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Let me ask you a question. Okay. Would you learn how to play basketball from a football coach? I guess not.
Would you learn how to play basketball from a football coach? No. If you want to learn how to cook, who would you want to teach you? A chef. If you want to learn how to drive a car, who you want to teach you? A driver. If you want to learn how to fly a plane, who going to teach you? A pilot.
How are y'all learning how to be wives and your mother wasn't a wife? You just said if you want to learn to fly a plane, you going to go to a pilot. You want to learn how to cook, you want to go to a chef. Women don't know what's intrinsically important to a man and they don't know how to be a wife because their mothers wasn't wise. In general, women are raising their daughters to be single mothers cuz they are single. They're single mother and they like, I'm going to teach you how to be strong and my mama told me I don't need no man and this is they have raised you to be a single woman. That's true. and go be. So you don't need to depend on no man and get you an education and go to college. They have groomed you to be a single mother. But if you want to be a wife, you have to learn how to be a wife from a wife. The same way you would learn how to cook from a chef. Then once you surround yourself with other wives, then you will know what's intrinsically important to a man. A lot of y'all women ain't even wise and you married.
All right, what's good people? Welcome back to the Onyx Report. Black masculine news for the day. Like, share, subscribe, join, donate, hit the hype button, support the channel so we can continue to bring you this independent blackmail thought. Yeah. So, I'm hoping everybody's well, but you see the subject. Train for careers, not marriage. Men opt out and birth rates collapse. part and parcel to this discussion because there's quite a bit that goes into the collapse of the birth rate. But I'm going to talk about it from the vantage point of what men experience, right, and how we see things in many instances. And I think what the brother said here was on point. And I got to say, I've seen him drop some fire comments in the past. Uh so shout out to him for that. But what he's dropping is fire because he's talking about a couple of things. He's talking about how women are socialized, right? And this being socialized into being a wife is no longer considered by many women thanks to feminism. Um the ideal, right? If anything, it it's kind of a rare thing to find a woman who's been socialized to be a wife and not resent it, right? Because we've seen uh for years and this and we really saw this transition kick off with Boomer women and their daughters, Gen X daughters, right? Boomer women were the last generation of women who were socialized to be wives, but they many in many ways idolized the idea of being free of family, right? So they passed that on to Gen X women and Gen X women took it and ran it like a football to the other side of the field. They took the feminism, they took the desire for independence, they took the careerism and they ran for the hills. And ever since then, we've seen generation after generation, you know, of women moving further and further away from being socialized as wives. And I think the brother's point at the end was key. He said, "Y'all not wives and you're married." So that goes to even many of the women who are married don't know how to be wives. And I think the other part of what he said that that's key to it, too, is he said that you you you really have no idea what appeals to men. And I'm paraphrasing a bit, right? They don't know. They don't know what men look for. They don't know what what appeals to them because their mothers didn't prioritize I'd say their families and or the community didn't prioritize what men's interests were. They were taught that the only thing that that mattered was their own interest. Right? We highly individualized the idea of of of bonding, pair bonding as it's called, between men and women. It the the focus of it is the individual focus of the woman, but it isn't true individualism because women are still socialized into something. They're just not socialized into being wives. But the problem is even though men aren't necessarily socialized to be husbands in the same way, men, many men still want to be and they've still been socialized with the social expectation that they are supposed to provide. Now, that doesn't mean every man can or even wants to, but most men and women have an expectation that he be in a dominant role when it comes to providing the line share of resources that go toward bills, life, so on and so forth. So, that means even if she makes more money, even considerably more money, the social expectation is still that he be the one to provide. So, he takes care of all the bills. She does whatever the [ __ ] she wants. This is the d the the dynamic in place even now. And of course, it's still expected that he protect right. So if there's a threat to the family or to the woman, everybody looks at him. I'm not saying that shouldn't be the case. I'm not saying saying that men should avoid that. I'm saying it is a social expectation. Meanwhile, women have torn up the social contract. There is nothing that they are tied to anymore which they find liberatory, right? They they enjoy the freedom or at least the idea of it. They don't have to have kids. They don't have to marry. They don't have to be monogous. They don't have to they don't have to do