now. That's your biggest answer. Because manipulation could look like God is moving. I'm telling you, it could look like God is moving, but he's still out there do with his shenanigans. Ask the Lord to show you his true heart. How do you know when God is tagging his mind? I don't ever know. I don't know. I don't be knowing. I don't know. I don't know. You know what I'm saying? Um I be knowing when God be like dealing with them as far as judgment, but on his mind, I don't know. I don't I don't have an answer for that one. What happens when you continue messing up in the stand? Um I um Oh, if you mess up, it's I'mma be honest with y'all. It really does depend on um it really does depend like are you falling short or are you deliberately disobeying God? That's different. It's a difference with falling short. You could be falling short, right? You could be falling short or you could be deliberately disobeying God. You got to figure that out. If you're falling short, you're we all going to fall. I fall short every day. I just curse somebody. I'm I'm a curse them out. I just told them to leave me alone. But I'm saying Oh, it's both. Okay. Well, yes, you can definitely stay in a season longer than you than you um you can definitely stay in a season longer than God um wants you to when you read about the Israelites in the wilderness. Yeah, you could definitely do that. You could you could definitely do that. You see what I'm saying? So, with that being said, yeah. Uh what will happen? You delay yourself. you stay longer and then whenever you go through that you be hit with the same test. So you got to pass the test. Whatever it is that's causing you to do it, pass the test. Pass the test. Okay. Um is falling short telling them off. To me, yes. To me, yes. Because sometimes, you know, you don't want to tell a person, hey, I been nice and all of this. And you just blow up on them. That's falling short. In my opinion. In my opinion. I'm just saying. I'm just saying y'all. I'm about to go get me. Bella said, "Well, I fail." I do believe. Listen, I do believe that whenever you've been so forgiving, so gracious, when you've been so kind over and over again, so humble, and a person literally like when a person literally keep doing the wrong thing to you, eventually your flesh is going to be like, "Listen, you know what I'm saying? I That's my perspective. That's just my perspective. I'm just saying what I'm saying. How about telling him to help pay $2,700 for his daughter braces? H I don't know. Um I never been hit with that one. Mari, I just probably would pray. I would probably go on a fast and ask him. But do he even got that money? Do you even

Want him to help you? Cuz what if he show, what if he pay half and then don't show up with the other half? You gonna be mad. You know what I'm saying? So, Mari, this is what I would do. I would ask God to make a way for her braces to get paid. Whichever way he chooses to do it, I would ask the Lord to, you know what I'm saying? I would ask God to help me in that area. I wouldn't ask him. I would ask God because if he's an unreliable person, then he just going to make you mad, girl. Cuz you know how it be.

All right, y'all. I love y'all so much. We spent so much time together this morning. I will see about that ebook, friend. Okay, I will see about that e. It is half of five. Oh, child. Lord, y'all, we going to have a good week this week. All right, we are going to have. Yes, Amanda. Yes, we are going to have a good week this week. Y'all not going to crash out. Y'all not going to do nothing crazy. Y'all going to spend time with God today. Read your Bible today. Put down your time frames, y'all. We have a lot of testimonies in our community. And one thing I learned about the Lord is, um, one thing I learned about God. Whenever God gives us a month, and I don't know if y'all pay attention, whenever, excuse me, whenever God gives us a month that something's going to happen, he starts moving in the previous month. Like he starts moving in. Like we got a word for December, but he starts like shaking things up in the previous month. He did that over the summertime where we talked about how the other woman was going to start being removed in August. You see what I'm saying? And but we started seeing stuff in July. Y'all remember that? And then he gave us a word about July. So, yeah, I'm excited. I'm excited. I'm excited. I'm excited.

