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So, I have just turned 30. Uh, can't quite believe this to be honest, but here I am. And I've decided I really need to find a husband. Like, it's no joke anymore. So, I have to take this dating thing really seriously now.
>> Okay, ma'am. But why didn't you prioritize finding a husband till now? What did you do in your 20ies, ma'am?
>> So, I have decided that I am going to go on 30 first dates while I'm 30. Uh, I've got no idea how this is going to go because as we know in the past, I've been on some proper dodgy first dates. So, yeah, I'm just going to stay positive, though. Uh, you know, there's a little bit of hope out there that there might be a husband somewhere for me. So, yeah, I've been on my first first date last week, so I'm going to film another video soon to let you know how that went.
Right. Okay. I know I said I'm going to do this 30 first dates while I'm 30. However, I've just realized, where on earth am I going to find all these people to go on a date with? I mean, maybe dating apps, I guess. But if you've got any tips on how I can actually find men to go on a date with, please let me know because
>> Okay, ma'am. And do you think if you have a series where you document your dates with all those men? Do you think that will make men want to date you even more, ma'am? No. You just made your whole dating history public for everybody to see. So, why would a man want to date you, ma'am?
>> I've got 29 more to find.
the wall. No man on earth can make you fall.
>> All right, so I have a quick question for
>> Okay, guys. So, she's back. I made a video about her 2, three days ago. She's back.
>> All of my girls who are specifically in the late 30s, um, 40s, 50s and beyond. And if you're using Hinge, like are you struggling? Because I've mentioned that I deleted them for almost a year and unfortunately I'm back on.
So, as you can see, guys, she becomes more and more and more desperate by the day, guys, because she's 39.
>> And it's even worse than it was before, if that's even possible. But like, before I used to get hundreds and hundreds of likes, like, and I'm not saying that to like be conceited. It's just how it is for girls, for most girls. Um, and now I'm lucky if I get one or two a week and it's from the absolute worst people that could be on this app. And I'm not exaggerating. And I need to know, is this just happening to me or is it everyone? Because like I felt kind of hopeful like maybe there was new hope when I redownloaded them and now this is like crazy. Like I don't know what's going on, but something definitely is off. And like I know that men are always saying like women in their late 30s and beyond are basically expired, but like maybe it is true that even like even if in our mind we are not, maybe to them we actually are and they're stopping their age range at like 35 or 30 or whatever it is because
>> my god the first woman that had the realization that maybe maybe men are right. You've seen it here first, guys. Now I can die happy.
>> It's like, this is actually ridiculous. And I've never felt more hopeless than I do now.
>> I automatically think every hot guy I see in the wild is taken.
>> They always say what doesn't kill you texts you 6 months later. And let me tell you, they're right.
>> Try not to be that weird. Okay? Don't tell him something mental. I told him that I have a haunted doll head that I pray to every morning, that I won the London Marathon 3 years ago, and that I fully believe that I could take on a Willoolly mammoth. And then he called me a psycho, and then he said he loved me again.
>> The angriest people in the world are born on these dates.
>> And the stupidest people in the world are the ones that believe in astrology. So, what's your point?
>> I told someone I was 36 the other day, and they were like, "Wow, your skin's really good. Like, what do you do? What's your skincare routine?" And I was like, "I don't have a husband or children."
And why do you think women that have husband and children have bad skin, ma'am? It's because they let themselves go after they get married. They don't take care of themselves, ma'am. They get fat. That's why. I don't think most women understand this, and men, correct me if I'm wrong, but a man would much rather date a woman, works as a waitress, and makes no money, but respects him, loves him, and supports him in the ways that he needs than a woman who works as a lawyer or a doctor, a boss babe who makes a bunch of money, but doesn't respect him, doesn't give him any peace, is constantly nagging him, and does not support him in the ways that he needs.
>> And she's very masculine.
