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Narcissistic abuse is so profound. It's it's an ambient sort of abuse, atmospheric. The narcissistic shared fantasy is the psychological environment that you get caught up in. It's it's such a loss. It is such a loss to take, and your psyche is going to try to do whatever it has to do to not take the loss. In the form of, well, can we go back? Well, can this be over? Well, what do I need to know in order to make sense of it? Well, why can't I stop? Well, why do I still think? Well, why do I?
Taking this loss is, hopefully, going to be the most humbling experience uh of your life. It's funny when I say, hopefully, because I I I suppose what I mean is I'm not happy that it happened, yet what to do with it is humble yourself in the face of fate or what have you that has led you into uh into having to grieve everything that needs to be grieved, and getting clear on what is your grief and not yours to grieve, because you can't grieve the narcissist back to reality. You can grieve yourself back to reality.
You can't hold the narcissist shame so that now you can be Now they can be real. You hold your own shame so you can be real. You need to process what's yours. Looking for what's you also means you pick up what you think is a piece of yourself, and it turns out to be a piece from the narcissist shared fantasy. You have to uh throw it away, and you have to choose yourself beyond all of your uh senses feeling like there's nothing of yourself to choose.
You Look at me after this narcissistic abuse. I have nothing to choose. Look at my circumstances after narcissistic abuse. I have nothing to choose. Which again is the narcissistic shared fantasy. That's a pressure of the shared fantasy. You're right, you have no one to go back to. You're right, you have nothing to go back to. How shameful and embarrassed and shame-ridden and guilt-ridden and grief-ridden you are, why try to be real in the first place? And that's narcissism.