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Signs a guy is faking his love for you. He says he loves you, but something feels off, right? You're thinking, "How can someone say they love me but make me feel this way?" It is not supposed to be confusing. And here are the signs that he is faking it.
Number one, he only shows you love after he hurts you. Like, the only way you're going to get him to apologize is once you're so hurt that you're crying your eyes out. Now, suddenly, he cares. Oh, okay.
And number two, he breadcrumbs you. He never gives you a full effort, but he says the right things, does the right things at such a minimal bare standard that keeps you hoping that things will get better. And then surprise, nothing actually changes. And you realize, or now you realize because you're watching this video, that that was just manipulation disguised as effort.
And lastly, his life starts to become a lot more of a closed book. You don't know who he's texting, but he's always on his phone. He doesn't keep you updated on where he's at. You're basically always feeling anxious and just he doesn't make you feel secure. Ladies, if his love only shows up when you're slipping away, that is not love. That is control.
>> Three signs a man doesn't love you. Number one, he takes money from you. If a man truly loves you, he would want to provide and not take. Once a man starts taking money from you, you are no longer his partner. You are his backup plan.
Number two, he does not care if you are satisfied in bed. If all he cares is about his own pleasure and doesn't check in with you if you are enjoying it, then it's not love, it's selfishness and unfortunately he is just using you for your body.
Number three, he is emotionally absent. So if he does not ask about your problems or offer solutions or you know just checks in with you and you know concerned about you or the conversations are deeper are not just superficial then chances are this is not love. He is just using you for his own convenience. Real love comes shows up in actions and not just empty words.
Hi guys, welcome and welcome back to my YouTube channel. In this video, as you can see from the title below, we are going to be looking at a compilation of Tik Tok videos about does that man love you or is he faking and pretending to love you. We are about to find out in 3 2 1 seconds. So, get ready, sit your belt up, tie it up, and let's go for a ride. I hope you enjoyed the video.
>> Four [snorts] signs a man is pretending to love you. And don't get confused by the last one. Let's get right into it. His words doesn't match his actions. I say before and I'm going to say it again. His words does not match his action. That is a clear way to tell if a man is pretending to love you. He's like, "Oh, baby, I love you so much. I want to be there for you. You let me. You're my everything." But then go do something else. Like how clear can it be? It's obvious that he doesn't really love you. If a man love you, his words will match his actions. His words would be powerful. It's not just going to be a bunch of that just spreading all over the place. Believe me when I tell you that.
Number two, he doesn't open up to you. If a man truly love you, his heart will open up to you. You're not going to be this huge giant wall blackening. Nobody trying to climb that wall. Like it'll be easy. He would just open up to you, baby. You know, you would know.
Number three, he pretends to love you. He never apologizes. A man who truly love you will apologize when he's wrong. Take accountability for his actions and come up with solutions so he doesn't make that mistake again. Listen, if the man you're talking to never apologizes about anything, he feels like he's always right. He does not truly love you.
And if he does his last one, then he has no self-control. He openly flirts with other people in front of you, too. Oh, I'm just a natural flirt. It's just my personal. That's disrespectful. Okay? Don't be flirting with all these people. Eyes wondering all over the place when you're with your wife, with your girlfriend, with your partner. Don't do that. They don't truly love you if they're doing that stuff. They're pretending. I'm telling you. Come on now.
>> Signs. He's pretending to love you. Welcome to the Middles. One, you feel confused about where you stand. One moment he's attentive and committed, the next he's distant. You end up overthinking instead of feeling secure.
Two, there's no real effort towards building the relationship. He doesn't plan, invest time, or try to solve any issues with you, but still expects emotional and physical access.
Three, [clears throat] words are strong, but actions are weak. He says all the right things. I love you. You matter to me. Oh, this, oh that, but his behavior doesn't consistently show care, respect, or even effort.
Four, he keeps you hidden, not fully included in his life. You're not fully part of his world. He avoids introducing you to important people or evolving you in his real life.