>> Men, tell me if I'm wrong,
>> and no, you don't have to be grateful that someone is willing to date a single mom. That mindset needs to die a slow death. You are not a burden. You are a beautiful whole human being who brings so much to the table. Perspective, resilience,
>> baggage, trauma, a kid from another man, a baby daddy,
>> depth, compassion, growth, and anyone who is led into your orbit should feel honored, not like they're doing you a favor. You should be honored, guys, that you're dating a single mother. How are you not honored that she didn't choose you? She didn't make a kid with you. She made a kid with another man. How are you not honored, guys? How are you not honored to raise another man's child? I swear they're delusional. Delusional.
>> The bird theory is real and it's when a pigeon tries to fly with an eagle and an eagle tries to fly with a pigeon. So the eagle will keep soaring and soaring and soaring and the pigeon will keep trying to keep up and the pigeon will get upset with the eagle and the eagle will get really upset with the pigeon because it's not able to do what it wants it to do. So that's where it comes in is sometimes you have to be with two pigeons and sometimes the two eagles work together.
>> So yeah, the birth theory is true. She's cuckoo.
>> I just think too many men today are nonchalant. They don't want to woo women. They're like, "I'm not really into the whole chasing thing." Okay. Well, Andrew, are you into other men? Because no woman in her right mind is going to want to chase you. Okay. You're nearly
>> Okay, my man. Why are you complaining about this? If you had so many men that wanted you, that wanted to wife you up, you wouldn't complain. So, the guys that you go after have so much options that they don't have to chase.
>> 40 and you've been wearing the same pair of boxer shorts for three days straight. Text that girl before your hairline leaves the chat. Like, learn how to yearn. Grow up.
>> Ma'am, how are you dissing men when men show you that they don't want to chase you? They don't want you. How are you somehow dissing them for not wanting you? It's so crazy, guys. They have no logic.
This is your reminder to be gentle with your husbands because I'm currently sitting here with water leaking through our ceiling and it doesn't really affect me, right? I mean, yes, it's terrible and I can help soak up the water, but if I was on my husband, who also has to continue managing a company today, all while also trying to find a solution to fixing the water currently wrecking havoc on our home. So, just be gentle with them because they really do have the weight of the world on their shoulders. The truth is is that men will carry the weight of the world on their shoulders for a woman that appreciates it.
>> I will never ever get over the fact that one of the biggest singers in the entire world is in my DMs and was messaging me and liking all my stories and I thought I was the only girl. Turns out I'm not a girl. He does it to everyone in my friendship group. It's
>> It just proves my point that women have delusional standards. Why would a famous singer want to date you, ma'am? What makes you special? Because he has a lot of money. He has a lot of fame. What do you have? You have a Tik Tok. You do your makeup on Tik Tok. So, what what makes you think that you're so special that that a guy with a lot of money and fame, a singer, would want to marry you, ma'am. This is what's crazy to me.
>> It's ridiculous. But he's literally the most well-known singer in the entire world. if he wants to give me some tickets for his world tours that he does. But he's I think he's done them.
>> Where are all the guys that love taller women? Where are you?
>> Where are all the women that like shorter men?
>> Because every time I like connect with someone, they're like, "You're just too tall." I'm 5' n. I'm not even that tall. And if you're 6'2 and I'm too tall, what what you why are we The short ladies get all the fun. It's not fair. I don't mind a short prince either. It's like, don't tell me I'm too tall. You knew how tall I was and then you're a short prince and then we go on a few dates and you're like, "Oh, you're actually too tall for me." Excuse me. Excuse you.
>> I'll just give you anecdotal experience from myself. I'm 35. Do you think that women my age are offering like orders of magnitude more in terms of their behavior and demeanor and personality than a 25year-old?
>> I would say yes to me.
>> Tell me how.
>> So 35 years old, you have gone through and experienced different things that make you understand like who you are and what you value. No ma'am. Those experiences make you less valuable to a man. Why? Because having more experiences means that you have more baggage. You have more trauma. Um more guys cheated on you. So now you're paranoid. You have all of those issues that maybe a 25 year old doesn't have because she didn't went through the same things as you. Why do you think that your experience would benefit me, ma'am? How do I benefit from you having more experience? You want that from a man? Because a man with experience knows exactly what to do in a relationship and how to lead. So yes, you would want a man like that. But we are not the same. Men are not looking for women with experience cuz I already have experience and I know how to lead that relationship.
>> You 25, right?
>> Yep.