So, yeah, you guys, I love y'all so much. I'm going to open up slots for this week and then y'all can book. I will send an email and then Mari says she did get removed. Amen. Amen. Keep praying for him. You know what I'm saying? I get so worried about these words because it's really discouraging. Lolo, you have to choose the words that's for you. Okay? You got to get the words that's specifically tailored for you. Every word is not for everybody, you know. But I would just ask God like, "Does this apply to me?" You know what I'm saying? But honestly, I never was a person that got, um, I never got prophecy like that about something specifically happening unless God told me himself. If that makes any sense. Lesie, is that you? Lesie, I'm going to send you an email. Hey, Latricia. Hey, I'm going to send it. Um, the counterfeit is gone. Oh my gosh. Wow. Alicia, that is amazing. Y'all don't understand her story. Wow. Wow. Leslie, email me. Bella said about time. Oh my god. I don't know why I heard that. I don't know why I heard her say that. About time. Oh my god. Laura. Laura said the counterfeit has been removed. Wow. Laura, Laura, you ghosted me. You had a call with me and you ghosted me. What? We thank God. We thank the Lord. We thank the Lord. We thank the Lord. We thank the Lord. Y'all just keep praying. See how God do. I got one more thing to say and then I'm about to go. Y'all know like our community is like it breeds restoration. Y'all know it's almost like it's like even though I know like that's the assignment of the community. You know what I'm saying? But like I just really get so like ecstatic because it's, y'all think it's like an anointing or something. What y'all think? Y'all think we got angels or like for real? I I don't know how to put it together in my mind, but y'all know like we have really helped like over a over like a hundred marriages. Like the first year it was crazy. It was crazy. It was crazy. But do what y'all think? Y'all think like I'mma go to God and ask God cuz I need to understand this. But for real, this really is the breeding grounds for restoration. But Danny, I don't even think it's me. I just think that it's the community in itself. Like, you know what I'm saying? Angelica, we are going on a fast on the 21st, 22nd, 23rd. I'mma send the email out. You know what I'm saying? You know what I'm saying? He does, Lincoln. He does. He does. Latricia said, "Yes, we do. God been moving and I only been here for a few months." That's why y'all. That's why y'all kept me. Y'all drag me back to marriage restoration by my edges. Y'all wanted. I have people say, "Well, Raven, what about the business? What about the business community?" I'm like, "I cannot do business and restoration at the same time." Okay? Like, I cannot. I cannot. I can't do it. I'm just saying. Um, Belinda just sold $50. Who needs a call? Belinda, not you, Smiley, because yours is already dealt with. Belinda just sold $50 to my cash app just now. Who needs a call? I want to talk to somebody who I never talked to before. Um, hold on. Let me see. Um, [Music] this is hard. All y'all saying me. Let me see. Y'all know y'all know I'mma do. Sorry, Shaunie. I'mma go ahead and do, um, ciao. Laura, send it to shefoughtback@gmail.com. This is hard. Eeny, meeny, miny, moe. Daddy, I've been thinking the same thing. Yeah. Yeah, Danny. Um, Kim Davis, Kim, Kim, can you send me a message on Tik Tok? Can you send me a message on Tik Tok? The one with the red hat. Kim, great minds think alike cuz I said Kim too in my brain. Yeah, send me a message on Tik Tok. And if you and also Kim, if if you can't send me no more messages, um, just comment so I can go and add you cuz sometimes it don't let me, um, do it. Um, hey Rez said, "I'll pay for a call for someone else." Okay. Um, hey Rez, go on the go on my website and just book a random time and then I will just do it that way. Shnaie, I talk to you all the time. Let's do Meezy. Let's do Meezy. Shaunie is all I talk to. Shaunie all the time. I talk to Shaunie all the time. Let's Shaunie, don't get mad at me now. I just trying to get the people I never talked to before cuz some of them can't. They be in different countries. You know what I'm saying? So, yeah. We did have a call. All right, Kim. We didn't. I can't remember. Mey, send me a message on the Tik Tok and I'll set you guys up today. Um, I'mma catch you this month. Okay. All right, y'all. So, yeah, I got some people on here, but, um, it's just my allergies, Erica. It's the allergies. All right, Angelica, please, please, please, please. Okay, so Felicia just pleaded for Globe Trotter's call. Globe Trotter, you know my email address, right? Send me a message. Just send me a message cuz I, y'all, I'm not even going to cap. I got a lot of time this week because I thought I was going to be down. So, I'm going to send y'all an email with the times available and once I make them available cuz I got to figure out how I'm going to do that. Globe Troder, send me an email cuz Felicia just paid for your car. I need to start taking insurance. I, how, how you do that? You know what I'm saying? How you do that? How? Yeah, but I'mma think about what y'all told me. I don't know. I just have a lot of talking about. Yep. Good idea. I don't know about that now. I don't know. So y'all, um, just in case y'all did not know, the Severing Her Influence ebook is $25 and today is the last day. All right, Severing Her Influence and the Lust Breakthrough Ebook. Yes, those books are $25. That is the lowest of the low. Today is the last day to get those ebooks. Okay, Dante. Yes, I'm going to open out some times and I'll send, I'mma do that when I get off. All right. So, I think Words That Bring Him Home is that price. Shaunie, hold on. Let me see. I can't remember what I did, but I know God told me to do that. So, yes. Um, Patricia said, "I love the Words That Bring Him Home ebook." I'm so glad y'all like it. Wow. I about to, Felicia. Oh, Words That Bring Him Home already got a discount on it. That's, yeah. All right. I, uh, Words That Bring Him Home is already discounted. Okay, Felicia. I will. Oh, child. Um, what else? What else? That's it, y'all. I love y'all. Uh, Smiley, what you saying please for? Can we do a book club? Cuz I can't get one right now. How would you start a book club? Don't give me no ideas. Don't give me no how you start a book club, y'all. I'm just trying to figure it out. Read the book and talk about it. Oh. Oh, that would be so dope. That would be so dope. How would I put that together? How would I put that together? I don't know. I don't know. I'll figure it out. Y'all come up with a lot of ideas for one person. For one person. Smiley. I think so, too. All right. The I got her. Okay. That's good. I'll think about it. All right. I'm about to go. I love y'all so much. I'll call y'all back. I'll call y'all back tomorrow.