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Does Evocych claim that men are the gatekeepers of long-term commitment? Evocych makes no assertions whatsoever like that. Uh, while, because, remember, or if it is, you're not talking to somebody who's like a real research person. Okay? While women are the gatekeepers of physical intimacy. No, they, there's nothing in evolutionary psychology that, to my knowledge anyways, that, uh, that makes assertions like that. Because if you're really a research, quote unquote, research scientist, you're doing so, you should be ideally doing so from an objective perspective. Not that anybody does, but, um, uh, is there anything in evolutionary psychology that points in that direction? Um, not that I'm aware of.
But I have said in the past that women are both the gatekeepers of sex and of commitment. And as I said, for no, as I just pointed out a minute ago with the pretty woman analogy right there, women aren't, they don't want to get married. What's funny to me is men get the, get so much grief and so much [ __ ] from their sort of moralizing peers. "Oh, men need to get better. They need to do better." And why do they need to do better? They need to do better so that they can get in, uh, so that they can, we can, um, so, uh, women can live better lives. And I'm glad you brought that up because I have this right here. "Broke men are hurting America's women, American women's marriage prospects." Now, this has been out for a while. Remember, this is September. And so I brought this up because this was when I was talking with Pat Campbell. I still have this in sort of my archive here. Just so you guys know that this is not some like new thing. But, uh, I brought this up, um, with, with Pat Campbell back in 2019 about how men were not economically attractive. And I wrote several essays about this. I did several podcasts on my own, as well as some with Pat and some of his on his radio show as well. And that's where I, I'm, I'm getting the numbers like half again as much. Uh, it's actually more than that. Um, according to the stats in 2019, according to articles like that one, um, you've got a man has to make 68% more than the woman makes herself. So, not only like, if she's making, if she's making $70,000 a year, you've got to make $100,000 a year, right? Or more than that. Or if you're, let's, oh, let's say if she's making $100,000 a year, you have to make $168,000 a year to be economically attractive. And that's through polling and and whatever else this, whatever studies that they were doing. This is in 2019 too. So I don't, you know, your mileage may vary. But, um, but the, uh, the idea of being economically attract.
And I think what, what throws people the most, you want to know what throws people off on that whole thing about economic attractiveness and everything? Is women will, will cry a [ __ ] bloody river about, uh, how they can't find a man. "Men don't love. They're not emotionally available." Right? You were just saying that a minute ago. They were, they're not emotionally available. Uh, they won't commit. Blah, blah, blah. No, they will. You just don't want the ones that will. That's the problem. And so it's not guys getting better. There's plenty of guys that are that are on top of their game. They're just not 68% more on top of their game than she is. And so when you look at stats like that, when you look at the like, especially when I'm looking at podcasts and women saying, "Yeah, men are broke. Where the good guys at, man?" Like that one guy in the very first video where he's talking about, you know, you need to find a man who's like into being a man and you need to find a woman who's into being a woman. And then the loudmouth, you know, mouthy broad that's sitting next to him, you know, that that's exact. I mean, he just bashes, she's basically just proving his point for him right there. But the thing is, is the reason why she, she, she pipes up like that is because she's, she, that girl's never going to find the guy who makes 68% more money than she does. That guy's, that girl's never going to find any. She's not going to get. She's not going to live the pretty woman narrative out. "I could do what I want to. I'm empowered. I got my own. I make my own damn money." Well, good for you. Awesome. Great. You're living like a man. But good for you. Hope you can hope you can pull it off. But your pretty woman scenario that's in the back of your mind, whether you know it or not, is not going to play out. Probably not going to play out for you. You know, like, you know, Michael B. Jordan is not going to be coming and knocking on your door anytime soon to sort of like sweep you off your feet and take you off into perpetuity and have children with you and live happily ever after. Pretty woman not going to happen. So, what are you going to do about it? Well, you're going to do one of, ladies, you're going to do one of two things. Women are going to settle. Period. You ladies, ladies, you're going to settle. You're going to settle in one of two ways. Well, probably three ways. One of two ways for sure. Okay. First way is this. You're going to live alone. Period. You're going to, you're going to be struggling and wondering. And by the way, there's so many social conventions that are there to convince you that you're going to be just fine. You're going to read article after article about how women who are unmarried and childless are the happiest, uh, demographic of women that there could possibly be. And then you'll also read a few interspersed in there about how women who have children more are actually happier than you. Okay? And so that's going to make you feel bad. So, you're going to read three more articles that are going to say, "Well, statistics show that women are are happier than ever before." Then you're going to read another article that's going to say women are are being prescribed SSRIs, antidepressants at record rates and have them doing so since 2010. And then you're going to go, "Well, you know, uh, but I feel better about myself and I can travel and do all these other things and I don't need no man, but I want a man." And you're going to go back and forth through all of this, these conflicting messages for a very long time. And you know what? The longer you wait and the longer it goes, the the settling that you're going to do is you're going to settle on being alone. That's the life you're, the life you settle for is going to be you not finding that guy. And you know what's going to happen? There's a million other social conventions that are going to be out there to tell you that it's okay.