>> You haven't been through as much experience as that 35, right?
>> We don't Okay, hold on. I'm
>> I don't want you to have a lot of experience because that experience makes you be a certain way. be be more abrasive. Be more masculine.
>> I'm sitting here as a man telling you most men don't give a [ __ ] about your experiences. Most of which involve trauma and baggage. You've got more dick. You've been through more dick. You [ __ ] more guys. You have more bodies. Maybe you picked up a couple. Articulate the actual experience that would make me more attracted to a girl. What's the experience?
>> When he said this to me, I knew it was over. Went on a date recently and this guy was like talking about standup comedy. And I thought, "Oh, I thought about taking a course. Maybe I think it would be fun." And he was like, "Oh, are you funny? Am I funny? I don't think I'm the funniest person."
>> Guys, I am not a misogynist. I don't hate women. I have a girlfriend that I love. I never found women comedians funny. I don't know why it's maybe it's because they don't understand men or how men think or they can't relate to men, but the jokes that they make just don't land with me. And I honestly I honestly was talking to my girlfriend one time and I was thinking about it. Am I a misogynist? Because I don't like women comedians. I don't know why, but I don't like them. If you want to see something funny, let me show you the next clip. Hi, my name is Germ Hoth. I've been married for 12 years and I am a feminist. You know, a lot of men have trouble saying that they're a feminist because they think it's emasculating or something, but not me. I believe that men and women are equal. Anything I can do, my wife can do, too. The idea that just because I have testosterone, I'm better at things is reductive. And quite frankly, it's insulting. Honey, you get that tire changed yet? I've I meet the the guys for a bruski in about 20 minutes. So, if we could move that along, that'd be fantastic. [Music] By tossing aside the shackles of the patriarchy, we both benefit. I get more time to play video games made for children, and she gets more time to do the things that she loves to do, like my laundry. Spider, honey, there's a spider. It's like big and hairy. Guys, now just think about what kind of woman she is if she accepted to do this video. It's clear that they have a happy marriage if they can make videos like this and she doesn't get upset.
>> I'm a good husband.
>> Some say that chivalry is dead, but I say you can be chivalous and a feminist at the same time. See, I think you would be nice. Society has told me my whole life, be a man or man up. But feminism has rewired my brain to say woman up or girl power or plunge that toilet woman.
>> You go, queen.
>> I am currently on my way to my fiance's house to give him an ultimatum. Either he gets rid of the girl best friend or we're not getting married.
>> You shouldn't have a girl best friend or a guy best friend if you're in a relationship, especially if you're getting married. Why do you need a girl best friend? You gain nothing from being friend with a woman, especially when you have a relationship. I get it. Maybe when you're single, she she can introduce you to other women, but when you're in a relationship, why are you friends with that woman, my guy?
>> And I know I probably sound like super harsh right now, but
>> No, you're not, man. No, you're not.
>> But hear me out. She just called me and we had a 30inut conversation about how she is in love with him and has been for 10 years. And then she let me know how much she despises me. She called me a lot of names. And then she started to smag shame me because apparently they have had conversations about our snags life which I did not know about. Him and I had
>> I always told you guys if you do some stupid [ __ ] I will hold you accountable. You wouldn't like a woman to talk to he her friends about your relationship. You as a guy shouldn't talk to women about your relationship.
went on this little trip last week and I had bought a box of spicy cubes. We were going away for two days and I was like, "This will be fun for us. It'll be fun to just take one and relax and, you know, get busy." And apparently that got back to her because she was smack shaming me for taking them with him. In fact, her words were, "He wouldn't have to use those with me. We're supposed to get married in 5 months. I don't know what to do. The only thing I
>> you shouldn't have gotten from the start in the relationship with a guy that has a woman best friend.
>> Is there a solution that you can see to the issues that men are facing in in the sort of modern world where suicide rates are through the roof? Loneliness, depression.
>> Look, the solution for men is always going to be the same. Uh which is to be better, to do better, to work harder, to learn skills, to grow, to develop, uh to look for mentors, to look for guidance uh and to do things. It's always going to be the way. Like no, like I said, no one's coming to save you. And this is this is why victimhood that we talked about earlier, it's especially bad for men because, you know, we feel sorry for women. We don't really feel sorry for men.