anything. They don't have to work. They don't have to go to school or they can do all of it. But it's solely at their whim. Meanwhile, men are still socially expected to provide, protect, be emotionally present. And this is the part they don't talk about providing emotional labor to women. They just don't call it emotional labor. You know what they call it? Nothing. See, women complained about having to provide emotional labor for men, while at the same time propagating the myth that men had nothing to do with emotional labor because they were emotionally unintelligent. This was this was what was propagated to society. And many men believe this that women produce the lion share of emotional labor and men do none. Feminists have convinced them of this [ __ ] I've talked about this for years when I talk about men's emotional uh uh lab labor, you know, um I forgot the name of it actually, but anyway, it is a concept that I've talked about and developed over the years, but men's emotional labor is not Oh, men's emotional rel uh relationship labor. The point being that men provide all kinds of services to women. Whether it's letting her download every day when she's frustrated, you know, or whether it's actually um doing things that that kind of provide her emotional stability in the midst of frustration, right? Anywhere from it can be as simple as providing hugs at the right moment to taking responsibilities off her plate to making decisions that she doesn't have to make. You know, there's a wide v I've done a show I've done many shows actually where I go into the weeds on this and I didn't plan to do that in this episode, so I'm not going to. But my point being is that the lie that men provide no no emotional labor in relationships, men have to at least, if no one else, understand that this is actually a lie that men do quite a bit of it, right? But the point I'm making here is that the expectations that men provide, protect, be emotionally present, so on and so forth, and provide emotional labor, those expectations haven't changed since the 50s. Women's are the only the only expectations that have changed because they tore up the social contract. Now, society has been limping along since women decided that they should have no role that they be, you know, bound to, right? There's nothing that they need to do to in society or in relationships or in family formation. There's nothing that they are bound to. But men are expected to remain bound to their social role. Now, this doesn't work. Shout out to Dr. Ronald Neil. You can't have a torn social contract on one side. Eventually, the other side will begin to fray and completely dismantle itself. And that's what's been happening in the last decade. When you hear white liberal women talking about their kids refusing to move out, their sons refusing to work, they want to play video games, they're not, you know, moving toward any formal job, that's what it is. That's one aspect of men's cancellation of this one-sided social contract. So, the question I ask as far as societyy's concerned is is if women if societyy's been limping along since women tore up their half of the social contract, can it survive men doing the same? Can it survive men's abandonment? So, when you look at the thumbnail for this video, know that I'm not suggesting at all that they can. I don't believe society can. I'm not celebrating the man in Bali, you know, see him heading out traveling. I'm not upset about it, but I'm not celebrating e either. I'm I'm saying no society can thrive when men have checked out. See, when men's resources go strictly to their own interests and they no longer have families, yes, they may make less money, but people, you know, cuz married men technically make more. They they're socially pressured to, but when you don't actually have people to be responsible for, you can make much, you know, less money and live well, travel, go places, do things, follow your own interests and hobbies. You can do that more so than you can when you're married. Because even though you make more money married, that money doesn't go to your interests goes to the family, i.e. her. But when men disassociate, this is not necessarily something a society can survive. And so people like myself have been trying to say, if y'all want society to stand, you might want to reconsider this course of action because this one-way social contract does not work. Right? Doesn't work.
One of the things that we're starting to see is the collapse of the birth rate. This is the Wall Street Journal and uh this particular piece is dated April 9th, 2026. It's entitled why the US fertility rate has hit a record low as child uh bearing shifts toward women 30 and older. US moves further below level needed to keep growing. All right. Uh first thing you can see on there is a chart. US general fertility rate 140 per 10,000 and you can see uh that from the 1940s to the 50s to the60s the birth rate in America was pretty high. It is the lowest that it has been since 1940 at the very least and it is continuing to decline. Right. Going further says the nation's fertility rates hit record lows in 2025 as childbearing continued to shift toward older women according to new federal data released Thursday. For the sixth straight year, the number of children born in the US remained at roughly 3.6 million. Now, keep in mind when you talk about older women, you know, this is one of the things we've told society, not just women. We said that, you know, women need to prioritize their careers, prioritize getting their lives