Five, he's only consistent when it suits him. He shows up when it benefits him but becomes unavailable when you need emotional support or consistency.
Six, he avoids emotional connection. He keeps things shallow. He dodges deep conversations or even shuts down when feelings or clarity are discussed.
>> So this is one of the ways you can know like a man is like playing with you and he don't really like you for real. It could be that he just want one thing or whatever it is that you do for him that most likely that's all he want. Now, I feel like any woman over 30 should know this, but I know it's just some people like that that just don't be knowing the signs when the man be playing with you and he be acting like he don't know what's going on. But I'm here to break it to you. These dudes know exactly what they be doing every time.
So, I know some of y'all experience this, right? So, maybe you guys are planning to meet up for whatever reason. It could be to hang out, to do what y'all do. Y'all plan to meet up, right? And you would realize that a man would be he would communicate the most when he's about to get something from you. Like he would be writing you back. Like you could barely send a message and he already responding. He like he just giving you great communication because he knows he's about to see you. He's about to gain something from it.
But then instantly like after y'all see each other or after y'all do what y'all do, whatever the case may be, right after that, you could be keeping the same energy. So you could you could write him like you would just write him right before and all of a sudden the communication is just different. All of a sudden, he's not writing back right away or at all. He's not responding the same way he was just responding before he got what he got or he saw you or whatever the case may be. So now all of a sudden the communication instantly changes. And then this is one of the things they like to do is that they'll be like, "Oh well, you know, well, I had a lot going on or like something came up and it's just like they make an excuse as to why all of a sudden they couldn't respond to you when in all reality they only wanted what they wanted from you. So at that point, they don't need to communicate no more until they get it again or until they're ready to see you again. And it's like they always come up with that reason of like, oh, because you know, oh, something just so something just happened just that fast. You was just communicating before we met up with each other, but all of a sudden you're not communicating right after. And then it's, oh, something came up. I have a lot going on. It's Okay?
If a man does not keep the same communication with you before or after he sees you or he gets what he wants, he's using you. He's literally there to use you. or take whatever it was that he wanted to take from you and now he sees that he's got it and there's no reason to talk to you. And in my eyes, he don't like you. He don't respect you. Okay? So, you just got to pay attention to the signs with these guys. They literally will like make it clear as day how they feel about you. You just got to pay attention.
So, sometimes the biggest sign for you to know that a man is pretending to love you is not what they say, it's what he consistently does. A man who genuinely loves you does not make you compete for his attention. If every time you're together, he's constantly checking other women, staring at them a little too long, or making you feel invisible, and you still think that is harmless behavior, it's a sign that his focus isn't where it is supposed to be.
Another sign is the amount of love that you receive from this man depends on his mood. When he's happy, he's affectionate and attentive. And when he's annoyed, stressed, he suddenly starts acting like a stranger. Real love isn't perfect, but it shouldn't disappear every time your man has a bad day. Love should feel stable, not like something you have to earn back every time he gets a bad day, every time he gets a bad mood.
Let's talk about this issue of money because me I believe relationship should involve helping out each other sometimes but if a man is regularly taking money from you especially a man who is supposed to provide for you relying on you financially a man is supposed to be a provider for you. So if he finds it comfortable, if he he says it with ease, if he gets money from you with ease, that man is faking his love for you. He cannot stand on his feet financially. So he fakes love for you so that he can get finances, he can get money from you. Cuz naturally men are not supposed to be getting money from women. I understand if you provide for this man, if you give him, if you help him out once in a while, but a man who takes from you day in day out, pretending to love you.
The most important sign of them all, his words don't match his actions. He says he loves you, but never prioritizes you. He promises change, nothing ever changes. He talks about the future, but never takes a step towards it. Because anyone can say those beautiful words, bad action, act on it. Does his behavior sum up? Does his behavior sum up to the actions? That's where you know if it pretends or if it's just talk talk talk. A man who truly loves you doesn't just tell you, he shows you. When his words are always in conflict with his actions, you have your answer.