>> True. True. As you saw, guys, when I see a simp, I shame him 10 times more than a woman. I do.
>> Right. So, if a woman is a victim, everyone wants to like go and help her and support her. And it's natural and understandable. There's a very good evolutionary reasons for this I think um which is men are biologically disposable basically um you know if you have a tribe of 10 men 10 women you send the men off to war one comes back you can replenish the tribe and that's one very lucky dude if if you do it the other way around and you send the women off to war you're screwed right and so um men are kind of disposable we didn't evolve to feel sorry for them and so for guys again like you just got to do stuff and be better. And yes, you've been dealt a bad hand. You have compared to the previous generations where like men were in charge and all of that. You're going to have to find a way.
>> One of the biggest reasons why I didn't want to leave my husband is because my child doesn't like me. He's always preferred his dad and I just got him back after him being at his dad's for 3 days. And his dad is staying with his parents. There are six adults in that house and four children, none of whom have ever met my child cuz they didn't want to. They don't consider me part of their family. So neither is my child, but he was there for 3 days while I looked at apartment so I could do it in peace. And I just got him back and he didn't even want to come to me. He looked so disappointed. He screamed the whole way home. The whole way screaming, kicking and he said he doesn't want to live with me, that he wants to live with his grandma and his auntie and his dad and just he doesn't want to be with me. Then he had another meltdown for the last hour. He finally fell asleep after I gave him three doses of of a sleeping medication. He normally takes two, but he got an extra cuz he he hasn't
>> You give kids sleeping medication. Is that a thing, guys, that you do in the USA?
>> Sleep and he just screamed and kicked and ran around in circles and threw things and screamed at me that he wants to live with his dad and he doesn't want me. And I asked his father if his mother had said anything to the tune of, "You're going to live with us." And he swears up and down that she didn't. I can't do this. I I can't do this alone because I don't have any reprieve from it when he's having these meltdowns.
>> Okay, ma'am. Then why did you leave that marriage? Cuz you said you left. So why did you leave, ma'am?
>> Okay. Wait. I'm so pissed off. I just got home from a date. The guy walked out literally 10 minutes into our date. If you're a straight man, I need your opinion on this desperately because I think I'm right. And clearly he thinks that he's right. So we matched on Hinge and I have really good photos of myself on Hinge. A few of them are AI generated. They look exactly like me. While we were out on our coffee/ like walking date, within like the first 15 minutes, he asked me where one of my photos was taken. I'm not a liar. So, I said that it was an AI generated photo and he said, "Yeah, I don't think we're a match." And he left.
>> Guys, do you think that photo looks like her? I think it doesn't. I think in that photo she's perfect. Her face is perfect. The symmetry of her face is perfect. She doesn't look like this in real life. And and she already has makeup on now, guys. and maybe maybe a filter on Tik Tok. Just think about it. What she looks like without uh her filters, without any makeup on, she doesn't look like that pictures.
>> Left. He left. That seems so dramatic to me. And also like everyone is using AI generated photos. If they look like you, who cares? The one
>> No, ma'am. I've never used that. So you saying that everybody does that, you just show that you have a low IQ. Ma'am,
>> ones I use with Dreams look exactly like me. They're not like the crappy ChT ones. So, what is the difference? Who cares? I don't know if you're a straight man. Let me know. What do you think?
>> Oh, honey.
>> Men care. Ma'am, they just showed you they care. But what happens? Women don't care that men care.
>> Honey, the photo doesn't really look that much like you. It looks like you on like the best day ever. Let's just be honest. So, I have a question for her. First of all, single guys in the chat. Would you date this girl? Let's say you you liked her photo.
>> No. No. From the start, she's a very very big red flag. Even the fact that she doesn't understand why the guy left, that's a very big red flag. Why? Because she doesn't want to see it from your point of view. It's all about her and what she feels and how she sees things. So, if you date her, she won't care about you or how you think or what what how you see that relationship, guys. It's all about her.
>> And let's say you saw the photo and then you found out it was AI generated. Can you can you tell me in the chat, would you would you dump her? Would you walk out on the date? Was the guy right to walk out on the date?