together, and then consider marriage later. So contrary to, you know, a normal setup where you kind of focus on women having children in their 20s and then pursuing their career, thus it's less of a threat on their body, we do it the opposite way. And what this means is women come to marriage and child rearing in their 30s and 40s after a significant drop some and some argue uh some argue over 90% drop in eggs by the time you're talking about reproducing over 30. Right? This is where this is where we've come to. And it's a problem. It's a problem because it's not healthy. I I I got no argument a few years ago with a feminist male on my channel because I was looking at when you look at the women over 40 who are dying having children. Of course, the highest number are amongst black women. And so I raised the question with the the guys I was going back and forth with on Facebook and I I raised the question. I wonder what our culture and I said our our culture of having women delay child birth until after careers are in place. I wonder if that's contributing. Now the feminist went off. He lost his mind. He was, you know, upset. You know, I'm not going to let you blame women. Said, "No, okay. You you've gone into the irrational. You've gone into the emotional. That's not what I'm arguing. I'm not looking for ways to blame women for the sake of blaming women. What I'm looking for is the is to answer the question of whether or not our cultural practices are further contributing to the loss of women uh women women's lives at childbirth. See, I'm I I look at it like we dismiss culture and we purely look at things medically and you know so on and so forth, but I I look at whether or not there's a cultural dimension to this and I believe there is. I believe the practice of delaying childirth till older years is costing some women their lives. I truly do. I truly do. I don't apologize for it. I'm not celebrating. I'm not laughing. I'm not dancing. I'm not blaming. I'm looking at the ways in which I think some of the things we do don't help. Matter of fact, make certain things worse. But I'm not saying that's the only cause. I'm just saying it is a cause that we need to talk about. Right. Anyway, it continues uh let's see the number of births per 10,00 women ages to 15 to 40 uh 15 to 44. The general fertil fertility rate reached a record low of 53 53.1 in 2025. Man, I'm tripping today. According to provisional data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, the rate has mostly headed down since 2007, a pre-recession peak when millennial women started to enter their prime childbearing years. One long-term trend driving the slide, a sharp decrease in birth rates for teens and women in their 20s. In 2025, birth rates for women in their late 30s exceeded those for women in their early 20s for the first time. This probably also has to do with economic stability and the degree to which younger folk have less and less access to stable income, right? Especially in even those with uh degrees as far as jobs are concerned, careers are concerned. That's no doubt playing a role in this as well. But the chart on the screen, you can see here US birth rates by age group. You can see it broken down 30 to 34, 25 to 29, all the way down to 15 to 19. And as high as uh 40 to 44, you see the breakdown there, right? It seems like uh 25 to 29 is the highest birth rate, right? 20 to 24 is kind of in the middle. But as far back as 1990, you know, you can actually see where 20 to 24 was had a high position. But from what we can tell, by the time you get to 2025, it's women over 30 uh between 30 and 34 that have the highest birth rate. So, we're looking at uh geriatric pregnancies, right? More far more common. The lack of growth in births continues to be driven by uncertainty about the future, including concern over finances, relationship stability, and the political climate, according to Wendy Manning, a demographer at Bowling Green University. But research shows many women still desire to have children. This is interesting. This is coming from the same women that told men they didn't need them. So again, you can't deny that uh culture plays a role in this in terms of how we get along, how we date, how we mate, how we marry, how we reproduce. You can't dismiss all of that. And if you've had a social movement for the last 60 years that told men to kick rocks, you know, let's not downplay the impact of that on men's behavior, men's ad adaptation methods. says people are waiting longer to enter parenthood and probably want to make sure that things are set in their lives before they do. So I agree there might be a lot of uncertainty and that might not be good for society in general. Now this also means that you you're talking about two incomes for economic stability, right? But you know people have been questioning marriage both men and women often for different sets of reasons. Women don't want to be confined to particular types of roles and men are not necessarily interested in getting fleeced in family court. And you got to know these issues are compounded in the black community. Not just you know um when you talk about uh you know the impact of child rearing at older ages. It's not just that you know everything we're talking about from career stability, income stability to family formation, coupling um or pair bonding. All of these issues are even are are more pronounced in the black community. The tearing up of the social contract far more pronounced in the black community. Women went for the for the hills when they went