Gentlemen, if you want to make money off of any female demographic, you play on two different things. YOLO and FOMO. You only live once and fear of missing out. Those two dynamics in in women's brains will make you a multi-billionaire. If you can find some sort of product, find some sort of promise or some self, some self-help thing or some sort of cosmetics, some whatever it is, whatever the new trend is, it's always fear of missing out and it's you only live once. Those are the, you use those two to your advantage and you'll make all kinds of money. Oh, that's evil, Rolo. No, I'm going to, I'm going to tell, tell guys about this in just a minute here. So, you're going to settle, ladies. You're going to settle on being alone. You're going to settle on, I mean, I know black pill doomers going to say you settle on cats and and box wine. Okay, whatever. You're probably not that. But you're going to settle on, you're going to settle on social conventions and a narrative that says you're in the right and it's okay and you should feel comfortable and proud of yourself for being alone. At least when men like decide to go migtau or they're black pill doomers or their ins, like literally seriously incels, we look at them with disdain. We look at them with disgust. But if a, if a woman says, "You know what? I'm okay by myself." We go, "Bravo, girl. You go. You're empowered." A man being alone is a piece of [ __ ]. A woman being alone is strong and independent. Why is that? Ask yourself why that is. And I'll tell you why that is. Is because there's so many social conventions that are there to con, to convince you that everything is okay. What's a social convention? It's a narrative. "Men have fragile egos." "Uh, what happened to the good men, Rolo?" "You left them back when your 20s." "Okay. Well, what, where are they now? How come I can't find a date?" "You mean I have to dumb myself down so I can be, you know, so these guys will want to date me?" Blah, blah, blah. Like the reason why women have this sort of urgency and this anxiety and the older they get, the more anxious they get, the the more anxious they get, the more the necessity is for FOMO and YOLO. The more the necessity is for, "You're okay, girl. Don't worry. You're independent. You're strong. You're, you're, you're in charge of your world. You're in, you have frame. You're in control of your own destiny. You're in control of your own world." We don't, we tell men exactly the opposite. If you're not ready, if you're not making enough money, if you're not in shape, if you don't have your [ __ ] together, if you don't have this laundry list of prerequisites that any woman would would want to make you marriageable, to make you economically attractive, to make you in some way, um, to make you in some way like an eligible bachelor, you have to be Richard Gere in Pretty Woman. And men aren't living up to that right now. And so what happens is everybody, every guy who is sort of married or in sort of this moralistic sort of phase in their life, they look at these other guys and go, "Well, it's because men aren't taking responsibility and men aren't aren't manning up and they're not living up and they're not going to college and not whatever Scott Galloway is talking about recently, right?" They'll, they will [ __ ] all over guys because if that guy is in his mid-30s and he's not married, he's a piece of [ __ ]. He's irresponsible. He's a kid. He's prolonging his adolescence. But we don't say the same thing about a woman who is 35 years old. We go, "Oh, that poor woman. Well, it's a sign of the times. She can't find a man because men just won't man up." No, it's a combination of both. But we only focus on the male side of all this.