He's pretending to love you. He's showing you he doesn't like you. And I'm going to tell you how. And a lot of us miss these. So pay attention. When you're walking with him, or I should say, when you guys are walking, he's walking ahead of you. That man does not care if you live or die, if another man hits on you, or where the hell you go, cuz he doesn't even know where you are. He does not check on you if you got home safely, if you are home safe or call you to make sure that you did. He doesn't care. He never calls you. Only texts. How could he know if you're really okay where you are, what you're doing, if he doesn't call you? And if you're saying, "Well, he's just a good texter. He's not really a good caller." Not true. Men will call the girl they actually care about. A text takes two seconds. A call takes five. If he cannot take 5 seconds to look you up in his phone, call you, see how your day was, and make sure you're okay, that is not your man. I hope this helps. Love you.
>> I hate being right about this, but he is pretending to love you. If he is doing these things, it does not matter if you have been together for 10 years and he has convinced you that this is love. It is not.
The first thing is having a wandering eye, checking out other women. If he really loves you, he only has eyes for you. If he tells you, "I can't help it. I'm just a guy." He's just seeing what he can get away with. Okay? And if it happens when you're not around, I guess that's one thing. But if he checks out women while you're right next to him, then that just means he has a lack of respect for you.
The second thing you'll notice when a guy is pretending to love you is that his mood will control the love that you get. But remember, that isn't love, that is control.
The third thing a guy will do when he's faking his love for you is invalidate all your feelings, but then call you amazing for putting up with his.
And the fourth thing he'll do is use "I love you" as a weapon. Instead of just telling you randomly because he cares about you, he uses it when you're getting mad or when you're broken or when you're about to leave in order to keep you to stay. All these things are theatrical. It is a play. It is a play without actually living it because real love is steady. And you were worth real love, not someone that pretends to love you.
>> I saw a guy on here say, "I hate that I'm even right about this, but he's pretending to love you. Of course, I got to talk about it." He said if he's doing these things, it doesn't matter if it's been 10 years. It doesn't matter how much he's convinced you that this is love because it's not.
First sign. He's got wandering eyes. He's checking out other women. I mean, if a man really loves you, his focus is on you. And if he says, "I can't help it. I'm just a guy." Well, he's just testing what he can get away with, you know? And listen, if if he does it when you're not around, that's bad enough. But if he does it right next to you, that's pure disrespect.
Second sign, his mood controls the love that you get. That's not love, that's control. The end.
Third sign, he dismisses your feelings but then calls you amazing for putting up with his. That's not love either.
Fourth sign, he uses "I love you" as a weapon. Not saying it because he truly feels it, but only when you're upset, broken, or about to leave. That's not real. That's also a performance because real love is steady and you deserve the real thing, not somebody pretending.
>> One other thing that keeps people trapped in unhealthy relationships is mixed signals. A man who truly wants you does not benefit from keeping you confused. If one day he's acting like you're the love of his life and the next day he's distant, he's cold and this pattern keeps repeating itself. This man is teaching you how to survive on inconsistency and you have learned.
Another sign is he never makes plans with you. You need to notice are you part of his future or you're just part of his free time. When someone is actually really interested and in love with you. They imagine experiences with you and they say it out loud. They make plans. They create memories with you. They look forward to spending time with you. If every plan comes from you and for him he's always there to participate. My dear, I hate to be the breaker of the bad news. You are in it on your own.
Also, interestingly, let's let's run back to public display of affection. It can also be a red flag. It can be a green flag. It can be a red flag in its own ways. Let me land. Sometimes a person can can use this public display of affection to just create an image of him being a great partner while behind closed doors he neglected the relationship. All he cares about is how people see him. How he's a great man, a great husband, a great father, a great boyfriend. Say what you want to say, but he is a great man behind closed doors. Never with you. Never talks to you, never listens to you, never cares. He just loves being committed, being seen as committed instead of being actually committed. We circle back again. He's always asking you for money.