>> To the men in my comments saying that it is too much work to deal with a woman. I'd rather stay single. Let me tell you this. You're not wrong that women require work, you are not wrong at all. But that attitude usually comes from men who have been burned by women in the past. Men who gave their heart to the wrong woman and never took the time to understand the right one. No woman is easy to deal with. We are emotional, layered, and deeply intuitive, but we're not hard to figure out. If you're ma'am, even if all men understood women, I can teach men how to understand women. But they're not worth it in the West. Only a small percentage of women are worth pursuing ma'am. So statistically it doesn't make sense if you understand mathematics and statistics. You know it doesn't make sense to go for for a woman to try to find a good woman if you're average. Statistically it doesn't make sense.
>> Grounded in your masculine energy and willing to put in the effort. It takes patience, presence, and it takes mental resilience. There is nothing wrong with being single. That is your choice, your freedom. Do you. But let's be honest, we are meant to coexist. We are designed to bond, to build, and to create legacies. A woman and a man in their true essence builds empires.
>> Yes, ma'am. But don't you understand that the women that men want aren't there? They don't exist, ma'am. Why would men want to settle for a woman that doesn't even like him? That thought she could do better, but didn't find the man that she want. And she settled for that guy. She will just make your life a living hell. So, this entire discussion is pointless, ma'am. We're just going to skip this video.
>> Does anyone else have such conflicting feelings about being single? I mean, it's Sunday, so I'm in my Sunday feels, but on one hand, so I'm 34, single, been single for 2 and a half years, and I
>> She looks a lot older than 34. And I'm not saying that to shame you, ma'am. I'm just stating facts.
>> I really feel like I'm trying and I it's just not happened for me. And I'm questioning today like, will I ever meet my person? Or maybe my expectations are too high. Yes, they are, man. Because you look older. And the older you look, the harder it is to find a man. Because men, even though you don't want this to be true, men value youth, ma'am. Men value fertility. So even though you're going to call me a misogynist for saying this, that doesn't change the facts. Ma'am, this is reality. So the older you look, the harder it is to find a man.
>> I don't know. And it's like on one hand, I know that there's such privileges to being single at 34. So I can have the bed all to myself. I don't have to compromise. I can do literally whatever I want and have great friends. I work out. Like my life's pretty good. But on the other hand, like I I want to be a mom and I just have this yearning to be loved and in a partnership and I feel like I've got so much to give to someone.
>> Okay, ma'am. If that were true, you wouldn't have wasted your 20ies pursuing careers or whatever you did. Ma'am, you would find a husband to get married, to have kids. So, you didn't actually want kids, ma'am. Now you're 34. From 35, it's called geriatic pregnancy, ma'am.
But when I go on dates, I went on a date yesterday and you know, and you're like, they're great. They're like a solid seven, eight out of 10. But there's just my guts saying no. There's something missing.
>> Yes. The spark. You don't feel the spark. This is so stupid, guys.
>> And maybe that's it. Maybe my expectations are too high and I should just settle. Like, are we just settling?
>> Yes, ma'am. But what happens then? You find a guy, you settle with him, and you will never be happy. You will never respect him. You will never respect his leadership. You won't trust him. You will try to debate him all the time. You will try to argue all the time. Nothing that he will do will make you hap happy ever because in your mind, you know, even if that's not true, you think that you settled for him. So, you will just make his life a [ __ ] hell. So, this is exactly what I said in the previous video. Why would a a man want to date a woman like this? Why would a man want to marry a woman like this when he knows that she settled for him?
>> The dating scene in Australia is not for the faint-hearted. As a Brit who has lived here for 2 years now, I have noticed some differences between Australian men and English men. So, I just thought we would discuss. The first difference is the fact that Australian men do not approach women. when I first got here.