So, ladies, you're going to settle on being alone, or you're going to settle for a guy who is less than [ __ ] perfect. You're going to settle on a guy who's not Richard Gere. You're gonna settle on a guy who is who doesn't make as much money as you, or he, God forbid, he might make just a parity with you, exactly the same amount of money with you. That's horrible for women because when they get into that marriage and then they find out that if that guy in any way loses his job or gets in some way loses status or whatever, that guy is like, she's a six and he's a six and he loses his job, now he's a [ __ ] four and she married the four and had babies with the four. You want to know what precipitates divorce more than anything else? It's not money and it's not sex. It's a loss of status. It's a loss of prestige. It's that guy losing his job. Yes. Does that associated with with marriage and sex? Absolutely it is. But what is the catalyst? What's the precipitator? The guy losing prestige, the guy losing status, the guy losing affluence, losing respect, losing respect of his peers, losing respect of his woman. That's what's, that's why it's almost worse to have a woman who's like a a six and he's a six and then he loses his job and now he's a five and she's married to the five and now she's got to pick up the slack or she feels that even if then even if it's not true, the psychological, the mental, developmental firmware that is part of a woman's psyche thinks that that's the way it is. You want to know why women initiate 70 plus percent of divorces? That's [ __ ] why. How do you know that, Rolo? Because they do the same thing in same-sex marriages. So, if that woman, you want to know, they have the highest divorce rate, the highest rate of domestic violence is amongst lesbian couples. Why is that? Because women can't be satisfied. They can't have that security, that long-term security. So, you've got a woman who's got, she wants alpha [ __ ] and beta bucks, right? Well, what is beta bucks? Beta bucks is just predicated on long-term security. Alpha [ __ ] is sex. Like, she wants to get with the hot guy. She wants to get with the hot guy on the phone, cannon party in Cancun on spring break. It's Jason Momoa as Justin Waller. It's Jack Reacher. Trying to think of who else is there right now. Scotty Iler. Um, it's, uh, it's, it's those guys, right? But that's, that's that's the guys she wants. The guys she doesn't think she needs because she's already got it covered are the guys who aren't going to be as exciting as those dudes are. And so if you want to know why the birth rate is low, if you want to know why the marriage rate is dropping, if you want to, it's not guys not living up to to [ __ ] mythological standards or 20th century standards. It's women's, it's women's standard of of acceptance included in all of that. And the problem is we're telling guys that they're the ones that are the problem. And as I said before, if you're listening to any sort of moralistic guy right now who's telling you, "Well, men need to man up. They need to get back in college and they need to do this and they need to do that and blah, blah, blah, take more responsibility, yada, yada, yada." No. No, they don't. And you know why? The only reason that you're even saying that is simply because you want to solve women's problems by men getting better. And I just, the reason I, I'm, I'm sort of like cooking on this today is because I just talked about it this in one of the Reignite programs. Um, we don't care about guys. We don't care about what their status is. We care about women's status. We care about women's survival. We care about women's long-term security. We care about prospering women, about making women feel like they are independent, but still with a guy, right? They can have it like that one chick was talking about the sigma, the sigma male that that chick was talking about. Nothing to do with the sigma whatsoever. She has no earthly clue. She probably never, she never even heard of Vox Day, who's the guy who came up with alpha, beta, delta, gamma, omega, and there is no sigma. But she wants to say, "Oh, well, the sigma, a sigma is an alpha who lets me be a, lets me be a, a sigma is an alpha that accepts me for like being being what I am, right? I don't have to defer to him. He has no authority over me because he's more in control of his world and he is more and you know what if the, basically what she's describing is an antisocial alpha." And I keep, I keep pointing this out. The difference between, difference between alphas, right? There's Captain America and there's Tony Stark, right? There's Iron Man. There's Superman and then there's Batman. Batman is the Dark Knight. Batman is the maverick. Batman is the, the, the vigilante, right? He, he's alpha and he cares about people, but he does things his own way. And if he has to kill somebody, he has to beat the hell out of somebody, then that's what he's going to do. Superman is also alpha, but he's a pro-social alpha. Truth, justice, and the American way, right? He cares about people in in the collective. He cares about people on a larger scale, but he's the good guy, the stereotypical good guy. Whereas Batman, he's a good guy as well, but he gets things done in unorthodox ways. Those are just two different, different types of alphas. And so that's really what she's talking. She wants Tony Stark. She wants, you know, she wants the Bruce Wayne. She doesn't, she doesn't want. She thinks that Captain America and Superman are the ones that are going to be like, "You need to submit to me." No, you're just, you just basically want to create this character or a caricature of an alpha that you're going to call a Sigma because you think that that guy is going to be the, that guy's your Richard Gere. That guy is your, your pretty woman. You've been doing what you want to and you want to continue being, uh, you want to continue being a, you want to continue being a with a heart of gold, a smart one, an independent one, one that every, a likable one, an agreeable one, a conscientious one, but you're still, and you want to get with a guy who's going to allow you to continue to be a. And again, I'm not trying to channel my inner, you know, Marquet Burton, Marquet Burton, but, uh, but, you know, I'm just choosing my words here. Uh, as I said before, you don't have to be a sex worker. I'm just saying if you're making money off of advertising your sexuality and your sexual availability, people will call you a. I'm not calling, I don't, like I said, I don't have a problem with that. But the thing is is that if if that's you, you're taking the role. You're wearing hooker's clothes, right? That's Dave, Dave Chappelle. You know, you're, I did not say you were a [ __ ], but you are wearing a [ __ ] uniform. If you're wearing a hooker's uniform, don't be surprised when people think of you as Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman. So, you're this, this chick's, you know, uh, Batman or her, her, her Tony Stark or Iron Man is is the guy who's going to allow her to still be an a high-paid escort, but is still going to be okay with that. So, but the problem is is like any guy that would allow that, would allow that is not going to by definition be the kind of guy that she would want to get with in the first place because if he'll allow that, he'll allow anything or he'll [ __ ] anything, right? Women want to think that they're exclude, they're exclusively, you know, one way or another. Um, so anyways, that's my very long-winded way of telling you about Evoite.