Underneath all these signs, there is one core issue. Respect. Respect is how someone speaks to you, how they treat your time, how they handle disagreements, and how they make you feel when no one is watching. Love without respect eventually becomes painful. You can survive without flowers. You can survive without expensive gifts. You can survive without romantic gestures. But a relationship cannot and will never thrive without mutual respect. Never. Let them not lie to you. Never. When respect disappears, genuine love disappears with it. Fake fake fake fake fake fake fake fake love all over the place. Fake love.
Always remember that one sign. You guys, we teach we say we say whatever we want to say. One sign does not mean this man is pretending to love you. But when several of these signs show up, keep showing up day after day, it's worth paying attention to. If I were you, I would pay keen attention. Sometimes the truth isn't hidden in what the person says. It's in what they repeatedly do.
I asked my guys, "What are the biggest signs that a guy doesn't actually like you, but he is just keeping you around?" And here's what they said. There's a big difference between a guy actually liking you and a guy just kind of keeping you around and giving you some attention because it's nice that he likes the attention and things like that. And these are the things that guys do so you know the difference.
The first thing and this is the one that literally every single one of them said and is probably the biggest telltale sign is if he will talk to you basically every day and then disappear for days like nothing happened and this becomes a cycle. What they said is that any guy who truly likes you cannot disappear from you for days on end. And a guy doing that it basically just means that you are not one of his priorities at all. He either has other girls feeling that time or he's just busy enough and doesn't care about you. But either way, it's kind of a sign that you're just not a priority and he doesn't like you that much.
The next thing is that he will not take you out in public. A guy who doesn't actually like you, but is kind of just keeping you around for the attention. Yeah, he likes you, but he likes you in his own time and keeping you for himself, but he's not, like I said, he doesn't like you, so he doesn't want to put that on display.
The third thing is that plans only happen on his terms. When you ask him to hang out, he's kind of wishy-washy. Eh, maybe, but when he wants to hang out, like that's the only thing that matters. It's usually going to be at night, things like that. But if things are only happening on his terms and he's not taking you out on dates and kind of just bringing you over when it's convenient for him, that's a sign that he just is keeping you around for the attention and not cuz he actually likes you.
Another big thing, when a guy is just keeping you around for attention, there's a big chance that he's also keeping other girls around for attention. So, you're probably going to hear rumblings here and there of like other girls saying, "Oh yeah, I'm kind of talking to him so and so." And you just get the vibe that he's kind of talking to other girls. Again, if he's doing it to you, he's doing to other girls. If you hear about this, don't ignore it because it's probably true.
And the last thing is he is very very clear that he is not committing. And he'll probably use excuses like, "Oh, I'm just busy right now," yada yada, but like the thought of commitment with you absolutely terrifies you. And he makes that clear that he is not looking to commit to anything. And that is because he is not looking to commit to you.
>> You can tell he's not serious about dating you if this one thing is happening. And unfortunately, a lot of women put up with this. But the women who go on to attract a healthy relationship, they have a very low tolerance for this thing and they will act accordingly if it happens. By the way, I'm Valerie. I help you attract a healthy relationship. Follow me for more advice and book a session at the top of my page.
When a man isn't serious about you, he's okay with you being confused. He's okay with giving you mixed signals. He's okay with being inconsistent. He's okay with acting like he's into you one day and then you don't hear from him for a while. He's okay with leaving you on red. He's okay with not giving you an explanation as to why he's not available. He's okay with not asking you out in advance. He's okay with you feeling confused around where things stand with you, too.
As a man who is serious about you and he's ready for a relationship, he would cringe at the thought of you being confused about what his intentions are. Men who want a healthy relationship and they're ready for it now, they want to make their signals as clear as possible. They want you to know that they're interested, that they're invested in you, and they do not want you to even for a minute feel confused about where they stand. He doesn't want you to be stressed out or confused or showing your friends his messages and trying to decode what he means. He wants to eliminate all that noise because he wouldn't want anything to get in the way from you feeling strongly towards him like he's feeling towards you.
