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There's a way of speaking that puts YouTube on easy mode because it hooks viewers in as soon as they click and it keeps them watching until the end. What sucks is that most coaches and entrepreneurs are still playing YouTube on hard mode because they're just obsessively focusing on strategy and scripting. But when it comes to actually how they speak on camera, they're kind of boring, kind of vanilla. And if you're not engaging on camera, no one's going to watch.
So I want to help you out. I've already helped out thousands of coaches and got them from awkward and shy to wait, who's that guy or girl? And I used to suck at speaking on camera as well until I learned these five techniques which I'm about to show you in today's video.
Technique number one is called claim the frame and this is the difference between feeling stifled, not really yourself and quite stiff on camera like a deer in the headlights versus being totally relaxed, charismatic and totally yourself, totally authentic. Alongside being a speaking YouTube business coach, I'm also a musician and I've been on stage a fair few times in my life. What used to happen when I went on stage, even if it was a big stage, lots of space, is that I would stay rooted in one spot, have the microphone here, have my guitar, feel pretty stiff, stifled like a deer in the headlights and it would affect my voice, I wouldn't sing as well and I would be not very interesting to watch on stage. But I remember when I was a kid seeing a recording of 1985 Live Aid where Freddie Mercury was completely rocking the stage. Huge stage, 70,000 people watching and Freddie Mercury was prancing about the entire stage. He probably did about 10K in a 25 minute performance.
So how does this relate to talking on camera? Well, years ago I heard this advice from a public speaker that before they went on stage, they would purposefully walk around the entire stage as if they were sort of marking their territory, right? Like not in that way where they might wee on the stage, I mean literally just walking around. And whilst they did this physically, they were also mentally saying to themselves, this is my space. And as soon as I connected this to being on camera, something clicked. So here's the shift. You are in a frame right now. So just flip your camera screen around next time you're recording. You're in a frame. You can literally put your arms out and be like, "Cool, this is my frame." Can I take up my frame? Can I move around in 3D space? Now, I'm not saying you should necessarily do this whilst you're recording, although it can be a good idea. What I'm saying is before you're recording, just take a minute to be in the room, in the physical space where you are right now, or in my case, the river dock thing. Now, you might feel a bit silly doing this, but what this is going to do is give you and your body permission to really be here and to take up space. And even though you might stand still, you're probably way more likely to put your arms out in slightly more charismatic gestures. Your body's going to be more relaxed. It's going to make your voice more resonant, and it's going to make you way more engaging to listen to.
Technique number two is a feeling that you give your audience as soon as they watch, and it's also what keeps them to the end. It's called direct the effect. And it's the opposite of what most coaches and entrepreneurs are doing on YouTube. Imagine the great film directors, like just imagine one of the one of your favorite film directors, and [snorts] imagine how you feel whilst you're watching his or her films. They are purposefully directing how you feel as a viewer whilst you're watching the film experience. So, likely in the first scene, maybe it's starting all nice and happy, and they're they want you to feel that. They want you to feel really comfortable and relating to the characters, and then struggle, conflict, crisis, something really bad happens, and it purposefully pulls in your heartstrings. And if you're not feeling in that crisis moment like, "Oh god, this is horrible. I really care about these characters," then the director hasn't done a good job, right? Then things are getting hopeful, more inspiration, more tense, and you're feeling exactly how the director wants you to feel at any point in his film.
Speaking to camera is the same. It might not be quite as dramatic. Hopefully in this video you're not going to feel a real point of low abyss-like crisis. I hope you don't anyway. And [snorts] instead, you might be having sort of some intellectual stimulation that hopefully I'm controlling through my points. My goal as a creator of this video is to lead you through a watching experience, so you can be intrigued by something, be mystified by something, and then have a payoff where you're like, "Oh, that's great. I can implement that at home." And me to have the feeling of that whilst I'm speaking makes me a way better speaker. On the opposite side, if you don't feel like you're in control of the viewer experience, and instead you're you're on the back foot, right? You're sort of playing defense. You are sort of saying stuff hoping that it lands, and you're not really sure what the viewer is thinking or feeling, you're not being a good film director. So, you have to direct the effect of your words on your audience. And if you're having that in the plan of your video when you are speaking, it's going to make you 10 times more confident. You can have this sort of this this sort of pizzazz, this sort of pizazz. I should stop talking now. And on that point, by the way, if you want help on planning out amazing points in your videos that hook your viewers, then I have a custom GPT called pull paint point, and it's going to help you plan out those points. Even if you just dump a voice note into your phone, it will turn it into something awesome. That's all alone can help you make videos that bring in views and bring in clients, but don't worry, it's totally on me.