>> And why do you think that is, ma'am? It's because of feminism. Is because feminism is very prevalent there. And women have told men to stay away, to not approach them. So men don't approach you anymore. Ma'am,
>> I genuinely thought I am ugly to Australians because the men, they might stare at you. You'll catch them looking, but they're not coming up to you. That's your job. If you don't want to be making the first move, you're not going to be talking to men. Say goodbye to your love life. Any
>> ma'am, the more a country is feminist is equal between men and women, the more uh that women have to pursue men. You can see this in Nordic European countries where they're very equal and they're very feminist. Usually women pay for the dates, women pursue men. In England, if you are on a night out, best believe if a guy is interested, he will be hitting on you. He will be offering to buy you drinks. It's just wild to see the difference. On the back of this, I don't know if it's because of the fact that Australian men don't approach, but Australian women very direct. They will go for what they want and they're beautiful.
>> Exactly as I told you guys. Exactly as I told you. This is what happens. And at some point you will see guys 10 years down the line, women will start paying on dates if they want to to get a man.
>> So they get what they want. For us girlies that don't want to be making the first moves, it does leave you in a bit of a pickle.
>> I, male, 32, just recently proposed to my girlfriend of 2 years, Sharon, female 30, like a month and a half ago. And it feels like the second the ring got on her finger, her attitude and behavior took a total 180. The entire time we were
>> my guy, it's because previously she lied to you. She was lying. She was like this from the start, but she hided from you. It's your job, my guy, before marrying a woman to see her true colors, to see her true face. That's why I tell you guys, you need to live together before trying to get married so you can see her true face. Because if you live in different apartments and just meet on a date or she just comes over a few nights a week, you won't see her true colors. Dating, we seemed exceptionally compatible and at least it seemed we shared common beliefs and morals. 7 weeks ago, I proposed and she said yes, and I felt like it was the happiest moment for the two of us. But not even a week later, it's like her attitude totally flipped. I thought I knew all of her friends, but one day I came home and there were six women I've never seen before. And Sharon introduced me to them. I was curious as to why I was just now meeting them when I already met Sharon's two best friends, Michelle and Octavia. Both not present over a year and a half ago. Sharon said she wanted to make sure we were a sure thing before I met her in her circle. after 2 years.
>> I found this strange. Not to mention, it was a week night and they were quickly draining my wine rack of its wine.
>> Yeah, because probably those friends were 304s. Oh, and by the way, somebody asked me in the comments, what does a 304 mean? So, if you type on on an old calculator 304 and you invert it, it says ho. So, I don't want to say ho all the time. So I say three or four.
>> Sharon still had her own place, but she stayed with me so often she practically lived here. Still, I found it incredibly rude when they left with four empty bottles of rosé in their wake. I tried to talk to Sharon about having uninvited guests on week nights and she dismissed my grievance very flippantly.
>> Okay, so then and there you leave my guy. You break up with her and you leave. This is what happens if a woman doesn't respect what you're saying. It clears she doesn't respect you. She doesn't care what you say because she doesn't care about you or your opinion, my guy. So, you leave, but you don't leave. Why? Because you already are in love with her and are not thinking rationally.
>> More than that, she brushed me off.
>> Yeah.
>> The following weeks, she went out with the girls several times. And when she brought the girls to my place, twice without notice, once with notice to appease me, her words, they all treated me like a butler, shaking their empty wine glasses at me for refills.
>> Yes, my guy. And why do you think that is? It's because they don't see you as a really masculine guy. Because I've never had a woman do this to me. Why? because they know if they even try to do something like that, I kick them out. So to them, you look like a s, my guy.
>> What?
>> After the fourth time, I made it clear that I will get a locked wine rack. Sharon just called me no fun after that. It gets worse. Sharon decided me and the girls got off on the wrong foot and said we should have dinner together at a nice restaurant. Well, I went and it was not great. The six kept proddding me about my life, my house, my career, but deflected every question that I asked. It got especially bad.
>> Okay, my guy. And don't you understand that if those women act like that, it's clear that your girlfriend or your your fiance will act the same because that's why they're friends. Virgins don't hang out with hoes with three or fours. So, if they're entitled, it's clear your girlfriend is entitled. So, you should have left. You should have left that relationship. I don't know what you're doing in that relationship. I don't even want to listen to any more of these guys because it's clear, my guy, you're a s. Just look at the simple meter. Stop being simps. Anyway, hope you enjoyed this video, guys, and I'll see you on the next.