And to become a woman who attracts this as a normal standard in her dating life, you have to be someone who if you feel confused, if he's giving you reasons to doubt or have fear or second guess his intentions, you need to be someone who's okay with letting that person go. If you've struggled with attracting men who are emotionally unavailable, who confuse you and leave you disappointed, and you are ready to learn the tools to attract the type of relationship that will last and is healthy, this is exactly what I guide you through inside of my course, Securely Chosen. You can join the course at the top of my page.
>> So, listen, I don't know who needs to hear this, but men are only complicated when they do not like you. Let me know if you've noticed this before, but when a guy is not replying back to you, like I'm not talking about super fast, but he's giving like 3 4 days to respond back to you. He's not making an effort to make any plans. And when you do get a hold of him, whether it's over text or whether it's by you calling him, he sounds kind of excited, but he doesn't really try to like make plans in the moment to hang out with you.
If a guy's doing these things, he's acting complicated. He's acting weird. The sad truth is he just doesn't like you. I know it's a hard pill to swallow, but us guys go through this all the time. Whenever we complain as guys about like girls being complicated, it's usually because they don't like us. They're not into us. It is what it is. Deal with it. You move on. So yeah, if you're a girl and you're dealing with a guy right now who like seems to be so complicated and oh, he's so complex and I just don't know what's going on with this guy. Good chance that he doesn't like you. I know it's insanely harsh. I feel bad even saying it to you, but move on. It's fine. Plenty of fish in the sea. Use information as you wish and have an awesome day.
You see, one of the saddest truth or signs that someone may not genuinely love you or they might be fake pretending to love you is when they do not want to show you affection in public. Now, I need us to draw a line. I need us to differentiate these two. Not everyone is okay showing love in public. I understand some people are private and that's completely okay. That's completely fine. But if he usually or he used to acknowledge you publicly and now all of a sudden it's not something he's into. He acts distant. He avoids being seen as a couple. He makes you feel hidden. Pause and ask yourself why. Why the change? Why the sudden change of behavior?
The other major red flag is you always feeling constantly confused about where you stand in this relationship. Healthy relationships aren't supposed to feel like a guessing game, like a puzzle to crack. You shouldn't have to analyze every text, every conversation, every change in behavior, trying always trying to figure out whether you are loved or not. It shouldn't be like that. Clarity is one of the gifts a person, a partner can give you. Confusion often comes when someone's actions do not match their words. Someone's words do not match their actions. Vice versa.
Ladies, you need to always pay attention to when he communicates the most. That's the part that you should pay attention to when he speaks. Does he suddenly become attentive to you when he needs a favor, wants money, wants emotional support? That's when he's attentive. When the attention often comes when there is nothing that he's gaining, that's not love. That's pretense because that's just convenient. You need to read into everything. Every communication you make with this man, read into it.
Then there is emotional dismiss. So every person deserves to feel. Every person if you bring up something that hurt you and immediately calls you dramatic, sensitive, needy, crazy instead of asking you, instead of asking you why, what's the matter? That's a problem. And don't get me wrong, you do not have to agree on everything, but respect requires listening.
Watch how responsible he is towards the relationship itself. Relationships require effort, accountability, care. And if you are the only one carrying the whole emotional weight of the relationship, solving every problem alone, making all the sacrifices alone, and trying to keep things together, while he simply shows up when it's convenient, ta, I'm here. That is not a partnership, my love. That is not a partnership. Love requires participation from both people. You will know. You can always tell a person is pretending to love you. You can always tell it's fake love.
What up? Co's in the building. Good afternoon. Hope you're having a great day. Okay, I got your back. I have six subtle signs that he's faking his love for you. Okay, that a man is faking their love for you. All right, so number one is excessive PDA. What's PDA? Public displays of affection. They're doing too much. They're overdoing it. They're all over you. That's smothering you. All right? It's excessive. It's not subtle. It's not genuine. It's an act and it's not real. It's not authentic. Okay? That's number one.