Technique number three is called jitters into juice. And as soon as I realized this, it changed everything for me. I actually learned this again in the context of being a musician. So, what would happen a week before a gig is that I would start feeling nervous, and then try and block the feeling of nervousness because I knew if I was on stage and everyone could tell I was nervous, they would then feel a bit nervous that I was going to mess up, which would make me feel more nervous, and the whole thing would just be a disaster. It's happened to me before. And so, I would think, "Damn it, I feel nervous. I need to not feel nervous. Going to do loads of breath work, get the nerves out of my body." Then I'd be on stage, and if I felt nervous, I'd be thinking, "Everyone can tell, so I need to stop feeling nervous." And it just made me a way worse performer. Instead, I can't remember who I heard this from, which is really annoying, but it is what it is. Somebody once told me that nervousness is the same physiological response as excitement in the body. And therefore, if you feel nervousness, tingling, butterflies, that sort of slightly uncomfortable feeling, if you reinterpret that as I'm just really excited to do this thing in a few days and I can't wait to do it, then that same thing is the very thing that makes you a good performer. And I've noticed that when I'm on stage and I feel nervous, but I reinterpret it as excitement, it makes me play better. It makes me more engaged. I feel like this positive adrenaline is running through my body that makes me want to play better, makes me want to sing better, makes me want to connect with the audience more, and it turns me into a better performer. It's exactly the same thing going on in my body that would make me a worse performer that makes me a better performer just because of a mental reinterpretation. On camera, this feeling of slight nervousness can be really paralyzing. And by seeing it as excitement, you're just going to have that sparkle in your eye, that extra bit of energy that's going to make you speak way better and be more engaging.
All right, this next technique is called hard mode first and it is such a life hack that gives you so much more pizzazz when you are speaking on camera. And you might be thinking, "Thomas, you're being silly, mate, saying pizzazz." But pizzazz is the exact thing you need to hook your audience in in the first few seconds of your video. You need that pizzazz. So, I'm going to teach you how to get it. I once had a gig back in the day in Barcelona, Spain, where I was living at the time, and I was pretty nervous for this gig. It was in a friend's cafe, and I knew a bunch of my friends would be there, which kind of made it even harder, like more nervous than if it was just strangers for some reason. And I'd been learning this kind of special song. I was into bossa nova at the time. It's just like Brazilian music. And it's all in Portuguese. And I learned this song in Portuguese. I don't speak Portuguese, speak Spanish, I don't speak Portuguese. And so, learning this song was like really hard, but I was just addicted to it. I I just for some reason I really wanted to learn it, and I just learned this song in Portuguese. I was like, "Oh my god, I can speak Portuguese now, apparently." But I'd never sung before in another language, so it was this real like mind-bending thing that I was like, "Obviously, I'm not actually going to perform that in front of these people." But then I thought, "What if I perform that song first, got the hardest one out the way, then the rest of the songs that are just in English would feel so much easier, right? And that's exactly what happened. >> [music] >> I played that song first, sang it in Portuguese, and thought, that was cool. I did that. And then the next few songs, I was like, ah, even though I thought these songs were harder before, they're actually easy now cuz they're all in English. This is great. I'm I can now just relax into my regular set.
For a lot of people, speaking on camera is this hard thing. It's like the hardest thing they do in a day. It's like speaking on camera, making content. You have to sort of amp yourself up for it, right? What if before you spoke on camera, you specifically did something harder than speaking on camera first, so that speaking on camera was relatively easy for you? You meaning you have that little bit of extra mojo or mana in your videos. Now, I made a video about this recently, where I talked about I would film a main video first, like this one, and then after this, when I go back in my car to go home, I film another video because I'm riding on the high of already having done a harder video before that one. So, what do you do before the first video then if there's nothing before that one? Well, what you can do is if you're outside, if there's people around you, which there often are in my videos, go and talk to the people. I find that like harder than speaking, just like saying hi to random people. But I just be like, hey, how's it going? Like, what are you what are you up to here? Another person, hey, I like your jacket. Nice dog. Ah, yeah, cool. What are you what are you talking about, mate? I've talked to talked to a few people. And then because the people around me and I've already talked to them, I've already sort of got a bit of socializing in my bloodstream, I'm like, ah, speaking to camera is relatively easy. I already did that hard thing. If you are in your room, we can give you another hack here. Let's say you're in your room, so there's no one to talk to. What could you do that's harder than speaking on camera? Speaking to camera really obnoxiously loudly whilst you're recording. Like press record and break the ice. They do this in theater and drama groups the whole time on purpose. They make everyone do these all the weird, uncomfortable, awkward exercises where you're making weird animal noises and stuff. Because you've done that for the first 10 minutes, the rest of the drama class feels super fun because you're already so loosened up, you've got rid of those social inhibitions. So, you could start recording, say your script obnoxiously, ridiculously loudly for a while, and just really talk as loud as you can. Just make sure that any of your neighbors or family can hear you. Do that for a good couple of minutes. And then after that, you're going to be like, "Huh, I'm actually speaking just in my regular voice. super comfortable now, and I think I've got a bit of extra pizzazz."
Point number five underpins all of the other points, and without this point, not much of it is going to work. And that is that easy is earned. The laziest, most efficient people often work the hardest because they know that by working hard, it's going to give them less work in the future, or it's going to make their life easier eventually. And so, if you want to get to the point where you can have fun making YouTube videos, where you can talk off the cuff, where you can engage viewers as soon as they click on your video, and keep them watching till the end without having to put in days and days and days of scripting and planning, then you need to earn that. And what that looks like is working specifically on your speaking. And that's what I'm here to help you do is get you a better speaker so YouTube can be on easy mode, and it can become effortless. And this is possible. One of my clients recently told me that he went from taking literally 20 days, these are his own words, 20 days planning a video to being able to plan and film a video in around 20 to 30 minutes. So, if you're grinding on the YouTube treadmill right now, working on your speaking might be your ticket to the good life. Again, that custom GPT is in the description. That's going to help you plan out awesome videos so you can start speaking off the cuff. And if you're a coach watching this right now and you want to get to 20k a month in new clients through YouTube, I have the step-by-step roadmap for you. It's in this video next. Why are you still here? Why don't you just go and watch that video?