for the hills to try and be independent. And they did so to such a degree that even white women were like, damn. On paper, white women were inspired by this, but they only went so far in implementing it. But black women went the full extent. And you got to wonder to what end? This is one of the questions that needs to be asked because men are finally responding. Right? In essence, what I'm saying is the state empowered women with just enough policy to hold the very idea of dating and mating hostage. That's really what I'm what I'm saying. The advent of feminism, especially as it relates to its relationship with politics, produced a dynamic where women held the very notion of dating and mating hostage in this country or I should say in the west. They argued that we're going to become independent. We're going to be something that has nothing to do with male interest. Men were not consulted, right, on whether or not they would be attracted to this. And that was the point where women didn't care. Women said we are going to become something and you're going to accept it whether you like it or not whether you're attracted to it or not it doesn't matter. Women tried to hold the dating and making mating market dating mating and marriage market any kind of family formation they held it hostage and they said you're going to accept this independent woman independent modern woman idea and you're going to stick with it and they demanded that men like it and continue to propagate with them. What started to happen instead, however, is from Gen X to younger ages, men began to socially withdraw. And so far, there's no ver, you know, plan to repair this. I don't think women really expected men to withdraw. I think what what feminists did when they decided to hold men hostage to this new definition of womanhood that did not come with a new definition of manhood. it just, you know, other than to propagate the idea that true cutting edge manhood is emulates womanhood. That's, you know, that that's their idea. The closest thing you get to a revisioning of manhood is the incorporation of feminine principles and practices. Short of that, that still doesn't absolve men of any social expectations. Men are still held to the same social expectations they had in the 1950s. So, in other words, you can get a pat on the head for embracing more feminine characteristics, which is, you know, ultimately just a compliment to women and womanhood, but it didn't change what you were supposed to do in a relationship, it just meant that she could do whatever the hell she wanted to. So, not only did she become something different, she absolved herself of any type of social roles, gender roles, and then demanded you accept her and be attracted to her and reproduce with her on her terms, on her whims. And whenever she changed her mind and decided she wasn't happy, you should be able to give up half your resources if not more simply because, and this is not something that uh men have uh accepted well, but there was no serious movement from men to respond to this until like the last 10 to 15 years. But most people didn't regard it as a movement because it didn't present the way we've seen movements in the past. You didn't see men in the streets holding signs. They just You know, men vote with their feet, not picket signs. And they started to withdraw. They started to look for women in other countries. They started to to marry less. They started to couple less. This was men's response. Now, I just finished doing a film review on Mississippi on my Patreon page, and one of the things we talked about was the way in which men have been responding to this and and not only going abroad looking for women, but it was something else. It was um we were talking about damn just had him a second ago. Um, men had been doing something completely different. Ah, crap. It'll come back to me. I'm just a little too tired, but I wanted to get this in before I collapsed uh from a long day today. It'll come back to me later. Anyway, so we we're we're really looking at the way this social contract was torn and where it left men and the extent to which society didn't care. Oh, that's what we talked about. We talked about the way television and media has been denigrating this movement that men are having. And one of the ways they do it is they ridicule it, right? So they'll give you a TV show with a buffoon of a man who was to be dismissed and then he has a podcast and he's saying the most egregious and misogynist things and that's the end of it, right? You may hear the name Andrew Tate or Myin or whatever, you know, just a couple of names. when in actuality, the men that are participating in this movement run the gamut in terms of age, uh, race, uh, geographic location, education, income. This is the most diverse group of men I've ever seen in my life. And even within that, if you just talked about the black manosphere, it's the most diverse collection of black men I've ever seen in my life. In conversation with one another, there are as many voices and opinions as there are voices. Andrew Tate is not a reflection of this at all. It is a disorganized conversation that is not trying to become hierarchal, but is trying to come to a sensus, a consensus about how men need to roll. And believe it or not, they've been doing so for the last 5 years at least. Right. Anyway, so back to this. Um, the teen birth rate fell 7% last year, extending a year'slong decline related to public health campaigns and growing use of longer acting contraceptives. This is interesting cuz