Number two, there are no special moments. If a man loves a woman, he plans special moments in her life every chance he gets. Sometimes some men like myself or there are many other men out there, they'll do it every day. Every day has a special moment with his woman. All right? And he let her know from the gate that you're special to me. So, I'm create a special moment. That's number two.
Number three, there are no serious discussions. Hear me. This is utterly dangerous yet utterly important. If it's being done, you need to understand a serious discussion has to happen all the time between you two because if you're serious about each other, the discussions need to be serious. An example, future planning, how do you feel? What am I doing? What am I not doing? Etc. There are no serious discussions. All right, that's number three.
Number four, it's a power game. A power game. Narcissism 101. He wants to take power, abuse power, manipulate power. It's a power struggle for him. Many women out there these days and men, but many women are dealing with dating and probably married a narcissistic man and they're catching hell right now. Got to be careful with that. All right, that's number four. Um 1, two, three, four. Yeah, number five.
You don't know much about each other. Okay, you don't know much about each other. This is why you have to be careful with speed dating. I'll speak on that later on. God spare my life. Speed dating. Y'all don't know nothing about each other, but y'all official. Y'all a thing. You jump from first gear to sixth gear, you're in overdrive and you don't even know him. Got to be careful with that. Don't be led by your flesh. All right.
And the final one is sex is the only thing that's keeping y'all together. That's why you catching hell. Six subtle signs that he's faking his love for you. I'll think like I'm in love with you if I can keep getting it. I'll keep driving the car. If I can sample it, if I keep test driving it and I don't have to make the purchase, I don't have to buy it. I'll keep doing it. And many women out there right now are with a man that they should not even be with because they keep letting them test drive the car. You keep having sex with him. That's the only thing that's stopping him from buying the purchase. Well, making the purchase and buying the car. He's not going to go all the way with you. He's not going to marry you. Not going to lock you down. He's not serious about you because if he keeps sampling the milk, why do we need to buy the cow? All right. So, those are six subtle signs he's faking his love for you. Bye.
>> Here's how to tell if a guy truly likes you or is he just wasting your time. It's super black and white. I'm going to make it super simple for you. Okay. Is he asking you out on dates that he plans and pays for? Is he asking you out? See, here's the thing that most women don't understand. Men don't communicate with words. They also don't respond well to words. They communicate with actions or silence or inaction. So, if a man is asking you out on dates that he plans and pays for, yes, he's interested in dating you. Anything else? He's not interested at all. Liking your stories all the time, you are his free entertainment. Oh, he texts you all day long but never asks you out. You are his free pen pal. Oh, he calls you a lot and that he opens up to you about his deepest, darkest secrets. Good. You're his free therapist. You're not even getting paid. Seriously, girl, stop complicating things. One simple question. Is he asking you out on dates that you plan for? Yes. Interested? No. Not interested at all.
>> Have you ever wondered if a guy is really into you or just faking it? Well, don't share this with anyone. Keep this a secret. I'm going to share with you an easy way to tell if he's faking loving you or not. Please watch this all the way through because I want you to know exactly what you're doing here.
First things first, you're going to ask him this specific question exactly like this. The next time he says, "I love you," I want you to ask him, "What about my personality and my character do you love about me specifically?" Very importantly, it's not just about asking the question. You need to know exactly what answer you're looking for to know if he's faking loving you or he really loves you.
If he gives you an answer that's vague, like, "Oh, I love that you're so nice. I like that you're so funny." Answers that could apply to anyone, even his dog, he's faking it. If he gives you an answer that has to do with your looks, he's faking it. "I like that you have such a beautiful face. I like that your dump truck is so enormously large." If his answer is solely about him and what you do for him, "Oh, I love that you take care of me. I love that you do this for me. I love that you're always available to me." That's not about loving you and your character. That's about you serving him.
Only answer you're looking for that actually means he really loves you is an answer that consists of you and things that you have actually done as examples to show why he has seen and observed that type of character from you. It sounds something like this. "I love how caring you are. Last week when you threw a surprise party for your sister. Even though she said she didn't want something big, it just shows how much you like to take care of people that you care about."
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