contraceptives were provided, especially the most effective ones, you know, as far as that to women for generations now. You know, 35 different types of birth control, not including abortion, right? Men still working with condoms and the pull out method. I mean, we're over here with sticks trying to light fires. Women over there with nuclear devices. You know, we just But, you know, this gave women the ultimate power over family production. Cuz, you know, if you actually gave a successful pill that could deactivate men's capacity to reproduce until they reached an a point where they wanted to, I'd say half of us wouldn't even be here right now if you did that in the 60s. Instead of giving women the pill, if you gave it to men, it'd be a whole different society. But anyway, I digress. Right. Since 2007, birth rate to 15 and 19 year olds has fallen 72%. In the US, 72%. Says, "We spent decades and lots of money trying to discourage early childbearing. This will ruin your life. This will ruin your kids' life. Don't do it." Is what was said. This comes from Karen Benjamin Guzo, director of the Carolina Population Center at UNC Chapel Hill. In the 80s and 90s, the US had much higher teen birth rates than uh many other developed countries. Among adolescence aged 15 to 17, birth rate dropped 11%. Right? So, they're attributing it to contraceptions. No doubt plays a role in this. Not downplaying that at all. But you notice how in none of these reports do they want to talk about men's decisions, men's behavior. The only time you're supposed to talk about men is to dismiss them, right? They do not want to extend the idea that men have actually been moving in any kind of way that constitutes that consensus I talked about. See, women need to be empowered. The state needs to be empowered. Institutions need to be empowered. They will not talk about men making decisions on their own behalf. Says another measure. The total fertility rate also hit a record low. Total fertility rate is the average number of children each woman would have in her lifetime if birth rates for each age group were to continue at that year's pace through their through her childbearing years. A rate below 2.1 means a population isn't replacing itself and will eventually shrink without immigration. Last year, America's total fertility rate fell to 1.57 births per woman according to Wall Street Journal calculation using provisional CDC data. So you can see it here. Total fertility rate four births per woman in the 1950s and60s 2025 1.57 births per woman. Look at that. That is incredible. From 1940 to 2025 four at its height births per woman down to 1.57 births per woman. Replacement level is 2.1. So we are at 1.57. We are below replace replacement level. Drop in for total fertility in the US follows worldwide trends but it remains higher than any than in many developed nations. The most recent estimates from the United Nations show that the worldwide rate continue to fall in 2023 and was nearing replacement level. It had dropped below replacement level in more than half of all countries. Uh let me see if I can shrink this enough for you to see the whole thing. That might be too small. If it is, I apologize. It's kind of in the middle there. All right. So, total uh fertility rate for selected nations 2023. And you can see on one end you have South Korea where they are between 0.5 and one closer to.5 births per woman, right? All the way down to Pakistan, which is at 3.5. There's only about three countries that are past the replacement line. and and really Pakistan extin you know far beats them all out but they're followed by Bangladesh and Indonesia the United States as we said earlier is around 1.5 a little over that flat births and a rising number of deaths are eroding a perennial source of population growth last year the US recorded just over half a million more births and deaths right census bure census bureau and congressional budget office projections show that this small surplus of births over deaths will not end in the next decade or excuse me, god dang it will end in the next decade. Should that happen, growth would depend on immigration. Yeah. So you can see the next chart, US births and deaths, right? So 1940 births were pretty low, right over two uh.5 million. You know, deaths were under 1.5 million. Now, we're at a point where there are about 3.5 million births in 2025 and uh about uh a little over 3 million deaths. So, that number has gotten far closer. And you would think with the technology we have that the deaths would be far below what they were, but they're actually higher than they were in the 1940s. You know, so while non-Hispanic white women saw a small increase in births last year, births by women of other racial and ethnic groups declined slightly. And again, I can't help but wondering wonder, excuse me, if the age of the women in question was part of this. US births by race and ethnicity of the mother. You can kind of see it there. There's the breakdown. This is the money shot. So gray is 2025, little greenish blue is 2024, white women at the top, right? with the birth rates, with the birth numbers over 1.75 million. You go down to black and it's below 0.5, right? That also has to do with population size. Says provisional birth data for uh 2025 reflects more than 99% of births birth records analyzed by the federal government. The total the totals and rates are typically adjusted when the final data is released. Yeah. So this is what we're looking at, right? We've gone under replacement levels. We're noticing that women are giving birth at older ages and black women older than that, right? The death rate, mortality rate for women giving birth gone up despite how much science has advanced. Right? These are the problems we're looking at. But at no point do these stories want to touch on men's philosophical shifts. They want to leave it at contraception. They want to leave it at, you know, the age of the women. But see, the age of the women is part of it, too, right? Men have been wanting to have children with younger women. This has impacted their dating decisions. But I'm saying I'm not saying these things that they're pointing out aren't relevant. I'm saying there's an additional point that they're downplaying. But before we close out, I'm going to show you one other video that lets you know what exactly is playing a role in women, right? Not uh getting married as often, coupling going down, so on and so forth. Part of it, too, when we talk about women not no longer being socialized to be wives, has to do with how they actually treat men. Check this out. I don't want nothing from you. I want to be away from you. I want my freedom from you. I'm >> I'm begging you. PLEASE SIT DOWN, GARY. PLEASE. Please don't leave me. Please. >> You see this, right? You see this? I'm trying to go. I'm trying to go. Look at me. Look at me. Look at me. I WILL GIVE YOU WHATEVER. >> I DON'T WANT NOTHING FROM YOU. I want to be away from you. I want my freedom from you. All I'm trying to do is go out the door. Y'all see this on camera? I'm trying to leave out the door, get away from the situation, and make things better for me. But, um, I can't seem to uh go. So, when the police get here, you will see because I'm going to have to remove her from me physically. Trying to be polite and just walk out. And shout out to him for recording this, right? Shout out to him for doing so. That was smart because in the moment, as mo as emotional as both of them are, he stayed logical, right? But it says they had been together for 6 years, but two days after he proposed, he discovered she had been cheating with his best friend. He decides to leave. She freaks out, physically tries to block him from leaving. Let's continue. >> And and and have a great day, but um she going to get off me. Can you please get off of me? I'm asking her twice. >> I'm asking you to >> Can you please get off of me? >> Okay. I'm asking you to sit down. Can you please get off of me? >> Gary, please don't put your hands I'm I'm begging you. Please sit down, Gary. Please don't leave me. Please, >> you see this right? You see this? I'm trying to go. I'm trying to go. >> Look at me. Look at me. Look at me. I don't want to be with you. I will give you whatever. >> I don't want nothing from you. I want to be away from you. I want my freedom from you. >> All right. Yeah. So, that's what we're looking at in a society where women are no longer trained to be wives. This is the kind of behavior that's become more and more normalized. Right. She cheats on him with his best friend two days. He finds out two days after he proposed. So, I don't know how long it's been happening, but I do hear these kind of stories more frequently. And then got nerve to freak out when he's leaving. You know, I will say in the last 5 years, I found more stories than I ever have of men being attacked by the women that they're leaving. Not that these men are not putting hands on them. They're not pulling guns or knives on them. They're finding these women cheating and they're deciding to leave. And the response has been violence from the women. But we can't talk about that because we're told that violence only comes from men, right? And he's smartly recording this because for so many decades, so many generations really, you know, if by the time the police show up, usually because a neighbor has called, there's been screaming, there's been crying, and if she gets mad enough, all she has to say say to the cops is, "He hit me." And he can say, "No, I didn't." All he wants, but They don't have to believe him, especially as a black man. He can end up getting locked up. It's much harder to do that, however, today when you have video evidence that he didn't do anything. This is wrecking the game for a lot of the tactics women have used over the years to have their way, right? To attack black men or bluele them, right? They don't get their way. That was a tactic they could use by just saying that he did X, Y, and Z to me. Well, now men are videotaping themselves. The other tactic they use is to say, "He's the father." And now you have DNA evidence, which is far easier to get and and far cheaper than it ever was. These things men are beginning to use strategically, even though society downplays men's intelligence and the tactics they're using to protect and prioritize themselves. So I say to my brothers, I hope you continue to prioritize yourself. You continue to strategize for your own benefit and you make sure that nobody takes advantage of you to the best of your ability. Shout out to all of you. Um let us know in the comments section what exactly you're seeing, what exactly you're experiencing. How have you noticed the social contract changing? What are the expectations that you're being given by women who give you nothing in return for your labor, for your efforts? What are the kind of experiences that you're having that go along with this? And would you agree that women have held any kind of union, intimate union with men hostage? Give me your thoughts on this. I wish you all well. Talk to you soon. Peace.